December 15, 2025 • 9 mins
On this episode of The Thought Shower, Intern John talks about his Christmas party, plus the hard truths we all need to accept!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
And a Happy Monday. Friend. Welcome to the thought Shower. Intern.
John is my name.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Busy Weekend, Busy week Let's start with the weekend Friday
Hockey Nobody Deal. Saturday was a tenth annual I J
Christmas Spectacular, a party that was started ten years ago
because I didn't want to go to other parties, so
I was like, hey, let's have it at my house.
And over the years, it's funny because I think it
(00:26):
started off a lot of fun and then there were
some years where it's like, eh, well yeah, just kind
of do it. And in fact, the last couple of years,
like maybe since the pandemic, because we could be basically
took a year off, you know, twenty twenty, it's kind
of researched as like it's fun. It's like our kind
of final sendoff for jingle Ball. It's the most hodgepodge
group of folks ever. You got the radio folks, you
(00:49):
got the comedy folks a lot of times, the hockey folks,
and then we got the say the industry folks. Good
friend DJ Rise and Buddy Ryan came for a little bit,
and so it's just a great group of people and
it's a lot of fun. You know, it's I don't
like decorating or cleaning any of that, so it's a
little bit ironic that I host a Christmas party, but
(01:12):
here we are. Party was good, huge, thanks to yem
yam Habachi in Ashbourne doing the catering, fantastic.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
Abaji.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
Food's amazing as always, and it's like get snacks for
days afterwards, which is even better.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
But a lot of fun.
Speaker 2 (01:26):
Good to see people, and again just because you know,
it was a rough year for me certainly, but to
have everybody there was was very exciting. The best part
is when the party's over, a lot of folks stay
and helped clean, which is like huge, huge, huge, huge.
And then today there's probably, like I don't know, fifteen
trash bags outside my house. So the hope is that
when I get home from the show today those trash
(01:48):
bags are gone.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
Because you ever quite know, you'd never quite know. This week,
get me busy.
Speaker 2 (01:54):
I'll be on Fox five later on tonight around like
seven pm and Vain. I'm staying at Hotel I think
tonight and tomorrow jingle Balls. Tomorrow. Tomorrow's schedule is going
to be dumb, dumb. I get up into the show,
so you'll give it to forty do the show. My
goal here is to leave the station at like ten
(02:15):
o'clock tomorrow to go to the gym real quick and
then try to pass out like an hour or two.
I gotta be at Capital one at three for production meetings,
so that's not great. The show itself doesn't start until
the pre party starts at four, show starts seven point thirty,
doesn't enter on midnight, so it's gonna be close to
twenty four hours, come back to the hotel, pass out
(02:38):
a little bit, then do the show again on Wednesday.
Speaker 1 (02:40):
So not that I'm complaining.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
We know it's a grind, but for the chance to
be on stage in front of, you know, eighteen thousand people,
it's pretty sick. You know, the show being sold out
is pretty sick. But it just is a bit of
like a Okay, we gotta get moving, you know. So
follow along on the journey on the Instagram at WYMS Radio.
Let me get to this for your Monday. The things
(03:04):
about life that most of us don't want to accept.
Oh boy, it gets real, It gets real. Sorry with
you won't achieve every dream and that's not a tragedy,
they said, duhlhood for us, you confront the reality at time, resources, responsibility,
and circumstance play a bigger role in dreams than anyone admits.
As you grow, you begin to realize not every child
(03:24):
of ambition is meant to be fulfilled, and that's not
a sign of failure. Sure, I think that's fair. But
also I don't know, I don't know if I like that.
I mean, I think, like my dream of being a
pro hockey player at this point probably not gonna happen
because my hours at the station. Yeah, I mean, because
(03:45):
that's so many hours of the station, but probably win
have time to play pro hockey. But I think it's
still important to not accept failure for other dreams, Like
my big dream for the show is to get more stations,
And that's dream that I'll probably hold and tell our
last day, you know what I mean. Like that to
me is like, yeah, that one's worth holding on to.
(04:07):
But yeah, I think the big ones that are a
little bit more like when your teacher asked you what
do you want to be in you grow up, Like, yeah,
it's probably important to recalibrate those after a while. Sure,
friendships fade, even the ones you thought would Last Forever.
I said this in the show several times. I think
that when you grow up, you kind of take for
granted that most of your friends are people you go
(04:28):
to school with, right or people you play sports with,
or people that live on your block, so you really
don't have to maintain those friendships. Also, your parents are
the ones kind of driving you around, setting a playdates.
It really isn't until after you leave high school, you
go to college or go wherever, and you're realize like, oh, like,
I have to maintain these relationships. I have to be
(04:49):
one to find time, set things up, and go. And
also when you're in grade school, all of you are
kind of on the same life path. Yeah, I mean
nobody's ma, nobody has kids. Once you have, you put
that into it's like, oh yeah, things change. So I
do think that you realize after high school it's like, oh,
I need to maintain these friendships, you know, And then
(05:12):
of course you have kids other stuff, YadA YadA, And
I don't think it's a bad thing sometimes, like I
have people that was once really good friends with and
now we're not and nothing happened. Life kind of happened,
And I don't look negatively on them if anything, it's like, hey,
like you were an asset to me, hopefully I was
to you, and you know I have your back obviously,
(05:34):
and I'll never saything bad about you.
Speaker 1 (05:35):
It's just that we don't necessarily hang out. It's funny.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
I was talking to a good friend DJ Rise about
this a couple of years ago. We're about being so
busy and it's like we we're so busy with events
and stuff, but it's like we when you're in the
entertainment side of things, you always dream of the day
where it's like you're booked and you're at this club
and you're doing this. But it's like that comes with
a with a price of like you're not gonna be
(06:00):
time for free time. But at the same token, if
we did have all this free time, that means business
isn't good, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (06:07):
I was telling this.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
I send people all the time like if I was
had a bunch of downtime, that means the show's not hot,
and that's not good. You know, most people are thinking
about you, they're thinking about themselves. I think this is fair. Yes,
we spend huge amounts of time worrying about what other
people perceive us, or judge or evaluate us. In reality,
most people are so preoccupying their own insecurities they barely
(06:29):
notice things we obsess over. I've always said that when
it comes to like of you're afraid of the outfit
you're wearing, it's like go to the mall. I can't
remember one person in my life that's looked weird, you
know what I mean, Because like I'm so worried about
myself that I don't think about or go to the gym.
Speaker 1 (06:46):
I can't remember like one person in the gym.
Speaker 2 (06:47):
Who looks like out of place because I'm so worried
about my own self. I think that's not that's a
good thing. But also to me it goes to I'll
say something blue in the the face. The world doesn't
care enough about me or you to ruin our life lives,
just doesn't. It's something our lives is wrong. Most likely
we have a big part of that because the world
doesn't care. It's just kind of reality. You know, closure
(07:11):
is a myth you heal without it. Man, this is
a huge one.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (07:16):
Most people don't get the neat clear ending they're waiting for.
You rarely receive the apology explanation or acknowledgement you think
you need to move on. Waiting for closure keeps you
tethered to a story that's already ended. Healing's a messy,
nonlinear often happens without external validation. Real closure is an
internal process and a final conversation. I've said this with
x'es before, or about xes, where it's like most of them,
(07:37):
like I don't think they could even tell you what's wrong,
like legitimately. And that's not to say they're bad people.
A guy of an axe I can think of right
now where it's like I don't think she knows what's wrong,
and it's sad. I think now as i'm you removement,
I'm like, oh, it just kind of feel bad, you
know what I mean, not getting a pitop a way,
but like, oh, like they're never going to figure it out,
(08:00):
you know.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
They're going to continue this pattern that they do. It's like, oh,
it's kind of like a sad thing, you know.
Speaker 2 (08:05):
I think the idea of like movies make it seem
like okay, like you know, we'll sit down with a
big talk and everything's the answered, but it's like that's
just not reality. I think as sooner the sooner you
accept that probably the better too. You know you're not
running out of time. You need to rethink your timeline.
The pressure at certain milestones by a certain age and
socially constructed, not biologically mandated life does not expire thirty, forty, fifty,
(08:29):
even seventy, but society often acts like it does. You know,
I was talking to somebody recently who they were engaged
for a couple of years I believe, and then they
called it off and I was like, hey, good for you.
You mean good for you, because I, like a lot
of folks to this point would be like, oh, but
you know, we've been together for this long. I'm already
in my thirties, Like, as I should suck it up.
(08:51):
It's like, yeah, but you got like fifty years left,
you know what I mean? You got like fifty years left,
and that's the most important thing is making sure those
fifths are happy.
Speaker 1 (09:03):
I think that's huge.
Speaker 2 (09:04):
The last one I'll hate is people aren't always who
you want them to be. Accept them anyway. You might
have an idealized version of people in your life, friends, family,
and partners, but they may never look up to that vision.
Expectations and set up for disappointment and resentment when they
reality doesn't match the dream. It's essentially to accept people
for who they are, not who you wish they were.
This is so true, and I think especially the way
(09:25):
dating is now, Like you find somebody who is kind
of better than the usual, and your heart starts raising
and you start building this story about them. It's like, hey,
they got flaws too, fam you know they aren't perfect.
You know you gotta kind of not say yourself up
for failure that way as well. I hope you have
a fantastic day, be a chance to follow along. These
(09:46):
next twenty four hours are gonna be something at intern
Gen Radio. Have fantastic Monday. I'll see a Wednesday. It's
the Thought Shower
And a Happy Monday. Friend. Welcome to the thought Shower. Intern.
John is my name.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Busy Weekend, Busy week Let's start with the weekend Friday
Hockey Nobody Deal. Saturday was a tenth annual I J
Christmas Spectacular, a party that was started ten years ago
because I didn't want to go to other parties, so
I was like, hey, let's have it at my house.
And over the years, it's funny because I think it
(00:26):
started off a lot of fun and then there were
some years where it's like, eh, well yeah, just kind
of do it. And in fact, the last couple of years,
like maybe since the pandemic, because we could be basically
took a year off, you know, twenty twenty, it's kind
of researched as like it's fun. It's like our kind
of final sendoff for jingle Ball. It's the most hodgepodge
group of folks ever. You got the radio folks, you
(00:49):
got the comedy folks a lot of times, the hockey folks,
and then we got the say the industry folks. Good
friend DJ Rise and Buddy Ryan came for a little bit,
and so it's just a great group of people and
it's a lot of fun. You know, it's I don't
like decorating or cleaning any of that, so it's a
little bit ironic that I host a Christmas party, but
(01:12):
here we are. Party was good, huge, thanks to yem
yam Habachi in Ashbourne doing the catering, fantastic.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
Abaji.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
Food's amazing as always, and it's like get snacks for
days afterwards, which is even better.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
But a lot of fun.
Speaker 2 (01:26):
Good to see people, and again just because you know,
it was a rough year for me certainly, but to
have everybody there was was very exciting. The best part
is when the party's over, a lot of folks stay
and helped clean, which is like huge, huge, huge, huge.
And then today there's probably, like I don't know, fifteen
trash bags outside my house. So the hope is that
when I get home from the show today those trash
(01:48):
bags are gone.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
Because you ever quite know, you'd never quite know. This week,
get me busy.
Speaker 2 (01:54):
I'll be on Fox five later on tonight around like
seven pm and Vain. I'm staying at Hotel I think
tonight and tomorrow jingle Balls. Tomorrow. Tomorrow's schedule is going
to be dumb, dumb. I get up into the show,
so you'll give it to forty do the show. My
goal here is to leave the station at like ten
(02:15):
o'clock tomorrow to go to the gym real quick and
then try to pass out like an hour or two.
I gotta be at Capital one at three for production meetings,
so that's not great. The show itself doesn't start until
the pre party starts at four, show starts seven point thirty,
doesn't enter on midnight, so it's gonna be close to
twenty four hours, come back to the hotel, pass out
(02:38):
a little bit, then do the show again on Wednesday.
Speaker 1 (02:40):
So not that I'm complaining.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
We know it's a grind, but for the chance to
be on stage in front of, you know, eighteen thousand people,
it's pretty sick. You know, the show being sold out
is pretty sick. But it just is a bit of
like a Okay, we gotta get moving, you know. So
follow along on the journey on the Instagram at WYMS Radio.
Let me get to this for your Monday. The things
(03:04):
about life that most of us don't want to accept.
Oh boy, it gets real, It gets real. Sorry with
you won't achieve every dream and that's not a tragedy,
they said, duhlhood for us, you confront the reality at time, resources, responsibility,
and circumstance play a bigger role in dreams than anyone admits.
As you grow, you begin to realize not every child
(03:24):
of ambition is meant to be fulfilled, and that's not
a sign of failure. Sure, I think that's fair. But
also I don't know, I don't know if I like that.
I mean, I think, like my dream of being a
pro hockey player at this point probably not gonna happen
because my hours at the station. Yeah, I mean, because
(03:45):
that's so many hours of the station, but probably win
have time to play pro hockey. But I think it's
still important to not accept failure for other dreams, Like
my big dream for the show is to get more stations,
And that's dream that I'll probably hold and tell our
last day, you know what I mean. Like that to
me is like, yeah, that one's worth holding on to.
(04:07):
But yeah, I think the big ones that are a
little bit more like when your teacher asked you what
do you want to be in you grow up, Like, yeah,
it's probably important to recalibrate those after a while. Sure,
friendships fade, even the ones you thought would Last Forever.
I said this in the show several times. I think
that when you grow up, you kind of take for
granted that most of your friends are people you go
(04:28):
to school with, right or people you play sports with,
or people that live on your block, so you really
don't have to maintain those friendships. Also, your parents are
the ones kind of driving you around, setting a playdates.
It really isn't until after you leave high school, you
go to college or go wherever, and you're realize like, oh, like,
I have to maintain these relationships. I have to be
(04:49):
one to find time, set things up, and go. And
also when you're in grade school, all of you are
kind of on the same life path. Yeah, I mean
nobody's ma, nobody has kids. Once you have, you put
that into it's like, oh yeah, things change. So I
do think that you realize after high school it's like, oh,
I need to maintain these friendships, you know, And then
(05:12):
of course you have kids other stuff, YadA YadA, And
I don't think it's a bad thing sometimes, like I
have people that was once really good friends with and
now we're not and nothing happened. Life kind of happened,
And I don't look negatively on them if anything, it's like, hey,
like you were an asset to me, hopefully I was
to you, and you know I have your back obviously,
(05:34):
and I'll never saything bad about you.
Speaker 1 (05:35):
It's just that we don't necessarily hang out. It's funny.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
I was talking to a good friend DJ Rise about
this a couple of years ago. We're about being so
busy and it's like we we're so busy with events
and stuff, but it's like we when you're in the
entertainment side of things, you always dream of the day
where it's like you're booked and you're at this club
and you're doing this. But it's like that comes with
a with a price of like you're not gonna be
(06:00):
time for free time. But at the same token, if
we did have all this free time, that means business
isn't good, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (06:07):
I was telling this.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
I send people all the time like if I was
had a bunch of downtime, that means the show's not hot,
and that's not good. You know, most people are thinking
about you, they're thinking about themselves. I think this is fair. Yes,
we spend huge amounts of time worrying about what other
people perceive us, or judge or evaluate us. In reality,
most people are so preoccupying their own insecurities they barely
(06:29):
notice things we obsess over. I've always said that when
it comes to like of you're afraid of the outfit
you're wearing, it's like go to the mall. I can't
remember one person in my life that's looked weird, you
know what I mean, Because like I'm so worried about
myself that I don't think about or go to the gym.
Speaker 1 (06:46):
I can't remember like one person in the gym.
Speaker 2 (06:47):
Who looks like out of place because I'm so worried
about my own self. I think that's not that's a
good thing. But also to me it goes to I'll
say something blue in the the face. The world doesn't
care enough about me or you to ruin our life lives,
just doesn't. It's something our lives is wrong. Most likely
we have a big part of that because the world
doesn't care. It's just kind of reality. You know, closure
(07:11):
is a myth you heal without it. Man, this is
a huge one.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (07:16):
Most people don't get the neat clear ending they're waiting for.
You rarely receive the apology explanation or acknowledgement you think
you need to move on. Waiting for closure keeps you
tethered to a story that's already ended. Healing's a messy,
nonlinear often happens without external validation. Real closure is an
internal process and a final conversation. I've said this with
x'es before, or about xes, where it's like most of them,
(07:37):
like I don't think they could even tell you what's wrong,
like legitimately. And that's not to say they're bad people.
A guy of an axe I can think of right
now where it's like I don't think she knows what's wrong,
and it's sad. I think now as i'm you removement,
I'm like, oh, it just kind of feel bad, you
know what I mean, not getting a pitop a way,
but like, oh, like they're never going to figure it out,
(08:00):
you know.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
They're going to continue this pattern that they do. It's like, oh,
it's kind of like a sad thing, you know.
Speaker 2 (08:05):
I think the idea of like movies make it seem
like okay, like you know, we'll sit down with a
big talk and everything's the answered, but it's like that's
just not reality. I think as sooner the sooner you
accept that probably the better too. You know you're not
running out of time. You need to rethink your timeline.
The pressure at certain milestones by a certain age and
socially constructed, not biologically mandated life does not expire thirty, forty, fifty,
(08:29):
even seventy, but society often acts like it does. You know,
I was talking to somebody recently who they were engaged
for a couple of years I believe, and then they
called it off and I was like, hey, good for you.
You mean good for you, because I, like a lot
of folks to this point would be like, oh, but
you know, we've been together for this long. I'm already
in my thirties, Like, as I should suck it up.
(08:51):
It's like, yeah, but you got like fifty years left,
you know what I mean? You got like fifty years left,
and that's the most important thing is making sure those
fifths are happy.
Speaker 1 (09:03):
I think that's huge.
Speaker 2 (09:04):
The last one I'll hate is people aren't always who
you want them to be. Accept them anyway. You might
have an idealized version of people in your life, friends, family,
and partners, but they may never look up to that vision.
Expectations and set up for disappointment and resentment when they
reality doesn't match the dream. It's essentially to accept people
for who they are, not who you wish they were.
This is so true, and I think especially the way
(09:25):
dating is now, Like you find somebody who is kind
of better than the usual, and your heart starts raising
and you start building this story about them. It's like, hey,
they got flaws too, fam you know they aren't perfect.
You know you gotta kind of not say yourself up
for failure that way as well. I hope you have
a fantastic day, be a chance to follow along. These
(09:46):
next twenty four hours are gonna be something at intern
Gen Radio. Have fantastic Monday. I'll see a Wednesday. It's
the Thought Shower
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