August 9, 2024 • 10 mins
On this episode of The Thought Shower, Intern John talks about this coming weekend. Plus, how to know if they're a good person, but not the person for you
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
And a happy Friday friend. Welcome to the Thought Shower. Intern.
John is my name. By the way, we celebrate episode
one thousand this week. That's insane, kind of hard to
grasp my head around it. I want to say the
first episode was two thousand and seventeen maybe something like that,
(00:25):
maybe eighteen, And to be honest, I probably hit a
thousand several episodes ago. I, however, consistently number the episodes wrong,
and I'm sure that's gonna happen a lot more now
that we basically reset the uh speedometer if you will odometer.
It doesn't matter. It is what it is. But yeah,
(00:48):
a thousand episodes. Thank you for being part of it.
If you've been here the whole time, God bless, I
owe you a beer because those first episodes were not great.
If you knew the podcast, welcome, thank you for hanging out.
Wow big week. So last night went to see Star Wars,
(01:09):
which was very exciting. We saw the Empire ships back
as myself. It was a sauce, it wasver, it was hoodie,
it was Eric. Got some dinner downtown and mashros aforehand.
Then went and saw the show a little bit culture.
It was a fantastic time. Am I exhausted today? Absolutely?
I think I got home around ten, which for me,
(01:32):
you know, that's that's late. You know, usually get a
two fifty. I slept till three this morning. Huge difference.
So guy at Lease is solid five hours and we'll
see how it goes. You know. It's a vibe for sure.
This week I'm excited to hopefully not do too much
because my life is about to get crazy. Like Saturday,
(01:56):
we're doing my birthday party at Public, which would be
a lot of a lot of fun, certainly looking forward
to that. But then we get in the next week.
So next week it's gonna be hacktic. My parents come
in on Wednesday. On Thursday, we have the Best of
Baltimore like lunch event, which is very exciting. Cannot wait
(02:19):
for that. And then we have the Shove course. Well
no wait though, hold on, whoa, I'm all over the place.
I'm sorry. We have the not the Ravens game, the
O's Game on Friday, Then we have the show on Saturday,
the comedy show on Saturday. Then we have hopefully my
restaurants open by that week as well, So it's gonna
(02:42):
be a lot. Dude, like if the restaurant opens on time.
This is my last somewhat free weekend, and it's not
even that free because we have other things going on.
So there we go. Anyway, I'm excited. It's gonna be
a lot of fun. I'm glad to hear for it.
Next Saturday, of course, is the comedy show Ramsaill Live
(03:05):
by the way. Last. So many tickets. There's something like
thirty pairs tickets left if you want to go see
myself in Sauce and dm D and Kyle Crummer and
my father the Professor attempting jokes, some of us attempting
harder than others. Internsjohncomedy dot com. When you go there,
you click on the birthday buy one, get one deal.
(03:27):
That way, you buy a ticket, you get one for free.
Still benefits the Fisherrass Foundation. Then we're doing the after
party at Mosaic Lounge, which is right in Powerplant. It
gonna be a fantastic time, So Internjohncomedy dot com. I
want to get to this for youre Friday. The signs
you might be in the wrong relationship, even if they
(03:48):
are a good person, which is tough, tough, tough, tough.
I think Taylor had the line in the song how
Did It End? On the new album where it's like
we learned the right steps to different dances. You know,
It's like we both did what we were supposed to do,
just wasn't right for each other, you know what I mean.
(04:10):
Like you can have the best oil, the oil and water,
don't mix the best oil in the best water. They
can be great separate and great with other things, but
together they still don't quite work out. The first thing
they say is that you find yourself constantly making excuses
for your partner's behavior. Yeah, if you always have to
explain their actions, they say, it's exhausting, can make you
(04:31):
feel like you're carrying the weight of the relationship on
your shoulders. Yeah, especially because you want people like them.
They say, remember that a good person doesn't necessarily make
a good partner, which sucks. They can be the best
person in the world and never do anything wrong, but
it doesn't mean necessarily they're gonna be there for you.
(04:52):
And I guess really no, I want to say, no
fault of their own, but certainly not intentionally, you know
what I mean, Like, they just don't have have that capacity,
which sucks. If you're miserable more often than you're happy.
They say, happiness and relationship should be a baseline, not
a peak experience. It's if it's not something's up, it's
(05:13):
normally ups and downs, but the downs should not overshadow
the ups. One that makes sense. That's the one thing too.
It's like, I couldn't imagine if you're not happy in
a relationship now and you're like just dating dude, what's
gonna happen the rest of your life? You know what
I mean? Like, I have friends who are in relationships
they're not happy. I'm like, yo, get out, and like, yeah,
(05:36):
we've been together for three years. I'm like yeah, but
like you've been happy for a year of that. You
only do the rest of your life, do you If
there's parts of yourself that you hide from your partner,
I mean, obviously you know that's one of those things. Yeah,
your partner is supposed to be the person you can
be yourself around. You cannot let your guard down, just
be you. Yeah. I think that's a huge sign. If
(05:59):
the people you care about don't care for them, Yeah,
if they consistently express concern about your partner or your relationship,
it's worth taking their options into consideration their opinions as well.
They often see things from an outside perspective. Yeah, I
think that's tough. Like I had that in like previous
(06:21):
relationships a while ago, where people my life weren't the
biggest fans and I was constantly having to make excuses.
It's it's a drain, one hundred percent of of drain.
It's like goal eat. I don't want to have to
keep explaining myself, and like I feel like I'm defending myself.
If you're scared to leave them, damn, If you find
yourself staying the relationship out of fear of being single,
(06:43):
fear of hurting your partner's feelings or what life would
be like without them, it's a sign you're in the
wrong relationship. Yeah, they say a healthy relationships based on love. Obviously,
being with a good person doesn't mean you're in a
good relationship. It's okay to choose yourself and happiness first.
I think that's tough because they could be a great person,
and they could be like they'd be a great friend,
(07:04):
and like, yeah, on paper, they'd be a perfect partner,
but something just doesn't click and it sucks, and you
try your hardest and you try different things, but it
just kind of feels like you're swinging at thin air,
like you're never quite making contact. It's never quite working out.
It's raining one hundred percent. If your visions of the
(07:25):
future don't line up. I mean, that's a pretty big one.
If your partner's life direction differs from yours, could lead
the major conflicts down the line. Doesn't mean you have
to agree everything, but at least having common ground terms
of what you see your futures being gond be a
huge difference. Yeah. When I first moved here, I was
on a date with somebody who's like, I'm gonna have
kids to be married by twenty five and I was like, yeah,
(07:46):
I mean that probably isn't gonna happen with me. Yeah,
and that's great for you, and she didn't, but like, yeah,
I knew that wouldn't work out. If you don't feel
valued or pre yeah, dude, if you feel taken for granted,
or your efforts and relationship go unnoticed, it can lead
(08:06):
to feelings of resentment and dissatisfaction. I get that because
it gets to the point where like, if your hard
work isn't being acknowledged, what's the why stay in the relationship.
And that's why it's hard. I think why people will
throw themselves in their jobs because in theory, your job
could give you a raise, your boss could say good work.
(08:26):
But if you're not getting that from like your person, dude,
that sucks. That's the worst because then it's like, why
am I wait, why am I putting all this work
in if it's not gonna get noticed, if it's not
gonna get even this praise, But like, if it doesn't
feel like they appreciate me putting the extra effort in,
why put in the extra effort? You know? And I
(08:48):
think that's snowballs and snowballs and snowballs, and then you
bury yourself and work and friends and other stuff, and
then it kind of comes to a head and it's like,
oh god, what happened? Last one? Is your partner dish
is out more criticism than praise. Yeah, say, it's normal
for couples that disagreements, but constant criticism can erode your
self esteeming happiness. If your partner often criticizes you or
(09:10):
belows your achievements or makes you feel small, it's a
sign you're in the wrong relationship. Yeah, and think gay
goes back to your partner should be your biggest cheerleader.
You know. That's one of the cool things about relationship,
is like when you have somebody to share the good
news with because it feels like you're both winning. You
know you're the same team, and when they do well,
(09:31):
it benefits you. When you do well benefits them, When
you both do well benefits the relationship. That's some deep
sufferright there. Damn, how about to write that down? But
it is the best. So that's what makes relationships fun.
It's like when you have each other's back and you
feel like you have a cheerleader. You have the weight
of somebody in your corner who's willing to help and
fight for you and wish you the best. You can't
(09:53):
be fat. I hope you have the best weekend ever.
I do, and I hope I see you next Saturday
of the comedy Show in Baltimore. Internsoncomedy dot com. We'll
see you Monday.
And a happy Friday friend. Welcome to the Thought Shower. Intern.
John is my name. By the way, we celebrate episode
one thousand this week. That's insane, kind of hard to
grasp my head around it. I want to say the
first episode was two thousand and seventeen maybe something like that,
(00:25):
maybe eighteen, And to be honest, I probably hit a
thousand several episodes ago. I, however, consistently number the episodes wrong,
and I'm sure that's gonna happen a lot more now
that we basically reset the uh speedometer if you will odometer.
It doesn't matter. It is what it is. But yeah,
(00:48):
a thousand episodes. Thank you for being part of it.
If you've been here the whole time, God bless, I
owe you a beer because those first episodes were not great.
If you knew the podcast, welcome, thank you for hanging out.
Wow big week. So last night went to see Star Wars,
(01:09):
which was very exciting. We saw the Empire ships back
as myself. It was a sauce, it wasver, it was hoodie,
it was Eric. Got some dinner downtown and mashros aforehand.
Then went and saw the show a little bit culture.
It was a fantastic time. Am I exhausted today? Absolutely?
I think I got home around ten, which for me,
(01:32):
you know, that's that's late. You know, usually get a
two fifty. I slept till three this morning. Huge difference.
So guy at Lease is solid five hours and we'll
see how it goes. You know. It's a vibe for sure.
This week I'm excited to hopefully not do too much
because my life is about to get crazy. Like Saturday,
(01:56):
we're doing my birthday party at Public, which would be
a lot of a lot of fun, certainly looking forward
to that. But then we get in the next week.
So next week it's gonna be hacktic. My parents come
in on Wednesday. On Thursday, we have the Best of
Baltimore like lunch event, which is very exciting. Cannot wait
(02:19):
for that. And then we have the Shove course. Well
no wait though, hold on, whoa, I'm all over the place.
I'm sorry. We have the not the Ravens game, the
O's Game on Friday, Then we have the show on Saturday,
the comedy show on Saturday. Then we have hopefully my
restaurants open by that week as well, So it's gonna
(02:42):
be a lot. Dude, like if the restaurant opens on time.
This is my last somewhat free weekend, and it's not
even that free because we have other things going on.
So there we go. Anyway, I'm excited. It's gonna be
a lot of fun. I'm glad to hear for it.
Next Saturday, of course, is the comedy show Ramsaill Live
(03:05):
by the way. Last. So many tickets. There's something like
thirty pairs tickets left if you want to go see
myself in Sauce and dm D and Kyle Crummer and
my father the Professor attempting jokes, some of us attempting
harder than others. Internsjohncomedy dot com. When you go there,
you click on the birthday buy one, get one deal.
(03:27):
That way, you buy a ticket, you get one for free.
Still benefits the Fisherrass Foundation. Then we're doing the after
party at Mosaic Lounge, which is right in Powerplant. It
gonna be a fantastic time, So Internjohncomedy dot com. I
want to get to this for youre Friday. The signs
you might be in the wrong relationship, even if they
(03:48):
are a good person, which is tough, tough, tough, tough.
I think Taylor had the line in the song how
Did It End? On the new album where it's like
we learned the right steps to different dances. You know,
It's like we both did what we were supposed to do,
just wasn't right for each other, you know what I mean.
(04:10):
Like you can have the best oil, the oil and water,
don't mix the best oil in the best water. They
can be great separate and great with other things, but
together they still don't quite work out. The first thing
they say is that you find yourself constantly making excuses
for your partner's behavior. Yeah, if you always have to
explain their actions, they say, it's exhausting, can make you
(04:31):
feel like you're carrying the weight of the relationship on
your shoulders. Yeah, especially because you want people like them.
They say, remember that a good person doesn't necessarily make
a good partner, which sucks. They can be the best
person in the world and never do anything wrong, but
it doesn't mean necessarily they're gonna be there for you.
(04:52):
And I guess really no, I want to say, no
fault of their own, but certainly not intentionally, you know
what I mean, Like, they just don't have have that capacity,
which sucks. If you're miserable more often than you're happy.
They say, happiness and relationship should be a baseline, not
a peak experience. It's if it's not something's up, it's
(05:13):
normally ups and downs, but the downs should not overshadow
the ups. One that makes sense. That's the one thing too.
It's like, I couldn't imagine if you're not happy in
a relationship now and you're like just dating dude, what's
gonna happen the rest of your life? You know what
I mean? Like, I have friends who are in relationships
they're not happy. I'm like, yo, get out, and like, yeah,
(05:36):
we've been together for three years. I'm like yeah, but
like you've been happy for a year of that. You
only do the rest of your life, do you If
there's parts of yourself that you hide from your partner,
I mean, obviously you know that's one of those things. Yeah,
your partner is supposed to be the person you can
be yourself around. You cannot let your guard down, just
be you. Yeah. I think that's a huge sign. If
(05:59):
the people you care about don't care for them, Yeah,
if they consistently express concern about your partner or your relationship,
it's worth taking their options into consideration their opinions as well.
They often see things from an outside perspective. Yeah, I
think that's tough. Like I had that in like previous
(06:21):
relationships a while ago, where people my life weren't the
biggest fans and I was constantly having to make excuses.
It's it's a drain, one hundred percent of of drain.
It's like goal eat. I don't want to have to
keep explaining myself, and like I feel like I'm defending myself.
If you're scared to leave them, damn, If you find
yourself staying the relationship out of fear of being single,
(06:43):
fear of hurting your partner's feelings or what life would
be like without them, it's a sign you're in the
wrong relationship. Yeah, they say a healthy relationships based on love. Obviously,
being with a good person doesn't mean you're in a
good relationship. It's okay to choose yourself and happiness first.
I think that's tough because they could be a great person,
and they could be like they'd be a great friend,
(07:04):
and like, yeah, on paper, they'd be a perfect partner,
but something just doesn't click and it sucks, and you
try your hardest and you try different things, but it
just kind of feels like you're swinging at thin air,
like you're never quite making contact. It's never quite working out.
It's raining one hundred percent. If your visions of the
(07:25):
future don't line up. I mean, that's a pretty big one.
If your partner's life direction differs from yours, could lead
the major conflicts down the line. Doesn't mean you have
to agree everything, but at least having common ground terms
of what you see your futures being gond be a
huge difference. Yeah. When I first moved here, I was
on a date with somebody who's like, I'm gonna have
kids to be married by twenty five and I was like, yeah,
(07:46):
I mean that probably isn't gonna happen with me. Yeah,
and that's great for you, and she didn't, but like, yeah,
I knew that wouldn't work out. If you don't feel
valued or pre yeah, dude, if you feel taken for granted,
or your efforts and relationship go unnoticed, it can lead
(08:06):
to feelings of resentment and dissatisfaction. I get that because
it gets to the point where like, if your hard
work isn't being acknowledged, what's the why stay in the relationship.
And that's why it's hard. I think why people will
throw themselves in their jobs because in theory, your job
could give you a raise, your boss could say good work.
(08:26):
But if you're not getting that from like your person, dude,
that sucks. That's the worst because then it's like, why
am I wait, why am I putting all this work
in if it's not gonna get noticed, if it's not
gonna get even this praise, But like, if it doesn't
feel like they appreciate me putting the extra effort in,
why put in the extra effort? You know? And I
(08:48):
think that's snowballs and snowballs and snowballs, and then you
bury yourself and work and friends and other stuff, and
then it kind of comes to a head and it's like,
oh god, what happened? Last one? Is your partner dish
is out more criticism than praise. Yeah, say, it's normal
for couples that disagreements, but constant criticism can erode your
self esteeming happiness. If your partner often criticizes you or
(09:10):
belows your achievements or makes you feel small, it's a
sign you're in the wrong relationship. Yeah, and think gay
goes back to your partner should be your biggest cheerleader.
You know. That's one of the cool things about relationship,
is like when you have somebody to share the good
news with because it feels like you're both winning. You
know you're the same team, and when they do well,
(09:31):
it benefits you. When you do well benefits them, When
you both do well benefits the relationship. That's some deep
sufferright there. Damn, how about to write that down? But
it is the best. So that's what makes relationships fun.
It's like when you have each other's back and you
feel like you have a cheerleader. You have the weight
of somebody in your corner who's willing to help and
fight for you and wish you the best. You can't
(09:53):
be fat. I hope you have the best weekend ever.
I do, and I hope I see you next Saturday
of the comedy Show in Baltimore. Internsoncomedy dot com. We'll
see you Monday.
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