82 - How To Fail

Annaliese and Alan explore the hidden benefits of failure, how it affects us emotionally, and how to shift from seeing failure as defeat to using it as an opportunity to learn. Annaliese shares how to recognize the story failure is telling you, notice what you're believing about yourself, and how to practice perspective shifts that help you accept failure as a normal—and even valuable—part of life.

You’ll Hear About:

• The hidden benefits of failure—how it helps you understand more about how life works, what’s important to you, and how you want to show up in the world.
• How failure brings pain and discomfort and triggers deep emotions, making it important to see the messages you’re telling yourself about what failure means about you.
• How recognizing your usual self-talk when you fail can help you see what you want to let go of that's not helpful, and what new, empowering message you can practice instead.

Ways to Fail Better:

• Acknowledge honestly when you’ve experienced a failure, and let yourself feel that hurt and sadness fully. Don’t skip this part! What you need is comfort, validation, and self-compassion.
• Practice a more self-compassionate response while you’re failing. Instead of letting your inner critic beat you up, remind yourself that you admire yourself for trying. You are capable of changing your mind, letting go, and learning how to do things in better ways as you go.
• Failure is a normal part of life. You get to create a new message for yourself about failure. What are the messages about yourself that you usually believe when you fail? What would you like to let go of? What would you like to believe instead?
• The most important thing in life isn’t avoiding discomfort. It’s about supporting yourself in what you need to keep learning what you care about and showing up more authentically as yourself.

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