74 - Feelings Tour Part 3: Anger

Podcast Episode Summary

In this episode, Annaliese and Alan explore how even challenging emotions like anger can bring value and insight to your life. They focus on what anger teaches you about your values and how to handle it with understanding instead of reacting impulsively. Annaliese discusses how anger feels in your body, what it can make you believe about yourself, and practical steps for processing it in healthier ways.

You’ll Hear About:

• -Anger is like a signpost pointing you to something you care deeply about or value. What are the main situations or experiences that trigger anger in you? Can you identify one thing your anger might be trying to tell you

• Anger often comes with moral weight—you might feel it’s “righteous” to be angry about something, or you might think you’re “wrong” or “bad” for feeling it. Taking time to understand your own anger can help you uncover what truly matters to you. What does your anger show you about your values or priorities?

• Being honest about your anger creates space to process it in healthier, less harmful ways. You don’t have to fully embrace the feeling, but being open to acknowledging it gives you the clarity and support you need. How can being honest about your anger help you respond more constructively

• Anger can sometimes show up in unhelpful ways, but there are times when it’s the right emotion for the situation. Are you giving yourself the chance to choose how you respond, based on the kind of person you want to be? Are you willing to sit with uncomfortable emotions, knowing they’re a natural part of life?

Feeling Your Anger: Annaliese breaks down these actionable steps to help you process anger effectively:

1. Breathe and slow down. Anger puts you into survival mode, so start by creating space to pause.
2. Wait to act. Let yourself fully feel the emotion in your body. Allow it to evaporate naturally as you tune into what it’s telling you.
3. Don’t judge. Let the anger show you what matters to you without labeling it as good or bad.
4. Understand the story. Reflect on the reason behind your anger. Decide what feels true, what doesn’t, and what your best response could be.
5. Create space and own it. Allow yourself to feel without shame, knowing you can use your emotions to help, not harm.

Your Free Coaching Call: Curious about how coaching with Annaliese can help you? Experience your own confidential free, 1-hour Discovery Chat with Annaliese at linktree.com/coachannaliese. Share your story and walk away with actionable tips to make real changes in your life! Listen in to start changing your relationship with anger and make it work for you, not against you!