80 - Building Confidence

In This Episode: Annaliese and Alan talk about what it actually takes to build confidence. Annaliese brings up how confidence is not about finally becoming the ideal version of yourself—it’s about taking small, consistent steps. Confidence isn’t something you achieve once and for all; it’s something you build by developing a trusting and capable sense of yourself in real life, one day at a time.

You’ll Hear About:

• Confidence doesn’t mean perfection. It actually means being able to navigate life as your authentic self. Confidence feels like stability, trust, belief, and resilience—not pressure to be flawless. Does this change how you think about confidence?
• Do you have a secret standard for when you “allow” yourself to feel confident? Are there times you don’t feel like you have a choice? Is there a version of yourself you think you “should” be or a performance goal you think you must hit first? Step one to real confidence is internal validation—choosing to believe in yourself as you are.
• How do you interpret mistakes or failures? What meaning do they hold for you? Deciding on purpose what you want to think about setbacks—and defining what strength actually feels like—can help you build confidence that lasts. Protecting and nurturing your belief in yourself will help you navigate life’s natural highs and lows.

Simple Ways to Build Confidence:

1. Write your own definition of confidence. Be specific—what would you think, feel, and choose differently if you were confident?
2. Daily, take notice of where you’re at (thoughts, feelings) and what you need.
3. Decide what you want to believe about yourself. You have the authority to build beliefs and standards that truly serve you.
4. Remind yourself that you have a say in how you experience life. If you don’t feel confident, get curious—what hidden standard are you holding yourself to? Letting go of those unrealistic rules can help you build genuine confidence.

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Listen to the Core Values podcast episodes: Episodes 41 & 42