October 10, 2025 • 10 mins
On this episode of The Thought Shower, Intern John talks about the bachelor party in Mexico, plus the small signs you're drifting apart
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
And a happy Friday. Friend.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
Welcome to the Thought Shower. Intern John is my name.
Was a busy week. Was a good week. Let's get
into this. I was in Mexico for a bachelor party.
Left on Saturday. Good friend DJ Rise apparently talking about
on the show and the podcast one of the best DJs,
if not the best in the area. Also good friend
(00:23):
of mine, and so the whole group was going down Sunday. I,
being a little naughty, went down Saturday day early. Thought
to myself, hey, let's have a little vacation. So I
got down to Mexico. First of all, on the plane
offensive I used some points to upgrade, very exciting. So
(00:44):
I ordered a couple of drinks and then the flight
tendant said, are you sure you should have one more?
I was like, my friend, this is my third It's
a three hour flight. Have you seen me on a
Saturday night?
Speaker 1 (00:56):
You know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (00:56):
It's like, dude, I'm not flying this thing. I'm mine
my own business, not causing any problems. Got to the resort.
I'll say this, Brandon picked out a fantastic spot. It
was like Jurassic Park. It was amazing, walk in had
a pool, beautiful sites, beautiful sounds. And so Saturday at
that point, by flight was at like eight in the morning,
(01:19):
so I've been a long day already, so I basically
just kind of stayed in like or a room service,
watched all of Netflix and relaxed.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
And it was.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
Funny because my buddy Brandon texted me like, hey, you're
getting crazy because I was down there a day early.
I was like, nah, I never have days where I'm
not expected to be somewhere like that never happens. So
to know that I had nowhere to be, didn't have
to go to the bar, didn't have to go to
a meeting, didn't have to go to hockey radio or whatever.
(01:49):
I had no where to be. So Day one I
went to bed at like seven point thirty, which was fantastic.
Day two, I'm walking my buddy Cooper to the pool
and this woman from me stops, turns around and goes,
I know that voice in my dumb ass never assumed
anybody knows me, just the Midwestern to me. I stop
(02:10):
and turn around, like I wonder who she's talking about.
She goes, no, John. I was like, oh, yeah, I
forgot that. I do a radio show, and they happen
to be there from George shown, which is great. So
whole group came in. I'll say this about bachelor parties.
I said this before. I think the notion of like
you have to go to Vegas, you have to go
to the adult club, and you have to not remember anything.
(02:32):
I think it's very overrated. I think it's overrated. It's
waste of money. This was fantastic. Jick canbe a golf trip.
We went golfing on Monday and Tuesday. There was a
golf club, golf course on the resort. It's fantastic. We
had a great group of guys, great golf, good time, relaxing.
(02:53):
This is a lot of fun. I also too like
and again this is the outside in. I feel like
sometimes my friends that been on bachelor parties, it's like
there's a set itinerary and you have to do all
the things. What I loved about this was the vibe
was kind of like, hey, it's your vacation too, so
we would have like, you know, dinner time together, you know,
or do golf together. But for the most part, everybody's
(03:14):
kind of wandered around. It was fantastic. So fantastic time.
Can't wait for the wedding again with my really good friends.
So it was fun to be down there with him
and the rest of the homies as well. This weekend.
Hopefully it's relaxing. Hopefully that's the plan. I feel like
I'm losing my voice. That always happens after vacation, where
(03:35):
it's like I don't talk for I don't know, four
or five days as much, and then I come back
and it's like the muscle is sore, my instrument is sore,
if you will so. But I'm a fighter. I'm a fighter.
I'm gonna fight through this for you guys kind of say.
I hope when I say that stuff it comes across
(03:55):
as being joky, because I do believe there are influencers
and broadcasters who think they save lives, and it's like, okay,
where it's like they really want you to, you know,
feel for them, for how how much empathy they have.
It's like, all right, dude, calm down, calm down. You
know though for me it's true, I save lives. This
(04:17):
is what it is, you know what I mean, I
should really get a badge or something. Certainly, let me
get this for your Friday. The tiny behaviors that reveal
the relationship has fallen apart. Oh boy, but in several relationships,
they've all fallen apart. Let's see these check out.
Speaker 1 (04:35):
First.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
One's avoiding eye contact. I mean yeah, yeah, because I've
always had the belief that like seeing your person should
give you a sense of calm, like it should be
kind of like a warm I don't know, a safety net,
so to speak. So if you can't look your person
in the eye, yeah, that might be a sign something's off.
(04:58):
You know, if the thought looking at them in the
eye repulses you could be a sign something that's not
gonna work out.
Speaker 1 (05:05):
You know. Silence during dinner. I think this is different.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
They say, dinner used to be time you could connect,
talk about your day, and enjoy each other's company. But
now we find yourself in silence more often than not.
It could be a red flag. We've talked about this
before in the show, where in our parents' day they
wouldn't talk to each other all day. There was no texting, right,
So they would see each other in the morning, they
would go to work, they would come home from work,
(05:31):
and that's when they would really catch up on the day.
And looking back, now, what a benefit that was. Instead
of being in contact all day long, so by time
you get home, it's like I already know everything that's
happened to you. I can see the silence at dinner
being more being normal. I guess I think that's probably like, yeah,
(05:53):
makes sense because you've probably been talking throughout most of
the day.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
Anyway.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
I don't think that one's the biggest red flag declining
physical touch. They say physical touch often acts as a
barometer for the health of relationship. If the usual hugs, handholding,
your casual touch is a decrease, it might be a
sign something's off.
Speaker 1 (06:13):
I think this is huge.
Speaker 2 (06:15):
And again, this isn't just saying like hooking up with somebody,
but the actual like yeah, if you don't want to
touch them, I'm a big fan of physical touch, hey,
and I do think like the touch is somebody you
care about. Again, it's calming, it makes you feel relaxed,
it releases endorphins. If you don't want to do that,
(06:38):
that's not a good sign. If that they don't give
you comfort anymore, that's not a good sign. I also
think that's a huge, like why the biggest sign something's off,
or at least the most obvious, like if you try
to put your arm around somebody and they're like, duh,
now sums off frequent.
Speaker 1 (06:58):
Phone use made on the list.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
I mean, especially if you're always around on the phone
around each other makes sense. You stop sharing your day,
they say, sharing every detail your life as a fundamental
part of staying connected as a couple. When you stop
telling each other about your day, it might be a
sign you're drifting apart. I do think this probably comes
down to for this part, at least, once you in
(07:22):
your mind realize they aren't part of the future, you
don't really maybe even subconsciously, you start pulling back because
your brain's like, why should I invest in this if
it's not gonna be around forever. I don't disagree with that.
That to me checks out less laughing together, dude. That
to me, I couldn't be in a relationship with somebody
(07:44):
if we didn't laugh. I don't really know how anybody
could at that point. It seems more like a business relationship,
they say. Laughters often caused are called the glue of
a relationship, where it starts to disappear because singal trouble.
Couples who laugh together generally report higher level satisfaction in
the relationships. Yeah, if you have fun together usually have
(08:06):
to sign that things are good.
Speaker 1 (08:09):
I think that's fair.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
Feeling annoyed by the small things they say everyone gets
annoyed from timetime. But if you notice every little thing
your partner does is suddenly irritating, there might be more
a play. We had a woman calling the show once
who complained about how her man breathed, and I was like, yo,
if you complain about how your man keeps himself alive,
that's a problem. And this happened to me when he
(08:32):
was sleeping, so it's even more so, like if you
hate how your man keeps himself alive while he's sleeping,
that probably isn't a good sign. Could be a sign
there's things up again, What do I know? Uh? Ignoring
each other's achievements, This to me is just odd to
say the least, Like if you're ignoring your person's achievements,
(08:55):
why you guys are on the same team, you know,
especially because for me, I think a lot of times
relationship like I want the person to be proud, like
proud to be with me, proud of me certainly, and
so a lot of the accomplishments. I think it's like
certainly did it for me, you know, but it's cool
to have somebody you care about there to witness what
(09:17):
you're doing to just the accomplishments. And I think too
also see that, like, okay, all the sacrifices make sense,
especially for me in my career, like time wise, you know,
I don't have a lot of it, so to be
able to show somebody like hey, like, I know you
don't get as much time as maybe you want with me. However,
(09:39):
I hope you can see his pain off because you
know X, Y and Z if that makes sense anyway,
I hope you have a great weekend. I appreciate you
listening to this for listening to the radio show. You
can listen to the radio show to search you intern
John in your morning show wherever you get your podcast.
Make sure you follow along as well at intern John Radio.
We'll see a Monday thoughts.
Speaker 1 (10:00):
Joer
And a happy Friday. Friend.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
Welcome to the Thought Shower. Intern John is my name.
Was a busy week. Was a good week. Let's get
into this. I was in Mexico for a bachelor party.
Left on Saturday. Good friend DJ Rise apparently talking about
on the show and the podcast one of the best DJs,
if not the best in the area. Also good friend
(00:23):
of mine, and so the whole group was going down Sunday. I,
being a little naughty, went down Saturday day early. Thought
to myself, hey, let's have a little vacation. So I
got down to Mexico. First of all, on the plane
offensive I used some points to upgrade, very exciting. So
(00:44):
I ordered a couple of drinks and then the flight
tendant said, are you sure you should have one more?
I was like, my friend, this is my third It's
a three hour flight. Have you seen me on a
Saturday night?
Speaker 1 (00:56):
You know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (00:56):
It's like, dude, I'm not flying this thing. I'm mine
my own business, not causing any problems. Got to the resort.
I'll say this, Brandon picked out a fantastic spot. It
was like Jurassic Park. It was amazing, walk in had
a pool, beautiful sites, beautiful sounds. And so Saturday at
that point, by flight was at like eight in the morning,
(01:19):
so I've been a long day already, so I basically
just kind of stayed in like or a room service,
watched all of Netflix and relaxed.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
And it was.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
Funny because my buddy Brandon texted me like, hey, you're
getting crazy because I was down there a day early.
I was like, nah, I never have days where I'm
not expected to be somewhere like that never happens. So
to know that I had nowhere to be, didn't have
to go to the bar, didn't have to go to
a meeting, didn't have to go to hockey radio or whatever.
(01:49):
I had no where to be. So Day one I
went to bed at like seven point thirty, which was fantastic.
Day two, I'm walking my buddy Cooper to the pool
and this woman from me stops, turns around and goes,
I know that voice in my dumb ass never assumed
anybody knows me, just the Midwestern to me. I stop
(02:10):
and turn around, like I wonder who she's talking about.
She goes, no, John. I was like, oh, yeah, I
forgot that. I do a radio show, and they happen
to be there from George shown, which is great. So
whole group came in. I'll say this about bachelor parties.
I said this before. I think the notion of like
you have to go to Vegas, you have to go
to the adult club, and you have to not remember anything.
(02:32):
I think it's very overrated. I think it's overrated. It's
waste of money. This was fantastic. Jick canbe a golf trip.
We went golfing on Monday and Tuesday. There was a
golf club, golf course on the resort. It's fantastic. We
had a great group of guys, great golf, good time, relaxing.
(02:53):
This is a lot of fun. I also too like
and again this is the outside in. I feel like
sometimes my friends that been on bachelor parties, it's like
there's a set itinerary and you have to do all
the things. What I loved about this was the vibe
was kind of like, hey, it's your vacation too, so
we would have like, you know, dinner time together, you know,
or do golf together. But for the most part, everybody's
(03:14):
kind of wandered around. It was fantastic. So fantastic time.
Can't wait for the wedding again with my really good friends.
So it was fun to be down there with him
and the rest of the homies as well. This weekend.
Hopefully it's relaxing. Hopefully that's the plan. I feel like
I'm losing my voice. That always happens after vacation, where
(03:35):
it's like I don't talk for I don't know, four
or five days as much, and then I come back
and it's like the muscle is sore, my instrument is sore,
if you will so. But I'm a fighter. I'm a fighter.
I'm gonna fight through this for you guys kind of say.
I hope when I say that stuff it comes across
(03:55):
as being joky, because I do believe there are influencers
and broadcasters who think they save lives, and it's like, okay,
where it's like they really want you to, you know,
feel for them, for how how much empathy they have.
It's like, all right, dude, calm down, calm down. You
know though for me it's true, I save lives. This
(04:17):
is what it is, you know what I mean, I
should really get a badge or something. Certainly, let me
get this for your Friday. The tiny behaviors that reveal
the relationship has fallen apart. Oh boy, but in several relationships,
they've all fallen apart. Let's see these check out.
Speaker 1 (04:35):
First.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
One's avoiding eye contact. I mean yeah, yeah, because I've
always had the belief that like seeing your person should
give you a sense of calm, like it should be
kind of like a warm I don't know, a safety net,
so to speak. So if you can't look your person
in the eye, yeah, that might be a sign something's off.
(04:58):
You know, if the thought looking at them in the
eye repulses you could be a sign something that's not
gonna work out.
Speaker 1 (05:05):
You know. Silence during dinner. I think this is different.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
They say, dinner used to be time you could connect,
talk about your day, and enjoy each other's company. But
now we find yourself in silence more often than not.
It could be a red flag. We've talked about this
before in the show, where in our parents' day they
wouldn't talk to each other all day. There was no texting, right,
So they would see each other in the morning, they
would go to work, they would come home from work,
(05:31):
and that's when they would really catch up on the day.
And looking back, now, what a benefit that was. Instead
of being in contact all day long, so by time
you get home, it's like I already know everything that's
happened to you. I can see the silence at dinner
being more being normal. I guess I think that's probably like, yeah,
(05:53):
makes sense because you've probably been talking throughout most of
the day.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
Anyway.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
I don't think that one's the biggest red flag declining
physical touch. They say physical touch often acts as a
barometer for the health of relationship. If the usual hugs, handholding,
your casual touch is a decrease, it might be a
sign something's off.
Speaker 1 (06:13):
I think this is huge.
Speaker 2 (06:15):
And again, this isn't just saying like hooking up with somebody,
but the actual like yeah, if you don't want to
touch them, I'm a big fan of physical touch, hey,
and I do think like the touch is somebody you
care about. Again, it's calming, it makes you feel relaxed,
it releases endorphins. If you don't want to do that,
(06:38):
that's not a good sign. If that they don't give
you comfort anymore, that's not a good sign. I also
think that's a huge, like why the biggest sign something's off,
or at least the most obvious, like if you try
to put your arm around somebody and they're like, duh,
now sums off frequent.
Speaker 1 (06:58):
Phone use made on the list.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
I mean, especially if you're always around on the phone
around each other makes sense. You stop sharing your day,
they say, sharing every detail your life as a fundamental
part of staying connected as a couple. When you stop
telling each other about your day, it might be a
sign you're drifting apart. I do think this probably comes
down to for this part, at least, once you in
(07:22):
your mind realize they aren't part of the future, you
don't really maybe even subconsciously, you start pulling back because
your brain's like, why should I invest in this if
it's not gonna be around forever. I don't disagree with that.
That to me checks out less laughing together, dude. That
to me, I couldn't be in a relationship with somebody
(07:44):
if we didn't laugh. I don't really know how anybody
could at that point. It seems more like a business relationship,
they say. Laughters often caused are called the glue of
a relationship, where it starts to disappear because singal trouble.
Couples who laugh together generally report higher level satisfaction in
the relationships. Yeah, if you have fun together usually have
(08:06):
to sign that things are good.
Speaker 1 (08:09):
I think that's fair.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
Feeling annoyed by the small things they say everyone gets
annoyed from timetime. But if you notice every little thing
your partner does is suddenly irritating, there might be more
a play. We had a woman calling the show once
who complained about how her man breathed, and I was like, yo,
if you complain about how your man keeps himself alive,
that's a problem. And this happened to me when he
(08:32):
was sleeping, so it's even more so, like if you
hate how your man keeps himself alive while he's sleeping,
that probably isn't a good sign. Could be a sign
there's things up again, What do I know? Uh? Ignoring
each other's achievements, This to me is just odd to
say the least, Like if you're ignoring your person's achievements,
(08:55):
why you guys are on the same team, you know,
especially because for me, I think a lot of times
relationship like I want the person to be proud, like
proud to be with me, proud of me certainly, and
so a lot of the accomplishments. I think it's like
certainly did it for me, you know, but it's cool
to have somebody you care about there to witness what
(09:17):
you're doing to just the accomplishments. And I think too
also see that, like, okay, all the sacrifices make sense,
especially for me in my career, like time wise, you know,
I don't have a lot of it, so to be
able to show somebody like hey, like, I know you
don't get as much time as maybe you want with me. However,
(09:39):
I hope you can see his pain off because you
know X, Y and Z if that makes sense anyway,
I hope you have a great weekend. I appreciate you
listening to this for listening to the radio show. You
can listen to the radio show to search you intern
John in your morning show wherever you get your podcast.
Make sure you follow along as well at intern John Radio.
We'll see a Monday thoughts.
Speaker 1 (10:00):
Joer
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