July 23, 2025 • 10 mins
On this episode of The Thought Shower, Intern John talks about the toxic friends to avoid
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
And a happy Wednesday friend. Welcome to the Thought show Er. Intern.
John is my name? Fighting off injury today, to be honest,
fighting through it. I I don't know if I can
say how I got hurt in Saint Louis. I probably can. Yeah, no,
it's definitely fine. So my brother got a pistol. I
(00:21):
was this new one out of the box. He's licensed,
he's trained, all that good stuff. I got like the
clip stuck in my hand because I was just holding
like an idiot, and it pinched my hand really bad,
really bad pinch guys, to the point where it started
to bleed. And now I got banded on it and
it's not fun. It's one of those cuts where it's
(00:41):
in the very inconvenient location, like it's on like my
like right under my fingers, I guess, not my palms,
but like whatever you call that to where like I'm
gonna try go the gym layer today to get swollen
and try a golf layer today, but I don't know
if I'll be able to because where the injury is
and it's one of those things where it's not a
badass injury to brag about. It's not one of those
(01:03):
things where I can be like, wow, look at me.
I was fighting robbers and a bullet grazed me. You
know what I mean. It's not like that. It's like, oh,
your hand got jammed, and that's what happened. So you know,
not great, not great. But here's my promise to you.
I'm gonna persevere unless I go golfing today and it
(01:24):
hurts real bad, then I'm not. In the meantime, though,
I need to think of different ways to say I
was hurt. While I was thinking. Maybe was. I was
working this past weekend on a ranch helping my cousin
brand his new cattle, and he dropped the branding iron
and I try to catch it, and I did catch it,
but burn my hand. That was number one. Number two
(01:45):
was I had an internship at a three hole punch
company where they make three hole punches, and during the testing,
my coworker's name is Nelson. He messed up real badly
and because of that, I punched a hole in my hand.
Don't worry, I'll be fine. I could say that was
in a Golden tea tournament this past weekend where you
swing the golf club hit the ball, and I was
(02:07):
so into it. I swung so hard it caused my
hand to bleed. That was another one. It's not great.
I was also this past weekend taking a video footage
of a live active volcano. Piece of lava shot up
caught me ray in my hand. So the beauty is
there's endless possibilities of things I can pull out my
rear end to make it sound better than I got
(02:28):
a really bad pinch, you know. So that's kind of
the vibe. I've been also like been over the top
doing like the anti septic because I don't want to
get an infection from that and then again have to
say what it was from, like that's not good, Like
I want a badass thing. It's like when you see
dudes go to the hospital and it's like they put
like a slinky up the rear end, but pretend they
(02:50):
don't know how it got there. And it's like, I
would much rather die if I put something up my
rear end and it got stuck. I'd much rather die
than have to the hospital and think of a lie
for what happened, you know what I mean. Let me
go out admirably in a blaze of glory, if you
will let me get to this for your Wednesday, the
types of friends that don't deserve a place in your life.
(03:12):
I am a firm believer of I'd rather have a
good friend than five thousand okay friends, you know what
I mean. I'd rather have no friends than just bad friends.
I don't I think that's I don't know. I think
you find more peace that way, you know, especially when
things don't go well. I mentioned before, man, when Chewy passed,
(03:33):
you know, people reached out right away, but it was
like I really knew who cared when they kept reaching out,
And I forgot to mention this too. Man. I had
a weird moment this past weekend, you know, in Saint Louis,
So on Saturday, had a full day at the my
brother's house seeing my nephew was adorable. I got back
to my hotel in for like this millisecond when like,
(03:57):
but the time it takes to put your key to
the door in that lock to open where my heart
got excited because I was like, oh, and then it
hit me like, oh, he's not on the other side
of the door. It was the oddest thing where like
I don't know if it was so routine that for
that brief second and not gonna get mill second, I
was like, I took it. I took an inhill and
then it was like, oh no, he's not there. It
(04:20):
was hard. It was a really hard thing to to
kind of realize, you know, I don't know it's it's
so because I don't want to say I took those
moments for granted, so I don't think I did. But
that's just one of those things where it's like, you know,
as you go through loss, there's like different milestones, different things,
like that's my first time traveling to Saint Louis certainly
(04:41):
since he's gone. So yeah, I don't just wanted to
point that out. And again, if somebody else is going
through loss, hopefully that helps that you're not you're not alone.
It's not like you hit a bridge, you hit a
certain date and it's over. Kind of felt like it's
always there, you know. But again, like I'm very lucky
to have him, so I can't say enough. And I
guess to this too, I'd rather have one good dog
than a bunch of friends. And maybe that was why
(05:01):
I was so picky with friends. It's because I had Chewy,
you know what I mean, Like having him was like,
why would I have bad friends. If I could just
stay home with him and be okay, and for the
most part, like we kind of did that for a while,
you know. Certainly in Des Moines, Uh, I really focus
on making friends. It was kind of him, and when
I first moved here, it was all about that. Uh.
(05:23):
The blatant user is a friend who don't want the
friend that only shows up when they need something from you,
whether it's a favor, a ride, or advice. They know
how to make you feel guilty if you say no.
I think that I've gotten pretty good at realizing this
friend especially I think because of the job. Certainly, I
used to always joke about when i'd be home in
Minnesota and be like jingle ball season, I would have
(05:45):
people reach out that I hadn't talked to you in years.
They'd be like, hey, we went to preschool together, is
this uh school? Buy your tickets? And but I haven't
talked to you in like forever. Why what would you
think now is a great time? Yeah, But I think
at least that way was a good way of like
realizing what was going on. Certainly, the harsh critic, the
(06:08):
friend that always finds something wrong with your decisions, they
claim they're just being honest, but their critiques often feel
like attacks. I would say this like, unless I'm asking
for the advice, you know what I mean, Like, if
I'm asking for your critique, I probably don't want it,
you know, probably not like the vibe. Really, I think
(06:31):
there are some friends who just kind of look for
that chance to bring you down. That's why, like I
don't tell my jokes for the comedy tour stuff before
anybody else. I don't give anybody the chance to hear
them because I don't want somebody to get me off
my game. I'd rather prove them right. If that makes sense.
You don't want the drama magnet, the friend that thrives
on chaos and seems of a crisis every other day.
(06:53):
I do think that friend can be entertaining to watch
periodically every now and then. But when it's like constant drama,
I do think there is a point where it's like,
is the drama Like the world's not out to get anybody.
I believe that the world does not care about anybody
to get them. But if like you're constantly causing the drama,
(07:15):
that's probably on you. And again, I think that's one
thing that it's fun to watch for a little bit,
but towards the end it's like, nah, we're good. The
fierce competitor, the friend that sees everything is a competition,
even if there's no reason for it. They constantly compare
themselves to you, whether it's about career success, relationships, or
(07:37):
personal achievements. Yeah, I think that's Yeah. My friend Dante,
who I've talked about, love Dante. My best friends. Dante
and I always joke about we're in competition with each other,
but we're also like he's coaching hockey, I'm doing this,
and it's more of a friendly thing we joke about
where we push each other where it's like, Okay, he
(07:58):
got this, I'm gonna get this, and it's not like
it but it's let me either phrase that. It's also
in a way where we're excited for each other's wins,
you know what I mean. Like when he made it
to the NHL for coaching, I started crying in the
studio because I was so happy for him. And I
think that's the difference. Whereas it's good to have somebody
who pushes you to be better but isn't trying to
(08:20):
hold you back or gets upset when you do well.
The envious achiever, the friend that mirrors your goals but
is never genuinely happy for your progress. They might appear
so part of but there's always undercurrent of envy. Instead
of uplifting you, they secretly wish for your downfall. I
think I've seen this before too, with friends or people
I thought were friends. And I know it sounds dumb,
(08:40):
but I've always like compared myself to two things, really
and this is gonna sound really dumb off front, Batman
and a lion. I compare myself to Batman in that
I'm the friend Where am I gonna be there for
every little issue? No? Does Batman fight traffic, tickets and littering. However,
(09:01):
he is always kind of watching the city, and as
something major happens, he's the first one to come down
and kick ass. So for me, it's like, am I
gonna be there for every little emergency? No, but when
there's a big thing, I'll fly in, swing in and
defend my friends, you know what I mean. And a
lion mars, So like with a lion, you shouldn't mess
with the lion, you know what I mean. Like if
(09:23):
you have the zoo the lion's gonna leave you alone,
you know what I mean. The lion's not gonna come
be bothered by you. The lion doesn't try and check you.
But if you hop in the lion's enclosure, you're not
gonna have a good time, you know what I mean. Like,
that's the worst thing to do, Like, let the lion be,
Let the lion sleep, let the lion be, don't try
to provoke the lion. Yeah, I kind of think that
(09:46):
that's like with me, And I've always said, like, if
you don't like me, the worst thing to do is
motivate me. Just leave me alone. I don't like this
one matter, like any of these. I'm gonna be honest
with you. But yeah, if you're not happy for your
friends progress, why are you friends with them? Why would
you stick around? I don't know an answer for another day.
I appreciate you listening. Hope you have a fantastic Wednesday.
(10:08):
Make sure you follow along at Internsohn Radio. You can
follow the show at YMS Radio Thash Hour
And a happy Wednesday friend. Welcome to the Thought show Er. Intern.
John is my name? Fighting off injury today, to be honest,
fighting through it. I I don't know if I can
say how I got hurt in Saint Louis. I probably can. Yeah, no,
it's definitely fine. So my brother got a pistol. I
(00:21):
was this new one out of the box. He's licensed,
he's trained, all that good stuff. I got like the
clip stuck in my hand because I was just holding
like an idiot, and it pinched my hand really bad,
really bad pinch guys, to the point where it started
to bleed. And now I got banded on it and
it's not fun. It's one of those cuts where it's
(00:41):
in the very inconvenient location, like it's on like my
like right under my fingers, I guess, not my palms,
but like whatever you call that to where like I'm
gonna try go the gym layer today to get swollen
and try a golf layer today, but I don't know
if I'll be able to because where the injury is
and it's one of those things where it's not a
badass injury to brag about. It's not one of those
(01:03):
things where I can be like, wow, look at me.
I was fighting robbers and a bullet grazed me. You
know what I mean. It's not like that. It's like, oh,
your hand got jammed, and that's what happened. So you know,
not great, not great. But here's my promise to you.
I'm gonna persevere unless I go golfing today and it
(01:24):
hurts real bad, then I'm not. In the meantime, though,
I need to think of different ways to say I
was hurt. While I was thinking. Maybe was. I was
working this past weekend on a ranch helping my cousin
brand his new cattle, and he dropped the branding iron
and I try to catch it, and I did catch it,
but burn my hand. That was number one. Number two
(01:45):
was I had an internship at a three hole punch
company where they make three hole punches, and during the testing,
my coworker's name is Nelson. He messed up real badly
and because of that, I punched a hole in my hand.
Don't worry, I'll be fine. I could say that was
in a Golden tea tournament this past weekend where you
swing the golf club hit the ball, and I was
(02:07):
so into it. I swung so hard it caused my
hand to bleed. That was another one. It's not great.
I was also this past weekend taking a video footage
of a live active volcano. Piece of lava shot up
caught me ray in my hand. So the beauty is
there's endless possibilities of things I can pull out my
rear end to make it sound better than I got
(02:28):
a really bad pinch, you know. So that's kind of
the vibe. I've been also like been over the top
doing like the anti septic because I don't want to
get an infection from that and then again have to
say what it was from, like that's not good, Like
I want a badass thing. It's like when you see
dudes go to the hospital and it's like they put
like a slinky up the rear end, but pretend they
(02:50):
don't know how it got there. And it's like, I
would much rather die if I put something up my
rear end and it got stuck. I'd much rather die
than have to the hospital and think of a lie
for what happened, you know what I mean. Let me
go out admirably in a blaze of glory, if you
will let me get to this for your Wednesday, the
types of friends that don't deserve a place in your life.
(03:12):
I am a firm believer of I'd rather have a
good friend than five thousand okay friends, you know what
I mean. I'd rather have no friends than just bad friends.
I don't I think that's I don't know. I think
you find more peace that way, you know, especially when
things don't go well. I mentioned before, man, when Chewy passed,
(03:33):
you know, people reached out right away, but it was
like I really knew who cared when they kept reaching out,
And I forgot to mention this too. Man. I had
a weird moment this past weekend, you know, in Saint Louis,
So on Saturday, had a full day at the my
brother's house seeing my nephew was adorable. I got back
to my hotel in for like this millisecond when like,
(03:57):
but the time it takes to put your key to
the door in that lock to open where my heart
got excited because I was like, oh, and then it
hit me like, oh, he's not on the other side
of the door. It was the oddest thing where like
I don't know if it was so routine that for
that brief second and not gonna get mill second, I
was like, I took it. I took an inhill and
then it was like, oh no, he's not there. It
(04:20):
was hard. It was a really hard thing to to
kind of realize, you know, I don't know it's it's
so because I don't want to say I took those
moments for granted, so I don't think I did. But
that's just one of those things where it's like, you know,
as you go through loss, there's like different milestones, different things,
like that's my first time traveling to Saint Louis certainly
(04:41):
since he's gone. So yeah, I don't just wanted to
point that out. And again, if somebody else is going
through loss, hopefully that helps that you're not you're not alone.
It's not like you hit a bridge, you hit a
certain date and it's over. Kind of felt like it's
always there, you know. But again, like I'm very lucky
to have him, so I can't say enough. And I
guess to this too, I'd rather have one good dog
than a bunch of friends. And maybe that was why
(05:01):
I was so picky with friends. It's because I had Chewy,
you know what I mean, Like having him was like,
why would I have bad friends. If I could just
stay home with him and be okay, and for the
most part, like we kind of did that for a while,
you know. Certainly in Des Moines, Uh, I really focus
on making friends. It was kind of him, and when
I first moved here, it was all about that. Uh.
(05:23):
The blatant user is a friend who don't want the
friend that only shows up when they need something from you,
whether it's a favor, a ride, or advice. They know
how to make you feel guilty if you say no.
I think that I've gotten pretty good at realizing this
friend especially I think because of the job. Certainly, I
used to always joke about when i'd be home in
Minnesota and be like jingle ball season, I would have
(05:45):
people reach out that I hadn't talked to you in years.
They'd be like, hey, we went to preschool together, is
this uh school? Buy your tickets? And but I haven't
talked to you in like forever. Why what would you
think now is a great time? Yeah, But I think
at least that way was a good way of like
realizing what was going on. Certainly, the harsh critic, the
(06:08):
friend that always finds something wrong with your decisions, they
claim they're just being honest, but their critiques often feel
like attacks. I would say this like, unless I'm asking
for the advice, you know what I mean, Like, if
I'm asking for your critique, I probably don't want it,
you know, probably not like the vibe. Really, I think
(06:31):
there are some friends who just kind of look for
that chance to bring you down. That's why, like I
don't tell my jokes for the comedy tour stuff before
anybody else. I don't give anybody the chance to hear
them because I don't want somebody to get me off
my game. I'd rather prove them right. If that makes sense.
You don't want the drama magnet, the friend that thrives
on chaos and seems of a crisis every other day.
(06:53):
I do think that friend can be entertaining to watch
periodically every now and then. But when it's like constant drama,
I do think there is a point where it's like,
is the drama Like the world's not out to get anybody.
I believe that the world does not care about anybody
to get them. But if like you're constantly causing the drama,
(07:15):
that's probably on you. And again, I think that's one
thing that it's fun to watch for a little bit,
but towards the end it's like, nah, we're good. The
fierce competitor, the friend that sees everything is a competition,
even if there's no reason for it. They constantly compare
themselves to you, whether it's about career success, relationships, or
(07:37):
personal achievements. Yeah, I think that's Yeah. My friend Dante,
who I've talked about, love Dante. My best friends. Dante
and I always joke about we're in competition with each other,
but we're also like he's coaching hockey, I'm doing this,
and it's more of a friendly thing we joke about
where we push each other where it's like, Okay, he
(07:58):
got this, I'm gonna get this, and it's not like
it but it's let me either phrase that. It's also
in a way where we're excited for each other's wins,
you know what I mean. Like when he made it
to the NHL for coaching, I started crying in the
studio because I was so happy for him. And I
think that's the difference. Whereas it's good to have somebody
who pushes you to be better but isn't trying to
(08:20):
hold you back or gets upset when you do well.
The envious achiever, the friend that mirrors your goals but
is never genuinely happy for your progress. They might appear
so part of but there's always undercurrent of envy. Instead
of uplifting you, they secretly wish for your downfall. I
think I've seen this before too, with friends or people
I thought were friends. And I know it sounds dumb,
(08:40):
but I've always like compared myself to two things, really
and this is gonna sound really dumb off front, Batman
and a lion. I compare myself to Batman in that
I'm the friend Where am I gonna be there for
every little issue? No? Does Batman fight traffic, tickets and littering. However,
(09:01):
he is always kind of watching the city, and as
something major happens, he's the first one to come down
and kick ass. So for me, it's like, am I
gonna be there for every little emergency? No, but when
there's a big thing, I'll fly in, swing in and
defend my friends, you know what I mean. And a
lion mars, So like with a lion, you shouldn't mess
with the lion, you know what I mean. Like if
(09:23):
you have the zoo the lion's gonna leave you alone,
you know what I mean. The lion's not gonna come
be bothered by you. The lion doesn't try and check you.
But if you hop in the lion's enclosure, you're not
gonna have a good time, you know what I mean. Like,
that's the worst thing to do, Like, let the lion be,
Let the lion sleep, let the lion be, don't try
to provoke the lion. Yeah, I kind of think that
(09:46):
that's like with me, And I've always said, like, if
you don't like me, the worst thing to do is
motivate me. Just leave me alone. I don't like this
one matter, like any of these. I'm gonna be honest
with you. But yeah, if you're not happy for your
friends progress, why are you friends with them? Why would
you stick around? I don't know an answer for another day.
I appreciate you listening. Hope you have a fantastic Wednesday.
(10:08):
Make sure you follow along at Internsohn Radio. You can
follow the show at YMS Radio Thash Hour
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