January 7, 2026 • 10 mins
On this episode of The Thought Shower, Intern John talks coaching hockey, and the texts that kill love
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
And a happy Wednesday friend. Welcome to the thought Shower.
Internjown is my name, been a week already. It's funny
when we have like time off then come back, like
I my voice, it's like taking off from the gym
for like seven months. That's kind of what it feels like.
But don't worry. I'm survivor. I'm not gonna give up.
(00:22):
Destiny should song as a banger by the way, like
now seven, right, I think it was on Now seven. Anyway,
this week's been good so far. Hockey's been good. Got
a game today. It's at three o'clock at the Saint James.
That's an ideal if you don't know where the Saint
James is. If you're in Moco, it's far. It's like Springfield.
(00:43):
So game will be over at like five and then
you're at the mercy of DC traffic. So excited about that.
Friday is gonna be exciting too, because Friday is Senior Night,
which is always kind of crazy.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
And we've gotten to the point now.
Speaker 1 (00:57):
As a coaching staff where it's like we've been doing
it so long you forget when kids graduated, Like we
have kids who are coaching with us now who were coaching.
We coached our first season and they're now in the thirties.
It's like, whoa, what the hell dude? You know what
I mean, It's like goll lee. So I've been trying
(01:20):
to do a better job of when we get freshmen
who come in to like really try to remember what
they're like, if that makes sense that when senior Day comes,
like this Friday, it's like, oh my god, they were
you know, the scrawny little little kid. Now they're an
awkward little adult. Mean the best way possible. By the way,
(01:42):
I always say teenage boys, they are baby girafts. They're
just trying to trying to get up, trying to run,
but they are figuring out as they go. But yes,
it's crazy, dude, It's crazy, crazy crazy. And then like
I already have the vacation bug again, which isn't great,
but I think it's more so of like where I
(02:02):
want to go next, you know what I mean? I
don't know, like for me, my like vacation philosophy has
always been like in winter, like the show you know
basically goes from now and tell jingle Ball, right, My
vacation philosophy has always been like that. Vacation after jingle Ball.
I don't want to do anything, you know what I mean,
(02:25):
Like I don't want to do like a sight seeing thing.
Speaker 2 (02:28):
I'd really go somewhere warm, stay on the beach and
not do anything.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
But then, like, if I have a chance to go
somewhere during the year, like that's the time to do
like the more go see things. I've had problems with
past exes where we have very different vacation styles.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
Also them just not being aware about how vacation works.
Speaker 1 (02:48):
Like I would pay for vacation, nothing wrong with that,
but then we get to like the destination and they
want to do all the excursions. I'm like, hey, you
know this is an extra like thousands of dollars, right.
Can't we just relax? Can't we just vacation. I don't
want to have a vacation from the vacation.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
If you have any.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
Suggestions, you can't DM me at intern GIHN radio. Uh.
I know, Like I mean obviously, like looking ahead, you
have to go to Nashville this year see family and
maybe Saint Louis and my brother.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
I mean, I got the wedding for a good friend
DJ Rise.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
That's in two weeks in three weeks in Arizona, but like, yeah,
I don't know, We'll go somewhere. Different party is thinking, like, uh,
it's like Brandson, Missouri pop up on TV for an
ad so that worked. But I think like for me,
like southern states, and I don't consider Florida the South
for some reason.
Speaker 2 (03:41):
I don't know why, Like Florida seems like his own entity.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
Like I went to Golf Shores, Alabama for the fourth
that's been three years though.
Speaker 2 (03:48):
Now that place was dope.
Speaker 1 (03:50):
Dude, that was dope because I feel like nobody knows
it's cool yet, So like somewhere like that would be cool,
maybe like Mississippi. Anyway, that's so my head's as we are,
what seven days into twenty twenty six. Let me get
to this real quick. The four things unsuccessful men do
when they text They keep them from getting a reply.
(04:11):
Dudes are horrible texting. We are We're horrible at talking.
We're horrible at really communication, which is fantastic. It's a
good problem to have, especially in this industry. Starting with
a text like an overly enthusiastic teenager. They say, a
certain amount of text speak has slipped into the American vernacular,
but recently, after saying something funny via text, somebody said
(04:35):
this are the artists, said that the artist the authore.
So they got back at OMG g R O T
F L m AO, which I don't even know what
that means. They say, though no one wants to type
arid novel via text. Also, you shouldn't sound like you're
overly excited to talk to somebody via text. I do
(04:56):
think that's a tough thing. I said, listen to the
show before, and I listen, I get it. I think
the problem with dating now is that it's it's ass
it's bad, and so especially because we're probably dating more
people now than ever before, simply because the idea of
social media and dating apps, whereas like you going on
(05:18):
you might be on a date with somebody, like it's possible.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
I suppose in a month somebody could go on.
Speaker 1 (05:23):
Six dates with six different people, and that maybe if
you're not like in the game, like that seems like
a lot, but like you know, it's not that crazy.
And so I think the problem is that we're probably
dating more ever than before, or at least like talking
to my people like you, you can have up to
ten matches, I think on hinge talking to so. I
think it's just like everything seems so bad that when
(05:44):
you finally find something that seems better, you get so excited.
It's almost like he squeeze it tight. I think that's
kind of what happens where you're so excited. Oh my god,
I need to tell them everything right now. The feelings
are flushing in. It's been so bad before. I got
to make sure that you know, they know how much
I feel about them. On the flip side, sending the
boring one word responses, they say they lack effort and
(06:09):
or a fear is sounding too eager, or they say
it's a conversation killer. These types of texts can make
texting partner feel like they're distracted, annoyed, or just not interested.
Notice how they only use one word and no one
seems happy interact with them. I think not, they say.
Research shows and people perceive their partners unresponsive in communication.
They experience decreased satisfaction and closeness in those relationships. One
(06:33):
responses single low effort, maying the person feel ignored or
in valid. Yeah, and for me, and by the way,
I love this man, my good friend Andrew Day is
the worst of this where all this, I'll send a
texts on them, like he'll be like cool.
Speaker 2 (06:47):
I'm like, is it cool, Andrew? Is it core? Is
not cool? I'm getting anxiety right now. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:53):
I think that's fair because then like if you're especially
if you're crushing on somebody, right, and then they get
back to the one response it's like, oh am I misreading this,
my bothering them, you know, which kind of leads into
this next one. They kill the conversation with close ended replies.
I think that's the greatest thing I learned from improv.
Speaker 2 (07:15):
Took improv several times.
Speaker 1 (07:17):
The idea of yes and yes and it's nice out
yes and I'm glad we get to go walk the
dog like that kind of idea of like that's how
I keep the conversation going. This dinner wasn't great, yeah,
and I'm not too sure why it's good for the
table kind of like that kind of stuff, because it
is like I've stopped talking to people because it felt
(07:38):
like pulling teeth, do you know what I mean? Like
it just felt like I'm not here to be your
court gesture, do you know what I mean, I'm not
here to perform for you and I think that even
if it's not intended like that, vibe gives off like
that you should feel lucky to.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
Be talking to me. Uh no, no, no, no, yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
And I think that's the same thing in dating apps too,
where it just kind of feels like pulling teeth, where
it's like, yeah, you gotta do something to keep the
conversation going. You're not that interesting, Sorry, nobody is. There's
nobody on earth who's so interesting. You would take that
kind of response from is woulden? Last one is they
constantly brag about their accomplishments. Now, listen, some of us
(08:21):
have a lot of accomplishments. Uh, they say, research online
dating and found the people who break excessly about themselves
their looks the accomplishments are a judge's less trustworthy and
less socially attractive. I'll say this, and I think there's
a difference between if you're dating somebody and they ask
(08:44):
about it versus you.
Speaker 2 (08:48):
Volunteering it or making sure it's known.
Speaker 1 (08:49):
Like I guess for me, and they've been very blessed
the last couple of years, especially that things have gone
really well. You know, I think somebody asking how well
hou's coaching well? Last year, We're blessed to win the championship.
How's comedy number one album?
Speaker 2 (09:04):
You know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
So it's a fine line, I think. But I also
feel like if you're proud of something, you need to
be your biggest cheerleader, no doubt. But if it is
like I got people, I think, who's stretched so much
where it's like, oh yeah, get my at the film
A car gas, Oh my car, Hi Spy brand new,
seventy thousand dollars, YadA, YadA. Gotta say to This is
(09:27):
a side note. Car flexing on me doesn't work, as
I don't know what the hell you're talking about.
Speaker 2 (09:33):
I know, like makes of cars, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (09:37):
Models of cars, like I have a Dodge nifty back
three four GT. I like I that could have one wheel. Dude,
I have no idea. God bless you if you do.
This is not my my thing anyway, Hope you have
a fantastic Wednesday.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (09:51):
Follow along you can, I get me on the Instagram's
at internet. John Radio, We'll see you Friday. This is
the thaw Shower
And a happy Wednesday friend. Welcome to the thought Shower.
Internjown is my name, been a week already. It's funny
when we have like time off then come back, like
I my voice, it's like taking off from the gym
for like seven months. That's kind of what it feels like.
But don't worry. I'm survivor. I'm not gonna give up.
(00:22):
Destiny should song as a banger by the way, like
now seven, right, I think it was on Now seven. Anyway,
this week's been good so far. Hockey's been good. Got
a game today. It's at three o'clock at the Saint James.
That's an ideal if you don't know where the Saint
James is. If you're in Moco, it's far. It's like Springfield.
(00:43):
So game will be over at like five and then
you're at the mercy of DC traffic. So excited about that.
Friday is gonna be exciting too, because Friday is Senior Night,
which is always kind of crazy.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
And we've gotten to the point now.
Speaker 1 (00:57):
As a coaching staff where it's like we've been doing
it so long you forget when kids graduated, Like we
have kids who are coaching with us now who were coaching.
We coached our first season and they're now in the thirties.
It's like, whoa, what the hell dude? You know what
I mean, It's like goll lee. So I've been trying
(01:20):
to do a better job of when we get freshmen
who come in to like really try to remember what
they're like, if that makes sense that when senior Day comes,
like this Friday, it's like, oh my god, they were
you know, the scrawny little little kid. Now they're an
awkward little adult. Mean the best way possible. By the way,
(01:42):
I always say teenage boys, they are baby girafts. They're
just trying to trying to get up, trying to run,
but they are figuring out as they go. But yes,
it's crazy, dude, It's crazy, crazy crazy. And then like
I already have the vacation bug again, which isn't great,
but I think it's more so of like where I
(02:02):
want to go next, you know what I mean? I
don't know, like for me, my like vacation philosophy has
always been like in winter, like the show you know
basically goes from now and tell jingle Ball, right, My
vacation philosophy has always been like that. Vacation after jingle Ball.
I don't want to do anything, you know what I mean,
(02:25):
Like I don't want to do like a sight seeing thing.
Speaker 2 (02:28):
I'd really go somewhere warm, stay on the beach and
not do anything.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
But then, like, if I have a chance to go
somewhere during the year, like that's the time to do
like the more go see things. I've had problems with
past exes where we have very different vacation styles.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
Also them just not being aware about how vacation works.
Speaker 1 (02:48):
Like I would pay for vacation, nothing wrong with that,
but then we get to like the destination and they
want to do all the excursions. I'm like, hey, you
know this is an extra like thousands of dollars, right.
Can't we just relax? Can't we just vacation. I don't
want to have a vacation from the vacation.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
If you have any.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
Suggestions, you can't DM me at intern GIHN radio. Uh.
I know, Like I mean obviously, like looking ahead, you
have to go to Nashville this year see family and
maybe Saint Louis and my brother.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
I mean, I got the wedding for a good friend
DJ Rise.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
That's in two weeks in three weeks in Arizona, but like, yeah,
I don't know, We'll go somewhere. Different party is thinking, like, uh,
it's like Brandson, Missouri pop up on TV for an
ad so that worked. But I think like for me,
like southern states, and I don't consider Florida the South
for some reason.
Speaker 2 (03:41):
I don't know why, Like Florida seems like his own entity.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
Like I went to Golf Shores, Alabama for the fourth
that's been three years though.
Speaker 2 (03:48):
Now that place was dope.
Speaker 1 (03:50):
Dude, that was dope because I feel like nobody knows
it's cool yet, So like somewhere like that would be cool,
maybe like Mississippi. Anyway, that's so my head's as we are,
what seven days into twenty twenty six. Let me get
to this real quick. The four things unsuccessful men do
when they text They keep them from getting a reply.
(04:11):
Dudes are horrible texting. We are We're horrible at talking.
We're horrible at really communication, which is fantastic. It's a
good problem to have, especially in this industry. Starting with
a text like an overly enthusiastic teenager. They say, a
certain amount of text speak has slipped into the American vernacular,
but recently, after saying something funny via text, somebody said
(04:35):
this are the artists, said that the artist the authore.
So they got back at OMG g R O T
F L m AO, which I don't even know what
that means. They say, though no one wants to type
arid novel via text. Also, you shouldn't sound like you're
overly excited to talk to somebody via text. I do
(04:56):
think that's a tough thing. I said, listen to the
show before, and I listen, I get it. I think
the problem with dating now is that it's it's ass
it's bad, and so especially because we're probably dating more
people now than ever before, simply because the idea of
social media and dating apps, whereas like you going on
(05:18):
you might be on a date with somebody, like it's possible.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
I suppose in a month somebody could go on.
Speaker 1 (05:23):
Six dates with six different people, and that maybe if
you're not like in the game, like that seems like
a lot, but like you know, it's not that crazy.
And so I think the problem is that we're probably
dating more ever than before, or at least like talking
to my people like you, you can have up to
ten matches, I think on hinge talking to so. I
think it's just like everything seems so bad that when
(05:44):
you finally find something that seems better, you get so excited.
It's almost like he squeeze it tight. I think that's
kind of what happens where you're so excited. Oh my god,
I need to tell them everything right now. The feelings
are flushing in. It's been so bad before. I got
to make sure that you know, they know how much
I feel about them. On the flip side, sending the
boring one word responses, they say they lack effort and
(06:09):
or a fear is sounding too eager, or they say
it's a conversation killer. These types of texts can make
texting partner feel like they're distracted, annoyed, or just not interested.
Notice how they only use one word and no one
seems happy interact with them. I think not, they say.
Research shows and people perceive their partners unresponsive in communication.
They experience decreased satisfaction and closeness in those relationships. One
(06:33):
responses single low effort, maying the person feel ignored or
in valid. Yeah, and for me, and by the way,
I love this man, my good friend Andrew Day is
the worst of this where all this, I'll send a
texts on them, like he'll be like cool.
Speaker 2 (06:47):
I'm like, is it cool, Andrew? Is it core? Is
not cool? I'm getting anxiety right now. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:53):
I think that's fair because then like if you're especially
if you're crushing on somebody, right, and then they get
back to the one response it's like, oh am I misreading this,
my bothering them, you know, which kind of leads into
this next one. They kill the conversation with close ended replies.
I think that's the greatest thing I learned from improv.
Speaker 2 (07:15):
Took improv several times.
Speaker 1 (07:17):
The idea of yes and yes and it's nice out
yes and I'm glad we get to go walk the
dog like that kind of idea of like that's how
I keep the conversation going. This dinner wasn't great, yeah,
and I'm not too sure why it's good for the
table kind of like that kind of stuff, because it
is like I've stopped talking to people because it felt
(07:38):
like pulling teeth, do you know what I mean? Like
it just felt like I'm not here to be your
court gesture, do you know what I mean, I'm not
here to perform for you and I think that even
if it's not intended like that, vibe gives off like
that you should feel lucky to.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
Be talking to me. Uh no, no, no, no, yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
And I think that's the same thing in dating apps too,
where it just kind of feels like pulling teeth, where
it's like, yeah, you gotta do something to keep the
conversation going. You're not that interesting, Sorry, nobody is. There's
nobody on earth who's so interesting. You would take that
kind of response from is woulden? Last one is they
constantly brag about their accomplishments. Now, listen, some of us
(08:21):
have a lot of accomplishments. Uh, they say, research online
dating and found the people who break excessly about themselves
their looks the accomplishments are a judge's less trustworthy and
less socially attractive. I'll say this, and I think there's
a difference between if you're dating somebody and they ask
(08:44):
about it versus you.
Speaker 2 (08:48):
Volunteering it or making sure it's known.
Speaker 1 (08:49):
Like I guess for me, and they've been very blessed
the last couple of years, especially that things have gone
really well. You know, I think somebody asking how well
hou's coaching well? Last year, We're blessed to win the championship.
How's comedy number one album?
Speaker 2 (09:04):
You know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
So it's a fine line, I think. But I also
feel like if you're proud of something, you need to
be your biggest cheerleader, no doubt. But if it is
like I got people, I think, who's stretched so much
where it's like, oh yeah, get my at the film
A car gas, Oh my car, Hi Spy brand new,
seventy thousand dollars, YadA, YadA. Gotta say to This is
(09:27):
a side note. Car flexing on me doesn't work, as
I don't know what the hell you're talking about.
Speaker 2 (09:33):
I know, like makes of cars, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (09:37):
Models of cars, like I have a Dodge nifty back
three four GT. I like I that could have one wheel. Dude,
I have no idea. God bless you if you do.
This is not my my thing anyway, Hope you have
a fantastic Wednesday.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (09:51):
Follow along you can, I get me on the Instagram's
at internet. John Radio, We'll see you Friday. This is
the thaw Shower
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