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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Are there offices that don't allow for office related gofundmes?
Speaker 2 (00:07):
What are they raising money for activities?
Speaker 1 (00:10):
Doesn't matter, doesn't matter that there's no go fundme allowed
to be set up for somebody in the office.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
I don't know. That would be pretty harsh. Yeah, why,
I mean.
Speaker 3 (00:27):
Think about the gofundmes that we've had for for people here.
Speaker 4 (00:31):
I mean they've all been serious, man.
Speaker 3 (00:33):
Yeah, So what is this like a GoFundMe like pay
for a girl's night out?
Speaker 4 (00:39):
I mean something like that or no.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
No, but I mean, for example, I mean you you you,
I mean you asked.
Speaker 4 (00:45):
What would do? What would stop me from just going, Hey, GoFundMe?
Speaker 1 (00:48):
I need?
Speaker 4 (00:48):
What do I need?
Speaker 1 (00:49):
I need to I need? I need some bathroom repair.
I need some bathroom repair.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
This is like when you can you.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
Can't say no, Yeah exactly, I'm gonna set up registry
for everything.
Speaker 4 (01:02):
So are there some offices that.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
Say there are hard and fast now a.
Speaker 4 (01:07):
Hard and fast rule no gofundmes.
Speaker 2 (01:10):
Maybe that is born out of an issue though, Yeah,
it would seem strange just to like, without having any
evidence to affect a decision one way or the other,
that you're just like this office is free of any
crowd funding.
Speaker 1 (01:25):
Yeah, but there are some people who feel put off
by having to donate.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
Oh so you're saying that it's just to avoid pressure.
Speaker 4 (01:38):
I work in a large Oh, I'm sorry. Let me
start over. I work in a medical center.
Speaker 1 (01:44):
A manager in my department is going through a divorce
while caring for young children. She's been here more than
twenty years and is well known to many. Though I've
only been in the department for a little while and
I don't know her as well. She has been very
kind and willing to help when needed. Recently, another staff
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member set up a GoFundMe on her behalf with her knowledge,
to raise money for divorce related legal fees. The fundraiser
has been promoted department wide, and I have been solicited directly.
While I sympathize with her hardship, asking colleagues to contribute
to legal expenses for a personal matter feels inappropriate. The
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GoFundMe shows who donated and how much. Though there's an
option to give anonymously, the colleagues.
Speaker 4 (02:37):
Have used their names.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
If I abstain or donate anonymously, I worry it will
look as though I'm unsupportive.
Speaker 4 (02:45):
If I give publicly.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
It feels like I'm in a performance, particularly with some
colleagues contributing large sums. If the fundraiser had to happen,
it would have been far better if all donations were anonymous. Financially, yes,
I'm able to contribute. The problem is the awkwardness of
being put in this position and the concern that whatever
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I do might be held against me later.
Speaker 4 (03:11):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (03:13):
This just kind of came up the other week with us.
We revisited something.
Speaker 4 (03:17):
Are we donating for divorce funds that I have never
heard of?
Speaker 2 (03:21):
Now? So that's actually a good one though, So take
the office elements. Put it aside for a second. Has
anyone in your lives ever had a link for their divorce?
I've never seen that.
Speaker 4 (03:34):
No, I don't think so. I know plenty of people
have gone divorced.
Speaker 2 (03:39):
Has Kristen seen it?
Speaker 4 (03:40):
She was like, have you ever seen that? Go fundme
for divorce?
Speaker 2 (03:46):
Man?
Speaker 1 (03:47):
My question would be, is it all going to be
used for the legal proceedings or is also something.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
No you want to itemiz statements?
Speaker 1 (03:53):
No, but I mean listen, I mean this this person
is also going to be the I don't know if
it's the soul, but the majority provider for two kids, right, but.
Speaker 2 (04:04):
You don't want this money going to any sort of
supporting of the children. You just want it.
Speaker 4 (04:08):
No, I just no.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
No.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
I would almost just say it's for the divorce. Like
if if you say that and I find out you
use some of that money for the kids, that's a problem.
That's a problem because it says it's for legal fees.
Speaker 3 (04:22):
Okay, but I mean making making the kids, making sure
that they have food on the.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
Table, and that's not what this is. You get mad
at them feeding the kids.
Speaker 1 (04:31):
Yeah, I would if I donated for legal fees say that.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
No I would, No, I would, But I mean to say,
you want it to be the encompas.
Speaker 4 (04:40):
Let me ask you this. If I said that I
was raising money I have cancer. My don't. But if
you just turned in if if the Diane the thing
on my arm is not cancer and look at it,
you know what.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
I haven't seen what snapchat said yet. Got to go back.
Speaker 1 (04:55):
No. No, if I said if I said that I
was doing a go fund me for fees because I'm
going to have some expenses because I've been diagnosed with cancer,
and then I was like, oh, you know what that.
Speaker 4 (05:08):
Money came at a good time. I was able to
enroll my kids in travel hockey. Wouldn't you be pissed?
Speaker 2 (05:13):
It's a little different.
Speaker 5 (05:14):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
So if somebody was like, hey, I need help with
legal fees and you were like, oh, I use the
money to go to Chick fil a, would you be pissed?
Speaker 2 (05:24):
Okay? What is it to help? Be like a meal
train type thing? That she said?
Speaker 4 (05:30):
It was four legal fees in a divorce.
Speaker 1 (05:34):
So, by the way, now I'm convinced I would do
a divorce go fundme.
Speaker 4 (05:40):
That's good. No, divorce is expensive and you could potentially
lose half.
Speaker 2 (05:46):
You would do it as the person trying to raise
the money. You're still not certain if you're donating.
Speaker 4 (05:52):
Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
By the way, if it exceeds the goal, then are
you going to tell the office stop?
Speaker 4 (06:01):
I don't know what you do with it at that point?
Maybe you give back to the office for a party.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
Are there any times where once you hit that goal,
like that's it?
Speaker 1 (06:13):
No?
Speaker 4 (06:13):
A lot of times they they they move the goalpost.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
Yeah, yes, and we've seen there are times I won't
donate if they hit the mark.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
But I didn't know if Sometimes fundraisers were set up,
Yes already.
Speaker 4 (06:27):
I always wait, I always wait.
Speaker 2 (06:29):
They hit it out that. I don't know if you just
got stamped achieved and the person was fine with it
because it was the amount of money they actually needed.
Speaker 4 (06:37):
I think it's some.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
I think it depends on who's doing the fundraising, okay,
Like I mean, can you ever have enough? And that's
how I would look at it.
Speaker 2 (06:47):
So your opinions are sort of out odds with each
other because you're not really on board donating, but you
want to do it for yourself. What if everyone else
in the office.
Speaker 4 (06:55):
Is well, is everybody else is doing it, then I'll
do it.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
Is everyone doing this? Move of us have never seen this?
Speaker 1 (07:01):
No, we've only seen it for illness in the building.
And I'm happy to give. I'm happy to give.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
But you also like to make sure your name's on there. Yes,
I'm old.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
The yes, Oh you definitely, I'm not going anonymous, you
get no credit.
Speaker 4 (07:18):
And also, if you don't want to give, don't give.
Speaker 1 (07:20):
Although it looks bad, it does look bad, right Like
if there was a GoFundMe and everybody on the show
donated but me, that would stand out. It stood out
when Diane didn't get invited to Roach's dinner totally unrelated.
Speaker 4 (07:34):
No, no, but I'm saying that it stands out.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
It only stood out when we were discussing it. This
wasn't a public guest list.
Speaker 4 (07:42):
Yeah, but people discuss those gofundmes all the time. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (07:45):
But they also could print out exactly who's given. But
you're not sure because you do have as they mentioned,
the anonymous.
Speaker 1 (07:50):
Option, right, but everybody of this guy's office, they all
went with name which you should you should get credit.
Speaker 4 (07:57):
Listen. I the last one I donated on.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
I wanted my name on there, and they said some
people are some people are donating like bigger money. Yeah,
but you know what, every every dollar counts, Every dollar counts.
Speaker 2 (08:14):
Oh, Matthew reminds you.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
I will judge though if I if I started gofund me,
Oh what's up ten bucks?
Speaker 2 (08:21):
Say again, Matthew reminds you that there was also that fire.
Speaker 4 (08:25):
Which yes, oh, for Regina went to Burlington co Factory.
There was no go fund me. I did that on
my own.
Speaker 1 (08:33):
I was at the Red Robin and it's in the
same center as the Burlington Co Factory, so I walked
over and got coats.
Speaker 4 (08:43):
There was no go fund me to get credit. So
I talked about it.
Speaker 2 (08:48):
Do you have the link to this actual go fundme?
Speaker 4 (08:52):
No?
Speaker 2 (08:52):
Oh, to see how much money?
Speaker 4 (08:53):
That's a good question.
Speaker 2 (08:54):
No, I'd love to see the details.
Speaker 1 (09:03):
They say though, Once a solicitation starts in the workplace,
it starts to blur professional and private life and introduces
subtle coortion to set a precedent that can quickly spiral.
So if I wanted to go in there and go, hey, listen,
I want a new bike? Ye, Well why can't I?
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Why can't I?
Speaker 3 (09:25):
It seems a little bit frivolous When you're talking about
people who've lost everything in a house fire.
Speaker 4 (09:33):
That's different than somebody who's getting a divorce. Many people
get divorced.
Speaker 2 (09:37):
Yeah, but maybe I mean, are you.
Speaker 1 (09:39):
Going to donate to a divorce? Somebody in here posts Hey,
I'm going through a divorce. I could use some help
with legal fees. Are you donating?
Speaker 2 (09:48):
I think I could be coerced into it.
Speaker 1 (09:51):
Yeah, because everybody's name is on there. Yeah, what if
it were a manager? See to me, that's also the
other thing you're counting on your employees.
Speaker 4 (09:58):
To do it. Who's a manager here? For any Just
name a manager justin the dustin. Ain't a manager, please glorified?
Glorified Aaron. Okay, Aaron. If Aaron was getting divorced and
put up a GoFundMe, that would be awkward. That would
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be awkward.
Speaker 2 (10:22):
Oh I see what you're saying.
Speaker 4 (10:23):
Yeah, okay, like all the employees have to gather around.
Speaker 3 (10:27):
You can you can afford that booty surgery? And now
you're begging for money? Okay, now you do you give him?
Like the side I was like, oh okay, well that
looks like a new suit.
Speaker 1 (10:35):
You would go back and just in your head go,
oh well, I remember that one time they came in
with a new Oh well, I guess they had to
go to that concert a new car.
Speaker 2 (10:44):
No, but like you might think it's a scam, like
with the iTunes gift cards.
Speaker 4 (10:50):
Exactly, Aaron needs money, No, he don't.
Speaker 1 (10:53):
But even like take take somebody who's not like the manager,
who's another manager?
Speaker 4 (10:58):
It don't please don't say dust He barely managed getting
to work. You know what he can't manage?
Speaker 1 (11:05):
I bet you he doesn't say a word to Josh
about being late for work today.
Speaker 2 (11:11):
So you want someone else I'm hearing, Yeah, Like, I don't.
Speaker 4 (11:14):
Even know who who Dennis.
Speaker 2 (11:19):
He's not a manager, is he? I thought you said
he was Dustin's assistant.
Speaker 4 (11:25):
No, Kopoogie Capigy.
Speaker 1 (11:27):
If Copiggy was getting divorced, I'm not donating to his divorce, but.
Speaker 4 (11:32):
I gotta sell your Jordan's Seriously, that would look like awkward.
Yeah he is, he is. Yeah, I'd be like. Now,
but if if a regular like.
Speaker 2 (11:45):
This, this person in this story is rank and file,
you're saying.
Speaker 4 (11:47):
Who's getting divorced? No, the person is a manager and
this story.
Speaker 2 (11:53):
Yes, I didn't get that. Now you made it.
Speaker 3 (11:56):
You made it sound like there was somebody they'd worked
at the place for a long time and they were
upper level.
Speaker 4 (12:01):
A manager in my department is going through a divorce.
Speaker 2 (12:04):
I totally missed that.
Speaker 4 (12:05):
It's a manager.
Speaker 1 (12:06):
Listen when I talk, a manager is going for a divorce. Yeah,
now you're asking the rank and file.
Speaker 2 (12:12):
Oh no, no. The whole time I was thinking it
was someone who's on the same plane.
Speaker 1 (12:17):
No, no, no, rank and file helping manager.
Speaker 2 (12:22):
Oh this so this is actually very inappropriate.
Speaker 4 (12:25):
Yeah, oh yeah, but if you don't help, what's manager
going to do? Punch down?
Speaker 1 (12:29):
Right?
Speaker 4 (12:30):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (12:30):
Sorry, you couldn't help me? Well, once I clear up
some of my manners mm.
Speaker 2 (12:35):
Hmm, because I was gonna say, maybe there are details
in their story that everyone in the office knows, and
it's not an amicable divorce. It's it's bad like or
something really really horrific happened, then you could understand the
empathy for the person. Of course, I was not the
whole time thinking of it being an employee and a
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supervisory role over it.
Speaker 4 (12:59):
It's a manager that you can't do that.
Speaker 2 (13:02):
You give that up because now you were talking about
being feeling pressured. This pressure amounts to double triple what
it would be if it was just someone sitting next
to you in a cubicle.
Speaker 1 (13:14):
Of course, of course, and everybody's putting their names, so
the manager sees who's sucking up.
Speaker 4 (13:22):
And who's paying what.
Speaker 3 (13:24):
Yeah, Derek says that it would be like Cruz crowdsourcing
for botox.
Speaker 2 (13:30):
He's a manager, Yeah he is, aren't there? We have
heard of some businesses that do this is back to
the fundraising thing they do prohibit like school and scouts.
You can't do it now.
Speaker 4 (13:47):
Yeah, no, some of them do that. But how is
this any different?
Speaker 2 (13:51):
I would argue that this is worse especially now knowing
that it's a position.
Speaker 4 (13:57):
You know what their suggestion was, go to HR.
Speaker 3 (14:01):
That'll make things even stickier. Right, Well, they find about, they.
Speaker 1 (14:06):
Tell the manager, or as soon as they hit that goal,
when the email comes out and says, no more gofund me,
you're like because little Jimmy Narky came into the office
all boohooing, where am I going? Line one, Hi Jolly
at the morning?
Speaker 4 (14:25):
Hello, oh, keep driving, you're breaking up? You're breaking up?
Line three, Hi joy at the morning.
Speaker 6 (14:33):
Hey, good morning. First of all, it's probably this lady's
thought that she's getting a divorced.
Speaker 5 (14:37):
That is my opinion.
Speaker 6 (14:39):
Other than that, there's no way in hell I would
contribute to a divorce fun even if it was my
colleague or somebody under me, that's their own personal decision.
Not only that, but if I needed an excuse, I'd
claiming the religious exemption. I'm Catholic. I don't believe in divorce,
you know.
Speaker 1 (14:57):
But now let me ask you this. Not only that, No,
hold on, let me ask you this. Somebody, somebody in
the office is ill. Would you donate to that?
Speaker 5 (15:06):
Yes, that's different. I would never buy up.
Speaker 6 (15:12):
I would never I would never pay up.
Speaker 4 (15:15):
Oh okay, all right, see I okay, I see where
you're going.
Speaker 1 (15:18):
So health you would help with, but not divorce and
only only down but not up.
Speaker 6 (15:25):
Correct, that's no way I'm giving my manager money.
Speaker 4 (15:28):
I'm with you. I am with you.
Speaker 6 (15:31):
I see that.
Speaker 4 (15:32):
Hey, I appreciate it. I say that.
Speaker 1 (15:34):
But if they're a manager, was like needed something, I
would be helpful.
Speaker 2 (15:38):
What can I say? I'm Catholic? Now, mention like reinforcing
that this was.
Speaker 4 (15:45):
A boss is a manager of a big department.
Speaker 2 (15:48):
That generates on Facebook. My boss used to parade his
daughter through the staff room to sell girl Scout cookies.
So that's not even just bringing in form. There was
definitely pressure to buy them.
Speaker 1 (16:03):
Yes, if they're marching their kid through, Hey, this is
my daughter, Abigail, she's selling cookies.
Speaker 2 (16:10):
Come on, one box, Come on.
Speaker 1 (16:12):
It's five bucks, right, it's five bucks, and she gets
a good merit band.
Speaker 4 (16:18):
I'd be hot. Who set up they go fund me another?
Speaker 1 (16:24):
Just a colleague, but someone also on that manager level. No, no, no, no,
just somebody who was part of the rank and file.
Speaker 4 (16:31):
Yeah, first of all.
Speaker 2 (16:33):
Suck up, exactly, suck them.
Speaker 4 (16:37):
Hi elliot the morning, Yeah, Hi, who's this JT, Yes, JT.
What can I do for you?
Speaker 5 (16:47):
I'm with you, man, It all depends on who it is.
Speaker 3 (16:49):
Man.
Speaker 5 (16:50):
The management thing sucks. I would go to HR. But
I'm gonna tell you what. There's a couple of kicks.
There's a couple of shicks that work, dude.
Speaker 4 (16:57):
I would.
Speaker 5 (16:57):
I would put all in you know, and be like,
hey to work.
Speaker 1 (17:02):
Hey, sorry about that divorce. I'll donate, but in person.
Set me at the bar. Yeah, there you go. All right,
very good, very good, Thank you sir.
Speaker 4 (17:14):
And that's why.
Speaker 1 (17:15):
That's why, Because it's a manager, these people feel like
they have to give.
Speaker 4 (17:18):
Their name.
Speaker 1 (17:21):
If everybody in the department is and you would do anonymous,
or or you find an anonymous who donated a good
amount and you just go, hey, listen, don't tell anybody,
but that's me.
Speaker 4 (17:33):
That's me. Just I care a lot.
Speaker 2 (17:38):
The doctor says, that's the name of the commentar. Donating
is never a good idea. We've all had moments when
we needed help, yet most of us struggle through them.
Leaving me to suggest that you didn't approve or disapprove
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of the marriage, So why should you pay for her mistakes? Oh?
Speaker 1 (18:03):
Wow, Wow, Wow, dude, that's harsh.
Speaker 2 (18:10):
How could you apply that to other situations? So obviously
they're getting divorced because of a bond that's been broken.
That's a rough one for for sickness.
Speaker 1 (18:23):
No, like, for example, for example, if I came in,
if I came in tomorrow and was like, I have
lung cancer, somebody, hey, you made.
Speaker 2 (18:34):
I got to tell you that I'm no doctor.
Speaker 4 (18:39):
No, you know what I mean, Like that would be
a legit. I'm not. I'm not contributing to you.
Speaker 2 (18:47):
It's like in high school, I had and my dad died.
I was in middle school, but in high school a
great fellow student of mine told me to my face
that it was my dad's faulty died.
Speaker 4 (18:57):
Oh do you know how many times I've heard that.
Speaker 2 (19:00):
It was like, I don't even I didn't. It wasn't
soliciting for theories on how he passed. It was just
a strange thing to say. And I was like friendly
with this person. It was just maybe they didn't think
it was like an offhanded comment like oh, by the way.
Speaker 4 (19:13):
Oh but everybody gets that. When my dad died. A
couple of my friends were.
Speaker 2 (19:18):
Like, yeah, no kidding, that's common, but were they saying
it in like a kind of like jokey pally type
of way.
Speaker 4 (19:28):
No, just very matter of fact.
Speaker 2 (19:30):
But this person, this acquaintance, I dare I say, friend,
was talking about it like they were warning me about
the dangerous It's like, yeah, I experienced firsthand what could
happen if you smoke?
Speaker 4 (19:42):
It was.
Speaker 1 (19:42):
It was a very no proof, no proof, no, No.
Speaker 4 (19:48):
I think that's very common. I think that's very common.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
Maybe had I tried to bring Bob to something, Dad,
is that the problem?
Speaker 1 (19:56):
It's just like here in the story, try to parade
Bob through there. I didn't approve the way I'm setting
up a I'm gonna set up a gofund me for
something I don't know.
Speaker 4 (20:08):
Were you say again for you? Yeah, I got issues.
Hi Ellie had the morning?
Speaker 2 (20:14):
All right?
Speaker 5 (20:15):
I agree with you guys some extent.
Speaker 6 (20:17):
I wouldn't kick up on something like that, but I
would for some managers.
Speaker 5 (20:21):
I had a manager back in the day.
Speaker 1 (20:23):
Who was going through a bad divorce.
Speaker 5 (20:25):
And the guy was a gumbag, and we would have
contributed that because even.
Speaker 6 (20:30):
With amical divorces, they cost thousands of dollars divorce, and unfortunately,
if you're married.
Speaker 2 (20:36):
I think the person can still like deal your.
Speaker 5 (20:38):
Funds, do all the shape and stuff, and I mean,
so we wanted that person. I had a manager who
was go through something like that and we wanted to
help roc.
Speaker 4 (20:45):
She would all help us out when we want days off.
Speaker 5 (20:48):
She had't covered for us.
Speaker 2 (20:49):
She was a good manager, and we found out about
her divorce through the rub and ended up doing an
anonymous pot to get the money for her because the guy.
Speaker 5 (20:58):
Was just terrible and hurt or and unfortunately, if you're.
Speaker 1 (21:02):
Not divorced, that person legal rights to your property, your finances.
Speaker 4 (21:07):
I think about that every day.
Speaker 2 (21:08):
Yep.
Speaker 6 (21:10):
It's terrible, and it's like just a divorce amatem plete,
but it's just totally contential, like ten thousand.
Speaker 4 (21:16):
Dollars years I need money? Should they a thank you? Sir?
Speaker 1 (21:21):
I understand what you're saying. Should divorce be off the
table at work like your friends do that.
Speaker 2 (21:28):
You read that it was a slippery slope, Yeah, blending
personal and professional. How about this one from Instagram? I
had a coworker started GoFundMe for another coworker so they
could pay for IVF. It was super awkward to say no,
and the coworker that created the GoFundMe was a manager
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of about thirty employees that worked below them.
Speaker 1 (21:54):
Oh, come on, hashtag named the kid Elliott.
Speaker 4 (22:01):
I mean you have to donate. If not, you look
like a deck.
Speaker 1 (22:04):
Yeah, but that's why hashtag named the kid Elliott, hashtag
Elliott Junior.
Speaker 2 (22:11):
Is that a common one?
Speaker 1 (22:13):
Hashtag babies on me? Hashtag let me try? Oh god,
is that a common one? To pay for IVF?
Speaker 2 (22:34):
Now, at least the organizer of that crowdfund and the
person we're in the office. Here's another one. My manager
emailed our team of like ten to donate money in
honor of our cfo's family member that passed away.
Speaker 1 (22:48):
Wait, the cfo's family member passed away? Who's our CFO Bressler?
Speaker 2 (22:54):
Sorry, the listener says, I debated, But I donated.
Speaker 4 (23:02):
For the CFO.
Speaker 1 (23:04):
Uhh uh uh, you know what, you're in charge of
finance skim.
Speaker 3 (23:09):
But but you're donating in their name to like a
charity of their choice, right, I have my own charity
charity that you're giving it to.
Speaker 2 (23:22):
Doesn't sound like elliotts giving.
Speaker 4 (23:23):
It not doing.
Speaker 2 (23:27):
Them. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (23:27):
By the way, I don't like when somebody is like, oh,
we'll make a donation in your name. Yeah, give me
a gift. Yeah, I have a friend who does that.
Happy Holidays in your honor. We're making a donation in
your name. Well send me the tax credit please.
Speaker 2 (23:45):
From Gary. Unless you're the one causing the divorce. No,
you're free to not donate, just as they're free to ask.
Speaker 4 (23:55):
But you look bad.
Speaker 1 (23:57):
You know, everybody at their desk talking about is going
through the GoFundMe to see names.
Speaker 4 (24:05):
We did it.
Speaker 2 (24:08):
And revisited it like months later.
Speaker 1 (24:10):
Yes, and will continue to go through it the next
time one comes up.
Speaker 4 (24:15):
I'm going to see what people don't. That's why you
gotta wait.
Speaker 2 (24:17):
Oh, they hit their goal, Megan says, as someone who
works maybe next time, as someone who works in human resources,
that is incredibly inappropriate.
Speaker 4 (24:26):
What's that to be a manager and ask down?
Speaker 2 (24:30):
Or was it your hashtag? Let me try. I think
she's talking about any sort of.
Speaker 1 (24:36):
So you don't bring you don't bring personal in but
the but then, but then you can't do it for
somebody who's going through a medical hardship. That's personal, Jordan says.
Speaker 2 (24:48):
Depending on the state, wouldn't she have to give half
of this to the husband?
Speaker 4 (24:53):
Oh, that's a good call. That's a good call. Hashtag
pay after final
Speaker 2 (25:00):
Elliott's donation looks like an Instagram post hashtag iow you,
dozens of hashtags
Are there offices that don't allow for office related gofundmes?
Speaker 2 (00:07):
What are they raising money for activities?
Speaker 1 (00:10):
Doesn't matter, doesn't matter that there's no go fundme allowed
to be set up for somebody in the office.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
I don't know. That would be pretty harsh. Yeah, why,
I mean.
Speaker 3 (00:27):
Think about the gofundmes that we've had for for people here.
Speaker 4 (00:31):
I mean they've all been serious, man.
Speaker 3 (00:33):
Yeah, So what is this like a GoFundMe like pay
for a girl's night out?
Speaker 4 (00:39):
I mean something like that or no.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
No, but I mean, for example, I mean you you you,
I mean you asked.
Speaker 4 (00:45):
What would do? What would stop me from just going, Hey, GoFundMe?
Speaker 1 (00:48):
I need?
Speaker 4 (00:48):
What do I need?
Speaker 1 (00:49):
I need to I need? I need some bathroom repair.
I need some bathroom repair.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
This is like when you can you.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
Can't say no, Yeah exactly, I'm gonna set up registry
for everything.
Speaker 4 (01:02):
So are there some offices that.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
Say there are hard and fast now a.
Speaker 4 (01:07):
Hard and fast rule no gofundmes.
Speaker 2 (01:10):
Maybe that is born out of an issue though, Yeah,
it would seem strange just to like, without having any
evidence to affect a decision one way or the other,
that you're just like this office is free of any
crowd funding.
Speaker 1 (01:25):
Yeah, but there are some people who feel put off
by having to donate.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
Oh so you're saying that it's just to avoid pressure.
Speaker 4 (01:38):
I work in a large Oh, I'm sorry. Let me
start over. I work in a medical center.
Speaker 1 (01:44):
A manager in my department is going through a divorce
while caring for young children. She's been here more than
twenty years and is well known to many. Though I've
only been in the department for a little while and
I don't know her as well. She has been very
kind and willing to help when needed. Recently, another staff
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member set up a GoFundMe on her behalf with her knowledge,
to raise money for divorce related legal fees. The fundraiser
has been promoted department wide, and I have been solicited directly.
While I sympathize with her hardship, asking colleagues to contribute
to legal expenses for a personal matter feels inappropriate. The
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GoFundMe shows who donated and how much. Though there's an
option to give anonymously, the colleagues.
Speaker 4 (02:37):
Have used their names.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
If I abstain or donate anonymously, I worry it will
look as though I'm unsupportive.
Speaker 4 (02:45):
If I give publicly.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
It feels like I'm in a performance, particularly with some
colleagues contributing large sums. If the fundraiser had to happen,
it would have been far better if all donations were anonymous. Financially, yes,
I'm able to contribute. The problem is the awkwardness of
being put in this position and the concern that whatever
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I do might be held against me later.
Speaker 4 (03:11):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (03:13):
This just kind of came up the other week with us.
We revisited something.
Speaker 4 (03:17):
Are we donating for divorce funds that I have never
heard of?
Speaker 2 (03:21):
Now? So that's actually a good one though, So take
the office elements. Put it aside for a second. Has
anyone in your lives ever had a link for their divorce?
I've never seen that.
Speaker 4 (03:34):
No, I don't think so. I know plenty of people
have gone divorced.
Speaker 2 (03:39):
Has Kristen seen it?
Speaker 4 (03:40):
She was like, have you ever seen that? Go fundme
for divorce?
Speaker 2 (03:46):
Man?
Speaker 1 (03:47):
My question would be, is it all going to be
used for the legal proceedings or is also something.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
No you want to itemiz statements?
Speaker 1 (03:53):
No, but I mean listen, I mean this this person
is also going to be the I don't know if
it's the soul, but the majority provider for two kids, right, but.
Speaker 2 (04:04):
You don't want this money going to any sort of
supporting of the children. You just want it.
Speaker 4 (04:08):
No, I just no.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
No.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
I would almost just say it's for the divorce. Like
if if you say that and I find out you
use some of that money for the kids, that's a problem.
That's a problem because it says it's for legal fees.
Speaker 3 (04:22):
Okay, but I mean making making the kids, making sure
that they have food on the.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
Table, and that's not what this is. You get mad
at them feeding the kids.
Speaker 1 (04:31):
Yeah, I would if I donated for legal fees say that.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
No I would, No, I would, But I mean to say,
you want it to be the encompas.
Speaker 4 (04:40):
Let me ask you this. If I said that I
was raising money I have cancer. My don't. But if
you just turned in if if the Diane the thing
on my arm is not cancer and look at it,
you know what.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
I haven't seen what snapchat said yet. Got to go back.
Speaker 1 (04:55):
No. No, if I said if I said that I
was doing a go fund me for fees because I'm
going to have some expenses because I've been diagnosed with cancer,
and then I was like, oh, you know what that.
Speaker 4 (05:08):
Money came at a good time. I was able to
enroll my kids in travel hockey. Wouldn't you be pissed?
Speaker 2 (05:13):
It's a little different.
Speaker 5 (05:14):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
So if somebody was like, hey, I need help with
legal fees and you were like, oh, I use the
money to go to Chick fil a, would you be pissed?
Speaker 2 (05:24):
Okay? What is it to help? Be like a meal
train type thing? That she said?
Speaker 4 (05:30):
It was four legal fees in a divorce.
Speaker 1 (05:34):
So, by the way, now I'm convinced I would do
a divorce go fundme.
Speaker 4 (05:40):
That's good. No, divorce is expensive and you could potentially
lose half.
Speaker 2 (05:46):
You would do it as the person trying to raise
the money. You're still not certain if you're donating.
Speaker 4 (05:52):
Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
By the way, if it exceeds the goal, then are
you going to tell the office stop?
Speaker 4 (06:01):
I don't know what you do with it at that point?
Maybe you give back to the office for a party.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
Are there any times where once you hit that goal,
like that's it?
Speaker 1 (06:13):
No?
Speaker 4 (06:13):
A lot of times they they they move the goalpost.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
Yeah, yes, and we've seen there are times I won't
donate if they hit the mark.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
But I didn't know if Sometimes fundraisers were set up,
Yes already.
Speaker 4 (06:27):
I always wait, I always wait.
Speaker 2 (06:29):
They hit it out that. I don't know if you just
got stamped achieved and the person was fine with it
because it was the amount of money they actually needed.
Speaker 4 (06:37):
I think it's some.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
I think it depends on who's doing the fundraising, okay,
Like I mean, can you ever have enough? And that's
how I would look at it.
Speaker 2 (06:47):
So your opinions are sort of out odds with each
other because you're not really on board donating, but you
want to do it for yourself. What if everyone else
in the office.
Speaker 4 (06:55):
Is well, is everybody else is doing it, then I'll
do it.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
Is everyone doing this? Move of us have never seen this?
Speaker 1 (07:01):
No, we've only seen it for illness in the building.
And I'm happy to give. I'm happy to give.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
But you also like to make sure your name's on there. Yes,
I'm old.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
The yes, Oh you definitely, I'm not going anonymous, you
get no credit.
Speaker 4 (07:18):
And also, if you don't want to give, don't give.
Speaker 1 (07:20):
Although it looks bad, it does look bad, right Like
if there was a GoFundMe and everybody on the show
donated but me, that would stand out. It stood out
when Diane didn't get invited to Roach's dinner totally unrelated.
Speaker 4 (07:34):
No, no, but I'm saying that it stands out.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
It only stood out when we were discussing it. This
wasn't a public guest list.
Speaker 4 (07:42):
Yeah, but people discuss those gofundmes all the time. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (07:45):
But they also could print out exactly who's given. But
you're not sure because you do have as they mentioned,
the anonymous.
Speaker 1 (07:50):
Option, right, but everybody of this guy's office, they all
went with name which you should you should get credit.
Speaker 4 (07:57):
Listen. I the last one I donated on.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
I wanted my name on there, and they said some
people are some people are donating like bigger money. Yeah,
but you know what, every every dollar counts, Every dollar counts.
Speaker 2 (08:14):
Oh, Matthew reminds you.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
I will judge though if I if I started gofund me,
Oh what's up ten bucks?
Speaker 2 (08:21):
Say again, Matthew reminds you that there was also that fire.
Speaker 4 (08:25):
Which yes, oh, for Regina went to Burlington co Factory.
There was no go fund me. I did that on
my own.
Speaker 1 (08:33):
I was at the Red Robin and it's in the
same center as the Burlington Co Factory, so I walked
over and got coats.
Speaker 4 (08:43):
There was no go fund me to get credit. So
I talked about it.
Speaker 2 (08:48):
Do you have the link to this actual go fundme?
Speaker 4 (08:52):
No?
Speaker 2 (08:52):
Oh, to see how much money?
Speaker 4 (08:53):
That's a good question.
Speaker 2 (08:54):
No, I'd love to see the details.
Speaker 1 (09:03):
They say though, Once a solicitation starts in the workplace,
it starts to blur professional and private life and introduces
subtle coortion to set a precedent that can quickly spiral.
So if I wanted to go in there and go, hey, listen,
I want a new bike? Ye, Well why can't I?
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Why can't I?
Speaker 3 (09:25):
It seems a little bit frivolous When you're talking about
people who've lost everything in a house fire.
Speaker 4 (09:33):
That's different than somebody who's getting a divorce. Many people
get divorced.
Speaker 2 (09:37):
Yeah, but maybe I mean, are you.
Speaker 1 (09:39):
Going to donate to a divorce? Somebody in here posts Hey,
I'm going through a divorce. I could use some help
with legal fees. Are you donating?
Speaker 2 (09:48):
I think I could be coerced into it.
Speaker 1 (09:51):
Yeah, because everybody's name is on there. Yeah, what if
it were a manager? See to me, that's also the
other thing you're counting on your employees.
Speaker 4 (09:58):
To do it. Who's a manager here? For any Just
name a manager justin the dustin. Ain't a manager, please glorified?
Glorified Aaron. Okay, Aaron. If Aaron was getting divorced and
put up a GoFundMe, that would be awkward. That would
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be awkward.
Speaker 2 (10:22):
Oh I see what you're saying.
Speaker 4 (10:23):
Yeah, okay, like all the employees have to gather around.
Speaker 3 (10:27):
You can you can afford that booty surgery? And now
you're begging for money? Okay, now you do you give him?
Like the side I was like, oh okay, well that
looks like a new suit.
Speaker 1 (10:35):
You would go back and just in your head go,
oh well, I remember that one time they came in
with a new Oh well, I guess they had to
go to that concert a new car.
Speaker 2 (10:44):
No, but like you might think it's a scam, like
with the iTunes gift cards.
Speaker 4 (10:50):
Exactly, Aaron needs money, No, he don't.
Speaker 1 (10:53):
But even like take take somebody who's not like the manager,
who's another manager?
Speaker 4 (10:58):
It don't please don't say dust He barely managed getting
to work. You know what he can't manage?
Speaker 1 (11:05):
I bet you he doesn't say a word to Josh
about being late for work today.
Speaker 2 (11:11):
So you want someone else I'm hearing, Yeah, Like, I don't.
Speaker 4 (11:14):
Even know who who Dennis.
Speaker 2 (11:19):
He's not a manager, is he? I thought you said
he was Dustin's assistant.
Speaker 4 (11:25):
No, Kopoogie Capigy.
Speaker 1 (11:27):
If Copiggy was getting divorced, I'm not donating to his divorce, but.
Speaker 4 (11:32):
I gotta sell your Jordan's Seriously, that would look like awkward.
Yeah he is, he is. Yeah, I'd be like. Now,
but if if a regular like.
Speaker 2 (11:45):
This, this person in this story is rank and file,
you're saying.
Speaker 4 (11:47):
Who's getting divorced? No, the person is a manager and
this story.
Speaker 2 (11:53):
Yes, I didn't get that. Now you made it.
Speaker 3 (11:56):
You made it sound like there was somebody they'd worked
at the place for a long time and they were
upper level.
Speaker 4 (12:01):
A manager in my department is going through a divorce.
Speaker 2 (12:04):
I totally missed that.
Speaker 4 (12:05):
It's a manager.
Speaker 1 (12:06):
Listen when I talk, a manager is going for a divorce. Yeah,
now you're asking the rank and file.
Speaker 2 (12:12):
Oh no, no. The whole time I was thinking it
was someone who's on the same plane.
Speaker 1 (12:17):
No, no, no, rank and file helping manager.
Speaker 2 (12:22):
Oh this so this is actually very inappropriate.
Speaker 4 (12:25):
Yeah, oh yeah, but if you don't help, what's manager
going to do? Punch down?
Speaker 1 (12:29):
Right?
Speaker 4 (12:30):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (12:30):
Sorry, you couldn't help me? Well, once I clear up
some of my manners mm.
Speaker 2 (12:35):
Hmm, because I was gonna say, maybe there are details
in their story that everyone in the office knows, and
it's not an amicable divorce. It's it's bad like or
something really really horrific happened, then you could understand the
empathy for the person. Of course, I was not the
whole time thinking of it being an employee and a
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supervisory role over it.
Speaker 4 (12:59):
It's a manager that you can't do that.
Speaker 2 (13:02):
You give that up because now you were talking about
being feeling pressured. This pressure amounts to double triple what
it would be if it was just someone sitting next
to you in a cubicle.
Speaker 1 (13:14):
Of course, of course, and everybody's putting their names, so
the manager sees who's sucking up.
Speaker 4 (13:22):
And who's paying what.
Speaker 3 (13:24):
Yeah, Derek says that it would be like Cruz crowdsourcing
for botox.
Speaker 2 (13:30):
He's a manager, Yeah he is, aren't there? We have
heard of some businesses that do this is back to
the fundraising thing they do prohibit like school and scouts.
You can't do it now.
Speaker 4 (13:47):
Yeah, no, some of them do that. But how is
this any different?
Speaker 2 (13:51):
I would argue that this is worse especially now knowing
that it's a position.
Speaker 4 (13:57):
You know what their suggestion was, go to HR.
Speaker 3 (14:01):
That'll make things even stickier. Right, Well, they find about, they.
Speaker 1 (14:06):
Tell the manager, or as soon as they hit that goal,
when the email comes out and says, no more gofund me,
you're like because little Jimmy Narky came into the office
all boohooing, where am I going? Line one, Hi Jolly
at the morning?
Speaker 4 (14:25):
Hello, oh, keep driving, you're breaking up? You're breaking up?
Line three, Hi joy at the morning.
Speaker 6 (14:33):
Hey, good morning. First of all, it's probably this lady's
thought that she's getting a divorced.
Speaker 5 (14:37):
That is my opinion.
Speaker 6 (14:39):
Other than that, there's no way in hell I would
contribute to a divorce fun even if it was my
colleague or somebody under me, that's their own personal decision.
Not only that, but if I needed an excuse, I'd
claiming the religious exemption. I'm Catholic. I don't believe in divorce,
you know.
Speaker 1 (14:57):
But now let me ask you this. Not only that, No,
hold on, let me ask you this. Somebody, somebody in
the office is ill. Would you donate to that?
Speaker 5 (15:06):
Yes, that's different. I would never buy up.
Speaker 6 (15:12):
I would never I would never pay up.
Speaker 4 (15:15):
Oh okay, all right, see I okay, I see where
you're going.
Speaker 1 (15:18):
So health you would help with, but not divorce and
only only down but not up.
Speaker 6 (15:25):
Correct, that's no way I'm giving my manager money.
Speaker 4 (15:28):
I'm with you. I am with you.
Speaker 6 (15:31):
I see that.
Speaker 4 (15:32):
Hey, I appreciate it. I say that.
Speaker 1 (15:34):
But if they're a manager, was like needed something, I
would be helpful.
Speaker 2 (15:38):
What can I say? I'm Catholic? Now, mention like reinforcing
that this was.
Speaker 4 (15:45):
A boss is a manager of a big department.
Speaker 2 (15:48):
That generates on Facebook. My boss used to parade his
daughter through the staff room to sell girl Scout cookies.
So that's not even just bringing in form. There was
definitely pressure to buy them.
Speaker 1 (16:03):
Yes, if they're marching their kid through, Hey, this is
my daughter, Abigail, she's selling cookies.
Speaker 2 (16:10):
Come on, one box, Come on.
Speaker 1 (16:12):
It's five bucks, right, it's five bucks, and she gets
a good merit band.
Speaker 4 (16:18):
I'd be hot. Who set up they go fund me another?
Speaker 1 (16:24):
Just a colleague, but someone also on that manager level. No, no, no, no,
just somebody who was part of the rank and file.
Speaker 4 (16:31):
Yeah, first of all.
Speaker 2 (16:33):
Suck up, exactly, suck them.
Speaker 4 (16:37):
Hi elliot the morning, Yeah, Hi, who's this JT, Yes, JT.
What can I do for you?
Speaker 5 (16:47):
I'm with you, man, It all depends on who it is.
Speaker 3 (16:49):
Man.
Speaker 5 (16:50):
The management thing sucks. I would go to HR. But
I'm gonna tell you what. There's a couple of kicks.
There's a couple of shicks that work, dude.
Speaker 4 (16:57):
I would.
Speaker 5 (16:57):
I would put all in you know, and be like,
hey to work.
Speaker 1 (17:02):
Hey, sorry about that divorce. I'll donate, but in person.
Set me at the bar. Yeah, there you go. All right,
very good, very good, Thank you sir.
Speaker 4 (17:14):
And that's why.
Speaker 1 (17:15):
That's why, Because it's a manager, these people feel like
they have to give.
Speaker 4 (17:18):
Their name.
Speaker 1 (17:21):
If everybody in the department is and you would do anonymous,
or or you find an anonymous who donated a good
amount and you just go, hey, listen, don't tell anybody,
but that's me.
Speaker 4 (17:33):
That's me. Just I care a lot.
Speaker 2 (17:38):
The doctor says, that's the name of the commentar. Donating
is never a good idea. We've all had moments when
we needed help, yet most of us struggle through them.
Leaving me to suggest that you didn't approve or disapprove
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of the marriage, So why should you pay for her mistakes? Oh?
Speaker 1 (18:03):
Wow, Wow, Wow, dude, that's harsh.
Speaker 2 (18:10):
How could you apply that to other situations? So obviously
they're getting divorced because of a bond that's been broken.
That's a rough one for for sickness.
Speaker 1 (18:23):
No, like, for example, for example, if I came in,
if I came in tomorrow and was like, I have
lung cancer, somebody, hey, you made.
Speaker 2 (18:34):
I got to tell you that I'm no doctor.
Speaker 4 (18:39):
No, you know what I mean, Like that would be
a legit. I'm not. I'm not contributing to you.
Speaker 2 (18:47):
It's like in high school, I had and my dad died.
I was in middle school, but in high school a
great fellow student of mine told me to my face
that it was my dad's faulty died.
Speaker 4 (18:57):
Oh do you know how many times I've heard that.
Speaker 2 (19:00):
It was like, I don't even I didn't. It wasn't
soliciting for theories on how he passed. It was just
a strange thing to say. And I was like friendly
with this person. It was just maybe they didn't think
it was like an offhanded comment like oh, by the way.
Speaker 4 (19:13):
Oh but everybody gets that. When my dad died. A
couple of my friends were.
Speaker 2 (19:18):
Like, yeah, no kidding, that's common, but were they saying
it in like a kind of like jokey pally type
of way.
Speaker 4 (19:28):
No, just very matter of fact.
Speaker 2 (19:30):
But this person, this acquaintance, I dare I say, friend,
was talking about it like they were warning me about
the dangerous It's like, yeah, I experienced firsthand what could
happen if you smoke?
Speaker 4 (19:42):
It was.
Speaker 1 (19:42):
It was a very no proof, no proof, no, No.
Speaker 4 (19:48):
I think that's very common. I think that's very common.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
Maybe had I tried to bring Bob to something, Dad,
is that the problem?
Speaker 1 (19:56):
It's just like here in the story, try to parade
Bob through there. I didn't approve the way I'm setting
up a I'm gonna set up a gofund me for
something I don't know.
Speaker 4 (20:08):
Were you say again for you? Yeah, I got issues.
Hi Ellie had the morning?
Speaker 2 (20:14):
All right?
Speaker 5 (20:15):
I agree with you guys some extent.
Speaker 6 (20:17):
I wouldn't kick up on something like that, but I
would for some managers.
Speaker 5 (20:21):
I had a manager back in the day.
Speaker 1 (20:23):
Who was going through a bad divorce.
Speaker 5 (20:25):
And the guy was a gumbag, and we would have
contributed that because even.
Speaker 6 (20:30):
With amical divorces, they cost thousands of dollars divorce, and unfortunately,
if you're married.
Speaker 2 (20:36):
I think the person can still like deal your.
Speaker 5 (20:38):
Funds, do all the shape and stuff, and I mean,
so we wanted that person. I had a manager who
was go through something like that and we wanted to
help roc.
Speaker 4 (20:45):
She would all help us out when we want days off.
Speaker 5 (20:48):
She had't covered for us.
Speaker 2 (20:49):
She was a good manager, and we found out about
her divorce through the rub and ended up doing an
anonymous pot to get the money for her because the guy.
Speaker 5 (20:58):
Was just terrible and hurt or and unfortunately, if you're.
Speaker 1 (21:02):
Not divorced, that person legal rights to your property, your finances.
Speaker 4 (21:07):
I think about that every day.
Speaker 2 (21:08):
Yep.
Speaker 6 (21:10):
It's terrible, and it's like just a divorce amatem plete,
but it's just totally contential, like ten thousand.
Speaker 4 (21:16):
Dollars years I need money? Should they a thank you? Sir?
Speaker 1 (21:21):
I understand what you're saying. Should divorce be off the
table at work like your friends do that.
Speaker 2 (21:28):
You read that it was a slippery slope, Yeah, blending
personal and professional. How about this one from Instagram? I
had a coworker started GoFundMe for another coworker so they
could pay for IVF. It was super awkward to say no,
and the coworker that created the GoFundMe was a manager
(21:51):
of about thirty employees that worked below them.
Speaker 1 (21:54):
Oh, come on, hashtag named the kid Elliott.
Speaker 4 (22:01):
I mean you have to donate. If not, you look
like a deck.
Speaker 1 (22:04):
Yeah, but that's why hashtag named the kid Elliott, hashtag
Elliott Junior.
Speaker 2 (22:11):
Is that a common one?
Speaker 1 (22:13):
Hashtag babies on me? Hashtag let me try? Oh god,
is that a common one? To pay for IVF?
Speaker 2 (22:34):
Now, at least the organizer of that crowdfund and the
person we're in the office. Here's another one. My manager
emailed our team of like ten to donate money in
honor of our cfo's family member that passed away.
Speaker 1 (22:48):
Wait, the cfo's family member passed away? Who's our CFO Bressler?
Speaker 2 (22:54):
Sorry, the listener says, I debated, But I donated.
Speaker 4 (23:02):
For the CFO.
Speaker 1 (23:04):
Uhh uh uh, you know what, you're in charge of
finance skim.
Speaker 3 (23:09):
But but you're donating in their name to like a
charity of their choice, right, I have my own charity
charity that you're giving it to.
Speaker 2 (23:22):
Doesn't sound like elliotts giving.
Speaker 4 (23:23):
It not doing.
Speaker 2 (23:27):
Them. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (23:27):
By the way, I don't like when somebody is like, oh,
we'll make a donation in your name. Yeah, give me
a gift. Yeah, I have a friend who does that.
Happy Holidays in your honor. We're making a donation in
your name. Well send me the tax credit please.
Speaker 2 (23:45):
From Gary. Unless you're the one causing the divorce. No,
you're free to not donate, just as they're free to ask.
Speaker 4 (23:55):
But you look bad.
Speaker 1 (23:57):
You know, everybody at their desk talking about is going
through the GoFundMe to see names.
Speaker 4 (24:05):
We did it.
Speaker 2 (24:08):
And revisited it like months later.
Speaker 1 (24:10):
Yes, and will continue to go through it the next
time one comes up.
Speaker 4 (24:15):
I'm going to see what people don't. That's why you
gotta wait.
Speaker 2 (24:17):
Oh, they hit their goal, Megan says, as someone who
works maybe next time, as someone who works in human resources,
that is incredibly inappropriate.
Speaker 4 (24:26):
What's that to be a manager and ask down?
Speaker 2 (24:30):
Or was it your hashtag? Let me try. I think
she's talking about any sort of.
Speaker 1 (24:36):
So you don't bring you don't bring personal in but
the but then, but then you can't do it for
somebody who's going through a medical hardship. That's personal, Jordan says.
Speaker 2 (24:48):
Depending on the state, wouldn't she have to give half
of this to the husband?
Speaker 4 (24:53):
Oh, that's a good call. That's a good call. Hashtag
pay after final
Speaker 2 (25:00):
Elliott's donation looks like an Instagram post hashtag iow you,
dozens of hashtags
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