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Speaker 1 (00:00):
And a Happy Monday friend. Welcome to the Thought Shower.
Intern John is my name. As this comes out, I
should be hopefully in Milan with my dad as we
are going to go see where they film Star Wars
Lake Como, very beautiful place. That's where they filmed in
Attack of the Clones where Anakin and Padme get married.
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So that's gonna be very exciting for me and probably
my dad as well. Hopefully give me a lot of
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excited for the shrip. Obviously gonna be Italy very exciting,
my homeland very exciting.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
And I'd never been.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
I was a little bit bummed because originally the plan
was to go and try to see AC Milan soccer team.
They play in Milan. Obviously, can go see them. Not
gonna be able to do that didn't work out schedule wise,
but it's gonna be cool as well. Is the Winter
Olympics are in Milan next year, so hopefully get a
chance see the ice arenas. My dad and I look
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to see if there's any hockey going on when we
were in Italy. Didn't appear to be so. But anyway,
trip's gonna be fantastic. Let me get to this for
your Monday. The insecurities everybody carries around but nobody talks about. Oh,
let's get into this. I thought show on Monday, number
one of the list, fear of failure. They say the
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fear is often rude in childhood experiences and societal pressures,
making it deeply ingrained in us. The constant comparison to
somebody else amplifies the insecurity. I'll say this, I very
much still have a fear of failure, but not for
reasons that you may think. For me, it's just because
I feel like I've been blessed, you know, especially with
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my career. I mean, first of all, I have really
good parents, so technically, I guess, but as far as
my career, you know, when I was seventeen, I started
the internship in Minneapolis and KATWB and.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
My parents are very supportive.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
And then when I told them at twenty one, I
think that was moving to Des Moines, they were also
very supportive, and that was huge. There was no like,
are you sure you want to do this? Would this
be good for you? So that certainly helped. I also
think I've had I've been very blessed with the pedigree.
Speaker 2 (03:14):
I have in radio.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
Dave Ryan in Minneapolis is a legend, and getting a
chance to work with him for four years that was fantastic.
Went to Des Moines worked for a man named Greg
Chance who had probably one of the craziest like smart
radio minds I've ever been around. I would be in
his office. He had three radio stations playing at once
and he can tell you what's going on on each
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of them, which was huge. And then coming to DC
working with Caine for eight years, I think, and then
all the folks that I've got a chance to work
with here and all the execs here, so you know,
in my mind it's kind of like I have no
excuse but to succeed, you know what I mean. I
do like that feeling where it's it's all on me.
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And now that you know with the show. First got
the show, my friend Mojo, who does radio in Detroit,
told me, you know, now that it's your show, it's
your responsibility to make sure team can provide for their families.
And that was like a big like, Oh, it's like, yeah,
if if I fail, it's not just me that it affects.
Speaker 2 (04:17):
It affects everybody on the show.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
And that's a lot of pressure. So yeah, I would say,
like that is my biggest fear. I do think that
I work myself to the ground because of that and
not because I don't think I can do it. I
am very confident as well, but it is like a
concerant reminder. You know, the last photo I see when
I leave my house in the morning is of my
apartment in Des Moines. Because of that apartment, I was
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sleeping on the floor, me and Chewy eating Tina packets,
and it's kind of a reminder that, like, it could
always go back to that. So for me, yeah, that's
probably my biggest insecurities. Fear of failure. Imposter syndrome is next.
They say it's the nagging doubt in the back of
your mind that you're a fraud even when success is
staring in the face. It's that feeling accomplishment or a
fluke that you're just one mistake away from being exposed.
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They say it can lead to intense pressure to constantly
prove oneself, which can be exhausting and unsustainable. It keeps
us from recognizing our true talents and accepting praise. I
don't know if I have that, maybe a little bit
like I'm not good taking praise even though I crave it.
So that's fantastic, you know, being a leo, that whole thing.
But yeah, I know folks who get it, and maybe
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I got when I first got the show a little bit,
not thinking I, I don't know, was worthy. Perhaps I
think it's kind of dissipated now. Body image issues, oh
for sure say. Body image issues are affect people of
all genders and ages. The pressure to conform the societal
beauty standards can lead to a distorted self image.
Speaker 2 (05:46):
Yeah. Especially you know, people.
Speaker 1 (05:48):
Online will say things, wild things that they would never
say to your face.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
It's crazy.
Speaker 1 (05:55):
I remember I had gotten in a relationship and posted
a photo in somebody commented like, oh.
Speaker 2 (06:01):
He's gaining the relationship weight. How cute. And I was like, Yo,
that's a wild thing to say.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
And I know I believe they meant it as a positive,
like oh he's happy, look at him. And I was like, Yo,
that's crazy to say out loud and to say online
for others to see. I think everybody has that. And
that's the craziest thing too. When you see, like thinks
somebody beautiful at Margot Robbie talking about her insecurities, I'm like, yeah,
she's insecure.
Speaker 2 (06:29):
What hope do I have? You know what I mean?
Fear of rejection made the list.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
They say fear of rejection's universal and crippling calls back
from pursuing relationships, opportunities, and dreams, all in the name
of avoiding potential pain. Research has found that social rejection
activates the same brain regions as physical pain.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
I think so, yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:51):
I think that I've always been a little more cautious
to approach the money in public for that kind of reason.
I think that's kind of fair. Yeah, that sucks, dude,
being rejected. Yeah, it's not great. Feeling lonely, they say,
against the backdrop of digital communication, loneliness remains a pervasive,
pervasive insecurity. It's the paradox if filing isolated despite being
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constantly surrounded by people.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
I get that too.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
It is an odd world, right, because you can be
at home and feel like you know nothing's going on,
but online on your Instagram wherever, it's like everything's going
on all the time. I do kind of understand that,
although I also love being alone. I think can be amazing.
Get your chance to kind of breathe and just relax
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and clear your mind. I think it's fantastic. The fear
of missing out FOMO, they say, is the anxiety that
stands from belief that others are living better, more fulfilling lives.
They say it's curated by snapshots, everyone's highlight reels on
social media.
Speaker 2 (07:50):
I think so.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
I think that's why too, And I've I've told this
to friends before them like, hey, you live your life
as if you're missing out and stuff. Or I think
that I have friends who you know, maybe didn't get
a chance to party when they were younger, had to
work and have support themselves, and like, hey, you didn't
miss out anything. It's almost like you're running from something
that's not even a real problem, you know what I mean,
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Like you're not really missing out. The parties will always
be there, the bars will always be there. It's the
whatever you need to do. I don't mind staying in.
Speaker 2 (08:21):
For a night. And I think maybe you know years
ago that wasn't the case.
Speaker 1 (08:26):
Or it's like I need to be out all time
and be seen so that you know I don't miss anything.
He goes now you want to know what, nothing really
changes week to week. You know you can afford to
miss going out with your friends once and be if
it's for your own sake. For sure, financial status, oh boy,
they say money is a taboo topic, but financial insecurity
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is almost a common concern. I don't know anybody who
feels like they have enough money, and I think that
if they did feel that way, they probably.
Speaker 2 (08:56):
Wouldn't be working anymore.
Speaker 1 (08:57):
You know, That's just kind of is what it is,
and I think that's something that everybody has and that
kind of fear of it. But you know, I think
every now and then, yes, splurge on yourself, especially with
vacations and that kind of stuff. I've always kind of
been the belief that, you know, you'll never have enough
money to where you feel like he can afford vacation.
Speaker 2 (09:18):
You never have enough time either.
Speaker 1 (09:19):
It's always like, oh, enough time, enough money, Like take
the trip every now and then to gas splurge. You know,
whatever money you have you can't take with you to
the grave, can't take with you to the next life.
And not saying to be reckless, certainly, but you know,
every now and then, treat yourself, breats, get the fast
order version, you know, the express order.
Speaker 2 (09:39):
I'm not judging. I love you.
Speaker 1 (09:42):
I would love to see you too at the comedy
shows June twentieth, June twenty first, gonna be an amazing time.
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