A Mans Call To Action

Episode Transcript

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What is up gentlemen? This is your call to action.
Listen, I am writing a book right now, and it has been really cathartic.
I've gone through my life over the last 25, 30 years, I'll be 50 next year in 2025, Unfiltered with Matt Farnsworth.

(00:20):
.999and I am learning so much about myself writing this book.
I'm almost finished.
It's going to be released very soon.
I've got a publishing company now that is working on the details of how we're going to release the book.
It will be in bookstores.
It will be in Barnes and Noble.
It will be on Amazon.
It will be all over the place.
This is for men.

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Men, I really believe this is for anyone out there that Is in a place where they need to change their life.
If they're struggling with addiction, if they've gone through a terrible breakup, if they're feeling low, if they need to put on some muscle, if they just feel lost in their career, you don't know what you want to do.
It wasn't until about a year ago that I really started to come into this space.

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I've been doing this a long time, but I've always been trying to find my place.
On social media, my target, my niche, my people.
Who are you? What are you? And I've noticed that I had to grow older in order to find my niche.
.999So when I was younger, I didn't have the authority and the experience to speak to men the way that I do now. 20 00:01:31,744.999 --> 00:01:35,385 I've got a story in my history.

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That is so powerful that it can help so many people, not just men, women, but men in general, what I've gone through, you will relate.
A lot of you will relate.
Now some of it's crazy.
Some of it's totally off the charts insane, but let's talk about a couple of topics that I think can help men right now.

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The first thing is men want.
Women, you want a woman, you want it.
You want to have a great relationship with a girl.
You're like, I love women.
I want to have a girlfriend.
I want to be in a relationship.
Well, in order to be in a relationship, that's good.
You have to be well yourself.
So you have to take care of you.
You have to man up in all the ways you need to man up.

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You have to have your focus on your career.
You have to have your body in check.
You have to be lifting weights and taking care of yourself.
.999You have to be waking up early.
.999You have to be eating right.
You have to do all these things for yourself to align yourself to be the kind of man that a woman would want to be with.
And what you're really doing when you get your stuff together and You begin to take care of you.

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You're actually building a foundation for you to find out who you are and what your passion is.
A lot of young men don't know what their passion is.
If you ask them, what do you believe in? What do you believe in right now? What is your strongest belief about this life and why you're in it and what you've been called to do? A lot of young men can't answer that question.

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And it's not their fault.
It's not your fault.
You're young.
You're trying to figure this out.
It's the ones that stay afraid that never figure that out.
It's the ones like I did when I was young, are afraid to be alone, ask themselves the tough questions, delay gratification, and make themselves men before they latch on to a woman or a girlfriend or something to make them feel better because they need to feel good.

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They're not okay with sitting in the, you know, turmoil that life throws at us and dealing with the situations that we have to learn to overcome on our own.
.999As men, we must learn to overcome difficult situations on our own. 53 00:04:04,969.999 --> 00:04:13,060 When we latch onto someone too young and we have not identified who we are, especially if we don't have faith.

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If we have no sense of God, if we have no purpose and we don't understand who we are, we are getting into a relationship where we are going to eventually feel like an imposter. 55 00:04:27,59.999 --> 00:04:35,460 Eventually, young men, you're going to feel like imposters in your relationship because in order to get a girl, you kind of have to put on a front.

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You kind of have to be like, I'm cool and you know, I did the same thing.
Like I would pretend like I was more than I was.
Because I wanted affection.
I wanted sex.
I wanted to feel good.
And in the end, I would often be kind of exposed as not exactly what I had presented.
And that was like a product that tells you it's going to do all of these wonderful things, and it does some of them, but not all of them.

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.999You're not going to write a five star review on that. 64 00:05:04,334.999 --> 00:05:09,085 What you want to be is the kind of guy where you know you're going to get a five star review.
And if they don't give you that five star review, there's probably something going on with them. 66 00:05:14,645.1 --> 00:05:14,729.9 You're welcome.
That's the kind of guy you want to become.
So how do you do that? Well, you work on yourself.
You read the books you need to read to understand who you should become.

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.999You read the Bible, you understand the lessons in it, and this will help you learn to walk in a manner worthy of the calling with which you have been called.
.999You're a man. 72 00:05:35,959.999 --> 00:05:40,809.999 You're here to work and provide and protect.
You are here to be the rock in your woman's life.

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How can you be the rock in your woman's life if you haven't yet shaped yourself? You have to be forged. 75 00:05:54,604.999 --> 00:05:55,605 You need to be forged.
That steel has to be forged. 77 00:05:57,434.999 --> 00:06:00,635 You are a work in progress, young man.
You are.
.9And you are a woman.
.999Going to thrive and flourish if you are willing to push yourself and overcome adversity, overcome obstacles, give yourself hard things to do.

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.999Don't take the easy way. 82 00:06:19,284.999 --> 00:06:20,895 Don't take that easy way.
Don't take the easy job.
I was watching a show last night and it was really interesting.
You know Legend with Tom Hardy? Tom Hardy is in a little bit of an argument with this cop.
.9And the cop comes into the bar and he says to Tom Hardy, I came here to stand next to you and look you in the face so that I could see what's the difference between you and me. 87 00:06:42,110.1 --> 00:06:47,530 And he said, we both grew up in the same place.

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I was a boxer.
You were a boxer.
We both come from the East end.
We both were poor yet.
.999I am a cop and you are a gangster and Tom Hardy looks at him.
.999His character in this show, Ronnie was his name. 94 00:07:05,259.999 --> 00:07:15,060 Um, and he looks at him and he says to him, the difference between you and me is that I work for me.

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You work for them.
You must be the kind of man that works for you.
Not telling you to be a gangster.
That's not what I'm saying.
What I'm saying is that you should forge your own path.
If you want to be a man who is successful, You must be a good leader, and in order to be a good leader, you must have values.

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You must possess the ability to inspire others through your own positive behaviors, through your own patterns of success, through your own repetition, building a system that is repeatable for yourself that is successful.
Be it an everyday routine that you wake up early, you do the work you're supposed to do.

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You read the books you're going to read, you take care of your business.
The way I managed to take care of business, you reach out to people to communicate, to connect about.
In your world, in your business that are successful that you want to be like you look to those people, you read their content, you emulate them.
There is a good case here for young men out there like you to look at successful people that you admire and emulate the work that they do.

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Literally.
Copy some of that work they do and then slowly shape it into yours.
You have so many tools out there at your fingertips now with AI and the way that everything is working.
I love it.
I think it's a brilliant shape for men to take to shape their path using the technologies That we have today outside of playing video games, watching pornography, scrubbing social media endlessly, wasting time on dating apps.

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All of those things are going to cost you your long term happiness.
You see, if you can forego the short term happiness, the instant gratification that so many of us desire, the alcohol, the donuts, the porn, the relationships, the, um, you know, spending of money that you really shouldn't and don't have.

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If you can stive off that immediate gratification that you are searching for, you are going to have a tremendous.
Amount more amount of sex.
You are going to have a tremendous amount of success.
You are.
In the top 5 percent of men right now, and you're going to excel, but first you have to take those steps that I mentioned, you've got to be the man who is willing to wake up early.

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It's the same thing over and over again.
.999This doesn't change.
Work on your body, work on your mind, work on your spirituality, read the books you need to read, interact with the people you need to interact with.
Brings up an important point.
You are the sum of the five people you spend the most time with.
Who are those people? Are they negative? Are they positive guys? You want to be around people who are super positive.

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You want to be around people who are going to push You to become a better person and not just push you to do the things that they know are going to make you feel good but the things that they know are going to Cause you to level up and cause you to optimize yourself They know the people out there, you know people out there that have pushed you into something That was new.

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That was a frontier.
You had never even imagined embarking on yet.
Here you are.
Those are the people that you want in your camp. 130 00:10:59,489.999 --> 00:11:20,805 I was watching, uh, Steve Jobs interviewed and he was 13 years old and he said, I started calling local companies who were Were billion dollar companies and I tried to I found that he had a phone book back then and he contacted the owner of These companies these billion dollar tech moguls Back then and he would say to them. 131 00:11:21,144.999 --> 00:11:30,820 I see that you are throwing away He would visit the facilities they worked in and he would see that they were throwing away parts that he could use to build his computers.

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And he wasn't building them at 13, but he was still, he was thinking of it.
.999You could see the process that he's taking here and he would get them on the phone.
.999So he was shocked when they would answer, but their number was in the phone book.
So he would call them personally and say, Hey, I'm Steve jobs.
I love what you're doing.
And I really would like to.
Um, take the parts that you're throwing away.
If you don't need them, I'd love to have them.

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I'd love to use them for myself because I'm working on projects that are similar to yours and nine times out of 10, these guys would get on the phone, these billionaires, they'd laugh, you know, okay, kid, they, I, they liked it. 141 00:12:06,504.999 --> 00:12:14,305 They enjoyed the fact that he was bold enough and brave enough to speak out and try, he was out there and he was speaking out.

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He was, he was reaching out.
For his dreams.
And you have to reach out for your dreams.
You have to make connections and Steve Jobs was willing to do that.
And these guys connected and believe it or not, Steve Jobs, one of the biggest guys he connected with said, why don't you come work for me next summer? And he ended up working at 14 years old with this guy in his facility.

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I forget the name of it, but But it was a big company.
So you can see how reaching out, knowing what your goals are.
Now, he's an anomaly.
.999He knew what his goals were to begin with.
You might have to do some work to figure that out, but it's so critical for you to do that.
Do the work to figure out what it is you are meant to be doing. 153 00:13:01,59.999 --> 00:13:06,930 For me, it took almost 40 years for me to figure out here's exactly where I align.

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But my story, my story is something that I can tell you as young men.
To help you optimize yourself, guys, I lived a story and my story has become my work.
I almost lived a movie.
That has taught me many lessons and these lessons are something I bring to you because I enjoy being a servant leader.

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I want to help you.
I want you to optimize yourself.
.999I want you to make more money.
I want you to have the wife of your dreams like I do.
I want you to find God.
I want you to have spirituality and I want you to have salvation.
I want you to have all of those things so that you have internal peace.
So that you have serenity in your life every single day that you wake up.

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That is what I want for you because you deserve it. 167 00:13:55,184.999 --> 00:13:56,745 Everyone deserves that.
.999Every human being deserves serenity and the knowledge that they have salvation because money doesn't really matter.
Fame doesn't really matter.
And the idea that Those are going to somehow create peace in your life is a falsity that we have been sold.

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So don't believe that. 172 00:14:22,554.999 --> 00:14:24,364.999 The truth is love wins.
And if you can find a woman that is your type of gal and You hit it off and you are equally yoked.
Remember that word, look it up equally yoked.
Very important.
Gentlemen, if you're going to be in search of a woman, you feel like you're in a place where you are now able to be the man that you've always meant to be, or you're on your way to it.

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Make sure that you're equally yoked.
Look that up.
Look, that was my talk for today.
I I love doing this.
It took me many years to get to this place where I can help people become who they were always meant to be, transform their stories into success stories.

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You're not stuck.
You're not at rock bottom.
Rock bottom is just your launch pad.
That is what you're rock bottom.
Your rock bottom is your launch pad.
It is your rocket fuel to success, my friend.
Never think that your rock bottom is the end because that's where I was and I launched into the most successful part of my life.

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Life is totally random.
It brings us what it brings us, but If we can work as hard as we can to structure our life in a way that we can weather any storm, we will have success.
That's it for today.