June 13, 2025 • 10 mins
On this episode of The Thought Shower, Intern John talks about how men get pushed away
Intern John's "Chuy Forever" is a weekend of comedy shows 6/20 & 6/21 in Arlington, Va benefitting Warrior Canine Connection. They train puppies to be service animals for veterans! Tickets are on sale now, InternJohnComedy.com
Every week Intern John discusses adulting, dating, radio life, and more! You can follow Intern John on social media: @InternJohnRadio. You can listen to past episodes at TheThoughtShower.com
Intern John's "Chuy Forever" is a weekend of comedy shows 6/20 & 6/21 in Arlington, Va benefitting Warrior Canine Connection. They train puppies to be service animals for veterans! Tickets are on sale now, InternJohnComedy.com
Every week Intern John discusses adulting, dating, radio life, and more! You can follow Intern John on social media: @InternJohnRadio. You can listen to past episodes at TheThoughtShower.com
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
And a happy Friday friend. Welcome to the thought Shower.
Intern John is my name. Was a busy week this week.
We had a hockey camp. It's my ninth season I
think at Georgetown Prep and started camp this week. Was
nice to see some of the freshmen come in the
class of twenty twenty nine. My god, it's a real year.
(00:25):
Sounds bad, looks worse, but that was fun having some
of the old kids the older kids too, and then
kids that graduate come back to coach. Always very exciting.
Starting to feel old a little bit when when the
kids from our first graduating class is now coaching. It's like,
WHOA been doing this for a while, you know, But
(00:46):
it's been It's been a lot of fun. The scheduling
sucks because the hockey camp starts at ten fifteen each morning,
so I have to book it after the show to
get to the rink for an hour and a half.
Usually have some time. Usually during the actual hockey season,
your practice is at like six or seven, so I can, like,
you know, go to the gym, take care of things,
(01:08):
but not this week. This is the last day, should
be good to go. Then the plan this weekend is
really to run the set I've been. You know, we're
a week away from my Chewy Forever shows, and I've
never been more confident in a piece of material I've done.
And I don't know why that is. I don't know,
(01:30):
I don't know, you know, Usually at this point I'm
kind of freaking out seven days out, like, oh God, well,
I get enough done, will be good enough for whatever reason.
Like the dry runs and not to jinx myself have
been really good, at least in my mind, you know.
And it's a bit never reckoned because I don't test
(01:51):
the jokes on anybody before the shows, like most comedians
will do a bunch of other shows till I get
warmed up and see what works. I don't do that.
I just kind of go for it. And the reason
has always been because I know what I think is funny,
and I wouldn't want to tell a joke to somebody
a comedy It's like you have to be in the
(02:12):
right frame of mind to laugh at a joke. You know.
There's something about being at a comedy show where you know
you're supposed to laugh, like you know, like this is
gonna be funny. I'm here to laugh, and if you
tell somebody a joke not at comedies like situation, it
rarely lands as well. Even if you watch a comedy special,
(02:33):
like you never really laugh out loud that much by yourself,
Like you need other people with you to laugh. It's
a weird thing if you notice that. If you ever
watch a comedy show at home on Netflix, it's like
you might get the you know, they breathing out of
your nose, but rarely laughing. So I'm very excited for
these shows. It's gonna be a special weekend, you know,
(02:54):
a way to memorialize Shoey and help out the word
canine connection.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
There's a few tickets to laugh. Uh.
Speaker 1 (03:00):
I've mentioned before this is the last the last run,
which is scary. I don't have a scary as a word,
but which is that.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
It's kind of an emotional thing too.
Speaker 1 (03:12):
I think the comedy show has certainly helped me get
to where I am today. Podcasts as well. I'm not
sure I'd be doing the show without either of these things.
So it is kind of a it's an emotional weekend,
but it's gonna be a fun weekend. Internsgoncomedy dot com
get your Last Man tickets next Friday and Saturday, let
me get this for your Friday too. They havebits that
(03:33):
turn men off, According psychologists, I'll go through these as
a deal to feel qualified. Being a bit too needy,
they say, if you're texting him constantly to check in
or feeling anxious when he's not around, it can come
across as clingy. Instead, try to brace your independence. I
agree with this. I had an next girlfriend who needed
(03:56):
to talk to me all the time and needed to
be around me all the time, and I remember thinking
and saying, We're like, hey, I'm very busy.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
Man, this reality of it.
Speaker 1 (04:05):
But I I can't be the only source of your happiness.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
Also, I don't want to be.
Speaker 1 (04:11):
It's a lot of pressure upon somebody, Like you need
your own things, like your own friend groups, your own hobbies.
I don't want to do that. No, thank you. Playing
mind games yeah, they say a teasing can be fun.
Mind games not so much. If you're intentionally informed with
others to get rise of them. It's only gonna cause
unecessary drama. I had that same X. We had a
(04:34):
fight once because she's like, you never get jealous. I
don't excuse me. She's like, yeah, you never, you ever
get jealous? I was like, well, I don't really see
the point getting jealous, because like, if you're gonna cheat,
you're gonna cheat regardless, So why should I waste my
time being jealous? Also, like looking back, it's like, why
would you want me to be jealous? You know what
(04:55):
I mean? Like, why would I would have want that?
Being self absorbed, having self confidence is important. But feel
if it feels like every chat circles back to you,
he might start to feel ignored. I think that's fair.
They say, men love it when a partner showed genuine
interest in their lives too. Obviously it goes both ways, right.
(05:16):
You do want to feel like the person you're dating
is into you, you know what I mean? Like I
was talking to a friend once and I was like, Hey,
if you want a guy to be your if you
want to be treated like a princess, you gotta treat
him like the night and shining armor, you know what
I mean. Like, if you treat a guy like he
(05:36):
is a hero, and like he is you know he's
there to save you, like he's doing a great job,
he'll do more things of it.
Speaker 2 (05:43):
For sure.
Speaker 1 (05:44):
You will bringing up your ex too often? Yeah, yeah,
they say, it's normal to mention X once in a while,
but they keep kind up with conversations and as a message
you're not over it. A focus on building your current relationship. Yeah,
I think that's weird, and I've had it's an odd
thing where, you know, I've dated somebody who would talk
(06:06):
about the trauma of their ex but then also talk
about really positive things that happen. I'm like, well, I
don't think you can pick one either way, and it's
very confusing. It's a very confusing thing. I want to
hear about the xes personally, I don't think you want
to hear about mine. Mainly it's because it's like, yeah,
it's in the past, Like who who cares? Trying to
(06:29):
change him?
Speaker 2 (06:31):
Oh boy? They say, we all have our quirks.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
And while that's fine that preferences, trying to change his
habits or personality can lead to resentment. I do think
that is a situation where, yeah, because that kind of
leads into if a dude feels like nothing he does
is right, then he's gonna stop trying. You know, like
(06:54):
you're trying to change every little thing. I think that
you know, for every negative thing you bring up, Yeah,
bring up like ten ten positives, because then it will
just kind of seemed like, Okay, I'm not enough. Yeah,
I've had that again with an X of four. We
tried to like change things about me. I remember saying like, hey,
like I've done pretty well for myself, you know what
(07:15):
I mean, Like I'm doing pretty good and not like money,
but like career wise and like decision making. It's like
I've done pretty well for myself. Like I have more
life experience than you do. Uh, there's nothing we need
to change here. It's also like I've heard my female
(07:36):
friends say they want they want to be a challenge
to their man. No dude wants a challenge in a relationship.
Who wants that now? To be challenged to be better
is a little bit different, But like, I don't want
a challenge. Looks like life is hard enough already. Why
would I want intentionally to have a challenge?
Speaker 2 (07:55):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (07:56):
Lacking ambition, Yeah, that's a big one for me. Having
goals and aspirations is attractive. If you see aimless and
interested in your future, it might turn them off. They
say men look for partners who are passionate and driven. Yeah,
I think that to me kind of goes to like,
I can't be the only source of your happiness, you
know what I mean? Like and that that particular X
(08:19):
she didn't work on the summer or manage your phrase,
that she had summers off and would just hang around
I've talked to about before. We just hang around my
house and be like around me all the time. It's like, hey,
like I have things I need to do, you know, Yeah,
I think it's very attractive you have ambition. Yeah, Because
to me, again, I think it's just so important to
have your own thing, whether that thing is a reading club,
(08:41):
a workout class, whatever. Like, if your relationship is the
sole point of your happiness, you're gonna be miserable.
Speaker 2 (08:48):
You know.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
Last one is taking yourself too seriously. Yes, they say
life can be tough. If you can't laugh at yourself
once in a while, it might come across the wrong way.
I do think for me, like, the best relationship is
one where you can be yourself with somebody and you
can laugh and of inside jokes and that type of vibe.
A good sense of humor and the ability to share
(09:11):
a laugh as an underrated part of any relationship. I mean,
to me, that's just like the there's no healthy relationship
than you can laugh with the stupid stuff you know
where you know like, no matter what you two are
gonna do, it's gonna be a good time. There's no
better part in that. I fully agree. I would love
to see you next Friday, next Saturday, Arlington Draft House.
(09:33):
Grab your tickets. Internjooncomedy dot com. We do a meet
and great for the show with anybody who wants to
say hi, and then I think we're doing the after
party at Hide Social. It should be even more fun.
So you have a chance internshooncomedy dot com. I hope
you have a fantastic weekend. You can follow me at
intern John Radio. You can follow the show at YMS Radio.
(09:54):
This is the thought Shower. I will see you next Monday.
Speaker 2 (09:58):
Bybee
And a happy Friday friend. Welcome to the thought Shower.
Intern John is my name. Was a busy week this week.
We had a hockey camp. It's my ninth season I
think at Georgetown Prep and started camp this week. Was
nice to see some of the freshmen come in the
class of twenty twenty nine. My god, it's a real year.
(00:25):
Sounds bad, looks worse, but that was fun having some
of the old kids the older kids too, and then
kids that graduate come back to coach. Always very exciting.
Starting to feel old a little bit when when the
kids from our first graduating class is now coaching. It's like,
WHOA been doing this for a while, you know, But
(00:46):
it's been It's been a lot of fun. The scheduling
sucks because the hockey camp starts at ten fifteen each morning,
so I have to book it after the show to
get to the rink for an hour and a half.
Usually have some time. Usually during the actual hockey season,
your practice is at like six or seven, so I can, like,
you know, go to the gym, take care of things,
(01:08):
but not this week. This is the last day, should
be good to go. Then the plan this weekend is
really to run the set I've been. You know, we're
a week away from my Chewy Forever shows, and I've
never been more confident in a piece of material I've done.
And I don't know why that is. I don't know,
(01:30):
I don't know, you know, Usually at this point I'm
kind of freaking out seven days out, like, oh God, well,
I get enough done, will be good enough for whatever reason.
Like the dry runs and not to jinx myself have
been really good, at least in my mind, you know.
And it's a bit never reckoned because I don't test
(01:51):
the jokes on anybody before the shows, like most comedians
will do a bunch of other shows till I get
warmed up and see what works. I don't do that.
I just kind of go for it. And the reason
has always been because I know what I think is funny,
and I wouldn't want to tell a joke to somebody
a comedy It's like you have to be in the
(02:12):
right frame of mind to laugh at a joke. You know.
There's something about being at a comedy show where you know
you're supposed to laugh, like you know, like this is
gonna be funny. I'm here to laugh, and if you
tell somebody a joke not at comedies like situation, it
rarely lands as well. Even if you watch a comedy special,
(02:33):
like you never really laugh out loud that much by yourself,
Like you need other people with you to laugh. It's
a weird thing if you notice that. If you ever
watch a comedy show at home on Netflix, it's like
you might get the you know, they breathing out of
your nose, but rarely laughing. So I'm very excited for
these shows. It's gonna be a special weekend, you know,
(02:54):
a way to memorialize Shoey and help out the word
canine connection.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
There's a few tickets to laugh. Uh.
Speaker 1 (03:00):
I've mentioned before this is the last the last run,
which is scary. I don't have a scary as a word,
but which is that.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
It's kind of an emotional thing too.
Speaker 1 (03:12):
I think the comedy show has certainly helped me get
to where I am today. Podcasts as well. I'm not
sure I'd be doing the show without either of these things.
So it is kind of a it's an emotional weekend,
but it's gonna be a fun weekend. Internsgoncomedy dot com
get your Last Man tickets next Friday and Saturday, let
me get this for your Friday too. They havebits that
(03:33):
turn men off, According psychologists, I'll go through these as
a deal to feel qualified. Being a bit too needy,
they say, if you're texting him constantly to check in
or feeling anxious when he's not around, it can come
across as clingy. Instead, try to brace your independence. I
agree with this. I had an next girlfriend who needed
(03:56):
to talk to me all the time and needed to
be around me all the time, and I remember thinking
and saying, We're like, hey, I'm very busy.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
Man, this reality of it.
Speaker 1 (04:05):
But I I can't be the only source of your happiness.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
Also, I don't want to be.
Speaker 1 (04:11):
It's a lot of pressure upon somebody, Like you need
your own things, like your own friend groups, your own hobbies.
I don't want to do that. No, thank you. Playing
mind games yeah, they say a teasing can be fun.
Mind games not so much. If you're intentionally informed with
others to get rise of them. It's only gonna cause
unecessary drama. I had that same X. We had a
(04:34):
fight once because she's like, you never get jealous. I
don't excuse me. She's like, yeah, you never, you ever
get jealous? I was like, well, I don't really see
the point getting jealous, because like, if you're gonna cheat,
you're gonna cheat regardless, So why should I waste my
time being jealous? Also, like looking back, it's like, why
would you want me to be jealous? You know what
(04:55):
I mean? Like, why would I would have want that?
Being self absorbed, having self confidence is important. But feel
if it feels like every chat circles back to you,
he might start to feel ignored. I think that's fair.
They say, men love it when a partner showed genuine
interest in their lives too. Obviously it goes both ways, right.
(05:16):
You do want to feel like the person you're dating
is into you, you know what I mean? Like I
was talking to a friend once and I was like, Hey,
if you want a guy to be your if you
want to be treated like a princess, you gotta treat
him like the night and shining armor, you know what
I mean. Like, if you treat a guy like he
(05:36):
is a hero, and like he is you know he's
there to save you, like he's doing a great job,
he'll do more things of it.
Speaker 2 (05:43):
For sure.
Speaker 1 (05:44):
You will bringing up your ex too often? Yeah, yeah,
they say, it's normal to mention X once in a while,
but they keep kind up with conversations and as a message
you're not over it. A focus on building your current relationship. Yeah,
I think that's weird, and I've had it's an odd
thing where, you know, I've dated somebody who would talk
(06:06):
about the trauma of their ex but then also talk
about really positive things that happen. I'm like, well, I
don't think you can pick one either way, and it's
very confusing. It's a very confusing thing. I want to
hear about the xes personally, I don't think you want
to hear about mine. Mainly it's because it's like, yeah,
it's in the past, Like who who cares? Trying to
(06:29):
change him?
Speaker 2 (06:31):
Oh boy? They say, we all have our quirks.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
And while that's fine that preferences, trying to change his
habits or personality can lead to resentment. I do think
that is a situation where, yeah, because that kind of
leads into if a dude feels like nothing he does
is right, then he's gonna stop trying. You know, like
(06:54):
you're trying to change every little thing. I think that
you know, for every negative thing you bring up, Yeah,
bring up like ten ten positives, because then it will
just kind of seemed like, Okay, I'm not enough. Yeah,
I've had that again with an X of four. We
tried to like change things about me. I remember saying like, hey,
like I've done pretty well for myself, you know what
(07:15):
I mean, Like I'm doing pretty good and not like money,
but like career wise and like decision making. It's like
I've done pretty well for myself. Like I have more
life experience than you do. Uh, there's nothing we need
to change here. It's also like I've heard my female
(07:36):
friends say they want they want to be a challenge
to their man. No dude wants a challenge in a relationship.
Who wants that now? To be challenged to be better
is a little bit different, But like, I don't want
a challenge. Looks like life is hard enough already. Why
would I want intentionally to have a challenge?
Speaker 2 (07:55):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (07:56):
Lacking ambition, Yeah, that's a big one for me. Having
goals and aspirations is attractive. If you see aimless and
interested in your future, it might turn them off. They
say men look for partners who are passionate and driven. Yeah,
I think that to me kind of goes to like,
I can't be the only source of your happiness, you
know what I mean? Like and that that particular X
(08:19):
she didn't work on the summer or manage your phrase,
that she had summers off and would just hang around
I've talked to about before. We just hang around my
house and be like around me all the time. It's like, hey,
like I have things I need to do, you know, Yeah,
I think it's very attractive you have ambition. Yeah, Because
to me, again, I think it's just so important to
have your own thing, whether that thing is a reading club,
(08:41):
a workout class, whatever. Like, if your relationship is the
sole point of your happiness, you're gonna be miserable.
Speaker 2 (08:48):
You know.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
Last one is taking yourself too seriously. Yes, they say
life can be tough. If you can't laugh at yourself
once in a while, it might come across the wrong way.
I do think for me, like, the best relationship is
one where you can be yourself with somebody and you
can laugh and of inside jokes and that type of vibe.
A good sense of humor and the ability to share
(09:11):
a laugh as an underrated part of any relationship. I mean,
to me, that's just like the there's no healthy relationship
than you can laugh with the stupid stuff you know
where you know like, no matter what you two are
gonna do, it's gonna be a good time. There's no
better part in that. I fully agree. I would love
to see you next Friday, next Saturday, Arlington Draft House.
(09:33):
Grab your tickets. Internjooncomedy dot com. We do a meet
and great for the show with anybody who wants to
say hi, and then I think we're doing the after
party at Hide Social. It should be even more fun.
So you have a chance internshooncomedy dot com. I hope
you have a fantastic weekend. You can follow me at
intern John Radio. You can follow the show at YMS Radio.
(09:54):
This is the thought Shower. I will see you next Monday.
Speaker 2 (09:58):
Bybee
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