June 16, 2025 • 9 mins
On this episode of The Thought Shower, Intern John talks about his comedy shows coming up, and are you the toxic friend?
Intern John's "Chuy Forever" is a weekend of comedy shows 6/20 & 6/21 in Arlington, Va benefitting Warrior Canine Connection. They train puppies to be service animals for veterans! Tickets are on sale now, InternJohnComedy.com
Every week Intern John discusses adulting, dating, radio life, and more! You can follow Intern John on social media: @InternJohnRadio. You can listen to past episodes at TheThoughtShower.com
Intern John's "Chuy Forever" is a weekend of comedy shows 6/20 & 6/21 in Arlington, Va benefitting Warrior Canine Connection. They train puppies to be service animals for veterans! Tickets are on sale now, InternJohnComedy.com
Every week Intern John discusses adulting, dating, radio life, and more! You can follow Intern John on social media: @InternJohnRadio. You can listen to past episodes at TheThoughtShower.com
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
And a Happy Monday friend. Welcome to the thought Shower.
It was quite the weekend and high's and low's. Let's
go Friday pretty easy did the show obviously, had the
last day of hockey camp with georgeaun Prepp. That was
a lot of fun. It was kind of the end
of a good week of seeing the kids, meeting the freshman,
(00:23):
getting to lay the land for the upcoming season. That
was a lot of fun. Friday, I was like, you
want to know what we are? A week away from
the comedy show starting my goal this weekends. Take it
easy so now I can go to the gym and
be mentally ready for next weekend. So Friday, I think
I went to better around like eight legit got but six,
(00:43):
which for me sleeping in, went to the gym on Saturday,
was feeling real good. Then the rest of Saturday just
kind of did nothing around the house, hung with skittles
until we could check in the hotel near the bar.
I had a video shoot at the bar for some
social media content stuff that went well, and then I
(01:04):
went back to the hotel again relax, went out Saturday night.
That's when things went bad, not bad, but not great.
I had a great time, had a fun time, love people.
There is feeling good, shouts are flowing. I Sunday morning
was not good. I have not been that sick in
(01:26):
a long time. I mean the entire night was hukin.
It's gonna put it that way. It is what it is, right,
And then woke up Sunday morning, I'm like, oh, this
is the worst, plus a guy drive home, drove home,
and then spent the rest of Sunday basically throwing up.
Really from ten am to about four pm. That's kind
(01:50):
of what I did, and it's not great. It's not fun.
It was weird though, because I didn't really drink that much,
so maybe I just had like a bug. But like
my throat feels like it's on fire because of like
the stomach acid and that stuff. So basically all I've
had to eat the last twenty four hours is ice
(02:10):
cream because I was like, I probably should have something
to help my throat. So had some halo top today,
perhaps moved to solid food. Who knows. Very exciting times
in the internsent household, but then mainly just getting ready
for the shows this weekend. It's got the merch came
in that was emotional thanks to a Heller advertising in
(02:33):
Saint Pete. The merch looks fantastic. It has my chewy
tattoo on the front, it has the show logos in
the back. It's very cool. It's a very special piece
and I'm excited to see it. That will be up
on the site soon. If you can't make it to
the shows. By the way, there's last minute tickets are mating,
so if you want to go to the show, there's
(02:55):
the show Friday, there's two shows on Saturday. I would
love to see you. There mean a lot to me.
This is probably, you know, personally, the most important shows
of my career and again a good way to kind
of go out on. So Friday and Saturday the Arlington
draft House. Internsgoncomedy dot com. We do the meet and
(03:16):
greet after the show, so anybody who wants to say hi,
I take a photo. We wait until everybody gets one.
It's one of the coolest parts for us is to
see you put a face to the name get to
meet you as well. So that's after the show, so
get your last minute tickets. Internsgeoncomedy dot com. Dude, I
hate throwing up too, not that anybody likes it, but like,
(03:39):
that's never quite been my thing. So just even thinking
back to the I'm like, ah, what a horrible Sunday.
Let's get to this though. Are you the reason your
friendships don't last? Gonna cause ourselves to have to take
a look in today on the thought shower. If you
confuse intensity with friendship, they say you bond fast and
(04:00):
deep with then weeks somebody is your best friend. You're
trading trauma stories over cocktails. It feels electric you found
your person, but beneath the service, there's a pressure to
sustain closeeness. Closeness does never earned through time or mutual growth.
I think it's the same thing in like romantic relationships.
You just want to find that person. So when you
think you do, it's like boom. I've seen friends to
(04:22):
this on vacation if they have a vacation front of them, like,
you don't even know this person and maybe they are great,
but yeah, it's like you can't just skip ahead two
years and be like here we are now best friends.
It's gotta be slow and steady for sure. You take
everything too personally. If a friend cancels, plans forgets to
(04:42):
take you back, your brain spirals. You assume you've done
something wrong or worse, you assume they no longer care.
That is tough. I just think you guys, remember that
everybody has a life, right, Like, everybody has things going on.
Everybody has things they're dealing with, So like, yeah, things happen.
You expect people to read your mind. Yeah? Yeah. You
(05:06):
often feel disappointed when your friends don't show up in
ways you want, but you never actually told them what
you needed. You assume that if they really cared, they
just know. But emotional telepathy isn't a sign of closeness.
It's a recipe for resentment. I've been like this before,
where I've been going through things like how my friends
should really know? And I've had friends tell me before
(05:28):
that they feel like nobody's there for them and kind
to this point of how to say, hey, you're a
really strong person, you know, and so because of that,
I would never assume anything was wrong. Had I known
something was wrong, I would have dropped everything to be
there for you. But if you don't tell me something's wrong,
how am I gonna know? I think that's a real thing.
(05:50):
If you're the strong friend, people don't think to reach
out because they assume you got it. You know you
use humor to avoid being real well guilty, duh. You're
the funny one, the one that keeps things light, who reflects,
deflects with jokes, who always has a witty comeback. But
when the vibes get serious or someone asks how you're
really doing, you pivot. You're mostly present theory, but mostly
(06:13):
unavailable in practice. I think that's a lot of dudes.
I think as dudes, that's kind of what we do
to avoid things. Yeah, I mean, at least for dudes,
because you don't want to be a bother. That's kind
of like the biggest fear of a guy is being
a bother. So I think that's yeah, makes sense. You
can't apologize without getting defensive. Yeah, this one is a
(06:36):
bit tough, right because I've been with people like this.
I've dave people like this, where like, it really shouldn't
be a competition. If you're wrong and you say you're
wrong me personally, I'm just I'm like, okay, cool, and
we move on. Now. If you're worried that you're gonna
make you're wrong and the person's gonna rub it in
your face, never let you forget it. They probably shouldn't
(06:58):
be in your life period. You know, like that's probably
that's a big problem if you think that's gonna happen.
But when a friend brings up how you hurt them,
you feel attacked, your instinct is to explain, justify, or
flip the narrative. You might say, I'm sorry you feel
that way, instead of owning your impact. Yeah, I think
it's so much easier to say, hey, I'm sorry, I
(07:21):
had no idea and move on. And then, you know,
like the more you fight it, the longer the awkwardness.
The awkwardness is versus if you just kind of own it,
you can move on. You expect loyalty, but don't really
offer it. Yeah, I am. I've always been told too,
like I have high expectations of friends. Yeah, but I
(07:44):
also like I'm there too, you know what I mean, Like,
I'm there for them drop of the hat. I'll go
to war for a friend. But yeah, if you're not
being loyal to them, if you always go you know,
if like I'll give you an example, if a friend
and if you're a friend that's always asking for advice
and complaining about things, but then never listen to the
(08:04):
other person in their side that's not really friendship. Like
I had a friend who I tell her once, I'm like, hey,
you really just kind of use me as a ted
talk like you just want to give your speech, say
your thing and move on. It's like, but I might
have something to share as well. You know, I hate
this one. You secretly keep score. You remember who reached
(08:26):
out last, who forgot your birthday, who didn't like your post.
You track every perceived and balance and let it silently
pile up and say voice in your hurt. You pull
away and wait for the other person to notice. I
think this happens too with I've always said, at the
end of the mealritten a meal of friends. Unless there's
a big difference to what you ordered, you're the sake
(08:47):
and prime rib and they ordered like a salad. Just
put your cards in, you know, put your cards in,
because I do think over the course of a good
friendship that will equal out like that will they'll all
even out. It'll be fine. If you have to keep
track of that stuff, that's not great. That's not great. Yeah, listen,
(09:11):
life's too short. Rehiet friends a bad laquer. That's always
my thought. I hope to see you Friday. I mean
a lot to me. If you came Internshoon Comedy, get
your tickets.
And a Happy Monday friend. Welcome to the thought Shower.
It was quite the weekend and high's and low's. Let's
go Friday pretty easy did the show obviously, had the
last day of hockey camp with georgeaun Prepp. That was
a lot of fun. It was kind of the end
of a good week of seeing the kids, meeting the freshman,
(00:23):
getting to lay the land for the upcoming season. That
was a lot of fun. Friday, I was like, you
want to know what we are? A week away from
the comedy show starting my goal this weekends. Take it
easy so now I can go to the gym and
be mentally ready for next weekend. So Friday, I think
I went to better around like eight legit got but six,
(00:43):
which for me sleeping in, went to the gym on Saturday,
was feeling real good. Then the rest of Saturday just
kind of did nothing around the house, hung with skittles
until we could check in the hotel near the bar.
I had a video shoot at the bar for some
social media content stuff that went well, and then I
(01:04):
went back to the hotel again relax, went out Saturday night.
That's when things went bad, not bad, but not great.
I had a great time, had a fun time, love people.
There is feeling good, shouts are flowing. I Sunday morning
was not good. I have not been that sick in
(01:26):
a long time. I mean the entire night was hukin.
It's gonna put it that way. It is what it is, right,
And then woke up Sunday morning, I'm like, oh, this
is the worst, plus a guy drive home, drove home,
and then spent the rest of Sunday basically throwing up.
Really from ten am to about four pm. That's kind
(01:50):
of what I did, and it's not great. It's not fun.
It was weird though, because I didn't really drink that much,
so maybe I just had like a bug. But like
my throat feels like it's on fire because of like
the stomach acid and that stuff. So basically all I've
had to eat the last twenty four hours is ice
(02:10):
cream because I was like, I probably should have something
to help my throat. So had some halo top today,
perhaps moved to solid food. Who knows. Very exciting times
in the internsent household, but then mainly just getting ready
for the shows this weekend. It's got the merch came
in that was emotional thanks to a Heller advertising in
(02:33):
Saint Pete. The merch looks fantastic. It has my chewy
tattoo on the front, it has the show logos in
the back. It's very cool. It's a very special piece
and I'm excited to see it. That will be up
on the site soon. If you can't make it to
the shows. By the way, there's last minute tickets are mating,
so if you want to go to the show, there's
(02:55):
the show Friday, there's two shows on Saturday. I would
love to see you. There mean a lot to me.
This is probably, you know, personally, the most important shows
of my career and again a good way to kind
of go out on. So Friday and Saturday the Arlington
draft House. Internsgoncomedy dot com. We do the meet and
(03:16):
greet after the show, so anybody who wants to say hi,
I take a photo. We wait until everybody gets one.
It's one of the coolest parts for us is to
see you put a face to the name get to
meet you as well. So that's after the show, so
get your last minute tickets. Internsgeoncomedy dot com. Dude, I
hate throwing up too, not that anybody likes it, but like,
(03:39):
that's never quite been my thing. So just even thinking
back to the I'm like, ah, what a horrible Sunday.
Let's get to this though. Are you the reason your
friendships don't last? Gonna cause ourselves to have to take
a look in today on the thought shower. If you
confuse intensity with friendship, they say you bond fast and
(04:00):
deep with then weeks somebody is your best friend. You're
trading trauma stories over cocktails. It feels electric you found
your person, but beneath the service, there's a pressure to
sustain closeeness. Closeness does never earned through time or mutual growth.
I think it's the same thing in like romantic relationships.
You just want to find that person. So when you
think you do, it's like boom. I've seen friends to
(04:22):
this on vacation if they have a vacation front of them, like,
you don't even know this person and maybe they are great,
but yeah, it's like you can't just skip ahead two
years and be like here we are now best friends.
It's gotta be slow and steady for sure. You take
everything too personally. If a friend cancels, plans forgets to
(04:42):
take you back, your brain spirals. You assume you've done
something wrong or worse, you assume they no longer care.
That is tough. I just think you guys, remember that
everybody has a life, right, Like, everybody has things going on.
Everybody has things they're dealing with, So like, yeah, things happen.
You expect people to read your mind. Yeah? Yeah. You
(05:06):
often feel disappointed when your friends don't show up in
ways you want, but you never actually told them what
you needed. You assume that if they really cared, they
just know. But emotional telepathy isn't a sign of closeness.
It's a recipe for resentment. I've been like this before,
where I've been going through things like how my friends
should really know? And I've had friends tell me before
(05:28):
that they feel like nobody's there for them and kind
to this point of how to say, hey, you're a
really strong person, you know, and so because of that,
I would never assume anything was wrong. Had I known
something was wrong, I would have dropped everything to be
there for you. But if you don't tell me something's wrong,
how am I gonna know? I think that's a real thing.
(05:50):
If you're the strong friend, people don't think to reach
out because they assume you got it. You know you
use humor to avoid being real well guilty, duh. You're
the funny one, the one that keeps things light, who reflects,
deflects with jokes, who always has a witty comeback. But
when the vibes get serious or someone asks how you're
really doing, you pivot. You're mostly present theory, but mostly
(06:13):
unavailable in practice. I think that's a lot of dudes.
I think as dudes, that's kind of what we do
to avoid things. Yeah, I mean, at least for dudes,
because you don't want to be a bother. That's kind
of like the biggest fear of a guy is being
a bother. So I think that's yeah, makes sense. You
can't apologize without getting defensive. Yeah, this one is a
(06:36):
bit tough, right because I've been with people like this.
I've dave people like this, where like, it really shouldn't
be a competition. If you're wrong and you say you're
wrong me personally, I'm just I'm like, okay, cool, and
we move on. Now. If you're worried that you're gonna
make you're wrong and the person's gonna rub it in
your face, never let you forget it. They probably shouldn't
(06:58):
be in your life period. You know, like that's probably
that's a big problem if you think that's gonna happen.
But when a friend brings up how you hurt them,
you feel attacked, your instinct is to explain, justify, or
flip the narrative. You might say, I'm sorry you feel
that way, instead of owning your impact. Yeah, I think
it's so much easier to say, hey, I'm sorry, I
(07:21):
had no idea and move on. And then, you know,
like the more you fight it, the longer the awkwardness.
The awkwardness is versus if you just kind of own it,
you can move on. You expect loyalty, but don't really
offer it. Yeah, I am. I've always been told too,
like I have high expectations of friends. Yeah, but I
(07:44):
also like I'm there too, you know what I mean, Like,
I'm there for them drop of the hat. I'll go
to war for a friend. But yeah, if you're not
being loyal to them, if you always go you know,
if like I'll give you an example, if a friend
and if you're a friend that's always asking for advice
and complaining about things, but then never listen to the
(08:04):
other person in their side that's not really friendship. Like
I had a friend who I tell her once, I'm like, hey,
you really just kind of use me as a ted
talk like you just want to give your speech, say
your thing and move on. It's like, but I might
have something to share as well. You know, I hate
this one. You secretly keep score. You remember who reached
(08:26):
out last, who forgot your birthday, who didn't like your post.
You track every perceived and balance and let it silently
pile up and say voice in your hurt. You pull
away and wait for the other person to notice. I
think this happens too with I've always said, at the
end of the mealritten a meal of friends. Unless there's
a big difference to what you ordered, you're the sake
(08:47):
and prime rib and they ordered like a salad. Just
put your cards in, you know, put your cards in,
because I do think over the course of a good
friendship that will equal out like that will they'll all
even out. It'll be fine. If you have to keep
track of that stuff, that's not great. That's not great. Yeah, listen,
(09:11):
life's too short. Rehiet friends a bad laquer. That's always
my thought. I hope to see you Friday. I mean
a lot to me. If you came Internshoon Comedy, get
your tickets.
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