July 28, 2025 • 10 mins
On this episode of The Thought Shower, Intern John breaks down his weekend, and how to know if you're being too picky with dating apps
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Oh, hi friend, welcome to the thought Shower. Intern John
is my name? What a weekend it was? It s
geated things shall we on a Friday, had a hotel
skills and I got a hotel close to the restaurant.
Knew I was gonna be out Friday night. It was
nice to have a place to kind of stay because
(00:21):
making the trip to the restaurant it's a long journey.
You know, it's like forty five minutes one way depending
on traffic, of be an hour the other way.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
So to have a home base Fria good night was clutch.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
Slept during the day on Friday, washed happy Gilmore, went
on to the bar Friday night, had a lot of fun,
probably too much fun, all good. Woke up Saturday not
feeling great. Not feeling great. We got probably around ten
drove back from the hotel with skittles. Went to like
a Cajun crab place my buddy Shane for lunch where
(00:59):
it's basically I won't to know how to explain it
because it's like they give you the food, it's all
I can eat thing and it's on like it's like
a juicy tray.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
That sounds horrible, but.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
It'st guy with the Cajun spice, and it's kind of
like a seafood boil type of a vibe. That was
pretty good. Have my first ever female crab sounds exciting.
I didn't quite notice a different taste, and it kind
of tastes the same, I think, but maybe my crab
palette isn't as experienced. So Saturday, that's literally all I
did was go and eat and then go home and
(01:33):
pass out.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
I've been exhausted.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
This was my first weekend home really in it feels
like forever.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
So did that. Sunday was a very fun day.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
So Sunday got up, went to the gym, flex, got
ripped flex you know what it is.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
You probably tell how ripped I sound right now. That
sounds pretty jack.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
But then my good friend Dante, who I've talked about
before for Dante's and my best friends, he is moving
to Tennessee this week starting the first ever HBCU hockey
program Tennessee State University has going away party at the restaurant.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
So got there around at one point thirty. I think.
Speaker 1 (02:18):
Was great to see all of his friends and me
and my friends too. Obviously his family is my family.
And then I had a work dinner as well. So
I was at the restaurant on Sunday for seven hours,
which is like I've been there seven hours at nighttime,
you know, during drinking hours, but being there during the
day different vibe. Got to have lunch and dinner. But
(02:44):
it was great and it's pretty cool. So Dante, he's
moving to the Nashville area, which is by my family
and buy my radio friends, so I'll get a chance
to see him down there as well. But it's a
lot of fun. It's cool to see, you know, your
friends do well. It's cool to see your friends you
root for as much as, if not more than yourself, succeed.
(03:06):
And I told him yesterday that you know, with him
starting this hockey program, he's gonna change lives forever. You know,
generations of families are gonna be changed from Dante bringing
them in and playing hockey forum, which is like, what
a cool legacy to have, you know. And it won't
be long before he's in the NHL, I have no
(03:28):
doubt about that. This week promises to be hopefully a
little bit easy going.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
I wanted to go to the woods.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
I have not been to the woods in far too long,
and it's starting to affect my psyche. But my buddy
Chuck and I Chuck is one of the owners of
the restaurant. Our birthdays are a day apart. I think
he's the fifth I'm the sixth. So we're doing his
birthday this weekend, my birthday next weekend, and then hopefully
I can get away and like actually unplugged. But you know,
(04:00):
we'll see, baby, it's life could be worse. We're here,
happy Monday. Let's get into this. I want to talk
about the the clues you're being too picky with dating
and relationships. I've said this before. I do think that
dating apps can be a good thing. However, I do
think they've also messed us up where you're constantly concerned
(04:24):
that you're gonna find somebody better, Like why sell now
there could be somebody better.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
It's like the idea of the lottery. I mean, it
really is.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
They talk about how you know, social media is built
like the slot machine. You refresh it and like, oh
my gosh, what like at this time, dating apps have
taken that stage as well. Starting with your list of
deal breakers is longer than your grocery list. Now, I
do believe I mentioned this too It's like when it
comes to buying a house, there is no perfect house.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
This isn't but I've seen.
Speaker 1 (04:57):
Folks who will have their list of like deal breakers
and it is so long that I don't even bother
reading it. I'm like, that is just because to me,
it's like you probably have that person in mind, Like
with all the things you're saying no to, you probably
know who you want to date and it's probably a
certain person and I just don't want.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
To do that. You know, you expect everything to be
perfect from day one.
Speaker 1 (05:23):
I do think that is the problem with dating now,
is that I get it, like you want to skip
the get to know you phase and get to the
I have somebody who has my back phase. I get it.
I think that's like that makes all the sense in
the world. Who doesn't want that. Who doesn't want to
step into relationship and have it be seven months in
(05:45):
problem is, life doesn't work that way, Dude, just doesn't.
Speaker 2 (05:49):
I wish it didn't.
Speaker 1 (05:51):
It'd be easier because they need to also know I'm
wasting my time, But sadly we don't have that technology.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
Fam.
Speaker 1 (05:58):
You know, if you're always on the lookout for red flags,
they say being cautious is smart. But if you're looking
for reasons to disqualify someone before you give them a chance,
it's probably stopping you from finding love. I think I
had that tendency sometimes where it's like kind of like
protecting yourself from the inevitable downfall. So it's like, let
(06:21):
me find one little thing that doesn't quite match up.
Speaker 2 (06:25):
Now, I'm like, h there we go.
Speaker 1 (06:28):
Their tiny habits turn you off quickly. So whether it's
how they chew, laugh, they don't like the same show
as you, it's kind of that's kind of all the
same gimmick, right, It's all in the same box of like, yeah,
I just don't quite want to commit self, find this
one thing you're waiting for the perfect time to sell down.
I've been a victim of this in the past, and
(06:50):
I know it's because, like I put a lot into
my career obviously, and so and I say that even now,
like I'm so busy, and it's true, like I'm far
too busy, and I'm sure that I'll get knocked off
my ass one day, and that would be for the
you know, some some some battie that comes across you
(07:13):
know what I mean. Uh, yeah, I think that's kind
of vent and there's never a perfect time for anything.
You know, there's never the perfect time for getting a
dog or having a kid, or getting a house whatever.
I think that's fair. You keep comparing everyone to your
quote perfect X. They say, if you're still mentally comparing
every potential partner to an X, you're likely idealizing a
(07:36):
past relationship.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
Now. I know my exes have a problem with this.
I get it. I mean, how could you not compare
to me?
Speaker 1 (07:44):
Dude, I'm cool, No, But I did think that's a problem,
Like why your ex ain't ish right? Why stop yourself
from finding somebody new because of an X an X
for a reason. Yeah, I know that's so cliche, but
it's true. You're keeping people at arm's length, waiting for
(08:04):
the one. I also think that, Like, I get that, right,
that makes sense, But again, the problem is it's like
we don't know when the one is. I don't think
that one necessarily walks into your life, and like, that's
it because we've been wrong before, haven't we. We thought
somebody was the one, we thought they were different. Turns out, nah,
(08:29):
that's tough. You've been single for a long time and
not by choice. If you've been single longer than you'd
like to admit, and it's not because you enjoy being solo,
might be time to rethink your dating habits being single
because you're too selective. It can be frustrating lonely, but
remember it's your choice at the end of the day.
I do think that if we could shallow Hallett for
(08:51):
a second and you could just like see the potential
on somebody, I think we'd be happier dating. I think
if there's a way to try on that filter, you
can see, you know, how well you actually get along
with them, and like what percent match you be.
Speaker 2 (09:05):
I do think that would help.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
I do listen, the goal is always happy and healthy, right,
And I think, yeah, the problem with dating apps it's
a bit like your thinking at a restaurant and you're
a free to order one dish in case you don't
like it perfectly. It's like, you want to know what, though,
it's better than going hungry, get some meat, dude. I
know if that's the best analogy in my head. It
(09:28):
kind of made sense as it came out. I was like,
this sounds a little bit perverted, but we're already too
far in so you know, we don't judge here. The
one thing that Thought Shower we don't do is we
don't judge. I hope you have a fantastic Monday, a
fantastic week. If you're new the podcast, thank you. If
you've been here for a minute, thank you as well.
(09:48):
You can grab the the socials at Internsho on Radio.
I will see you on Wednesday. Have a fantastic week.
This is the Thought Shower.
Oh, hi friend, welcome to the thought Shower. Intern John
is my name? What a weekend it was? It s
geated things shall we on a Friday, had a hotel
skills and I got a hotel close to the restaurant.
Knew I was gonna be out Friday night. It was
nice to have a place to kind of stay because
(00:21):
making the trip to the restaurant it's a long journey.
You know, it's like forty five minutes one way depending
on traffic, of be an hour the other way.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
So to have a home base Fria good night was clutch.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
Slept during the day on Friday, washed happy Gilmore, went
on to the bar Friday night, had a lot of fun,
probably too much fun, all good. Woke up Saturday not
feeling great. Not feeling great. We got probably around ten
drove back from the hotel with skittles. Went to like
a Cajun crab place my buddy Shane for lunch where
(00:59):
it's basically I won't to know how to explain it
because it's like they give you the food, it's all
I can eat thing and it's on like it's like
a juicy tray.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
That sounds horrible, but.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
It'st guy with the Cajun spice, and it's kind of
like a seafood boil type of a vibe. That was
pretty good. Have my first ever female crab sounds exciting.
I didn't quite notice a different taste, and it kind
of tastes the same, I think, but maybe my crab
palette isn't as experienced. So Saturday, that's literally all I
did was go and eat and then go home and
(01:33):
pass out.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
I've been exhausted.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
This was my first weekend home really in it feels
like forever.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
So did that. Sunday was a very fun day.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
So Sunday got up, went to the gym, flex, got
ripped flex you know what it is.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
You probably tell how ripped I sound right now. That
sounds pretty jack.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
But then my good friend Dante, who I've talked about
before for Dante's and my best friends, he is moving
to Tennessee this week starting the first ever HBCU hockey
program Tennessee State University has going away party at the restaurant.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
So got there around at one point thirty. I think.
Speaker 1 (02:18):
Was great to see all of his friends and me
and my friends too. Obviously his family is my family.
And then I had a work dinner as well. So
I was at the restaurant on Sunday for seven hours,
which is like I've been there seven hours at nighttime,
you know, during drinking hours, but being there during the
day different vibe. Got to have lunch and dinner. But
(02:44):
it was great and it's pretty cool. So Dante, he's
moving to the Nashville area, which is by my family
and buy my radio friends, so I'll get a chance
to see him down there as well. But it's a
lot of fun. It's cool to see, you know, your
friends do well. It's cool to see your friends you
root for as much as, if not more than yourself, succeed.
(03:06):
And I told him yesterday that you know, with him
starting this hockey program, he's gonna change lives forever. You know,
generations of families are gonna be changed from Dante bringing
them in and playing hockey forum, which is like, what
a cool legacy to have, you know. And it won't
be long before he's in the NHL, I have no
(03:28):
doubt about that. This week promises to be hopefully a
little bit easy going.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
I wanted to go to the woods.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
I have not been to the woods in far too long,
and it's starting to affect my psyche. But my buddy
Chuck and I Chuck is one of the owners of
the restaurant. Our birthdays are a day apart. I think
he's the fifth I'm the sixth. So we're doing his
birthday this weekend, my birthday next weekend, and then hopefully
I can get away and like actually unplugged. But you know,
(04:00):
we'll see, baby, it's life could be worse. We're here,
happy Monday. Let's get into this. I want to talk
about the the clues you're being too picky with dating
and relationships. I've said this before. I do think that
dating apps can be a good thing. However, I do
think they've also messed us up where you're constantly concerned
(04:24):
that you're gonna find somebody better, Like why sell now
there could be somebody better.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
It's like the idea of the lottery. I mean, it
really is.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
They talk about how you know, social media is built
like the slot machine. You refresh it and like, oh
my gosh, what like at this time, dating apps have
taken that stage as well. Starting with your list of
deal breakers is longer than your grocery list. Now, I
do believe I mentioned this too It's like when it
comes to buying a house, there is no perfect house.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
This isn't but I've seen.
Speaker 1 (04:57):
Folks who will have their list of like deal breakers
and it is so long that I don't even bother
reading it. I'm like, that is just because to me,
it's like you probably have that person in mind, Like
with all the things you're saying no to, you probably
know who you want to date and it's probably a
certain person and I just don't want.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
To do that. You know, you expect everything to be
perfect from day one.
Speaker 1 (05:23):
I do think that is the problem with dating now,
is that I get it, like you want to skip
the get to know you phase and get to the
I have somebody who has my back phase. I get it.
I think that's like that makes all the sense in
the world. Who doesn't want that. Who doesn't want to
step into relationship and have it be seven months in
(05:45):
problem is, life doesn't work that way, Dude, just doesn't.
Speaker 2 (05:49):
I wish it didn't.
Speaker 1 (05:51):
It'd be easier because they need to also know I'm
wasting my time, But sadly we don't have that technology.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
Fam.
Speaker 1 (05:58):
You know, if you're always on the lookout for red flags,
they say being cautious is smart. But if you're looking
for reasons to disqualify someone before you give them a chance,
it's probably stopping you from finding love. I think I
had that tendency sometimes where it's like kind of like
protecting yourself from the inevitable downfall. So it's like, let
(06:21):
me find one little thing that doesn't quite match up.
Speaker 2 (06:25):
Now, I'm like, h there we go.
Speaker 1 (06:28):
Their tiny habits turn you off quickly. So whether it's
how they chew, laugh, they don't like the same show
as you, it's kind of that's kind of all the
same gimmick, right, It's all in the same box of like, yeah,
I just don't quite want to commit self, find this
one thing you're waiting for the perfect time to sell down.
I've been a victim of this in the past, and
(06:50):
I know it's because, like I put a lot into
my career obviously, and so and I say that even now,
like I'm so busy, and it's true, like I'm far
too busy, and I'm sure that I'll get knocked off
my ass one day, and that would be for the
you know, some some some battie that comes across you
(07:13):
know what I mean. Uh, yeah, I think that's kind
of vent and there's never a perfect time for anything.
You know, there's never the perfect time for getting a
dog or having a kid, or getting a house whatever.
I think that's fair. You keep comparing everyone to your
quote perfect X. They say, if you're still mentally comparing
every potential partner to an X, you're likely idealizing a
(07:36):
past relationship.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
Now. I know my exes have a problem with this.
I get it. I mean, how could you not compare
to me?
Speaker 1 (07:44):
Dude, I'm cool, No, But I did think that's a problem,
Like why your ex ain't ish right? Why stop yourself
from finding somebody new because of an X an X
for a reason. Yeah, I know that's so cliche, but
it's true. You're keeping people at arm's length, waiting for
(08:04):
the one. I also think that, Like, I get that, right,
that makes sense, But again, the problem is it's like
we don't know when the one is. I don't think
that one necessarily walks into your life, and like, that's
it because we've been wrong before, haven't we. We thought
somebody was the one, we thought they were different. Turns out, nah,
(08:29):
that's tough. You've been single for a long time and
not by choice. If you've been single longer than you'd
like to admit, and it's not because you enjoy being solo,
might be time to rethink your dating habits being single
because you're too selective. It can be frustrating lonely, but
remember it's your choice at the end of the day.
I do think that if we could shallow Hallett for
(08:51):
a second and you could just like see the potential
on somebody, I think we'd be happier dating. I think
if there's a way to try on that filter, you
can see, you know, how well you actually get along
with them, and like what percent match you be.
Speaker 2 (09:05):
I do think that would help.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
I do listen, the goal is always happy and healthy, right,
And I think, yeah, the problem with dating apps it's
a bit like your thinking at a restaurant and you're
a free to order one dish in case you don't
like it perfectly. It's like, you want to know what, though,
it's better than going hungry, get some meat, dude. I
know if that's the best analogy in my head. It
(09:28):
kind of made sense as it came out. I was like,
this sounds a little bit perverted, but we're already too
far in so you know, we don't judge here. The
one thing that Thought Shower we don't do is we
don't judge. I hope you have a fantastic Monday, a
fantastic week. If you're new the podcast, thank you. If
you've been here for a minute, thank you as well.
(09:48):
You can grab the the socials at Internsho on Radio.
I will see you on Wednesday. Have a fantastic week.
This is the Thought Shower.
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