May 9, 2025 • 9 mins
On this episode of The Thought Shower, Intern John talks about his Europe trip, and the things about a breakup no one tells you!
Intern John's "Chuy Forever" is a weekend of comedy shows 6/20 & 6/21 in Arlington, Va benefitting Warrior Canine Connection. They train puppies to be service animals for veterans! Tickets are on sale now, InternJohnComedy.com
Every week Intern John discusses adulting, dating, radio life, and more! You can follow Intern John on social media: @InternJohnRadio. You can listen to past episodes at TheThoughtShower.com
Intern John's "Chuy Forever" is a weekend of comedy shows 6/20 & 6/21 in Arlington, Va benefitting Warrior Canine Connection. They train puppies to be service animals for veterans! Tickets are on sale now, InternJohnComedy.com
Every week Intern John discusses adulting, dating, radio life, and more! You can follow Intern John on social media: @InternJohnRadio. You can listen to past episodes at TheThoughtShower.com
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
And a Happy Friday friend. Welcome to the Thought Shower.
Intern John is my name. When this comes out, I'll
be in London, very excited for this trip. This trip
was planned for me really when Chowy passed away in January.
I knew I needed distractions and this one is a
major one. So going to London. Very excited. Gonna go
(00:24):
to a Manchester United soccer game. That was kind of
the main reason for this trip. Want to see man
you play soccer at Old Trafford. I love sports stadiums.
I just love them. I think they're very cool. Old
Trafford is one of the oldest soccer stadiums in the
world and kind of cool timing. They're tearing down the
stadium in the next couple of years, so this is
(00:46):
like one of the last games there, which is very cool.
And then I wanted to go to Milan, Italy because
I want to see where they film Star Wars, more
specifically where Anakin Mary's padme. This trip's gonna be special
because my dad found out about the trip and was like, hey, like,
do you mind if I come with? And I was
like yeah, but just so you know, it's kind of
for Star Wars and he was like, yeah, let's go.
(01:07):
I'm like all right, cool. So my dad and I
we've done like hockey trips solo, like for my hockey,
but not like a vacation solo, so this would be
a lot of fun. I'm very excited for this. It
also works out that Eric's gonna be in London when
I am, and he's going the same game. Will we
say hi? I don't know. He's pretending like he doesn't
want to, so we'll see. I do want to say too.
(01:30):
If you bought tickets, thank you My interns. John Chewey
Forever Comedy shows are on sale right now June twentieth.
June twenty first Arlington Draft House, Arlington, VA. Helping out
the Warrior Canine Connection. This show, to me is special
in Alway's number one being, of course selfishly. Chewye dying
(01:52):
has been the absolute worst and like I'm not afraid
to admit, but I've cried every day the last four
plus months because I miss him. He was everything to me.
He was my best friend, my soulmate for you know,
fifteen years, and having him gone has been very difficult.
(02:13):
But at the same time I knew that he has
the power to do a lot good and we've done
that with the dog adoption event Tuesday a few weeks back.
Now with these shows, help out the Warrior Canine Connection,
an amazing group of people who train puppies to be
service dogs for veterans. If you gives a chance to
come to the show, it's gonna be a great time.
(02:34):
And it's only gonna be these shows. And I've mentioned
this on the air, and I mean this, it's gonna
be very difficult for me to do these shows, and
there's no way around that. That's not for sympathy for me,
but that's just so you know, like these show's gonna
be very special. They're gonna be very fun, and it's
gonna be a lot of fun and laughter, but it's
gonna be mentally draining, certainly, and worth it. Obviously, I'm
(02:59):
not trying to say that, but that's why there's only
three and so once these are sold out, and maybe
by the time this comes out, they have been sold out.
Invest the case amazing internshoncomedy dot com. They're fifteen bucks.
I can now, it's see their Internshohncomedy dot Com. Let
me get to this for your Friday. The things no
one tells you about leaving a long term relationship. I've
done it several times. Some of these I agree with
(03:22):
some of them. I don't. Let's get through it starting
with the ghosts of your former partner lingers. I do
think that makes sense. They say that it's uh. This
is part of the national part of separation, where you're
rewiring your brain to prioritize your own needs. They say,
long after they've exited the stage, the influenced lingers in
(03:42):
your habits, the playlists you shared, or the way you
cook your morning eggs or food. I do think that
makes sense. They say. It's less about missing them more
about disentangling your identity from theirs. That makes sense. If
he did things a certain way, I think that makes
a lot of sense. And I think too, if there's
things that remind you of them, it's like, oh, they
(04:03):
would have loved this, or if you like you find
clothes of theirs. Whatever it is, that makes sense. Your
social circles will shift, they say. Friends you were once
connected mutually with may subtle you choose sides or drift
away as your share connection dissolves. It's a natural realignment,
not a rejection of you as a person. I do
(04:24):
think that makes sense. Yeah, my past relationships was I
friends with like couples, like a couple friends. Yes, I
do think that, you know, have I remained friends with
the girls not so much and nothing against them, they
are all great people. With the guys that keep in
contact with more because we had shared likes. I also think, too,
(04:47):
with dudes a little bit different because dudes doesn't take
as much to maintain a relationship, so that's kind of
easy that way. But I also think too your social
circle shifting isn't necessarily a bad thing, because that means
it's shitting more towards you and you're hanging out with
your friends again and doing things you want to do.
Your routine will take a hit. Yeah, they say the
(05:09):
daily ritual is the one's anchored. You may feel a hollow.
You may find yourself eating breakfast alone without the sound
of morning chatter, watching a movie solo. I mean, even
like your phone not blown up as much. Maybe could
be a thing too. Yeah, I do think that at
first it is kind of like a oh yeah, and
to be honest too, like not to make it about
(05:31):
me again, But this kind reminds me of like what
chewy too. It's like, once he was gone, is like,
how do I rewire everything? And to be honest, like
I still kind of am. They say you might miss
the comfort, not the person. I think that's also true.
In the quiet moments, you may find yourself longing for
the comfort and the familiarity rather than the person themselves.
(05:54):
They say, it's natural to miss the routine, the share experiences,
and the ease that comes of being with someone you
know inside and out. I'll say that because I've been
to whatever reason in my last relationship, none of my
friends got married and none of their friends did when
I was single. I've I've gone like five weddings since then.
So that was tough too, Like at those moments where
(06:15):
it's like, oh, like I'm I'm single, you know what
I mean? And there is times to like even when
you know when she we passed, and not that I
had to do it myself. I was very lucky. I
have friends and family reached out and certainly the show
reached out, and but it was like, oh, like it
would be nice to have somebody there all the time.
But at the same time, in this particular case, it's
(06:37):
something I had to feel on my own, you know,
like it's something that yeah, maybe having somebody there have
been cool, but like in the long term would have
really changed things. No, like he's still gone. You know.
Not everyone will understand. They say, break camp belong to
partner can meet with mixed reactions from those around you.
Some may question it, others offer unsolicit advice. It's essential,
(07:00):
member of This is your life and the choices you
make reflect your own needs and happiness. I'll say this,
I'm always a very private person with relationships, so I
do think all my breakups, my friends were surprised. I'm like, hey,
I broke up with this person because they ain't see
it coming. So I think from that sense, I understand
that where they they But also too, I'm of the
(07:21):
belief that I protect the relationship, so if there are
bad things, I don't tell anybody, because I do think
that can be a good thing. You know. That's like
the protect the relationship that way. So yeah, I do
understand people won't understand. Let me do two more of these.
Loneliness can be healing. I agree with this. They say.
(07:41):
Loneliness teaches you to be comfortable in your own company,
fostering a sense of independence. As you grow accustomed to
being alone, you'll find strength in your own presence. I
cannot appreci enough. Traveling by yourself is amazing. Going to
dinner by yourself is amazing. Going to the movies by yourself,
that's the absolute best, Especially with a movie that you
enjoy or that you want to see. Nobody judges you,
(08:04):
nobody cares. I'd rather do that. Go to a movie
that I know I one hundred percent want to see,
then go to a movie that I want to see,
but the person with me doesn't quite care. Because that
I'm more worried about do they enjoy the movie? Are
they having a good time? So I think yes, one
hundred percent. This, to me is probably the biggest thing.
Closure is a myth. They say. We often seen closure
(08:27):
after a breakup, a tidy ending to the story we've
been living. However, the truth is closure is a myth.
Rarely do relationship and with all questions answered and all
emotions neatly tucked away. I've said this on the show.
I believe this. I've found this to be true. I
have found my experiences, even though I've been the one
to pull the plug the other person I don't think
(08:50):
is any idea why they did the things they did.
I don't think they know, and you can have the
conversation a million times you never get the answer. And
I think the idea of closure is nice, the idea
of like that one last talk, we get all out.
Everything's fine, but it's never gonna happen. You know what
(09:12):
I found with excess is they really know why they
do anything, let alone why they did stuff in the relationship.
It's a nice idea, it's not realistic. Howe, you have
a great Friday. If you get a chance to get
tickets to the comedy show, I appreciate you. Internshooncomedy dot com.
Follow along from my Europe trip at Internsjohn Radio. We'll
see you Monday,
And a Happy Friday friend. Welcome to the Thought Shower.
Intern John is my name. When this comes out, I'll
be in London, very excited for this trip. This trip
was planned for me really when Chowy passed away in January.
I knew I needed distractions and this one is a
major one. So going to London. Very excited. Gonna go
(00:24):
to a Manchester United soccer game. That was kind of
the main reason for this trip. Want to see man
you play soccer at Old Trafford. I love sports stadiums.
I just love them. I think they're very cool. Old
Trafford is one of the oldest soccer stadiums in the
world and kind of cool timing. They're tearing down the
stadium in the next couple of years, so this is
(00:46):
like one of the last games there, which is very cool.
And then I wanted to go to Milan, Italy because
I want to see where they film Star Wars, more
specifically where Anakin Mary's padme. This trip's gonna be special
because my dad found out about the trip and was like, hey, like,
do you mind if I come with? And I was
like yeah, but just so you know, it's kind of
for Star Wars and he was like, yeah, let's go.
(01:07):
I'm like all right, cool. So my dad and I
we've done like hockey trips solo, like for my hockey,
but not like a vacation solo, so this would be
a lot of fun. I'm very excited for this. It
also works out that Eric's gonna be in London when
I am, and he's going the same game. Will we
say hi? I don't know. He's pretending like he doesn't
want to, so we'll see. I do want to say too.
(01:30):
If you bought tickets, thank you My interns. John Chewey
Forever Comedy shows are on sale right now June twentieth.
June twenty first Arlington Draft House, Arlington, VA. Helping out
the Warrior Canine Connection. This show, to me is special
in Alway's number one being, of course selfishly. Chewye dying
(01:52):
has been the absolute worst and like I'm not afraid
to admit, but I've cried every day the last four
plus months because I miss him. He was everything to me.
He was my best friend, my soulmate for you know,
fifteen years, and having him gone has been very difficult.
(02:13):
But at the same time I knew that he has
the power to do a lot good and we've done
that with the dog adoption event Tuesday a few weeks back.
Now with these shows, help out the Warrior Canine Connection,
an amazing group of people who train puppies to be
service dogs for veterans. If you gives a chance to
come to the show, it's gonna be a great time.
(02:34):
And it's only gonna be these shows. And I've mentioned
this on the air, and I mean this, it's gonna
be very difficult for me to do these shows, and
there's no way around that. That's not for sympathy for me,
but that's just so you know, like these show's gonna
be very special. They're gonna be very fun, and it's
gonna be a lot of fun and laughter, but it's
gonna be mentally draining, certainly, and worth it. Obviously, I'm
(02:59):
not trying to say that, but that's why there's only
three and so once these are sold out, and maybe
by the time this comes out, they have been sold out.
Invest the case amazing internshoncomedy dot com. They're fifteen bucks.
I can now, it's see their Internshohncomedy dot Com. Let
me get to this for your Friday. The things no
one tells you about leaving a long term relationship. I've
done it several times. Some of these I agree with
(03:22):
some of them. I don't. Let's get through it starting
with the ghosts of your former partner lingers. I do
think that makes sense. They say that it's uh. This
is part of the national part of separation, where you're
rewiring your brain to prioritize your own needs. They say,
long after they've exited the stage, the influenced lingers in
(03:42):
your habits, the playlists you shared, or the way you
cook your morning eggs or food. I do think that
makes sense. They say. It's less about missing them more
about disentangling your identity from theirs. That makes sense. If
he did things a certain way, I think that makes
a lot of sense. And I think too, if there's
things that remind you of them, it's like, oh, they
(04:03):
would have loved this, or if you like you find
clothes of theirs. Whatever it is, that makes sense. Your
social circles will shift, they say. Friends you were once
connected mutually with may subtle you choose sides or drift
away as your share connection dissolves. It's a natural realignment,
not a rejection of you as a person. I do
(04:24):
think that makes sense. Yeah, my past relationships was I
friends with like couples, like a couple friends. Yes, I
do think that, you know, have I remained friends with
the girls not so much and nothing against them, they
are all great people. With the guys that keep in
contact with more because we had shared likes. I also think, too,
(04:47):
with dudes a little bit different because dudes doesn't take
as much to maintain a relationship, so that's kind of
easy that way. But I also think too your social
circle shifting isn't necessarily a bad thing, because that means
it's shitting more towards you and you're hanging out with
your friends again and doing things you want to do.
Your routine will take a hit. Yeah, they say the
(05:09):
daily ritual is the one's anchored. You may feel a hollow.
You may find yourself eating breakfast alone without the sound
of morning chatter, watching a movie solo. I mean, even
like your phone not blown up as much. Maybe could
be a thing too. Yeah, I do think that at
first it is kind of like a oh yeah, and
to be honest too, like not to make it about
(05:31):
me again, But this kind reminds me of like what
chewy too. It's like, once he was gone, is like,
how do I rewire everything? And to be honest, like
I still kind of am. They say you might miss
the comfort, not the person. I think that's also true.
In the quiet moments, you may find yourself longing for
the comfort and the familiarity rather than the person themselves.
(05:54):
They say, it's natural to miss the routine, the share experiences,
and the ease that comes of being with someone you
know inside and out. I'll say that because I've been
to whatever reason in my last relationship, none of my
friends got married and none of their friends did when
I was single. I've I've gone like five weddings since then.
So that was tough too, Like at those moments where
(06:15):
it's like, oh, like I'm I'm single, you know what
I mean? And there is times to like even when
you know when she we passed, and not that I
had to do it myself. I was very lucky. I
have friends and family reached out and certainly the show
reached out, and but it was like, oh, like it
would be nice to have somebody there all the time.
But at the same time, in this particular case, it's
(06:37):
something I had to feel on my own, you know,
like it's something that yeah, maybe having somebody there have
been cool, but like in the long term would have
really changed things. No, like he's still gone. You know.
Not everyone will understand. They say, break camp belong to
partner can meet with mixed reactions from those around you.
Some may question it, others offer unsolicit advice. It's essential,
(07:00):
member of This is your life and the choices you
make reflect your own needs and happiness. I'll say this,
I'm always a very private person with relationships, so I
do think all my breakups, my friends were surprised. I'm like, hey,
I broke up with this person because they ain't see
it coming. So I think from that sense, I understand
that where they they But also too, I'm of the
(07:21):
belief that I protect the relationship, so if there are
bad things, I don't tell anybody, because I do think
that can be a good thing. You know. That's like
the protect the relationship that way. So yeah, I do
understand people won't understand. Let me do two more of these.
Loneliness can be healing. I agree with this. They say.
(07:41):
Loneliness teaches you to be comfortable in your own company,
fostering a sense of independence. As you grow accustomed to
being alone, you'll find strength in your own presence. I
cannot appreci enough. Traveling by yourself is amazing. Going to
dinner by yourself is amazing. Going to the movies by yourself,
that's the absolute best, Especially with a movie that you
enjoy or that you want to see. Nobody judges you,
(08:04):
nobody cares. I'd rather do that. Go to a movie
that I know I one hundred percent want to see,
then go to a movie that I want to see,
but the person with me doesn't quite care. Because that
I'm more worried about do they enjoy the movie? Are
they having a good time? So I think yes, one
hundred percent. This, to me is probably the biggest thing.
Closure is a myth. They say. We often seen closure
(08:27):
after a breakup, a tidy ending to the story we've
been living. However, the truth is closure is a myth.
Rarely do relationship and with all questions answered and all
emotions neatly tucked away. I've said this on the show.
I believe this. I've found this to be true. I
have found my experiences, even though I've been the one
to pull the plug the other person I don't think
(08:50):
is any idea why they did the things they did.
I don't think they know, and you can have the
conversation a million times you never get the answer. And
I think the idea of closure is nice, the idea
of like that one last talk, we get all out.
Everything's fine, but it's never gonna happen. You know what
(09:12):
I found with excess is they really know why they
do anything, let alone why they did stuff in the relationship.
It's a nice idea, it's not realistic. Howe, you have
a great Friday. If you get a chance to get
tickets to the comedy show, I appreciate you. Internshooncomedy dot com.
Follow along from my Europe trip at Internsjohn Radio. We'll
see you Monday,
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