May 19, 2025 • 9 mins
On this episode of The Thought Shower, Intern John talks about Sos' bday weekend, and dealing with people who have zero self awareness
Intern John's "Chuy Forever" is a weekend of comedy shows 6/20 & 6/21 in Arlington, Va benefitting Warrior Canine Connection. They train puppies to be service animals for veterans! Tickets are on sale now, InternJohnComedy.com
Every week Intern John discusses adulting, dating, radio life, and more! You can follow Intern John on social media: @InternJohnRadio. You can listen to past episodes at TheThoughtShower.com
Intern John's "Chuy Forever" is a weekend of comedy shows 6/20 & 6/21 in Arlington, Va benefitting Warrior Canine Connection. They train puppies to be service animals for veterans! Tickets are on sale now, InternJohnComedy.com
Every week Intern John discusses adulting, dating, radio life, and more! You can follow Intern John on social media: @InternJohnRadio. You can listen to past episodes at TheThoughtShower.com
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
In a Happy Monday friend. Welcome to the Thought Shower.
Intern John is my name. It was a weekend, to
say the least. Where to begin. On Friday, went to
my restaurant that I'm involved with, had a lovely time. It's
like the first weekend I've stayed near the restaurant. I
usually do that only if I know I need to
(00:22):
be there all weekend. Which the positive of that is
that means I can get to the restaurant quickly if
I need to. The negative is I feel like the
weekend is almost kind of like a waste because I
can't really get anything else done. So like, basically Friday
was a lot of fun, went out, had some drinks,
(00:43):
had a good time, and then I think I got
back to the hotel fairly late, slept until like eleven,
and then like, it's kind of a waste of a Saturday.
I shouldn't say that. I shouldn't say that waste have
a Saturday in the sense that I didn't do anything
the rest of the day. I took a three naps
and then like seven went over to the restaurant and
start to decorate for Sauce's birthday, which I'll say this,
(01:07):
I was not positive what the Pink Pony Club theme
would look like, but she nailed it. It was a
lot of fun. A lot of folks came out. We
had a great time. I don't think I got to
bed until like three am, so basically Sunday morning, woke
up at ten, went back to my house because I'm
one of those people where if I'm staying somewhere, but
(01:28):
my house is within driving distance, like the second I
get up, like the second I wake up, my first
thought is I just want to go home, Like why
go back to bed here when I could just go
home and do it. And so I kind of used
these last couple of days. I got back from vacation
on last Wednesday, and I've been using these last couple
of days like, hey, I'm still on vacation and that
(01:51):
counts for eating. So it was a good uber each day.
The other day had Mobe Dick, had some breakfast stuff,
had some wings. And now it's like, okay, we gotta
lock in because for one thing, the comedy shows are
a month from tomorrow, which is crazy. I started going
over to the material this weekend. Man, I'm so excited
(02:12):
for it. The shows are gonna be good. It's gonna
be an emotional weekend as well, certainly, you know, trying
to get not get on or move on, but trying
to adjust to life without Chewy. As we're coming up
on five months when the show has happened, there'll be
six months, which that is the most insane thing. And
(02:35):
you know, folks have asked me about it, and all
I can say is it still doesn't seem real. And
this's gonna sound odd, but you know, I moved out
of my parents' house after college like twenty one and
been living in my own sense, so Chewy was the
one person i'll call him person that I saw every
(02:59):
single day. And it's a weird thing where it's like
and maybe it's because like when I would like if
I didn't see my parents for a couple months or
didn't see like my other family for a couple months,
then you'd see him and go, oh, it looks like
everybody like got older, right, because it's been just time
in between seeing each other, which Chewey didn't quite realize that.
So in the back of my head, like I don't
(03:21):
know if I ever lied to myself, I'm like, oh,
he'll be here forever, like that kind of like a
vibe of like I'll never know, like I know, you know, sadly,
family will pass on and friends will, but but Chewey's
gonna be here forever. And because he was for that
fifteen year period, he was there forever. So it's a
(03:42):
bit of an adjustment. I'm excited for the shows though,
June twentieth. June twenty first Arlington Draft House, Chewy Forever,
Internsjohncomedy dot Com, and Graby Tickets starts at fifteen bucks.
It's gonna be an amazing weekend. It's raising money for
an amazing cause and for me, you know, a chance
to I want to say it's therapy, but talk about
my buddy, you know, and to memorialize him and to
(04:06):
use his star power if you will, to have about
some good So Internsjohncomedy dot Com let me get to
this for your Monday. Oh it's gonna drive me crazy.
People who have zero self awareness say these things a lot.
And I'm gonna say this, it's not ironically, it's not
they're trying to be funny. They don't realize how these
(04:29):
types of things aren't helpful to me. It's like that
friend where if you stub your tail, they say, careful,
It's like, hey, that that's actually zero help. First one,
they have corny experts. I'm just being honest, they say.
Narcissistic person often turns every situation a chance to spotlight
their own experiences, emotions, or achievements. To me, I'll go
(04:53):
back to the Taylor Swift line. All too well, so
casually cruel in the name of being honest, where it's
like you can people will say the most rude thing
about you or the rudest thing. Go, I'm just being honest,
as if that makes it okay. It's like, hey, just
because you you're saying that you actually believe this fully,
doesn't mean it's not gonna hurt my feelings, you know
(05:14):
what I mean throwing it out there. If somebody says,
I don't mean to brag, but they say about to
be hit with a tale of unperiled achievement. When someone
starts that sentence with that, it's a clear sign of
humble brag is on the horizon. I'm gonna be honest.
I don't know if I've ever said that seriously, Like
I'd have a hard time saying that statement seriously because
(05:36):
I also too with me. I get worried that I
sound bragadocious. And I know if you listen to the show,
you're like, okay, but actual like conversations and stuff, I
do like get worried about that. Yeah, I just couldn't
imagine saying that in a real sentence and being serious
no offense. But they say the preemptive no offense acts
(05:59):
as the verbal disclaimer that fails to soft of the
impact of the statement. Yeah. I mean, it's kind of
the same thing as like with the I'm just being honest,
where it's just like, okay, just because you say no
offense doesn't mean it's not gonna be offensive. In fact,
I would say that usually leads to it being defensive offensive. Brother,
(06:21):
you know, I'm just so busy all the time. Yeah, well,
I listen. I struggle with this. They say when someone
lists their business as a badge of honor, it becomes
less about their pack schedule more about their need for validation.
I'll say this, I am, like, I am busy all
the time, But to me, it's like it's not a
(06:43):
braggy thing I do do too much. My parents tell me,
my friends tell me, their girlfriends tell me, like Mike
schedule is stupid, especially like during the week, you know,
I get a two forty five, right, regardless what time
I go about at two forty five ers a wake up,
So like I try to like power down by eight,
(07:05):
for sure, but during hockey season and now with the
restaurant and then with the podcast and with the comedy stuff, like,
it is really busy. However, I chose the schedule, you
know what I mean. So that's one of those things too,
where it's like, Okay, you know, I chose this. I
really can't force somebody else to feel bad for it,
(07:27):
if that makes sense. If they drop the people are
just jealous line they say when criticism arises, some deflect
by claiming people are just jealous. The phrase is used
to dismiss legitimate feedback by attributing envy rather than engaging
with the content of the critique. I do think too,
and I've told this to not people I would say
(07:50):
a mentor, but there are people within this industry and
other industries who'll ask for advice. I do think that.
Yet to be successful, you need to obviously listen to
your own critic, your own inner monologue. Sure, but it
does need to be somebody you can go to and
they have like the final say what I mean by
that is like for me A lot of times it
(08:11):
would be Sauce. So if I if I'm painting a house,
for instance, right, and I find people tell me the
paint color is wrong, but I believe it's right. If
I go to Sauce and she says it's wrong, then
I have to accept this wrong. So I think that's
a good thing to have. Is like that one person
where like they the whole world can say you're wrong.
(08:31):
If they say it's right, go for it. But they
agree with the world, then you know you're on the
wrong side. That makes sense. I think that makes life
a lot easier. Now it is hard to find that person, absolutely,
but once you do, I think it makes it so
so much easier. The last one is if they say
I don't care what people think. They say claiming not
care people think often mass a deep seated concern for
(08:54):
external validation. The phrase is is by those who wish
to project confidence may lack the self awareness recog as
their own need for approval. I guess so if you
make it kind of like a v versus everyone type
of vibe, I think in movies that seems like it's fun,
that seems like sneeze break. Sorry, my goodness, allergies. Yeah,
I think we found with with Maslow. He is the
(09:16):
psychologist with the hierarchy of needs. After food, water, and shelter,
the first things humans need is to feel acceptance. So
I do think that maybe you don't care what the
world as a whole thinks. However, you're inner circle, you're
close friends and family, you certainly do. That's why I
want to see you June twentieth. June twenty first the
(09:37):
Arlington Draft House, My Chewy Forever comedy shows, Take a
Star at fifteen Bucks. You can grab them internshoncomedy dot com.
See you Wednesday,
In a Happy Monday friend. Welcome to the Thought Shower.
Intern John is my name. It was a weekend, to
say the least. Where to begin. On Friday, went to
my restaurant that I'm involved with, had a lovely time. It's
like the first weekend I've stayed near the restaurant. I
usually do that only if I know I need to
(00:22):
be there all weekend. Which the positive of that is
that means I can get to the restaurant quickly if
I need to. The negative is I feel like the
weekend is almost kind of like a waste because I
can't really get anything else done. So like, basically Friday
was a lot of fun, went out, had some drinks,
(00:43):
had a good time, and then I think I got
back to the hotel fairly late, slept until like eleven,
and then like, it's kind of a waste of a Saturday.
I shouldn't say that. I shouldn't say that waste have
a Saturday in the sense that I didn't do anything
the rest of the day. I took a three naps
and then like seven went over to the restaurant and
start to decorate for Sauce's birthday, which I'll say this,
(01:07):
I was not positive what the Pink Pony Club theme
would look like, but she nailed it. It was a
lot of fun. A lot of folks came out. We
had a great time. I don't think I got to
bed until like three am, so basically Sunday morning, woke
up at ten, went back to my house because I'm
one of those people where if I'm staying somewhere, but
(01:28):
my house is within driving distance, like the second I
get up, like the second I wake up, my first
thought is I just want to go home, Like why
go back to bed here when I could just go
home and do it. And so I kind of used
these last couple of days. I got back from vacation
on last Wednesday, and I've been using these last couple
of days like, hey, I'm still on vacation and that
(01:51):
counts for eating. So it was a good uber each day.
The other day had Mobe Dick, had some breakfast stuff,
had some wings. And now it's like, okay, we gotta
lock in because for one thing, the comedy shows are
a month from tomorrow, which is crazy. I started going
over to the material this weekend. Man, I'm so excited
(02:12):
for it. The shows are gonna be good. It's gonna
be an emotional weekend as well, certainly, you know, trying
to get not get on or move on, but trying
to adjust to life without Chewy. As we're coming up
on five months when the show has happened, there'll be
six months, which that is the most insane thing. And
(02:35):
you know, folks have asked me about it, and all
I can say is it still doesn't seem real. And
this's gonna sound odd, but you know, I moved out
of my parents' house after college like twenty one and
been living in my own sense, so Chewy was the
one person i'll call him person that I saw every
(02:59):
single day. And it's a weird thing where it's like
and maybe it's because like when I would like if
I didn't see my parents for a couple months or
didn't see like my other family for a couple months,
then you'd see him and go, oh, it looks like
everybody like got older, right, because it's been just time
in between seeing each other, which Chewey didn't quite realize that.
So in the back of my head, like I don't
(03:21):
know if I ever lied to myself, I'm like, oh,
he'll be here forever, like that kind of like a
vibe of like I'll never know, like I know, you know, sadly,
family will pass on and friends will, but but Chewey's
gonna be here forever. And because he was for that
fifteen year period, he was there forever. So it's a
(03:42):
bit of an adjustment. I'm excited for the shows though,
June twentieth. June twenty first Arlington Draft House, Chewy Forever,
Internsjohncomedy dot Com, and Graby Tickets starts at fifteen bucks.
It's gonna be an amazing weekend. It's raising money for
an amazing cause and for me, you know, a chance
to I want to say it's therapy, but talk about
my buddy, you know, and to memorialize him and to
(04:06):
use his star power if you will, to have about
some good So Internsjohncomedy dot Com let me get to
this for your Monday. Oh it's gonna drive me crazy.
People who have zero self awareness say these things a lot.
And I'm gonna say this, it's not ironically, it's not
they're trying to be funny. They don't realize how these
(04:29):
types of things aren't helpful to me. It's like that
friend where if you stub your tail, they say, careful,
It's like, hey, that that's actually zero help. First one,
they have corny experts. I'm just being honest, they say.
Narcissistic person often turns every situation a chance to spotlight
their own experiences, emotions, or achievements. To me, I'll go
(04:53):
back to the Taylor Swift line. All too well, so
casually cruel in the name of being honest, where it's
like you can people will say the most rude thing
about you or the rudest thing. Go, I'm just being honest,
as if that makes it okay. It's like, hey, just
because you you're saying that you actually believe this fully,
doesn't mean it's not gonna hurt my feelings, you know
(05:14):
what I mean throwing it out there. If somebody says,
I don't mean to brag, but they say about to
be hit with a tale of unperiled achievement. When someone
starts that sentence with that, it's a clear sign of
humble brag is on the horizon. I'm gonna be honest.
I don't know if I've ever said that seriously, Like
I'd have a hard time saying that statement seriously because
(05:36):
I also too with me. I get worried that I
sound bragadocious. And I know if you listen to the show,
you're like, okay, but actual like conversations and stuff, I
do like get worried about that. Yeah, I just couldn't
imagine saying that in a real sentence and being serious
no offense. But they say the preemptive no offense acts
(05:59):
as the verbal disclaimer that fails to soft of the
impact of the statement. Yeah. I mean, it's kind of
the same thing as like with the I'm just being honest,
where it's just like, okay, just because you say no
offense doesn't mean it's not gonna be offensive. In fact,
I would say that usually leads to it being defensive offensive. Brother,
(06:21):
you know, I'm just so busy all the time. Yeah, well,
I listen. I struggle with this. They say when someone
lists their business as a badge of honor, it becomes
less about their pack schedule more about their need for validation.
I'll say this, I am, like, I am busy all
the time, But to me, it's like it's not a
(06:43):
braggy thing I do do too much. My parents tell me,
my friends tell me, their girlfriends tell me, like Mike
schedule is stupid, especially like during the week, you know,
I get a two forty five, right, regardless what time
I go about at two forty five ers a wake up,
So like I try to like power down by eight,
(07:05):
for sure, but during hockey season and now with the
restaurant and then with the podcast and with the comedy stuff, like,
it is really busy. However, I chose the schedule, you
know what I mean. So that's one of those things too,
where it's like, Okay, you know, I chose this. I
really can't force somebody else to feel bad for it,
(07:27):
if that makes sense. If they drop the people are
just jealous line they say when criticism arises, some deflect
by claiming people are just jealous. The phrase is used
to dismiss legitimate feedback by attributing envy rather than engaging
with the content of the critique. I do think too,
and I've told this to not people I would say
(07:50):
a mentor, but there are people within this industry and
other industries who'll ask for advice. I do think that.
Yet to be successful, you need to obviously listen to
your own critic, your own inner monologue. Sure, but it
does need to be somebody you can go to and
they have like the final say what I mean by
that is like for me A lot of times it
(08:11):
would be Sauce. So if I if I'm painting a house,
for instance, right, and I find people tell me the
paint color is wrong, but I believe it's right. If
I go to Sauce and she says it's wrong, then
I have to accept this wrong. So I think that's
a good thing to have. Is like that one person
where like they the whole world can say you're wrong.
(08:31):
If they say it's right, go for it. But they
agree with the world, then you know you're on the
wrong side. That makes sense. I think that makes life
a lot easier. Now it is hard to find that person, absolutely,
but once you do, I think it makes it so
so much easier. The last one is if they say
I don't care what people think. They say claiming not
care people think often mass a deep seated concern for
(08:54):
external validation. The phrase is is by those who wish
to project confidence may lack the self awareness recog as
their own need for approval. I guess so if you
make it kind of like a v versus everyone type
of vibe, I think in movies that seems like it's fun,
that seems like sneeze break. Sorry, my goodness, allergies. Yeah,
I think we found with with Maslow. He is the
(09:16):
psychologist with the hierarchy of needs. After food, water, and shelter,
the first things humans need is to feel acceptance. So
I do think that maybe you don't care what the
world as a whole thinks. However, you're inner circle, you're
close friends and family, you certainly do. That's why I
want to see you June twentieth. June twenty first the
(09:37):
Arlington Draft House, My Chewy Forever comedy shows, Take a
Star at fifteen Bucks. You can grab them internshoncomedy dot com.
See you Wednesday,
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