August 13, 2025 • 9 mins
On this episode of The Thought Shower, Intern John talks about when NOT to vent, plus making his TV return!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hi, this is take three for try and do the
intro today's podcast. Welcome to the Thought Shower. Intern John
is my name, not my fault. It's just the equipment
that we have here. It don't work. It's it's not great.
It's not great. We're gonna make you long night. Last
night had the Jonas Brothers show Jiffy Lube. Was a
(00:23):
lot of fun. We haven't had like a good outdoor
show for top forty pop music in a while. There
was a summer where we had one direction one year,
Taylor Swift the next, then one direction again the following year.
We just haven't had that recently. You know, Taylor hasn't
been back golly since reputation to her So how long
(00:45):
that was ago?
Speaker 2 (00:46):
Six seven years? So it's a lot of fun.
Speaker 1 (00:48):
Last night it was a hot but it was great
meeting listeners and great to see you in person. Busy
day today, your boy back on television. It's been a minute.
I started doing the TV stuff again, golling me like
a month and a half ago.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
Get me back on hold.
Speaker 1 (01:05):
I'm choking back on Fox five today seven pm. I
enjoy doing TV. It's fun to uh not lead the conversation.
It's fun to just be able to hit bombs like
during the show, like the radio show, like it can
be kind of draining to do to always have to
(01:25):
lead the conversation on TV as to tell I get
to tell jokes, and that's me amazing. So Fox five
today seven pm you a chance to watch. Let me
get to this for your Wednesday. The things you should
never event to anyone about. Oh boy, this is gonna
be good. I have been trying to be well. I
guess most of my life pretty particular about that kind
(01:47):
of stuff, because I do think that once you vent
to somebody, you're kind of at their mercy to have
them not share your drama with somebody else. You know,
Like there is that like that phrase of like don't
borrow money, or if you borrow somebody money, expects not
get it back. I do think if you tell somebody
(02:09):
a secret, you should expect them to tell somebody else.
It just kind of is a reality. The first thing
is is your family drama. They say it can be
as common as the cold, but often's best to keep
under wraps. When you event about family issues, you risk
airing dirty laundry that might not be yours to share.
I would also say with this and with a lobbies too,
it's like, sometimes that first initial reaction is to vent
(02:33):
because in the moment we're heated, Like sometimes it's best
to just take that walk first, or take a nap first, legitimately,
and just like focus your mind somewhere else before you
unload the clips so to speak, into what's going on
your partner's flaws. They say it might feel like catharic
to spill out your partner's annoying habits, but does mar
(02:55):
Harmon good point out other partners. Pointing out a partner's
flaws can paign un their picture of them. Also opens
the door for your friends and others to form negative
opinions about your partner. I have said this a million times,
is that if you're gonna complain about your partner to
your friends or family, you got them followed up with
like ten compliments. Because if your friends and family care
(03:20):
about you, but you're only telling them the negative things
about your person, they're gonna have a negative view of
your person. Right, Like, if you're just complaining to me
about your boyfriend or girlfriend and just giving them bad stuff,
I'm gonna think they're a bad person. And like, you're
leaving out all the good things they do. I'm gonna
assume they're bad for you. I remember this with like
an ex girlfriend who would complain about her friends all
(03:43):
the time. Never told me anything good about her friends,
So by association I hated her friends because I was like, Yo,
these people sound horrible. Then you come to find out
that like, oh, okay, uh, maybe she was leaving out
the good stuff. One hundred percent agree your salary. They
say discussing salary might seem like a standard water cooler topic,
(04:04):
but can lead to unexpected tentions. Salaries off become with
a lot of emotional baggage. People have different perspectives and
feelings about money. I would also think too. I mean,
they say in the workplace, it can lead to untended
consequences if work gets that may effect the colleagues perceive
your contributions or a manager's view your value. Could also
unintentionally create divisions among colleagues. I think the problem with
(04:26):
salary too, is like it's so up to a bazillion
different factors. You know, when you start at the workplace,
how much money you asked for, did you threaten to
leave with other offers, you know, like that that kind
of stuff. I think, like the salary question, it's like
to me personally, I don't want to know anybody's salary
(04:47):
at the workplace because there's again, there's so many other factors.
Now again, if it was a case where there's an
employee who is exactly like me, We've started at the
same time, same qualifications, same uh you know, uh success rate,
We've asked the same amount of money raise wise, and
I find out that making more money than me, I'd
want to know that for sure. But otherwise I think
(05:09):
there's so many factors to go in. It's like, ah, golly,
your work grievances, do not vent's about They say, those
can consume your thoughts, but inventing about them because snowball
in the bigger issues. Complain about work can lead to
negative atmosphere because others of you as toxic or unprofessional.
They say, well, I think for that too. It's just
like it's easy getting the negative like tornado if you will,
(05:35):
like if you, because I've been there before, full disclosure
right where you camplain about work, your coworker complains about work,
and that way, it's like everything about work is just
negative listen.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
Work sucks, I know, blank win a two.
Speaker 1 (05:47):
But if you have the kind of atmosphere, I do
think that can kind of change your perspective to where
you think that like everything is bad about work, to
where it's almost like you're you're looking for things that
are bad to kind of confirm your thoughts and opinions.
It's like, oh, yeah, I knew this was bad one
hundred percent your past relationships. They say bringing up past
(06:08):
relationships can be a double edged store that's best handled carefully.
While it's natural reference past experiences, dwelling them can create
negative perceptions. According to the doc, they say, constantly discuss
see past relationships and undermine your current one by stirring
feelings of insecurity.
Speaker 2 (06:24):
Yeah, I guess like it's a double edged stort.
Speaker 1 (06:28):
I think the point too where it's like, if you're
dating somebody and they can't tell you a negative thing
about the past relationship, that's also a flag, right, because
it's like, if you're making the past relationship seem perfect,
why aren't you together? So will be my first kind
of thought, Right, if they ain't do anything wrong and
there's nothing wrong with the relationship, why aren't you all
(06:51):
still together now in the same token, if you are
constantly bring up the past relationship, I guess that. Yeah,
my kind of thought would be like, are you not
over that person?
Speaker 2 (07:02):
Why are you with me?
Speaker 1 (07:03):
Then? If you can't get past their stuff, you know,
why is that thing? I don't disagree the relationship thing?
I think that I don't know. I try to bring
up past relationships unless somebody asks, because I don't want
to make it seem like I'm hiding something, but also
don't want to make it seem like I'm a phyxiated
on the past relationship. If that makes sense, and hopefully
(07:25):
it does. Your personal feuds don't vent about that, they say.
Venturing into the realm of personal feuds and conversation as
a risky move, may feel satisfying out your grievances, but
often drags others in a situation they want to avoid.
By then being about your personal conflicts, you can paint
yourself a negative light, appearing petty or overly dramatic. I think,
(07:47):
every now and then it's probably a good thing, right,
they get something off your chest. But if it is
a constant thing, like a grievance with a coworker or
a friend or whoever, I am always again, I've said
this a million times of the belief that the world
is not out to get you, and I hold myself
to this too.
Speaker 2 (08:06):
The world's not out to get me.
Speaker 1 (08:08):
As much as I'd love to think the world's out
to get me, the world does not care enough to
try to ruin my day.
Speaker 2 (08:14):
The world does not want to do that. So I
do think that.
Speaker 1 (08:18):
Like, yeah, I've also guessed kind to this point, had
the belief that I'll air my grievances about somebody once
and then I stop talking, because I think if you're
constantly complaining about somebody, eventually the person you're complaining to
thinks you're the problem. I'd like to, you know, state
my case and then leave it, and if I'm right,
that person will prove me right, you know what I mean.
(08:41):
Like if I'm talking trash about uh, I don't know,
let's use Sauce. Talk trash about Sauce. She's the worst,
YadA YadA. I'll do it once, I'll stop because I
know if I'm correct, eventually Sauce will prove herself to
be exactly like that, and I don't have to do
anything else, whereas if I just keep on ragging on
her people. Might I'd be like, Oh, John, you're the problem,
(09:01):
and nobody wants that. I hope you have a fantastic
Wednesday if you get a chance. Following at internsoon radio
to Thought Shower
Hi, this is take three for try and do the
intro today's podcast. Welcome to the Thought Shower. Intern John
is my name, not my fault. It's just the equipment
that we have here. It don't work. It's it's not great.
It's not great. We're gonna make you long night. Last
night had the Jonas Brothers show Jiffy Lube. Was a
(00:23):
lot of fun. We haven't had like a good outdoor
show for top forty pop music in a while. There
was a summer where we had one direction one year,
Taylor Swift the next, then one direction again the following year.
We just haven't had that recently. You know, Taylor hasn't
been back golly since reputation to her So how long
(00:45):
that was ago?
Speaker 2 (00:46):
Six seven years? So it's a lot of fun.
Speaker 1 (00:48):
Last night it was a hot but it was great
meeting listeners and great to see you in person. Busy
day today, your boy back on television. It's been a minute.
I started doing the TV stuff again, golling me like
a month and a half ago.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
Get me back on hold.
Speaker 1 (01:05):
I'm choking back on Fox five today seven pm. I
enjoy doing TV. It's fun to uh not lead the conversation.
It's fun to just be able to hit bombs like
during the show, like the radio show, like it can
be kind of draining to do to always have to
(01:25):
lead the conversation on TV as to tell I get
to tell jokes, and that's me amazing. So Fox five
today seven pm you a chance to watch. Let me
get to this for your Wednesday. The things you should
never event to anyone about. Oh boy, this is gonna
be good. I have been trying to be well. I
guess most of my life pretty particular about that kind
(01:47):
of stuff, because I do think that once you vent
to somebody, you're kind of at their mercy to have
them not share your drama with somebody else. You know,
Like there is that like that phrase of like don't
borrow money, or if you borrow somebody money, expects not
get it back. I do think if you tell somebody
(02:09):
a secret, you should expect them to tell somebody else.
It just kind of is a reality. The first thing
is is your family drama. They say it can be
as common as the cold, but often's best to keep
under wraps. When you event about family issues, you risk
airing dirty laundry that might not be yours to share.
I would also say with this and with a lobbies too,
it's like, sometimes that first initial reaction is to vent
(02:33):
because in the moment we're heated, Like sometimes it's best
to just take that walk first, or take a nap first, legitimately,
and just like focus your mind somewhere else before you
unload the clips so to speak, into what's going on
your partner's flaws. They say it might feel like catharic
to spill out your partner's annoying habits, but does mar
(02:55):
Harmon good point out other partners. Pointing out a partner's
flaws can paign un their picture of them. Also opens
the door for your friends and others to form negative
opinions about your partner. I have said this a million times,
is that if you're gonna complain about your partner to
your friends or family, you got them followed up with
like ten compliments. Because if your friends and family care
(03:20):
about you, but you're only telling them the negative things
about your person, they're gonna have a negative view of
your person. Right, Like, if you're just complaining to me
about your boyfriend or girlfriend and just giving them bad stuff,
I'm gonna think they're a bad person. And like, you're
leaving out all the good things they do. I'm gonna
assume they're bad for you. I remember this with like
an ex girlfriend who would complain about her friends all
(03:43):
the time. Never told me anything good about her friends,
So by association I hated her friends because I was like, Yo,
these people sound horrible. Then you come to find out
that like, oh, okay, uh, maybe she was leaving out
the good stuff. One hundred percent agree your salary. They
say discussing salary might seem like a standard water cooler topic,
(04:04):
but can lead to unexpected tentions. Salaries off become with
a lot of emotional baggage. People have different perspectives and
feelings about money. I would also think too. I mean,
they say in the workplace, it can lead to untended
consequences if work gets that may effect the colleagues perceive
your contributions or a manager's view your value. Could also
unintentionally create divisions among colleagues. I think the problem with
(04:26):
salary too, is like it's so up to a bazillion
different factors. You know, when you start at the workplace,
how much money you asked for, did you threaten to
leave with other offers, you know, like that that kind
of stuff. I think, like the salary question, it's like
to me personally, I don't want to know anybody's salary
(04:47):
at the workplace because there's again, there's so many other factors.
Now again, if it was a case where there's an
employee who is exactly like me, We've started at the
same time, same qualifications, same uh you know, uh success rate,
We've asked the same amount of money raise wise, and
I find out that making more money than me, I'd
want to know that for sure. But otherwise I think
(05:09):
there's so many factors to go in. It's like, ah, golly,
your work grievances, do not vent's about They say, those
can consume your thoughts, but inventing about them because snowball
in the bigger issues. Complain about work can lead to
negative atmosphere because others of you as toxic or unprofessional.
They say, well, I think for that too. It's just
like it's easy getting the negative like tornado if you will,
(05:35):
like if you, because I've been there before, full disclosure
right where you camplain about work, your coworker complains about work,
and that way, it's like everything about work is just
negative listen.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
Work sucks, I know, blank win a two.
Speaker 1 (05:47):
But if you have the kind of atmosphere, I do
think that can kind of change your perspective to where
you think that like everything is bad about work, to
where it's almost like you're you're looking for things that
are bad to kind of confirm your thoughts and opinions.
It's like, oh, yeah, I knew this was bad one
hundred percent your past relationships. They say bringing up past
(06:08):
relationships can be a double edged store that's best handled carefully.
While it's natural reference past experiences, dwelling them can create
negative perceptions. According to the doc, they say, constantly discuss
see past relationships and undermine your current one by stirring
feelings of insecurity.
Speaker 2 (06:24):
Yeah, I guess like it's a double edged stort.
Speaker 1 (06:28):
I think the point too where it's like, if you're
dating somebody and they can't tell you a negative thing
about the past relationship, that's also a flag, right, because
it's like, if you're making the past relationship seem perfect,
why aren't you together? So will be my first kind
of thought, Right, if they ain't do anything wrong and
there's nothing wrong with the relationship, why aren't you all
(06:51):
still together now in the same token, if you are
constantly bring up the past relationship, I guess that. Yeah,
my kind of thought would be like, are you not
over that person?
Speaker 2 (07:02):
Why are you with me?
Speaker 1 (07:03):
Then? If you can't get past their stuff, you know,
why is that thing? I don't disagree the relationship thing?
I think that I don't know. I try to bring
up past relationships unless somebody asks, because I don't want
to make it seem like I'm hiding something, but also
don't want to make it seem like I'm a phyxiated
on the past relationship. If that makes sense, and hopefully
(07:25):
it does. Your personal feuds don't vent about that, they say.
Venturing into the realm of personal feuds and conversation as
a risky move, may feel satisfying out your grievances, but
often drags others in a situation they want to avoid.
By then being about your personal conflicts, you can paint
yourself a negative light, appearing petty or overly dramatic. I think,
(07:47):
every now and then it's probably a good thing, right,
they get something off your chest. But if it is
a constant thing, like a grievance with a coworker or
a friend or whoever, I am always again, I've said
this a million times of the belief that the world
is not out to get you, and I hold myself
to this too.
Speaker 2 (08:06):
The world's not out to get me.
Speaker 1 (08:08):
As much as I'd love to think the world's out
to get me, the world does not care enough to
try to ruin my day.
Speaker 2 (08:14):
The world does not want to do that. So I
do think that.
Speaker 1 (08:18):
Like, yeah, I've also guessed kind to this point, had
the belief that I'll air my grievances about somebody once
and then I stop talking, because I think if you're
constantly complaining about somebody, eventually the person you're complaining to
thinks you're the problem. I'd like to, you know, state
my case and then leave it, and if I'm right,
that person will prove me right, you know what I mean.
(08:41):
Like if I'm talking trash about uh, I don't know,
let's use Sauce. Talk trash about Sauce. She's the worst,
YadA YadA. I'll do it once, I'll stop because I
know if I'm correct, eventually Sauce will prove herself to
be exactly like that, and I don't have to do
anything else, whereas if I just keep on ragging on
her people. Might I'd be like, Oh, John, you're the problem,
(09:01):
and nobody wants that. I hope you have a fantastic
Wednesday if you get a chance. Following at internsoon radio
to Thought Shower
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