June 6, 2025 • 10 mins
On this episode of The Thought Shower, Intern John talks about why we start to pull out!
Intern John's "Chuy Forever" is a weekend of comedy shows 6/20 & 6/21 in Arlington, Va benefitting Warrior Canine Connection. They train puppies to be service animals for veterans! Tickets are on sale now, InternJohnComedy.com
Every week Intern John discusses adulting, dating, radio life, and more! You can follow Intern John on social media: @InternJohnRadio. You can listen to past episodes at TheThoughtShower.com
Intern John's "Chuy Forever" is a weekend of comedy shows 6/20 & 6/21 in Arlington, Va benefitting Warrior Canine Connection. They train puppies to be service animals for veterans! Tickets are on sale now, InternJohnComedy.com
Every week Intern John discusses adulting, dating, radio life, and more! You can follow Intern John on social media: @InternJohnRadio. You can listen to past episodes at TheThoughtShower.com
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
And a Happy Friday friend. Welcome to the Thought Shower.
Intern John is my name. Huge thanks to everyone who watched.
So yesterday I was on Fox five in DC, which
was very exciting meeting that crew for the first time
working with them. It's always I enjoy being the guest
(00:21):
on somebody's show because it is like a completely different
type of feeling, if you will, Like when you're hosting
the show, the pressures on you to keep the conversation going,
to keep everybody engaged, and to make sure it's good.
When you're like the guest, you get to have fun,
(00:43):
you know what I mean. It's kind of get to
have fun and vibe. So it was a little nerve
racking because the folks of Fox five, I've only watched
them before, I have not had a chance to meet
most of them, and so didn't know what to expect.
They were amazing, was a lot of fun. I would
love to do it again. And it's always fun too,
like you know, with with my show and with the
(01:06):
podcasts and comedy stuff, like I kind of know, like
I kind of I know the audience and I know
like what the audience likes, what would be considered too far,
but when you do like a different show or something new,
you don't quite know, so you never quite know how
far to push it. So the first time doing anybody's show,
I'm always like very not that I'm not play other times,
(01:30):
but very like reserved and let's hang around and see
what goes on. But it was it was lovely. So
big weekend this weekend, we had two weekends left for
the comedy show's crazy been going over the merch the
merch is sick, and then hopefully the plans to kind
of work on that. We have the Pride Parade on Saturday.
It can be a lot of fun. And then I'm
(01:50):
trying to work on like been running through the routine.
But I'll do it while doing like like I'll do
my walks like I'll take skills for a walk, and
I try to do it like then so that I
can do it while i'm win did like I saw
once Miley Cyrus says this. I know other people do
it too, but they'll like some artists will run on
(02:12):
treadmill while singing their concert songs to get ready for
like the breathing so they don't sound like on stage,
which I was like, oh, that's probably good idea. I
should probably do that. Not that I am a world
class artiste, but uh, anyway, I'm excited. Show is gonna
be a lot of fun to get a chance Internshooncomedy
(02:34):
dot com to grab your tickets. Gonna be a fantastic
weekend with a fantastic cause raising money for the Warrior
Knine Connection. Internsjooncomedy dot Com. Let's get to this for
your Friday. The way you're subconsciously trying to end your relationship, Golly,
at some point has everybody felt this. I think that's
(02:58):
more than the fair assessment. Starting with you stop bringing
up the little things. Used to mention little things, and
they say mainly like things that bothered you, like closing
the floor, tone, whatever it is. Now you let it slide.
They say, it's not forgiveness, it's quiet withdrawal. I think
(03:18):
that I've been in relationships where I've felt that way,
where it's like it's not even worth the fight, you
know what I mean, And now in hindsight it is like,
oh it's okay. I was definitely just like checking out
maybe so to speak, like it's not worth having the argument,
it's not worth trying to fix it's broken, so let's
(03:41):
just keep it going. If that makes sense, I think
that's yeah huge. If you fancize more about freedom than intimacy,
I do think that even the happiest relationships sometimes like, well,
I guess it would be nice if I could just do,
you know, whatever I wanted to do. However, though, if
you daydreams or less about wild romance more about waking
up alone in a quiet apartment, Uh yeah, they say,
(04:04):
don't crazy someone new you create not having to consider
someone else. Being emotionally exhausted starts showing up as escapism.
I've been there. It can be taxing, right when like
your relationship does take a lot out of you. It's
a very taxing thing. I certainly do understand that. Yeah,
(04:27):
the grass is greener syndrome. Again. I think the key
point is they're not saying that there's like, oh, there's
somebody else. It's like, no, I just I just know
that that's not it. I want to kind of be alone.
If you avoid eye contact during vulnerable moments, yeah yeah,
when they open up, you glance at your phone or
stare past them. You're physically present but emotionally checked out.
(04:50):
They say, avoid eye contacts in a subtle way of saying,
I can't hold space for this anymore. I do think
that makes sense, Like, yeah, it's like your body subconsciously
is like, hey, we should just keep this to ourselves.
And that's a huge thing, right, that's a huge sign
where you don't want to work on things. You don't
(05:11):
have that conversation again, probably because you know it's not
worth it. You know, if you keep little secrets to yourself, Damn.
They say it's not cheating, it's just not mentioning who
texted you or how much you spent. These omissions are
actually walls. I talked with this with the show a
couple of days ago. But like, I was in a
(05:31):
relationship where I had gotten an award at work and
I just had it in my garage and the person
I was seeing was like, when did you get this?
I was like, oh, yeah, they gave it to me
like a month ago. And they're like, why didn't you
tell me? And I was like, oh, yeah, I don't know.
And that was kind of a huge flag where I
(05:53):
was like, why why didn't I tell you? I don't know.
Did I think that I wouldn't get the response that
I wanted. Maybe that I think that I don't know,
like I got enough recognition at work. I don't know.
But that was a bit of a huh. Okay, if
(06:14):
you share more with others than your spouse, I mean
yeah to that point. And my last thing. They've always
said that if you find yourself wanting to tell somebody
else gossip or news before your person, that's not a
good sign. I completely get. That makes perfect sense, especially too,
(06:36):
I do think that towards the end of a relationship,
maybe you're not as interested in your person's gossip. Right,
So that if if like, if you have gossip about
work but your person hasn't given you the feedback you wanted,
I'm not even gonna bother telling them. It's not gonna care,
you know. I do think that happens. I do think
(06:56):
that's a problem. Dude, this one too. You feel relief
when they leave the house, duh. They say, it's not
just space, it's peace. Their absence doesn't just offer quiet,
it offers relief. That relief exposes just how heavy their
presence has become. Again, it sucks to say out loud, right,
(07:18):
but everybody's felt that at some point could be with romantic,
could be with a friend, could be with a family
where it's like they just drain you and drain you,
and it is like, yeah, once they're not around, it's like, Okay,
I can finally breathe. Now I can finally just kind
(07:38):
of be me again. It's not a great thing to say,
but I get it now. You did too. You don't
correct people who assume you're single. Damn they that's not good.
Some enforce with you or assume as you got married.
You don't correct them, not because you're cheating, because it
(07:59):
feels nice to be as free. You're not wearing your
relationship publicly anymore. I mean that, to me, of all
these is probably the most like disrespectful, right, you know,
if you like let somebody think that you're single. And
by the way, my life is weird. I get that
(08:21):
this has happened to me before with other people. And
then like we've gotten really far into like talking, whether
it's out or online, and they drop they have a
boyfriend or husband. I'm like yo, and like, well that
shouldn't make a difference. We could just be friends. I'm like,
that is so weird, Like you would not be okay
if he was doing that to you. You know what
(08:41):
I mean, go Lee, you no longer argue you because
you just don't care. I think that this is the
the huge thing. Right If you're not arguing to me,
I think it's because you know it's over, and so
it's like, why invest further? Why try to fix something?
(09:03):
If like it'd be like if your car needed new breaks,
but you were gonna trade the car in any way,
would you get new breaks? Probably not. You know. It's
like why would I or if I was gonna be
moving out of my place when I want to put
a giant pool in the backyard, you know, probably not
because I'm out of here, you know what I mean.
(09:26):
I think that might be the biggest science. Like, yeah,
you get to the point you just don't care. I've
always said, you know, the modo of the show happy
and healthy. So we want for you, Uh, if you're
not happy, Life's too short, man, it is. And I
know you can think like, oh, it's starting over and
I've you know, spent so much time. I'm too old
(09:47):
to that point. If I was on a cruise ship
and it started to sink, I'm not gonna say to myself,
I want to spend too much time and money. I'm
gonna get my money's worth in this cruise. I'm getting
the hell off the boat. Dude, you should too. Shall
set your comedy tickets see that segue Internshooncomedy dot com
June twentieth. June twenty first, the Arlington Draft House. Love
(10:11):
to see you there. Have a great weekends. Thought Shower
And a Happy Friday friend. Welcome to the Thought Shower.
Intern John is my name. Huge thanks to everyone who watched.
So yesterday I was on Fox five in DC, which
was very exciting meeting that crew for the first time
working with them. It's always I enjoy being the guest
(00:21):
on somebody's show because it is like a completely different
type of feeling, if you will, Like when you're hosting
the show, the pressures on you to keep the conversation going,
to keep everybody engaged, and to make sure it's good.
When you're like the guest, you get to have fun,
(00:43):
you know what I mean. It's kind of get to
have fun and vibe. So it was a little nerve
racking because the folks of Fox five, I've only watched
them before, I have not had a chance to meet
most of them, and so didn't know what to expect.
They were amazing, was a lot of fun. I would
love to do it again. And it's always fun too,
like you know, with with my show and with the
(01:06):
podcasts and comedy stuff, like I kind of know, like
I kind of I know the audience and I know
like what the audience likes, what would be considered too far,
but when you do like a different show or something new,
you don't quite know, so you never quite know how
far to push it. So the first time doing anybody's show,
I'm always like very not that I'm not play other times,
(01:30):
but very like reserved and let's hang around and see
what goes on. But it was it was lovely. So
big weekend this weekend, we had two weekends left for
the comedy show's crazy been going over the merch the
merch is sick, and then hopefully the plans to kind
of work on that. We have the Pride Parade on Saturday.
It can be a lot of fun. And then I'm
(01:50):
trying to work on like been running through the routine.
But I'll do it while doing like like I'll do
my walks like I'll take skills for a walk, and
I try to do it like then so that I
can do it while i'm win did like I saw
once Miley Cyrus says this. I know other people do
it too, but they'll like some artists will run on
(02:12):
treadmill while singing their concert songs to get ready for
like the breathing so they don't sound like on stage,
which I was like, oh, that's probably good idea. I
should probably do that. Not that I am a world
class artiste, but uh, anyway, I'm excited. Show is gonna
be a lot of fun to get a chance Internshooncomedy
(02:34):
dot com to grab your tickets. Gonna be a fantastic
weekend with a fantastic cause raising money for the Warrior
Knine Connection. Internsjooncomedy dot Com. Let's get to this for
your Friday. The way you're subconsciously trying to end your relationship, Golly,
at some point has everybody felt this. I think that's
(02:58):
more than the fair assessment. Starting with you stop bringing
up the little things. Used to mention little things, and
they say mainly like things that bothered you, like closing
the floor, tone, whatever it is. Now you let it slide.
They say, it's not forgiveness, it's quiet withdrawal. I think
(03:18):
that I've been in relationships where I've felt that way,
where it's like it's not even worth the fight, you
know what I mean, And now in hindsight it is like,
oh it's okay. I was definitely just like checking out
maybe so to speak, like it's not worth having the argument,
it's not worth trying to fix it's broken, so let's
(03:41):
just keep it going. If that makes sense, I think
that's yeah huge. If you fancize more about freedom than intimacy,
I do think that even the happiest relationships sometimes like, well,
I guess it would be nice if I could just do,
you know, whatever I wanted to do. However, though, if
you daydreams or less about wild romance more about waking
up alone in a quiet apartment, Uh yeah, they say,
(04:04):
don't crazy someone new you create not having to consider
someone else. Being emotionally exhausted starts showing up as escapism.
I've been there. It can be taxing, right when like
your relationship does take a lot out of you. It's
a very taxing thing. I certainly do understand that. Yeah,
(04:27):
the grass is greener syndrome. Again. I think the key
point is they're not saying that there's like, oh, there's
somebody else. It's like, no, I just I just know
that that's not it. I want to kind of be alone.
If you avoid eye contact during vulnerable moments, yeah yeah,
when they open up, you glance at your phone or
stare past them. You're physically present but emotionally checked out.
(04:50):
They say, avoid eye contacts in a subtle way of saying,
I can't hold space for this anymore. I do think
that makes sense, Like, yeah, it's like your body subconsciously
is like, hey, we should just keep this to ourselves.
And that's a huge thing, right, that's a huge sign
where you don't want to work on things. You don't
(05:11):
have that conversation again, probably because you know it's not
worth it. You know, if you keep little secrets to yourself, Damn.
They say it's not cheating, it's just not mentioning who
texted you or how much you spent. These omissions are
actually walls. I talked with this with the show a
couple of days ago. But like, I was in a
(05:31):
relationship where I had gotten an award at work and
I just had it in my garage and the person
I was seeing was like, when did you get this?
I was like, oh, yeah, they gave it to me
like a month ago. And they're like, why didn't you
tell me? And I was like, oh, yeah, I don't know.
And that was kind of a huge flag where I
(05:53):
was like, why why didn't I tell you? I don't know.
Did I think that I wouldn't get the response that
I wanted. Maybe that I think that I don't know,
like I got enough recognition at work. I don't know.
But that was a bit of a huh. Okay, if
(06:14):
you share more with others than your spouse, I mean
yeah to that point. And my last thing. They've always
said that if you find yourself wanting to tell somebody
else gossip or news before your person, that's not a
good sign. I completely get. That makes perfect sense, especially too,
(06:36):
I do think that towards the end of a relationship,
maybe you're not as interested in your person's gossip. Right,
So that if if like, if you have gossip about
work but your person hasn't given you the feedback you wanted,
I'm not even gonna bother telling them. It's not gonna care,
you know. I do think that happens. I do think
(06:56):
that's a problem. Dude, this one too. You feel relief
when they leave the house, duh. They say, it's not
just space, it's peace. Their absence doesn't just offer quiet,
it offers relief. That relief exposes just how heavy their
presence has become. Again, it sucks to say out loud, right,
(07:18):
but everybody's felt that at some point could be with romantic,
could be with a friend, could be with a family
where it's like they just drain you and drain you,
and it is like, yeah, once they're not around, it's like, Okay,
I can finally breathe. Now I can finally just kind
(07:38):
of be me again. It's not a great thing to say,
but I get it now. You did too. You don't
correct people who assume you're single. Damn they that's not good.
Some enforce with you or assume as you got married.
You don't correct them, not because you're cheating, because it
(07:59):
feels nice to be as free. You're not wearing your
relationship publicly anymore. I mean that, to me, of all
these is probably the most like disrespectful, right, you know,
if you like let somebody think that you're single. And
by the way, my life is weird. I get that
(08:21):
this has happened to me before with other people. And
then like we've gotten really far into like talking, whether
it's out or online, and they drop they have a
boyfriend or husband. I'm like yo, and like, well that
shouldn't make a difference. We could just be friends. I'm like,
that is so weird, Like you would not be okay
if he was doing that to you. You know what
(08:41):
I mean, go Lee, you no longer argue you because
you just don't care. I think that this is the
the huge thing. Right If you're not arguing to me,
I think it's because you know it's over, and so
it's like, why invest further? Why try to fix something?
(09:03):
If like it'd be like if your car needed new breaks,
but you were gonna trade the car in any way,
would you get new breaks? Probably not. You know. It's
like why would I or if I was gonna be
moving out of my place when I want to put
a giant pool in the backyard, you know, probably not
because I'm out of here, you know what I mean.
(09:26):
I think that might be the biggest science. Like, yeah,
you get to the point you just don't care. I've
always said, you know, the modo of the show happy
and healthy. So we want for you, Uh, if you're
not happy, Life's too short, man, it is. And I
know you can think like, oh, it's starting over and
I've you know, spent so much time. I'm too old
(09:47):
to that point. If I was on a cruise ship
and it started to sink, I'm not gonna say to myself,
I want to spend too much time and money. I'm
gonna get my money's worth in this cruise. I'm getting
the hell off the boat. Dude, you should too. Shall
set your comedy tickets see that segue Internshooncomedy dot com
June twentieth. June twenty first, the Arlington Draft House. Love
(10:11):
to see you there. Have a great weekends. Thought Shower
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