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(00:00):
Let me ask you something.
If the perfect woman walked into your life today, would you even be ready for her? Now, before you answer that, think about this.
The reason you might be stuck in a bad relationship or no relationship at all isn't because the right woman hasn't shown up yet, guys.
It's probably because you haven't shown up as the right man.
(00:21):
And yeah, yeah, that may sting a little bit.
I get that.
It might sting a little bit, but then here's the good news.
The good news is I'm going to show you exactly how to fix it because I've been there too and I fixed it and I won. 9 00:00:34,979.999 --> 00:00:38,890 Now we live in a world where everything feels disposable.
Relationships included.
.9995Swipe left, swipe right, ghost her, block him, I've been here. 12 00:00:46,149.9995 --> 00:00:47,170 But here's the truth.
(00:47):
Most men aren't walking away from really bad relationships.
They're, they're stumbling into them.
And the worst part about that is that they're staying.
They fall into what I call the comfortable trap.
You start dating because it's convenient and she gives it up and you get hot and heavy in the beginning because while you're together and not because it's right, um, because you're just together and maybe you move in together because, well, why not? And that progression just makes sense.
(01:16):
And before you know it, you're talking about marriage and Then you're talking about kids.
And that's just because that's what people do.
Comfort is not a foundation.
If you're not intentional about who you're with, you're going to end up wasting years of your life with someone who's not even right for you.
I've done it.
Gentlemen, listen to these words, please.
I'm going to save you tons of time and money here.
(01:36):
Now, if that hit a nerve, let's go deeper. 26 00:01:38,685.001 --> 00:01:54,905 Ask yourself, what are you looking for in the relationship in the first place? Like, why are you spending so much time swiping left or right? Are you filling a void inside of you? Because if it's for any other reason than loneliness, it's time to grab a reality check. 27 00:01:55,134.999 --> 00:01:55,985 You're lonely. 28 00:01:56,344.999 --> 00:01:58,415 And loneliness is a terrible matchmaker.
(01:58):
.999A relationship won't fix it.
.999Sex won't fix loneliness.
.999It's a temporary dopamine blast. 32 00:02:03,814.999 --> 00:02:05,605 You feel pressured, probably.
Maybe your friends are starting to settle down.
Your homeboys are getting married.
Your mom's asking about grandkids.
Or you're worried time's running out.
Guys, when I was 40 years old, I had no one and I thought time ran out for me, right? And that pressure is going to lead you down into the wrong relationship every single time.
(02:21):
You're going to believe that love will fix your problems.
And this is when you settle, stop looking for the right woman and start becoming the right man.
This is where most men get it wrong.
.999They're out there searching for the one hoping that she's going to fix her life.
.999She's going to call, she's going to get rid of all their problems. 43 00:02:41,334.999 --> 00:02:42,375 She's going to make them happy.
(02:42):
.999She's going to complete them.
.999But here's the truth. 46 00:02:44,564.999 --> 00:02:46,614.999 You don't attract what you want. 47 00:02:47,194.999 --> 00:02:48,654.999 You attract what you are. 48 00:02:48,874.999 --> 00:02:49,324.999 Think about it. 49 00:02:49,354.999 --> 00:02:52,615 If you're out of shape and your habits suck and you're mentally weak.
Do you really think that a high value woman is going to stick around? I mean, high value women, they want a man who has worked on himself, built a life for himself.
She wants to be a part of that high value man's life.
(03:05):
She's not looking for a fixer upper.
If she wants to fix you up, like guys, there's eventually going to be no romance at all.
.999So if you need a part time mother, that does not equate to a fulfilling relationship for either of you. 55 00:03:18,524.999 --> 00:03:22,405 So stop chasing women and start on building you.
That's where you begin.
Before I met my wife, I stopped dating for months because I wanted to level up.
(03:27):
.999I wanted to level up physically, mentally, and spiritually.
.999Now this is the ultimate love hack.
When you stop looking for the woman of your dreams, she appears all the noise that you create locks out The straight path to her it just blocks it out blocks it.
So that straight path to the perfect woman starts with you, not an app.
(03:49):
The right people will naturally come into your life.
.999When you work on you, tens attract tens, not just in look, but mindset, energy and ambition and fake love.
Fake love is another one.
It's not enough.
And here's why that head over heels feeling that love feeling.
It's not magic.
It's actually chemistry.
(04:10):
.999Like it literally lights up some of the same parts of your brain as cocaine.
And that's why You overlook those red flags early on because it's like being high.
.999You're not thinking straight and, and sure, maybe she's got a temper, but I love her.
.999Or yeah, she cheated on her last seven boyfriends, but she's totally different with me.
(04:30):
Fake love without compatibility is a ticking time bomb. 74 00:04:35,164.999 --> 00:04:43,24.9995 When that chemical high wears off, if it's not real love, and it will, you're left with someone that you don't even like, and it can get bad. 75 00:04:43,24.9995 --> 00:04:43,284.999 Like.
Like, it can get so bad that you're like, I hate hearing you breathe bad.
And now you're stuck with this person.
You're living with this person.
(04:51):
.999You're, you're waking up with this person.
.999They're in your life, right? So love isn't about what you can take.
.9995It's about what you're willing to give no matter the cost. 82 00:04:59,189.9995 --> 00:05:10,100 And when you hook up with the wrong person, it's really, really hard to give and relationships that are successful are about all about giving and obviously respect.
So your plan to become the right man needs to happen.
(05:13):
And so how do you level up? Well, it's actually really simple to level up.
You focus on these three areas.
.999You focus on fixing your body, hitting the gym.
.999You build discipline and strength because a strong body, it creates a strong mind. 88 00:05:28,754.999 --> 00:05:33,575 Now, science has confirmed without a doubt, by the way, guys, that men with muscle are more attractive to women.
And this is, there's, there's, And there's no question about that.
(05:37):
So get that pump on.
You fix your mind.
Okay.
The committee, there's a committee in your mind.
You've got to fire that committee.
They're old.
They no longer need to be there.
.001So stop listening to the voices of self doubt and fear, feed your mind with books, mentors and habits that sharpen you.
You fix your mission and you're on your way.
And then when you fix your mission, you find your purpose.
(05:59):
Now, if you don't know it, it's time to figure it out because a man with a mission is unstoppable and damn attractive.
I have helped tons of guys with this.
You wouldn't believe how often they truly feel like.
Okay.
When a woman comes in and I find the right woman, that's right.
For me, everything will be fixed.
All the problems in their life are going to go away.
(06:19):
And the fact is the problems only go away for a short period of time.
During that honeymoon phase, we talked about where you feel like your brain is high and then everything you haven't handled is In your past, all this stuff we're talking about handling before you get in the relationship, it starts to surface.
And then she's going to see those cracks, those cracks in the foundation.
.999And when those, when she sees those cracks in the foundation, the questions will begin.
(06:41):
Okay.
.999And you're going to start to feel like an imposter in your own relationship. 113 00:06:46,469.999 --> 00:06:47,730 This is why you need purpose.
Men need a purpose, because when you have a purpose as you're driving force, you attract The woman's intellect, and most importantly, her respect.
Okay, purpose makes waking up exciting.
When you're excited to wake up and you have purpose, you're sexy. 117 00:07:02,399.999 --> 00:07:08,419.999 It silences self doubt and makes you even more attractive and makes life more meaningful. 118 00:07:08,419.999 --> 00:07:09,679.999 Like, without it, you're drifting.
(07:10):
With it, you're unstoppable.
So purpose, guys, if you do not work on yourself, you're never going to find that purpose.
.999Now, if you never find your purpose, you'll never be respected. 122 00:07:19,749.999 --> 00:07:26,809.999 So that woman, she can, women can smell confidence, okay? They're like a shark smelling blood in the water.
.999Confidence is hot.
.9A man with purpose is hot.
(07:30):
Is hot.
Now the truth about worthiness.
Look, I get it.
A lot of guys don't feel worthy of a woman or the life they want.
They think they need tricks or pickup lines to impress her or money or fame or all of that.
.999But let me tell you, real confidence doesn't come from gimmicks.
It doesn't come from fame, power, and money. 132 00:07:49,265.001 --> 00:07:51,005 It comes from transformation.
(07:51):
Transformation we are talking about.
.999When you've built yourself into a man, you are proud of when you're fit, focused and on a mission, that insecurity will disappear because now you're not faking it. 135 00:08:04,349.999 --> 00:08:05,270 You're the real deal.
Now, I've seen guys that were stoked to get that perfect 10.
They worked super, super hard to get that perfect 10 to show the woman, you know, everything that they had their money spent money.
(08:16):
Time, energy, they, and then later on they literally become bored with this woman because they went for the looks or the woman is really not that into them and then they find out she's lying to me when she tells me I'm attractive to her or that she's in love with me. 139 00:08:31,369.999 --> 00:08:40,110 Why do you really want to have a woman tell you you're handsome because you've given her money? I never understood why men would want to be in a relationship where they know they're being lied to.
(08:40):
It just doesn't make sense.
You know, you want a woman who believes in you because you're a man on a mission.
And I'll tell you, the greatest gift that a man can get from a woman is the fact that she believes in him and his mission.
.999When she believes in him, that is a wonderful feeling, guys.
I highly recommend you experience it.
Now the life and love you want starts with you.
(09:01):
If you're tired of settling, if you're ready to rebuild, join this new community that I have called The Garage.
Now inside, you're going to find a brotherhood of men who are leveling up their bodies, their minds, and on a mission every day.
.999It doesn't matter how far you have fallen. 149 00:09:14,134.999 --> 00:09:31,090 Guys, I have fallen so far and I figured out how to take that lost and broken feeling and redirect that energy that it took to destroy myself, turn it into rocket fuel, and So click that link below and let's build the man you were meant to be.
(09:31):
I'll see you on the inside guys.
Let me ask you something.
If the perfect woman walked into your life today, would you even be ready for her? Now, before you answer that, think about this.
The reason you might be stuck in a bad relationship or no relationship at all isn't because the right woman hasn't shown up yet, guys.
It's probably because you haven't shown up as the right man.
(00:21):
And yeah, yeah, that may sting a little bit.
I get that.
It might sting a little bit, but then here's the good news.
The good news is I'm going to show you exactly how to fix it because I've been there too and I fixed it and I won. 9 00:00:34,979.999 --> 00:00:38,890 Now we live in a world where everything feels disposable.
Relationships included.
.9995Swipe left, swipe right, ghost her, block him, I've been here. 12 00:00:46,149.9995 --> 00:00:47,170 But here's the truth.
(00:47):
Most men aren't walking away from really bad relationships.
They're, they're stumbling into them.
And the worst part about that is that they're staying.
They fall into what I call the comfortable trap.
You start dating because it's convenient and she gives it up and you get hot and heavy in the beginning because while you're together and not because it's right, um, because you're just together and maybe you move in together because, well, why not? And that progression just makes sense.
(01:16):
And before you know it, you're talking about marriage and Then you're talking about kids.
And that's just because that's what people do.
Comfort is not a foundation.
If you're not intentional about who you're with, you're going to end up wasting years of your life with someone who's not even right for you.
I've done it.
Gentlemen, listen to these words, please.
I'm going to save you tons of time and money here.
(01:36):
Now, if that hit a nerve, let's go deeper. 26 00:01:38,685.001 --> 00:01:54,905 Ask yourself, what are you looking for in the relationship in the first place? Like, why are you spending so much time swiping left or right? Are you filling a void inside of you? Because if it's for any other reason than loneliness, it's time to grab a reality check. 27 00:01:55,134.999 --> 00:01:55,985 You're lonely. 28 00:01:56,344.999 --> 00:01:58,415 And loneliness is a terrible matchmaker.
(01:58):
.999A relationship won't fix it.
.999Sex won't fix loneliness.
.999It's a temporary dopamine blast. 32 00:02:03,814.999 --> 00:02:05,605 You feel pressured, probably.
Maybe your friends are starting to settle down.
Your homeboys are getting married.
Your mom's asking about grandkids.
Or you're worried time's running out.
Guys, when I was 40 years old, I had no one and I thought time ran out for me, right? And that pressure is going to lead you down into the wrong relationship every single time.
(02:21):
You're going to believe that love will fix your problems.
And this is when you settle, stop looking for the right woman and start becoming the right man.
This is where most men get it wrong.
.999They're out there searching for the one hoping that she's going to fix her life.
.999She's going to call, she's going to get rid of all their problems. 43 00:02:41,334.999 --> 00:02:42,375 She's going to make them happy.
(02:42):
.999She's going to complete them.
.999But here's the truth. 46 00:02:44,564.999 --> 00:02:46,614.999 You don't attract what you want. 47 00:02:47,194.999 --> 00:02:48,654.999 You attract what you are. 48 00:02:48,874.999 --> 00:02:49,324.999 Think about it. 49 00:02:49,354.999 --> 00:02:52,615 If you're out of shape and your habits suck and you're mentally weak.
Do you really think that a high value woman is going to stick around? I mean, high value women, they want a man who has worked on himself, built a life for himself.
She wants to be a part of that high value man's life.
(03:05):
She's not looking for a fixer upper.
If she wants to fix you up, like guys, there's eventually going to be no romance at all.
.999So if you need a part time mother, that does not equate to a fulfilling relationship for either of you. 55 00:03:18,524.999 --> 00:03:22,405 So stop chasing women and start on building you.
That's where you begin.
Before I met my wife, I stopped dating for months because I wanted to level up.
(03:27):
.999I wanted to level up physically, mentally, and spiritually.
.999Now this is the ultimate love hack.
When you stop looking for the woman of your dreams, she appears all the noise that you create locks out The straight path to her it just blocks it out blocks it.
So that straight path to the perfect woman starts with you, not an app.
(03:49):
The right people will naturally come into your life.
.999When you work on you, tens attract tens, not just in look, but mindset, energy and ambition and fake love.
Fake love is another one.
It's not enough.
And here's why that head over heels feeling that love feeling.
It's not magic.
It's actually chemistry.
(04:10):
.999Like it literally lights up some of the same parts of your brain as cocaine.
And that's why You overlook those red flags early on because it's like being high.
.999You're not thinking straight and, and sure, maybe she's got a temper, but I love her.
.999Or yeah, she cheated on her last seven boyfriends, but she's totally different with me.
(04:30):
Fake love without compatibility is a ticking time bomb. 74 00:04:35,164.999 --> 00:04:43,24.9995 When that chemical high wears off, if it's not real love, and it will, you're left with someone that you don't even like, and it can get bad. 75 00:04:43,24.9995 --> 00:04:43,284.999 Like.
Like, it can get so bad that you're like, I hate hearing you breathe bad.
And now you're stuck with this person.
You're living with this person.
(04:51):
.999You're, you're waking up with this person.
.999They're in your life, right? So love isn't about what you can take.
.9995It's about what you're willing to give no matter the cost. 82 00:04:59,189.9995 --> 00:05:10,100 And when you hook up with the wrong person, it's really, really hard to give and relationships that are successful are about all about giving and obviously respect.
So your plan to become the right man needs to happen.
(05:13):
And so how do you level up? Well, it's actually really simple to level up.
You focus on these three areas.
.999You focus on fixing your body, hitting the gym.
.999You build discipline and strength because a strong body, it creates a strong mind. 88 00:05:28,754.999 --> 00:05:33,575 Now, science has confirmed without a doubt, by the way, guys, that men with muscle are more attractive to women.
And this is, there's, there's, And there's no question about that.
(05:37):
So get that pump on.
You fix your mind.
Okay.
The committee, there's a committee in your mind.
You've got to fire that committee.
They're old.
They no longer need to be there.
.001So stop listening to the voices of self doubt and fear, feed your mind with books, mentors and habits that sharpen you.
You fix your mission and you're on your way.
And then when you fix your mission, you find your purpose.
(05:59):
Now, if you don't know it, it's time to figure it out because a man with a mission is unstoppable and damn attractive.
I have helped tons of guys with this.
You wouldn't believe how often they truly feel like.
Okay.
When a woman comes in and I find the right woman, that's right.
For me, everything will be fixed.
All the problems in their life are going to go away.
(06:19):
And the fact is the problems only go away for a short period of time.
During that honeymoon phase, we talked about where you feel like your brain is high and then everything you haven't handled is In your past, all this stuff we're talking about handling before you get in the relationship, it starts to surface.
And then she's going to see those cracks, those cracks in the foundation.
.999And when those, when she sees those cracks in the foundation, the questions will begin.
(06:41):
Okay.
.999And you're going to start to feel like an imposter in your own relationship. 113 00:06:46,469.999 --> 00:06:47,730 This is why you need purpose.
Men need a purpose, because when you have a purpose as you're driving force, you attract The woman's intellect, and most importantly, her respect.
Okay, purpose makes waking up exciting.
When you're excited to wake up and you have purpose, you're sexy. 117 00:07:02,399.999 --> 00:07:08,419.999 It silences self doubt and makes you even more attractive and makes life more meaningful. 118 00:07:08,419.999 --> 00:07:09,679.999 Like, without it, you're drifting.
(07:10):
With it, you're unstoppable.
So purpose, guys, if you do not work on yourself, you're never going to find that purpose.
.999Now, if you never find your purpose, you'll never be respected. 122 00:07:19,749.999 --> 00:07:26,809.999 So that woman, she can, women can smell confidence, okay? They're like a shark smelling blood in the water.
.999Confidence is hot.
.9A man with purpose is hot.
(07:30):
Is hot.
Now the truth about worthiness.
Look, I get it.
A lot of guys don't feel worthy of a woman or the life they want.
They think they need tricks or pickup lines to impress her or money or fame or all of that.
.999But let me tell you, real confidence doesn't come from gimmicks.
It doesn't come from fame, power, and money. 132 00:07:49,265.001 --> 00:07:51,005 It comes from transformation.
(07:51):
Transformation we are talking about.
.999When you've built yourself into a man, you are proud of when you're fit, focused and on a mission, that insecurity will disappear because now you're not faking it. 135 00:08:04,349.999 --> 00:08:05,270 You're the real deal.
Now, I've seen guys that were stoked to get that perfect 10.
They worked super, super hard to get that perfect 10 to show the woman, you know, everything that they had their money spent money.
(08:16):
Time, energy, they, and then later on they literally become bored with this woman because they went for the looks or the woman is really not that into them and then they find out she's lying to me when she tells me I'm attractive to her or that she's in love with me. 139 00:08:31,369.999 --> 00:08:40,110 Why do you really want to have a woman tell you you're handsome because you've given her money? I never understood why men would want to be in a relationship where they know they're being lied to.
(08:40):
It just doesn't make sense.
You know, you want a woman who believes in you because you're a man on a mission.
And I'll tell you, the greatest gift that a man can get from a woman is the fact that she believes in him and his mission.
.999When she believes in him, that is a wonderful feeling, guys.
I highly recommend you experience it.
Now the life and love you want starts with you.
(09:01):
If you're tired of settling, if you're ready to rebuild, join this new community that I have called The Garage.
Now inside, you're going to find a brotherhood of men who are leveling up their bodies, their minds, and on a mission every day.
.999It doesn't matter how far you have fallen. 149 00:09:14,134.999 --> 00:09:31,090 Guys, I have fallen so far and I figured out how to take that lost and broken feeling and redirect that energy that it took to destroy myself, turn it into rocket fuel, and So click that link below and let's build the man you were meant to be.
(09:31):
I'll see you on the inside guys.
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