October 29, 2025 • 9 mins
On this episode of The Thought Shower, Intern John talks about how to know if someone is using you
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Intern John's new comedy album, "Chuy Forever: The Album" is out! Proceeds benefit the Warrior Canine Connection. You can order the album HERE
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
And a happy Wednesday friend. Welcome to the Thought Shower.
Intern John is my name? Almost last last lost track,
Oh my goodness, almost lost track of the day because
we're operating on like no sleep. So yesterday we went
ghost honting Lynville Manor in Upper Marlboro. It's scary, but
(00:21):
we did eleven pm to like two am. So yesterday
after the show, I went home, did a workout, took
a nap for like four hours, and then we left
my house at ten, got back around two, took a
forty five minute nap. Now we're back at the radio station.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
Baby.
Speaker 1 (00:39):
So today's show, Jimmy Wild, Today's podcast, give me about
that as well. Lynville Mayor. Though it's freaky, it's uh,
I mean, we were talking about the show. There's a
whole history of this place, but it was like built
near a Revolutionary War cemetery. There's been issues with like
finding relics on like the Civil War off as well.
(01:00):
It was a freaky evening. Tons of video on the
Instagram at wymous Radio. Let's get into this forear Wednesday.
How to know somebody is a user as in they
just use you, just use other people, so on and
so forth. I do think overall, I am fairly good
at knowing this. I think having been radio since I
(01:24):
was seventeen, especially picked up on from an early age
because like in Minneapolis we said jingle ball, and when
jingle ball would come, that's when I would hear from
anybody I ever went.
Speaker 2 (01:36):
To school with.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
It could be like we were in different classes in preschool,
and hey have heard for me a while. I'm like, yeah,
because I am no longer in preschool. A surprise, I graduated.
So I think for me, like I've been a little
bit more in tune to this maybe the most Well,
let's get into this. They always seem to have an emergency.
I've been saying this for years because there was somebody
(01:59):
in my life years ago who it's like you look
at their life and it's almost like a sitcom in
that there's always some big emergency happening. It's like every
season there is a plot twist, there is you know,
something goes wrong and it's one of those things where
(02:20):
you look back you go, Huh, how can anybody possibly
have this much drama unless they are directly involved in
causing it, you know what I mean? And I always
go back to it's like life is so hard as
it is, who actively wants to have drama in their life?
Speaker 2 (02:39):
You know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (02:40):
Like, that's a that's a no no go. If they're
never there when you need them, Yes, when you're around
the one in need, When you're the one in need,
they suddenly disappear in thin air. Maybe they're too busy,
you can't seem to find the time, YadA, YadA. It's
a hallmark of someone who values what you can do
for them more than what they more than you as
a person one hundred percent. Because again, they don't want
(03:02):
to get involved. I think I've said this before with
like some of my female friends who were like talking
to guys and when things are lighthearted and they're having
fun having the adult time, the guys are great. When like,
they don't want to have the adult time, maybe the
don't feel well. It's like, ooh, I'm busy today, and
it sounds douchey, and yet it is, but they are.
(03:24):
They're not that invested. It's all about what they need,
their wants. If they make everything about them, every conversation
ever start a conversation realizes it's quickly detouring back to them.
You're trying to share your day, suddenly your knee deep
in their latest drama. Narcissistic tendencies are often manifest as
self centeredness.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
Yes, I think that's fair.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
I dated somebody who their mom was like this and
it was one of the oddest things to witness.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
It was frustrating for me.
Speaker 1 (03:55):
I wasn't even dating the mom obviously, but it was
a bit like, yo, how.
Speaker 2 (03:59):
Can you live like this? You know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (04:04):
Where it's like you can walk in my footless cough today.
Oh yeah, well my headache was really bad today, so well,
what these is clearly worse than the other obviously it's
a headache.
Speaker 2 (04:17):
They only reach out when they need something.
Speaker 1 (04:20):
I'll say with that too, it's like you can tell
who that person is, right, you know what I mean?
You can you can tell like when what that person's doing,
because when they reach out, you go, okay, this is
just to vent to me, Uh, something's going on in
their life, it's not to check in. Yeah, And then
(04:40):
when you call them, the flip side can't get hold
of them. That's my usualst Usually usuallest usually biggest sign.
You can't get hold of them. They know, especially because
everybody's always buy their phone, right, so they go. They
make you feel guilty for saying no, I have a friend.
News like this where sneeze break where anytime like they
(05:06):
invite you out somewhere or they want to do something,
it's like, hey, I can't. They will guilt shep be like,
you know, I love doing this with you, and it's
like yo, okay, but sometimes I can't do everything I want.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
You know, sometimes it's like I got other things going on.
You know.
Speaker 1 (05:24):
If they never remember the important stuff, this is huge,
they say. Do you ever I notice they forget crucial
details about your life. Expect you remember everything about theirs, birthdays,
big events, even your favorite ice cream flavor. But they say,
when someone consistently forgets what matters to you, it's a
clear sign their attention is elsewhere.
Speaker 2 (05:41):
I think that's true.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
Yeah, more so that they're not paying attention period, Like
if it is stuff about your life that you don't like,
that they don't even like process that, Like I could
tell you, like which one of my friends don't like seafood,
you know what I mean? So I know, like, hey,
like we can't go, we can't get sea food here
because this person doesn't like it.
Speaker 2 (06:02):
I know that.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
I'm a dude, you know. They avoid making long term plans.
They say, as your friend consistently sideset plans that extend
beyond the immedia future, may have a vague response like, well,
let's see, let's play it by ear. According to this report,
people avoid long term commitments may struggle with maintaining genuine,
genuine connections. I think that it's more so because like
(06:25):
they're looking for the better option, right, Like that's it now.
I realize with me and my friends, like it's difficult
because I can't plan too far advanced because I don't
know my schedule or like what's gonna pop up. But
in general, it's like, if like your person doesn't want
(06:46):
to plan Christmas, here we are, it's basically November. If
they don't want um playing Christmas stuff with you, that's
not a good sign. That's really not a good sign.
They're quick to take credit dafa fa them basking the
glory of your collaborate efforts. When projects go well. They
often the first one step in the spotlight, claiming the
(07:07):
lions share credit. This behavior is frustrated, especially when you
put an equal or more effort. Yeah, I don't like
that in the workplace. That's why in general I like
to work alone and the projects alone just because one Yeah,
I think that if something goes wrong, I want to
(07:27):
take the blame fully. Something goes right, I want to
share the rewards. If you will, they show a little
interest in your success. I could not have a friend
like this. When something good happens in your life, do
they brush it off and change the subject? Genuine friends
with subburtr victory is big or small, as if they
are their own. If they're indifferent to your achievements, that
(07:49):
may indicate them or focus on themselves. I've always thought
this where there hasn't been a time in my life
where I've had friend be successful where I didn't feel
like I got the win as well. Does that make sense?
Like if Sauce today won award, you know, Washington Post
Best Radio Hosts, I would be thrilled for her. I'd
(08:10):
be ecstatic, Like yes, like it would feel like because
I'm on her team, or like I'm team Sauce so
to speak, that my team won, you know what I mean?
Like that, that's what to me feels like. It's like
a team you're rooting for you're not on a team,
but you're rooting for them, and then they win. It's
like hell yeah, Like my team won, that's the best
in the world, Like that's the best ever. I don't
(08:32):
quite get the not being able to be happy for
your friend. They get jealous of your other friendships. The
last one will hit.
Speaker 2 (08:41):
Again.
Speaker 1 (08:42):
So odd are they possessed of your time and resentful
when you hang out with others. This jealousy can be
a cyb of insecurity, reflecting poorly on their ability to
maintain healthy relationships.
Speaker 2 (08:51):
I get, I have another friend like this who.
Speaker 1 (08:54):
Like because I have a schedules, my schedules the way
it is. Sometimes I hang out with this other friend
of ours because like we have similar schedules and it
works out easily, and like the guilt trip afterwards, Like yeo, dude,
First of all, we're all adults. Second of all, I'm
not nobody's stealing friendships, you know what I mean. Like,
(09:16):
to me, it's a very odd thing, Like if you
get jealous of somebody else's friendship, it's so blatantly clear,
you know what I mean. Like, it's not like you
can't lie at something else. It's like you're it's just
like preschool stuff. We're adults. Baby, let it go.
Speaker 2 (09:30):
I hope you have fantastic Wednesday. Appreciate you.
Speaker 1 (09:33):
Listen makes you follow along at intern giun Radio thash
Ower
And a happy Wednesday friend. Welcome to the Thought Shower.
Intern John is my name? Almost last last lost track,
Oh my goodness, almost lost track of the day because
we're operating on like no sleep. So yesterday we went
ghost honting Lynville Manor in Upper Marlboro. It's scary, but
(00:21):
we did eleven pm to like two am. So yesterday
after the show, I went home, did a workout, took
a nap for like four hours, and then we left
my house at ten, got back around two, took a
forty five minute nap. Now we're back at the radio station.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
Baby.
Speaker 1 (00:39):
So today's show, Jimmy Wild, Today's podcast, give me about
that as well. Lynville Mayor. Though it's freaky, it's uh,
I mean, we were talking about the show. There's a
whole history of this place, but it was like built
near a Revolutionary War cemetery. There's been issues with like
finding relics on like the Civil War off as well.
(01:00):
It was a freaky evening. Tons of video on the
Instagram at wymous Radio. Let's get into this forear Wednesday.
How to know somebody is a user as in they
just use you, just use other people, so on and
so forth. I do think overall, I am fairly good
at knowing this. I think having been radio since I
(01:24):
was seventeen, especially picked up on from an early age
because like in Minneapolis we said jingle ball, and when
jingle ball would come, that's when I would hear from
anybody I ever went.
Speaker 2 (01:36):
To school with.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
It could be like we were in different classes in preschool,
and hey have heard for me a while. I'm like, yeah,
because I am no longer in preschool. A surprise, I graduated.
So I think for me, like I've been a little
bit more in tune to this maybe the most Well,
let's get into this. They always seem to have an emergency.
I've been saying this for years because there was somebody
(01:59):
in my life years ago who it's like you look
at their life and it's almost like a sitcom in
that there's always some big emergency happening. It's like every
season there is a plot twist, there is you know,
something goes wrong and it's one of those things where
(02:20):
you look back you go, Huh, how can anybody possibly
have this much drama unless they are directly involved in
causing it, you know what I mean? And I always
go back to it's like life is so hard as
it is, who actively wants to have drama in their life?
Speaker 2 (02:39):
You know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (02:40):
Like, that's a that's a no no go. If they're
never there when you need them, Yes, when you're around
the one in need, When you're the one in need,
they suddenly disappear in thin air. Maybe they're too busy,
you can't seem to find the time, YadA, YadA. It's
a hallmark of someone who values what you can do
for them more than what they more than you as
a person one hundred percent. Because again, they don't want
(03:02):
to get involved. I think I've said this before with
like some of my female friends who were like talking
to guys and when things are lighthearted and they're having
fun having the adult time, the guys are great. When like,
they don't want to have the adult time, maybe the
don't feel well. It's like, ooh, I'm busy today, and
it sounds douchey, and yet it is, but they are.
(03:24):
They're not that invested. It's all about what they need,
their wants. If they make everything about them, every conversation
ever start a conversation realizes it's quickly detouring back to them.
You're trying to share your day, suddenly your knee deep
in their latest drama. Narcissistic tendencies are often manifest as
self centeredness.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
Yes, I think that's fair.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
I dated somebody who their mom was like this and
it was one of the oddest things to witness.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
It was frustrating for me.
Speaker 1 (03:55):
I wasn't even dating the mom obviously, but it was
a bit like, yo, how.
Speaker 2 (03:59):
Can you live like this? You know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (04:04):
Where it's like you can walk in my footless cough today.
Oh yeah, well my headache was really bad today, so well,
what these is clearly worse than the other obviously it's
a headache.
Speaker 2 (04:17):
They only reach out when they need something.
Speaker 1 (04:20):
I'll say with that too, it's like you can tell
who that person is, right, you know what I mean?
You can you can tell like when what that person's doing,
because when they reach out, you go, okay, this is
just to vent to me, Uh, something's going on in
their life, it's not to check in. Yeah, And then
(04:40):
when you call them, the flip side can't get hold
of them. That's my usualst Usually usuallest usually biggest sign.
You can't get hold of them. They know, especially because
everybody's always buy their phone, right, so they go. They
make you feel guilty for saying no, I have a friend.
News like this where sneeze break where anytime like they
(05:06):
invite you out somewhere or they want to do something,
it's like, hey, I can't. They will guilt shep be like,
you know, I love doing this with you, and it's
like yo, okay, but sometimes I can't do everything I want.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
You know, sometimes it's like I got other things going on.
You know.
Speaker 1 (05:24):
If they never remember the important stuff, this is huge,
they say. Do you ever I notice they forget crucial
details about your life. Expect you remember everything about theirs, birthdays,
big events, even your favorite ice cream flavor. But they say,
when someone consistently forgets what matters to you, it's a
clear sign their attention is elsewhere.
Speaker 2 (05:41):
I think that's true.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
Yeah, more so that they're not paying attention period, Like
if it is stuff about your life that you don't like,
that they don't even like process that, Like I could
tell you, like which one of my friends don't like seafood,
you know what I mean? So I know, like, hey,
like we can't go, we can't get sea food here
because this person doesn't like it.
Speaker 2 (06:02):
I know that.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
I'm a dude, you know. They avoid making long term plans.
They say, as your friend consistently sideset plans that extend
beyond the immedia future, may have a vague response like, well,
let's see, let's play it by ear. According to this report,
people avoid long term commitments may struggle with maintaining genuine,
genuine connections. I think that it's more so because like
(06:25):
they're looking for the better option, right, Like that's it now.
I realize with me and my friends, like it's difficult
because I can't plan too far advanced because I don't
know my schedule or like what's gonna pop up. But
in general, it's like, if like your person doesn't want
(06:46):
to plan Christmas, here we are, it's basically November. If
they don't want um playing Christmas stuff with you, that's
not a good sign. That's really not a good sign.
They're quick to take credit dafa fa them basking the
glory of your collaborate efforts. When projects go well. They
often the first one step in the spotlight, claiming the
(07:07):
lions share credit. This behavior is frustrated, especially when you
put an equal or more effort. Yeah, I don't like
that in the workplace. That's why in general I like
to work alone and the projects alone just because one Yeah,
I think that if something goes wrong, I want to
(07:27):
take the blame fully. Something goes right, I want to
share the rewards. If you will, they show a little
interest in your success. I could not have a friend
like this. When something good happens in your life, do
they brush it off and change the subject? Genuine friends
with subburtr victory is big or small, as if they
are their own. If they're indifferent to your achievements, that
(07:49):
may indicate them or focus on themselves. I've always thought
this where there hasn't been a time in my life
where I've had friend be successful where I didn't feel
like I got the win as well. Does that make sense?
Like if Sauce today won award, you know, Washington Post
Best Radio Hosts, I would be thrilled for her. I'd
(08:10):
be ecstatic, Like yes, like it would feel like because
I'm on her team, or like I'm team Sauce so
to speak, that my team won, you know what I mean?
Like that, that's what to me feels like. It's like
a team you're rooting for you're not on a team,
but you're rooting for them, and then they win. It's
like hell yeah, Like my team won, that's the best
in the world, Like that's the best ever. I don't
(08:32):
quite get the not being able to be happy for
your friend. They get jealous of your other friendships. The
last one will hit.
Speaker 2 (08:41):
Again.
Speaker 1 (08:42):
So odd are they possessed of your time and resentful
when you hang out with others. This jealousy can be
a cyb of insecurity, reflecting poorly on their ability to
maintain healthy relationships.
Speaker 2 (08:51):
I get, I have another friend like this who.
Speaker 1 (08:54):
Like because I have a schedules, my schedules the way
it is. Sometimes I hang out with this other friend
of ours because like we have similar schedules and it
works out easily, and like the guilt trip afterwards, Like yeo, dude,
First of all, we're all adults. Second of all, I'm
not nobody's stealing friendships, you know what I mean. Like,
(09:16):
to me, it's a very odd thing, Like if you
get jealous of somebody else's friendship, it's so blatantly clear,
you know what I mean. Like, it's not like you
can't lie at something else. It's like you're it's just
like preschool stuff. We're adults. Baby, let it go.
Speaker 2 (09:30):
I hope you have fantastic Wednesday. Appreciate you.
Speaker 1 (09:33):
Listen makes you follow along at intern giun Radio thash
Ower
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