October 6, 2025 • 8 mins
On this episode of The Thought Shower, Intern John talks bachelor parties, and what to do with the passive agressive coworker
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Intern John's new comedy album, "Chuy Forever: The Album" is out! Proceeds benefit the Warrior Canine Connection. You can order the album HERE
Every week Intern John discusses adulting, dating, radio life, and more! You can follow Intern John on social media: @InternJohnRadio. You can listen to past episodes at TheThoughtShower.com
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
And a happy Monday. Friend.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
Welcome to the thought Shower intern John is my name,
appreciate you listen hopefully. I having a good weekend so far.
Did a little bachelor party action in Mexico. Was a
lot of fun. I mentioned this on the show, but
I want to say it again. A bachelor party with
a great group of guys, and I got a shout
my good friend DJ Ries for well, it's his bachelor party,
so of course he put together. But he had a
(00:23):
rule for the bachelor party group text that I think
should be the standard across all group texts.
Speaker 1 (00:30):
He put us all in it.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
It's like seven or eight guys and he said, hey,
nobody react to any messages, meaning like, don't like a message,
don't emoji a message, because that is a pain in
the butt when you get like thirty notifications from people
liking a message. I thought about him, like this is
so brilliant, Like that makes all the sense in the world,
because there is nothing more annoying than waking up to
(00:52):
like forty different notifications and it's all like, oh, Billy
liked this text. Billy liked this text, so very exciting.
I think, you know, basche of parties. Are interesting. I
do think there was that stigma for a while, like, oh,
you have to go to Vegas, you have to drink
your ass off every day, you have to be hungover
every day and just have a miserable time. This was
(01:15):
a nice resort in Mexico. Golf course on the resort,
on the water, and like everybody kind of go and
do your own thing. You want golf, go golf. You
want to stay in, stay in, you want to go
to the pool, go to the pool. I do like
the moving away from doing that. I've thought about now
I'm a long ways away from a bachelor party because
a guy I get a girlfriend engaged and go from there.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
I thought about, how like I love.
Speaker 2 (01:42):
Going to West Virginia, Like for me, getting a bunch
of guys, get a great cabin on a lake. That
would be like ideal bachelor party, just kind of hang out, drink,
smoke cigars, whatever, you know. I'd mentioned. My brother's bachelor
party went to New Orleans. We had like one night
on Bourbon Street that was a lot of fun. Next
day we did deep sea fishing, perfect hoodies. Bachelor party.
(02:03):
We went to Philadelphia, had like a night in the town.
We went to WrestleMania was perfect, Like it gave me
time to you could do other things during the day.
You didn't have to just be set on the bachelor party.
I thought that was like the ideal way to go.
Now again, I'm a long ways away from that, you know,
like we uh, there's no play on the horizon for me.
(02:27):
You know, I might be the bachelor uncle. We shall see.
But that's my advice when it comes to bachel parties
bachelorette parties, really do what you.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
Want to do.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
Don't do what you think you're supposed to do, if
that makes sense, like you don't if you're a bachelor party,
bachelrett party, you just want nap all weekend.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
By all means, nap all weekend. Do what makes you happy.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
I think we I do more of that in twenty
twenty five and honestly beyond too. Let me get to
this for your Monday though. The four most common passive
aggressive phrases people use at work. I would like to
think that most folks are unintentionally passive aggressive, Like I
don't want to think people are passive.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
Aggressive on purpose.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
I would really hope that because then you're just miserable,
like you're just a miserable person starting off the top
of the list.
Speaker 1 (03:16):
Per my last email.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
They say it's often conveyed as passive aggressive because it
shows irritation. The person received the email may read this
sentence as did you even read my last email? I
already explained everything in it. They say it can seek
to a sign blame when it's more efficient to just
move on and try to actually solve the problem. They say,
(03:39):
instead of saying per my last email, you can say
I'm checking the CV, I had a chance to look
at blank, YadA, YadA. I do think too. Sometimes you
can hit with the per my last email and in
their last email they didn't explain the thing you want anyway,
so it's almost like double do you know what I mean?
(04:00):
Like per last email? My brother, your last email also sucked.
Your last email also didn't answer anything, you know what
I mean? That to me is one of the most
annoying things ever, when you get the per my last
email and it's like, yeah, it wasn't there. The next
one is dropping me not sure you saw my last message.
So they say it's passive aggressive on the user end.
(04:22):
When we're getting some of these not sure we saw
last message type things.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
The person could feel scolded or.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
Ashamed, maybe feeling dismissed and not really feeling supported. They say,
were they irritated? They just mean just circling back, more
positive kind of way to go. They say it's harmful,
it's a nutshell. It can be passive aggressive. The tone
is there can be completely misconstrued or misused. Instead say
something like I wanted to follow up on the note
(04:48):
I sent last week. Yeah, I mean, I'm gonna be honest,
I don't necessarily mind when I get that message right,
especially if I missed it. Like, that's my problem. I'm
my problem personally is I will mentally respond to emails
and texts and all those things and then completely forget
(05:08):
to respond. That's number one. Number two is like I
also have like a lot of notifications, Like I like,
I'll look at email my computer, but I'll go forward
again on my phone to make sure. I like, I'll
circle back myself on my own email to make sure
I didn't miss something down the line. Like that's kind
of how I go. So to me, it really depends
(05:28):
on if you like the person or not, right, Because
if you like somebody and you think they're a good
worker and you want to talk to them. If they
send you a not sure if you saw my last message,
I'll be like, oh, shoot, you know what I didn't.
If it's somebody I don't like and they send I'm like, yeah,
I saw your last message. You're still a moron, You're
still dumb.
Speaker 1 (05:47):
You know.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
The next one is just circling back. They say, give
them the situation wherever the emails about. They say it
could be super friendly, but also come across as someone
being irritated and could sound kind of kind of sending.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
Yeah, but I don't know.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
Like to me, it's like if I was told that
you can give me an answer in a week and
here we are a week and a half later. I
don't think that's bad. Don't give me a timeline or
something and then either blow past the timeline or not
follow the timeline, you know what I mean. Like, I'll like,
if somebody says, like, hey, watching a Friday. Friday comes,
(06:26):
I'll wait till like Tuesday or Wednesday, like hey, kind
of circle back. And to me, that's like a if
you are at fault where they were waiting on you,
I don't think he can be really mad that you know,
it's not like, hey, I've been waiting for your ass.
That to me is like the nice like I'm nudging you,
just gonna let you know. The last one they have
(06:46):
is please advise. They say, throwing the two word please
advise an email or even a conversation during the meeting
is anything but ideal. While the word the word, the
use of the word please to make it sound like
it's being pulite, it's actually passive aggressive. They say they
can take this as a science. Someone's irritated. They say,
it wouldn't naturally be somebody that I would want to
(07:09):
converse with or have a happy relationship with. I again,
I don't know, like I think it depends on the person, right,
because I feel like I've used please advise before when
it's like, hey, I don't know what to do, like
your thoughts. But also there's been times where it's like
you can tell like if it's like a problem that
(07:29):
you're dealing with the work, and it's like, hey, I've
very done this way, this way, this way, how do
you want me to do it?
Speaker 1 (07:34):
Please advise?
Speaker 2 (07:35):
Where it is kind of like I guess it can
be used as a if you're so smart, show me,
like one of those vibes like, hey, if you're so smart,
know how to do it? Show me, please please advise
me how to do it. If you're so smart again
to me. All these really go back to who the
person is in the office. I think if it's somebody
(07:56):
you care about, somebody you like, somebody you think generally
has they're head on straight, you're willing to look the
other way. If it is somebody who is dumb and
barely does their work, you're probably gonna hold it against them.
Speaker 1 (08:08):
Just saying if you get a chance.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
By the way, you can still get my showy album
internshioncomedy dot com.
Speaker 1 (08:14):
We'll see you Wednesday.
And a happy Monday. Friend.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
Welcome to the thought Shower intern John is my name,
appreciate you listen hopefully. I having a good weekend so far.
Did a little bachelor party action in Mexico. Was a
lot of fun. I mentioned this on the show, but
I want to say it again. A bachelor party with
a great group of guys, and I got a shout
my good friend DJ Ries for well, it's his bachelor party,
so of course he put together. But he had a
(00:23):
rule for the bachelor party group text that I think
should be the standard across all group texts.
Speaker 1 (00:30):
He put us all in it.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
It's like seven or eight guys and he said, hey,
nobody react to any messages, meaning like, don't like a message,
don't emoji a message, because that is a pain in
the butt when you get like thirty notifications from people
liking a message. I thought about him, like this is
so brilliant, Like that makes all the sense in the world,
because there is nothing more annoying than waking up to
(00:52):
like forty different notifications and it's all like, oh, Billy
liked this text. Billy liked this text, so very exciting.
I think, you know, basche of parties. Are interesting. I
do think there was that stigma for a while, like, oh,
you have to go to Vegas, you have to drink
your ass off every day, you have to be hungover
every day and just have a miserable time. This was
(01:15):
a nice resort in Mexico. Golf course on the resort,
on the water, and like everybody kind of go and
do your own thing. You want golf, go golf. You
want to stay in, stay in, you want to go
to the pool, go to the pool. I do like
the moving away from doing that. I've thought about now
I'm a long ways away from a bachelor party because
a guy I get a girlfriend engaged and go from there.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
I thought about, how like I love.
Speaker 2 (01:42):
Going to West Virginia, Like for me, getting a bunch
of guys, get a great cabin on a lake. That
would be like ideal bachelor party, just kind of hang out, drink,
smoke cigars, whatever, you know. I'd mentioned. My brother's bachelor
party went to New Orleans. We had like one night
on Bourbon Street that was a lot of fun. Next
day we did deep sea fishing, perfect hoodies. Bachelor party.
(02:03):
We went to Philadelphia, had like a night in the town.
We went to WrestleMania was perfect, Like it gave me
time to you could do other things during the day.
You didn't have to just be set on the bachelor party.
I thought that was like the ideal way to go.
Now again, I'm a long ways away from that, you know,
like we uh, there's no play on the horizon for me.
(02:27):
You know, I might be the bachelor uncle. We shall see.
But that's my advice when it comes to bachel parties
bachelorette parties, really do what you.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
Want to do.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
Don't do what you think you're supposed to do, if
that makes sense, like you don't if you're a bachelor party,
bachelrett party, you just want nap all weekend.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
By all means, nap all weekend. Do what makes you happy.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
I think we I do more of that in twenty
twenty five and honestly beyond too. Let me get to
this for your Monday though. The four most common passive
aggressive phrases people use at work. I would like to
think that most folks are unintentionally passive aggressive, Like I
don't want to think people are passive.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
Aggressive on purpose.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
I would really hope that because then you're just miserable,
like you're just a miserable person starting off the top
of the list.
Speaker 1 (03:16):
Per my last email.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
They say it's often conveyed as passive aggressive because it
shows irritation. The person received the email may read this
sentence as did you even read my last email? I
already explained everything in it. They say it can seek
to a sign blame when it's more efficient to just
move on and try to actually solve the problem. They say,
(03:39):
instead of saying per my last email, you can say
I'm checking the CV, I had a chance to look
at blank, YadA, YadA. I do think too. Sometimes you
can hit with the per my last email and in
their last email they didn't explain the thing you want anyway,
so it's almost like double do you know what I mean?
(04:00):
Like per last email? My brother, your last email also sucked.
Your last email also didn't answer anything, you know what
I mean? That to me is one of the most
annoying things ever, when you get the per my last
email and it's like, yeah, it wasn't there. The next
one is dropping me not sure you saw my last message.
So they say it's passive aggressive on the user end.
(04:22):
When we're getting some of these not sure we saw
last message type things.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
The person could feel scolded or.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
Ashamed, maybe feeling dismissed and not really feeling supported. They say,
were they irritated? They just mean just circling back, more
positive kind of way to go. They say it's harmful,
it's a nutshell. It can be passive aggressive. The tone
is there can be completely misconstrued or misused. Instead say
something like I wanted to follow up on the note
(04:48):
I sent last week. Yeah, I mean, I'm gonna be honest,
I don't necessarily mind when I get that message right,
especially if I missed it. Like, that's my problem. I'm
my problem personally is I will mentally respond to emails
and texts and all those things and then completely forget
(05:08):
to respond. That's number one. Number two is like I
also have like a lot of notifications, Like I like,
I'll look at email my computer, but I'll go forward
again on my phone to make sure. I like, I'll
circle back myself on my own email to make sure
I didn't miss something down the line. Like that's kind
of how I go. So to me, it really depends
(05:28):
on if you like the person or not, right, Because
if you like somebody and you think they're a good
worker and you want to talk to them. If they
send you a not sure if you saw my last message,
I'll be like, oh, shoot, you know what I didn't.
If it's somebody I don't like and they send I'm like, yeah,
I saw your last message. You're still a moron, You're
still dumb.
Speaker 1 (05:47):
You know.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
The next one is just circling back. They say, give
them the situation wherever the emails about. They say it
could be super friendly, but also come across as someone
being irritated and could sound kind of kind of sending.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
Yeah, but I don't know.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
Like to me, it's like if I was told that
you can give me an answer in a week and
here we are a week and a half later. I
don't think that's bad. Don't give me a timeline or
something and then either blow past the timeline or not
follow the timeline, you know what I mean. Like, I'll like,
if somebody says, like, hey, watching a Friday. Friday comes,
(06:26):
I'll wait till like Tuesday or Wednesday, like hey, kind
of circle back. And to me, that's like a if
you are at fault where they were waiting on you,
I don't think he can be really mad that you know,
it's not like, hey, I've been waiting for your ass.
That to me is like the nice like I'm nudging you,
just gonna let you know. The last one they have
(06:46):
is please advise. They say, throwing the two word please
advise an email or even a conversation during the meeting
is anything but ideal. While the word the word, the
use of the word please to make it sound like
it's being pulite, it's actually passive aggressive. They say they
can take this as a science. Someone's irritated. They say,
it wouldn't naturally be somebody that I would want to
(07:09):
converse with or have a happy relationship with. I again,
I don't know, like I think it depends on the person, right,
because I feel like I've used please advise before when
it's like, hey, I don't know what to do, like
your thoughts. But also there's been times where it's like
you can tell like if it's like a problem that
(07:29):
you're dealing with the work, and it's like, hey, I've
very done this way, this way, this way, how do
you want me to do it?
Speaker 1 (07:34):
Please advise?
Speaker 2 (07:35):
Where it is kind of like I guess it can
be used as a if you're so smart, show me,
like one of those vibes like, hey, if you're so smart,
know how to do it? Show me, please please advise
me how to do it. If you're so smart again
to me. All these really go back to who the
person is in the office. I think if it's somebody
(07:56):
you care about, somebody you like, somebody you think generally
has they're head on straight, you're willing to look the
other way. If it is somebody who is dumb and
barely does their work, you're probably gonna hold it against them.
Speaker 1 (08:08):
Just saying if you get a chance.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
By the way, you can still get my showy album
internshioncomedy dot com.
Speaker 1 (08:14):
We'll see you Wednesday.
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