93 - How Do You Motivate Yourself?

Annaliese and Alan dive into the everyday ways we try to motivate ourselves—and how that directly affects both our follow-through and how we feel about ourselves. Annaliese brings up why the way you treat yourself to “get motivated” might actually be what’s making it harder to take action and feel good about it. Are you connecting with why you want to act or behave a certain way? Or are you just trying to force or blindly hope your way into showing up? You don’t have to harm, ignore, or fight yourself to become who you want to be in your life.

You’ll Hear About:

• Why your motivation style may be part of what’s keeping you stuck or frustrated.

• The way you’ve been used to motivating yourself might make sense—but is it actually working for you, or working against you in the long run?

• How to tell what “well, it does work” is really costing you, and how to reflect on what could work better.

• Why motivation is found in how you approach showing up—not in pressure or panic.

• How building self-trust and reminding yourself who you want to be (resilient, willing, trustworthy) can energize you to act instead of avoiding or forcing.

Ways to Change Your Motivation Style:

1. You know what you need. Start practicing thinking this about yourself more often. What motivation “rules” actually work for you?

2. What do you like about your current style? Reflect on moments that felt effective. What would you want to keep doing?

3. What makes this style not work (even when it seems like it does)? Tune into what’s hard, draining, or quietly self-defeating.

4. You have permission to change the rules. Be your own guide. Slow down. Trust that you can shift into a style that supports you better.

5. What would effective, energizing, and supportive motivation look like for you? Motivation should help you handle life, not make it harder. You get to decide what works for both outcome and experience.

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