March 4, 2025 • 34 mins
The results are in: 20% of 22–35-year-olds report they overthink their career more than anything else in life. I can relate! Choosing your life's work is no small decision. But I think a lot of the problem stems from bad advice we've been given on our careers in general.
We're closing out our overthinking series by dispelling 5 major career myths that keep us overthinking, limited, and stuck when it comes to finding great purpose and joy in our work. Then we're replacing these myths with 5 fresh perspective shifts that will get us out of our own way and help us step into our calling.
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We are all wrestling with something.
Whether you're wrestling with your selfimage, your faith in God, or your entire
life's purpose, I'm here to tell you thatnumber one, you are not alone, and number
two, to encourage you to find both beautyand purpose in the midst of your struggle.
My name is Emlett and this isthe Wrestling With Life Podcast.
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What's up y'all?
Welcome back to the Wrestling Thisis your host Em Led on the mic, baby.
And we are closing out ourseries on overthinking today.
This is our fifth and finalepisode in series number two.
And we've been talking a lotabout overthinking, overthinking
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our relationships, our, ournext big choice that we have to
make, even overthinking our selfperception, how other people see us.
And today, I think weshould close it with.
Something we can all relate to,especially those of us in our 20s and 30s.
We're talking about overthinkingour career and our life purpose.
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I can raise my hand on this one.
I've spent a lot of time thinking about,you know, what do I want out of my career?
What do I want out of my life in general?
What do I want my, my legacy to be?
How do I want to spend my life, you know,like what greater good, what greater
purpose do I want to contribute to?
And let's be real, it'sa big, big question.
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And I think our answer to that questionchanges a lot throughout our life.
And I think one big kind of myth orlike lie that a lot of us are told is
that we have to find like one careerpath or, you know, one big purpose in
life and just stick to that forever.
And that that's the thekey to long term success.
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And I just think that that's A loadof crap, to be completely frank.
I think it's a load of crap and I thinkit causes a lot of pressure and a lot
of anxiety and a lot of us to feellike we're behind or that we haven't
found that like one purpose yet.
And I just think it kindof sets us up for failure.
So today, y'all, I would like to talkabout a lot of other big career slash
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purpose myths that are out there and someperspective shifts that I would like us
to make when we're thinking about ourcareer, our life's purpose, our life's
work, how we can kind of shift our mindand just make some tiny little changes in
how we are looking at our careers, lookingat our life's purpose so that it doesn't
feel so overwhelming and daunting and youknow, doesn't put us into this big spiral
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of overthinking, what are we going to dofor the next 50, 60 years of our life?
You know, like there's no need forus to be wigging out about that.
So I hope by the end of thisepisode today, you're going to feel
a little bit of encouragement anda little bit more peace when it
comes to that aspect of your life.
So, first of all, I just wanted to shoutout all of the people who have reached
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out regarding this series on overthinking.
It's really been resonating with a lotof y'all and I think many of you are
feeling very heard and seen in thisbecause overthinking is such a real thing.
Again, 81 percent of y'all reportedvia my Instagram at em underscore
led11 that you are an overthinker.
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If you consider yourself a partof that bucket, I just want you
to know that you're not alone.
81 percent of people between theages of 22 to 35 can relate to
you and can resonate with that.
And that's just people who like actuallyadmit that they're overthinking.
I honestly think that number is probablyhigher when it comes to a lot of things.
Um, you know, all of us can fallvictim to overthinking because
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there's a lot to figure out in life.
You know, there's so manydifferent paths to take.
There's so many different options.
And I think especially being in thisdigital age that we're in, constantly
being inundated with different optionsand seeing how other people are
choosing to spend their lives, you know.
Comparison is definitely at an all timehigh, almost involuntarily, like we
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can't help it, but we're just seeing it.
We're seeing the paths thatother people choose to take.
And I think it's natural to see someoneelse doing something completely different
from you and wondering if you're onthe right path or the right timeline.
So all this to say.
There's a lot of usoverthinkers out there.
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It's very normal.
You're not alone.
And I just really appreciate those ofyou who have reached out and said, you
know, positive things about this series.
I love hearing from you guys.
I love hearing that thisis resonating with you.
So if you want to send me a DM, atem underscore led 11 on Instagram.
I'd seriously love to hear from you.
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to cover on the podcast, I'd alsolove to hear from you on that.
So yeah, send me a DM baby.
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So from the polls, you guysalso told me that 20% of you.
are overthinking your career movesmore than anything else in life.
And then 16 percent of you areoverthinking financial decisions
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more than anything else.
So that's 36 percent of us whoare overthinking our careers
or how we are spending ourmoney more than anything else.
And I think like the whole money careerconversation pretty much belongs together,
you know, because where you choose tospend your career, you know, that also has
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an impact on how much money you're making.
I just wanted to start off by kind ofcovering some different myths that I
feel many of us, especially in thisage demographic, have heard from
people in older generations, just likegeneral career advice that's out there.
And I call them myths because I think thatthey sometimes can have truth to them.
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However, I think that they are, area lot of the times not always true.
And I think that they put us in a box.
I think they limit us and I think theycreate some limiting beliefs within us.
So the first myth that I want to talkabout is I have to pick one occupation
forever and I have to like stay ata job for a certain number of years
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before it's okay for me to leave orit wouldn't look sus if I left after
a certain amount of time on my resume.
I have to basically pick onething and stick with it forever.
And I think this was kind of thementality of generations before us.
Like, it was so common forpeople in, you know, our parent
generation and beyond to stay inthe same job for like 20, 30 years.
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And to be completely clear,there's nothing wrong with that.
If that's what you want to do andyou feel great at a job and you
want to stay there, good on you.
Good for you.
Like that stability is amazing.
However.
I definitely think in this day and age,it is getting so much more common to hop
around jobs and hop around careers, whatwith remote work, I think COVID also kind
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of made that happen for a lot of people,lots of big layoffs happening, you know,
and long gone are the days I think wherePeople are raising a big eyebrow if
you are leaving a job every few years.
I think, you know, if you can'thold down a job and you're staying
somewhere for like six months andthen another place a year and then
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another place three months and likeyou're making crazy moves like that,
I think that's a little bit different.
You know what I'm saying?
But I think if you're at, you'reat a place for like two years
and then three years and thenfive years and then back to two.
And you're moving around, Idon't think that's a bad thing.
And I actually think for youit's a really good thing.
Because a lot of times when you'removing from one job to another,
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you can negotiate your salary up,you can negotiate your title up,
maybe get into management quicker.
And it actually kind of empowers you asan employee to leverage being in a new
place, taking what you learned at oneplace, bringing it to the next place,
and kind of adding skills Honestly,money under your belt, and I think it
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can kind of give you some credibility.
And again, this isn't always solidlytrue, and I think there are exceptions
to this, but I really think thewhole, I have to pick one occupation
forever, and I can't leave that place,I think that that's a load of crap.
I think that we have a lot more powerthan we think we do, and I think
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like, especially with, with um, thejob market being pretty competitive,
you know, there's a lot of push for.
Benefits and perks and taking care of youremployees now, like employers are hearing
us as employees and want to give us, youknow, more work perks, more of a work life
balance, and people are able to be morepicky choosy because a lot of employers
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are stepping up their game in that way.
And kind of going along with this myth,like, finding one career or one type
of role or industry that you absolutelylove and having to stay in that box or in
that field forever, I think that's also alimiting belief that we put on ourselves.
We think, like, Oh, I have to, Ihave to just stay in this industry
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forever and I can't make a change.
I also think that's not true.
And you can reinvent yourself asmany times as you want and find new
passions and find what lights you up.
You know what I'm saying?
So that's myth number one.
Myth number two, you have to have a degreeto be successful, and usually when people
believe this, they're referring to like acollege degree, and this is also not true.
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There are so many typesof trades out there.
There's other types of training programs,other types of school that you can go to.
You absolutely do not need acollege degree to be successful
or to make a lot of money.
Myth number three, you have to find ajob you love that gives you purpose.
So I guess I kind of said thisalready in myth number one, but like,
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you don't absolutely have to findyour life's purpose in your career.
Like, you really don't.
Like, you can truly, Go to a job,make the most of it every day,
make great money, and then findfulfilling purpose outside of work.
And you can also find purpose inyour mundane, everyday moments.
Like, if you go into all of yourinteractions with anyone that you're
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seeing or any work that you're touchingand you make a conscious decision,
I'm going to make the most of this.
I'm going to find the purpose andthe silver lining in everything.
That makes a huge difference and youdon't have to be like on fire, fired
up for the job that you do to be happyand to live a joyful life, you know?
So that's myth number three.
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Myth number four.
Your college majordetermines your career path.
I have heard so many people say this,like, Oh, I have a degree in marketing,
so it wouldn't make sense for me to thenmake a pivot and shift into hospitality
or finance or something like that.
Or, Oh, I studied nursing.
I started, I was a nurse for a fewyears and I realized I don't like that.
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And.
I just don't want to have to go backto school to change, you know, careers.
And I get it, like, money's involved,and time's involved, and it can be a lot
to, like, completely pivot your career.
But just because you studiedone thing doesn't mean you have
to stay in that career forever.
And I actually wanted to bringup, uh, this term that I think
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is really important here.
Have y'all ever heard ofthe sunk cost fallacy?
The sunk cost fallacy.
This is a term in psychology,and it refers to our mindset
when it comes to where we investour time, money, and energy.
And we are actually more likelyto continue investing in the same
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relationship, career, place, or overalllife direction, because we believe that
if we change course, it then invalidatesall of our previous time, money, energy,
or Effort that we put into that thingbefore so it's basically like we think
about changing course and it feels sooverwhelming and we feel like, well, I've
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already invested so much time or so muchmoney in XYZ that I can't possibly pivot
now that can keep us very, very stuckin relationships or careers or even like
physical places like a city that you'reliving in because you're like, Okay.
I've already been here or stayed in thisplace, relationship, career, for so long
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that I can't possibly think about leaving.
Like it's just overwhelming.
So you're more likely to stay because youalready have a lot invested in that thing.
But that does not mean that thatthing is always better for us.
And a lot of times thatthing can be draining us.
We can be miserable.
You could be in a job for fiveyears and you absolutely hate
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it, but you stay because you,you have so much time invested.
And the thought of shakingit up is just a lot for you.
And I don't want us to fall victimto the sunk Cost fallacy, like
continuing to invest in somethingjust because you already have been,
even though it's destroying your lifeor making you miserable or really
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taking away from your overall joy orgrowth or just overall mental health.
That is a no, no.
That is a big fat no, no.
And that is not a reason to stay.
Okay.
So whether you chose a certainmajor or career path, relationship.
Life direction, maybe you've beenliving somewhere your whole life,
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but these places, these, thesecareers, these people are draining
you, you know they're not helpingyou be the best version of yourself,
that's not a reason to stay, okay?
Just because you've been there a longtime is not a reason to stay, and
that, yeah, that goes with careers,that goes with everything in life.
So that's myth number four.
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Myth number five, you need to haveyears and years of experience to be
qualified for a certain job that you want.
Dude, this is so irritating to me, okay?
If you look at a LinkedIn post, theywill be hiring for like an entry level
job that's paying like 50k a year, andthey'll try to say that you need five
years of experience to be in that role.
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And that is just BS, okay?
A lot of times I really think someof these job postings are like copy
and paste, like they found somethingelse, like a posting from somewhere
else, and literally copy and pasted it.
This is not true, okay?
I have applied for jobs that, per thejob description, I am not qualified in
terms of certain skills or experience,and I still got an interview, and
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I still got a job offer, okay?
Apply for that thing that you feellike you're not qualified for.
You do not have to have years and yearsand years of experience to do it, okay?
I'm telling you.
So, those are five of many, many,many myths that are out there in
terms of like, Your career path, yourpurpose in life, and all of these
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are just limiting beliefs, okay?
And again, there's so many morethat I could go over, but we just
don't have all the time in the worldto, to cover all of those myths.
And instead of letting these kind of,like, limiting beliefs and lies keep
you trapped in a career or keep youfrom taking a risk or moving on or
making a change and overthinking andkind of staying in this, like, paralyzed
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position with your career, I want tothen now give five perspective shifts
that we can make when we are realizingthat these myths are kind of lies, you
know, and kind of reframe how we'relooking at our careers and our life's
purpose, taking risks, putting ourselvesout there, maybe making a big change.
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You know what I'm saying?
Okay.
All right.
So shift number one.
This is so huge, guys.
And this, this does notjust go for your career.
It goes for everything in life.
It is not rejection.
It is re direction.
And I need you to hammerthat into your brain, okay?
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Because how many times do we not apply forthe job or not show up to the interview?
Or not quit our job and start ourown business, or not pitch a client,
or not XYZ because of fear ofrejection, fear of the no, fear of
not landing where we want to land, orbeing told that we're not qualified.
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We, as humans, are just terrified ofrejection in general because we are seeing
the no as a reflection of our value.
And it is not a reflection of ourvalue, it is redirection to put
us where we are better fit to be.
So it is not rejection, it is redirection.
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When you can get in this mindsetof That is not a reflection of me.
That no is not a reflectionof what I bring to the table.
It's actually making way forthe right people, the right job,
the right connections, the rightopportunity to come my way.
First of all, that's going to help yourself esteem by freaking miles, okay?
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It's also just going to help you not tobe overthinking, not to be Not to have
shame from something that you reallyshouldn't have shame from and it's gonna
keep you positive It's gonna keep youconfident and it's gonna keep you open for
the right opportunities Okay, so be okaywith no's even if you're just asking for
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a promotion at your job And you're afraidto speak up ask for more money or a title
change What's the worst that could happen?
Okay, what's the worst?
They could say no.
So it's not rejection, it's redirection.
If you can make that mindsetshift, you will flourish.
You will be a boss, I'm telling you, okay?
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Shift number two.
Make a conscious decision.
to make the most of exactly whereyour feet are every single day.
How you do anything ishow you do everything.
And when you come in with a mindset,even if you're at a job that you're
not like thrilled about and you don'tlove what you do, if you make the
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choice, I'm going to come in today,and I'm going to absolutely dominate.
I'm going to grind.
I'm going to be loving and upliftingand positive to other people.
I'm going to bring mybest self to the table.
I'm going to choose gratitude.
I'm going to be grateful that I have work.
I'm going to be grateful thatI have stability in my career.
I woke up this morning, youknow, I'm alive, I'm here.
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When you choose that mindset, gratitude,and, and giving your all to something,
even if it's as simple as washing thedishes, like, choosing to be present
in that moment, I can't tell you howmuch that does for your mental health.
Like, if you're constantly wishing thatyou were somewhere else when you're
anywhere, You know how slow time passes?
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It crawls, dog.
Time literally crawls when youcan't wait to go somewhere else.
So if you can truly just stay as presentas possible, lock into gratitude,
and make a conscious decision,I'm going to bring my all to this.
I'm going to bring gratitude to this.
It will change yoursituation so freaking much.
Okay, mindset shift number three.
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Do not expect overnightsuccess and be willing to work
through failures and setbacks.
This I think is what keeps a lotof people from starting their own
business or launching a podcast.
There's a lot of like.
just unnecessary and unrealisticexpectation put on starting
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out on your own, taking a risk.
There's like, I think this kindof spotlight effect where we
think everybody is looking at us.
We think all eyes are on us.
And if we fail or we make a mistakethat people are going to laugh at us or
judge us or think that we're failures.
I have studied some of the mostsuccessful people in the world.
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And a lot of them have a long historyof failure that you simply don't hear
about because nobody started talkingabout them until they became successful.
The beauty of being a nobody at first andpeople not knowing about your work is that
you have a lot of space to experiment andfail and take risks and make mistakes and
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pick yourself up again and get it right.
Before you have the success,there's a lot of beauty in that.
And so if your expectation is notovernight success and you're treating
whatever you're doing as a learningopportunity and a growth opportunity
and you're covering yourself withgrace, you're willing to fail.
You're willing to look like an idiot.
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Sometimes you're willing to ask for help.
You're willing to work throughsetbacks and not give up the
moment that something doesn't work.
That is really wherethe magic happens, baby.
And I also wanted to say heretoo, like, you have to create your
own definition of success, okay?
By the world standards, a lot ofpeople only look at success as like,
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Oh, they're making a ton of money.
Oh, they have this great title.
Oh, they have a bunch of followers.
Oh, they have a bunch of clout.
They have a bunch of street cred.
Like, whatever.
Whatever, like, label.
You want to, it's like people kindof look at like popularity or money
or like net worth as an indicator ofsuccess, but that doesn't mean that that
has to be your definition of success.
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Like for me personally, y'allknow that I've been growing a
lot in my faith with the Lord.
And for me, If I show up each day, andI know that I am representing the Lord
well, I'm sharing Him, I'm living outHis values, reflecting His values in
my work, I know that through me beingme, I'm pointing other people to Him,
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I know that I'm bringing my all eachday, I know that I'm giving my best,
I'm leaning on the Lord, you know, I'mtrusting Him, I'm, I'm trusting Him, I'm
leaning Doing my best as a limited human,but I'm kind of just letting go of the
things that I can't control and trustingthat God will take care of the rest.
If I know that I'm showing up the bestthat I can each day, I'm working hard,
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I'm controlling the controllables, right?
In my own free will, I'm doing my bestand I'm leaning on God for the rest.
That's my definition of success.
That's how I aim to show up each day.
So it doesn't matter howsuccessful my podcast is.
It doesn't matter the numberthat's in my bank account.
It doesn't matter how many eyeballsare on anything that I'm doing.
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If I know That I am fulfilling the Lord'scalling on my life, and I'm trusting
that he's gonna do the rest with it.
To me, that's my version of success.
Now, yours might looka little bit different.
You have to ask yourself that question.
But you have to separateyour identity from your work.
You are not your work, and you cannotexpect overnight success, because
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a lot of times before the successcomes, there's a lot of failure.
There's a lot of crickets, there's a lotof people not clapping for you, and a
lot of people won't clap until you quoteunquote make it by the world's standards.
But you don't have tobe one of those people.
You don't need the world's validationto validate the work that you're doing
or the success that you're having.
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You only need God's and your own.
Other than that, you'regolden, baby, okay?
So making that perspective shiftis huge and it's gonna keep you
motivated even when you mightbe slow to big success, okay?
Shift number four, you haveto let go of entitlement.
You simply being alive andwaking up today is a gift.
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You having work and a career to go tothat pays you money, that's a gift.
Okay, you having a roof over yourhead, you sleeping in a warm comfy bed
last night, you having water to drink,you having food, that is all a gift.
It's not deserved.
Okay, this goes back to our last serieswhere we talked about humility a lot.
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Our pride tells us, right,that we want to be number one.
that we deserve success, that wedeserve people to clap for us,
that we're the main character.
But the truth is that wedidn't deserve any of this.
And life as we know iton this planet is a gift.
And so that goes for yoursuccess in your career as well.
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Okay, let go of entitlement.
You're not entitled to that promotion.
You're not entitled to that raise.
That doesn't mean don't ask for it.
That doesn't mean don't take risks.
That doesn't mean don't pursue greatness.
Don't pursue growth.
It just means don't expect it.
Do not make that your expectation.
Because when you do, that'swhen the overthinking kicks in.
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That's when you're like, ohmy god, I'm not where I should
be, oh my god, I'm behind.
That's when you play the comparison game.
That's when you think, oh Susiedidn't deserve that promotion, I did.
And then you can't genuinely clapfor other people, and then you're
not living in love, and then you'reletting pride run the show again, right?
And that's gonna just create so much moreheartache than it's worth, and I don't
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want any of y'all hanging out entitled.
Entitlement is going to stripaway so much of your joy.
So if you can let go of that andreally embrace that every single
day is a gift, that's gonna changeso much of your reality, babe.
Okay, and then shift number five.
This is the last one that I have for you.
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If you cannot find, like, super,super deep meaning in your day job,
just try to find that meaning andthat purpose and that value in other
activities or groups where you can.
Okay, there's a lot of pressureto find fulfillment and
purpose and joy in your work.
And I get that because we'respending like eight, nine hours
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a day at our job a lot of times.
So I get that we want to love what we do,but sometimes that's just not possible.
Sometimes you got to just pay yourbills and put food on the table.
You know what I'm saying?
And you don't have the choiceof, wow, like, does this give
me as much joy as I want?
And especially lately, y'all guys,the job market has been tough.
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The job market has been tough out here.
So, it is really hard tofind work that lights you up.
It really is.
So, look outside of work to find that.
Look to your local community.
Where can you plug in?
Where can you serve?
Where can you makefriends and get involved?
Where can you connect with otherpeople and give back and find joy
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and find purpose and feel like you'recontributing to the greater Good.
If you're working a really boringdesk job that you honestly can't even
describe what you do and you're like,I show up, I clock in, I clock out and
I feel like I am watching paint dry.
I feel like I'm not doinganything meaningful.
Again, let's take it back to numbertwo, like make that conscious decision
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to make the most of where your feet arefor one, but then also back to number
five, go find purpose outside of that.
Don't think like, okay, I workedall day, now I don't have time to do
anything else, like, no, go search forthat purpose, go search for that joy,
go try to connect and find community.
Guys, a lot of these shifts,a lot of what we just talked
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about today is all perspective.
Perspective is truly everything,especially when it comes to your career.
And whether you're just starting out andyou feel overwhelmed because you're like,
I don't know what the heck I'm gonna dofor the next 40, 50, 60 years of my life.
You don't have to find one thing, okay?
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You don't have to pick acareer and stick to it.
And if you're 10 years into yourcareer and you're feeling miserable
and stuck, maybe you just needto shift your perspective to
find the joy in the beautiful,mundane, everyday little moments
and interactions with other people.
And either way, y'all,it's a conscious decision.
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We allow the pressures and theexpectations of our society and the
internet and honestly this digital agethat we're in to put so much pressure
on us to be successful, make a lot ofmoney, you know, have the dream job,
have the American dream, the whitepicket fence, be super successful.
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And honestly, a lot ofthis is on your terms.
What does being successful mean to you?
Maybe that has nothingto do with your career.
Maybe it has nothing todo with your day job.
You know?
What if being successfullooks like being peaceful?
Having a lot of people inyour life that you love.
Building a beautiful, warm home.
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Like, there are so manydifferent definitions to it.
And I do not want any of youto allow the expectation of
society to dictate that for you.
No, absolutely freaking not.
Take the power back, baby.
Have a conversation with the Lord, okay?
Do not sit there and play the comparisongame and spiral in overthinking
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because your career or your life'sdirection and purpose does not look
like someone else on your newsfeedwho you maybe don't even know, okay?
Y'all, I really hope that this gaveyou some encouragement and made you
think a little bit differently aboutyour life's purpose and your career.
Get out of that head, get outof your own way, and just kind
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of take a deep, fat breath
and trust that right now, inthis moment, you are exactly
where you are supposed to be.
Okay?
Have a conversation with the Lord.
We mentioned in this series before,I think it was episode number two,
just focus on the next straight step.
Okay?
What is within your control?
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What can you control today?
Let go of literally everything else, okay?
Anything else that you're worrying aboutother than the next right step is a
waste of your time because it's out ofyour control and it's in God's hands.
And when you can embrace that, you know,remember that God is the creator and
you are the creature and that he hasalready ordered your steps, that takes
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so much pressure off your shoulders.
Okay, you guys, I have really, reallyenjoyed this series on overthinking.
Thank you so much for tuningin and I am so excited to
bring you series number three.
We have a guest host coming on and I amso excited and honestly, this topic really
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be talking a lot about your career, aboutchasing your dreams, about taking risk.
And how to trust God within that.
And I really hope that y'all stickaround, um, a lot of the listeners of this
podcast are in their careers full timeand are around the same age as me, I'm 27.
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Let's get out of our heads.
Let's get out of our own way.
Let's trust the Lord.
And let's just be grateful andthankful that we are alive and choose
to see every single day as a gift.
Yeah?
Sound good?
Let's do it.
All right, y'all.
Have a fantastic week.
We will talk soon.
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What's up y'all?
Welcome back to the Wrestling Thisis your host Em Led on the mic, baby.
And we are closing out ourseries on overthinking today.
This is our fifth and finalepisode in series number two.
And we've been talking a lotabout overthinking, overthinking
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our relationships, our, ournext big choice that we have to
make, even overthinking our selfperception, how other people see us.
And today, I think weshould close it with.
Something we can all relate to,especially those of us in our 20s and 30s.
We're talking about overthinkingour career and our life purpose.
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I can raise my hand on this one.
I've spent a lot of time thinking about,you know, what do I want out of my career?
What do I want out of my life in general?
What do I want my, my legacy to be?
How do I want to spend my life, you know,like what greater good, what greater
purpose do I want to contribute to?
And let's be real, it'sa big, big question.
(01:30):
And I think our answer to that questionchanges a lot throughout our life.
And I think one big kind of myth orlike lie that a lot of us are told is
that we have to find like one careerpath or, you know, one big purpose in
life and just stick to that forever.
And that that's the thekey to long term success.
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And I just think that that's A loadof crap, to be completely frank.
I think it's a load of crap and I thinkit causes a lot of pressure and a lot
of anxiety and a lot of us to feellike we're behind or that we haven't
found that like one purpose yet.
And I just think it kindof sets us up for failure.
So today, y'all, I would like to talkabout a lot of other big career slash
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purpose myths that are out there and someperspective shifts that I would like us
to make when we're thinking about ourcareer, our life's purpose, our life's
work, how we can kind of shift our mindand just make some tiny little changes in
how we are looking at our careers, lookingat our life's purpose so that it doesn't
feel so overwhelming and daunting and youknow, doesn't put us into this big spiral
(02:41):
of overthinking, what are we going to dofor the next 50, 60 years of our life?
You know, like there's no need forus to be wigging out about that.
So I hope by the end of thisepisode today, you're going to feel
a little bit of encouragement anda little bit more peace when it
comes to that aspect of your life.
So, first of all, I just wanted to shoutout all of the people who have reached
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out regarding this series on overthinking.
It's really been resonating with a lotof y'all and I think many of you are
feeling very heard and seen in thisbecause overthinking is such a real thing.
Again, 81 percent of y'all reportedvia my Instagram at em underscore
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If you consider yourself a partof that bucket, I just want you
to know that you're not alone.
81 percent of people between theages of 22 to 35 can relate to
you and can resonate with that.
And that's just people who like actuallyadmit that they're overthinking.
I honestly think that number is probablyhigher when it comes to a lot of things.
Um, you know, all of us can fallvictim to overthinking because
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You know, there's so manydifferent paths to take.
There's so many different options.
And I think especially being in thisdigital age that we're in, constantly
being inundated with different optionsand seeing how other people are
choosing to spend their lives, you know.
Comparison is definitely at an all timehigh, almost involuntarily, like we
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can't help it, but we're just seeing it.
We're seeing the paths thatother people choose to take.
And I think it's natural to see someoneelse doing something completely different
from you and wondering if you're onthe right path or the right timeline.
So all this to say.
There's a lot of usoverthinkers out there.
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You're not alone.
And I just really appreciate those ofyou who have reached out and said, you
know, positive things about this series.
I love hearing from you guys.
I love hearing that thisis resonating with you.
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So from the polls, you guysalso told me that 20% of you.
are overthinking your career movesmore than anything else in life.
And then 16 percent of you areoverthinking financial decisions
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more than anything else.
So that's 36 percent of us whoare overthinking our careers
or how we are spending ourmoney more than anything else.
And I think like the whole money careerconversation pretty much belongs together,
you know, because where you choose tospend your career, you know, that also has
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an impact on how much money you're making.
I just wanted to start off by kind ofcovering some different myths that I
feel many of us, especially in thisage demographic, have heard from
people in older generations, just likegeneral career advice that's out there.
And I call them myths because I think thatthey sometimes can have truth to them.
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However, I think that they are, area lot of the times not always true.
And I think that they put us in a box.
I think they limit us and I think theycreate some limiting beliefs within us.
So the first myth that I want to talkabout is I have to pick one occupation
forever and I have to like stay ata job for a certain number of years
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before it's okay for me to leave orit wouldn't look sus if I left after
a certain amount of time on my resume.
I have to basically pick onething and stick with it forever.
And I think this was kind of thementality of generations before us.
Like, it was so common forpeople in, you know, our parent
generation and beyond to stay inthe same job for like 20, 30 years.
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And to be completely clear,there's nothing wrong with that.
If that's what you want to do andyou feel great at a job and you
want to stay there, good on you.
Good for you.
Like that stability is amazing.
However.
I definitely think in this day and age,it is getting so much more common to hop
around jobs and hop around careers, whatwith remote work, I think COVID also kind
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of made that happen for a lot of people,lots of big layoffs happening, you know,
and long gone are the days I think wherePeople are raising a big eyebrow if
you are leaving a job every few years.
I think, you know, if you can'thold down a job and you're staying
somewhere for like six months andthen another place a year and then
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another place three months and likeyou're making crazy moves like that,
I think that's a little bit different.
You know what I'm saying?
But I think if you're at, you'reat a place for like two years
and then three years and thenfive years and then back to two.
And you're moving around, Idon't think that's a bad thing.
And I actually think for youit's a really good thing.
Because a lot of times when you'removing from one job to another,
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you can negotiate your salary up,you can negotiate your title up,
maybe get into management quicker.
And it actually kind of empowers you asan employee to leverage being in a new
place, taking what you learned at oneplace, bringing it to the next place,
and kind of adding skills Honestly,money under your belt, and I think it
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can kind of give you some credibility.
And again, this isn't always solidlytrue, and I think there are exceptions
to this, but I really think thewhole, I have to pick one occupation
forever, and I can't leave that place,I think that that's a load of crap.
I think that we have a lot more powerthan we think we do, and I think
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like, especially with, with um, thejob market being pretty competitive,
you know, there's a lot of push for.
Benefits and perks and taking care of youremployees now, like employers are hearing
us as employees and want to give us, youknow, more work perks, more of a work life
balance, and people are able to be morepicky choosy because a lot of employers
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are stepping up their game in that way.
And kind of going along with this myth,like, finding one career or one type
of role or industry that you absolutelylove and having to stay in that box or in
that field forever, I think that's also alimiting belief that we put on ourselves.
We think, like, Oh, I have to, Ihave to just stay in this industry
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forever and I can't make a change.
I also think that's not true.
And you can reinvent yourself asmany times as you want and find new
passions and find what lights you up.
You know what I'm saying?
So that's myth number one.
Myth number two, you have to have a degreeto be successful, and usually when people
believe this, they're referring to like acollege degree, and this is also not true.
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There are so many typesof trades out there.
There's other types of training programs,other types of school that you can go to.
You absolutely do not need acollege degree to be successful
or to make a lot of money.
Myth number three, you have to find ajob you love that gives you purpose.
So I guess I kind of said thisalready in myth number one, but like,
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you don't absolutely have to findyour life's purpose in your career.
Like, you really don't.
Like, you can truly, Go to a job,make the most of it every day,
make great money, and then findfulfilling purpose outside of work.
And you can also find purpose inyour mundane, everyday moments.
Like, if you go into all of yourinteractions with anyone that you're
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seeing or any work that you're touchingand you make a conscious decision,
I'm going to make the most of this.
I'm going to find the purpose andthe silver lining in everything.
That makes a huge difference and youdon't have to be like on fire, fired
up for the job that you do to be happyand to live a joyful life, you know?
So that's myth number three.
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Myth number four.
Your college majordetermines your career path.
I have heard so many people say this,like, Oh, I have a degree in marketing,
so it wouldn't make sense for me to thenmake a pivot and shift into hospitality
or finance or something like that.
Or, Oh, I studied nursing.
I started, I was a nurse for a fewyears and I realized I don't like that.
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And.
I just don't want to have to go backto school to change, you know, careers.
And I get it, like, money's involved,and time's involved, and it can be a lot
to, like, completely pivot your career.
But just because you studiedone thing doesn't mean you have
to stay in that career forever.
And I actually wanted to bringup, uh, this term that I think
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is really important here.
Have y'all ever heard ofthe sunk cost fallacy?
The sunk cost fallacy.
This is a term in psychology,and it refers to our mindset
when it comes to where we investour time, money, and energy.
And we are actually more likelyto continue investing in the same
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relationship, career, place, or overalllife direction, because we believe that
if we change course, it then invalidatesall of our previous time, money, energy,
or Effort that we put into that thingbefore so it's basically like we think
about changing course and it feels sooverwhelming and we feel like, well, I've
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already invested so much time or so muchmoney in XYZ that I can't possibly pivot
now that can keep us very, very stuckin relationships or careers or even like
physical places like a city that you'reliving in because you're like, Okay.
I've already been here or stayed in thisplace, relationship, career, for so long
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that I can't possibly think about leaving.
Like it's just overwhelming.
So you're more likely to stay because youalready have a lot invested in that thing.
But that does not mean that thatthing is always better for us.
And a lot of times thatthing can be draining us.
We can be miserable.
You could be in a job for fiveyears and you absolutely hate
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it, but you stay because you,you have so much time invested.
And the thought of shakingit up is just a lot for you.
And I don't want us to fall victimto the sunk Cost fallacy, like
continuing to invest in somethingjust because you already have been,
even though it's destroying your lifeor making you miserable or really
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taking away from your overall joy orgrowth or just overall mental health.
That is a no, no.
That is a big fat no, no.
And that is not a reason to stay.
Okay.
So whether you chose a certainmajor or career path, relationship.
Life direction, maybe you've beenliving somewhere your whole life,
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but these places, these, thesecareers, these people are draining
you, you know they're not helpingyou be the best version of yourself,
that's not a reason to stay, okay?
Just because you've been there a longtime is not a reason to stay, and
that, yeah, that goes with careers,that goes with everything in life.
So that's myth number four.
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Myth number five, you need to haveyears and years of experience to be
qualified for a certain job that you want.
Dude, this is so irritating to me, okay?
If you look at a LinkedIn post, theywill be hiring for like an entry level
job that's paying like 50k a year, andthey'll try to say that you need five
years of experience to be in that role.
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And that is just BS, okay?
A lot of times I really think someof these job postings are like copy
and paste, like they found somethingelse, like a posting from somewhere
else, and literally copy and pasted it.
This is not true, okay?
I have applied for jobs that, per thejob description, I am not qualified in
terms of certain skills or experience,and I still got an interview, and
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I still got a job offer, okay?
Apply for that thing that you feellike you're not qualified for.
You do not have to have years and yearsand years of experience to do it, okay?
I'm telling you.
So, those are five of many, many,many myths that are out there in
terms of like, Your career path, yourpurpose in life, and all of these
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are just limiting beliefs, okay?
And again, there's so many morethat I could go over, but we just
don't have all the time in the worldto, to cover all of those myths.
And instead of letting these kind of,like, limiting beliefs and lies keep
you trapped in a career or keep youfrom taking a risk or moving on or
making a change and overthinking andkind of staying in this, like, paralyzed
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position with your career, I want tothen now give five perspective shifts
that we can make when we are realizingthat these myths are kind of lies, you
know, and kind of reframe how we'relooking at our careers and our life's
purpose, taking risks, putting ourselvesout there, maybe making a big change.
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You know what I'm saying?
Okay.
All right.
So shift number one.
This is so huge, guys.
And this, this does notjust go for your career.
It goes for everything in life.
It is not rejection.
It is re direction.
And I need you to hammerthat into your brain, okay?
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Because how many times do we not apply forthe job or not show up to the interview?
Or not quit our job and start ourown business, or not pitch a client,
or not XYZ because of fear ofrejection, fear of the no, fear of
not landing where we want to land, orbeing told that we're not qualified.
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We, as humans, are just terrified ofrejection in general because we are seeing
the no as a reflection of our value.
And it is not a reflection of ourvalue, it is redirection to put
us where we are better fit to be.
So it is not rejection, it is redirection.
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When you can get in this mindsetof That is not a reflection of me.
That no is not a reflectionof what I bring to the table.
It's actually making way forthe right people, the right job,
the right connections, the rightopportunity to come my way.
First of all, that's going to help yourself esteem by freaking miles, okay?
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It's also just going to help you not tobe overthinking, not to be Not to have
shame from something that you reallyshouldn't have shame from and it's gonna
keep you positive It's gonna keep youconfident and it's gonna keep you open for
the right opportunities Okay, so be okaywith no's even if you're just asking for
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a promotion at your job And you're afraidto speak up ask for more money or a title
change What's the worst that could happen?
Okay, what's the worst?
They could say no.
So it's not rejection, it's redirection.
If you can make that mindsetshift, you will flourish.
You will be a boss, I'm telling you, okay?
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Shift number two.
Make a conscious decision.
to make the most of exactly whereyour feet are every single day.
How you do anything ishow you do everything.
And when you come in with a mindset,even if you're at a job that you're
not like thrilled about and you don'tlove what you do, if you make the
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choice, I'm going to come in today,and I'm going to absolutely dominate.
I'm going to grind.
I'm going to be loving and upliftingand positive to other people.
I'm going to bring mybest self to the table.
I'm going to choose gratitude.
I'm going to be grateful that I have work.
I'm going to be grateful thatI have stability in my career.
I woke up this morning, youknow, I'm alive, I'm here.
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When you choose that mindset, gratitude,and, and giving your all to something,
even if it's as simple as washing thedishes, like, choosing to be present
in that moment, I can't tell you howmuch that does for your mental health.
Like, if you're constantly wishing thatyou were somewhere else when you're
anywhere, You know how slow time passes?
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It crawls, dog.
Time literally crawls when youcan't wait to go somewhere else.
So if you can truly just stay as presentas possible, lock into gratitude,
and make a conscious decision,I'm going to bring my all to this.
I'm going to bring gratitude to this.
It will change yoursituation so freaking much.
Okay, mindset shift number three.
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Do not expect overnightsuccess and be willing to work
through failures and setbacks.
This I think is what keeps a lotof people from starting their own
business or launching a podcast.
There's a lot of like.
just unnecessary and unrealisticexpectation put on starting
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out on your own, taking a risk.
There's like, I think this kindof spotlight effect where we
think everybody is looking at us.
We think all eyes are on us.
And if we fail or we make a mistakethat people are going to laugh at us or
judge us or think that we're failures.
I have studied some of the mostsuccessful people in the world.
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And a lot of them have a long historyof failure that you simply don't hear
about because nobody started talkingabout them until they became successful.
The beauty of being a nobody at first andpeople not knowing about your work is that
you have a lot of space to experiment andfail and take risks and make mistakes and
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pick yourself up again and get it right.
Before you have the success,there's a lot of beauty in that.
And so if your expectation is notovernight success and you're treating
whatever you're doing as a learningopportunity and a growth opportunity
and you're covering yourself withgrace, you're willing to fail.
You're willing to look like an idiot.
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Sometimes you're willing to ask for help.
You're willing to work throughsetbacks and not give up the
moment that something doesn't work.
That is really wherethe magic happens, baby.
And I also wanted to say heretoo, like, you have to create your
own definition of success, okay?
By the world standards, a lot ofpeople only look at success as like,
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Oh, they're making a ton of money.
Oh, they have this great title.
Oh, they have a bunch of followers.
Oh, they have a bunch of clout.
They have a bunch of street cred.
Like, whatever.
Whatever, like, label.
You want to, it's like people kindof look at like popularity or money
or like net worth as an indicator ofsuccess, but that doesn't mean that that
has to be your definition of success.
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Like for me personally, y'allknow that I've been growing a
lot in my faith with the Lord.
And for me, If I show up each day, andI know that I am representing the Lord
well, I'm sharing Him, I'm living outHis values, reflecting His values in
my work, I know that through me beingme, I'm pointing other people to Him,
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I know that I'm bringing my all eachday, I know that I'm giving my best,
I'm leaning on the Lord, you know, I'mtrusting Him, I'm, I'm trusting Him, I'm
leaning Doing my best as a limited human,but I'm kind of just letting go of the
things that I can't control and trustingthat God will take care of the rest.
If I know that I'm showing up the bestthat I can each day, I'm working hard,
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I'm controlling the controllables, right?
In my own free will, I'm doing my bestand I'm leaning on God for the rest.
That's my definition of success.
That's how I aim to show up each day.
So it doesn't matter howsuccessful my podcast is.
It doesn't matter the numberthat's in my bank account.
It doesn't matter how many eyeballsare on anything that I'm doing.
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If I know That I am fulfilling the Lord'scalling on my life, and I'm trusting
that he's gonna do the rest with it.
To me, that's my version of success.
Now, yours might looka little bit different.
You have to ask yourself that question.
But you have to separateyour identity from your work.
You are not your work, and you cannotexpect overnight success, because
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a lot of times before the successcomes, there's a lot of failure.
There's a lot of crickets, there's a lotof people not clapping for you, and a
lot of people won't clap until you quoteunquote make it by the world's standards.
But you don't have tobe one of those people.
You don't need the world's validationto validate the work that you're doing
or the success that you're having.
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You only need God's and your own.
Other than that, you'regolden, baby, okay?
So making that perspective shiftis huge and it's gonna keep you
motivated even when you mightbe slow to big success, okay?
Shift number four, you haveto let go of entitlement.
You simply being alive andwaking up today is a gift.
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You having work and a career to go tothat pays you money, that's a gift.
Okay, you having a roof over yourhead, you sleeping in a warm comfy bed
last night, you having water to drink,you having food, that is all a gift.
It's not deserved.
Okay, this goes back to our last serieswhere we talked about humility a lot.
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Our pride tells us, right,that we want to be number one.
that we deserve success, that wedeserve people to clap for us,
that we're the main character.
But the truth is that wedidn't deserve any of this.
And life as we know iton this planet is a gift.
And so that goes for yoursuccess in your career as well.
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Okay, let go of entitlement.
You're not entitled to that promotion.
You're not entitled to that raise.
That doesn't mean don't ask for it.
That doesn't mean don't take risks.
That doesn't mean don't pursue greatness.
Don't pursue growth.
It just means don't expect it.
Do not make that your expectation.
Because when you do, that'swhen the overthinking kicks in.
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That's when you're like, ohmy god, I'm not where I should
be, oh my god, I'm behind.
That's when you play the comparison game.
That's when you think, oh Susiedidn't deserve that promotion, I did.
And then you can't genuinely clapfor other people, and then you're
not living in love, and then you'reletting pride run the show again, right?
And that's gonna just create so much moreheartache than it's worth, and I don't
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want any of y'all hanging out entitled.
Entitlement is going to stripaway so much of your joy.
So if you can let go of that andreally embrace that every single
day is a gift, that's gonna changeso much of your reality, babe.
Okay, and then shift number five.
This is the last one that I have for you.
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If you cannot find, like, super,super deep meaning in your day job,
just try to find that meaning andthat purpose and that value in other
activities or groups where you can.
Okay, there's a lot of pressureto find fulfillment and
purpose and joy in your work.
And I get that because we'respending like eight, nine hours
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a day at our job a lot of times.
So I get that we want to love what we do,but sometimes that's just not possible.
Sometimes you got to just pay yourbills and put food on the table.
You know what I'm saying?
And you don't have the choiceof, wow, like, does this give
me as much joy as I want?
And especially lately, y'all guys,the job market has been tough.
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The job market has been tough out here.
So, it is really hard tofind work that lights you up.
It really is.
So, look outside of work to find that.
Look to your local community.
Where can you plug in?
Where can you serve?
Where can you makefriends and get involved?
Where can you connect with otherpeople and give back and find joy
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and find purpose and feel like you'recontributing to the greater Good.
If you're working a really boringdesk job that you honestly can't even
describe what you do and you're like,I show up, I clock in, I clock out and
I feel like I am watching paint dry.
I feel like I'm not doinganything meaningful.
Again, let's take it back to numbertwo, like make that conscious decision
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to make the most of where your feet arefor one, but then also back to number
five, go find purpose outside of that.
Don't think like, okay, I workedall day, now I don't have time to do
anything else, like, no, go search forthat purpose, go search for that joy,
go try to connect and find community.
Guys, a lot of these shifts,a lot of what we just talked
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about today is all perspective.
Perspective is truly everything,especially when it comes to your career.
And whether you're just starting out andyou feel overwhelmed because you're like,
I don't know what the heck I'm gonna dofor the next 40, 50, 60 years of my life.
You don't have to find one thing, okay?
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You don't have to pick acareer and stick to it.
And if you're 10 years into yourcareer and you're feeling miserable
and stuck, maybe you just needto shift your perspective to
find the joy in the beautiful,mundane, everyday little moments
and interactions with other people.
And either way, y'all,it's a conscious decision.
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We allow the pressures and theexpectations of our society and the
internet and honestly this digital agethat we're in to put so much pressure
on us to be successful, make a lot ofmoney, you know, have the dream job,
have the American dream, the whitepicket fence, be super successful.
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And honestly, a lot ofthis is on your terms.
What does being successful mean to you?
Maybe that has nothingto do with your career.
Maybe it has nothing todo with your day job.
You know?
What if being successfullooks like being peaceful?
Having a lot of people inyour life that you love.
Building a beautiful, warm home.
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Like, there are so manydifferent definitions to it.
And I do not want any of youto allow the expectation of
society to dictate that for you.
No, absolutely freaking not.
Take the power back, baby.
Have a conversation with the Lord, okay?
Do not sit there and play the comparisongame and spiral in overthinking
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because your career or your life'sdirection and purpose does not look
like someone else on your newsfeedwho you maybe don't even know, okay?
Y'all, I really hope that this gaveyou some encouragement and made you
think a little bit differently aboutyour life's purpose and your career.
Get out of that head, get outof your own way, and just kind
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of take a deep, fat breath
and trust that right now, inthis moment, you are exactly
where you are supposed to be.
Okay?
Have a conversation with the Lord.
We mentioned in this series before,I think it was episode number two,
just focus on the next straight step.
Okay?
What is within your control?
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What can you control today?
Let go of literally everything else, okay?
Anything else that you're worrying aboutother than the next right step is a
waste of your time because it's out ofyour control and it's in God's hands.
And when you can embrace that, you know,remember that God is the creator and
you are the creature and that he hasalready ordered your steps, that takes
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so much pressure off your shoulders.
Okay, you guys, I have really, reallyenjoyed this series on overthinking.
Thank you so much for tuningin and I am so excited to
bring you series number three.
We have a guest host coming on and I amso excited and honestly, this topic really
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segues so well into what we're going tobe talking about because we're going to
be talking a lot about your career, aboutchasing your dreams, about taking risk.
And how to trust God within that.
And I really hope that y'all stickaround, um, a lot of the listeners of this
podcast are in their careers full timeand are around the same age as me, I'm 27.
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So I think that you guys will,will really relate to it and
find a lot of encouragement.
That will be coming very soon.
So be sure to subscribe, turn yournotifications on so that you don't
miss that series when it drops.
Make sure to give me a followat EM underscore LED 11.
Send me any topic requests thatyou have for future series and
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let's get after it this week y'all.
Let's get out of our heads.
Let's get out of our own way.
Let's trust the Lord.
And let's just be grateful andthankful that we are alive and choose
to see every single day as a gift.
Yeah?
Sound good?
Let's do it.
All right, y'all.
Have a fantastic week.
We will talk soon.
Bye bye.
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