August 1, 2025 • 10 mins
On this episode of The Thought Shower, Intern John talks about his weekend, and things in a relationship that seem normal, but really aren't!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
And a happy Friday friend. Welcome to the Thought Shower.
Intern Johnnie my name, Big weekend this weekend. I made
the decision kind of midweek was holding off now for
sure this weekend going back to the woods. If you
don't know, if near the podcast, I tend to go
(00:21):
to the woods usually to write comedy tours, I can
say unequivocally that's not the case this time, that that
chapter is closed. For now. I'm going the woods. I
haven't been away in a while, and for me, going
to the woods in West Virginia is kind of like
a chance to reset a little bit, to recenter, just
(00:41):
kind of get away. I felt myself needing it too.
I can just kind of tell like, hey, you need
to stop for a second, you need to get away
for a second. And I'm excited. It's gonna be emotional too.
I mean, this is the first time that I've gone
the woods without Schewey. That's gonna be heavy, for sure.
(01:04):
But the good news is is because it's been so
crazy here weather wise and like heat wise, you know,
Skittles hasn't really had a chance to like go outside
and do fun stuff. So that's kind of part of
this too, is like, all right, I need to get
him out, let him run around, because it's been so
freaking hot the last probably a week or so that
(01:26):
we haven't really had a chance to do like an
actual proper you know walk. So least here got a
nice little cabin by the water. He can do some
running around, he can do some exploring. The only thing
I'm worried about is tics. Not much you can do
about that. So I got my tweezers, got him new
tick spray. But that's kind of the plan. So after
(01:46):
the show day, go out to the woods and then
just kind of relax and do nothing. You know. I
kind of like it. I was talking to Sauce before,
I'm like, what should I do? Like do I want
to go away? She's like, well, why don't you stay,
you know, at this like a hotel. Well, that way
you don't have to cook. I'm like, part of me,
for whatever reason, I like cooking in the woods. I
think it's because, like I feel like I have to
(02:07):
eat like you know, backpacker stuff. So it's like it's
purely beef and eggs, Like you go get a couple
of sakes and then just kind of roll with it.
So that's what I'm pumped about this weekend. And let's
get into this for your Friday. The things that seem
normal in a relationship until you look a little bit further.
(02:29):
Ooh boy. Now, let me just say I gotta preface
this by saying, if it's just one of these things,
you're probably fine. When we get into multiples, that's when
it becomes an issue. Starting with constantly sharing passwords. At first,
they say sharing passwords feels like the ultimate sign of trust.
You think, if they have nothing to hide, why not
When you really consider it, constantly sharing passwords can blur
(02:52):
the lines of personal privacy. I think that I have
given xs like my pass code open my phone, like
if we were driving, and like my mom text like,
oh can you open that and text my mom here's
the password? You know that's fine, But like I wouldn't
give an X. I don't think passwords to like Instagram
(03:14):
or social media because my my thought that's always been
I said this in the show. If you want to
go through somebody's phone, fine, However, let's say you do it,
but you don't find anything, is your answer gonna be? Okay?
I was wrong, There was nothing to hide or nothing
to find or is your answer gonna be Oh, clearly
(03:36):
they're hiding it better than I thought. If your answer
is the second, then you have an issue. Then you
then you have your answer. If I no amount of
searching is gonna leave you satisfied, you probably have your answer.
And to me, like that's the danger of going through
the phone, Like if you don't find something, either assume
you were wrong and move on, or assume that it's
(03:57):
never gonna work out. I think that's reality keeping school
or who does what? I hate this? They say relationships
keeping a mental tally of wrongs can feel like a
natural defense mechanism. It might seem like the right way
to ensure fairness. Yeah, I mean they say successful relationships
aren't about eating the score, they're about taking responsibility and
moving forward. I do think like that's the same with
(04:19):
friendships too, Like to me, it's like folks who worry
about splitting the bill when you're out of dinner with
a friend. I get bigger group. Sure, But to me,
I've always been the belief that eventually it's gonna even out,
and if it doesn't even out, that's a bigger sign.
Like me and my buddy, uh, Shane or a buddy
Andrew will go to get crabs whatever, and like we'll
(04:40):
just split down the middle and like one time, maybe
I get a drink and they don't, and vice versa.
It's like, yeah, over time, it's gonna even out. I
don't even have to worry about it. Yeah, I don't
have to worry about like, oh, they're taking advantage, Like no,
if I did, that'd be the sign over romanticizing jealousy, Yeah,
they say jealousy is often mistaken for passion in relationship
(05:00):
movies and TV shows glamorize the idea of a partner's
jealousy as an indicator of deep love. They say actually
can indicate insecurity or control issues. Yes, I think that
is a huge thing. I had an X once who
got mad at me because I didn't get jealous, and
I told her like, why why would I get jealous? Like,
if you're gonna cheat, you're gonna cheat, there's no point
(05:22):
in me getting jealous. I also think this goes to
we've talked about how like the feeling of butterflies, how
that's not a good thing after a certain time, because
it's like, yeah, if you're still getting the anxious feeling
around somebody that's not good, Like you shouldn't feel that
after a while, you should feel comfortable around them and
feel like everything's fine. Checking in extensively is not a
(05:44):
normal thing in relationship. Yeah, they say, an age of
concept connectivity, it's easy to fall a trap of over communication.
Checking in with your partner on the regular might seem
like a way to stay connected, but can bear an
excessive territory, especially like I agree with this, I think
I think that it's an interesting concept because they talked
about our parents generation. You know, they would see each
(06:05):
other go to work and then they wouldn't talk to
each other until really they got home, right and how
like they had more things to talk about, whereas for
us it's like, because we're talking all the time, or
could talk all the time by time you get home,
what's going on? And I never liked that. I never
liked the play by play. Now I will say like
(06:25):
once hockey season starts a little bit different because my
mornings and afternoons than are gone. But as far as
like during the day, I hate I don't know why
I hate the house your day go in text, I
just do because to me it seems so bland like
open ended, where it's like I don't even know where
to begin on that. You know, I don't know if
(06:46):
it's necessary again, if that's for you whatever. For me,
it's it's not so much they say, what mate starry
is a sweet gesture can turn into an obligation make
me feel more stressed than love. And I did find
that too, where it's like I've had exes who don't
quite get it at first, like with the show. After
the show's done, I don't really want to talk the
(07:09):
rest of the day, you know what I mean, because
for four hours, basically I'm taking my personality and magnifying it.
So like for me, I don't necessarily want to do
small talk during the day or even like at nights.
Sometimes I just want to like, yeah, I mean it's
almost like I've done my conversation leading for a day.
It's nice to just listen, you know what I mean.
(07:30):
Downplaying your achievements, I cannot know they see. You might
find yourself downplaying your achievements to avoid overshadowing your partner.
It may seem like a way to maintain harmony, but
can lead to self diminishment. Each partner's accomplishment should be
celebrated without fear of creating and balance. I've had that before. Yeah,
(07:51):
and this is hard to talk about without selling a douche,
but because I've been blessed that, like I've been doing
this for half my life and have had success, the
accomplishments that I get do seem major, Like you know,
the comedy album going number one selling, making the rather
(08:15):
raised one hundred thousand dollars for the Fisher House, you know,
the hockey team winning where it's like I do sometimes
feel like, oh, I don't want to like overshadow. You know.
I had an X who was like struggling career wise,
Like I had gotten an award from work for like
fifteen years at the company, and I hit it in
the garage and she found it and was like, why
aren't you telling me about this? And I was like, oh,
I don't know. I didn't want to, you know, make
(08:38):
you feel bad, which wasn't good. And that's tough. You know,
it's tough because she was just kind of fineing out
her career and not that she would ever diminish my accomplishments.
It wasn't that at all, but I did feel kind
of bad, Like, Oh, I don't want to, you know,
I don't want to overshadow you or make it seem
like you're so far behind. I think that's tough. The
(09:01):
last one I'll get to you is sacrificing personal growth.
It's a compromise, is a corrent stone of a healthy relationship.
Sacrificing personal growth isn't advisable. It's easy to put your
dreams and aspirations on hold for a safety relationship. Over time,
this can lead to feelings of stagnation or resentment. Yeah,
and that's tough, man, that's tough, especially, I think, you know,
(09:21):
relationships sorta of ebbs and flows. And I would never
want somebody i'm with to feel like they sacrifice their
career for me. But that's the hard part too. About
like this job, and I've had to tell you know,
X's that when we started dat, I'm like, hey, you know,
there's a chance that I don't end my career here,
Like there's a chance that I have to move somewhere,
(09:41):
or uh, you know, the job doesn't that goes away.
There's a good chance that I won't be here for
a long time. Can you be okay with that? Can
you ride with me. That's kind of like the vibe there. Listen,
I hope you have a great weekend. If you give
a chance to follow me, I appreciate that as well.
At Internship on Radio, it is the thought shower.
And a happy Friday friend. Welcome to the Thought Shower.
Intern Johnnie my name, Big weekend this weekend. I made
the decision kind of midweek was holding off now for
sure this weekend going back to the woods. If you
don't know, if near the podcast, I tend to go
(00:21):
to the woods usually to write comedy tours, I can
say unequivocally that's not the case this time, that that
chapter is closed. For now. I'm going the woods. I
haven't been away in a while, and for me, going
to the woods in West Virginia is kind of like
a chance to reset a little bit, to recenter, just
(00:41):
kind of get away. I felt myself needing it too.
I can just kind of tell like, hey, you need
to stop for a second, you need to get away
for a second. And I'm excited. It's gonna be emotional too.
I mean, this is the first time that I've gone
the woods without Schewey. That's gonna be heavy, for sure.
(01:04):
But the good news is is because it's been so
crazy here weather wise and like heat wise, you know,
Skittles hasn't really had a chance to like go outside
and do fun stuff. So that's kind of part of
this too, is like, all right, I need to get
him out, let him run around, because it's been so
freaking hot the last probably a week or so that
(01:26):
we haven't really had a chance to do like an
actual proper you know walk. So least here got a
nice little cabin by the water. He can do some
running around, he can do some exploring. The only thing
I'm worried about is tics. Not much you can do
about that. So I got my tweezers, got him new
tick spray. But that's kind of the plan. So after
(01:46):
the show day, go out to the woods and then
just kind of relax and do nothing. You know. I
kind of like it. I was talking to Sauce before,
I'm like, what should I do? Like do I want
to go away? She's like, well, why don't you stay,
you know, at this like a hotel. Well, that way
you don't have to cook. I'm like, part of me,
for whatever reason, I like cooking in the woods. I
think it's because, like I feel like I have to
(02:07):
eat like you know, backpacker stuff. So it's like it's
purely beef and eggs, Like you go get a couple
of sakes and then just kind of roll with it.
So that's what I'm pumped about this weekend. And let's
get into this for your Friday. The things that seem
normal in a relationship until you look a little bit further.
(02:29):
Ooh boy. Now, let me just say I gotta preface
this by saying, if it's just one of these things,
you're probably fine. When we get into multiples, that's when
it becomes an issue. Starting with constantly sharing passwords. At first,
they say sharing passwords feels like the ultimate sign of trust.
You think, if they have nothing to hide, why not
When you really consider it, constantly sharing passwords can blur
(02:52):
the lines of personal privacy. I think that I have
given xs like my pass code open my phone, like
if we were driving, and like my mom text like,
oh can you open that and text my mom here's
the password? You know that's fine, But like I wouldn't
give an X. I don't think passwords to like Instagram
(03:14):
or social media because my my thought that's always been
I said this in the show. If you want to
go through somebody's phone, fine, However, let's say you do it,
but you don't find anything, is your answer gonna be? Okay?
I was wrong, There was nothing to hide or nothing
to find or is your answer gonna be Oh, clearly
(03:36):
they're hiding it better than I thought. If your answer
is the second, then you have an issue. Then you
then you have your answer. If I no amount of
searching is gonna leave you satisfied, you probably have your answer.
And to me, like that's the danger of going through
the phone, Like if you don't find something, either assume
you were wrong and move on, or assume that it's
(03:57):
never gonna work out. I think that's reality keeping school
or who does what? I hate this? They say relationships
keeping a mental tally of wrongs can feel like a
natural defense mechanism. It might seem like the right way
to ensure fairness. Yeah, I mean they say successful relationships
aren't about eating the score, they're about taking responsibility and
moving forward. I do think like that's the same with
(04:19):
friendships too, Like to me, it's like folks who worry
about splitting the bill when you're out of dinner with
a friend. I get bigger group. Sure, But to me,
I've always been the belief that eventually it's gonna even out,
and if it doesn't even out, that's a bigger sign.
Like me and my buddy, uh, Shane or a buddy
Andrew will go to get crabs whatever, and like we'll
(04:40):
just split down the middle and like one time, maybe
I get a drink and they don't, and vice versa.
It's like, yeah, over time, it's gonna even out. I
don't even have to worry about it. Yeah, I don't
have to worry about like, oh, they're taking advantage, Like no,
if I did, that'd be the sign over romanticizing jealousy, Yeah,
they say jealousy is often mistaken for passion in relationship
(05:00):
movies and TV shows glamorize the idea of a partner's
jealousy as an indicator of deep love. They say actually
can indicate insecurity or control issues. Yes, I think that
is a huge thing. I had an X once who
got mad at me because I didn't get jealous, and
I told her like, why why would I get jealous? Like,
if you're gonna cheat, you're gonna cheat, there's no point
(05:22):
in me getting jealous. I also think this goes to
we've talked about how like the feeling of butterflies, how
that's not a good thing after a certain time, because
it's like, yeah, if you're still getting the anxious feeling
around somebody that's not good, Like you shouldn't feel that
after a while, you should feel comfortable around them and
feel like everything's fine. Checking in extensively is not a
(05:44):
normal thing in relationship. Yeah, they say, an age of
concept connectivity, it's easy to fall a trap of over communication.
Checking in with your partner on the regular might seem
like a way to stay connected, but can bear an
excessive territory, especially like I agree with this, I think
I think that it's an interesting concept because they talked
about our parents generation. You know, they would see each
(06:05):
other go to work and then they wouldn't talk to
each other until really they got home, right and how
like they had more things to talk about, whereas for
us it's like, because we're talking all the time, or
could talk all the time by time you get home,
what's going on? And I never liked that. I never
liked the play by play. Now I will say like
(06:25):
once hockey season starts a little bit different because my
mornings and afternoons than are gone. But as far as
like during the day, I hate I don't know why
I hate the house your day go in text, I
just do because to me it seems so bland like
open ended, where it's like I don't even know where
to begin on that. You know, I don't know if
(06:46):
it's necessary again, if that's for you whatever. For me,
it's it's not so much they say, what mate starry
is a sweet gesture can turn into an obligation make
me feel more stressed than love. And I did find
that too, where it's like I've had exes who don't
quite get it at first, like with the show. After
the show's done, I don't really want to talk the
(07:09):
rest of the day, you know what I mean, because
for four hours, basically I'm taking my personality and magnifying it.
So like for me, I don't necessarily want to do
small talk during the day or even like at nights.
Sometimes I just want to like, yeah, I mean it's
almost like I've done my conversation leading for a day.
It's nice to just listen, you know what I mean.
(07:30):
Downplaying your achievements, I cannot know they see. You might
find yourself downplaying your achievements to avoid overshadowing your partner.
It may seem like a way to maintain harmony, but
can lead to self diminishment. Each partner's accomplishment should be
celebrated without fear of creating and balance. I've had that before. Yeah,
(07:51):
and this is hard to talk about without selling a douche,
but because I've been blessed that, like I've been doing
this for half my life and have had success, the
accomplishments that I get do seem major, Like you know,
the comedy album going number one selling, making the rather
(08:15):
raised one hundred thousand dollars for the Fisher House, you know,
the hockey team winning where it's like I do sometimes
feel like, oh, I don't want to like overshadow. You know.
I had an X who was like struggling career wise,
Like I had gotten an award from work for like
fifteen years at the company, and I hit it in
the garage and she found it and was like, why
aren't you telling me about this? And I was like, oh,
I don't know. I didn't want to, you know, make
(08:38):
you feel bad, which wasn't good. And that's tough. You know,
it's tough because she was just kind of fineing out
her career and not that she would ever diminish my accomplishments.
It wasn't that at all, but I did feel kind
of bad, Like, Oh, I don't want to, you know,
I don't want to overshadow you or make it seem
like you're so far behind. I think that's tough. The
(09:01):
last one I'll get to you is sacrificing personal growth.
It's a compromise, is a corrent stone of a healthy relationship.
Sacrificing personal growth isn't advisable. It's easy to put your
dreams and aspirations on hold for a safety relationship. Over time,
this can lead to feelings of stagnation or resentment. Yeah,
and that's tough, man, that's tough, especially, I think, you know,
(09:21):
relationships sorta of ebbs and flows. And I would never
want somebody i'm with to feel like they sacrifice their
career for me. But that's the hard part too. About
like this job, and I've had to tell you know,
X's that when we started dat, I'm like, hey, you know,
there's a chance that I don't end my career here,
Like there's a chance that I have to move somewhere,
(09:41):
or uh, you know, the job doesn't that goes away.
There's a good chance that I won't be here for
a long time. Can you be okay with that? Can
you ride with me. That's kind of like the vibe there. Listen,
I hope you have a great weekend. If you give
a chance to follow me, I appreciate that as well.
At Internship on Radio, it is the thought shower.
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