August 29, 2025 • 10 mins
On this episode of The Thought Shower, Intern John talks about the jealous friends
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
And five hours at the TV station. But you want
to know what it was fun? And I guess how
I've always kind of looked at is there's gonna be
a day where nobody wants me anywhere, you know what
I mean. And that's just kind of the nature of
this business, the nature of entertainment. There's gonna be a
day where TV stations don't want me on, radio stations
(00:21):
don't want me on. So until then I try to
take advantage of as much as possible.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
I also love doing TV. It's a lot of fun.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
To mentioned before, and here it's just fun to kind
of show up and mess around, really get a chance
to work with different people each time, which is cool
from a creative standpoint.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
So it's a lot of fun.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
And then now this weekend be in Nashville, seeing family,
can't wait for that, seeing friends. My friend Dante will
officially move down, which is great. And if then perhaps
do in some bourbon shopping. Who knows, I mean, I'm
not even gonna say, who knows that that's for sugar
gonna happen. And then for us as far as like
the station goes and the show goes, like we come
(01:01):
back and it's basically a dead sprint intill December. So
it's kind of like this is the relaxation weekend before
we get into the really nitty gritty of the rest
of the year, which is crazy. My anniversary at the
station's coming up in octoberibly thirteen years, which that to
me is I don't even know if I can put
my head around that. I thought I could make it
(01:23):
last a year, I'd be lucky thirteen years later.
Speaker 2 (01:26):
Wild.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
I want to get to this for your Friday. We
finally made it. The subtle ways jealous friends try to
undermine You talk a lot about friends on the show,
on the podcast.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
I think it's important, I really do.
Speaker 1 (01:40):
I think that sometimes we think because somebody's been in
our life for a long time, they have to be
there forever, and that's just not the case, I think,
especially if it's a friend you've outgrown me, a friend
from college, friend from work, friend from wherever.
Speaker 2 (01:57):
Where maybe at one point they.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
Were good for you, they were good for the soul,
so to speak, but eventually that ship kind of sails,
you know. I kind of think that's where we go sometimes. Sorry,
when they downplay your achievements, which I you know, I
preach about this being happy for your friends when they
achieve something, when they when they reach a goal, how
(02:22):
cannot be happy for them? But whenever you share success,
they may act unimpressed or dismiss it like it's no
big deal. Instead of celebrating your accomplishment and saying things like, oh,
anyone can do that, that's good, but they shift the
focus away from your success, making you feel like your
hard work doesn't matter.
Speaker 2 (02:41):
It's almost like.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
Somebody blowing out the candles on your cake, you know,
like here's your celebration, your chance to shine, and somebody
going Nope, I'm gonna take this all for me. It's
awkward too when you realize it's happening. It is just
kind of like why we you not again? And my
biggest thing is always if I was talking to a
friend who wasn't in radio and I mentioned like a
(03:07):
success thing I had going, it'd be odd if they
weren't happy, because I'm like, hey, you're not in this field,
Like it's not like you're competing for the same job
as me, you know, like if they should be a
happy time they.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
Give back handed compliments.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
That to me is one of the most snarky things,
And I've been told that what you should do when
somebody says I'm backhanded is paused for a long time ago.
Speaker 2 (03:31):
What do you mean by that?
Speaker 1 (03:34):
Like put the pressure on them to defend themselves they
say saying things like you look great for a change,
or I never expected you to pull that off are
classic examples meant to chip away at your self confidence.
I do think that it's one of those things where
you have to kind of make them feel awkward, honestly,
(03:54):
like let it be known that they're out of place
and that they are being socially on and the insecurity
will shine through, which I love, By the way, I
love turning that thing around. If they steal the spotlight,
they're trying to undermine you when you're sharing a story
or achievement, they quickly pivot the conversation back to themselves
(04:16):
that we're kind of similar experience accomplishment, making sure they
always have the upper hand. This is why I personally,
if I go to a friend's event, I try to
stay in the back and try to say the way
I want to be there to support. However, I don't
want me being somewhere to take any shine off of
(04:37):
anybody and that's not to suggest that I walk into
a building and all eyes are on me and I
become the center attension. However, I don't like to go
out to social things in general. That's because I'd rather
be recharging. So when I do, I think it's a
fairly big occurrence. Again not because I'm there, but like
(05:01):
for me, it's like a big currency go out, and
so you know, with that, it's like, yeah, I would
rather kind of sit in the back, out of view
and let that person know I'm there, but not take
the spotlight away because it's their yeah thing wherever it is.
They offer unsolicited criticism. Yeah, this one. I think that
sometimes you have friends who think that they are the
(05:24):
absolute best. They are the know all, be all, they
know how things should be, and they look down on
other friends like they look down on the hot mess friend,
if you will, And they look down and they think
that you want to what It's my job to let
them know what's going on. It's my job to parent them.
It's my job to be kind of that voice. I
(05:44):
think that happens a lot. They say, jealous friends often
disguise they're envy as healthful or constructive criticism. Yeah, they
might point on flaws in your plans or appearance, claim
they're just trying to help you improve, which is also
why personally I I rarely ask for advice from people
just because number one, like I trust my own gut.
(06:08):
Number two, it is kind of opening the door for
criticism or if I ask for advice, I really don't
like it when somebody does more than what I ask for,
Like they go, yeah, I'll give you advice on this,
but also here's this and this where it's like, yeah,
I'm I was pretty good on those parts. You know.
It's like if you're I guess a a baker, maybe
(06:29):
bacon cake, and he asked, how's the frosting taste? It's good,
but let's talk about the the insides. I wasn't asking
about the insides. The insides are fine, thank you. That's
what I tell my doctor. If they sabotage your plans,
this is next level. Jealous friends might go as far
as interfere with your plans suddenly trying to ensure they fail.
(06:51):
They might quote, forget to pass on important information or
conveniently overlook crucial.
Speaker 2 (06:56):
Details that to me is crazy.
Speaker 1 (06:59):
That's next level to interfere your plans like to forget
to do something that is at that point to me,
you're not a fan because now you're actually doing something
to impede success. You're actually getting in the way of
me trying to accomplish something.
Speaker 2 (07:18):
You know. It's not like a subtle comment or not showing.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
Up, but you actively going out of your way to
ruin something I've worked for.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
Hell no, to make sure Skittles knows too.
Speaker 1 (07:33):
If they exclude you from activities, I've had this happened before,
where friends have gone out. And by the way, this
isn't like a situation where you know, Hoodie and Sauce
live in the same neighborhood. If they are like maybe
ten minutes away from each other. If that, like, if
they went out during the week to like happy hour
or dinner whatever, I wouldn't think anything of it. But
(07:55):
Eric and I live closer to each other. So if
Hoodie and Sauce went out with Eric and didn't tell me,
then that'd be a little bit more like that's weird,
you know what I mean? They say jealous friends. They
begin to exclude you from group activities, subtenly isolating you
from shared experiences.
Speaker 2 (08:11):
I think that's the odd thing.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
Yeah, if it's like something where you easily could have
been there, You easily could been included in something. That's
where it becomes a little bit like, okay, so what's
going on? Are we even friends? What are you trying
to do? I'll do uh one more? If they gossip
about you, yeah, they say uh. According to the experts,
(08:35):
gossip is a powerful tool for undermining someone without direct confrontation.
Jealous friends may spread rumors or share your seekers with others,
ensuring they remain the center of attention. I do think
it's interesting the direct confrontation because you are able to
talk behind somebody's back so that you are not necessarily
(08:55):
known to be the one who is taking the shots.
So way for you to take a shot while you're
in a disguise if you will. And I think obviously too,
the reason people gossip about somebody is to kind of
chip away at that foundation, is to kind of, you know,
slowly take a shot at somebody, slowly chisel away and
make things go that way. That to me too, if
(09:18):
I catch somebody gossiping like you are done out of
the circle, you know, cut off and everything, because we
still got time for that. We don't got time for it.
I hope you have fantastic Friday, fantastic weekend. Thank you
for listening. Make sure you follow along at intern John Radio.
It's thought shower and a happy Friday friend. Welcome to
the thost Shower. Intern John is my name. About to
(09:40):
be a very busy weekend. Although it was a very
busy week two Wednesday was gonna do TV and they
wanted to bring some food from the restaurant in It's
gonna be a lot of fun.
Speaker 2 (09:53):
So got there.
Speaker 1 (09:54):
On the way there, they're like, hey, can you stay
for the seven o'clock show too. I'm like, hey, I'm
here mine as well. And so I spent and twelve
hours of the radio station
And five hours at the TV station. But you want
to know what it was fun? And I guess how
I've always kind of looked at is there's gonna be
a day where nobody wants me anywhere, you know what
I mean. And that's just kind of the nature of
this business, the nature of entertainment. There's gonna be a
day where TV stations don't want me on, radio stations
(00:21):
don't want me on. So until then I try to
take advantage of as much as possible.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
I also love doing TV. It's a lot of fun.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
To mentioned before, and here it's just fun to kind
of show up and mess around, really get a chance
to work with different people each time, which is cool
from a creative standpoint.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
So it's a lot of fun.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
And then now this weekend be in Nashville, seeing family,
can't wait for that, seeing friends. My friend Dante will
officially move down, which is great. And if then perhaps
do in some bourbon shopping. Who knows, I mean, I'm
not even gonna say, who knows that that's for sugar
gonna happen. And then for us as far as like
the station goes and the show goes, like we come
(01:01):
back and it's basically a dead sprint intill December. So
it's kind of like this is the relaxation weekend before
we get into the really nitty gritty of the rest
of the year, which is crazy. My anniversary at the
station's coming up in octoberibly thirteen years, which that to
me is I don't even know if I can put
my head around that. I thought I could make it
(01:23):
last a year, I'd be lucky thirteen years later.
Speaker 2 (01:26):
Wild.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
I want to get to this for your Friday. We
finally made it. The subtle ways jealous friends try to
undermine You talk a lot about friends on the show,
on the podcast.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
I think it's important, I really do.
Speaker 1 (01:40):
I think that sometimes we think because somebody's been in
our life for a long time, they have to be
there forever, and that's just not the case, I think,
especially if it's a friend you've outgrown me, a friend
from college, friend from work, friend from wherever.
Speaker 2 (01:57):
Where maybe at one point they.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
Were good for you, they were good for the soul,
so to speak, but eventually that ship kind of sails,
you know. I kind of think that's where we go sometimes. Sorry,
when they downplay your achievements, which I you know, I
preach about this being happy for your friends when they
achieve something, when they when they reach a goal, how
(02:22):
cannot be happy for them? But whenever you share success,
they may act unimpressed or dismiss it like it's no
big deal. Instead of celebrating your accomplishment and saying things like, oh,
anyone can do that, that's good, but they shift the
focus away from your success, making you feel like your
hard work doesn't matter.
Speaker 2 (02:41):
It's almost like.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
Somebody blowing out the candles on your cake, you know,
like here's your celebration, your chance to shine, and somebody
going Nope, I'm gonna take this all for me. It's
awkward too when you realize it's happening. It is just
kind of like why we you not again? And my
biggest thing is always if I was talking to a
friend who wasn't in radio and I mentioned like a
(03:07):
success thing I had going, it'd be odd if they
weren't happy, because I'm like, hey, you're not in this field,
Like it's not like you're competing for the same job
as me, you know, like if they should be a
happy time they.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
Give back handed compliments.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
That to me is one of the most snarky things,
And I've been told that what you should do when
somebody says I'm backhanded is paused for a long time ago.
Speaker 2 (03:31):
What do you mean by that?
Speaker 1 (03:34):
Like put the pressure on them to defend themselves they
say saying things like you look great for a change,
or I never expected you to pull that off are
classic examples meant to chip away at your self confidence.
I do think that it's one of those things where
you have to kind of make them feel awkward, honestly,
(03:54):
like let it be known that they're out of place
and that they are being socially on and the insecurity
will shine through, which I love, By the way, I
love turning that thing around. If they steal the spotlight,
they're trying to undermine you when you're sharing a story
or achievement, they quickly pivot the conversation back to themselves
(04:16):
that we're kind of similar experience accomplishment, making sure they
always have the upper hand. This is why I personally,
if I go to a friend's event, I try to
stay in the back and try to say the way
I want to be there to support. However, I don't
want me being somewhere to take any shine off of
(04:37):
anybody and that's not to suggest that I walk into
a building and all eyes are on me and I
become the center attension. However, I don't like to go
out to social things in general. That's because I'd rather
be recharging. So when I do, I think it's a
fairly big occurrence. Again not because I'm there, but like
(05:01):
for me, it's like a big currency go out, and
so you know, with that, it's like, yeah, I would
rather kind of sit in the back, out of view
and let that person know I'm there, but not take
the spotlight away because it's their yeah thing wherever it is.
They offer unsolicited criticism. Yeah, this one. I think that
sometimes you have friends who think that they are the
(05:24):
absolute best. They are the know all, be all, they
know how things should be, and they look down on
other friends like they look down on the hot mess friend,
if you will, And they look down and they think
that you want to what It's my job to let
them know what's going on. It's my job to parent them.
It's my job to be kind of that voice. I
(05:44):
think that happens a lot. They say, jealous friends often
disguise they're envy as healthful or constructive criticism. Yeah, they
might point on flaws in your plans or appearance, claim
they're just trying to help you improve, which is also
why personally I I rarely ask for advice from people
just because number one, like I trust my own gut.
(06:08):
Number two, it is kind of opening the door for
criticism or if I ask for advice, I really don't
like it when somebody does more than what I ask for,
Like they go, yeah, I'll give you advice on this,
but also here's this and this where it's like, yeah,
I'm I was pretty good on those parts. You know.
It's like if you're I guess a a baker, maybe
(06:29):
bacon cake, and he asked, how's the frosting taste? It's good,
but let's talk about the the insides. I wasn't asking
about the insides. The insides are fine, thank you. That's
what I tell my doctor. If they sabotage your plans,
this is next level. Jealous friends might go as far
as interfere with your plans suddenly trying to ensure they fail.
(06:51):
They might quote, forget to pass on important information or
conveniently overlook crucial.
Speaker 2 (06:56):
Details that to me is crazy.
Speaker 1 (06:59):
That's next level to interfere your plans like to forget
to do something that is at that point to me,
you're not a fan because now you're actually doing something
to impede success. You're actually getting in the way of
me trying to accomplish something.
Speaker 2 (07:18):
You know. It's not like a subtle comment or not showing.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
Up, but you actively going out of your way to
ruin something I've worked for.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
Hell no, to make sure Skittles knows too.
Speaker 1 (07:33):
If they exclude you from activities, I've had this happened before,
where friends have gone out. And by the way, this
isn't like a situation where you know, Hoodie and Sauce
live in the same neighborhood. If they are like maybe
ten minutes away from each other. If that, like, if
they went out during the week to like happy hour
or dinner whatever, I wouldn't think anything of it. But
(07:55):
Eric and I live closer to each other. So if
Hoodie and Sauce went out with Eric and didn't tell me,
then that'd be a little bit more like that's weird,
you know what I mean? They say jealous friends. They
begin to exclude you from group activities, subtenly isolating you
from shared experiences.
Speaker 2 (08:11):
I think that's the odd thing.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
Yeah, if it's like something where you easily could have
been there, You easily could been included in something. That's
where it becomes a little bit like, okay, so what's
going on? Are we even friends? What are you trying
to do? I'll do uh one more? If they gossip
about you, yeah, they say uh. According to the experts,
(08:35):
gossip is a powerful tool for undermining someone without direct confrontation.
Jealous friends may spread rumors or share your seekers with others,
ensuring they remain the center of attention. I do think
it's interesting the direct confrontation because you are able to
talk behind somebody's back so that you are not necessarily
(08:55):
known to be the one who is taking the shots.
So way for you to take a shot while you're
in a disguise if you will. And I think obviously too,
the reason people gossip about somebody is to kind of
chip away at that foundation, is to kind of, you know,
slowly take a shot at somebody, slowly chisel away and
make things go that way. That to me too, if
(09:18):
I catch somebody gossiping like you are done out of
the circle, you know, cut off and everything, because we
still got time for that. We don't got time for it.
I hope you have fantastic Friday, fantastic weekend. Thank you
for listening. Make sure you follow along at intern John Radio.
It's thought shower and a happy Friday friend. Welcome to
the thost Shower. Intern John is my name. About to
(09:40):
be a very busy weekend. Although it was a very
busy week two Wednesday was gonna do TV and they
wanted to bring some food from the restaurant in It's
gonna be a lot of fun.
Speaker 2 (09:53):
So got there.
Speaker 1 (09:54):
On the way there, they're like, hey, can you stay
for the seven o'clock show too. I'm like, hey, I'm
here mine as well. And so I spent and twelve
hours of the radio station
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