June 9, 2025 • 10 mins
On this episode of The Thought Shower, Intern John talks about why we love chaos
ntern John's "Chuy Forever" is a weekend of comedy shows 6/20 & 6/21 in Arlington, Va benefitting Warrior Canine Connection. They train puppies to be service animals for veterans! Tickets are on sale now, InternJohnComedy.com
Every week Intern John discusses adulting, dating, radio life, and more! You can follow Intern John on social media: @InternJohnRadio. You can listen to past episodes at TheThoughtShower.com
ntern John's "Chuy Forever" is a weekend of comedy shows 6/20 & 6/21 in Arlington, Va benefitting Warrior Canine Connection. They train puppies to be service animals for veterans! Tickets are on sale now, InternJohnComedy.com
Every week Intern John discusses adulting, dating, radio life, and more! You can follow Intern John on social media: @InternJohnRadio. You can listen to past episodes at TheThoughtShower.com
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
And a happy Monday. Friend. Welcome to the Thought Shower.
Intern John is my name. It was a weekend. It
was a very busy weekend. Let's go back through this Monday.
Relaxed a little bit, went to the restaurant. Was only
there for like an hour and a half, maybe two hours.
I am very good at once my social battery fills,
(00:24):
once my fun meter fills, I tend to GTFO like,
all right, I've had as much fun as I'm gonna have.
It's time to move on. That's kind of what I do,
and gonna be honest, I think that's the way to go,
as opposed to being like, well, I'm gonna stay a
little longer. So it happens like nah, busy day Saturday.
(00:45):
I got early, went to the gym, flex went to
the Pride parade. I will say the weather in the
morning was very favorable because it rained like early in
the morning. I was like, oh no, hopefully the Prey
doesn't get rained out. But then it was kind of
like cloudy and just felt nice. Get down the parade,
clouds go away. It was hot, scorcher, Thank god brought sunscreen. Mom,
(01:10):
You're welcome, But Prey was a lot of fun, just
like very draining though being in the sun for like,
you know, four hours, you forget how much that takes
out of you. And then at night kind of watched
rest and Nathan for you Sunday went back to the restaurant.
Very nice. So busy weekend, good weekend. Excite for this
week because hockey camp starts. It was just crazy been
(01:34):
coaching hockey here at Georgetown Prep for this might be
year ten, the year ten of year nine, and camp
starts this week, so be fun to see how the
kids have been keeping in shape the last four months,
or if they haven't. But then the freshmen come in,
which is always fun. The class at twenty twenty nine, baby,
(01:56):
that is a real year of kids who are graduating.
But it's always fun because I've tried to keep more
of a mental note of like what the kids are
like as their freshmen, what they're like when they graduate,
and it is kind of fun. And I think teachers
probably get this too, at least for us. I think
(02:17):
it's easier to keep tabs on kids because it's only
a four year window, if that makes sense, versus if I,
you know, taught second grade in the school goes to
eighth grade. It's like, yeah, I keep track of you know,
six more years worth of education. So it's more fun
to see the kids because we've seen it in tight
circles too. That makes sense. But I'm very excited for that.
(02:40):
And then of course next Friday comedy starts, which is
gonna be special. My Chewy Forever show is next Saturday.
Next Friday, the twentieth and twenty first Arlington Draft House.
You can get the last minute tickets internshoncomedy dot com.
It's gonna be a good show. I think it's probably
the best stuff I've ever done, so I'm very excited
(03:02):
for you to see it. Internsgoncomedy dot com. Let me
get to this for your your Monday. Do you secretly
crave chaos? I think we all know people who do,
who can't seem operate unless the world's ending. I don't
believe I'm that person. I think I prefer peace. But
(03:23):
let's get through these. If you feel off when things
feel stable, they say peace, feel suspicious and sever relaxing.
You wait for the other shoe drop or create a
new problem before one appears. I've seen this with friends.
I think, in regardless to dating, where like they are.
They will complain about drama relationships, get out of it,
(03:45):
start dating somebody new, and then that person kind of
brings calmness and peace and they don't quite know what
to do, Like, oh, but the butterflies aren't there. It's like, yeah,
you know, the butterflies I think have been kind of
proven now to be anxiety. Like, if you're still gettingquote
unquote butterflies around your person, that means you're anxious. Dude.
That's not a good sign. You mistake emotional intensity for
(04:08):
emotional intimacy. Ooh, if a relationship isn't hot and cold,
you simulaxe passion. Stability feels bland even though it's actually safe.
Kind of like what I was talking about before. Right,
if everything feels calm and you don't have that anxiety
like that, you have the hot breakup and the hot makeup, like, oh,
it's not it's not the real thing. It's like no, no, no,
(04:29):
you want somebody who can bring you peace. Now, I
get it. It's fun having the chase. It's fun like
not knowing what's going to happen next, But it's also
fun knowing what's gonna happen next. You know, it's also
fun to having to worry about your person. If you
pick fights for a dopamine hit, My god, my god,
you're not trying to hurt anyone. When comfort settles in,
(04:51):
you get restless. You poke, push or provoke just to
feel something shift. I have noticed this in relationships, but
with friends too, where it's like everything's good, and it's
like almost like they are trying to start a fight, Like, hey,
why fight if we don't have to, you know, like,
let's just relax, enjoy ourselves. Let's enjoy the calm now,
(05:15):
because eventually there's gonna be a fight about something that's legit,
So why why rush one now? Why not sit back,
relax and enjoy the show? You know, I think that's fair.
You're drawn to people who need saving. Damn, you fall
for chaos and human form. You say you want stability,
but chose partners who bring unpredictability. Uh. Volat my gosh, volatile.
(05:40):
They're volatile. I can speak, I swear or emotional hunger.
You just make you mistake drama for depth. Uh. You
say people grow up in chaok environments may unconsciously seek
out relationships that mirror that chaos, believing that's what love
is supposed to be. Like, I know friends do this too,
and you have like the savior complex of like they
(06:00):
clearly are a walking red flag. However, if I just
love them enough, right, if I just pour enough myself
into them, I can really get things going and you
can't do it. It's nice thought, and I don't even
think people do it for bad reasons. I think you
just like It's one of the most one of the
(06:21):
biggest lessons I guess probably in life is that a
lot of people are not going to reach their potential
and it sucks or at least the potential you see
in them, right. I think that's fair for family, friends, relationships,
where it's you want the best for them and you
see them doing great things, but they're just not going
(06:44):
to do it, and it kind of is what it is,
and it could be too. I think sometimes we put
our hopes and expectations on somebody and might not even
be realistic. You know, It's like we're creating a character
in our head of who we want them to be,
which really isn't fair to them or for us, and
kind of lets our down, you know, you self sabotage
when things are going well, pause for a sneeze. Every
(07:11):
time you're about to succeed, connect or evolve, you find
a way mess it up. You procrastinate, pick a fire,
go somebody. Success triggers panic, not celebration. Yeah. I think
they say chass becomes protective mechanism. If you fail on
your terms, it hurts less but also keeps you small.
I think that's true. That makes sense. That's also to
(07:32):
why some folks don't put their all into something, because
then you always have the excuse of like, well, like
you know, had I had done more, it would have
worked out, but I just didn't want it, you know.
That way, I think people can kind of cut themselves
in slack. You confuse urgency with importance. Everything is in
the emergency. You drop boundaries, rush decisions, or escalate situations
(07:56):
that could wait. You feel live in the urgency, even
if it creates more of a mess. Urgency validates your existence.
But peace, Uh doesn't mean it's being passive. Learn a
slowed down part. Learn to slow down as park heloid. Yeah,
I think it's like if I'm rushing around, if I'm
doing so many things, that means I'm important, whether it's
work wise, relationship, wize whatever. I think that's fair. And
(08:19):
that also goes to like it's not a bad thing
if you don't have chaos at work, you know, I
think I see it with folks who like, we'll start
drama in the workforce because they're getting like bored in
their job. I'm like, yo, again, there's nothing wrong with
peace times. You know, we don't always have to be
going to wars. We can just kind of relax because again,
(08:42):
like I said earlier, like that fight's gonna come, that
next battle is gonna come. Why not just say the
resources for the real one. You know, you can't sit
with stillness, Okay, Silence feel suffocating You scroll, binge, argue
or obsessed to avoid your own thoughts. Stillness feels like
(09:05):
drowning in parts of yourself you don't understand yet. Say,
cash becomes a way to avoid this introspection. But peace
reach where transformation happens. I've noticed as a folks, I think,
you know a lot of times, my dude friends, we
can kind of sit in silence and be cool. Yeah,
my good friend ANDROI diack insteader him my best friends,
(09:26):
him and I could sit in silence, not say a
thing or even just like we'll play catch when you
take a baseball and play catch, and we could play
catch for two hours and not say anything and be
at peace with each other and be like we're good
to go. It doesn't feel like a first date where
it's like, oh God, I have to fill the silence.
You know, it's kind of like a we're all good.
You know, we're calm, we're getting ripe for whatever's next.
(09:48):
I think that's good. You deserve peace, honestly, you know.
Life is too short to be stressed out all the time.
We'lld others. See you next Friday. It's gonna mean a
lot to have you there My Chewy Forever Show. Get
your tickets internshon comedy dot com
And a happy Monday. Friend. Welcome to the Thought Shower.
Intern John is my name. It was a weekend. It
was a very busy weekend. Let's go back through this Monday.
Relaxed a little bit, went to the restaurant. Was only
there for like an hour and a half, maybe two hours.
I am very good at once my social battery fills,
(00:24):
once my fun meter fills, I tend to GTFO like,
all right, I've had as much fun as I'm gonna have.
It's time to move on. That's kind of what I do,
and gonna be honest, I think that's the way to go,
as opposed to being like, well, I'm gonna stay a
little longer. So it happens like nah, busy day Saturday.
(00:45):
I got early, went to the gym, flex went to
the Pride parade. I will say the weather in the
morning was very favorable because it rained like early in
the morning. I was like, oh no, hopefully the Prey
doesn't get rained out. But then it was kind of
like cloudy and just felt nice. Get down the parade,
clouds go away. It was hot, scorcher, Thank god brought sunscreen. Mom,
(01:10):
You're welcome, But Prey was a lot of fun, just
like very draining though being in the sun for like,
you know, four hours, you forget how much that takes
out of you. And then at night kind of watched
rest and Nathan for you Sunday went back to the restaurant.
Very nice. So busy weekend, good weekend. Excite for this
week because hockey camp starts. It was just crazy been
(01:34):
coaching hockey here at Georgetown Prep for this might be
year ten, the year ten of year nine, and camp
starts this week, so be fun to see how the
kids have been keeping in shape the last four months,
or if they haven't. But then the freshmen come in,
which is always fun. The class at twenty twenty nine, baby,
(01:56):
that is a real year of kids who are graduating.
But it's always fun because I've tried to keep more
of a mental note of like what the kids are
like as their freshmen, what they're like when they graduate,
and it is kind of fun. And I think teachers
probably get this too, at least for us. I think
(02:17):
it's easier to keep tabs on kids because it's only
a four year window, if that makes sense, versus if I,
you know, taught second grade in the school goes to
eighth grade. It's like, yeah, I keep track of you know,
six more years worth of education. So it's more fun
to see the kids because we've seen it in tight
circles too. That makes sense. But I'm very excited for that.
(02:40):
And then of course next Friday comedy starts, which is
gonna be special. My Chewy Forever show is next Saturday.
Next Friday, the twentieth and twenty first Arlington Draft House.
You can get the last minute tickets internshoncomedy dot com.
It's gonna be a good show. I think it's probably
the best stuff I've ever done, so I'm very excited
(03:02):
for you to see it. Internsgoncomedy dot com. Let me
get to this for your your Monday. Do you secretly
crave chaos? I think we all know people who do,
who can't seem operate unless the world's ending. I don't
believe I'm that person. I think I prefer peace. But
(03:23):
let's get through these. If you feel off when things
feel stable, they say peace, feel suspicious and sever relaxing.
You wait for the other shoe drop or create a
new problem before one appears. I've seen this with friends.
I think, in regardless to dating, where like they are.
They will complain about drama relationships, get out of it,
(03:45):
start dating somebody new, and then that person kind of
brings calmness and peace and they don't quite know what
to do, Like, oh, but the butterflies aren't there. It's like, yeah,
you know, the butterflies I think have been kind of
proven now to be anxiety. Like, if you're still gettingquote
unquote butterflies around your person, that means you're anxious. Dude.
That's not a good sign. You mistake emotional intensity for
(04:08):
emotional intimacy. Ooh, if a relationship isn't hot and cold,
you simulaxe passion. Stability feels bland even though it's actually safe.
Kind of like what I was talking about before. Right,
if everything feels calm and you don't have that anxiety
like that, you have the hot breakup and the hot makeup, like, oh,
it's not it's not the real thing. It's like no, no, no,
(04:29):
you want somebody who can bring you peace. Now, I
get it. It's fun having the chase. It's fun like
not knowing what's going to happen next, But it's also
fun knowing what's gonna happen next. You know, it's also
fun to having to worry about your person. If you
pick fights for a dopamine hit, My god, my god,
you're not trying to hurt anyone. When comfort settles in,
(04:51):
you get restless. You poke, push or provoke just to
feel something shift. I have noticed this in relationships, but
with friends too, where it's like everything's good, and it's
like almost like they are trying to start a fight, Like, hey,
why fight if we don't have to, you know, like,
let's just relax, enjoy ourselves. Let's enjoy the calm now,
(05:15):
because eventually there's gonna be a fight about something that's legit,
So why why rush one now? Why not sit back,
relax and enjoy the show? You know, I think that's fair.
You're drawn to people who need saving. Damn, you fall
for chaos and human form. You say you want stability,
but chose partners who bring unpredictability. Uh. Volat my gosh, volatile.
(05:40):
They're volatile. I can speak, I swear or emotional hunger.
You just make you mistake drama for depth. Uh. You
say people grow up in chaok environments may unconsciously seek
out relationships that mirror that chaos, believing that's what love
is supposed to be. Like, I know friends do this too,
and you have like the savior complex of like they
(06:00):
clearly are a walking red flag. However, if I just
love them enough, right, if I just pour enough myself
into them, I can really get things going and you
can't do it. It's nice thought, and I don't even
think people do it for bad reasons. I think you
just like It's one of the most one of the
(06:21):
biggest lessons I guess probably in life is that a
lot of people are not going to reach their potential
and it sucks or at least the potential you see
in them, right. I think that's fair for family, friends, relationships,
where it's you want the best for them and you
see them doing great things, but they're just not going
(06:44):
to do it, and it kind of is what it is,
and it could be too. I think sometimes we put
our hopes and expectations on somebody and might not even
be realistic. You know, It's like we're creating a character
in our head of who we want them to be,
which really isn't fair to them or for us, and
kind of lets our down, you know, you self sabotage
when things are going well, pause for a sneeze. Every
(07:11):
time you're about to succeed, connect or evolve, you find
a way mess it up. You procrastinate, pick a fire,
go somebody. Success triggers panic, not celebration. Yeah. I think
they say chass becomes protective mechanism. If you fail on
your terms, it hurts less but also keeps you small.
I think that's true. That makes sense. That's also to
(07:32):
why some folks don't put their all into something, because
then you always have the excuse of like, well, like
you know, had I had done more, it would have
worked out, but I just didn't want it, you know.
That way, I think people can kind of cut themselves
in slack. You confuse urgency with importance. Everything is in
the emergency. You drop boundaries, rush decisions, or escalate situations
(07:56):
that could wait. You feel live in the urgency, even
if it creates more of a mess. Urgency validates your existence.
But peace, Uh doesn't mean it's being passive. Learn a
slowed down part. Learn to slow down as park heloid. Yeah,
I think it's like if I'm rushing around, if I'm
doing so many things, that means I'm important, whether it's
work wise, relationship, wize whatever. I think that's fair. And
(08:19):
that also goes to like it's not a bad thing
if you don't have chaos at work, you know, I
think I see it with folks who like, we'll start
drama in the workforce because they're getting like bored in
their job. I'm like, yo, again, there's nothing wrong with
peace times. You know, we don't always have to be
going to wars. We can just kind of relax because again,
(08:42):
like I said earlier, like that fight's gonna come, that
next battle is gonna come. Why not just say the
resources for the real one. You know, you can't sit
with stillness, Okay, Silence feel suffocating You scroll, binge, argue
or obsessed to avoid your own thoughts. Stillness feels like
(09:05):
drowning in parts of yourself you don't understand yet. Say,
cash becomes a way to avoid this introspection. But peace
reach where transformation happens. I've noticed as a folks, I think,
you know a lot of times, my dude friends, we
can kind of sit in silence and be cool. Yeah,
my good friend ANDROI diack insteader him my best friends,
(09:26):
him and I could sit in silence, not say a
thing or even just like we'll play catch when you
take a baseball and play catch, and we could play
catch for two hours and not say anything and be
at peace with each other and be like we're good
to go. It doesn't feel like a first date where
it's like, oh God, I have to fill the silence.
You know, it's kind of like a we're all good.
You know, we're calm, we're getting ripe for whatever's next.
(09:48):
I think that's good. You deserve peace, honestly, you know.
Life is too short to be stressed out all the time.
We'lld others. See you next Friday. It's gonna mean a
lot to have you there My Chewy Forever Show. Get
your tickets internshon comedy dot com
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