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Speaker 1 (00:00):
All right, welcome to the last episode of Bailey and
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Jenny taking over the Minnesota Goodbye. I know Ovan fan
on this week. We had Tony on yesterday, but then Dave,
we'll be back on Monday, So let's go with the emails.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
First off, Hey, Jenny and Bailey.
Speaker 1 (00:14):
I've been with my girlfriend for three years and we've
lived together for a little over two. She's really eager
to get engaged, and I've been trying to save up
to propose for the past year, but life keeps throwing
financial curve balls the worst, and I'll admit I have
some serious financial anxiety when it comes to big purchases.
She said that she doesn't want a super expensive ring,
but even the when she's shown me are still at
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least like two thousand to four thousand dollars. I know
I could work with a jeweler and set up a
payment plan, but I already have debt and really don't
want to add another monthly bill. My mom has offered
to help pay for the ring, which is incredibly generous,
but I feel weird accepting money, especially since she and
my stepdad will likely help with our wedding too. Don't
get me wrong, I absolutely want to marry her and
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spend my life with her, but she's six years older
and ready to start a family, so I feel the
pressure to move things along. A friend suggested checking out
pawnshops or online marketplaces like eBay or Facebook. At first,
that felt kind of sleazy, like someone else wore that
ring already, But honestly, the quality and prices I've seen
online are surprisingly reasonable. If I did go the secondhand route,
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I probably wouldn't tell her where the ring came from.
So I'm curious how would you feel if you found
out your engagement ring was secondhand? Or should I just
bite the bullet and buy a brand new ring? Thanks
for any advice you can give, and I will refrain
from saying their name.
Speaker 3 (01:32):
Sure, I personally I would love a secondhand ring, especially
if you buy one that's like vintage, which you might
be able to find out a pawn shop or at
like an antique shop. Maybe they always have like a
jewelry case, because a vintage ring is always going to
be super unique and you're not going to be able
to see that kind of ring everywhere. And obviously it
depends on what kind of person you're soon to be
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fiance is So, I mean, if they are, you know,
a classic look kind of they might not want something
that's like a vintage ring. But if they're you know,
quirky and different or whatever, maybe they would like a
vintage ring because those are far more affordable. And usually
you know, they were in someone's house and then that
person died and then they didn't get purchased at the
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estate sale or something, and now they're at an antiques
or whatever. So I think those are great. But then
also to save money, look into moisonite. It's just just
a different gemstone that's way cheaper, and it sparkles a
lot like a diamond. It's just not as hard as
a diamond. I mean, obviously there's benefits to diamonds, but
I've seen a lot of really great benefits to moysonite
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as well, and it's just a different, more affordable choice.
Speaker 1 (02:41):
Jenny, your thoughts, Okay, I do have a differing opinion,
just because there are very few things in life that
I care about in terms of spending a lot of
money on because otherwise I'm frugal to a tee, but
I would prefer to have not a secondhand ring. Personally,
I'm not saying you have to spend like five million
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dollars on a ring for me, but for me, I
think I would prefer it to be from a jeweler.
I think that there's also warranties that come along with
that versus buying something in secondhand on like Facebook, Marketplace.
I have seen some posts randomly on Marketplace of like
engagement ring for sale, and it looks really pretty, but
I just there's just something about that that I don't
really love. And I buy so much shit off marketplace,
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so that's like the one one of the few things
in life that I would prefer that money was spent
on it.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
So I really, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (03:34):
I don't think going the route of buying it secondhand
and never telling your future fiance is the best route,
because like, I'm sure she will find out eventually somehow,
Like it just feels like it's.
Speaker 2 (03:44):
Bound to happen.
Speaker 1 (03:45):
But I mean, you know her better obviously than Bailey
and I from one little email, So you just got
to go based on what you think she'll be okay with,
I mean, and talk.
Speaker 3 (03:55):
To her about it too, like not necessarily like, hey,
I'm struggling to pay for it, blah, blah, but like
making it like come up in conversation, like what kinds
of rings do you like? Because if it is something
that she's like, oh, I like really super unique rings,
I mean you could look on like Etsy and there
are people who like design real life jewelry on Etsy.
Speaker 2 (04:14):
I know it's like a creator.
Speaker 3 (04:15):
Site, but like people are jewelers that have Etsy pages
that make super unique rings.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
Or if she's like, oh I really want.
Speaker 3 (04:22):
You know, classic like solitaire diamond, then that's something that
you could get at like a wedding day diamonds or
whatever like that. So it really depends on what kind
of ring she wants and then where you would be
able to find it. But now you have two different opinions,
so hopefully that can confuse you further.
Speaker 1 (04:39):
Yeah, and then if you find out more information, I
would say maybe just reconsider the offer from your mom
about helping to pay for the ring if it does
turn out to be too expensive.
Speaker 2 (04:48):
But I'm with you on like.
Speaker 1 (04:49):
Not wanting to go into more debt and having financial anxiety.
Speaker 2 (04:52):
I feel you so hard on that.
Speaker 1 (04:55):
So I feel like you're in You're in a good
position because you clearly found someone that you love and
you're excited to get engaged. It's just tough when finances
aren't there to back up a certain situation.
Speaker 3 (05:04):
And if they're offering to help pay for it, I know, like, yeah,
they're probably going to help pay for your wedding too.
But like my dad always says, because I'm always like,
stop giving me money, Like stop doing that, He's like,
I'm your dad, Like, I literally signed up to help
you out when you need it, so I'm going to
continue doing that.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
So if they want to help you, it's sometimes.
Speaker 3 (05:23):
Really brave and powerful to accept help from those who
want to give it to.
Speaker 2 (05:26):
You, for sure. All right.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
Next email comes from Nathan uh says, Hello, I hope
you're all doing well. I have a question specifically for Jenny.
At the end of this month, my wife and I
will be going to Washington and spending in a couple
days in Seattle, mount Rainier, North Cascades, and Olympic National Parks.
I checked out your blog and it looks like you
haven't been to the national parks, but have spent some
time hiking other mountainous areas in Washington, and I was
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wondering if you have any tips or recommendations for hiking
in the Pacific Northwest. And also if you have any
recommendations for the best things to do in Seattle, if
we have half a day time kill and that comes
from Nate, So Nate, I do well, just anyone listening
if you didn't know this, I do have a travel
blog called meetmeofgrid dot com. And if you go to
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the destinations tab and hit Washington, I do have I
think you already saw it, but the hikes near Seattle,
tons of fun hikes or little waterfalls that you can
go visit. But then I do have a Seattle travel
guide there as well that have all of my favorite
things that I've done in Seattle.
Speaker 2 (06:28):
So there's some really cool viewpoints.
Speaker 1 (06:29):
I'm opening it as we speak, so I can tell
you exactly which I would say. I think seeing the
Fremont Troll under the bridge is really fun. Going to
Pike Place public Market also totally worth it. I would
not wait in line to get a Starbucks from the
original Starbucks, but you do. You just to get a
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picture in front of it if you want. But Carrie
Park has one of the best views of Seattle, and
especially if it's a clear day, because then you can
see Mount Rainier in the background too, so that's a
good option.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
Or gas Works Park.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
I just went to that for the first time the
last time I was there, and it was a really
cool park that just looks out on a bunch of
water and the skyline and stuff. So those are some tips.
But you can see all of that under my Seattle blog.
It's called Seattle Travel Guide.
Speaker 2 (07:16):
And then the.
Speaker 1 (07:17):
Hikes are there too, so hopefully Nate, that helps you
out once again. It's meet me off Grid Nott. Calm
all right, moving on, This comes from Renee. It says
two dumb ideas doing an advice column day ran by
each of you, less involved than group therapy, kind of
shortened sweet like no phone screen on Friday, but it
would be calling for advice from vant today. Okay, that's
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a good idea, right, And then she does have another
one about war the roses for BFFs that I'll talk
to Dave about when he gets back. But yeah, those
were just some dumb ideas from Renee, so thanks for
sending that. And they're not dumb ideas, by the way.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
No idea is a dumb idea, none, right, none at all. Okay.
Speaker 1 (07:55):
The next one it comes from Hannah, and she says,
can you guys share more about the Action Pack for
the Timberwolves.
Speaker 2 (08:03):
So if you missed this yesterday, our friend Tony was on.
Speaker 1 (08:07):
Tony and I met when we were on the Action Pack,
which is this like hype interactive squad for the Timberwolves,
and we were the first people. We were some of
the first people that started it and were part of it.
Tony's been on it literally for like ten seasons. Now
I only did three seasons, I think. And so this person,
Hannah says, what was the audition process? Like what are
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they looking for and the ideal Action Pack member? Do
you get paid? Are there perks? What's the schedule? Like
blah blah blah blah. Hearing Tony talk about auditions got
me really curious. So the auditions are like this. I'm
sure they've changed a little bit over the years, but
usually you have to like you are kind of a
greeter at the beginning of a game and you kind
of say goodbye to so you're kind of this hype
person that's standing in the entryways and all the crowds
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are shuffling in and you're like, oh my god, let's
go go wolves. You're high fiving little kids. You're just
interacting with people, so they kind of do a mock
version of that. They used to also do a mock
version of a T shirt toss, so you'd get together
with a group of people, you kind of do something
fun and perform right in the center of target center
on the court and like throw T shirts into the
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empty target center. And then, yes, you get paid. I
believe it's a little bit more than minimum wage, but
not like a ton, so it's not a super well
paid job.
Speaker 2 (09:20):
And perks. I don't know about perks.
Speaker 1 (09:23):
And the schedule is basically you usually work at least
probably like half to two thirds of the games home
games every season, but they are a little flexible with
working around the schedule. And they also added a million
more people to the action pack.
Speaker 2 (09:36):
Than when I did it.
Speaker 1 (09:37):
It used to be like eight of us or something,
and now they've got like twenty five, so it's probably
a little bit more flexible. If there's like a game
that comes up that you can't work, somebody else will
probably work for you. So that's the gist of it, Hannah.
Like I said, you could probably just google like Timberwolves
Action Pack and you'll be able to find the details
about the auditions, but everyone has the audition every single year.
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Even if you've been doing it for ten seasons, like Tony,
you still have to audition for that. So just the
heads up there. Okay, next one, let's see it says,
good morning, Jenny and Bailey. First, let's start off by
acknowledging how amazing you two and Vo earlier are doing
this week. The show has been flawless and oh so fun.
Thank you so much. I've heard you were looking for
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emails and I have been meaning to write in for a while,
So here we go. A few years ago, on a
freezing day in January, I was at the gym over
my lunch break and was using an aerobic step. It's
one of those things where if you go to like
one of those step classes where you can kind of
put different blocks underneath it to make it higher, or
you can just have the step by itself, and they
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were using it for exercises. I started doing caphraises on
the edge and all of a sudden it kicked out
from underneath me and I came crashing down to the
ground hard and my hand fell directly on a dumbbell,
snapping my wrist. I got up, looked around and figured
it was pretty bad, and thankfully there was a police
officer also there working out who came to help. The
kind officer helps get my phone as well and dialed
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the number so I could call my partner to come
and get me. He was home with our infant and
she was napping at the time, so the police officers said,
don't wake her up.
Speaker 2 (11:08):
I will just take you to the hospital.
Speaker 1 (11:10):
I hobble out to this random stranger's car in a
tank top in shorts. It was so cold that day
to make the twenty minute trek to the er Winsyne.
Speaker 2 (11:18):
With every bump he drops me off.
Speaker 1 (11:20):
I got in right away and every nurse slash doctor
who looked at it.
Speaker 2 (11:24):
Was like, oh, man, that looks bad. Oh no.
Speaker 1 (11:26):
I had to put on I had to be put
under to get it set in place, and they had
surgery three days later where they put in a metal
plate and ten screws into my left wrist. After six
months of physical therapy twice a week, it's now ninety nine.
Speaker 2 (11:41):
Percent back to normal.
Speaker 1 (11:43):
This happened about six months after Jenny had her surgery,
so I actually reached out to her a few times
as it was taking forever for it's a heel, and
I was seriously worried it would never get better. It
was a doozy for sure. Have a great rest of
your week, and that comes from Joslin. Girl.
Speaker 2 (11:59):
Wow, but an injury. You're out here trying to be healthy.
Speaker 1 (12:02):
Yeah, squeeze it in something over your lunch break, and
then you just really went in on your wrist. I
am so sorry, and yes I do remember you reaching out.
The one thing I'll say about physical therapy after I
had my rest surgery, and if you didn't know this,
I had a metal plate put in to my left wrist,
some screws put in, and then also part of a
bone shaved down because of a snowboarding injury from like
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five years prior, and physical therapy would make me nauseous.
My therapist she was so gentle, but she fucking wasn't.
At the same time, the point was obviously to like
get my muscles used to this plate and my bones
and stuff, and she would just do things that I
would feel nauseous in my stomach to the point of
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I thought I was gonna throw up during physical therapy.
Speaker 2 (12:48):
That's how bad it would be.
Speaker 1 (12:49):
Sometimes, so I loved how sweet she was and she
was like it was like a hairstylist where you just
gossip back and forth about things.
Speaker 2 (12:57):
I love that, So it was so fun.
Speaker 1 (12:58):
I knew all about like her, her son's new significant
other that the family didn't really love because she'd like
keep to herself and would like stay in the bedroom
when they'd be home visiting for holidays.
Speaker 2 (13:08):
Like we knew so much about each other.
Speaker 1 (13:10):
But thank goodness for her and her distractions with stuff
like that, because the actual physical therapy was awful. And
I also question for a very long time if I've
ever if I would ever go back to normal, And truthfully,
my wrist is not back to normal.
Speaker 2 (13:22):
It sucks suck to do like push.
Speaker 1 (13:25):
Ups, yep, planking kind of positions get really hard. So
like if you're in a planking position, your wrist is
obviously one way. I have to flip my wrists the
other way at one point to be a different ninety
degree angle to like kind of work the bone. So
I'll have to do that every once in a while.
My grip is really messed up from it because it's
right attached to all of my ligaments and my fingers
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and stuff, and so if I'm lifting heavy at the gym,
I eventually have to drop a weight out of my
left hand quicker than my right because I can't grip it.
Not necessarily because I can't keep doing a chest press
or something. It's like, I literally can't grip it. Any
How did you heard it in the first place? I
thought I was a professional snowboarder. Okay, after being on
a snowboard one time and I just got to cocky
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and I went flying down a hill and I didn't
know how to stop because I didn't take a lesson
or anything, and I just flew. It's called hitting an edge.
So I hit an edge and I landed on my
wrist to try to catch myself, and I just broke
the shit.
Speaker 2 (14:26):
Out of it. You got like torque behind it and everything.
Speaker 3 (14:28):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (14:28):
Yeah, And when I got it.
Speaker 1 (14:31):
When I broke it, I was so hyped back then
because I was probably like twenty five or something. And
the doctor's like, yeah, we might need surgery, we might not.
And when he finally was like, no, it's fine, you
don't need it, I was like yes, And then I
came back and bit me in the ass later. So anyways,
cheers to injuries, but also good luck. I tried to
like live my life a little less dangerous than I
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used to, because as you get older, injuries obviously take
much longer, a much longer time to heal from, and
also affect your life much more. Because I don't know
this job I could probably do injured. Like I was
on crutches for a week after I sliced my foot
open on Big Island, I was able to come in
and do this job obviously.
Speaker 3 (15:15):
I mean, I've broken my toes a lot, so I've
always been like I got one of those boots that
you can put on either one of your feet, and
it literally lives in my closet because I break my
toes so often.
Speaker 1 (15:26):
Just how do you do that just because you're getting
your feet in Yeah, I just think I've got like
brittle toes, and so I.
Speaker 2 (15:32):
It's brittle toes. I will brittle toe.
Speaker 3 (15:38):
I walk around without shoes on a lot, and I
don't know, I just walk into stuff, Like once I
broke a toe because I walked into my doorframe of
my bedroom like I was just walking out of the
door and then just I don't know, judged it wrong
and then hit my foot into the doorframe and broke
a toe. And then I walked into a hand weight
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like a dumb bell that I literally saw on the floor,
and I kept thinking I should move that, that's dangerous,
and I just never moved it, and sure enough I
whacked my foot into it and I broke a toe
and a bone in my foot because I but I'm
not even like, you know, running, jumping, falling. I literally
just walk into shit, which is so annoying. But I've
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broken I think I've broken two toes on both feet twice,
so four times I've worn a freaking boot.
Speaker 2 (16:26):
Yeah, stupid.
Speaker 1 (16:27):
So don't do it, you guys, Yeah, don't break your toes.
All right, Well that's going to do it for the
Minnesota goodbye. Thanks so much for sending in your emails
this week for Bailey and I and Von when he
was here. And Dave's going to be back on Monday,
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