August 30, 2024 • 10 mins
On this episode of The Thought Shower, Intern John talks about why it's important to do the thing with your friends. Plus, how overconfident guys ruin relationships
Every week Intern John discusses adulting, dating, radio life, and more! You can follow Intern John on social media: @InternJohnRadio. You can listen to past episodes at TheThoughtShower.com
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
And a happy Friday friend. Welcome to the Thought Shower.
Intern John is my name? Uh Man. Been a busy,
busy last forty eight hours for me. So on Wednesday
it was hot, my guy, it was like one hundred
and three hundred and four. Was supposed to go golfing
my good friend Andrew o Day and our buddy Corey.
(00:23):
I contemplated I did because I was like, you know,
golf's one of those things where you're gonna be outside
for four hours and you're gonna be walking and doing exercise.
But I was always like, yow know what, hadn't been
a minute. Do I enjoy golf? I have fun with golf.
(00:43):
I think that I'm doing golf the right way in
that I'm not taking it seriously, where like if I
hit a shot and it doesn't go well, I treat
it like bowling. That's a better example, where it's like
is it cool to get strikes? Absolutely? If I don't,
is it gonna ruin my day now? So like I'll
(01:05):
hit the ball and then be like, all right, that
was cool or whatever. Didn't go well, but went sweat
my ass off. Didn't do bad though, to be honest,
didn't do bad Were there bad shots? Oh yes, brother,
they were very bad shots. There were shots that I
should be banned from the support of golf. Were there
good shots, absolutely, But we got lucky to that there
(01:30):
was nobody else really on the course. There's nothing worse.
You ere been golfing and you have anxiety. It's fantastic
when there's other golfers playing the hole behind you and
they're kind of pushing you to go faster so they
can golf. It's one of those things where, like golf,
let me put it this way, middle aged men ruined things
(01:51):
for almost everybody, you know what I mean. Like I
I played like a men's league hockey for like games
when I first moved here, and I stopped because there
were dudes acting like they were going to get scouted
to go to the NHL, and I.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
Was like, I don't need this, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
Like that ship sailed when I was fifteen and broke
my tailbone, you know what I mean. There's guys sometimes
on the golf course who think like this is my
chance to get picked up on the tour, and it's like,
hey man, we're just trying to have fun, you know.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
But had a lot of fun with the guys. That
was great.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
Then on Thursday, it was very cool Jimmy's Famous Seafood
who if you listen to this podcast, you know they
are like the premiere seafood restaurant in Baltimore. I got
linked up with John, the owner, and he's found this
podcast before during the pandemic. During the pandemic, the Baltimore
Mayor shut down the restaurants in the city and really
(02:49):
didn't leave any guidance for like what restaurants could do.
It was kind of like shut down, figure it out,
and Jimmy in John with Jimmy's Star they called the
Famous Fund, which was they raised money to give to
restaurants to keith them in business. I thought that was
so freaking cool that here you have a restaurant that's
(03:12):
been around for now fifty years. They have the means
because they shipped their crab cakes and they shipped their
food to you know, scratch through the pandemic, and they
could have sat back and let their competition die out,
but they raise money for their competition, which to me
so cool. And have had a chance to become friends
with John the last couple of years. Anyway, they their
(03:32):
fiftieth anniversary was a couple of weeks ago, but had
this gallop black tie event last night Marylyn Live fantastic. Now,
my mother not a fan of the black on black
on black, and there's some things a mom and I
will never agree on. Number one's my garden. Number two
it's black shirts with black pants and black suit top.
(03:56):
I don't know why it is what it is, but
I had a great time this weekend. The plan is
hopefully to kind of like relax a little bit. I
always say this all the time, but like light's bout
to you crazy. So the restaurant part of the soft
opening is supposed to be next week. Hockey starts in
a couple of weeks, so no real set plans, hoping
to just kind of like I almost want to say,
(04:17):
dew spring cleaning, if that makes sense. Even though it's August,
you know, or is it?
Speaker 2 (04:21):
Is it August? Wait?
Speaker 1 (04:22):
No, I don't know what the data said. Hold on,
it's still August, still my birthday month, baby. So that's
kind of the plan, just to kind of relax and
do nothing. Yeah, it's tough, like I had, I didn't
make plans for this weekend like otherwise, I probably would
go into Nashville, but I thought that the my restaurant
would be open. So it's kind of like, uh, you know,
(04:43):
there's always delays when we do this kind of stuff.
So although I've been great to go to Nashville, I'm
kind of not so glad. Obviously, gracing my parents that's
always awesome, but I have a lot of friends in
Nashville too, so it is kind of like, you know,
Minnesota became very draining go back to because I felt
like I had to see everybody. Nashville's slowly becoming that.
(05:05):
Not in a bad way. It's just that I have
a lot of friends who are moving to Nashville, and
why wouldn't you. It's a fantastic place to live. So
the plan this weekend is to hopefully actually do nothing
and relax.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
Will that happen? Probably not. Let me get to this
for youre Friday.
Speaker 1 (05:22):
Men who are overly confident make these mistakes in relationships.
Have I been called overly confident? Perhaps I will always
go back to and I've said this a million times.
I am very confident in myself, but also the people
around me. The example I've used it FORO is like
(05:42):
if capital one arena where the Washington Capitals play for
those who don't know who hold about eighteen thousand. If
they came to me and said, we want you to
do a stand up comedy show here, I am very
confident I would sell it out. Now that being said,
I'm not saying that I'm so good at comedy or
so famous that i could just open the doors to
(06:04):
the arena and it's gonna be sold out. No, no, no,
I'm confident that we have a great fan base with
the show, great fan base with the podcast. I have
other friends in media who'd help them promote we have,
like you know, there's folks that come in and help
sell tickets. Like I'm confident in that way that it
will work out, you know what I mean. And I
guess that's kind of always how I've been is that
it will work out, and that's been positive and negative
(06:28):
for me.
Speaker 2 (06:28):
It's been positive.
Speaker 1 (06:29):
I think with you know, podcast, hockey, the show, with
that kind of stuff, it's been positive. Just keep my
head down, but it'll all work out. Relationships not so
much because then you kind of like go, oh, yeah,
those issues didn't quite go away. You know a lot
of times I feel like with like work stuff, those
issues kind of figure themselves out with relationships. Man, Nah,
(06:53):
you got to put that work in. Brother Number one
is they come across as know it alls.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:58):
They say, if you everbody on a day, the guy who
seems to have an opinion everything the best wine to
the existential questions, he's got all the answers spoiler alert,
he really doesn't. They say this overconfidence can make learning
and growing together as a couple pretty challenging.
Speaker 2 (07:13):
Yeah. I do think that's like the.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
The cool thing about relationships is growing with somebody in
learning things and having those experiences. So somebody in their
mind already has all those things. Yeah, that kind of
takes it away. They forget to listen. Yeah, they say.
Over confident men believe they're such great conversationalists. They forget
(07:36):
relationships are two way street. I have really well, I
mean obviously with the show, and it's funny. I had
somebody ask what interviews on the show wants and I
was like, well, I don't see just interviews as being
like big celebrities. I don't anytime somebody calls in the show,
that's an interview, Like I'm trying to listen and get
(07:57):
information on them, and it's crazy how good conversations can
go when you listen and you remember things. It makes
people think that you care, and you do obviously, but
it's like, you know, it can change things and it
makes things a little bit easier to go with. They
control all the decision making is say they ever been
steamrolled and decision because mister overconfident thought it was best.
(08:18):
These guys often mistake partnership for dictatorship, making decisions without consulting.
I have had this like my life is weird, right,
and I got to know it said this before. But
like in everything that I do, all the areas that
I'm in show, podcast, comedy, restaurant, now hockey, I am
(08:40):
like one of the decision makers or the decision maker.
So like, by the end of the day, I'm so
tired of making decisions, like really, Like that's why it's
always great being with somebody who knows who they want
to eat, literally, or if I like to say, hey,
do you want to do this, they're in because it's
like I get decision fatigue.
Speaker 2 (08:58):
Man.
Speaker 1 (08:58):
That's why they talk about like Zuckerberg and these Silicon
Valley guys, they'll wear the same thing every day because
it's one less decision to make. I get that to
a tea because it's just so draining. Dude, I don't
want to make all the decisions. That way, I can
make fun of them if they go wrong, that's a joke.
(09:20):
If their grand gestures are extreme, sometimes overconfident men believe
the only way is solve a problem, or when affection
is the grand movie like gestures. They say real relationships
thrive on consistent small acts of kindness, not just the
occasional fireworks.
Speaker 2 (09:36):
Yeah, I've noticed that too.
Speaker 1 (09:37):
I think my last relationship, you know, she was amazing
one hundred percent. I think the like the small things
became almost more fun than the big things. And this
is an odd thing where I know she's very appreciative
of the big things, but it wasn't like she was
looking for it, if that makes sense. I've been with
people who I felt like they are more so looking
(09:58):
for the big grand gesture, and with my last girlfriend,
I don't. I mean again, she certainly liked it, she
appreciated it, but that wasn't like.
Speaker 2 (10:07):
What she needed to feel the relationship.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
I guess if that makes sense, I think the little
things are more fun and like they say in this
like that means you're more consistent, you know, It's like
you're you're paying attentions. Almost Sometimes I think people use
the big grand gesture as the guy a jail card,
whereas like these little ones can build up over time.
You know, listen, I hope you have a great weekend.
If you've not listened to the Morning Show, and I
(10:30):
would assume to see me, have but download the show
podcast as well. Just search intern John in your Morning
show wherever you get your podcasts.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
I hope you have a great Labor Day weekend. We'll
see you next week.
And a happy Friday friend. Welcome to the Thought Shower.
Intern John is my name? Uh Man. Been a busy,
busy last forty eight hours for me. So on Wednesday
it was hot, my guy, it was like one hundred
and three hundred and four. Was supposed to go golfing
my good friend Andrew o Day and our buddy Corey.
(00:23):
I contemplated I did because I was like, you know,
golf's one of those things where you're gonna be outside
for four hours and you're gonna be walking and doing exercise.
But I was always like, yow know what, hadn't been
a minute. Do I enjoy golf? I have fun with golf.
(00:43):
I think that I'm doing golf the right way in
that I'm not taking it seriously, where like if I
hit a shot and it doesn't go well, I treat
it like bowling. That's a better example, where it's like
is it cool to get strikes? Absolutely? If I don't,
is it gonna ruin my day now? So like I'll
(01:05):
hit the ball and then be like, all right, that
was cool or whatever. Didn't go well, but went sweat
my ass off. Didn't do bad though, to be honest,
didn't do bad Were there bad shots? Oh yes, brother,
they were very bad shots. There were shots that I
should be banned from the support of golf. Were there
good shots, absolutely, But we got lucky to that there
(01:30):
was nobody else really on the course. There's nothing worse.
You ere been golfing and you have anxiety. It's fantastic
when there's other golfers playing the hole behind you and
they're kind of pushing you to go faster so they
can golf. It's one of those things where, like golf,
let me put it this way, middle aged men ruined things
(01:51):
for almost everybody, you know what I mean. Like I
I played like a men's league hockey for like games
when I first moved here, and I stopped because there
were dudes acting like they were going to get scouted
to go to the NHL, and I.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
Was like, I don't need this, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
Like that ship sailed when I was fifteen and broke
my tailbone, you know what I mean. There's guys sometimes
on the golf course who think like this is my
chance to get picked up on the tour, and it's like,
hey man, we're just trying to have fun, you know.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
But had a lot of fun with the guys. That
was great.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
Then on Thursday, it was very cool Jimmy's Famous Seafood
who if you listen to this podcast, you know they
are like the premiere seafood restaurant in Baltimore. I got
linked up with John, the owner, and he's found this
podcast before during the pandemic. During the pandemic, the Baltimore
Mayor shut down the restaurants in the city and really
(02:49):
didn't leave any guidance for like what restaurants could do.
It was kind of like shut down, figure it out,
and Jimmy in John with Jimmy's Star they called the
Famous Fund, which was they raised money to give to
restaurants to keith them in business. I thought that was
so freaking cool that here you have a restaurant that's
(03:12):
been around for now fifty years. They have the means
because they shipped their crab cakes and they shipped their
food to you know, scratch through the pandemic, and they
could have sat back and let their competition die out,
but they raise money for their competition, which to me
so cool. And have had a chance to become friends
with John the last couple of years. Anyway, they their
(03:32):
fiftieth anniversary was a couple of weeks ago, but had
this gallop black tie event last night Marylyn Live fantastic. Now,
my mother not a fan of the black on black
on black, and there's some things a mom and I
will never agree on. Number one's my garden. Number two
it's black shirts with black pants and black suit top.
(03:56):
I don't know why it is what it is, but
I had a great time this weekend. The plan is
hopefully to kind of like relax a little bit. I
always say this all the time, but like light's bout
to you crazy. So the restaurant part of the soft
opening is supposed to be next week. Hockey starts in
a couple of weeks, so no real set plans, hoping
to just kind of like I almost want to say,
(04:17):
dew spring cleaning, if that makes sense. Even though it's August,
you know, or is it?
Speaker 2 (04:21):
Is it August? Wait?
Speaker 1 (04:22):
No, I don't know what the data said. Hold on,
it's still August, still my birthday month, baby. So that's
kind of the plan, just to kind of relax and
do nothing. Yeah, it's tough, like I had, I didn't
make plans for this weekend like otherwise, I probably would
go into Nashville, but I thought that the my restaurant
would be open. So it's kind of like, uh, you know,
(04:43):
there's always delays when we do this kind of stuff.
So although I've been great to go to Nashville, I'm
kind of not so glad. Obviously, gracing my parents that's
always awesome, but I have a lot of friends in
Nashville too, so it is kind of like, you know,
Minnesota became very draining go back to because I felt
like I had to see everybody. Nashville's slowly becoming that.
(05:05):
Not in a bad way. It's just that I have
a lot of friends who are moving to Nashville, and
why wouldn't you. It's a fantastic place to live. So
the plan this weekend is to hopefully actually do nothing
and relax.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
Will that happen? Probably not. Let me get to this
for youre Friday.
Speaker 1 (05:22):
Men who are overly confident make these mistakes in relationships.
Have I been called overly confident? Perhaps I will always
go back to and I've said this a million times.
I am very confident in myself, but also the people
around me. The example I've used it FORO is like
(05:42):
if capital one arena where the Washington Capitals play for
those who don't know who hold about eighteen thousand. If
they came to me and said, we want you to
do a stand up comedy show here, I am very
confident I would sell it out. Now that being said,
I'm not saying that I'm so good at comedy or
so famous that i could just open the doors to
(06:04):
the arena and it's gonna be sold out. No, no, no,
I'm confident that we have a great fan base with
the show, great fan base with the podcast. I have
other friends in media who'd help them promote we have,
like you know, there's folks that come in and help
sell tickets. Like I'm confident in that way that it
will work out, you know what I mean. And I
guess that's kind of always how I've been is that
it will work out, and that's been positive and negative
(06:28):
for me.
Speaker 2 (06:28):
It's been positive.
Speaker 1 (06:29):
I think with you know, podcast, hockey, the show, with
that kind of stuff, it's been positive. Just keep my
head down, but it'll all work out. Relationships not so
much because then you kind of like go, oh, yeah,
those issues didn't quite go away. You know a lot
of times I feel like with like work stuff, those
issues kind of figure themselves out with relationships. Man, Nah,
(06:53):
you got to put that work in. Brother Number one
is they come across as know it alls.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:58):
They say, if you everbody on a day, the guy who
seems to have an opinion everything the best wine to
the existential questions, he's got all the answers spoiler alert,
he really doesn't. They say this overconfidence can make learning
and growing together as a couple pretty challenging.
Speaker 2 (07:13):
Yeah. I do think that's like the.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
The cool thing about relationships is growing with somebody in
learning things and having those experiences. So somebody in their
mind already has all those things. Yeah, that kind of
takes it away. They forget to listen. Yeah, they say.
Over confident men believe they're such great conversationalists. They forget
(07:36):
relationships are two way street. I have really well, I
mean obviously with the show, and it's funny. I had
somebody ask what interviews on the show wants and I
was like, well, I don't see just interviews as being
like big celebrities. I don't anytime somebody calls in the show,
that's an interview, Like I'm trying to listen and get
(07:57):
information on them, and it's crazy how good conversations can
go when you listen and you remember things. It makes
people think that you care, and you do obviously, but
it's like, you know, it can change things and it
makes things a little bit easier to go with. They
control all the decision making is say they ever been
steamrolled and decision because mister overconfident thought it was best.
(08:18):
These guys often mistake partnership for dictatorship, making decisions without consulting.
I have had this like my life is weird, right,
and I got to know it said this before. But
like in everything that I do, all the areas that
I'm in show, podcast, comedy, restaurant, now hockey, I am
(08:40):
like one of the decision makers or the decision maker.
So like, by the end of the day, I'm so
tired of making decisions, like really, Like that's why it's
always great being with somebody who knows who they want
to eat, literally, or if I like to say, hey,
do you want to do this, they're in because it's
like I get decision fatigue.
Speaker 2 (08:58):
Man.
Speaker 1 (08:58):
That's why they talk about like Zuckerberg and these Silicon
Valley guys, they'll wear the same thing every day because
it's one less decision to make. I get that to
a tea because it's just so draining. Dude, I don't
want to make all the decisions. That way, I can
make fun of them if they go wrong, that's a joke.
(09:20):
If their grand gestures are extreme, sometimes overconfident men believe
the only way is solve a problem, or when affection
is the grand movie like gestures. They say real relationships
thrive on consistent small acts of kindness, not just the
occasional fireworks.
Speaker 2 (09:36):
Yeah, I've noticed that too.
Speaker 1 (09:37):
I think my last relationship, you know, she was amazing
one hundred percent. I think the like the small things
became almost more fun than the big things. And this
is an odd thing where I know she's very appreciative
of the big things, but it wasn't like she was
looking for it, if that makes sense. I've been with
people who I felt like they are more so looking
(09:58):
for the big grand gesture, and with my last girlfriend,
I don't. I mean again, she certainly liked it, she
appreciated it, but that wasn't like.
Speaker 2 (10:07):
What she needed to feel the relationship.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
I guess if that makes sense, I think the little
things are more fun and like they say in this
like that means you're more consistent, you know, It's like
you're you're paying attentions. Almost Sometimes I think people use
the big grand gesture as the guy a jail card,
whereas like these little ones can build up over time.
You know, listen, I hope you have a great weekend.
If you've not listened to the Morning Show, and I
(10:30):
would assume to see me, have but download the show
podcast as well. Just search intern John in your Morning
show wherever you get your podcasts.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
I hope you have a great Labor Day weekend. We'll
see you next week.
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