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Speaker 1 (00:00):
And a happy Monday. Friends. Welcome to the Thought Shower.
Intern John is my name. And it was a weekend
and that's becoming a thing now on this show. It's
what we do. Let's get into it. Where to begin.
Last week was my birthday, very exciting, very exciting. I
had a great time. Hopefully you did as well. So
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Friday we did the show. Well, Thursday we did the
Star Wars Empire ships back the Star Wars for the
last show.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
Was a lot of fun.
Speaker 1 (00:32):
Didn't get back home until like ten o'clock something like
that on Thursday night. So Friday was a little bit
loopy doopy. Friday, went to do the show, morning show,
went to the gym. It was still kind of in
birthday except for like I just had a pretty chill
night on Friday again, getting better at that because my
life's about to get a little bit crazy with the
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bar opening all that good stuff. And then Saturday was
we were going out to public in DuPont to celebrate.
It's a Saturday, got up, went to the gym, had
myself a day, and then went out to a public
Saturday night. And it was one of those things where
I got a text from savera works on the show
around like noon saying I'm gonna make you dance tonight,
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and I was like, no, you're not.
Speaker 2 (01:17):
That's just not gonna happen.
Speaker 1 (01:19):
But then I got a text some Sauce saying, can't
wait to make you throw up tonight. I'm like, well,
you know, that's not really the vibe we want either.
You know, we don't don't want necessarily to throw up.
That's not gonna make me feel better. Didn't throw up,
took myself home a little bit after midnight. By that,
I mean got an uber didn't take myself home. And
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then Sunday was one of those days where it was
just a loss. You know, it was just a loss.
It is what it is. Sometimes you go too hard
on a Saturday and you sacrifice your Sunday. In the meantime,
you know, did some some documentary watching Hung with the Dogs.
I mean, cause, this week's about to be crazy. This
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week is gonna be a lot. I'm excited. My parents
come in on Wednesday, So there's Wednesday Thursday Sauce Night.
Each one award for the Best of Baltimore Sauce one
Radio Hosts of the Year. The podcast won Best Podcast
a Thursday, we have an awards ceremony at the Hippodome
in Baltimore. Excited for that. Friday, going the o'sgame my parents.
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That's gonna be exciting. My dad's always talked about going
to an O's game, and they happen to me playing
the Red Sox, which is my dad's favorite team, which
is very exciting. So I can't wait for that. I
think we're gonna do Jimmy's for dinner as well. Then
Saturday rams Head Show the finale of the comedy tour,
which is crazy. Internsooncomedy dot com for tickets. There's not
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many left. Like I'm looking at the map right now,
it's basically all gone.
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You know. It's interesting too.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
I had I did a question answer on Thursday on
the way to the Star Wars show, and so somebody
asks why so few comedy shows this year because usually
there's a lot more, which is true, and I need
to get a chance to answer it on there. But
the short reason is, like I was not planning on
doing a comedy tour, Like period was not gonna be
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what happened, But then life happens. I was like, Okay,
we're gonna We're gonna do it. We're gonna do it good.
And here we are. So planning the comedy tour is
very time consuming, it's very energy draining, it's all of
those things.
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So like the idea was to do a couple of
shows so I.
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Can get my my emotions out, get my things out,
if you will, and then kind of see how it goes.
So it's been nice not having to travel as much.
It's been a lot less planning because that's the main
thing is like I'm the one that like I book it,
I do all like the behind the scenes stuff. It's
just a lot, dude, it's a lot to plan. It
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be different. I think it's just me. But because it's me,
and then if we're on the full two where it's like,
you know, four or five people, it's just it's a lot.
So anyway, but I'm excited, though, Ram said this Saturday
at the party's gonna be at Mosaic, which will also
be Dope Internjohncomedy dot Com. But I'm excited if my
parents come in, give me a busy week, give you
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a busy week, and then I think the goals to
take them to my restaurant next week to at least
see the inside so very exciting and not waiting. I'm
happy to have you along for the journey as well.
Let me get to this for your Monday. The ways
a narcissist ruins every social event. Everybody knows that one person,
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starting with they always need to be the center attention,
they say. A narcissist have a need for attention and validation.
They'll do anything to steal a spotlight if it means
turning a friendly conversation into a monologue about their life.
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I can't stand this.
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That's why usually, like at events, I tend to just
kind of hide in the corner, you know what I mean,
because I don't know. I don't quite know like I
wanna ever seem like one up in somebody also too,
I just think it'd be exhausting to have a spotlight
on you all the time all the time. That'd be exhausting.
They feel like you have to perform all the time.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
No, thank you. They're always about one upmanship.
Speaker 1 (05:23):
Yes, oh, they say a narcissists are always stuck in
competition mode. If you have a fun story, they have
a better one. Mentioned the accomplishment they've achieved more. Yeah,
that to me again, it's just it's exhausting as a
person around it. You know, we're like, you know, if
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you're talking to somebody and the narcissist walks up here,
it's like I don't even feel like having this conversation
because I know it's gonna be all about them. I
could talk about my comedy tour and they're gonna like,
well I told Joco LUNCHCI other day. That got more applause,
Like yeah, you probably did. You know, they dominate every
single conversation saus and I. We were talking about this
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a couple of days ago, just her and I. But
like the energy vampires where they just kind of feed
off you where it's just like again you dread them
coming into something because you know it's like, all right, now,
I deal with this. If all they do is brag, Yes,
they say narcissists have a knack for turning every conversation
to a bragging session. Again to me, that that's just
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like it's exhausting, Like that's what it comes down to.
It's exhausting where it's just like I don't got time
for this dude, you know, get a pet goldfish, talk
to him, talk to her.
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They ignore all but chosen few. They say.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
Narcissists are masters of selective attention. They'll latch onto those
that feed their ego and neglect everyone else. I've noticed this,
you know, I've seen this before, and I feel bad
for the folks that get taken advantage of. I do,
but I've seen it before where it's like people who
it's almost like they look for those who are lost
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to take advantage of them, if that makes sense, Like
if they think they can take advantage of somebody. It's
a weird complex. And I've warned like people on radio
about this, like be careful of folks who want to
help you out and like make you their project. They
tend to be doing it just for them. Usually that's
the vibe. If they need to be control all the time.
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Narcissists crave control. They want to dictate topics of conversation,
the flow of events, even people's behavior. They say that
controlling nature can make social events feel rigid and orchestrated. Yeah,
sucking the spontaneity out of the fun of the gathering.
To me, at that point, it's it's not so much
fun anymore, right if they're doing that, If it becomes
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more of a structured thing. Like I mean, I think
structure can be good when you're hanging out just so
like things get done, but like that almost becomes like work.
Then you know, it takes like if you feel like
you have to be on an agenda with your friends, yeah,
who wants that? Not I All they do is criticize everyone. Yeah,
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I mean because they think they're the best. And then
again that's what sucks. Do they say the make Snyder remarks,
passive aggressive comments, or outright insults under the guys of
just being honest. It's my least favorite phrases of all time,
one hundred and ten percent. I think that goes back
to of like when you're around your friends, you want
to be able to let your guard down. You want
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to be able to relax, feel like can let your
guard down. You don't want to feel like, Okay, I
was out in the world today fighting off the wolves.
Now you'll worry about taking it. I had a friend
who was a narcissist and I we got it. We
went into it one time and I told this person like, hey,
I've taken bullets for you. Metaphorically, I was like, I've
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taken thousands of bullets for you. The last thing I
need to worry about is getting shot in the back
of the head. Meaning I'm willing to stand in the
line and take bullets to defend your honor and protect you.
But while I'm doing that, I shouldn't have to worry
about you taking a shot in my bag, you know
what I mean? Like, that's that should not be what
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happens in the situation. It was tough, it was exhausting,
it was everything. But once I cut ties with narcissists,
of course, at first they were very angry and they
lashed out. But to me, it was crazy how quick
like it felt like a giant weight was lifted off
my shoulders, like I could finally relax and look legitimately
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the weight was gone, and it was It was crazy
how quickly I could kind of move on and how
quickly I got better. I want that for you. Life's
too short for cheap liquor and bad friends. Thank you
for listening. I hope to see this weekend. Interns you
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