October 6, 2025 • 8 mins
On this episode of The Thought Shower, Intern John talks bachelor parties, and what to do with the passive agressive coworker
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
And a happy Monday. Friend.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
Welcome to the thought Shower intern John is my name,
appreciate you listen hopefully. I having a good weekend so far.
Did a little bachelor party action in Mexico. Was a
lot of fun. I mentioned this on the show, but
I want to say it again. Bachelor party with a
great group of guys, and I got a shout my
good friend DJ Ries for well, it's his bachelor party,
so of course he put together. But he had a
(00:23):
rule for the bachelor party group text that I think
should be the standard across all group texts.
Speaker 1 (00:30):
He put us all in it.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
It's like seven or eight guys and he said, hey,
nobody react to any messages, meaning like, don't like a message,
don't emoji a message, because that is a pain in
the butt when you get like thirty notifications from people
liking a message. I thought about him, like this is
so brilliant, Like that makes all the sense in the world,
because there is nothing more annoying than waking up to
(00:52):
like forty different notifications and it's all like, oh, Billy
like this text. Billy liked this text, so very exciting.
I think, you know, basch of parties are interesting I
do think there was that stigma for a while, like, oh,
you have to go to Vegas, you have to drink
your ass off every day, you have to be hungover
every day and just have a miserable time. This was
(01:15):
a nice resort in Mexico. Golf course on the resort,
on the water, and like everybody kind of go and
do your own thing. You want golf, go golf, You
want to stay in, stay in, you want to go
to the pool, go to the pool. I do like
there moving away from doing that, I've thought about now
I'm a long ways away from a bachelor party because
a guy I get.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
A girlfriend engaged and go from there.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
I've thought about how like I love going to West Virginia,
Like for me, getting a bunch of guys, get a
great cabin on a lake. That would be like ideal
bachelor party, just kind of hang out, drink, smoke cigars, whatever,
you know. I mentioned my brother's bachel of party went
to New Orleans. We had like one night on Bourbon
Street that was a lot of fun. Next day we
(02:00):
did deep sea fishing, perfect hoodies. Bachelor party. We went
to Philadelphia, had like a night in the town, went
to WrestleMania was perfect, Like it gave me time to
you could do other things during the day. You didn't
have to just be set on the bachelor party. I
thought that was like the ideal way to go. Now again,
I'm a long ways away from that, you know, like
(02:22):
we uh, there's no play on the horizon for me.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
You know, I might be the bachelor uncle. We shall see.
Speaker 2 (02:30):
But that's my advice when it comes to bache of parties,
bachelorette parties.
Speaker 1 (02:34):
Really do what you want to do.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
Don't do what you think you're supposed to do, if
that makes sense, like you don't if you're a bachelor party,
bachel ret party, you just want nap all weekend.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
By all means, nap all weekend. Do what makes you happy.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
I think we do more of that in twenty twenty
five and honestly beyond too. Let me get to this
for your Monday though. The four most common passive aggressive
phrases people use at work. I would like to think
that most folks are unintentionally passive aggressive, Like I don't
want to think people are passive.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
Aggressive on purpose.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
I would really hope that because then you're just miserable,
like you're just a miserable person starting off the top
of the list, per my last email. They say it's
often conveyed as passive aggressive because it shows irritation. The
person received the email may read this sentence as did
you even read my last email? I already explained everything
(03:29):
in it. They say it can seek to a sign
blame when it's more efficient to just move on and
try to actually solve the problem. They say, instead of
saying per my last email, you can say I'm checking
the c if I had a chance to look at blank, YadA, YadA,
I do think too. Sometimes you can hit with the
per of my last email and in their last email
(03:53):
they didn't explain the thing you want anyway, so it's
almost like double do you know what I mean? Like
per last email, my brother, your last email also sucked.
Your last email also didn't answer anything, you know what
I mean? That to me is one of the most
annoying things ever, when you get the per my last
email and it's like, yeah, it wasn't there. The next
(04:14):
one is dropping me not sure you saw my last message.
So they say it's passive aggressive on the user end
when we're getting some of these not sure if you
last message type things. The person could feel scolded or ashamed,
maybe feeling dismissed, not really feeling supported. They say, were
they irritated? They just mean just circling back, more positive
(04:36):
kind of way to go. They say it's harmful, it's
a nutshell. It can be passive aggressive. The tone is
there can be completely misconstrued or misused. Instead say something
like I wanted to follow up on a note I
sent last week. Yeah, I mean, I'm gonna be honest,
I don't necessarily mind when I get that message right,
(04:57):
especially if I missed it.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
Like, that's my problem.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
My problem personally is I will mentally respond to emails
and texts and all those things and then completely forget
to respond.
Speaker 1 (05:09):
That's number one.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
Number two is like I also have like a lot
of notifications, Like I like, I'll look at email my computer,
but I'll go forward again on my phone to make sure.
I like, I'll circle back myself on my own email
to make sure I didn't miss something down the line.
Like that's kind of how I go. So to me,
it really depends on if you like the person or not, right,
(05:30):
Because if you like somebody and you think they're a
good worker, and you want to talk to them. If
they send you a not sure if you saw my
last message, I'll be like, oh, shoot, you know what
I didn't. If it's somebody I don't like and they
send I'm like, yeah, I saw your last message. You're
still a moron, You're still dumb.
Speaker 1 (05:47):
You know.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
The next one is just circling back. They say, give
them the situation. Whatever the emails about. They say it could
be super friendly, but also come across as someone being
irritated and could sound kind.
Speaker 1 (05:59):
Of kind of sending yeah, but I don't know.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
Like to me, it's like if I was told that
you can give me an answer in a week and
here we are a week and a half later.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
I don't think that's bad.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
Don't give me a timeline or something and then either
blow pass the timeline or not follow the timeline, you
know what I mean. Like, I'll like, if somebody says, like, hey,
watching a Friday. Friday comes, I'll wait till like Tuesday
or Wednesday, like hey kind of circle back. And to me,
that's like a if you are at fault where like
(06:33):
they were waiting on you. I don't think he can
be really mad that, you know, it's not like, hey,
I've been waiting for your ass. That to me is
like the nice like I'm nudging you, just gonna let
you know. The last one they have is please advise.
They say, throwing the two word please advise an email
or even a conversation during the meeting is anything but ideal.
(06:55):
While the word the word, the use of the word
please and make it sound like it's being polite, it's
actually passive aggressive. They say they can take this as
a signce someone's irritated. They say it wouldn't naturally be
somebody that I would want to converse with or have
a happy relationship with. I again, I don't know, like
(07:15):
I think it depends on the person, right, because I
feel like I've used please advise before when it's like, hey,
I don't know what to do, like your thoughts. But
also there's been times where it's like you can tell
like if it's like a problem that you're dealing with
the work, and it's like, hey, I've very done this way,
this way, this way, how do you want me to
do it?
Speaker 1 (07:34):
Please advise?
Speaker 2 (07:35):
Where it is kind of like I guess it can
be used as a if you're so smart show me
like one of those vibes like, hey, if you're so smart,
know how to do it? Show me, please please advise
me how to do it. If you're so smart again
to me. All these really go back to who the
person is in the office. I think if it's somebody
(07:56):
you care about, somebody you like, somebody you think generally
has they're head on straight, you're willing to look the
other way. If it is somebody who is dumb and
barely does their work, you're probably gonna hold it against them.
Speaker 1 (08:08):
Just saying if you get a chance.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
By the way, you can still get my showy album
Internshioncomedy dot com.
Speaker 1 (08:14):
We'll see you Wednesday.
And a happy Monday. Friend.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
Welcome to the thought Shower intern John is my name,
appreciate you listen hopefully. I having a good weekend so far.
Did a little bachelor party action in Mexico. Was a
lot of fun. I mentioned this on the show, but
I want to say it again. Bachelor party with a
great group of guys, and I got a shout my
good friend DJ Ries for well, it's his bachelor party,
so of course he put together. But he had a
(00:23):
rule for the bachelor party group text that I think
should be the standard across all group texts.
Speaker 1 (00:30):
He put us all in it.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
It's like seven or eight guys and he said, hey,
nobody react to any messages, meaning like, don't like a message,
don't emoji a message, because that is a pain in
the butt when you get like thirty notifications from people
liking a message. I thought about him, like this is
so brilliant, Like that makes all the sense in the world,
because there is nothing more annoying than waking up to
(00:52):
like forty different notifications and it's all like, oh, Billy
like this text. Billy liked this text, so very exciting.
I think, you know, basch of parties are interesting I
do think there was that stigma for a while, like, oh,
you have to go to Vegas, you have to drink
your ass off every day, you have to be hungover
every day and just have a miserable time. This was
(01:15):
a nice resort in Mexico. Golf course on the resort,
on the water, and like everybody kind of go and
do your own thing. You want golf, go golf, You
want to stay in, stay in, you want to go
to the pool, go to the pool. I do like
there moving away from doing that, I've thought about now
I'm a long ways away from a bachelor party because
a guy I get.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
A girlfriend engaged and go from there.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
I've thought about how like I love going to West Virginia,
Like for me, getting a bunch of guys, get a
great cabin on a lake. That would be like ideal
bachelor party, just kind of hang out, drink, smoke cigars, whatever,
you know. I mentioned my brother's bachel of party went
to New Orleans. We had like one night on Bourbon
Street that was a lot of fun. Next day we
(02:00):
did deep sea fishing, perfect hoodies. Bachelor party. We went
to Philadelphia, had like a night in the town, went
to WrestleMania was perfect, Like it gave me time to
you could do other things during the day. You didn't
have to just be set on the bachelor party. I
thought that was like the ideal way to go. Now again,
I'm a long ways away from that, you know, like
(02:22):
we uh, there's no play on the horizon for me.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
You know, I might be the bachelor uncle. We shall see.
Speaker 2 (02:30):
But that's my advice when it comes to bache of parties,
bachelorette parties.
Speaker 1 (02:34):
Really do what you want to do.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
Don't do what you think you're supposed to do, if
that makes sense, like you don't if you're a bachelor party,
bachel ret party, you just want nap all weekend.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
By all means, nap all weekend. Do what makes you happy.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
I think we do more of that in twenty twenty
five and honestly beyond too. Let me get to this
for your Monday though. The four most common passive aggressive
phrases people use at work. I would like to think
that most folks are unintentionally passive aggressive, Like I don't
want to think people are passive.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
Aggressive on purpose.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
I would really hope that because then you're just miserable,
like you're just a miserable person starting off the top
of the list, per my last email. They say it's
often conveyed as passive aggressive because it shows irritation. The
person received the email may read this sentence as did
you even read my last email? I already explained everything
(03:29):
in it. They say it can seek to a sign
blame when it's more efficient to just move on and
try to actually solve the problem. They say, instead of
saying per my last email, you can say I'm checking
the c if I had a chance to look at blank, YadA, YadA,
I do think too. Sometimes you can hit with the
per of my last email and in their last email
(03:53):
they didn't explain the thing you want anyway, so it's
almost like double do you know what I mean? Like
per last email, my brother, your last email also sucked.
Your last email also didn't answer anything, you know what
I mean? That to me is one of the most
annoying things ever, when you get the per my last
email and it's like, yeah, it wasn't there. The next
(04:14):
one is dropping me not sure you saw my last message.
So they say it's passive aggressive on the user end
when we're getting some of these not sure if you
last message type things. The person could feel scolded or ashamed,
maybe feeling dismissed, not really feeling supported. They say, were
they irritated? They just mean just circling back, more positive
(04:36):
kind of way to go. They say it's harmful, it's
a nutshell. It can be passive aggressive. The tone is
there can be completely misconstrued or misused. Instead say something
like I wanted to follow up on a note I
sent last week. Yeah, I mean, I'm gonna be honest,
I don't necessarily mind when I get that message right,
(04:57):
especially if I missed it.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
Like, that's my problem.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
My problem personally is I will mentally respond to emails
and texts and all those things and then completely forget
to respond.
Speaker 1 (05:09):
That's number one.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
Number two is like I also have like a lot
of notifications, Like I like, I'll look at email my computer,
but I'll go forward again on my phone to make sure.
I like, I'll circle back myself on my own email
to make sure I didn't miss something down the line.
Like that's kind of how I go. So to me,
it really depends on if you like the person or not, right,
(05:30):
Because if you like somebody and you think they're a
good worker, and you want to talk to them. If
they send you a not sure if you saw my
last message, I'll be like, oh, shoot, you know what
I didn't. If it's somebody I don't like and they
send I'm like, yeah, I saw your last message. You're
still a moron, You're still dumb.
Speaker 1 (05:47):
You know.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
The next one is just circling back. They say, give
them the situation. Whatever the emails about. They say it could
be super friendly, but also come across as someone being
irritated and could sound kind.
Speaker 1 (05:59):
Of kind of sending yeah, but I don't know.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
Like to me, it's like if I was told that
you can give me an answer in a week and
here we are a week and a half later.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
I don't think that's bad.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
Don't give me a timeline or something and then either
blow pass the timeline or not follow the timeline, you
know what I mean. Like, I'll like, if somebody says, like, hey,
watching a Friday. Friday comes, I'll wait till like Tuesday
or Wednesday, like hey kind of circle back. And to me,
that's like a if you are at fault where like
(06:33):
they were waiting on you. I don't think he can
be really mad that, you know, it's not like, hey,
I've been waiting for your ass. That to me is
like the nice like I'm nudging you, just gonna let
you know. The last one they have is please advise.
They say, throwing the two word please advise an email
or even a conversation during the meeting is anything but ideal.
(06:55):
While the word the word, the use of the word
please and make it sound like it's being polite, it's
actually passive aggressive. They say they can take this as
a signce someone's irritated. They say it wouldn't naturally be
somebody that I would want to converse with or have
a happy relationship with. I again, I don't know, like
(07:15):
I think it depends on the person, right, because I
feel like I've used please advise before when it's like, hey,
I don't know what to do, like your thoughts. But
also there's been times where it's like you can tell
like if it's like a problem that you're dealing with
the work, and it's like, hey, I've very done this way,
this way, this way, how do you want me to
do it?
Speaker 1 (07:34):
Please advise?
Speaker 2 (07:35):
Where it is kind of like I guess it can
be used as a if you're so smart show me
like one of those vibes like, hey, if you're so smart,
know how to do it? Show me, please please advise
me how to do it. If you're so smart again
to me. All these really go back to who the
person is in the office. I think if it's somebody
(07:56):
you care about, somebody you like, somebody you think generally
has they're head on straight, you're willing to look the
other way. If it is somebody who is dumb and
barely does their work, you're probably gonna hold it against them.
Speaker 1 (08:08):
Just saying if you get a chance.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
By the way, you can still get my showy album
Internshioncomedy dot com.
Speaker 1 (08:14):
We'll see you Wednesday.
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