January 15, 2024 • 31 mins
Nicholas Barnes is living proof that luck is not always about avoiding misfortune but rather triumphing over adversity. His remarkable story, though tinged with darkness, reveals the indomitable spirit of the human condition. He's not just a survivor; he's a beacon of resilience.
Nicholas not only regained the ability to walk unaided after a near-death experience but also became a dedicated athlete and founded "Incredible Warriors." His purpose shifted toward supporting people and making the world a better place. He is now a qualified linguistic practitioner, a master of neuro-language programming, a pain expert, an emotional intelligence coach, and a mindfulness teacher. His remarkable recovery journey has astonished many, and his story is poised to become the focus of an upcoming and significant documentary.
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(00:09):
Hello everybody and welcome to ournew episode of the podcast Way Out of
Childhood Trauma.
And today he is withme as Nicholas Barnes,
which is therapists helping thepeople to recover from the burnout,
which are people in themanagerial position in professionals who face burnout.
(00:29):
And as we speak on thispodcast about everything trauma
related, the next story, it's amazing.
And so I would want to ask him, Nick,
if you can introduce yourself toour and the part of your story,
what brought you to theplace where you are now?
Why are you helping others
(00:53):
with what you're doing?
Hello everyone. Yeah, myname is Nicholas Barnes and
I'm here because I wasallowed a second chance in
life coming back from anear death experience.
I've been on a mission since2021 after I learned to
(01:17):
walk again and overcoming PTSD and a load
of health conditions.
It all started back fromin my twenties in my
service in the British Army.I was injured from a crash.
I couldn't feel anythingfrom the waist down and
(01:40):
I was in severe pain.
And the longer whileI was in a wheelchair,
I was gaining weight, gained diabetes,
high cholesterol, underactivethyroid. As the year passed on,
(02:01):
I developed an addiction to
Cocodamol.
A few years later I came off flat,
excuse me. After experiencing all that,
(02:21):
my wife and I,
we moved down to Hampshire and when
she passed away,
she was diagnosed withwound cancer in 2017,
passed away December, 2020.
And ever since her funeral
(02:43):
when she died, it took a toll on my health
and I actually had anear death experience.
And this boy said to me,Nicholas, it's not your time yet.
We're not ready for you. Go back.
So I came back into my bodyand I was in the hospital being
(03:05):
revived
and I've been on this mission eversince and I've been studying for it
and now I've graduated.
Yeah, that's really moving storyshowing a lot of endurance.
And
to ask you how it is foryou as the ex soldier
(03:28):
to admit that you has issue with the,
for example, PTSD or mental health,
how you feel that it's currently veteransdealing with that or are willing to
even admit that they have issues?
Yeah, it took me a while to
(03:53):
own up to it.
It took me over a year totalk about it with someone.
So I went to my gp,
I was sent to a clinicthat deals with PTSD
and I was diagnosed,yeah, it took a while.
There was lots of other thoughtsthat they had at the time.
(04:15):
A lot of military veteranshave been wrongly diagnosed,
but it happened in the end,
I got the right diagnosis andI was on the right medication.
But coming off the medication during
(04:36):
2021,
that's what helped meto memorise everything,
to gain back controlof who I am and who I'm
supposed to be.
And that's how I overcome it.Through neurolinguistic programming,
(04:57):
a practitioner did a timeline therapy
and the rewind technique andthat's how I overcome it.
But for many years Iwent through hell with
constantly flashbacks,nightmares, stress, depression,
(05:19):
low.
Just every night I would just wake up.
It is like every hour frombad nightmares and sweats.
But then, but now,
not anymore because I'veovercome that trauma.
(05:43):
Thank you for sharing it because that'sreally giving the hope to people because
a lot of people still living and theybelieve that they cannot get better,
that they have to be on medication orthey just kind of have to learn to live
with that.
But it's really giving the hope thatthey are the ways how to overcome that.
(06:03):
So you started your programme and founded
Incredible warriors.So how you get to that
incredible warriors, whatdoes it mean for you?
So I think about, there's aword where people would say,
I'm a survivor of something,
(06:24):
but I actually feel likesurvivor is more of a limiting
belief word or a lower wordabout your people ourselves.
So instead of thinkingthat I'm a survivor,
I'm a warrior of my past,
many of us humans are.
(06:45):
And so I use warrior
to make that word into a strong becausewe're all stronger than what we think.
And the incredible warriors,I thought perfect name.
That's why I came up with it.
I saying that you are absolutely right.
We are all stronger than wethink that we are. And that
(07:09):
I quite often also using that imageof that coming from the trauma,
it's like winning the battle lossis it? So it's not just a survival,
it's like being the onewho was in that battle and
won and came out alive from that.Yeah, it's absolutely right.
But you didn't overcome just mentalissues, is it? You overcome much more.
(07:31):
So tell me about your story,
how I know that you arenot on wheelchair anymore,
so how did you do that?
Okay, so coaching saved mylife. NLP saved my life.
After overcoming thoselimited beliefs that I had,
I started believing in myself more. So
(07:57):
I was on bed most of the time
and I had carers lookingafter me every day.
So what I did was Istarted training myself.
So I was getting myself up on my bed,
leaping myself over tomy powered wheelchair,
(08:20):
and then I went to the toilet,
leaped over to that and then back ontothe powered wheelchair and the back to
bed. And it took me some time,
a few weeks and then Istarted getting stronger in my
arms and my hands and that.
So I started going intomy manual wheelchair and I
(08:42):
was doing that around my home.
And then I was getting outinto the garden communal area
and then I got out to thelocal shops and then to town,
I was very strong. I was gettingvery stronger and the more stronger,
the better and easier it wasto get back onto my legs.
(09:05):
So after that manual wheelchair, Ithought, nah Nick, you need to get up.
So I started using mycrutches. So I got up,
took me a while to getused to the balancing and
and the strength, but I foundthe strength. I prayed to God,
(09:26):
I prayed to God literally everyday and God really gave me that
strength. So I started moving my legs.
But whilst I go back to,
whilst I was on that bedin that powered wheelchair,
I started to look uponline how to gain feeling
(09:48):
back in my legs and my feet and toes.And then I started sort of
trying to strengthen up my legs.
So eventually I gained movement
and that's how I got from bedto power to manual wheelchair to
crutches. So back on crutches,
(10:10):
I started training my legs to move and
I wasn't easy, I was really hardand as well my spine was like, ah,
it's an agony.
But it took me six months altogether and
then to get on my legs andnot use practise anymore.
(10:33):
But then another threemonths I guess it took to
stop wobbling everywhere becauseI kept losing my balance.
Sometimes when we experienced stressful
situations after going through physical
health problems and overcoming it,
(10:55):
it can lead back into temporary
paralysis when people willall experience stress.
So I did have a bit ofstress last year. So
yeah, I had to learn
to lower those stress levels so notget emotional so that my feeling
(11:20):
came back in my legs and my hips and that
and that's how I did it. Yeah.
Yeah, that's amazing.
And that's really like showingthat connection is a between
mind and body,
that it's really not aboutour ability in the body.
(11:41):
Our body is so possibleto heal up itself when
tiny, but it's about that mindset. Is it?
So what is it one thingwhich you would recommend
anybody who for example,
have the pain or even have the maybe
symptoms of PTSD,
what would be number one thing whichyou would recommend them to do?
(12:06):
I highly recommend contactinga master practitioner in the
NLP because
a lot of people that experience trauma,
physical health andother health conditions,
when you look at doctors and theysay, like they said to me, Nicholas,
(12:29):
you'll never be able to walkagain. We won't help you further.
So don't always believe it.
There is always someoneout there that'll help you.
And as a master practitioner,n LP hypnotherapist,
I can help anyone because I'mnot just a therapist in that I'm
(12:50):
also a pain management practitioner.
I also am a mindfulness teacher
and an insomnia practitioner.
So if anyone's got any mentalhealth that experiences physical
pain, I can help you.
Yeah, that's great. So who arethose who you work most on?
(13:13):
What the incredible warrior is doing,
who would come to youand what it will be that
magic of become incredible warrior?
So basically I help professionals,
business owners and management withsuffering, with burnout, stress,
(13:39):
those experience pain painful memories,
painful health
can go through a lot of stress at workand the work pressures can just build up
so much. They're just sufferingfrom extreme tiredness.
And some even go to doctors to get
(14:00):
medications.
Others go the opposite way anddo drugs and alcohol so I can
help people with addiction,overcoming addiction,
burnout, stress anxieties, depression,
any mental condition that I gothrough, burnout, stress, I can help,
(14:22):
but I actually can help anyonereally with my skills as an LP
practitioner. And that's what I do.
I have a 90 day programme,it's going to be released soon.
So yeah,
I'm always available tochat if anyone needs me.
(14:44):
If in our podcast we always speaking about
the main topic of childhood trauma,you know what trauma is in all life,
do you think that if you willlook on your experience that
your childhood somehowform your reactions in your
adulthood,
(15:04):
in your service and afterwards youwill see any connection between
what you believed as achild to how you acted
as adult?
Yeah, so
a lot of people when peopleexperience PTSD can be between when
(15:25):
you were born through yourmother's womb up until the age of
six. You can either hear something,fill something or see something,
right? Excuse me. Basically,
I think with me I sawthings but it was like
(15:46):
a lot of and also felt things. Ithink it was through my mother's womb.
Hearing loud noises can bequite traumatic for a baby that
hasn't been born. As a young child,
I remember some bits about myfather was wanting me to join
(16:08):
and talking about his time when he was,
because he was removed arounda lot during his time in the
army
and I missed him a lot when he went away.
I think, yeah,
I think because of Ray went away so often.
(16:32):
I think parts of my childhood
put that sort of reactionto me as an adult.
And I joined the army at a young age
and I had those beliefs. I had alot of beliefs, limited beliefs.
I was strong, I was a very strong person.
(16:56):
But
I think a lot of things were justdrilled into me. As a soldier,
you don't really talk about mental health.
And now I realise that I had to
help me deal with it and overcome it.
But there are things that people can
(17:19):
feel like they've never comeout of it, but they can.
We all can. It was about,
it's always about having that positivebelief that there is someone out there
that can help us.
(17:40):
I see it a lot of in the children alsojust like that there is that affect the
lack presence of the parentand that subconscious fear
that the power will not come backfrom deployment is that even if you
don't want to admitit, that fear is there.
That's natural.
(18:02):
And also that's still big stigma about the
mental health soldiers. Is it that
it's mean that only be fit to work orfit the purpose, but that's not really,
I think that maybe we'll change it.
The surgeon will be much more fit tothe purpose if they will be allowed to
actually express their feelingsbecause it's most of the time
(18:27):
about the realisationthat you did your best,
you cannot do anything more than you did.
A lot of us because it still happens now.
We are scared of talking about incase we get discharged for our mental
health because I think thosedays in World War I where
(18:48):
if they had PTSD, they get shot. Butobviously it's not like that these days.
But we're afraid of being thrown out and
bands and have to offendfor ourself when we get
out. So
we have to talk about,
because when I workedwith the crisis service
(19:12):
partnership with the NHS,
I met some veterans thatI've helped and some of them
have just left or left overa year ago or something
and they're still being wronglydiagnosed when they come out and
because they don't talkabout in their service
(19:35):
because of the fear ofbeing told to leave.
And a lot of 'em don't wantto because they can't adapt,
they can't adapt to civilian life. But
that's the worry and fear whenyou serve in the military because
you join the armed forces fora reason to serve the queen,
(19:57):
king and country. And yeah,
just afraid and it's sad.It still goes on now.
And it's really sad because we now knowas you do, as I do as many others do,
that we can actually help with PSD.It doesn't has to be permanent.
That all that fear of incapability of working,
(20:21):
it's not like if somebodyis injured, I shot,
they put them to the hospital and believethat they will get better and will
go back to the service if they're fitenough physically the same way we can work
with mind, we can,
and actually witheffective tools do NLP or
in quite short period of time wecan actually get people fit again.
(20:46):
It's just so it's.
It's a criteria of the armed forces.
If your mental health issevere, you have to leave.
So you're working with thebusiness professionals,
what do you see as the symptoms ofburnout? How do you tell them that okay,
(21:10):
now it's the time to reallystart doing something.
What are these most commonsymptoms of people who has this
stress burnout and howpeople can recognise,
because sometimes peopledon't really know.
So people with symptoms of it is fatigue,
(21:33):
tiredness, low in energy,
get stressed easily,
but they react to things that they didn't
before. Anger,
sweating as well because when they'reanxious about trying to get something
(21:53):
done, they're stressed and that,and I need to get this done.
I can't do it, I can't do it, Ican't do this, that and the other.
If there's too much for them todo. The workload, it's so much,
it brings out a lot of differentsymptoms, even physical symptoms as well
and even insomnia.
(22:15):
There are many sleepconditions people can go
through because it leadsto more burnout and then
eventually they justcrash and they have to use
to start using things likedrugs, alcohol or medications.
(22:35):
And then the memory,they lose their memory.
The memory starts going as well becausewhen people experience stress or
depression and that, and it'sjust overthinking and stuff,
it makes the brain move so fast thatyou just can't memorise anything
anymore. And yeah,
it's not good when you're inlow mood and you start being
(22:59):
stressed with people,
your work and time timing with your work
and it's not good.
So seek out a professional.
If you are experiencingstress and burnout.
Would you advise someone, onething that they can do by themself,
(23:21):
just going to start that process of that,
what would be the one things you wouldrecommend them to start doing or stop
doing to start getting better?
So I would recommend practising
mindfulness every day,every morning, every nights.
(23:43):
Guided meditations is good forfeeling stressed and low mood and
anxiety. There is one you can try for too.
It's called power of healing the mind.
So if you look up on YouTube,
you'd be able to listen to it,
go into a room where it'sdark, close your eyes,
(24:07):
don't move anything, your limbs,any limbs, just lay there flat,
maybe a pillow under your head. Okay,
there are other things youneed to do as well by start
recognising your behaviours.
Why am I doing this? What made me do this?
(24:35):
How do I get through thesestressful situations?
How can I lower those symptoms?
So you can sort of setup specific goals to
work on things bit by bit becauseyou can't do the whole lot in just
one because that wouldjust cause you more stress,
(24:55):
especially when somethingdoesn't go right.
So you have to learn totake one step at a time.
Walking is good for you, freshair does it good for your body,
your lungs and everything.Exercise the gym,
because when people experience aburnout, stress, they feel tired.
(25:17):
But I actually find thatgoing to the gym for fast
walk go through the naturein the forest. That's nice.
It's relaxing, peaceful
because if you're able to get outthere, go for walks, go running,
go to the gym, swimming,it really helps your mind.
(25:39):
Both helps you bothphysically and mentally brings
out the endorphins and watch your diet.
Yeah,
because a lot of people can start eatingjunk food when you're stressed and
you're feeling low in mood,
you start eating chocolate or burgersand things like that and cut out the
(26:01):
drink. And alcohol jokes, sorry.
Well for sure, I agree with you.Alcohol people often have that feeling.
It's make them more relaxed and yeah,it's going to switch off some barriers,
but in the opposite way theyget actually more stressed
afterwards. So it's actually better tolower it definitely. And higher also.
(26:22):
Definitely. Yeah.
If people drink too much,
it can need to black out and thenthey can do some weird things
without the even knowing. Soit's best to avoid all that.
No, and actually what people don'trecognise that when we are stressing that
(26:43):
high response stresses it,
then that drunknesscoming sooner much quicker
because the mind is overwhelmed.
So it's just enjoyed thatfeeling of switching off,
but that's can lead exactly to thebackground or really not good behaviour.
I regret later. Yeah.
(27:05):
So thank you Nick very muchfor coming on our podcast.
It's your story. It's really encouraging.
I think that's bringing a lot ofhope to life people and it's great to
hear that
servicemen can get help andget better and find a new
(27:25):
purpose in life. Because thewhole story is also about that,
is that as you mentioned,
that many people are afraidto admit their issues,
for example,
in the military because they don't knowwhat they will do with their life if
they will not be in the military.
And it's great to see thatyou find your way and your
(27:47):
purpose and you're helping others. Sowe're still serving the communities.
So that's amazing.
In a healing way. I'm serving the world,
not just my king and country,
it's about the world.
It's like that Michael Jackson songHeal the World because that's my
(28:10):
vision. People need healing.
And when it has people like us
to help the world,
it's beautiful and working together,
sharing is caring, andwe have to join in forces
to get that magic in the world of healing.
(28:33):
I really feel like ever sinceI came back from the gate of
heaven and I voice told me,
I've just been on a healingmission, I'm on a mission from God
and I'm so grateful to God and tobe able to be here to talk with
you and talk with others,to meet great people,
(28:57):
awesome people like all of you because,
and being able to be there, show up,
be confident,
and communication is the key to learning.
That's good things aboutlife, health in general.
(29:18):
And it's beautiful having our lives
to meet such great people.
And I thank you for letting me comeonto your show today. Thank you.
You're most welcome. Thank you.
And anybody will want to contactyou. What is the best way,
(29:38):
if somebody would want tochat with you or look out,
how can they join the incredible warriors?
You can find me,Facebook, Nicholas Barnes,
the Incredible Warriors,
and I'm on chat on Messenger,Facebook Messenger,
(29:59):
WhatsApp.
And also I have a LinkedIn page if youwant to see what I've been doing with my
studies and whatnot. Butyeah, message me anytime.
If anyone needs my help, I'm here for you.
Always. Thank you.
I will find the links forNicholas also in episode info,
so you can click the linkand get in touch with him.
(30:24):
And I would encourageeverybody who suffer with
symptoms of stress, burnout,
feeling overwhelmed at work orfeeling it's just too much in life
in this moment to reachout for help because that
you can be helped, Nicholascan help you in this.
(30:44):
And we all desire to live happily
not ever after, but livehappily and joyful life. So
suffering is not necessaryif choose not to.
Yeah, definitely.
So thank you very much and I will allsee you in our next episode next week.
(31:07):
Thank you. Bye.
Thank you.
Hello everybody and welcome to ournew episode of the podcast Way Out of
Childhood Trauma.
And today he is withme as Nicholas Barnes,
which is therapists helping thepeople to recover from the burnout,
which are people in themanagerial position in professionals who face burnout.
(00:29):
And as we speak on thispodcast about everything trauma
related, the next story, it's amazing.
And so I would want to ask him, Nick,
if you can introduce yourself toour and the part of your story,
what brought you to theplace where you are now?
Why are you helping others
(00:53):
with what you're doing?
Hello everyone. Yeah, myname is Nicholas Barnes and
I'm here because I wasallowed a second chance in
life coming back from anear death experience.
I've been on a mission since2021 after I learned to
(01:17):
walk again and overcoming PTSD and a load
of health conditions.
It all started back fromin my twenties in my
service in the British Army.I was injured from a crash.
I couldn't feel anythingfrom the waist down and
(01:40):
I was in severe pain.
And the longer whileI was in a wheelchair,
I was gaining weight, gained diabetes,
high cholesterol, underactivethyroid. As the year passed on,
(02:01):
I developed an addiction to
Cocodamol.
A few years later I came off flat,
excuse me. After experiencing all that,
(02:21):
my wife and I,
we moved down to Hampshire and when
she passed away,
she was diagnosed withwound cancer in 2017,
passed away December, 2020.
And ever since her funeral
(02:43):
when she died, it took a toll on my health
and I actually had anear death experience.
And this boy said to me,Nicholas, it's not your time yet.
We're not ready for you. Go back.
So I came back into my bodyand I was in the hospital being
(03:05):
revived
and I've been on this mission eversince and I've been studying for it
and now I've graduated.
Yeah, that's really moving storyshowing a lot of endurance.
And
to ask you how it is foryou as the ex soldier
(03:28):
to admit that you has issue with the,
for example, PTSD or mental health,
how you feel that it's currently veteransdealing with that or are willing to
even admit that they have issues?
Yeah, it took me a while to
(03:53):
own up to it.
It took me over a year totalk about it with someone.
So I went to my gp,
I was sent to a clinicthat deals with PTSD
and I was diagnosed,yeah, it took a while.
There was lots of other thoughtsthat they had at the time.
(04:15):
A lot of military veteranshave been wrongly diagnosed,
but it happened in the end,
I got the right diagnosis andI was on the right medication.
But coming off the medication during
(04:36):
2021,
that's what helped meto memorise everything,
to gain back controlof who I am and who I'm
supposed to be.
And that's how I overcome it.Through neurolinguistic programming,
(04:57):
a practitioner did a timeline therapy
and the rewind technique andthat's how I overcome it.
But for many years Iwent through hell with
constantly flashbacks,nightmares, stress, depression,
(05:19):
low.
Just every night I would just wake up.
It is like every hour frombad nightmares and sweats.
But then, but now,
not anymore because I'veovercome that trauma.
(05:43):
Thank you for sharing it because that'sreally giving the hope to people because
a lot of people still living and theybelieve that they cannot get better,
that they have to be on medication orthey just kind of have to learn to live
with that.
But it's really giving the hope thatthey are the ways how to overcome that.
(06:03):
So you started your programme and founded
Incredible warriors.So how you get to that
incredible warriors, whatdoes it mean for you?
So I think about, there's aword where people would say,
I'm a survivor of something,
(06:24):
but I actually feel likesurvivor is more of a limiting
belief word or a lower wordabout your people ourselves.
So instead of thinkingthat I'm a survivor,
I'm a warrior of my past,
many of us humans are.
(06:45):
And so I use warrior
to make that word into a strong becausewe're all stronger than what we think.
And the incredible warriors,I thought perfect name.
That's why I came up with it.
I saying that you are absolutely right.
We are all stronger than wethink that we are. And that
(07:09):
I quite often also using that imageof that coming from the trauma,
it's like winning the battle lossis it? So it's not just a survival,
it's like being the onewho was in that battle and
won and came out alive from that.Yeah, it's absolutely right.
But you didn't overcome just mentalissues, is it? You overcome much more.
(07:31):
So tell me about your story,
how I know that you arenot on wheelchair anymore,
so how did you do that?
Okay, so coaching saved mylife. NLP saved my life.
After overcoming thoselimited beliefs that I had,
I started believing in myself more. So
(07:57):
I was on bed most of the time
and I had carers lookingafter me every day.
So what I did was Istarted training myself.
So I was getting myself up on my bed,
leaping myself over tomy powered wheelchair,
(08:20):
and then I went to the toilet,
leaped over to that and then back ontothe powered wheelchair and the back to
bed. And it took me some time,
a few weeks and then Istarted getting stronger in my
arms and my hands and that.
So I started going intomy manual wheelchair and I
(08:42):
was doing that around my home.
And then I was getting outinto the garden communal area
and then I got out to thelocal shops and then to town,
I was very strong. I was gettingvery stronger and the more stronger,
the better and easier it wasto get back onto my legs.
(09:05):
So after that manual wheelchair, Ithought, nah Nick, you need to get up.
So I started using mycrutches. So I got up,
took me a while to getused to the balancing and
and the strength, but I foundthe strength. I prayed to God,
(09:26):
I prayed to God literally everyday and God really gave me that
strength. So I started moving my legs.
But whilst I go back to,
whilst I was on that bedin that powered wheelchair,
I started to look uponline how to gain feeling
(09:48):
back in my legs and my feet and toes.And then I started sort of
trying to strengthen up my legs.
So eventually I gained movement
and that's how I got from bedto power to manual wheelchair to
crutches. So back on crutches,
(10:10):
I started training my legs to move and
I wasn't easy, I was really hardand as well my spine was like, ah,
it's an agony.
But it took me six months altogether and
then to get on my legs andnot use practise anymore.
(10:33):
But then another threemonths I guess it took to
stop wobbling everywhere becauseI kept losing my balance.
Sometimes when we experienced stressful
situations after going through physical
health problems and overcoming it,
(10:55):
it can lead back into temporary
paralysis when people willall experience stress.
So I did have a bit ofstress last year. So
yeah, I had to learn
to lower those stress levels so notget emotional so that my feeling
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came back in my legs and my hips and that
and that's how I did it. Yeah.
Yeah, that's amazing.
And that's really like showingthat connection is a between
mind and body,
that it's really not aboutour ability in the body.
(11:41):
Our body is so possibleto heal up itself when
tiny, but it's about that mindset. Is it?
So what is it one thingwhich you would recommend
anybody who for example,
have the pain or even have the maybe
symptoms of PTSD,
what would be number one thing whichyou would recommend them to do?
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I highly recommend contactinga master practitioner in the
NLP because
a lot of people that experience trauma,
physical health andother health conditions,
when you look at doctors and theysay, like they said to me, Nicholas,
(12:29):
you'll never be able to walkagain. We won't help you further.
So don't always believe it.
There is always someoneout there that'll help you.
And as a master practitioner,n LP hypnotherapist,
I can help anyone because I'mnot just a therapist in that I'm
(12:50):
also a pain management practitioner.
I also am a mindfulness teacher
and an insomnia practitioner.
So if anyone's got any mentalhealth that experiences physical
pain, I can help you.
Yeah, that's great. So who arethose who you work most on?
(13:13):
What the incredible warrior is doing,
who would come to youand what it will be that
magic of become incredible warrior?
So basically I help professionals,
business owners and management withsuffering, with burnout, stress,
(13:39):
those experience pain painful memories,
painful health
can go through a lot of stress at workand the work pressures can just build up
so much. They're just sufferingfrom extreme tiredness.
And some even go to doctors to get
(14:00):
medications.
Others go the opposite way anddo drugs and alcohol so I can
help people with addiction,overcoming addiction,
burnout, stress anxieties, depression,
any mental condition that I gothrough, burnout, stress, I can help,
(14:22):
but I actually can help anyonereally with my skills as an LP
practitioner. And that's what I do.
I have a 90 day programme,it's going to be released soon.
So yeah,
I'm always available tochat if anyone needs me.
(14:44):
If in our podcast we always speaking about
the main topic of childhood trauma,you know what trauma is in all life,
do you think that if you willlook on your experience that
your childhood somehowform your reactions in your
adulthood,
(15:04):
in your service and afterwards youwill see any connection between
what you believed as achild to how you acted
as adult?
Yeah, so
a lot of people when peopleexperience PTSD can be between when
(15:25):
you were born through yourmother's womb up until the age of
six. You can either hear something,fill something or see something,
right? Excuse me. Basically,
I think with me I sawthings but it was like
(15:46):
a lot of and also felt things. Ithink it was through my mother's womb.
Hearing loud noises can bequite traumatic for a baby that
hasn't been born. As a young child,
I remember some bits about myfather was wanting me to join
(16:08):
and talking about his time when he was,
because he was removed arounda lot during his time in the
army
and I missed him a lot when he went away.
I think, yeah,
I think because of Ray went away so often.
(16:32):
I think parts of my childhood
put that sort of reactionto me as an adult.
And I joined the army at a young age
and I had those beliefs. I had alot of beliefs, limited beliefs.
I was strong, I was a very strong person.
(16:56):
But
I think a lot of things were justdrilled into me. As a soldier,
you don't really talk about mental health.
And now I realise that I had to
help me deal with it and overcome it.
But there are things that people can
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feel like they've never comeout of it, but they can.
We all can. It was about,
it's always about having that positivebelief that there is someone out there
that can help us.
(17:40):
I see it a lot of in the children alsojust like that there is that affect the
lack presence of the parentand that subconscious fear
that the power will not come backfrom deployment is that even if you
don't want to admitit, that fear is there.
That's natural.
(18:02):
And also that's still big stigma about the
mental health soldiers. Is it that
it's mean that only be fit to work orfit the purpose, but that's not really,
I think that maybe we'll change it.
The surgeon will be much more fit tothe purpose if they will be allowed to
actually express their feelingsbecause it's most of the time
(18:27):
about the realisationthat you did your best,
you cannot do anything more than you did.
A lot of us because it still happens now.
We are scared of talking about incase we get discharged for our mental
health because I think thosedays in World War I where
(18:48):
if they had PTSD, they get shot. Butobviously it's not like that these days.
But we're afraid of being thrown out and
bands and have to offendfor ourself when we get
out. So
we have to talk about,
because when I workedwith the crisis service
(19:12):
partnership with the NHS,
I met some veterans thatI've helped and some of them
have just left or left overa year ago or something
and they're still being wronglydiagnosed when they come out and
because they don't talkabout in their service
(19:35):
because of the fear ofbeing told to leave.
And a lot of 'em don't wantto because they can't adapt,
they can't adapt to civilian life. But
that's the worry and fear whenyou serve in the military because
you join the armed forces fora reason to serve the queen,
(19:57):
king and country. And yeah,
just afraid and it's sad.It still goes on now.
And it's really sad because we now knowas you do, as I do as many others do,
that we can actually help with PSD.It doesn't has to be permanent.
That all that fear of incapability of working,
(20:21):
it's not like if somebodyis injured, I shot,
they put them to the hospital and believethat they will get better and will
go back to the service if they're fitenough physically the same way we can work
with mind, we can,
and actually witheffective tools do NLP or
in quite short period of time wecan actually get people fit again.
(20:46):
It's just so it's.
It's a criteria of the armed forces.
If your mental health issevere, you have to leave.
So you're working with thebusiness professionals,
what do you see as the symptoms ofburnout? How do you tell them that okay,
(21:10):
now it's the time to reallystart doing something.
What are these most commonsymptoms of people who has this
stress burnout and howpeople can recognise,
because sometimes peopledon't really know.
So people with symptoms of it is fatigue,
(21:33):
tiredness, low in energy,
get stressed easily,
but they react to things that they didn't
before. Anger,
sweating as well because when they'reanxious about trying to get something
(21:53):
done, they're stressed and that,and I need to get this done.
I can't do it, I can't do it, Ican't do this, that and the other.
If there's too much for them todo. The workload, it's so much,
it brings out a lot of differentsymptoms, even physical symptoms as well
and even insomnia.
(22:15):
There are many sleepconditions people can go
through because it leadsto more burnout and then
eventually they justcrash and they have to use
to start using things likedrugs, alcohol or medications.
(22:35):
And then the memory,they lose their memory.
The memory starts going as well becausewhen people experience stress or
depression and that, and it'sjust overthinking and stuff,
it makes the brain move so fast thatyou just can't memorise anything
anymore. And yeah,
it's not good when you're inlow mood and you start being
(22:59):
stressed with people,
your work and time timing with your work
and it's not good.
So seek out a professional.
If you are experiencingstress and burnout.
Would you advise someone, onething that they can do by themself,
(23:21):
just going to start that process of that,
what would be the one things you wouldrecommend them to start doing or stop
doing to start getting better?
So I would recommend practising
mindfulness every day,every morning, every nights.
(23:43):
Guided meditations is good forfeeling stressed and low mood and
anxiety. There is one you can try for too.
It's called power of healing the mind.
So if you look up on YouTube,
you'd be able to listen to it,
go into a room where it'sdark, close your eyes,
(24:07):
don't move anything, your limbs,any limbs, just lay there flat,
maybe a pillow under your head. Okay,
there are other things youneed to do as well by start
recognising your behaviours.
Why am I doing this? What made me do this?
(24:35):
How do I get through thesestressful situations?
How can I lower those symptoms?
So you can sort of setup specific goals to
work on things bit by bit becauseyou can't do the whole lot in just
one because that wouldjust cause you more stress,
(24:55):
especially when somethingdoesn't go right.
So you have to learn totake one step at a time.
Walking is good for you, freshair does it good for your body,
your lungs and everything.Exercise the gym,
because when people experience aburnout, stress, they feel tired.
(25:17):
But I actually find thatgoing to the gym for fast
walk go through the naturein the forest. That's nice.
It's relaxing, peaceful
because if you're able to get outthere, go for walks, go running,
go to the gym, swimming,it really helps your mind.
(25:39):
Both helps you bothphysically and mentally brings
out the endorphins and watch your diet.
Yeah,
because a lot of people can start eatingjunk food when you're stressed and
you're feeling low in mood,
you start eating chocolate or burgersand things like that and cut out the
(26:01):
drink. And alcohol jokes, sorry.
Well for sure, I agree with you.Alcohol people often have that feeling.
It's make them more relaxed and yeah,it's going to switch off some barriers,
but in the opposite way theyget actually more stressed
afterwards. So it's actually better tolower it definitely. And higher also.
(26:22):
Definitely. Yeah.
If people drink too much,
it can need to black out and thenthey can do some weird things
without the even knowing. Soit's best to avoid all that.
No, and actually what people don'trecognise that when we are stressing that
(26:43):
high response stresses it,
then that drunknesscoming sooner much quicker
because the mind is overwhelmed.
So it's just enjoyed thatfeeling of switching off,
but that's can lead exactly to thebackground or really not good behaviour.
I regret later. Yeah.
(27:05):
So thank you Nick very muchfor coming on our podcast.
It's your story. It's really encouraging.
I think that's bringing a lot ofhope to life people and it's great to
hear that
servicemen can get help andget better and find a new
(27:25):
purpose in life. Because thewhole story is also about that,
is that as you mentioned,
that many people are afraidto admit their issues,
for example,
in the military because they don't knowwhat they will do with their life if
they will not be in the military.
And it's great to see thatyou find your way and your
(27:47):
purpose and you're helping others. Sowe're still serving the communities.
So that's amazing.
In a healing way. I'm serving the world,
not just my king and country,
it's about the world.
It's like that Michael Jackson songHeal the World because that's my
(28:10):
vision. People need healing.
And when it has people like us
to help the world,
it's beautiful and working together,
sharing is caring, andwe have to join in forces
to get that magic in the world of healing.
(28:33):
I really feel like ever sinceI came back from the gate of
heaven and I voice told me,
I've just been on a healingmission, I'm on a mission from God
and I'm so grateful to God and tobe able to be here to talk with
you and talk with others,to meet great people,
(28:57):
awesome people like all of you because,
and being able to be there, show up,
be confident,
and communication is the key to learning.
That's good things aboutlife, health in general.
(29:18):
And it's beautiful having our lives
to meet such great people.
And I thank you for letting me comeonto your show today. Thank you.
You're most welcome. Thank you.
And anybody will want to contactyou. What is the best way,
(29:38):
if somebody would want tochat with you or look out,
how can they join the incredible warriors?
You can find me,Facebook, Nicholas Barnes,
the Incredible Warriors,
and I'm on chat on Messenger,Facebook Messenger,
(29:59):
WhatsApp.
And also I have a LinkedIn page if youwant to see what I've been doing with my
studies and whatnot. Butyeah, message me anytime.
If anyone needs my help, I'm here for you.
Always. Thank you.
I will find the links forNicholas also in episode info,
so you can click the linkand get in touch with him.
(30:24):
And I would encourageeverybody who suffer with
symptoms of stress, burnout,
feeling overwhelmed at work orfeeling it's just too much in life
in this moment to reachout for help because that
you can be helped, Nicholascan help you in this.
(30:44):
And we all desire to live happily
not ever after, but livehappily and joyful life. So
suffering is not necessaryif choose not to.
Yeah, definitely.
So thank you very much and I will allsee you in our next episode next week.
(31:07):
Thank you. Bye.
Thank you.
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