Mexico - 1159

On this episode of The Thought Shower, Intern John talks about the bachelor party in Mexico, plus the small signs you're drifting apart 

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
And a happy Friday. Friend. Welcome to the Thought Shower.
Intern John is my name. Was a busy week. Was
a good week. Let's get into this. I was in
Mexico for a bachelor party. Left on Saturday. Good friend
DJ Rise apparently talking about on the show and the
podcast one of the best DJs, if not the best

(00:21):
in the area. Also good friend of mine, and so
the whole group was going down Sunday. I, being a
little naughty, went down Saturday day early. Thought to myself, hey,
let's have a little vacation. So I got down to Mexico.
First of all, on the plane offensive, I used some

(00:42):
points to upgrade, very exciting. So I loraded a couple
of drinks and then the flight tendant said, are you
sure you should have one more? I was like, my friend,
this is my third It's a three hour flight. Have
you seen me on a Saturday night? You know what
I mean? It's like, dude, I'm not flying this thing.
I'm mine my own business, not causing any problems. Got

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to the resort. I'll say this, Brandon picked out a
fantastic spot. It was like Jurassic Park. It was amazing.
Walk in had a pool, beautiful sites, beautiful sounds, and
so Saturday at that point, by flight was at like
eight in the morning, so I've been a long day already,
so I basically just kind of stayed in like or

(01:23):
a room service, watched all of Netflix and relaxed. And
it was funny because my buddy Brandon texted me like, hey,
you're getting crazy because I was down there a day early.
I was like, nah, I never have days where I'm
not expected to be somewhere like that never happens. So
to know that I had nowhere to be, didn't have

(01:45):
to go to the bar, didn't have to go to
a meeting, didn't have to go to hockey radio or whatever.
I had no where to be. So Day one I
went to bed at like seven point thirty, which was fantastic.
Day two, I'm walking my buddy Cooper to the pool
and this woman me stops, turns around and goes I
know that voice in my dumb ass never assumed anybody

(02:07):
knows me, just the Midwestern of me. I stop and
turn around, like I wonder who she's talking about. She goes, no, John.
I was like, oh, yeah, I forgot that. I do
a radio show, and they happen to be there from Georgetown,
which is great. So a whole group came in. I'll
say this about bachelor parties. I said this before. I
think the notion of like you have to go to Vegas,

(02:28):
you have to go to the adult club, and you
have to not remember anything. I think it's very overrated.
I think it's overrated. It's wasting money. This was fantastic,
So jignbe a golf trip. We went golfing on Monday
and Tuesday. There was a golf club, golf course on
the resort. It's fantastic. We had a great group of guys,

(02:50):
great golf, good time, relaxing. This is a lot of fun.
I also too like and again this is the outside in.
I feel like sometimes my friends that have been on
bachelor parties, it's like there's a set itinerary and you
have to do all the things. Well. I loved about
this was the vibe was kind of like, hey, it's
your vacation too, so we would have like, you know,

(03:10):
dinner time together, you know, or do golf together. But
for the most part, everybody's kind of wandered around. It
was fantastic. So fantastic time. Can't wait for the wedding
again with my really good friends. So it was fun
to be down there with him and the rest of
the homies as well. This weekend. Hopefully it's relaxing. Hopefully
that's the plan. I feel like I'm losing my voice.

(03:32):
That always happens after vacation, where it's like I don't
talk for I don't know, four or five days as much,
and then I come back and it's like the muscle
is sore, my instrument is sore, if you will so.
But I'm a fighter. I'm a fighter. I'm gonna fight
through this for you guys kind of say. I hope

(03:52):
when I say that stuff it comes across as being joky,
because I do believe there are influencers and broadcasters who
think they save lives, and it's like, okay, where it's
like they really want you to, you know, feel for them,
for how how much empathy they have. It's like, all right,
do calm down, calm down. You know for me, it's true.

(04:15):
I'm I save lives. That is what it is, you
know what I mean. I should really get a badge
or something. Certainly, let me get this for your Friday.
The tiny behaviors that reveal the relationship has fallen apart.
Oh boy, but in several relationships, they've all fallen apart.
Let's see these check out. First. One's avoiding eye contact.

(04:37):
I mean yeah, yeah, because I've always had the belief
that like seeing your person should give you a sense
of calm, like it should be kind of like a
warm I don't know, a safety net, so to speak.
So if you can't look your person in the eye, yeah,
that might be a sign something's off. You know, if

(04:59):
the thought looking at them in the eye repulses you
could be a sign something that's not gonna work out.
You know. Silence during dinner. I think this is different.
They say, dinner used to be time you could connect,
talk about your day, enjoy each other's company. But now
we find yourself in silence more often than not. It
could be a red flag. We've talked about this before

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in the show, where in our parents' day, they wouldn't
talk to each other all day. There was no texting, right,
so they would see each other in the morning, they
would go to work, they would come home from work,
and that's when they would really catch up on the day.
And looking back now, what a benefit that was Instead
of being in contact all day long, so by the

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time you get home, it's like I already know everything
that's happened to you. I can see the silence at
dinner being more being normal. I guess I think that's
probably like, yeah, makes sense because you've probably been talking
throughout most of the day. Anyway. I don't think that
one's the biggest red flag declining physical touch. They say

(06:03):
it physical touch often acts as a barometer for the
health of relationship. If the usual hugs, handholding, your cashual
touch is a decrease, it might be a sign something's off.
I think this is huge. And again, this isn't just
saying like hooking up with somebody, but the actually like yeah,
if you don't want to touch them, I'm a big
fan of physical touch. Hey, and I do you think

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like the touch is somebody you care about? Again, it's calming,
it makes you feel relaxed, it releases endorphins. If you
don't want to do that, that's not a good sign.
If that they don't give you comfort anymore, that's not
a good sign. I also think that's a huge, like
why the biggest sign something's off, or at least the

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most obvious, like if you try to put your arm
around somebody and they're like, duh, new sums off. Frequent
phone use made on the list, I mean, especially if
you're always around on the phone around each other makes sense.
You stop sharing your day, they say, sharing every detail
your life as a fundamental part of stay connected as

(07:10):
a couple. When you stop telling each other about your day,
it might be a sign you're drifting apart. I do
think this probably comes down to for this part, at least,
once you in your mind realize they aren't part of
the future, you don't really maybe even subconsciously, you start
pulling back because your brain's like, why should I invest

(07:31):
in this if it's not gonna be around forever. I
don't disagree with that. That to me checks out less
laughing together, dude. That to me, I couldn't be in
a relationship with somebody if we didn't laugh. I don't
really know how anybody could at that point. It seems
more like a business relationship, they say. Laughters often cause

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are called the glue of a relationship where it starts
to disappear because signal trouble. Couples who laugh together generally
report higher level satisfaction in the relationships. Yeah, if you
have fun together usually have to sign that things are good.
I think that's fair. Feeling annoyed by the small things
they say everyone gets annoyed from timetime. But if you

(08:14):
notice every little thing your partner does is suddenly irritating,
there might be more a play. We had a woman
calling the show once who complained about how her man breathed,
and I was like, yo, if you complain about how
your man keeps himself alive, that's a problem. And this
happened to me when he was sleeping, so it's even
more so, like if you hate how your man keeps

(08:36):
himself alive while he's sleeping, that probably isn't a good sign.
Could be a sign there's things up again, What do
I know? H Ignoring each other's achievements, This to me
is just odd to say the least, Like if you're
ignoring your person's achievements, why you guys are on the

(08:56):
same team, you know, especially because for me, I think
a lot of times relationship like I want the person
to be proud, like proud to be with me, proud
of me certainly, and so a lot of the accomplishments.
I think it's like certainly did it for me, you know,
but it's cool to have somebody you care about there
to witness what you're doing to just the accomplishments. And

(09:20):
I think too also see that, like, okay, all the
sacrifices make sense, especially for me my career, like time wise,
you know, I don't have a lot of it, so
to be able to show somebody like hey, like, I
know you don't get as much time as maybe you
want with me. However, I hope you can see his

(09:40):
pain off because you know X, Y and Z if
that makes sense anyway, I hope you have a great weekend.
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