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Speaker 1 (00:00):
I ask you something real quick. Do you have kids?
Speaker 2 (00:02):
Of course I do have did Can I ask how ols?
Speaker 3 (00:07):
They're all adult?
Speaker 2 (00:08):
So like twenty five, I want to ask you something,
but I don't want you to get mad at me
for asking.
Speaker 3 (00:16):
I will not get mad at you.
Speaker 1 (00:17):
Are they good kids? They're decent kids. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (00:23):
You may have caught them on a bad day. Maybe
they had an argument yesterday.
Speaker 5 (00:28):
You know, well like two weeks ago. You could have said,
oh my god, they're angels.
Speaker 1 (00:32):
They're decent. They're decent. They're decent. The no, No, they're
all right.
Speaker 4 (00:37):
They make decent choices usually.
Speaker 1 (00:39):
Right, Okay, all right? No, No, No, that's fine.
Speaker 5 (00:41):
That's a totally normal answer.
Speaker 2 (00:43):
No, No, that's great. No, I'm glad you're honest. I'm
glad you're on They're decent.
Speaker 1 (00:47):
The no.
Speaker 6 (00:48):
No.
Speaker 1 (00:48):
I was reading something and I don't know. Everybody does this.
Speaker 2 (00:52):
Everybody does this, And I don't know, like at what
point does the script flip or does the perception flip?
Speaker 1 (01:01):
Like at what at what point do you.
Speaker 2 (01:04):
Stop air quotes blaming a parent for their kids screw
ups or shortcomings or failures.
Speaker 1 (01:14):
You know what I mean?
Speaker 3 (01:14):
I would say late, Yeah, I do like say late
middle school, early high school, middle school.
Speaker 1 (01:20):
No, get out of here. You're still judging in middle school.
Speaker 5 (01:30):
Well into their twenties, twenties.
Speaker 4 (01:32):
That's too late, because you can say, like if somebody,
if somebody's acting a fool laid into their twenties, you
can go, that's because they were never disciplined by their parents.
Speaker 1 (01:40):
Oh, that's unfair, that's unfair.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
Late twenties, No way. You may as well say that when.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
They're in their thirties. Well, parents didn't give a fly
an f. But isn't middle middle school? We're still judging,
aren't we?
Speaker 7 (01:54):
I thought?
Speaker 1 (01:54):
So yeah, thank you, sir, thank you.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
You see a kid, like if I could quote Diane
acting a fool in middle school, you're like, that kid
needs some discipline.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
That's on the parents.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
Now, the kid could still be a raging dick, but
you're still gonna blame it on the parents.
Speaker 8 (02:14):
At least part of it, a good chunk of it.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
Yes, high school or high school, we're still blaming right, Yes, Oh.
Speaker 7 (02:22):
Tyler, I can't believe that's even up for debates.
Speaker 5 (02:25):
Wait, but you you were still But.
Speaker 7 (02:28):
In most cases here we go under this.
Speaker 1 (02:31):
So is that when it changes a lot of supervision
or Diane.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
They should have taught him younger, should have They weren't reared.
Speaker 9 (02:39):
Right because a lot of kids do go back here
we go when they're in college. If they attend college, right,
there is still a connection in college as well.
Speaker 2 (02:51):
Oh see, I thought you were gonna say nope, even
if they could be in their thirties and living on
their own.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
But what they were, they were not.
Speaker 7 (02:58):
Raised right there.
Speaker 9 (03:00):
There are people who you meet when you're in your
early twenties and you just don't even think of them
having parents. They're just like they're feral there. They're just
they're adults. Now, yeah, you can't. You can't blame their
parents for everything at this point. They should know better.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
Yeah right, right, Okay, I'll give you know.
Speaker 9 (03:20):
They may have had a crappy upbringing and it didn't
allow for it in the moment, But now you're out
on your own.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
Exact stuff, okay, right right, and you can actually look
at them and go, you know what, they had really
good parents that poured everything into it.
Speaker 7 (03:35):
Four ones that are bating poorly. Yeah, well I don't know.
Speaker 1 (03:41):
I yeah, no, yeah, you're right about that. It could
go both ways. It could go both ways.
Speaker 9 (03:48):
Why a science come out with the definitive definitive age.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
No, but I was reading about this woman who and
she says, my kid's an f up the But she's like,
why why am I I did?
Speaker 1 (04:00):
She was like, I did everything that I could. Right.
The kid was raised in a loving household.
Speaker 2 (04:05):
We had discipline, we had all these things, and I did.
I did as much as I don't want to say,
as I could. I did as much with my kids
as all my other friends did with theirs, right, And
I think that does she say?
Speaker 1 (04:20):
How old he is?
Speaker 2 (04:21):
Now?
Speaker 1 (04:22):
Like the kid is said? Here we go.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
They talk about parenting comes full circle, blah blah blah,
greatest the compliments raising children who grow into capable, successful adults.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
That's what we all strive for. I think.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
That sounds fine and wonderful, and I'm truly happy for
these families.
Speaker 1 (04:41):
But what about the rest of us? She goes, Some
of us, including she says, including.
Speaker 2 (04:47):
Myself, have worked just as hard, sometimes harder, to raise
our children with love, structure, in person, or purpose. I
spent years going without sleep, working long hours, showing up
at every school event, driving to practices, trying to guide
them toward a better life. And yet the results look
nothing like those glowing success stories. My children have stumbled, struggled,
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and in some cases rejected the values that I tried
so desperately to instill. I'm still but but and she's like,
but I still get judges like, oh, you were a
bad parent.
Speaker 7 (05:19):
So she introduces something I hadn't thought of.
Speaker 9 (05:21):
What's that I'm thinking the whole time about behavior and
being a jerk and being disrespectful and.
Speaker 1 (05:29):
Just well, that comes into it, I'm sure.
Speaker 9 (05:31):
But she also mentioned struggling. So I wonder if, like
your kids, say, they're out of work for a while,
and this could poke its head into the age range
that Diane was talking about. That wasn't on my mind
when we were talking about judging. But people definitely judge parents,
even when their kids are adults, for not having a
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steady job or being out of work.
Speaker 7 (05:58):
No, not even maybe that, they're just like, what's wrong
with your kids?
Speaker 4 (06:03):
Oh, you didn't instill a work ethic in them or
perhaps stick to itiveness.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
Oh so maybe that does get into the choy we
agree we're all judging in middle school?
Speaker 1 (06:12):
Well, yes, okay, all right, yeah, thank you sir, thank you.
Speaker 7 (06:18):
I don't know if he gets to still contribute.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
So you think later it is like the kid is
unable to find a job.
Speaker 4 (06:27):
And just aren't trying, Like, well I put it in
an application like two months ago and they never called me.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
Okay, it's a it's a tough job market right now.
Mm hmm it is it is, Diane. It's a tough
time giving you what, Dian, This is brutal.
Speaker 9 (06:42):
I feel so bad for Elliot's son, this graduating class
from and forgetting.
Speaker 5 (06:47):
I'm I'm not looking forward to it.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
And he gets he gets it. He gets it from
both ends.
Speaker 2 (06:53):
You go to that job fairage, you go to this
job fairage, you go to that job fairedge, you go
to this job fair. He's like, there's companies there. I
don't even want to talk to you. Better talk them.
What are you gonna do?
Speaker 1 (07:00):
Oh? I'm sorry? Is there a money tree out back?
Speaker 5 (07:02):
But yeah, it's like you also have to say horrible.
Speaker 1 (07:04):
You know, it's horrible.
Speaker 5 (07:05):
Odds are you're not going to get your dream job
right out of college?
Speaker 1 (07:08):
Okay? Well he's heard that. Yeah, yeah, he knows. I
didn't start working in radio. It was a burger king
for a night.
Speaker 9 (07:15):
But then it's not even just job. Now I'm thinking
parents get judged for their adult children when they get divorced.
Speaker 7 (07:22):
The no, yes they do.
Speaker 1 (07:24):
Who's blaming a parent when their kid gets divorced?
Speaker 7 (07:27):
Maybe not blaming, but you use the judge you said judged?
Speaker 1 (07:30):
Oh I the Jews?
Speaker 2 (07:31):
The wait, So I'm judging them because they got divorced.
Speaker 9 (07:34):
Some people definitely really yes, absolutely, I'm not saying I do.
Speaker 1 (07:38):
Oh I'm not not. No shot that marriage didn't last.
Look at the mother.
Speaker 5 (07:46):
Or somebody who doesn't judge it.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
By the way, that's a good one. That's a good one.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
That that what is that old? What is that old fable?
Apples don't fall far from the trees?
Speaker 1 (07:56):
Yeah, no, wonder they're on marriage. Three? Look at the mom.
She couldn't keep a man of her life dependent on it?
Speaker 7 (08:05):
So is it when the kid turns fifty? See?
Speaker 5 (08:08):
Like when is it?
Speaker 7 (08:10):
Damn it?
Speaker 2 (08:12):
Oh? And more important, So I'm going to be judged
the rest of my life for which part just being
a little absent, maybe not being heavy handed enough, like I'll.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
Get all of it.
Speaker 7 (08:22):
Well, that's if your kids do something well.
Speaker 2 (08:25):
According to Diane, if my kid doesn't walk out with
a diploma in one hand and a job.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
No, your job applications.
Speaker 5 (08:32):
You are misinterpreting what I've said.
Speaker 7 (08:34):
I've heard.
Speaker 4 (08:35):
I've seen plenty of people who've got kids in there,
pushing late twenties, early thirties, who maybe get laid off
and then they're like holding out for management.
Speaker 5 (08:44):
Here we go, no, and it's like get off your
ass and.
Speaker 1 (08:47):
Go to work. But is that the kid or is
that the parents?
Speaker 4 (08:49):
I think it's the I think it's the kid, but
I also think it's the parents, the parent, and I
know I also think the parents need to be like,
get off your ass and get something.
Speaker 1 (08:57):
Okay. Can you tell Diane that's judging.
Speaker 5 (09:00):
And over a divorce like you are.
Speaker 7 (09:04):
It was multiple divorces, Okay, it was.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
Wonder she can't keep a man? Look at the mother. See,
I'm with Tyler. I was thinking, like the.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
Kid, the kid at school who's a bully, or or
you might go back to that too.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
No, but you're right, you're right on the older one.
Speaker 2 (09:22):
Yeah, because it's easy when it when a when a
kid's a piece of garbage in like middle school, and
you're like.
Speaker 1 (09:27):
Well, the parents Jesus Christ broken home the But no,
when it gets older, you're right. You're right, that's a
good one. The divorce one is great.
Speaker 7 (09:36):
But you could even for couples that stayed.
Speaker 2 (09:38):
Again, Diane, everybody's gotta quit, hold on for management, get
your goddamn job.
Speaker 4 (09:45):
No, I'm talking about the people who sit at home
on their ass and don't do at least something white hustle,
sell crap on boshmark, bring bringing money to help pay
your phone bill, do something that's a game.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
Diana.
Speaker 7 (10:00):
Yeah, you know that.
Speaker 2 (10:01):
Yeah, well, I can't go on job interviews if I'm
working on Nancy.
Speaker 5 (10:04):
Yeah, you can you do that at home.
Speaker 4 (10:06):
Here.
Speaker 5 (10:06):
Everybody I knew when their twenties had two and three jobs.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
Diane, It is impossible for kids to get jobs right now.
Speaker 5 (10:13):
I'm not saying it's not difficult. I know that.
Speaker 4 (10:15):
I'm talking about the ones who and while they are
applying and applying and applying, then aren't are just kind
of like, well, there goes there goes nothing, and we're
all like fatalist about it.
Speaker 5 (10:27):
It's like, well then, and.
Speaker 1 (10:28):
Who do we who do we judge? Who do we judge? Parents?
Speaker 6 (10:30):
Well?
Speaker 4 (10:30):
Yeah, because parents, you gotta like elliot, you gotta like
pokem and larns.
Speaker 9 (10:35):
Them but even if they have good jobs, even if
they stayed together and they're still happening in the marriage.
I thought of another one where parents get judged. This
will be good, This'll be good even later in life.
This will be good for the grand kids, because you
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wonder what did they do with their kids that their
grandkids are so crazy?
Speaker 1 (11:02):
Oh oh, look at these two animals running around. That's
not how you were raised.
Speaker 7 (11:08):
So it's forever the.
Speaker 9 (11:12):
Seriously, the grandparent one, They've probably done more than any
of the other two.
Speaker 1 (11:15):
For me, I'm talking.
Speaker 7 (11:16):
About divorce or the job that has bothered me.
Speaker 9 (11:18):
But I've certainly seen grandkids and wondered what the upbringing
was for the parents.
Speaker 7 (11:23):
And I'm looking at the grandparents while thinking about.
Speaker 1 (11:27):
So does it never end?
Speaker 4 (11:29):
Do I judge a lot judging, Yeah, never ends the
but the parents for the kids, Yes, it sounds like it.
I don't know that I've ever done the grandparent road. Okay,
you know what I'm going to answer that Kristin.
Speaker 2 (11:44):
Kristen's holding up a very inside note and she's holding
it in the hand that she normally stirs things up with.
Speaker 1 (11:50):
I'm not judging his parents. I'm not judging his parents.
Are you.
Speaker 2 (11:55):
Dad?
Speaker 1 (11:56):
Here comes Diane character.
Speaker 7 (11:59):
I fail to understand that one.
Speaker 9 (12:03):
Yeah, I know I can read it. I wasn't having
trouble compress.
Speaker 5 (12:08):
Outlining the name again. Let me write that darker.
Speaker 1 (12:12):
I'm I'm not on that boat. I'm not on that boat.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
I mean, I would bet those parents have done a
lot of things that mess that up, but not not.
Speaker 1 (12:21):
That specific case. Not that specific case. And that's very interesting.
Speaker 9 (12:27):
But is she suggesting and without revealing what she wrote,
does she think somehow the medical condition is a product
of the parents, like you know when some parents poison
their kids for the sympathy.
Speaker 1 (12:40):
Oh proxy syndrome.
Speaker 7 (12:43):
You're not suggesting that, No, No, okay.
Speaker 5 (12:46):
No, I think it's more pointed toward a work ethic.
Speaker 1 (12:49):
The oh my god, Jesus.
Speaker 4 (12:51):
That's fair kind of am I didn't think of that
one on my own. But I'm like, actually, right.
Speaker 1 (13:03):
Line, t why hi Elliot in the morning?
Speaker 8 (13:07):
Hell he is, Hey, this is Tony Man. So I
got a fourteen year old boy who's nothing but a
paint in my ass. Right so, I'm a single parent.
I'm a single parent.
Speaker 4 (13:19):
You know.
Speaker 8 (13:20):
Unfortunately we live in a hotel. Right now, I'm trying
to get my own place. But I'm telling you, man,
it's I thought there would be a single parent. Dont
my coworkers tell me, hey, man, put a.
Speaker 3 (13:33):
Poot in his ass?
Speaker 8 (13:35):
But you know, I grew up with my dad beating
me and doing what he wanted to do. I'm trying
not to be that kind of parent, you know. But
it's like, and they're telling me, I'm thinking truly about
putting him in a boarding school, right, you know, because
you know he's lashes out. I know, when you're a
freshman in high school, you want to be the cool
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kid because you don't know anybody. And but I mean,
every day is a high school called me. Every day
something's going.
Speaker 2 (14:03):
On, right, and you're trying, you're trying your best, You're
you're you're you're trying to give them love. You're trying
to teach him right from wrong. Oh dude, you know
you're getting judged.
Speaker 3 (14:13):
Oh yeah, So, I mean, but I don't understand the
school system. The teachers call me during the day, your
kid doing this? Sure, I said, so where's the principal
at They never sent him to the principal anymore. Let
me tell you some When I was in high school,
I mean, I'm sixty. Well, you got in trouble, you
went to the principal and that's the last face you
wanted to go see it.
Speaker 2 (14:33):
He's got paddled, got that a lot the Yeah, no,
by the way, not not where I thought this was going.
Speaker 1 (14:41):
But yeah, you know that.
Speaker 2 (14:42):
And by the way, you're getting judged for your for
for and I trust me, sir, I'm not saying this
in a mean way, but you're you're getting judged for
your kid being a hellion and you know that they're
all going well, no wonder the kid's out of control
of Jesus Christ.
Speaker 1 (14:55):
This old man's living in a hotel, not understanding. You're
busting your ass to try to get it right.
Speaker 8 (15:00):
And I'm working two jobs. I mean, I don't get
me wrong. I work for the States. I got a
great job. During a day, I'm working a second job
so I can get out of the situation and find
a place to rent, which is not a big deal.
Speaker 2 (15:12):
By the way, Diane would like you to give up
one of those jobs so my kid could get a job.
Speaker 5 (15:19):
No, he's hustling.
Speaker 1 (15:21):
Yeah, okay, yeah, I get it, I get it.
Speaker 5 (15:23):
He says he's got a good job but he's working
to supplement to get him so he can get his
everything living situation.
Speaker 1 (15:29):
I get it. I get it. Thank you, sir, thank you.
That's a rough spot.
Speaker 9 (15:35):
I didn't know this would bring about so much frustration.
The well, of course you anticipated this.
Speaker 1 (15:43):
No, not really.
Speaker 9 (15:45):
And are you saying you planned on riling Diana? People
can't believe how angry Diane.
Speaker 1 (15:51):
That surprised me a little bit, if I'm being honest.
Speaker 5 (15:54):
What do you mean the my kid's going to be
looking for a job in a couple of years too.
Speaker 1 (15:59):
Yeah, well, baby, the market will turn by then.
Speaker 4 (16:03):
I'm not hopeful, but I'm already saying, like, already planning
the seats for like next summer. Here we go because
she's like, well, I want to come home from the
Mike chem Show, And I'm.
Speaker 9 (16:12):
Like, that's what it was. Everyone wondered what happened yesterday?
Speaker 7 (16:17):
That's what it is.
Speaker 4 (16:19):
And I was like, what if you've got an internship
in a different state, what am I going to fly
you home for a concert?
Speaker 1 (16:24):
No, she'll do like drive home with a friend.
Speaker 5 (16:26):
She don't have a car, take a bus.
Speaker 2 (16:28):
Oh okay, by the way, by the way, by the way,
apples and trees. What didn't Diane get busted when she
came home from Radford for a weekend to go to
a concert?
Speaker 5 (16:40):
No, it was a it was fourth of July and
I came home for.
Speaker 2 (16:45):
A party, right, And then, yeah, I was.
Speaker 4 (16:52):
At Bradford summer school and was told stay your ass
in Bradford, you don't need to come home.
Speaker 5 (16:57):
What I do? Come home? And then she was walking
ten feet away from me at the Giant right.
Speaker 1 (17:02):
And you got busted? Right? Right? Yeah, you're no different
apples and trees. You know what? No wonder Marley can't
stay back in Charleston. Look at her mom.
Speaker 4 (17:13):
Okay, coming home from Radford's a little bit different than
coming home from Savannah. Okay, But what I'm saying, I'm
already trying to get her, to get her in the
mindset of, like, you need to think about this is
your junior year. You need to think about an internship
next summer. What you were doing the same thing with
your kid?
Speaker 1 (17:30):
Yeah I know, yeah, I know, But I'm not judging
you for it.
Speaker 5 (17:34):
But I'm just saying, and I wasn't judging you for
that too.
Speaker 1 (17:37):
Is she judging me? Is she judging?
Speaker 5 (17:39):
Oh my god? Why is it. Why are you misinterpreting
everything I've.
Speaker 1 (17:43):
Said because you're speaking angry?
Speaker 5 (17:46):
Well, yeah, because I get riled up about this stuff.
Speaker 7 (17:49):
But you answered the question. I need to write back
to all of you who wondered.
Speaker 1 (17:53):
Yeah, it was just it's blame my Chemical romance.
Speaker 7 (17:56):
Hopefully you did not tune out.
Speaker 5 (17:58):
But I'm saying, by.
Speaker 2 (17:59):
The way, look for my upcoming go fundme to fly
Marley home for the Mike chem Show.
Speaker 5 (18:05):
But I'm saying, like you do.
Speaker 4 (18:06):
You don't know what you're going to be doing next August,
of course, so let's like cross that bridge when we
come to it. But I would like you to start
looking into internship operunities.
Speaker 2 (18:15):
I do know what I'm doing next August, because I
already put in my calendar. I am coming back to
DC for the My Camp show.
Speaker 5 (18:20):
That's wird. It's on Tuesday.
Speaker 1 (18:21):
That's okay, I'm not in school. Jesus Christ. Who oh
tee nine four? Hi Elliot in the morning?
Speaker 2 (18:31):
Hey?
Speaker 6 (18:31):
Hey is this me?
Speaker 1 (18:32):
Yeah?
Speaker 9 (18:32):
Hi?
Speaker 6 (18:32):
Whre's this? Hey?
Speaker 7 (18:34):
Guys?
Speaker 2 (18:35):
Hey guys, this is Melissa.
Speaker 1 (18:36):
How you do it good? What can I do for you?
Speaker 4 (18:39):
I just have a I'm so curious if you guys
as far as judging, like you guys, I don't think
are actually judging.
Speaker 6 (18:45):
But man, oh man, So I am a single parent.
I have two kids, they're both young adults, and neither
of them went to college.
Speaker 7 (18:54):
And I planted that speed.
Speaker 6 (18:56):
Really not too hard, but just sort of was hoping
that that was the case.
Speaker 8 (19:00):
And I do find man, it is a less go.
You know, had a hard divorce, got through it, got
the kids out, but never.
Speaker 1 (19:07):
Even wanted to go to school.
Speaker 7 (19:08):
And it is a real it's a.
Speaker 6 (19:10):
Real stressor you know what.
Speaker 2 (19:12):
I don't well, I'm not going to speak for Diane,
but the uh no, I mean listen, I didn't go
to college, right, So I went for six weeks.
Speaker 1 (19:19):
Right, and I and I told both my boys.
Speaker 2 (19:21):
I told both my boys that the I don't care
if you go to college or you don't go to college,
but if you're not going to go to college, which
is fine, you better have a plan.
Speaker 4 (19:31):
Yeah, military trade school, okay, something man, man.
Speaker 7 (19:35):
Or just what do you you've got an entrepreneurial spirit?
Speaker 1 (19:38):
Yeah, you got to just just have a plan.
Speaker 2 (19:40):
Like I knew what my plan was by I dropped
out of college after six weeks, but I knew what
My plan was even before I applied to college. So
that's all I ever told them. I don't care if
you go to college or not. I really really don't,
but you just have to have a plan. If your
plan is to come out of high school and go
to college, which is what we've been saving for it,
let's I would love nothing more than to keep that money.
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Or if you don't want to go to school, don't
go to school. That's okay, but you have to have
a plan. That was my only that was my only push.
Speaker 4 (20:10):
Yeah, they're doing.
Speaker 6 (20:11):
They're they're hanging, they're doing okay, they're supporting themselves.
Speaker 8 (20:14):
They're down in Richmond, both of them beautiful.
Speaker 6 (20:16):
One of them has one of them has no plan.
And I'm just like, Oh, that's on the mother.
Speaker 1 (20:21):
That's on the mother. That's on the mother. She was lazy.
Speaker 2 (20:24):
Yeah, that's what I was afraid.
Speaker 6 (20:28):
You were gonna say.
Speaker 1 (20:29):
Okay, great way to start my day.
Speaker 5 (20:30):
Thank you, y'all.
Speaker 1 (20:31):
You got it. Talk to you later, talk to you later.
Speaker 9 (20:34):
First and last day listening for her because when she said,
I don't think you guys actually judge, it's a good
thing they never installed that. Between commercial breaks, camera wait
for what when she said, I don't think you guys
actually are judging.
Speaker 2 (20:48):
Oh God, are you kidding? I sit across from the
Queen of judge.
Speaker 9 (20:51):
Oh please look at you, Tyler, Diane, Tyler, why are
you thinking?
Speaker 1 (20:56):
You what?
Speaker 6 (20:58):
Diane?
Speaker 7 (20:58):
I've gotten much better as I got older.
Speaker 1 (21:01):
Still judging? We all every everybody stop it.
Speaker 2 (21:07):
Everybody is judging, everybody somewhat less judge.
Speaker 5 (21:11):
Okay, and you pointed to yourself.
Speaker 1 (21:14):
Less of everybody in this room. Yes, yes, I would agree.
Tyler's gotten better. Tyler has gotten better. Tyler used to
be very judging, very rigid.
Speaker 7 (21:27):
I still still rigid people a lot.
Speaker 9 (21:31):
But it's but I don't But I just don't. I
don't hold it against them. Those are my own problems. See,
I'm judging myself.
Speaker 2 (21:39):
If you if you take, if you take Tyler's judging,
this supported a beaker, and you take my judging, this
supported a beaker.
Speaker 1 (21:47):
You could pour.
Speaker 2 (21:48):
You can combine those beakers, and we are not a
Diane's beaker.
Speaker 1 (21:51):
Please.
Speaker 9 (21:54):
The segments about being honest, come on, don't make me
pull up text messages.
Speaker 5 (21:59):
It's not like I don't judge my own kid.
Speaker 1 (22:01):
Oh, I know, I know that.
Speaker 4 (22:03):
Are you talking about others in general others? Is it
because I use the eye roll emoji more than any
other one.
Speaker 1 (22:10):
And it's normally when I talk about my kid.
Speaker 5 (22:12):
No, that is not true.
Speaker 1 (22:17):
Where am I going?
Speaker 6 (22:18):
Oh?
Speaker 7 (22:18):
This is I like this?
Speaker 9 (22:19):
The MCR Official Street team just posted at e I
TM onlines planning ahead for MCR Official at NAT's part.
Speaker 2 (22:31):
Oh, tell her about the upcoming go fund meate, Hi
Elliott the morning?
Speaker 6 (22:39):
Hey, good morning?
Speaker 2 (22:40):
Hi?
Speaker 6 (22:41):
Who's this? Hi? Rachel?
Speaker 1 (22:43):
Yes, Rachel? What can I do for you?
Speaker 6 (22:46):
Hi? There is like huge judgment in my family amongst
the adults. My great aunt, Oh, my god, so like
my dad and his siblings were all decent people, have
raised decent children. My great aunt, she has a daughter
and a son, and they're both just in shambles. And
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they're in their fifties right, Like they neither of them
have jobs. They both live at home. They both have
raised children following the same patterns. They live with their grandparents, right,
the daughters on drugs, like it's just And the great
aunt has even come to my grandfather, her brother and
been like, I don't know what.
Speaker 5 (23:26):
I did, carrying guilt of course.
Speaker 4 (23:30):
Oh yeah, but.
Speaker 6 (23:31):
Because her children and her grandchildren live at home her.
Her granddaughter is a drug addict who has her own
children living at her grandmother like her great her great
grandchildren live with her. Because it's just been a series
of failures.
Speaker 2 (23:50):
The dude, I.
Speaker 6 (23:51):
Say in the dad, I was raised by a single dad.
Speaker 1 (23:55):
Language language.
Speaker 6 (23:56):
I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry. We have our act together.
We yeah, we both have families, our own homes, you know,
and these people think of it together.
Speaker 1 (24:10):
We can agree with this statement.
Speaker 2 (24:12):
It's possible for decent people to raise kids that don't
turn out decent.
Speaker 6 (24:20):
I don't, I guess, but I think it's also just
a lack of discipline. I really truly do, because my
great aunt gave her children everything. Growing up, my cousin Craig,
my dad used to talk about how Craig had everything
in the book and my dad they didn't have it right, like,
they didn't have all the stuff and they all turned out.
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I mean, I don't know if it's a matter of
giving her children absolutely everything and they don't realize that
they have to work, but they were given everything in
their lives. And I have to say, I love my
husband very much. My husband is a very hard worker.
But yes, yeah, when it comes to attitude and self discipline,
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I think he lacks it because he was essentially raised
by a single mother. And I don't think that she.
I think she gave them everything trying to appease, right,
I think that she gave them everything trying to appease
her children. And both him and his sister are kind
of rats. They really like when if they don't get
their way all the time. Like I was at top
(25:25):
golf one time and girlfriend threw a golf club because
she didn't hit the golfbel like, excuse you, what are
you doing in your mid twenties. No, No, by the way, I.
Speaker 2 (25:34):
Am getting a text message from Craig, your husband and your.
Speaker 1 (25:38):
Sister in laws, and get this bitch off the phone.
Speaker 6 (25:42):
Husband's not Craig. Oh what's Mary Craig. I don't think no,
not with.
Speaker 1 (25:47):
The problems I hear about him. Suck it suckond Wow.
All right, very good, very good, Thank you, ma'am.
Speaker 9 (25:56):
WHOA okay, So we can separate the so that called
the one I mean when you talk about say it's
it's addiction or it's mental health, that is.
Speaker 2 (26:06):
There's a lot, yes, I agree, there are a lot
of factors at play there different I think topic of conversation.
Speaker 9 (26:13):
Yes, but she also introduced another relationship we didn't even
think about, and it's when.
Speaker 7 (26:19):
Spouses their partners.
Speaker 1 (26:22):
Oh, spouses judge each other all the.
Speaker 9 (26:25):
Time and in the way that their parents oh got
them up. And I'm not just saying people who are
clearly they're still together. It's not just divorce like we mentioned,
just literally every single day be thinking you're like this
because of your mom. I'm guilty of that accusation on
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the accused side. Remember those people were coming over and
my mom was there, and they told their kids he's
the way he is because of the woman who's there
right now. Oh God, don't mess this up for us. Now,
maybe you could argue that's not a failure.
Speaker 1 (27:06):
Well, it wasn't said in a positive It's.
Speaker 7 (27:08):
A difference of opinion.
Speaker 1 (27:13):
Man, people are hot.
Speaker 9 (27:17):
Follow up from the MCR Street Team. Oh yes, yes,
laughing so hard in traffic right now.
I ask you something real quick. Do you have kids?
Speaker 2 (00:02):
Of course I do have did Can I ask how ols?
Speaker 3 (00:07):
They're all adult?
Speaker 2 (00:08):
So like twenty five, I want to ask you something,
but I don't want you to get mad at me
for asking.
Speaker 3 (00:16):
I will not get mad at you.
Speaker 1 (00:17):
Are they good kids? They're decent kids. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (00:23):
You may have caught them on a bad day. Maybe
they had an argument yesterday.
Speaker 5 (00:28):
You know, well like two weeks ago. You could have said,
oh my god, they're angels.
Speaker 1 (00:32):
They're decent. They're decent. They're decent. The no, No, they're
all right.
Speaker 4 (00:37):
They make decent choices usually.
Speaker 1 (00:39):
Right, Okay, all right? No, No, No, that's fine.
Speaker 5 (00:41):
That's a totally normal answer.
Speaker 2 (00:43):
No, No, that's great. No, I'm glad you're honest. I'm
glad you're on They're decent.
Speaker 1 (00:47):
The no.
Speaker 6 (00:48):
No.
Speaker 1 (00:48):
I was reading something and I don't know. Everybody does this.
Speaker 2 (00:52):
Everybody does this, And I don't know, like at what
point does the script flip or does the perception flip?
Speaker 1 (01:01):
Like at what at what point do you.
Speaker 2 (01:04):
Stop air quotes blaming a parent for their kids screw
ups or shortcomings or failures.
Speaker 1 (01:14):
You know what I mean?
Speaker 3 (01:14):
I would say late, Yeah, I do like say late
middle school, early high school, middle school.
Speaker 1 (01:20):
No, get out of here. You're still judging in middle school.
Speaker 5 (01:30):
Well into their twenties, twenties.
Speaker 4 (01:32):
That's too late, because you can say, like if somebody,
if somebody's acting a fool laid into their twenties, you
can go, that's because they were never disciplined by their parents.
Speaker 1 (01:40):
Oh, that's unfair, that's unfair.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
Late twenties, No way. You may as well say that when.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
They're in their thirties. Well, parents didn't give a fly
an f. But isn't middle middle school? We're still judging,
aren't we?
Speaker 7 (01:54):
I thought?
Speaker 1 (01:54):
So yeah, thank you, sir, thank you.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
You see a kid, like if I could quote Diane
acting a fool in middle school, you're like, that kid
needs some discipline.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
That's on the parents.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
Now, the kid could still be a raging dick, but
you're still gonna blame it on the parents.
Speaker 8 (02:14):
At least part of it, a good chunk of it.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
Yes, high school or high school, we're still blaming right, Yes, Oh.
Speaker 7 (02:22):
Tyler, I can't believe that's even up for debates.
Speaker 5 (02:25):
Wait, but you you were still But.
Speaker 7 (02:28):
In most cases here we go under this.
Speaker 1 (02:31):
So is that when it changes a lot of supervision
or Diane.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
They should have taught him younger, should have They weren't reared.
Speaker 9 (02:39):
Right because a lot of kids do go back here
we go when they're in college. If they attend college, right,
there is still a connection in college as well.
Speaker 2 (02:51):
Oh see, I thought you were gonna say nope, even
if they could be in their thirties and living on
their own.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
But what they were, they were not.
Speaker 7 (02:58):
Raised right there.
Speaker 9 (03:00):
There are people who you meet when you're in your
early twenties and you just don't even think of them
having parents. They're just like they're feral there. They're just
they're adults. Now, yeah, you can't. You can't blame their
parents for everything at this point. They should know better.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
Yeah right, right, Okay, I'll give you know.
Speaker 9 (03:20):
They may have had a crappy upbringing and it didn't
allow for it in the moment, But now you're out
on your own.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
Exact stuff, okay, right right, and you can actually look
at them and go, you know what, they had really
good parents that poured everything into it.
Speaker 7 (03:35):
Four ones that are bating poorly. Yeah, well I don't know.
Speaker 1 (03:41):
I yeah, no, yeah, you're right about that. It could
go both ways. It could go both ways.
Speaker 9 (03:48):
Why a science come out with the definitive definitive age.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
No, but I was reading about this woman who and
she says, my kid's an f up the But she's like,
why why am I I did?
Speaker 1 (04:00):
She was like, I did everything that I could. Right.
The kid was raised in a loving household.
Speaker 2 (04:05):
We had discipline, we had all these things, and I did.
I did as much as I don't want to say,
as I could. I did as much with my kids
as all my other friends did with theirs, right, And
I think that does she say?
Speaker 1 (04:20):
How old he is?
Speaker 2 (04:21):
Now?
Speaker 1 (04:22):
Like the kid is said? Here we go.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
They talk about parenting comes full circle, blah blah blah,
greatest the compliments raising children who grow into capable, successful adults.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
That's what we all strive for. I think.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
That sounds fine and wonderful, and I'm truly happy for
these families.
Speaker 1 (04:41):
But what about the rest of us? She goes, Some
of us, including she says, including.
Speaker 2 (04:47):
Myself, have worked just as hard, sometimes harder, to raise
our children with love, structure, in person, or purpose. I
spent years going without sleep, working long hours, showing up
at every school event, driving to practices, trying to guide
them toward a better life. And yet the results look
nothing like those glowing success stories. My children have stumbled, struggled,
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and in some cases rejected the values that I tried
so desperately to instill. I'm still but but and she's like,
but I still get judges like, oh, you were a
bad parent.
Speaker 7 (05:19):
So she introduces something I hadn't thought of.
Speaker 9 (05:21):
What's that I'm thinking the whole time about behavior and
being a jerk and being disrespectful and.
Speaker 1 (05:29):
Just well, that comes into it, I'm sure.
Speaker 9 (05:31):
But she also mentioned struggling. So I wonder if, like
your kids, say, they're out of work for a while,
and this could poke its head into the age range
that Diane was talking about. That wasn't on my mind
when we were talking about judging. But people definitely judge parents,
even when their kids are adults, for not having a
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steady job or being out of work.
Speaker 7 (05:58):
No, not even maybe that, they're just like, what's wrong
with your kids?
Speaker 4 (06:03):
Oh, you didn't instill a work ethic in them or
perhaps stick to itiveness.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
Oh so maybe that does get into the choy we
agree we're all judging in middle school?
Speaker 1 (06:12):
Well, yes, okay, all right, yeah, thank you sir, thank you.
Speaker 7 (06:18):
I don't know if he gets to still contribute.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
So you think later it is like the kid is
unable to find a job.
Speaker 4 (06:27):
And just aren't trying, Like, well I put it in
an application like two months ago and they never called me.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
Okay, it's a it's a tough job market right now.
Mm hmm it is it is, Diane. It's a tough
time giving you what, Dian, This is brutal.
Speaker 9 (06:42):
I feel so bad for Elliot's son, this graduating class
from and forgetting.
Speaker 5 (06:47):
I'm I'm not looking forward to it.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
And he gets he gets it. He gets it from
both ends.
Speaker 2 (06:53):
You go to that job fairage, you go to this
job fairage, you go to that job fairedge, you go
to this job fair. He's like, there's companies there. I
don't even want to talk to you. Better talk them.
What are you gonna do?
Speaker 1 (07:00):
Oh? I'm sorry? Is there a money tree out back?
Speaker 5 (07:02):
But yeah, it's like you also have to say horrible.
Speaker 1 (07:04):
You know, it's horrible.
Speaker 5 (07:05):
Odds are you're not going to get your dream job
right out of college?
Speaker 1 (07:08):
Okay? Well he's heard that. Yeah, yeah, he knows. I
didn't start working in radio. It was a burger king
for a night.
Speaker 9 (07:15):
But then it's not even just job. Now I'm thinking
parents get judged for their adult children when they get divorced.
Speaker 7 (07:22):
The no, yes they do.
Speaker 1 (07:24):
Who's blaming a parent when their kid gets divorced?
Speaker 7 (07:27):
Maybe not blaming, but you use the judge you said judged?
Speaker 1 (07:30):
Oh I the Jews?
Speaker 2 (07:31):
The wait, So I'm judging them because they got divorced.
Speaker 9 (07:34):
Some people definitely really yes, absolutely, I'm not saying I do.
Speaker 1 (07:38):
Oh I'm not not. No shot that marriage didn't last.
Look at the mother.
Speaker 5 (07:46):
Or somebody who doesn't judge it.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
By the way, that's a good one. That's a good one.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
That that what is that old? What is that old fable?
Apples don't fall far from the trees?
Speaker 1 (07:56):
Yeah, no, wonder they're on marriage. Three? Look at the mom.
She couldn't keep a man of her life dependent on it?
Speaker 7 (08:05):
So is it when the kid turns fifty? See?
Speaker 5 (08:08):
Like when is it?
Speaker 7 (08:10):
Damn it?
Speaker 2 (08:12):
Oh? And more important, So I'm going to be judged
the rest of my life for which part just being
a little absent, maybe not being heavy handed enough, like I'll.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
Get all of it.
Speaker 7 (08:22):
Well, that's if your kids do something well.
Speaker 2 (08:25):
According to Diane, if my kid doesn't walk out with
a diploma in one hand and a job.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
No, your job applications.
Speaker 5 (08:32):
You are misinterpreting what I've said.
Speaker 7 (08:34):
I've heard.
Speaker 4 (08:35):
I've seen plenty of people who've got kids in there,
pushing late twenties, early thirties, who maybe get laid off
and then they're like holding out for management.
Speaker 5 (08:44):
Here we go, no, and it's like get off your
ass and.
Speaker 1 (08:47):
Go to work. But is that the kid or is
that the parents?
Speaker 4 (08:49):
I think it's the I think it's the kid, but
I also think it's the parents, the parent, and I
know I also think the parents need to be like,
get off your ass and get something.
Speaker 1 (08:57):
Okay. Can you tell Diane that's judging.
Speaker 5 (09:00):
And over a divorce like you are.
Speaker 7 (09:04):
It was multiple divorces, Okay, it was.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
Wonder she can't keep a man? Look at the mother. See,
I'm with Tyler. I was thinking, like the.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
Kid, the kid at school who's a bully, or or
you might go back to that too.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
No, but you're right, you're right on the older one.
Speaker 2 (09:22):
Yeah, because it's easy when it when a when a
kid's a piece of garbage in like middle school, and
you're like.
Speaker 1 (09:27):
Well, the parents Jesus Christ broken home the But no,
when it gets older, you're right. You're right, that's a
good one. The divorce one is great.
Speaker 7 (09:36):
But you could even for couples that stayed.
Speaker 2 (09:38):
Again, Diane, everybody's gotta quit, hold on for management, get
your goddamn job.
Speaker 4 (09:45):
No, I'm talking about the people who sit at home
on their ass and don't do at least something white hustle,
sell crap on boshmark, bring bringing money to help pay
your phone bill, do something that's a game.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
Diana.
Speaker 7 (10:00):
Yeah, you know that.
Speaker 2 (10:01):
Yeah, well, I can't go on job interviews if I'm
working on Nancy.
Speaker 5 (10:04):
Yeah, you can you do that at home.
Speaker 4 (10:06):
Here.
Speaker 5 (10:06):
Everybody I knew when their twenties had two and three jobs.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
Diane, It is impossible for kids to get jobs right now.
Speaker 5 (10:13):
I'm not saying it's not difficult. I know that.
Speaker 4 (10:15):
I'm talking about the ones who and while they are
applying and applying and applying, then aren't are just kind
of like, well, there goes there goes nothing, and we're
all like fatalist about it.
Speaker 5 (10:27):
It's like, well then, and.
Speaker 1 (10:28):
Who do we who do we judge? Who do we judge? Parents?
Speaker 6 (10:30):
Well?
Speaker 4 (10:30):
Yeah, because parents, you gotta like elliot, you gotta like
pokem and larns.
Speaker 9 (10:35):
Them but even if they have good jobs, even if
they stayed together and they're still happening in the marriage.
I thought of another one where parents get judged. This
will be good, This'll be good even later in life.
This will be good for the grand kids, because you
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wonder what did they do with their kids that their
grandkids are so crazy?
Speaker 1 (11:02):
Oh oh, look at these two animals running around. That's
not how you were raised.
Speaker 7 (11:08):
So it's forever the.
Speaker 9 (11:12):
Seriously, the grandparent one, They've probably done more than any
of the other two.
Speaker 1 (11:15):
For me, I'm talking.
Speaker 7 (11:16):
About divorce or the job that has bothered me.
Speaker 9 (11:18):
But I've certainly seen grandkids and wondered what the upbringing
was for the parents.
Speaker 7 (11:23):
And I'm looking at the grandparents while thinking about.
Speaker 1 (11:27):
So does it never end?
Speaker 4 (11:29):
Do I judge a lot judging, Yeah, never ends the
but the parents for the kids, Yes, it sounds like it.
I don't know that I've ever done the grandparent road. Okay,
you know what I'm going to answer that Kristin.
Speaker 2 (11:44):
Kristen's holding up a very inside note and she's holding
it in the hand that she normally stirs things up with.
Speaker 1 (11:50):
I'm not judging his parents. I'm not judging his parents.
Are you.
Speaker 2 (11:55):
Dad?
Speaker 1 (11:56):
Here comes Diane character.
Speaker 7 (11:59):
I fail to understand that one.
Speaker 9 (12:03):
Yeah, I know I can read it. I wasn't having
trouble compress.
Speaker 5 (12:08):
Outlining the name again. Let me write that darker.
Speaker 1 (12:12):
I'm I'm not on that boat. I'm not on that boat.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
I mean, I would bet those parents have done a
lot of things that mess that up, but not not.
Speaker 1 (12:21):
That specific case. Not that specific case. And that's very interesting.
Speaker 9 (12:27):
But is she suggesting and without revealing what she wrote,
does she think somehow the medical condition is a product
of the parents, like you know when some parents poison
their kids for the sympathy.
Speaker 1 (12:40):
Oh proxy syndrome.
Speaker 7 (12:43):
You're not suggesting that, No, No, okay.
Speaker 5 (12:46):
No, I think it's more pointed toward a work ethic.
Speaker 1 (12:49):
The oh my god, Jesus.
Speaker 4 (12:51):
That's fair kind of am I didn't think of that
one on my own. But I'm like, actually, right.
Speaker 1 (13:03):
Line, t why hi Elliot in the morning?
Speaker 8 (13:07):
Hell he is, Hey, this is Tony Man. So I
got a fourteen year old boy who's nothing but a
paint in my ass. Right so, I'm a single parent.
I'm a single parent.
Speaker 4 (13:19):
You know.
Speaker 8 (13:20):
Unfortunately we live in a hotel. Right now, I'm trying
to get my own place. But I'm telling you, man,
it's I thought there would be a single parent. Dont
my coworkers tell me, hey, man, put a.
Speaker 3 (13:33):
Poot in his ass?
Speaker 8 (13:35):
But you know, I grew up with my dad beating
me and doing what he wanted to do. I'm trying
not to be that kind of parent, you know. But
it's like, and they're telling me, I'm thinking truly about
putting him in a boarding school, right, you know, because
you know he's lashes out. I know, when you're a
freshman in high school, you want to be the cool
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kid because you don't know anybody. And but I mean,
every day is a high school called me. Every day
something's going.
Speaker 2 (14:03):
On, right, and you're trying, you're trying your best, You're
you're you're you're trying to give them love. You're trying
to teach him right from wrong. Oh dude, you know
you're getting judged.
Speaker 3 (14:13):
Oh yeah, So, I mean, but I don't understand the
school system. The teachers call me during the day, your
kid doing this? Sure, I said, so where's the principal
at They never sent him to the principal anymore. Let
me tell you some When I was in high school,
I mean, I'm sixty. Well, you got in trouble, you
went to the principal and that's the last face you
wanted to go see it.
Speaker 2 (14:33):
He's got paddled, got that a lot the Yeah, no,
by the way, not not where I thought this was going.
Speaker 1 (14:41):
But yeah, you know that.
Speaker 2 (14:42):
And by the way, you're getting judged for your for
for and I trust me, sir, I'm not saying this
in a mean way, but you're you're getting judged for
your kid being a hellion and you know that they're
all going well, no wonder the kid's out of control
of Jesus Christ.
Speaker 1 (14:55):
This old man's living in a hotel, not understanding. You're
busting your ass to try to get it right.
Speaker 8 (15:00):
And I'm working two jobs. I mean, I don't get
me wrong. I work for the States. I got a
great job. During a day, I'm working a second job
so I can get out of the situation and find
a place to rent, which is not a big deal.
Speaker 2 (15:12):
By the way, Diane would like you to give up
one of those jobs so my kid could get a job.
Speaker 5 (15:19):
No, he's hustling.
Speaker 1 (15:21):
Yeah, okay, yeah, I get it, I get it.
Speaker 5 (15:23):
He says he's got a good job but he's working
to supplement to get him so he can get his
everything living situation.
Speaker 1 (15:29):
I get it. I get it. Thank you, sir, thank you.
That's a rough spot.
Speaker 9 (15:35):
I didn't know this would bring about so much frustration.
The well, of course you anticipated this.
Speaker 1 (15:43):
No, not really.
Speaker 9 (15:45):
And are you saying you planned on riling Diana? People
can't believe how angry Diane.
Speaker 1 (15:51):
That surprised me a little bit, if I'm being honest.
Speaker 5 (15:54):
What do you mean the my kid's going to be
looking for a job in a couple of years too.
Speaker 1 (15:59):
Yeah, well, baby, the market will turn by then.
Speaker 4 (16:03):
I'm not hopeful, but I'm already saying, like, already planning
the seats for like next summer. Here we go because
she's like, well, I want to come home from the
Mike chem Show, And I'm.
Speaker 9 (16:12):
Like, that's what it was. Everyone wondered what happened yesterday?
Speaker 7 (16:17):
That's what it is.
Speaker 4 (16:19):
And I was like, what if you've got an internship
in a different state, what am I going to fly
you home for a concert?
Speaker 1 (16:24):
No, she'll do like drive home with a friend.
Speaker 5 (16:26):
She don't have a car, take a bus.
Speaker 2 (16:28):
Oh okay, by the way, by the way, by the way,
apples and trees. What didn't Diane get busted when she
came home from Radford for a weekend to go to
a concert?
Speaker 5 (16:40):
No, it was a it was fourth of July and
I came home for.
Speaker 2 (16:45):
A party, right, And then, yeah, I was.
Speaker 4 (16:52):
At Bradford summer school and was told stay your ass
in Bradford, you don't need to come home.
Speaker 5 (16:57):
What I do? Come home? And then she was walking
ten feet away from me at the Giant right.
Speaker 1 (17:02):
And you got busted? Right? Right? Yeah, you're no different
apples and trees. You know what? No wonder Marley can't
stay back in Charleston. Look at her mom.
Speaker 4 (17:13):
Okay, coming home from Radford's a little bit different than
coming home from Savannah. Okay, But what I'm saying, I'm
already trying to get her, to get her in the
mindset of, like, you need to think about this is
your junior year. You need to think about an internship
next summer. What you were doing the same thing with
your kid?
Speaker 1 (17:30):
Yeah I know, yeah, I know, But I'm not judging
you for it.
Speaker 5 (17:34):
But I'm just saying, and I wasn't judging you for
that too.
Speaker 1 (17:37):
Is she judging me? Is she judging?
Speaker 5 (17:39):
Oh my god? Why is it. Why are you misinterpreting
everything I've.
Speaker 1 (17:43):
Said because you're speaking angry?
Speaker 5 (17:46):
Well, yeah, because I get riled up about this stuff.
Speaker 7 (17:49):
But you answered the question. I need to write back
to all of you who wondered.
Speaker 1 (17:53):
Yeah, it was just it's blame my Chemical romance.
Speaker 7 (17:56):
Hopefully you did not tune out.
Speaker 5 (17:58):
But I'm saying, by.
Speaker 2 (17:59):
The way, look for my upcoming go fundme to fly
Marley home for the Mike chem Show.
Speaker 5 (18:05):
But I'm saying, like you do.
Speaker 4 (18:06):
You don't know what you're going to be doing next August,
of course, so let's like cross that bridge when we
come to it. But I would like you to start
looking into internship operunities.
Speaker 2 (18:15):
I do know what I'm doing next August, because I
already put in my calendar. I am coming back to
DC for the My Camp show.
Speaker 5 (18:20):
That's wird. It's on Tuesday.
Speaker 1 (18:21):
That's okay, I'm not in school. Jesus Christ. Who oh
tee nine four? Hi Elliot in the morning?
Speaker 2 (18:31):
Hey?
Speaker 6 (18:31):
Hey is this me?
Speaker 1 (18:32):
Yeah?
Speaker 9 (18:32):
Hi?
Speaker 6 (18:32):
Whre's this? Hey?
Speaker 7 (18:34):
Guys?
Speaker 2 (18:35):
Hey guys, this is Melissa.
Speaker 1 (18:36):
How you do it good? What can I do for you?
Speaker 4 (18:39):
I just have a I'm so curious if you guys
as far as judging, like you guys, I don't think
are actually judging.
Speaker 6 (18:45):
But man, oh man, So I am a single parent.
I have two kids, they're both young adults, and neither
of them went to college.
Speaker 7 (18:54):
And I planted that speed.
Speaker 6 (18:56):
Really not too hard, but just sort of was hoping
that that was the case.
Speaker 8 (19:00):
And I do find man, it is a less go.
You know, had a hard divorce, got through it, got
the kids out, but never.
Speaker 1 (19:07):
Even wanted to go to school.
Speaker 7 (19:08):
And it is a real it's a.
Speaker 6 (19:10):
Real stressor you know what.
Speaker 2 (19:12):
I don't well, I'm not going to speak for Diane,
but the uh no, I mean listen, I didn't go
to college, right, So I went for six weeks.
Speaker 1 (19:19):
Right, and I and I told both my boys.
Speaker 2 (19:21):
I told both my boys that the I don't care
if you go to college or you don't go to college,
but if you're not going to go to college, which
is fine, you better have a plan.
Speaker 4 (19:31):
Yeah, military trade school, okay, something man, man.
Speaker 7 (19:35):
Or just what do you you've got an entrepreneurial spirit?
Speaker 1 (19:38):
Yeah, you got to just just have a plan.
Speaker 2 (19:40):
Like I knew what my plan was by I dropped
out of college after six weeks, but I knew what
My plan was even before I applied to college. So
that's all I ever told them. I don't care if
you go to college or not. I really really don't,
but you just have to have a plan. If your
plan is to come out of high school and go
to college, which is what we've been saving for it,
let's I would love nothing more than to keep that money.
(20:02):
Or if you don't want to go to school, don't
go to school. That's okay, but you have to have
a plan. That was my only that was my only push.
Speaker 4 (20:10):
Yeah, they're doing.
Speaker 6 (20:11):
They're they're hanging, they're doing okay, they're supporting themselves.
Speaker 8 (20:14):
They're down in Richmond, both of them beautiful.
Speaker 6 (20:16):
One of them has one of them has no plan.
And I'm just like, Oh, that's on the mother.
Speaker 1 (20:21):
That's on the mother. That's on the mother. She was lazy.
Speaker 2 (20:24):
Yeah, that's what I was afraid.
Speaker 6 (20:28):
You were gonna say.
Speaker 1 (20:29):
Okay, great way to start my day.
Speaker 5 (20:30):
Thank you, y'all.
Speaker 1 (20:31):
You got it. Talk to you later, talk to you later.
Speaker 9 (20:34):
First and last day listening for her because when she said,
I don't think you guys actually judge, it's a good
thing they never installed that. Between commercial breaks, camera wait
for what when she said, I don't think you guys
actually are judging.
Speaker 2 (20:48):
Oh God, are you kidding? I sit across from the
Queen of judge.
Speaker 9 (20:51):
Oh please look at you, Tyler, Diane, Tyler, why are
you thinking?
Speaker 1 (20:56):
You what?
Speaker 6 (20:58):
Diane?
Speaker 7 (20:58):
I've gotten much better as I got older.
Speaker 1 (21:01):
Still judging? We all every everybody stop it.
Speaker 2 (21:07):
Everybody is judging, everybody somewhat less judge.
Speaker 5 (21:11):
Okay, and you pointed to yourself.
Speaker 1 (21:14):
Less of everybody in this room. Yes, yes, I would agree.
Tyler's gotten better. Tyler has gotten better. Tyler used to
be very judging, very rigid.
Speaker 7 (21:27):
I still still rigid people a lot.
Speaker 9 (21:31):
But it's but I don't But I just don't. I
don't hold it against them. Those are my own problems. See,
I'm judging myself.
Speaker 2 (21:39):
If you if you take, if you take Tyler's judging,
this supported a beaker, and you take my judging, this
supported a beaker.
Speaker 1 (21:47):
You could pour.
Speaker 2 (21:48):
You can combine those beakers, and we are not a
Diane's beaker.
Speaker 1 (21:51):
Please.
Speaker 9 (21:54):
The segments about being honest, come on, don't make me
pull up text messages.
Speaker 5 (21:59):
It's not like I don't judge my own kid.
Speaker 1 (22:01):
Oh, I know, I know that.
Speaker 4 (22:03):
Are you talking about others in general others? Is it
because I use the eye roll emoji more than any
other one.
Speaker 1 (22:10):
And it's normally when I talk about my kid.
Speaker 5 (22:12):
No, that is not true.
Speaker 1 (22:17):
Where am I going?
Speaker 6 (22:18):
Oh?
Speaker 7 (22:18):
This is I like this?
Speaker 9 (22:19):
The MCR Official Street team just posted at e I
TM onlines planning ahead for MCR Official at NAT's part.
Speaker 2 (22:31):
Oh, tell her about the upcoming go fund meate, Hi
Elliott the morning?
Speaker 6 (22:39):
Hey, good morning?
Speaker 2 (22:40):
Hi?
Speaker 6 (22:41):
Who's this? Hi? Rachel?
Speaker 1 (22:43):
Yes, Rachel? What can I do for you?
Speaker 6 (22:46):
Hi? There is like huge judgment in my family amongst
the adults. My great aunt, Oh, my god, so like
my dad and his siblings were all decent people, have
raised decent children. My great aunt, she has a daughter
and a son, and they're both just in shambles. And
(23:08):
they're in their fifties right, Like they neither of them
have jobs. They both live at home. They both have
raised children following the same patterns. They live with their grandparents, right,
the daughters on drugs, like it's just And the great
aunt has even come to my grandfather, her brother and
been like, I don't know what.
Speaker 5 (23:26):
I did, carrying guilt of course.
Speaker 4 (23:30):
Oh yeah, but.
Speaker 6 (23:31):
Because her children and her grandchildren live at home her.
Her granddaughter is a drug addict who has her own
children living at her grandmother like her great her great
grandchildren live with her. Because it's just been a series
of failures.
Speaker 2 (23:50):
The dude, I.
Speaker 6 (23:51):
Say in the dad, I was raised by a single dad.
Speaker 1 (23:55):
Language language.
Speaker 6 (23:56):
I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry. We have our act together.
We yeah, we both have families, our own homes, you know,
and these people think of it together.
Speaker 1 (24:10):
We can agree with this statement.
Speaker 2 (24:12):
It's possible for decent people to raise kids that don't
turn out decent.
Speaker 6 (24:20):
I don't, I guess, but I think it's also just
a lack of discipline. I really truly do, because my
great aunt gave her children everything. Growing up, my cousin Craig,
my dad used to talk about how Craig had everything
in the book and my dad they didn't have it right, like,
they didn't have all the stuff and they all turned out.
(24:40):
I mean, I don't know if it's a matter of
giving her children absolutely everything and they don't realize that
they have to work, but they were given everything in
their lives. And I have to say, I love my
husband very much. My husband is a very hard worker.
But yes, yeah, when it comes to attitude and self discipline,
(25:03):
I think he lacks it because he was essentially raised
by a single mother. And I don't think that she.
I think she gave them everything trying to appease, right,
I think that she gave them everything trying to appease
her children. And both him and his sister are kind
of rats. They really like when if they don't get
their way all the time. Like I was at top
(25:25):
golf one time and girlfriend threw a golf club because
she didn't hit the golfbel like, excuse you, what are
you doing in your mid twenties. No, No, by the way, I.
Speaker 2 (25:34):
Am getting a text message from Craig, your husband and your.
Speaker 1 (25:38):
Sister in laws, and get this bitch off the phone.
Speaker 6 (25:42):
Husband's not Craig. Oh what's Mary Craig. I don't think no,
not with.
Speaker 1 (25:47):
The problems I hear about him. Suck it suckond Wow.
All right, very good, very good, Thank you, ma'am.
Speaker 9 (25:56):
WHOA okay, So we can separate the so that called
the one I mean when you talk about say it's
it's addiction or it's mental health, that is.
Speaker 2 (26:06):
There's a lot, yes, I agree, there are a lot
of factors at play there different I think topic of conversation.
Speaker 9 (26:13):
Yes, but she also introduced another relationship we didn't even
think about, and it's when.
Speaker 7 (26:19):
Spouses their partners.
Speaker 1 (26:22):
Oh, spouses judge each other all the.
Speaker 9 (26:25):
Time and in the way that their parents oh got
them up. And I'm not just saying people who are
clearly they're still together. It's not just divorce like we mentioned,
just literally every single day be thinking you're like this
because of your mom. I'm guilty of that accusation on
(26:47):
the accused side. Remember those people were coming over and
my mom was there, and they told their kids he's
the way he is because of the woman who's there
right now. Oh God, don't mess this up for us. Now,
maybe you could argue that's not a failure.
Speaker 1 (27:06):
Well, it wasn't said in a positive It's.
Speaker 7 (27:08):
A difference of opinion.
Speaker 1 (27:13):
Man, people are hot.
Speaker 9 (27:17):
Follow up from the MCR Street Team. Oh yes, yes,
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