The Taker - 1115

On this episode of The Thought Shower, Intern John previews the comedy shows this weekend, plust how to know if your friend is a taker!

Intern John's "Chuy Forever" is a weekend of comedy shows 6/20 & 6/21 in Arlington, Va benefitting Warrior Canine Connection. They train puppies to be service animals for veterans! Tickets are on sale now, InternJohnComedy.com

Every week Intern John discusses adulting, dating, radio life, and more! You can follow Intern John on social media: @InternJohnRadio. You can listen to past episodes at TheThoughtShower.com

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
And a Happy Wednesday friend. Welcome to the Thought Shower intern.
John is my name? Hey, nightmare last night had me
shook forever. Reason. Last night was one of those nights
where in my brain I wasn't sleeping at all, if
that makes sense, Like Gabra had those nights where like, oh,
I'm really not sleeping, but then you wake up and

(00:21):
you go, oh, I think I was sleeping. I just,
for whatever reason, my anxiety and my brain was like,
you're not sleeping even though you are. Anyway, here's what happened.
I was going to some big event at some big stadium.
I don't know what the event was, but there were
a lot of people trying to get in, Like a
lot of people's a mad rushing it in. And I
had the digital key and the digital ticket right because

(00:43):
nobody has haper tickets anymore. It's all digital. And it
was me and my buddy, and I had both tickets
on my phone. I said, hey, i'll scan you first,
you go in, because I was getting anxiety because like
people are like, hey, we're trying to get in. Scam
my buddy's ticket. He goes in, My ticket disappeared, disappeared,
So they put me in a waiting room to like

(01:05):
figure things out, and I could not figure it out.
I'm like, this is the absolute worst. And then my
head I go, I think I'm dreaming, and I was like,
I should just dream myself a ticket and dream myself
getting in, and I did. Problem is, I don't know
what the event was still, so hopefully it's not a

(01:27):
sign for this weekend, but there we go. I'm also
excited because today after the show, going to an advanced
screening the new Jurassic Park movie with hoodie Eric and
my boy Bourbon Ryan. I'm very excited. Jurassic Park, to me,
was one of those movies where my parents. It's not

(01:48):
that they didn't let me watch it. I doubt they
saw a Jurassic Park when it came out. But this
is like the first movie I remember seeing at my
cousin's house, Like my older cousin's like, hey, you need
you to watch this, and I've been kind of hooked
since then. The first movie was really good, the second
one was good, the third one kind of sucked, and

(02:08):
then they did the reboot. First reboot was good, second
one was I third one kind of sucked. So I
am excited to see how this one goes. I rarely
go to movie screenings. It's funny. In Minnesota, we had
them all the time because the movie company was there
and the Mall of America is there, so I would
go movie screenings a lot. Here. It just like it

(02:30):
has to be something good, you know. I think I've
been to maybe three. I think I saw the last
Jurassic Park. I saw Black Panther, the second one, and
now this one. So I'm very excited going out into
school night for that. And then it's grind time. Man,
the merchants come in for the comedy shows. It looks amazing.

(02:52):
I've been getting so many great notes from people who
are excited for the shows. I can't wait. The venue
is doing a sale dollar tickets right now for Friday
and Saturday, the Arlington Draft House. It listened to me,
this is the most important thing I've done in my
entire life. This is it, This is yeah, this hassy perfect.

(03:17):
I be honestly, I think that the material is perfect.
To me. It's just like, yeah, I don't know if
that means I channeled Chewy or if he was there,
I don't know, but I've never quite put together a
show where I go, oh, this thing is perfect from
start to finish. And this one is I'd love to
see you Friday or Saturday. There's two shows on Saturday. Again.

(03:39):
The Draft House has a full kitchen as well, so
you can get dinner, you can get some drinks, perfect
for date night girls at whatever. Get your six dollars
tickets Internsoncomedy dot com. I cannot wait to freaking see you.
It's gonna be special. Let me get to this I
for your Wednesday. How to know if a friend is
a taker? Ah, hate this, hate this, And I feel

(04:03):
like I've had friends like that because I try to
be as accommodating as possible, but everything is on their schedule.
You know, the friend is only available when it suits them.
The ones who can never quite carve out time unless
it's on their time. If you're always just in your
calendar to fit theirs, you might deal the classic taker.
Now this is tough, right, because there is ebbs and

(04:24):
flows in any relationship. And for me, like during the
hockey season, my weekdays are like they're done. Week is done,
most Fridays are done. And now with owning the bar,
it's like a lot of my weekends are done. Too,
and I know too when folks get kids like that
changes that dynamic as well. But I think those things aside. Yeah,

(04:47):
if it feels like you're always the one having to
make the move and schedule things, that's annoying. I mean,
it feels like you're chasing somebody just want to be chased.
If conversations are always about them, yep, if the conversations
are goes back to their last drama accomplishment or trivial gripe. Yeah, again,
I mentioned this before. It's like, if you could have

(05:08):
a better conversation with a wall, that's probably a sign.
You know. It's like if I if you're in a
conversation with somebody, you know, hey, I could literally not
say anything and they'd keep going, which, by the way,
I've done that in conversations, just stop talking and then
been like I want if they're gonna keep going, and

(05:29):
they do, it's kind of amazing. They borrow but don't return,
oh man, yeah, yeah, yeah, you've lost count number of
bucks closed, we're in the household, items have gone missing
in their borrow and forget vortex. Now, Luckily, I think
for dudes, we don't really do that, but we do it.

(05:51):
In different ways. I think there's a dude who like
will always go to the bathroom when the bill comes
or forget their wallet. There's that kind of vibe. But
I've had female friends who have like lost clothes because
they borrowed to a friend and never got back. That
would drive me crazy. No thank you, I hate this one.
They trade favors like entitlement. You have that friend who

(06:13):
thinks you're twenty first seven, Uber personal Assistant, emergency fund
all rolled in the one they ask for favors. I
hint a gratitude, as if your life revolves around making
their needs. I think, to me, it's like these people
think that they are so far above you should just
be thankful that they are there, Like you should just
be thankful they're there for you and that's why they

(06:35):
can do so much. And that to me, I don't
like that. I've had talks with friends before with x's
where I said, point blank, what is it do you
think you'd do for me? Lists suck? Here's what I do,
here's what you do. What do you think I wouldn't
be able to do if you weren't here? In like

(06:55):
tough conversation, no doubt one that had to be had. Absolutely,
if your success threatens them. I hate this one the most.
I don't quite get why you wouldn't celebrate your friends,
you know, instead of celebrating your achievements. They see the
shrinking response, masking m via backhanding compliments or passive aggressive marks,

(07:19):
things like WHOA, I didn't think you had it in you, dude.
If I had a friend who said that after something
I accomplish, I would be pissed. Pissed because like, I
know how hard I work, and I know that my friends,
my legit friends, also know how hard I work. If
one of them may seem like it was a fluke

(07:40):
or I got lucky, I'm like yeah, or I just
worked hard. Also, why do you care if it's not
something that bothers you or takes food off of your plate?
Why do you care if you're always the one apologizing?
They say, why is it every disagreement Leezy, feeling like
you're a fault. You're always one extending allive branches, soothing

(08:01):
things over even when you're not in the wrong. Yeah,
they say, takers off and manipulate social dynamics so avoid
personal accountability, making you the peacemaker that to me goes
back to it's all on you to maintain the relationship
because like, if you actually say what's bothering you, you're
afraid they're gonna fly the coop so to speak, right,

(08:24):
And that to me is not good. Yeah, because that
means to you, like your feelings don't matter. If you're
always one apologizing your feelings don't matter, well, last all,
I'll get to you today. You are their go to
emotional dumping ground when they're upset. You're the first person
they call. They never hasitate to spill every bad detail.
It's like either emotional landfill. They are to absorb all

(08:46):
their anks by a second thought, You listen, console advice
and repeat. I would say the other problem with this
is you're taking on their stress, You're taking on their drama,
and that's not fair to you, especially if you don't
get a chance to release any of it back to them.
It's like they're making you hold their physical baggage and

(09:07):
be like all right, well I did my part. I'll
see you later. No, no, cut that ish off. I
always say, you don't want to be the friend where
when somebody sees their phone ring and it's you, they go, oh, God,
I want to talk to this person. Don't be that person.
Be the person that gets their tickets for these shows

(09:28):
this weekend again, they're six dollars. There's a six dollars
flash sale for tickets the comedy shows, Might Chewy Forever shows.
Get your tickets Internjooncomedy dot com for Friday. There's two
shows on Saturday, six dollars. Internjohncomedy dot com