December 5, 2025 • 9 mins
On this episode of The Thought Shower, Intern John talks about his week, plus what happens after a toxic relationship
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
And a Happy Friday friend.
Speaker 2 (00:01):
Welcome to the Thought Shower Internjown is my name, My
apologies on No Wednesday podcast.
Speaker 1 (00:08):
I'm gonna be real. Your boy is starting to burn out.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
It has been the most taxing year emotionally probably in
my life. And so at the end of the year
for us, it's, you know, we get ready for vacation,
but the content game. If we take off, you know,
five days, we can't just not have five days of
(00:32):
zero content. We still got to make all that content
in the time we have. Now that makes sense. So mentally,
I got about nothing left, Like I'm just we're running on.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
Fumes, you know, try and make it through.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
I think like this week collectively as a Friday, I
feel like I slept maybe I don't know, fifteen hours
this week. It's a lot going on, and even like
the fun stuff that goes on. I my Christmas party
is next weekend. I have done nothing for it. Don't
know where the tree is. Also, haven't looked, so I
(01:10):
guess I can't really say I don't know where the
tree is if I haven't bothered to look for it.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
Said tree.
Speaker 2 (01:17):
But that's always kind of like the end of the year,
like that's the we do the Saturday for jingle Ball,
Christmas party Sunday, clean the house. Then sometime during that
week jingle Ball. I think this will be my thirtieth
jingle Ball something like that, between DC, Tampa and Minnesota.
So excite for that. And then end of the year
(01:38):
going to Hawaii my mom to see where they filmed
Jurassic Park.
Speaker 1 (01:44):
It's so sick like that's that's why we're going.
Speaker 2 (01:48):
Went to Italy earlier this year with my dad to
see where they filmed Star Wars and now go on
the opposite coast, so to speak, to see where they
filmed Jurassic Park.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
I like films. I'm a film aficionado, if you will.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
But that was kind of this week boys a hockey
game tonight as well, and then this weekend the plans
hopefully do nothing. I'm shocked to go to the bar tomorrow,
but like really just kind of want do nothing. This
are my last kind of like full weekend here, you know,
before vacation, so getting ready for that.
Speaker 1 (02:21):
Let me hit this for your Friday.
Speaker 2 (02:24):
People who emerge more powerful after toxic relationships act like this.
I do think I've been trying to be a moretis standing.
I guess throughout the year two I have learned. I
think everybody basically wants the same thing. Everybody wants to
be loved, you know, feel like they have their person
and feel like they have somebody who cares for them.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
You know. But there's not the worst.
Speaker 2 (02:46):
Yeah, you be in the toxic relationship, you feel like
to lose yourself, feel like you know'm deserving better, and
it can be one of the worst things to go over.
The first thing they say is they set boundaries and
stick to them. After having their boundaries disrespected toxic relationship,
these people learn how to set clear, firm limits and
they don't budge.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
I think that's fair.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
Like eventually, I think when people realize how much of
yourself that you lost, you know, like you lost yourself
in the relationship. And then yeah, and you're like, oh, yeah,
I'll never do that again, you know what I mean, Like,
I'll never let that happen again.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
I always go back to as well, And I mentioned
this on the show.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
I think a lot of times with relationship problems, it's like,
if you're a good person, I think we tend to
get screwed over because we would never do whatever the
hurtful thing is to somebody, we don't expect it to happen.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
To us, if that makes sense, Like hold on, put
on my computer in.
Speaker 2 (03:41):
It's like I always say, like the people who get
scammed like with internet scams, right, it's like you would
never think to steal thousands of dollars in somebody. See,
you wouldn't expect it to happen to you. And I
really think that it's like a huge part of this
whole thing. But yeah, no doubt they know.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
They're worth.
Speaker 2 (03:59):
Say, toxic relationship can tear you down, tear you down
your self asiem, but when you come out the other side,
you know exactly what you're worth is you don't anyone
try and make you feel otherwise ever Again, Yeah, I
think that's fair to me.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
This is huge. I think at some point in basically.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
Every relationship, you just to make things work, maybe sacrifice
a little bit of who you are. You know, things
you wouldn't let slide in the beginning, you kind of
let slide. Now it's tough where it's like if it's
somebody who is an avoidant or difficult to deal with,
it's like, you know there's still good in them. You know,
there's little hits of like goodness, but yeah, I think
(04:42):
we sometimes chase that feeling so much that we kind
of forget who we are, which isn't good. They're incredibly resilient,
they say, if you may their toxic relationship, you know
how strong you truly are. You've been through the emotional wringer,
came out stronger for it. I think there's a lot
to that, especially because in the relationship, like that's the
person that we you know, trust the most.
Speaker 1 (05:03):
You let that person in, You relied to them.
Speaker 2 (05:07):
They know your deepest and darkest secrets, you know what
I mean, And then all of a sudden they're gone,
And it's one of the oddest things. It's one of
the craziest things. I think that somber song back to
Friends is so true. It's like, how do you go
from being somebody's everything to being strangers?
Speaker 1 (05:25):
You know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (05:26):
It's an odd thing, But eventually life goes on. You
gotta pick yourself up, and I think you realize, like, Okay, yeah,
the first couple of days after a breakout, weeks suck,
but now here you are later on, they're kind to
themselves coming out of toxic relationship often means learning to
be kinder to yourself. You've probably been through the self
doubt and criticism, and because of that, you treat yourself
(05:46):
with love and care. I have worked really hard at
being better at this because I am notoriously hard on
myself all the time. And I've had the realization earlier
this shar year that I think, you know, with the
hockey and coaching and podcasting in the bar, like I
think people in general like to work with me.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
I think they like how I treat them.
Speaker 2 (06:10):
However, if I was as hard on people around me
as I am on myself, I know I'd have nobody
around me, you know what I mean. Like, I know
that nobody around me would want to be working with
me if I was as hard as them as am
I me. And that's a big thing, because I'm with
me twenty four hours a day, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
So I've been working on like.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
Actually talking to myself sometimes like hey, like we're doing good,
did this this and this? Or if I'm feeling bad
about like a relationship or something like, hey, like you
had a pretty rough year, but you're still going. And
even to the point of like if I'm leaving work
and it's like, oh, I should go to the gym,
but I also I'm exhausted. Be like, hey man, I've
talking about this before. It's like, I'm not training for
(06:57):
a fight. I'm not training for a champ game. I'm
not letting down my team. If I don't go to
the gym today, you know, I mean, if that means
I get a chance to sleep and recover, that's okay too.
They build stronger friendships. They say, toxic relationships and isolate
you from your friends and make you question your trusting others.
But after healing, people come out wanting to rebuild their
(07:19):
lost friendships. I do think that is one of the
most fun things about being single again, is becoming close
with your hommies, especially for dudes. Just like, oh, if
you kind of forget, like your friends still want to
see you, they still want to hang out with you,
they still want do all these things.
Speaker 1 (07:37):
I think that's important.
Speaker 2 (07:38):
I think also friends will kind of forget the fact
that you disappeared for a while.
Speaker 1 (07:43):
Yeah, I think that's massive. They're not afraid to walk away.
Speaker 2 (07:47):
They say people have been through toxic relationships have learned
when to walk away. They're not scared of leaving a
relationship if it protects their own mental health and well being.
That makes sense, And I would almost say too, maybe a.
Speaker 1 (07:59):
Little bit, but like more willing to walk away than others.
Speaker 2 (08:05):
I do think that can be a bad sign too,
Like I've had relationships with people where they have been
in previously toxic relationships and it's not great obviously, but
I would feel like they were kind of holding it
against me, if that made sense, Like we would have
an argument about something and like the amount of heat
that was coming my way, like hey, this is not
(08:27):
about me, Like this is like something from your past
that maybe I triggered not realizing it, but that's not
about me. They're clear about what they want in relationships
last one, having gone through the ups and downs of
a toxic one.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
They know what works to them and what doesn't.
Speaker 2 (08:43):
They know qualities they need in a partner like trust, honesty,
and respect. Yeah, I think that's huge, I think, and
even for me if it's not like that obvious, I
at least know like, Okay, I don't want to be
linking up with the same type of person because it's
probably gonna end poorly again, like probably not gonna work
(09:04):
out the way I want to. UH, And I think
that's a good it's a good thing to know, it's
a good thing to be aware of. I hope you
have a fantastic Friday, a fantastic weekend. If you get
a chance to follow along, it's at INTERNSI Radio Stas
Shower
And a Happy Friday friend.
Speaker 2 (00:01):
Welcome to the Thought Shower Internjown is my name, My
apologies on No Wednesday podcast.
Speaker 1 (00:08):
I'm gonna be real. Your boy is starting to burn out.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
It has been the most taxing year emotionally probably in
my life. And so at the end of the year
for us, it's, you know, we get ready for vacation,
but the content game. If we take off, you know,
five days, we can't just not have five days of
(00:32):
zero content. We still got to make all that content
in the time we have. Now that makes sense. So mentally,
I got about nothing left, Like I'm just we're running on.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
Fumes, you know, try and make it through.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
I think like this week collectively as a Friday, I
feel like I slept maybe I don't know, fifteen hours
this week. It's a lot going on, and even like
the fun stuff that goes on. I my Christmas party
is next weekend. I have done nothing for it. Don't
know where the tree is. Also, haven't looked, so I
(01:10):
guess I can't really say I don't know where the
tree is if I haven't bothered to look for it.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
Said tree.
Speaker 2 (01:17):
But that's always kind of like the end of the year,
like that's the we do the Saturday for jingle Ball,
Christmas party Sunday, clean the house. Then sometime during that
week jingle Ball. I think this will be my thirtieth
jingle Ball something like that, between DC, Tampa and Minnesota.
So excite for that. And then end of the year
(01:38):
going to Hawaii my mom to see where they filmed
Jurassic Park.
Speaker 1 (01:44):
It's so sick like that's that's why we're going.
Speaker 2 (01:48):
Went to Italy earlier this year with my dad to
see where they filmed Star Wars and now go on
the opposite coast, so to speak, to see where they
filmed Jurassic Park.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
I like films. I'm a film aficionado, if you will.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
But that was kind of this week boys a hockey
game tonight as well, and then this weekend the plans
hopefully do nothing. I'm shocked to go to the bar tomorrow,
but like really just kind of want do nothing. This
are my last kind of like full weekend here, you know,
before vacation, so getting ready for that.
Speaker 1 (02:21):
Let me hit this for your Friday.
Speaker 2 (02:24):
People who emerge more powerful after toxic relationships act like this.
I do think I've been trying to be a moretis standing.
I guess throughout the year two I have learned. I
think everybody basically wants the same thing. Everybody wants to
be loved, you know, feel like they have their person
and feel like they have somebody who cares for them.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
You know. But there's not the worst.
Speaker 2 (02:46):
Yeah, you be in the toxic relationship, you feel like
to lose yourself, feel like you know'm deserving better, and
it can be one of the worst things to go over.
The first thing they say is they set boundaries and
stick to them. After having their boundaries disrespected toxic relationship,
these people learn how to set clear, firm limits and
they don't budge.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
I think that's fair.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
Like eventually, I think when people realize how much of
yourself that you lost, you know, like you lost yourself
in the relationship. And then yeah, and you're like, oh, yeah,
I'll never do that again, you know what I mean, Like,
I'll never let that happen again.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
I always go back to as well, And I mentioned
this on the show.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
I think a lot of times with relationship problems, it's like,
if you're a good person, I think we tend to
get screwed over because we would never do whatever the
hurtful thing is to somebody, we don't expect it to happen.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
To us, if that makes sense, Like hold on, put
on my computer in.
Speaker 2 (03:41):
It's like I always say, like the people who get
scammed like with internet scams, right, it's like you would
never think to steal thousands of dollars in somebody. See,
you wouldn't expect it to happen to you. And I
really think that it's like a huge part of this
whole thing. But yeah, no doubt they know.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
They're worth.
Speaker 2 (03:59):
Say, toxic relationship can tear you down, tear you down
your self asiem, but when you come out the other side,
you know exactly what you're worth is you don't anyone
try and make you feel otherwise ever Again, Yeah, I
think that's fair to me.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
This is huge. I think at some point in basically.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
Every relationship, you just to make things work, maybe sacrifice
a little bit of who you are. You know, things
you wouldn't let slide in the beginning, you kind of
let slide. Now it's tough where it's like if it's
somebody who is an avoidant or difficult to deal with,
it's like, you know there's still good in them. You know,
there's little hits of like goodness, but yeah, I think
(04:42):
we sometimes chase that feeling so much that we kind
of forget who we are, which isn't good. They're incredibly resilient,
they say, if you may their toxic relationship, you know
how strong you truly are. You've been through the emotional wringer,
came out stronger for it. I think there's a lot
to that, especially because in the relationship, like that's the
person that we you know, trust the most.
Speaker 1 (05:03):
You let that person in, You relied to them.
Speaker 2 (05:07):
They know your deepest and darkest secrets, you know what
I mean, And then all of a sudden they're gone,
And it's one of the oddest things. It's one of
the craziest things. I think that somber song back to
Friends is so true. It's like, how do you go
from being somebody's everything to being strangers?
Speaker 1 (05:25):
You know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (05:26):
It's an odd thing, But eventually life goes on. You
gotta pick yourself up, and I think you realize, like, Okay, yeah,
the first couple of days after a breakout, weeks suck,
but now here you are later on, they're kind to
themselves coming out of toxic relationship often means learning to
be kinder to yourself. You've probably been through the self
doubt and criticism, and because of that, you treat yourself
(05:46):
with love and care. I have worked really hard at
being better at this because I am notoriously hard on
myself all the time. And I've had the realization earlier
this shar year that I think, you know, with the
hockey and coaching and podcasting in the bar, like I
think people in general like to work with me.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
I think they like how I treat them.
Speaker 2 (06:10):
However, if I was as hard on people around me
as I am on myself, I know I'd have nobody
around me, you know what I mean. Like, I know
that nobody around me would want to be working with
me if I was as hard as them as am
I me. And that's a big thing, because I'm with
me twenty four hours a day, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
So I've been working on like.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
Actually talking to myself sometimes like hey, like we're doing good,
did this this and this? Or if I'm feeling bad
about like a relationship or something like, hey, like you
had a pretty rough year, but you're still going. And
even to the point of like if I'm leaving work
and it's like, oh, I should go to the gym,
but I also I'm exhausted. Be like, hey man, I've
talking about this before. It's like, I'm not training for
(06:57):
a fight. I'm not training for a champ game. I'm
not letting down my team. If I don't go to
the gym today, you know, I mean, if that means
I get a chance to sleep and recover, that's okay too.
They build stronger friendships. They say, toxic relationships and isolate
you from your friends and make you question your trusting others.
But after healing, people come out wanting to rebuild their
(07:19):
lost friendships. I do think that is one of the
most fun things about being single again, is becoming close
with your hommies, especially for dudes. Just like, oh, if
you kind of forget, like your friends still want to
see you, they still want to hang out with you,
they still want do all these things.
Speaker 1 (07:37):
I think that's important.
Speaker 2 (07:38):
I think also friends will kind of forget the fact
that you disappeared for a while.
Speaker 1 (07:43):
Yeah, I think that's massive. They're not afraid to walk away.
Speaker 2 (07:47):
They say people have been through toxic relationships have learned
when to walk away. They're not scared of leaving a
relationship if it protects their own mental health and well being.
That makes sense, And I would almost say too, maybe a.
Speaker 1 (07:59):
Little bit, but like more willing to walk away than others.
Speaker 2 (08:05):
I do think that can be a bad sign too,
Like I've had relationships with people where they have been
in previously toxic relationships and it's not great obviously, but
I would feel like they were kind of holding it
against me, if that made sense, Like we would have
an argument about something and like the amount of heat
that was coming my way, like hey, this is not
(08:27):
about me, Like this is like something from your past
that maybe I triggered not realizing it, but that's not
about me. They're clear about what they want in relationships
last one, having gone through the ups and downs of
a toxic one.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
They know what works to them and what doesn't.
Speaker 2 (08:43):
They know qualities they need in a partner like trust, honesty,
and respect. Yeah, I think that's huge, I think, and
even for me if it's not like that obvious, I
at least know like, Okay, I don't want to be
linking up with the same type of person because it's
probably gonna end poorly again, like probably not gonna work
(09:04):
out the way I want to. UH, And I think
that's a good it's a good thing to know, it's
a good thing to be aware of. I hope you
have a fantastic Friday, a fantastic weekend. If you get
a chance to follow along, it's at INTERNSI Radio Stas
Shower
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