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Speaker 1 (00:03):
It's that time, time, time, time, luck and load.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
So Michael Very show is on the air.
Speaker 3 (00:15):
Caucasian, Caucasian.
Speaker 4 (00:17):
Yeah, you know, a white guy from a mustache, about
six foot.
Speaker 1 (00:20):
Three, probably big mustache, Aulia Clark.
Speaker 3 (00:28):
It's a serious matter. I'll do it myself, Honey. I'm
not an ordained minister. I'm doing my best.
Speaker 5 (00:33):
Okay, we won't start crockscrew, we won't fool war.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
Will you make sure they're short on ears and were
long on mouth?
Speaker 3 (00:48):
Sixty percent of the time. It works every time.
Speaker 2 (00:52):
In fact, drunk and stupid is no way to go
through life. Stock.
Speaker 3 (01:00):
Now we are in trumpet.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
It is that time again, graduation time, and we are reminded.
I'll tell the story again in just a moment. The
woman in Chicago who just pinned a little you know,
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kind of her Mike Roko Deer Abby column. And the
irony of it is that she did it on the
basis that, you know, nobody ever asks me to give
a graduation speech. And I don't. I don't think she was,
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you know, woe is me, But it's maybe she was.
But the irony was it then became better known than
most every graduation speech you will ever hear and it is.
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It is a standard for us, and after you hear it,
I would like to pivot to what advice you received
at graduation or would receive, And here it is our
annual tradition, Ladies and.
Speaker 6 (02:51):
Gentlemen of the class of ninety nine, where sunscreen. If
I could offer you only one tip for the future,
sunscreen would be it a long term benefits of sunscreen
have been proved by scientists. Or as the rest of
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my advice has no basis more reliable than my own
meandering experience.
Speaker 3 (03:19):
I will dispense this advice.
Speaker 6 (03:22):
Now enjoy the power and beauty.
Speaker 3 (03:26):
Of your youth.
Speaker 6 (03:28):
Never mind, you will not understand the power and beauty
of your youth until they faded. But trust me, in
twenty years you look back at photos of yourself and
recalling away, you can't grasp now how much possibility lay
before you and how fabulous you really looked.
Speaker 3 (03:45):
You are not.
Speaker 6 (03:46):
As fat as you imagine. Don't worry about the future
or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as
trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing.
Speaker 3 (04:01):
The real troubles in your life are apt to be.
Speaker 6 (04:04):
Things that never crossed your worried mind, a kind that
blindsided you at four pm on some idle Tuesday. Do
one thing every day that scares you same. Don't be
reckless with other people's hearts. Don't put up with people
are reckless with yours flocks. Don't waste your time on jealousy.
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Sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind. The race is long,
and in the end, it's totally with yourself. Remember compliments
you receive, forget the insults.
Speaker 3 (04:42):
If you succeed in doing this, tell me how keep
your old love theirs and throw away your old bank statements. Stretch.
Speaker 6 (04:53):
Don't feel guilty if you don't know what you want
to do with your life. The most interesting people I
know didn't know what twenty two what.
Speaker 3 (05:00):
They wanted to do with their lives.
Speaker 6 (05:02):
Some of the most interesting forty year olds I know
still don't.
Speaker 3 (05:06):
Get plenty of counsel. Be kinds your needs, you'll miss.
Speaker 2 (05:11):
Them when you're god.
Speaker 3 (05:14):
Maybe you'll marry, maybe you won't. Maybe you'll have children,
maybe you won't. Baby, you'll divorce at forty.
Speaker 6 (05:21):
Maybe you'll dance the Funky Chicken on your seventy fifth
wedding anniversary.
Speaker 3 (05:25):
Whatever you do, don't congratulate yourself too much or braate yourself.
Speaker 2 (05:29):
Either.
Speaker 3 (05:30):
Your choices are half chance, so.
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Are everybody else's.
Speaker 3 (05:36):
Enjoy your body, Use it every way you can. Don't
be afraid of it or what other people think of it.
It's the greatest instrument you'll ever own. Dance even if
you have nowhere to do it, but in your own
liv Read the directions, or even if you don't follow them.
Do not read beauty magazines. They will only make you
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feel ugly. Get to know your parents. You never know
what they'll be gone good. Be nice to your siblings.
Are your best link to your past and the most
likely to stick with you in the future.
Speaker 6 (06:19):
You understand that friends come and go, but with a
precious view you hold on work hard for it's.
Speaker 3 (06:26):
The gaps in geography and lifestyle. The older you get,
the more you need the people when you knew where
you were young.
Speaker 6 (06:36):
Live in New York City once, but leave before it
makes you hard. Live in northern California once, but leave
before it makes you soft. Travel, accept certain inalienable truths.
Prices will rise, politicians will filacter. You too, will get old,
and when you do, you'll vanticize that when you were young,
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prices were reasonable, politicians were noble, and children respected their elders.
Speaker 3 (07:06):
Respect your elders. Don't expect anyone else to support you.
Speaker 6 (07:12):
Maybe you have a trust fund, maybe you'll have a
wealthy spouse, but you never know when either one might
run out. Don't mess too much with your hair or
a By the time you're forty, it will look eighty five.
Be careful of whose advice you'd buy, but be patient
with those who supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia,
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dispensing it as a way of fishing, passed from the disposal,
wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts, and recycling
it for more than it's worth.
Speaker 3 (07:47):
But trust me on the sunscreen.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
Bos Luhmann took that essay column and just read it
with great pacing and basic music underneath, and it actually
became a hit during my lost decade of the nineties.
I think it was the moment first. What advice would
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you give to a graduate today or were you given?
That made a difference? Seven one three nine nine nine
one thousand. It's a graduation special seven one three nine
nine nine one thousand To Michael Berry Show, Chris Wrights,
my advice to graduates and young professionals. Professionals avoid school loans,
car loans, personal loans, and credit cards. Exercise financial discipline,
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move at the speed of cash. Let's go to Harry
in Nashville. What advice do you have for graduates or
did you yourself receive?
Speaker 7 (08:52):
Oh, I love to give it out. I watched the
kid grow up and you went away to college in
Chicago last week year, and I told him bow to
peer pressure. It's really easy to listen to the knuckleheads
and say let's sleep in and not go to class.
The hardest thing is to keep your good character and
not be just go along with the crowd. And I
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gave him a fifty dollar bill and shook his hands.
Speaker 2 (09:16):
You know, I had a Sunday school teacher say to
our class twenty five years ago. I got this advice
or heard this said, and he said, if you want
to know where you're going to be in five years,
look around at your friends. And it meant something to
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me then. But I've really found that here's that lightning.
I have really huh, but you think we're in danger.
I have really found that to be true. It's been
an important it's been very important. In guaranteeing our sons.
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You only get to give so much advice before it's
in one ear and out the other. And there have
to be priorities. There have to be things that are
most important, and I have without without embarrassing them or
anyone else. There have been a few times over the
years where I have pulled one or the other of
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my sons to the side and said, are you are
you friends with that person? Yes, okay, let's talk about
that now. When you first begin that conversation, it's a
little odd because you might be second guessing yourself, saying,
am I not letting my child pick their friends? Well,
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whatever your opinion may be, I'm here to tell you
I'm not picking their friends. But I get a veto power.
And when I hear that a kid is uh and
you will You'll hear if you keep your ear to
the ground, when I hear that this kid's causing trouble,
and I'm still my mom's son in this way. If
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a kid is drinking and acting foolish and getting in
fights and fighting with the teachers and doing drugs, any
number of those things, then that's probably going to be
a problem. It's going to be a problem. It's just
it's going to be a problem, and I will address it,
and I have addressed it. And it's a very awkward conversation.
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There's no way around it. It's not a pleasant conversation
because you're also talking about a human being, and you're
also running the risk your child will tell that person, hey,
my dad thinks you're a little hooligan and doesn't want
me to be around you. And you may know that
kid's parent. Well, now it gets weird. But my strategy
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has always been this, And when my wife has asked
that question, my strategy has always been this. I know
the friends. I know the parents of my children's friends
because they were my children's friends. Now some of those
have developed into lifelong, deep abiding friendships. But make no mistake,
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my kids come first before anything else. And if that
offends another person, so be it. It's probably not shocking
to that person that I wouldn't want my kid associating
with that with that kid through sports, school, at extracurricular,
you know, wherever else. But I am a big believer
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that the people you associate with will have a dramatic
impact on where you end up. And I'll tell you
one that I've seen how this thing plays out. I
have seen women the Rose all day crowd, and they'll be, uh,
you know, there's three or four or five couples in
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their mayor, and they do things as couples because the
wives are friends and the husbands get along well enough,
and so they may go to dinner sometime, maybe they
go on trips together. Maybe they live in the same neighborhood,
or all went to A and M or U T
or TCU or wherever together and all's going well. Maybe
they work together, and then one couple gets divorced and
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she leaves him for another man, or she becomes single,
and you can watch if that group's if those girls
stay together and that one goes off single, in no time,
you will watch the other's marriages break down. I have
seen this happen more times than than I care to
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tell I've seen this happen so many times. I will
tell you something else, and this makes women mad when
I say it. If you look at happily married women,
happily married women not just married, you will notice that,
by and large they don't have a large group of
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girlfriends that they associate with. Often there is something biological
about women who gather together a lot, a rose all
day crowd, you know, every Wednesday morning or every Wednesday
at noon. They meet till they pass out at six
o'clock PM, and they gather. Those women do not gather
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to talk about how their husband is a wonderful man.
They do not one up each other with well, my
husband rubs my feet, well, my husband is a good savor,
a good saver's wife. And a group like that becomes
so tight he squeaks when he walks, a cheapskate, a chintz,
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a bad person, a person who is protective of the family.
It gets described as controlling. I have watched this happen
more times, where good men will be talked about badly
by their wives and the wives get together before they
know it they're all married to bad men, when in
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fact they're not. They're all married to good men. But
we're all married to good men. Conversation. Not that it
never happens, but it is not the standard for women
who get together and drake rose all afternoon in a gathering.
I have noticed that happy marriages tend to have women
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who have a good friend one or maybe two in
relationships with the rest of their family, And I will
tell you older women, older women who've been married forty
to fifty sixty years will tell you they didn't gather
all of them, you know, all the women. Now, I've
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seen women's groups at church, and that'll be an exception.
But well that's what I see one of those. Well,
something must be right. You were listening to Michael Barry,
hey daring.
Speaker 5 (16:16):
This is sheldy cutecause I could be been talking way
too much, lady about spam, which is a harrmale product
which means short. How you said this word parks, shoulders
and hams.
Speaker 2 (16:29):
What is the do you eat spam? Turkey spam?
Speaker 3 (16:34):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (16:34):
Wa?
Speaker 2 (16:34):
Is they eat the turkey spam?
Speaker 3 (16:36):
That's pretty good.
Speaker 5 (16:37):
They even make one of this low salt for the
elderly people who is on the fixed income.
Speaker 2 (16:43):
You know, they told me at one time at.
Speaker 5 (16:46):
The beauty school that the Soviet arment won the world
wall on spam, acabert.
Speaker 2 (16:54):
Is that a true fact.
Speaker 5 (16:55):
Or is that just something I read on the internect?
Speaker 2 (16:58):
There's probably lie.
Speaker 3 (17:01):
Girl, I feel cramping coming home. You know what that means?
Speaker 6 (17:04):
Don't?
Speaker 2 (17:05):
Oh no, Jeff the builder, what advice did you get
or would you give to graduates?
Speaker 8 (17:16):
I was actually calling in mister Barry because I'm an
uncle again. My sister had her third child yesterday afternoon.
Speaker 2 (17:22):
Oh fantastic boy or girl.
Speaker 8 (17:26):
A little girl at nine pounds six ounces, and I
can't wait to go see her this afternoon.
Speaker 2 (17:32):
And what did they name her?
Speaker 8 (17:35):
There's no name yet, but I suggested that Jeffarina Garrison
and that's number three on the pick.
Speaker 1 (17:42):
I guess.
Speaker 2 (17:43):
Yeah. Well, I've been trying to get kids names for
a very long time and it never seems to work out.
You know, there's an Indian tradition it's called a nom
cutting and and or nom cutting, and it is after
a child is born, and after a week or two
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could be longer, there is a celebration of the birth.
It's really a celebration of the birth of the child.
And aunts and uncles which anyone older in the family
is considered an aunt and uncle and extended family will
come to the home and bring gifts for this new
child that's come into the world. And you don't know
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the name, and so the story goes that the mother
will or the tradition goes that the mother will whisper
the child's name, the baby's name into the baby's ear,
so the baby is the first person to hear her
name being said and the first person to know it.
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She will then turn and tell the rest of the people.
Some people will do that like the telephone game where
they go one by one and some will turn and
say it to the group. But the nonm cutting ceremony
actually means the naming reveal ceremony. It's a really cool tradition.
I love the I love the naming process. I watch
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Jeopardy every Tuesday and Thursday night. I stacked the episodes,
and I'm always interested to see the various kinds of
first and last names that people will have, especially people
that compete on Jeopardy, and where they're from, and what
that name represents, and what you think of when you
hear that name first and last name. Hunter, you're on
the Michael Berry Show. What say you, sir?
Speaker 1 (19:32):
Hey, mister Barry. The best advice I ever got as
a freshman in college was if you run with dogs,
you're gonna get Lee's. That has stuck with me forever.
Speaker 2 (19:42):
Yes it is. It is very well said. I always
heard it as if you lay down with dogs, you
get up with flees. But it doesn't matter. It's the
same advice hunter. How old are you?
Speaker 1 (19:54):
I am thirty three years old.
Speaker 2 (19:56):
And what do you do for a living?
Speaker 1 (19:59):
I am a key account manager for a food processing
equipment company.
Speaker 2 (20:05):
Because you don't mess with people that aren't like first
rate only the key accounts.
Speaker 1 (20:11):
Yeah, so that was a joke, VP level enough.
Speaker 2 (20:15):
Yeah, what is it? What kind of food? Or is
this food processing company selling?
Speaker 7 (20:22):
So?
Speaker 1 (20:23):
Our number one machine is actually a laser guided water jet,
think of like a CNC machine. Sure, but we use
it to cut portions of chicken. We use it to
trim fat on steaks, too, cut pies, to cut pizzassh
a little bit of everything.
Speaker 2 (20:43):
Do y'all make the do y'all distribute the equipment or
are you processing the food?
Speaker 1 (20:48):
Yes, sir, so we are a vendor, so we manufacture
the equipment and we sell it to the companies who
then make the food.
Speaker 2 (20:59):
And where do you manufacture the equipment?
Speaker 1 (21:03):
Kingston, New York, Columbus, Ohio, Russellville, Arkansas.
Speaker 2 (21:11):
And it's at.
Speaker 1 (21:15):
Yes, sir?
Speaker 2 (21:15):
And where are you based?
Speaker 1 (21:18):
I am based out of Weatherford, Texas.
Speaker 2 (21:22):
And are you so you are mostly maintaining relationships, You're
not answering a call for someone who's interested in this product.
Speaker 1 (21:33):
Yeah, a lot of my customers are established and they
know our product sometimes better than we do. So a
lot of the things I do from a day to
day is maintain relationships and put out fires.
Speaker 2 (21:45):
So Jason Oya has become a friend of ours. He's
a sponsor of the show. He has a company called
Laboucherie in Spring on Kirkandall and they're in all the
grocery stores. They're online Cajunmeats dot com and then Laboucherie
they're They're retail center is on Kirkandilt in Spring. Is
that a customer of yours?
Speaker 1 (22:07):
So my main customers are going to be the big
we call them the Big Three, like the Pilgrims.
Speaker 2 (22:13):
The Tysons, O R O s.
Speaker 3 (22:16):
Yeah, that level of customer I see.
Speaker 2 (22:19):
Now, when y'all do the water jet like that, explain
to me how that machine is. I mean, is that
actually literally a water stream? Because I know that's used
in a lot of Explain that to a sixth.
Speaker 1 (22:34):
Grader, So what it does? Imagine a conveyor belt that
has a really smart computer and a very smart laser
on it. That product goes underneath the laser and underneath
the camera, and in an instant the software generates a
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cut strategy that's going to maximize what we call yield
yields king. Once that cut strategy is defined, it will
pass under the water jets that cut anywhere from forty
to eighty seven thousand psi at a point zero zero
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seven inch orifice size into your your famous chicken sandwiches,
your nuggets, et cetera. And it does about four thousand
to ten thousand pounds an hour.
Speaker 2 (23:32):
And I guess it's a cleaner process because it's a
water instead of a metal. I'm asking.
Speaker 1 (23:40):
Yeah, And so the reason why our equipment's so popular
is because it's more accurate than handcutting, and it shows
up every day. If you take care of it, you
don't have to worry if his girlfriend just broke up
with it or if it's having hangover from the night before.
And the actual pounds you're able to put out is
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about the equivalent of about twenty humans.
Speaker 4 (24:10):
So it's wow, that.
Speaker 2 (24:12):
Is quite a bit hunter. Thank you for that. Please
chairs keep rolling around. Damn it all right? This is
Mark Chestnut and Enjoy Bizaar of talk radio. Last week
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I listened to a lot of Hank Williams Junior. He's
one of my absolute favorites, and I had spent a
couple of weeks before that listening on Luke with a
lot of songs, and then kind of loosely had my
top fifty and I was trying to get down to
I probably had my top seventy and I was trying
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to get down to my top thirty. And so last
week I listened almost exclusively when listening to music to
Hank Junior. And then Friday night, all day Saturday, and
all day Sunday, I was doing some work on my
home studio, recording some things, doing things in a situation
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where I could listen to music for a long period
of time, and I kept coming across Hank Junior's version
of Can't You See? And it is the thing I
love about Hank Junior, what makes him special to me
when I look at his body of work, who he
is and what he represents, is that he wrote almost
everything he sang, and it's very autobiographical, and he's one
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of the only guys in the country genre who could
talk about what's happening at this time and offers social
commentary in real time or current social commentary and it
still be quality music that holds up and stands at
test of time. And I don't think anybody did that
better than he did. I don't think anybody is in
the realm that he is in that way. Don What
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advice do you have for new graduates or did you
yourself get.
Speaker 4 (26:15):
New graduates necessarily? I spoke this week at a career
day at a local elementary school, and I was a
project manager. But my message to them was, at the end,
it really doesn't matter if you have the education. Because
my degree was in Christianity and speech, it wasn't in
project management, and I was able to have a very
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good career. You know, I've been to thirty five different countries.
I've done a lot, We've manage multimillion dollar projects. But
I told them, I said, you can do whatever you
want to. I said, the trades are really important. We
are lacking in the electricians, plumbers, ac people. And you
also can find some really good apprenticeship programs where you
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can start in your high school years and start to
work up into a business and learn that business from
the bottom up. Then at the end, I asked him,
I said, how many do you think I'm an A student,
and it got hands how many things I'm a BC.
There was a couple that thought I was a DNF
kind of guy. But then I said, it really doesn't matter.
I was a C student. It doesn't matter what your
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grade point average is. It matters how much you want
the job and how you want to be successful. And
everyone in this room can be successful.
Speaker 2 (27:29):
That's a wonderful perspective. None a wonderful perspective.
Speaker 7 (27:33):
You know.
Speaker 2 (27:34):
I've given a lot of thought to this over the
arc of my career and my life and how much
things like GPA matter. And I've come to the conclusion,
at fifty four years old that for most people, the
GPA you get in high school or college is about
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as relevant to me hiring you as your forty yard dashtime. Now,
I think it's a comparison that holds up. Follow me here.
If you can run the forty yard dash in under
five most people think they can. Almost nobody can, because
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when you watch the combine and you see those numbers,
you got to realize those are the fastest of the
fast If you can run at a four to nine,
a four to eight, if you can get down into
four to five zone or lower. You are top of
the charts. Man, that's something special. Depending on the rest
of your skills and size and technique and expertise, you
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might be playing professional football for some period of time.
But if you're not playing professional football, it's probably not
going to matter. I don't ask the plumber who comes
to my house, or the electrician or the roofer, or
the window installers at Allied Siding and Windows. I don't
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ask them how fast they run the forty yard dash.
They may or may not be fast, or they may not.
They may it may take them ten seconds. It simply
isn't relevant to what they do. Now here's the problem
with that. Just as the forty yard dash time is
incredibly important for the guy who's going to be on
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the Olympic sprint team, or is going to be a
summer Olympic team, or is going to play wide receiver
in the NFL Willie Gault style, it is important to him.
So one of the ways we went wrong was the
GPA is how we separate people going to med school,
law school, and a couple of things like that. In society,
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only a very small percentage of people are going to
end up going on to be lawyers, doctors, architects, engineers,
the things where we arbitrarily decided the GPA would be
the separator. I don't even think it tracks well in
terms of being predictive of success. But let's just say
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in those things, what will agree that GPA is so important?
All right? The GPA became how teachers would make kids
pay attention because if my performance doesn't matter, why am
I going to learn? And the score on the exam
became so important, and that number becomes a scarlet letter
for people. And it takes a number of people, a
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lot of people, host of people to realize that they
are a worthy person in their field. It can take
ten or twenty years because they're still hung up over
ms Perry told them they were a dumbass in eighth
grade because they couldn't spell well. Chad can't spell well.
He's the best in the business at what he does,
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our executive producer set of skills, and his performance in
his consistency, I never seen anything. He makes the trains
run on time. We all work for Chad and Chat
can't spell for anything. So I don't know what he
scored in English, probably not very good. Does it matter
to me, not one bet. He's the best in the business.
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I put him up against any show in the country.
I may not make betterman, but he is. So why
would his English grade matter? But we created a system
where it does, didn't we, And I think that's a mistake.
Speaker 7 (31:32):
I do.
Speaker 2 (31:33):
I also think we should teach kids to love to
learn for life instead of all this scoring system.
It's that time, time, time, time, luck and load.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
So Michael Very show is on the air.
Speaker 3 (00:15):
Caucasian, Caucasian.
Speaker 4 (00:17):
Yeah, you know, a white guy from a mustache, about
six foot.
Speaker 1 (00:20):
Three, probably big mustache, Aulia Clark.
Speaker 3 (00:28):
It's a serious matter. I'll do it myself, Honey. I'm
not an ordained minister. I'm doing my best.
Speaker 5 (00:33):
Okay, we won't start crockscrew, we won't fool war.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
Will you make sure they're short on ears and were
long on mouth?
Speaker 3 (00:48):
Sixty percent of the time. It works every time.
Speaker 2 (00:52):
In fact, drunk and stupid is no way to go
through life. Stock.
Speaker 3 (01:00):
Now we are in trumpet.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
It is that time again, graduation time, and we are reminded.
I'll tell the story again in just a moment. The
woman in Chicago who just pinned a little you know,
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kind of her Mike Roko Deer Abby column. And the
irony of it is that she did it on the
basis that, you know, nobody ever asks me to give
a graduation speech. And I don't. I don't think she was,
(02:12):
you know, woe is me, But it's maybe she was.
But the irony was it then became better known than
most every graduation speech you will ever hear and it is.
(02:35):
It is a standard for us, and after you hear it,
I would like to pivot to what advice you received
at graduation or would receive, And here it is our
annual tradition, Ladies and.
Speaker 6 (02:51):
Gentlemen of the class of ninety nine, where sunscreen. If
I could offer you only one tip for the future,
sunscreen would be it a long term benefits of sunscreen
have been proved by scientists. Or as the rest of
(03:12):
my advice has no basis more reliable than my own
meandering experience.
Speaker 3 (03:19):
I will dispense this advice.
Speaker 6 (03:22):
Now enjoy the power and beauty.
Speaker 3 (03:26):
Of your youth.
Speaker 6 (03:28):
Never mind, you will not understand the power and beauty
of your youth until they faded. But trust me, in
twenty years you look back at photos of yourself and
recalling away, you can't grasp now how much possibility lay
before you and how fabulous you really looked.
Speaker 3 (03:45):
You are not.
Speaker 6 (03:46):
As fat as you imagine. Don't worry about the future
or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as
trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing.
Speaker 3 (04:01):
The real troubles in your life are apt to be.
Speaker 6 (04:04):
Things that never crossed your worried mind, a kind that
blindsided you at four pm on some idle Tuesday. Do
one thing every day that scares you same. Don't be
reckless with other people's hearts. Don't put up with people
are reckless with yours flocks. Don't waste your time on jealousy.
(04:27):
Sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind. The race is long,
and in the end, it's totally with yourself. Remember compliments
you receive, forget the insults.
Speaker 3 (04:42):
If you succeed in doing this, tell me how keep
your old love theirs and throw away your old bank statements. Stretch.
Speaker 6 (04:53):
Don't feel guilty if you don't know what you want
to do with your life. The most interesting people I
know didn't know what twenty two what.
Speaker 3 (05:00):
They wanted to do with their lives.
Speaker 6 (05:02):
Some of the most interesting forty year olds I know
still don't.
Speaker 3 (05:06):
Get plenty of counsel. Be kinds your needs, you'll miss.
Speaker 2 (05:11):
Them when you're god.
Speaker 3 (05:14):
Maybe you'll marry, maybe you won't. Maybe you'll have children,
maybe you won't. Baby, you'll divorce at forty.
Speaker 6 (05:21):
Maybe you'll dance the Funky Chicken on your seventy fifth
wedding anniversary.
Speaker 3 (05:25):
Whatever you do, don't congratulate yourself too much or braate yourself.
Speaker 2 (05:29):
Either.
Speaker 3 (05:30):
Your choices are half chance, so.
Speaker 2 (05:33):
Are everybody else's.
Speaker 3 (05:36):
Enjoy your body, Use it every way you can. Don't
be afraid of it or what other people think of it.
It's the greatest instrument you'll ever own. Dance even if
you have nowhere to do it, but in your own
liv Read the directions, or even if you don't follow them.
Do not read beauty magazines. They will only make you
(05:56):
feel ugly. Get to know your parents. You never know
what they'll be gone good. Be nice to your siblings.
Are your best link to your past and the most
likely to stick with you in the future.
Speaker 6 (06:19):
You understand that friends come and go, but with a
precious view you hold on work hard for it's.
Speaker 3 (06:26):
The gaps in geography and lifestyle. The older you get,
the more you need the people when you knew where
you were young.
Speaker 6 (06:36):
Live in New York City once, but leave before it
makes you hard. Live in northern California once, but leave
before it makes you soft. Travel, accept certain inalienable truths.
Prices will rise, politicians will filacter. You too, will get old,
and when you do, you'll vanticize that when you were young,
(07:00):
prices were reasonable, politicians were noble, and children respected their elders.
Speaker 3 (07:06):
Respect your elders. Don't expect anyone else to support you.
Speaker 6 (07:12):
Maybe you have a trust fund, maybe you'll have a
wealthy spouse, but you never know when either one might
run out. Don't mess too much with your hair or
a By the time you're forty, it will look eighty five.
Be careful of whose advice you'd buy, but be patient
with those who supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia,
(07:35):
dispensing it as a way of fishing, passed from the disposal,
wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts, and recycling
it for more than it's worth.
Speaker 3 (07:47):
But trust me on the sunscreen.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
Bos Luhmann took that essay column and just read it
with great pacing and basic music underneath, and it actually
became a hit during my lost decade of the nineties.
I think it was the moment first. What advice would
(08:15):
you give to a graduate today or were you given?
That made a difference? Seven one three nine nine nine
one thousand. It's a graduation special seven one three nine
nine nine one thousand To Michael Berry Show, Chris Wrights,
my advice to graduates and young professionals. Professionals avoid school loans,
car loans, personal loans, and credit cards. Exercise financial discipline,
(08:39):
move at the speed of cash. Let's go to Harry
in Nashville. What advice do you have for graduates or
did you yourself receive?
Speaker 7 (08:52):
Oh, I love to give it out. I watched the
kid grow up and you went away to college in
Chicago last week year, and I told him bow to
peer pressure. It's really easy to listen to the knuckleheads
and say let's sleep in and not go to class.
The hardest thing is to keep your good character and
not be just go along with the crowd. And I
(09:12):
gave him a fifty dollar bill and shook his hands.
Speaker 2 (09:16):
You know, I had a Sunday school teacher say to
our class twenty five years ago. I got this advice
or heard this said, and he said, if you want
to know where you're going to be in five years,
look around at your friends. And it meant something to
(09:40):
me then. But I've really found that here's that lightning.
I have really huh, but you think we're in danger.
I have really found that to be true. It's been
an important it's been very important. In guaranteeing our sons.
(10:02):
You only get to give so much advice before it's
in one ear and out the other. And there have
to be priorities. There have to be things that are
most important, and I have without without embarrassing them or
anyone else. There have been a few times over the
years where I have pulled one or the other of
(10:23):
my sons to the side and said, are you are
you friends with that person? Yes, okay, let's talk about
that now. When you first begin that conversation, it's a
little odd because you might be second guessing yourself, saying,
am I not letting my child pick their friends? Well,
(10:46):
whatever your opinion may be, I'm here to tell you
I'm not picking their friends. But I get a veto power.
And when I hear that a kid is uh and
you will You'll hear if you keep your ear to
the ground, when I hear that this kid's causing trouble,
and I'm still my mom's son in this way. If
(11:07):
a kid is drinking and acting foolish and getting in
fights and fighting with the teachers and doing drugs, any
number of those things, then that's probably going to be
a problem. It's going to be a problem. It's just
it's going to be a problem, and I will address it,
and I have addressed it. And it's a very awkward conversation.
(11:30):
There's no way around it. It's not a pleasant conversation
because you're also talking about a human being, and you're
also running the risk your child will tell that person, hey,
my dad thinks you're a little hooligan and doesn't want
me to be around you. And you may know that
kid's parent. Well, now it gets weird. But my strategy
(11:53):
has always been this, And when my wife has asked
that question, my strategy has always been this. I know
the friends. I know the parents of my children's friends
because they were my children's friends. Now some of those
have developed into lifelong, deep abiding friendships. But make no mistake,
(12:17):
my kids come first before anything else. And if that
offends another person, so be it. It's probably not shocking
to that person that I wouldn't want my kid associating
with that with that kid through sports, school, at extracurricular,
you know, wherever else. But I am a big believer
(12:38):
that the people you associate with will have a dramatic
impact on where you end up. And I'll tell you
one that I've seen how this thing plays out. I
have seen women the Rose all day crowd, and they'll be, uh,
you know, there's three or four or five couples in
(12:59):
their mayor, and they do things as couples because the
wives are friends and the husbands get along well enough,
and so they may go to dinner sometime, maybe they
go on trips together. Maybe they live in the same neighborhood,
or all went to A and M or U T
or TCU or wherever together and all's going well. Maybe
they work together, and then one couple gets divorced and
(13:25):
she leaves him for another man, or she becomes single,
and you can watch if that group's if those girls
stay together and that one goes off single, in no time,
you will watch the other's marriages break down. I have
seen this happen more times than than I care to
(13:45):
tell I've seen this happen so many times. I will
tell you something else, and this makes women mad when
I say it. If you look at happily married women,
happily married women not just married, you will notice that,
by and large they don't have a large group of
(14:08):
girlfriends that they associate with. Often there is something biological
about women who gather together a lot, a rose all
day crowd, you know, every Wednesday morning or every Wednesday
at noon. They meet till they pass out at six
o'clock PM, and they gather. Those women do not gather
(14:30):
to talk about how their husband is a wonderful man.
They do not one up each other with well, my
husband rubs my feet, well, my husband is a good savor,
a good saver's wife. And a group like that becomes
so tight he squeaks when he walks, a cheapskate, a chintz,
(14:54):
a bad person, a person who is protective of the family.
It gets described as controlling. I have watched this happen
more times, where good men will be talked about badly
by their wives and the wives get together before they
know it they're all married to bad men, when in
(15:15):
fact they're not. They're all married to good men. But
we're all married to good men. Conversation. Not that it
never happens, but it is not the standard for women
who get together and drake rose all afternoon in a gathering.
I have noticed that happy marriages tend to have women
(15:37):
who have a good friend one or maybe two in
relationships with the rest of their family, And I will
tell you older women, older women who've been married forty
to fifty sixty years will tell you they didn't gather
all of them, you know, all the women. Now, I've
(15:59):
seen women's groups at church, and that'll be an exception.
But well that's what I see one of those. Well,
something must be right. You were listening to Michael Barry,
hey daring.
Speaker 5 (16:16):
This is sheldy cutecause I could be been talking way
too much, lady about spam, which is a harrmale product
which means short. How you said this word parks, shoulders
and hams.
Speaker 2 (16:29):
What is the do you eat spam? Turkey spam?
Speaker 3 (16:34):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (16:34):
Wa?
Speaker 2 (16:34):
Is they eat the turkey spam?
Speaker 3 (16:36):
That's pretty good.
Speaker 5 (16:37):
They even make one of this low salt for the
elderly people who is on the fixed income.
Speaker 2 (16:43):
You know, they told me at one time at.
Speaker 5 (16:46):
The beauty school that the Soviet arment won the world
wall on spam, acabert.
Speaker 2 (16:54):
Is that a true fact.
Speaker 5 (16:55):
Or is that just something I read on the internect?
Speaker 2 (16:58):
There's probably lie.
Speaker 3 (17:01):
Girl, I feel cramping coming home. You know what that means?
Speaker 6 (17:04):
Don't?
Speaker 2 (17:05):
Oh no, Jeff the builder, what advice did you get
or would you give to graduates?
Speaker 8 (17:16):
I was actually calling in mister Barry because I'm an
uncle again. My sister had her third child yesterday afternoon.
Speaker 2 (17:22):
Oh fantastic boy or girl.
Speaker 8 (17:26):
A little girl at nine pounds six ounces, and I
can't wait to go see her this afternoon.
Speaker 2 (17:32):
And what did they name her?
Speaker 8 (17:35):
There's no name yet, but I suggested that Jeffarina Garrison
and that's number three on the pick.
Speaker 1 (17:42):
I guess.
Speaker 2 (17:43):
Yeah. Well, I've been trying to get kids names for
a very long time and it never seems to work out.
You know, there's an Indian tradition it's called a nom
cutting and and or nom cutting, and it is after
a child is born, and after a week or two
(18:03):
could be longer, there is a celebration of the birth.
It's really a celebration of the birth of the child.
And aunts and uncles which anyone older in the family
is considered an aunt and uncle and extended family will
come to the home and bring gifts for this new
child that's come into the world. And you don't know
(18:24):
the name, and so the story goes that the mother
will or the tradition goes that the mother will whisper
the child's name, the baby's name into the baby's ear,
so the baby is the first person to hear her
name being said and the first person to know it.
(18:45):
She will then turn and tell the rest of the people.
Some people will do that like the telephone game where
they go one by one and some will turn and
say it to the group. But the nonm cutting ceremony
actually means the naming reveal ceremony. It's a really cool tradition.
I love the I love the naming process. I watch
(19:09):
Jeopardy every Tuesday and Thursday night. I stacked the episodes,
and I'm always interested to see the various kinds of
first and last names that people will have, especially people
that compete on Jeopardy, and where they're from, and what
that name represents, and what you think of when you
hear that name first and last name. Hunter, you're on
the Michael Berry Show. What say you, sir?
Speaker 1 (19:32):
Hey, mister Barry. The best advice I ever got as
a freshman in college was if you run with dogs,
you're gonna get Lee's. That has stuck with me forever.
Speaker 2 (19:42):
Yes it is. It is very well said. I always
heard it as if you lay down with dogs, you
get up with flees. But it doesn't matter. It's the
same advice hunter. How old are you?
Speaker 1 (19:54):
I am thirty three years old.
Speaker 2 (19:56):
And what do you do for a living?
Speaker 1 (19:59):
I am a key account manager for a food processing
equipment company.
Speaker 2 (20:05):
Because you don't mess with people that aren't like first
rate only the key accounts.
Speaker 1 (20:11):
Yeah, so that was a joke, VP level enough.
Speaker 2 (20:15):
Yeah, what is it? What kind of food? Or is
this food processing company selling?
Speaker 7 (20:22):
So?
Speaker 1 (20:23):
Our number one machine is actually a laser guided water jet,
think of like a CNC machine. Sure, but we use
it to cut portions of chicken. We use it to
trim fat on steaks, too, cut pies, to cut pizzassh
a little bit of everything.
Speaker 2 (20:43):
Do y'all make the do y'all distribute the equipment or
are you processing the food?
Speaker 1 (20:48):
Yes, sir, so we are a vendor, so we manufacture
the equipment and we sell it to the companies who
then make the food.
Speaker 2 (20:59):
And where do you manufacture the equipment?
Speaker 1 (21:03):
Kingston, New York, Columbus, Ohio, Russellville, Arkansas.
Speaker 2 (21:11):
And it's at.
Speaker 1 (21:15):
Yes, sir?
Speaker 2 (21:15):
And where are you based?
Speaker 1 (21:18):
I am based out of Weatherford, Texas.
Speaker 2 (21:22):
And are you so you are mostly maintaining relationships, You're
not answering a call for someone who's interested in this product.
Speaker 1 (21:33):
Yeah, a lot of my customers are established and they
know our product sometimes better than we do. So a
lot of the things I do from a day to
day is maintain relationships and put out fires.
Speaker 2 (21:45):
So Jason Oya has become a friend of ours. He's
a sponsor of the show. He has a company called
Laboucherie in Spring on Kirkandall and they're in all the
grocery stores. They're online Cajunmeats dot com and then Laboucherie
they're They're retail center is on Kirkandilt in Spring. Is
that a customer of yours?
Speaker 1 (22:07):
So my main customers are going to be the big
we call them the Big Three, like the Pilgrims.
Speaker 2 (22:13):
The Tysons, O R O s.
Speaker 3 (22:16):
Yeah, that level of customer I see.
Speaker 2 (22:19):
Now, when y'all do the water jet like that, explain
to me how that machine is. I mean, is that
actually literally a water stream? Because I know that's used
in a lot of Explain that to a sixth.
Speaker 1 (22:34):
Grader, So what it does? Imagine a conveyor belt that
has a really smart computer and a very smart laser
on it. That product goes underneath the laser and underneath
the camera, and in an instant the software generates a
(22:55):
cut strategy that's going to maximize what we call yield
yields king. Once that cut strategy is defined, it will
pass under the water jets that cut anywhere from forty
to eighty seven thousand psi at a point zero zero
(23:16):
seven inch orifice size into your your famous chicken sandwiches,
your nuggets, et cetera. And it does about four thousand
to ten thousand pounds an hour.
Speaker 2 (23:32):
And I guess it's a cleaner process because it's a
water instead of a metal. I'm asking.
Speaker 1 (23:40):
Yeah, And so the reason why our equipment's so popular
is because it's more accurate than handcutting, and it shows
up every day. If you take care of it, you
don't have to worry if his girlfriend just broke up
with it or if it's having hangover from the night before.
And the actual pounds you're able to put out is
(24:06):
about the equivalent of about twenty humans.
Speaker 4 (24:10):
So it's wow, that.
Speaker 2 (24:12):
Is quite a bit hunter. Thank you for that. Please
chairs keep rolling around. Damn it all right? This is
Mark Chestnut and Enjoy Bizaar of talk radio. Last week
(24:39):
I listened to a lot of Hank Williams Junior. He's
one of my absolute favorites, and I had spent a
couple of weeks before that listening on Luke with a
lot of songs, and then kind of loosely had my
top fifty and I was trying to get down to
I probably had my top seventy and I was trying
(24:59):
to get down to my top thirty. And so last
week I listened almost exclusively when listening to music to
Hank Junior. And then Friday night, all day Saturday, and
all day Sunday, I was doing some work on my
home studio, recording some things, doing things in a situation
(25:20):
where I could listen to music for a long period
of time, and I kept coming across Hank Junior's version
of Can't You See? And it is the thing I
love about Hank Junior, what makes him special to me
when I look at his body of work, who he
is and what he represents, is that he wrote almost
everything he sang, and it's very autobiographical, and he's one
(25:43):
of the only guys in the country genre who could
talk about what's happening at this time and offers social
commentary in real time or current social commentary and it
still be quality music that holds up and stands at
test of time. And I don't think anybody did that
better than he did. I don't think anybody is in
the realm that he is in that way. Don What
(26:05):
advice do you have for new graduates or did you
yourself get.
Speaker 4 (26:15):
New graduates necessarily? I spoke this week at a career
day at a local elementary school, and I was a
project manager. But my message to them was, at the end,
it really doesn't matter if you have the education. Because
my degree was in Christianity and speech, it wasn't in
project management, and I was able to have a very
(26:36):
good career. You know, I've been to thirty five different countries.
I've done a lot, We've manage multimillion dollar projects. But
I told them, I said, you can do whatever you
want to. I said, the trades are really important. We
are lacking in the electricians, plumbers, ac people. And you
also can find some really good apprenticeship programs where you
(26:56):
can start in your high school years and start to
work up into a business and learn that business from
the bottom up. Then at the end, I asked him,
I said, how many do you think I'm an A student,
and it got hands how many things I'm a BC.
There was a couple that thought I was a DNF
kind of guy. But then I said, it really doesn't matter.
I was a C student. It doesn't matter what your
(27:18):
grade point average is. It matters how much you want
the job and how you want to be successful. And
everyone in this room can be successful.
Speaker 2 (27:29):
That's a wonderful perspective. None a wonderful perspective.
Speaker 7 (27:33):
You know.
Speaker 2 (27:34):
I've given a lot of thought to this over the
arc of my career and my life and how much
things like GPA matter. And I've come to the conclusion,
at fifty four years old that for most people, the
GPA you get in high school or college is about
(27:58):
as relevant to me hiring you as your forty yard dashtime. Now,
I think it's a comparison that holds up. Follow me here.
If you can run the forty yard dash in under
five most people think they can. Almost nobody can, because
(28:21):
when you watch the combine and you see those numbers,
you got to realize those are the fastest of the
fast If you can run at a four to nine,
a four to eight, if you can get down into
four to five zone or lower. You are top of
the charts. Man, that's something special. Depending on the rest
of your skills and size and technique and expertise, you
(28:46):
might be playing professional football for some period of time.
But if you're not playing professional football, it's probably not
going to matter. I don't ask the plumber who comes
to my house, or the electrician or the roofer, or
the window installers at Allied Siding and Windows. I don't
(29:06):
ask them how fast they run the forty yard dash.
They may or may not be fast, or they may not.
They may it may take them ten seconds. It simply
isn't relevant to what they do. Now here's the problem
with that. Just as the forty yard dash time is
incredibly important for the guy who's going to be on
(29:29):
the Olympic sprint team, or is going to be a
summer Olympic team, or is going to play wide receiver
in the NFL Willie Gault style, it is important to him.
So one of the ways we went wrong was the
GPA is how we separate people going to med school,
law school, and a couple of things like that. In society,
(29:55):
only a very small percentage of people are going to
end up going on to be lawyers, doctors, architects, engineers,
the things where we arbitrarily decided the GPA would be
the separator. I don't even think it tracks well in
terms of being predictive of success. But let's just say
(30:15):
in those things, what will agree that GPA is so important?
All right? The GPA became how teachers would make kids
pay attention because if my performance doesn't matter, why am
I going to learn? And the score on the exam
became so important, and that number becomes a scarlet letter
for people. And it takes a number of people, a
(30:37):
lot of people, host of people to realize that they
are a worthy person in their field. It can take
ten or twenty years because they're still hung up over
ms Perry told them they were a dumbass in eighth
grade because they couldn't spell well. Chad can't spell well.
He's the best in the business at what he does,
(30:57):
our executive producer set of skills, and his performance in
his consistency, I never seen anything. He makes the trains
run on time. We all work for Chad and Chat
can't spell for anything. So I don't know what he
scored in English, probably not very good. Does it matter
to me, not one bet. He's the best in the business.
(31:18):
I put him up against any show in the country.
I may not make betterman, but he is. So why
would his English grade matter? But we created a system
where it does, didn't we, And I think that's a mistake.
Speaker 7 (31:32):
I do.
Speaker 2 (31:33):
I also think we should teach kids to love to
learn for life instead of all this scoring system.
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