You're a Catch - 1174

On this episode of The Thought Shower, Intern John talks about his week and why being a catch means you're single

 

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
And a happy Wednesday friend. Welcome to the Thought Shower
intern John is my name. Busy week, busy week already,
it's only Wednesday.

Speaker 2 (00:09):
Hockey this week.

Speaker 1 (00:10):
Had a lovely work dinner last night at a lovely
stake restaurant, Little Ruth's Chris Action. Here's my complaint about
restaurants in general. I think they do it because it's
the law. Having the calorie counter on what you're ordering.
Nothing hurts your feelings more, you know what I mean.

(00:31):
It really should be an option of like I'll pay
extra to not know how many calories are in this steak,
you know what I mean. There is one steak on
that menu that was like three thousand calories. And my
problem is sometimes I will eat as if I am
an Olympic athlete. You know, they say Michael Phelps used
to have like ten thousand calories a day. Sometimes I'll

(00:54):
eat like that and then forget I am no longer
a world class athlete, just an elite athlete, and then
I feel a little bit upset tummy the next day,
which is what's happening right now. I have a feel
gonna be fighting for my life, which is fantastic because
going to the Caps game Layer tonight, which would be
a lot of fun. Try to get as much hockey

(01:14):
as possible like that, wise before my season starts, because
then it's it's game over. I have my hockey's like
six days a week something like that, so I excite
for that. Still know I'm dop with Thanksgiving too, like
this weekend heading down to Nashville for my nephew's baptism.
I think next week in skills and I might get
a cabin, might stay local, who knows. If you have suggestions.

(01:38):
By the way, dms are up in at Ymus Radio.
Let me get to this for your Wednesday. The reasons
you're single even though you're catch I don't feel triggered
at all, according to the dating therapist, starting with you
refuse to follow a timeline. They say those who said
are the ones that think the running out of time
and that true love isn't on the cards for them. However,

(01:59):
it's not the case for you. You know your person's
out there, you're not settling in anything.

Speaker 2 (02:03):
Less.

Speaker 1 (02:03):
Of all the reasons you're single, this is probably the
one that's most proud of. I think that's true. I
think for me there is something too, like when you
get in like a long term relationship, and you realize
it's starting to end, and it's like, oh no, like,
did I blow it again? Did I wait too long?
Did I mess this up? Well, I find somebody else again.

(02:25):
I'll say this, like having a public breakup. It's the worst.
And I can't explain to you how bad a public
breakup is. I've talked about this a little bit, but
a lot of times too, because with like my relationships,
I've always talked about them on the air because I
don't want to make it seem like I'm hiding something,
especially because I'm in public.

Speaker 2 (02:46):
I don't want things to be awkward.

Speaker 1 (02:47):
But as part of that, like most of my breakups,
I think publicly we're kind of a surprise. But that's
also because I don't talk about the bad stuff on
the air to protect the relationship but also protect the person.

Speaker 2 (03:02):
So I do think that's fair.

Speaker 1 (03:04):
I think there's that pressure of like, oh, God, in
your thirties, you're single. Yeah, rush, I'd rather be happy, yeah,
I mean, like it'll work out when it's supposed to.
Like I've known friends who got married like in their
twenties and are miserable right now.

Speaker 2 (03:19):
I don't want that.

Speaker 1 (03:21):
That sounds horrible, So like know you made that mistake
and that you're stuck. That to me sounds like an
absolute disaster. You're waiting for somebody worthy. They say, you're amazing.
Why would you even bother being with someone who doesn't
equal you in that?

Speaker 2 (03:32):
I think that's fair.

Speaker 1 (03:33):
They say, looking for someone who match your energy, intellect,
and sense of humor, passion for life. Until that someone
comes along, you'll be just fine. I think that's fair.
For me, it's a bit too of like the right person.

Speaker 2 (03:45):
Is gonna be special. Obviously, I think that's like number one.

Speaker 1 (03:51):
But because I'm not easy to be with, not because
of me personally, I think it's because of everything that
comes with it, like this show is a lot, and
especially because like I mentioned this on the show, but
dating for me, and it's the same with when Rose
is single and Sauce now too, it kind of revolves
around our schedule, you know what I mean. Like for me,

(04:13):
I can't really go on dates during the week because
I get but two forty. And then when it's hockey
season especially, it's like hockey six days a week, so
I can't really do that either. And then it's even
more so, like I can't go and stay at somebody's
place because of my wake up time, but also because
I got skittles, got a dog, so like that's a

(04:34):
whole nother you know, can of worms, and like in
my life all the things that I'm involved with, I
am kind of the decision maker, so I can't. I
don't have the luxury of you know, taking the random
day off or missing time. So for me, it's like, yeah,
I gotta find somebody who who certainly gets that. He
guys understands it and appreciates it. Because at the end

(04:54):
of the day, at least, I've always told myself that
I'm grinding and that will pay off for somebody one day.

Speaker 2 (04:59):
I mean, it's paid off for me. I'm very blessed.

Speaker 1 (05:01):
But like the person I'm with, they'll get those benefits too,
if that makes sense. You're busy doing other things, yeah,
I mean that's that's me. They say, it's not insult,
doesn't mean anything is wrong with you. It's not the
right time. So I push something out one hundred percent
about They say it's not a good idea to force things.
Taking the time to figure out who you are and
what you are are a great reason to stay single

(05:23):
again for me, you know, I this has been like
my dream since I was seventeen was to have a
radio show, and like it was not easy to get
to this point, and it's not easy to keep it
at this point. And then with like you know, everything
else has been taking off, like the TV stuff really
took off this year. Certainly the comedy took off more
than I ever could have possibly imagined. Yeah, hockey as well,

(05:48):
And so that's always like the I've mentioned this too,
like I've had to talk to people where it's like
I'm not a priority. It's like, well not right away,
you know what I mean, Like that'd be a little
bit I wouldn't be I am right now if every
person I first talked to became the inso priority now
over time, like as relationships get you know, more serious,
priorities certainly shift absolutely, But like to ask that right away,

(06:12):
I don't think it's realistic, you know what I mean.
You don't need somebody to validate you. Yeah, they say
you feel good by yourself, you live your life, don't
revolve around finding somebody. I do think for me, it's
more so the people around me. I think want me
to find somebody. I mean I certainly do too, you

(06:32):
know what I mean like having that person to like
to celebrate the wins with, but also sebrate their wins.
That to me is one of the coolest parts of relationships.
Like for me, it's like, you know, we get to
do really cool events like jingle Ball be a cool one.
There was always one of the highlights of my year
of dating was bringing a girlfriend to jingle Ball so

(06:54):
she could see, you know, like, oh, it's all worth it,
you know, and have a good night out and have
that kind of fun too. So I completely understand that
one percent. They say your confidence can be intimidating. They
say even they say this is more for women. Even
the cockiest of men will second guess themselves before daring
approach a woman of your caliber.

Speaker 2 (07:14):
Well look at that. They say. Takes a guy who
secured himself and what he has to offer to.

Speaker 1 (07:19):
Get on your level. I do think again, not for me,
make it my whole thing, it's my podcast. Yeah, I
need somebody who's secure for a lot of reasons. Number
one is like the audience's uh mainly female. Like that's
number one. So it is like when we are out
in public, you know, getting stopped by folks or a photo.

(07:39):
I love that because that means that people are listening
to the show. I also think too, like I've had
to tell girlfriends in the past, like, hey, just so
you know, like now that we're in the public eye,
trust me, Like, there's gonna be people that try to
say things to you to get a reaction, But oh
my god, did you hear what John did? And if
your reaction is oh my god, what, like, there's people

(08:01):
who will feed out, like feed into that and be
like now they know they got you, and we'll try
to tell you some blowney you know what I mean.
Whereas if you shut it down and like have that
kind of confidence in that faith, they won't try to
poke holes. But I do think it's it's a weird
thing that I've realized in my public I'm a public
person of public life. How Like people do try to

(08:22):
chip the edges, And luckily I've been blessed with like
the people I've did understand that and also trust me,
what I think is is huge, huge, huge. You don't
have time to date right now? Well, there is that,
you know. That's the thing I was talking to somebody recently.
I was like, hey, like, I'm out of town this weekend.
I got hockey this weekend, but I'm free this day.

(08:43):
And they weren't necessarily a fan of that. And that's
kind of like, you know, it is what it is,
as far as you know, my life goes.

Speaker 2 (08:50):
It's kind of it's it.

Speaker 1 (08:52):
I'm a busy guy, but in this business, if you
aren't busy, that's not a good sign. Like if I
wasn't getting book to do TV and do all this
work stuff and other events, that means the show is
not doing well, you know what I mean. So it's
kind of like that's the double edged sword certainly, and
not that I'm trying to have a pity party or

(09:12):
anything like that and just saying like that's kind of
the reality. Look, I hope you have a great Wednesday.
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