September 10, 2025 • 17 mins
We tattle on cheaters, talk absent dads, and something dumb we tried to get away with.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Here's an age old question that we get frequently, maybe
once a month or so, in some form or another
via email. Somebody says, would you tell a friend that
their partner cheated on them if you found out from
somebody else other than the partner themselves, also you are
friends with the cheater. Would you tell your friend that
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their partner cheated on them if you're also friends with
the cheater. I would not. We've encountered this before, and
sometimes it's like, you know what, none of your business.
You will lose that friend. They will listen to their partner,
their partner will lie, and now they will say, you're
spreading rumors. You're spreading gossip. Now, if it was a
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really good good friend of mine and I found out
and I was like, hey, Bradley, let's say my friend
is Bradley and his wife is Charisse, and I'm like, Brad,
I got to let you know Charisse was cheating on you.
I would if that was a really good friend, yeah,
like a friend, yeah, but not in any other circumstances.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
Yeah, definitely, if it was a like a yeah, really
close friend. But then sometimes I even think if I
told them, they probably know. So what's the point of
me telling them, because maybe a lot of people are
telling them, and maybe it's like a situation that they have,
you know, an agreement with or whatever, and so they
probably know about it or I don't understand something about
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the situation.
Speaker 3 (01:25):
That's what I would rationalize to myself.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
Ye, I just think that it's like, yeah, I mean,
I'm trying to think of like some friends of mine,
like couples around the neighborhood or whatever. I'd be like, no,
you know what, don't know nothing, Jenny.
Speaker 4 (01:37):
If it was a close friend, I would tell that
friend that they are being cheated on. Yes, even if
I was friends with the other person, because I would
want my friends to do that. I think it's weird
that you just automatically assume that the person's gonna not
believe you or get mad at you.
Speaker 3 (01:52):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (01:52):
I would absolutely want my friends to tell me if
they knew that information about a partner I was with,
So like I have, I think it's a pride thing,
like I would rather know then my friends all know,
and then I find out later, and then I also
find out that my friends knew.
Speaker 5 (02:11):
My ego so fucking much.
Speaker 4 (02:12):
Yeah, So I would much rather someone told me if
they knew someone was cheating on me and.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
Then that I'm mad at my friends too. Would you
say it to the cheater though, if you're if the
cheater is your friend, would you be like, hey, you
have to tell or else I'm gonna tell.
Speaker 3 (02:25):
You know, like they do a TV.
Speaker 4 (02:27):
I had a situation like that. But I have had
a friend, data close girlfriend, and he wasn't that great
and he wasn't cheating on her or anything, but he'd
just play games.
Speaker 5 (02:37):
And I would literally be.
Speaker 4 (02:38):
Like, stop being a piece of shit because I'm friends
with you and now you're dating my good friend.
Speaker 5 (02:43):
Yeah, stop doing this. So I would do that. Did
it change him?
Speaker 1 (02:46):
No?
Speaker 5 (02:47):
Did he get mad at me for telling him to
stop being a piece of shit? No, he didn't care.
He knew, he knew who you're Wow.
Speaker 2 (02:52):
So.
Speaker 1 (02:55):
Next one, do not shame my name. I thought i'd
write in about a sent dads and grandparents, which we
talked about yesterday on the show was Secretary Brie, and
a lot of people texted in and called in about
why they don't talk to their dad or their mom
or their kids anymore. My kid's dad is really struggling
with mental health. But also choosing to not do much
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about it, and has barely seen our kids this year.
I doubt he spent ten full days with them even
so far this year. It's infuriating and heartbreaking, but there's
nothing I can do if he doesn't want to get
the help he needs. Also, his parents live about an
hour away and have seen our kids maybe three times
this year. They live an hour away. Grandpa didn't meet
my daughter until she was nine months old, and that's
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only because I brought her to his house for Thanksgiving.
What really grinds my gears is they fawn over and
do backflips for their other grandchildren who live with them.
They live with them. I always wonder what's going on
when a grandchild and child live with grandparents. There's almost
always something sketchy going on. I'm sorry I'm judging, but
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Beth's mother never could afford to live on her own,
so she and her five kids, including Beth, lived in
a pretty shitty situation because Cricket decided to have kids
that she couldn't take care of on her own. Five
of them say his mom their daughter lives there too,
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with no intention of moving now. They invest so much
time and energy into him but no effort into my kids.
I'm so sad for my kids, who will one day
really start to notice the difference in how they are
treated compared to their cousin. Thankfully, my kids have my
parents who love and adore them. As a mom raising
his son, I see so many struggling men out there,
and honestly, I worry about how I'll raise a boy
up to be a good human because it feels like
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a lot of men are hardly functional alcohol, drugs, mental health, etc.
I just want to raise good people, stay beautiful, don't
say my name. Okay, I don't know. I guess there
are a lot of struggling men, but there are also
a lot of wonderful men who are maybe struggling, no
more than anybody else, is so okay, all right, moving on.
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No comments on that one.
Speaker 4 (05:08):
I mean, I have comments, but I just feel like
it's generalizations about men, so I don't think it's fair
and it's from my own life experience, but I do
agree that like the amount of women in my life
who are with men who have alcohol problems is like astounding,
and it's really sad to me because I feel like, yes,
I was a party girl when I was younger, but
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like I grew the thirkt of it. Yeah, and so
many of my friends partners, they met them when they
were younger, and so of course they were drinking just
as much as their partner was. And now they grew
up and had kids, but then their husbands still continue
to drink like they're twenty five years old, and it's
just really sad to me. And I don't know what
the difference is between men and women, because I know
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that women have alcohol problems as well, but truthfully, like
you would think me and my friends would have an
alcohol problem at this point, like if we did. And
I know that alcoholism isn't a day, so I'm not
taking that away from people, like that's actually a mental
illness in itself. But I do wish that a lot
of people would understand that, like they have an alcohol
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problem and get help for it or become sober.
Speaker 1 (06:13):
It's so hard, though I can give some details on
this one, because I'm pretty sure they don't listen to
the show. A friend of mine that I knew back
when I was twenty one or twenty two and lived
in Las Vegas, she we kind of lost touch, but
then we got back together on Facebook, and then somehow
she got my phone number, and maybe fifteen or so
years ago, she would call me drunk, oh, asking for money, javed,
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you're free. I just I'm short everything, and I would
never send her money. And then I've talked to her
just randomly in the last couple of weeks, and I
could tell she was drunk middle of the day.
Speaker 3 (06:54):
M hmm.
Speaker 1 (06:55):
She lives in another state. There's no chance I'm going
to see or anything, but it's like, man, here she
is drunk in the middle of the day. Speaking of
loaning money, there is somebody who has asked me for money,
like a family member who has asked me for money
a couple of times in the last year, and I
will not give them a penny because I know then
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I will become the bank for this person. Yeah, because
once you show somebody that you have the ability to
loan the money and you're the only one willing to
loan it to him, guess what they're going to come
to you the next time. Yeah, And I just don't
want that.
Speaker 3 (07:31):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:31):
No, you know what I mean. If Bailey came to
me and said, hey, I need to borrow twenty five
hundred dollars. I would give it to you, right, because
you're a good person. No, I'm not going to give
you wrong, you're wrong, But if you needed it, I
would give it to you. Eat it. But then, like
it was kind of like with Drake. Drake borrowed I
think two thousand dollars from me, then he paid it back,
and then he borrowed twenty five hundred dollars from me.
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And I'm not here to bash Drake. You know, he's
got his own circumstances and he paid back one thousand
of it, but he didn't pay back the other fifteen
hundred and I'll never see it. And that's okay, you
know what. I hope the kid's doing well. Obviously he
needed the money, he didn't have the abundance to pay
me back. But I just don't. I don't loan money.
I will loan it to people that I love and trust.
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Like if Carson needed money, like loan money or whatever, yeah,
I'd be like, well, yeah, sure, you're my boy, Cairsen.
Speaker 4 (08:18):
Right.
Speaker 2 (08:19):
But even like a family though, because my mom loaned
my grandfather like ten thousand dollars one she never saw any.
Speaker 3 (08:24):
Of that money back.
Speaker 2 (08:25):
No, never, you never will never know he's dead now,
so she really never never will.
Speaker 1 (08:29):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (08:29):
Yeah, my older sister asked me for money because she
knows I'm good with savings and stuff, so she her
and her husband were in between like remodeling a house
and putting a down payment on another house, and they
just like needed a certain amount. And I just trust
her so much, and she's also really good with money,
so I absolutely was willing to give her.
Speaker 5 (08:45):
Like, I don't know, it's probably like five.
Speaker 4 (08:47):
Grand or something, but that's probably the only person I've
ever done anything like that.
Speaker 3 (08:53):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (08:53):
Four and one time, Dave, I don't I bet you
you won't remember this, But I went to Mexico with
a girlfriend and back when I was like probably twenty
seven or something, and my friend had won the trip
through her company for like being high in sales and
so it was all inclusive, all paid for, Like I
wasn't paying for anything. But you like came into my
studio when I worked in the studio mode works in
and you're like, hey, like, I know you don't make
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a lot of money here, Like do you need me
to give you? Like I can give you some money
for your Mexico trip.
Speaker 5 (09:19):
Blah, blah blah. And I was like, Dave, I'm fine.
Speaker 4 (09:23):
I appreciate the opera, but like it's all inclusive, it's
all I'm not even paid for shit.
Speaker 5 (09:27):
But I was like, you were just throwing money around
the want some?
Speaker 3 (09:32):
Does anyone want any of this money?
Speaker 1 (09:33):
Let me know If you want some, I will tell you.
Sometimes I feel guilty for having an abundance of money
when I see other people. And I'm not rich by
any means, but by some people's standards, I certainly would be.
But I sometimes feel guilty. It's like, oh, I ordered
this online. I ordered this, and other people are like, bitch,
I can't put gas in my tank. So I do
feel I do feel a little bit guilty. So I
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think that's one of the reasons why I like to
be generous. And then I kind of remember that you
were going to Mexico and I'm like, do you have enough?
Speaker 5 (10:04):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (10:04):
You were like are you okay? Like I can give
you some money. I'm like, betcha, I'm getting those trip
for free.
Speaker 5 (10:09):
How good.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
I had a good friend of mine and and she
was a single mom, and I got her and her
kid like Vikings tickets or something like that, and and
she was going on some big motorcycle ride, and I'm like,
I know you don't have money to stop and get
cocktails with your friends, and I don't want you to
drink ice water with a lemon. So here's one hundred
bucks to buy some, you know, some extra drinks.
Speaker 3 (10:32):
Yeah, so you don't take us to Bunny Hannah.
Speaker 1 (10:35):
I see you guys every day for five or six hours.
Speaker 5 (10:38):
The money about doesn't want to see anymore.
Speaker 3 (10:41):
I want to see the little onion train go to
Chu too too.
Speaker 1 (10:45):
It is pretty legit thing. Yeah, they blow a whistle too,
I know. And then he clings this spatula on the grill,
so it goes ding ding ding dings.
Speaker 3 (10:53):
I've only ever been there one time.
Speaker 1 (10:54):
I tell you what, I'll take a video next time
I'm there. Yeah, here, welcome right next one, and we're
again a little bit short on emails here, kind of
a dry spell. But Shannon writes in I've been trying
to get my son to pitch a friend, that single
friend being me, but it's always conflicted with his schedule
for the forty plus versions. So last night I had
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a dream that I literally pitched myself on the radio station.
But one obviously as myself and the person pitching me
in my awful Jersey accent. You guys didn't fall for it.
I just I just got put on the bad At
Accents roster for the morning show.
Speaker 3 (11:31):
That's funny.
Speaker 1 (11:32):
What's something dumb that you tried to get away with
but it didn't work out? All right? From Shannon? If
I had to think about it, I could probably come
up with something. What is something dumb that you tried
to get away with but it didn't work out? As
an adult, probably seen somebody that I wasn't supposed to
mm hmm, Like Julie and I cheated on each other
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periodically here and there, and I think that probably there's
probably a story in there somewhere, but I don't know.
Speaker 2 (12:03):
I can only really think of them from when I
was like a youth, where I pretended that I had
a boyfriend because I wanted everyone to think I had one,
but I did not in high school, so I did
that for like a full year. I don't know if
anyone actually believed it, but I tried to get away
with it and it was pretty done.
Speaker 1 (12:20):
How did you pretend It's like, oh, I got plans
with George Glass or what did you do? Pretty much.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
I had a picture of this guy who was in
a band that I liked that I knew. No one
else knew who this band was, so I could get
away with it, and I would show them this picture
of this guy and be like, yeah, this is my boyfriend.
He goes to Blaine High School and I went to
Andover High School, so he goes to a different school.
Speaker 1 (12:41):
So you don't know him yet. Yeah, you don't know him.
Speaker 2 (12:43):
Yeah. And he's also a junior and I'm a freshman,
so yeah, you wouldn't know him.
Speaker 3 (12:48):
That was so stupid, But that's kind of you.
Speaker 1 (12:50):
Ever take a vacuum and stick it on your neck
to give yourself a hickey?
Speaker 3 (12:53):
No, I never know that. No, I never did that.
Speaker 2 (12:54):
But I did have a Harry Potter poster on my
wall that you would practice kissing with, for sure.
Speaker 1 (12:58):
Oh you did.
Speaker 3 (12:59):
Yeah, Both me and my sister had our own Harry
Potter posters that definitely had smudges.
Speaker 1 (13:03):
All your practice kissing, Harry Potter. Yeah, it's hard to
kiss a one dimensional object. We tried our best, two
dimension I guess.
Speaker 4 (13:11):
Hello.
Speaker 5 (13:12):
Oh, first, all that's wild to pretend, Yeah.
Speaker 3 (13:14):
And then it gets all spitty though, and I even
he was.
Speaker 5 (13:17):
Just tonguing it down.
Speaker 3 (13:18):
I was like doing a little why not was it
not giving it up?
Speaker 5 (13:22):
There was? I respected the boundaries. Okay, you don't mean
to no, Bailey. Mean.
Speaker 4 (13:26):
The only thing I can think of that I've done
is once upon a time when I dated this super
fuck boy. I wanted his attention, as one does, and
you don't get it, and then you want it more.
So I remember texting him once but pretending like I
meant to text my coworker who had the same name,
and they straight up like called me out because you
can spell the name two different ways, and so he
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was like, oh, like does he spell it this way too?
Speaker 5 (13:49):
And I was like, no, actually he doesn't. And I
feel like.
Speaker 4 (13:51):
He saw right through what I was trying to do,
Like I was just like trying to open a conversation,
but really I was, yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:58):
Hey, Brian, it's a nice to see you at work.
Can do you want me to grab you a sandwich?
Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry, Brian.
Speaker 5 (14:05):
It wasn't you. He exactly. Oh sorry, wrong person, Brian.
Speaker 1 (14:09):
Maybe you get a story about trying to do something
that you shouldn't have done, but you thought you could
get away with it, send me an email, Like I said,
a little short on emails. So if we don't have
more emails tomorrow, we're gonna read the dictionary.
Speaker 3 (14:25):
Oh, very nice.
Speaker 1 (14:26):
The l's we're gonna start with the l's just a
different Yeah, yes, what did you say?
Speaker 3 (14:30):
Lugubrious is an L word. That's a great vocabulary.
Speaker 1 (14:33):
What does that mean? Lugubrious?
Speaker 2 (14:34):
I think lugubrius means kind of like lazy, and like
lugubrios lay on a couch and be like, oh, I'm lugubrious.
Speaker 1 (14:41):
I remember I dated a girl named fran a long
time ago, and Franz said something like she used the
word ostentatious incorrectly, And I don't know if she said
something like I'm feeling really ostentatious, which I was like,
that doesn't sound right. Ostentatious means showy, yeah, and elaborate,
like oh, look at Jenny, she's like dressed up, she
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went to the mall and now she's all ostentatious. That's
not even right. But but I was really annoyed that
she used it wrong. There used to be what is
ostentatious A way.
Speaker 2 (15:13):
Right, it's characterized by vulgar or pretentious display designed to
impress or attract notice ostentatious.
Speaker 1 (15:18):
Yeah, and I remember there used to be on the
radio an ad that was like, improve your vocabulary. Instead
of using words like, you know, like shiny, you can
use learn to use words like ostentatious.
Speaker 3 (15:34):
Or what is it again, luminescence.
Speaker 1 (15:36):
And it's like I thought, as a communicator, why would
I choose to use a big word that a lot
of people wouldn't know when you can use simple but
still colorful words like, for example, instead of like, I
think it's much more colorful to say like, oh yeah,
Bailey stuff in her face with candy bars. It's much
funnier to say Bailey stuff in her face with almond joys.
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Because this specific thing is funnier than a general.
Speaker 3 (16:03):
Thing that's an improv thing.
Speaker 2 (16:04):
They always want you to be specific, really, yeah, because
it is funnier.
Speaker 1 (16:07):
It's just funnier. It's like, oh, yeah, Bailey had a
great big lunch. That's not that funny. You should have
seen Bailey slamming down the ham sandwiches at the Quick Trip.
Speaker 3 (16:17):
Yeah, now that's funny because it's specific, And.
Speaker 1 (16:19):
I didn't use any single big words.
Speaker 3 (16:21):
Hot, ham, and cheese. Specifically, if you.
Speaker 1 (16:23):
Go to the gas station to get a sandwich, my
I always get three ham salad, chicken salad, tuna salad,
and I eat all three of them.
Speaker 3 (16:32):
Bitches, egg salad.
Speaker 2 (16:33):
And people say, like, I can't believe you eat eggs
from a gas station, but like they're prepackaged.
Speaker 1 (16:37):
They're prepackaged, there made the day before.
Speaker 3 (16:39):
Yeah, and they're fine, delicious. I love it.
Speaker 1 (16:41):
Try the ham salad. Ham salad is really good.
Speaker 2 (16:43):
I do like ham salad. I only ever eat it
in Ohio. It's big in Ohio.
Speaker 1 (16:47):
Hand ham Salad's big in Ohio. Who knew?
Speaker 3 (16:50):
Who knew?
Speaker 1 (16:50):
Now you know you can title this episode ham salad
is big in Ohio. All right. See what happens when
you don't send enough emails in so you can't just
sit there on the sidelines and not participate. You owe
us an email. If you don't send us one, I'm
gonna come over there and I'm gonna do terrible things
to your car with a fork. There's bird shit all
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over my car. My car is filthy because Carson drove
it to Wisconsin to a friend's cabin, parked it under
a tree, where apparently a nest of vultures lived and
shit all over my car.
Speaker 3 (17:22):
They have big ships, they do.
Speaker 1 (17:24):
And then also there's drops of hardened sap on my windshield.
It looks like water, but it's drops of clear hardened sap.
I said, did you park under a tree?
Speaker 2 (17:34):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (17:35):
I wondered what that was.
Speaker 3 (17:37):
You get a car wash, you bum.
Speaker 1 (17:38):
I don't think a car washer is gonna get the
hardened sap on.
Speaker 3 (17:40):
Okay, well, you get those little shaky things all over it.
Speaker 5 (17:43):
You gotta go to like a nicer one, just like
a pull into one.
Speaker 1 (17:46):
I never go to the nice one. I go to
the one where you get it free.
Here's an age old question that we get frequently, maybe
once a month or so, in some form or another
via email. Somebody says, would you tell a friend that
their partner cheated on them if you found out from
somebody else other than the partner themselves, also you are
friends with the cheater. Would you tell your friend that
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their partner cheated on them if you're also friends with
the cheater. I would not. We've encountered this before, and
sometimes it's like, you know what, none of your business.
You will lose that friend. They will listen to their partner,
their partner will lie, and now they will say, you're
spreading rumors. You're spreading gossip. Now, if it was a
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really good good friend of mine and I found out
and I was like, hey, Bradley, let's say my friend
is Bradley and his wife is Charisse, and I'm like, Brad,
I got to let you know Charisse was cheating on you.
I would if that was a really good friend, yeah,
like a friend, yeah, but not in any other circumstances.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
Yeah, definitely, if it was a like a yeah, really
close friend. But then sometimes I even think if I
told them, they probably know. So what's the point of
me telling them, because maybe a lot of people are
telling them, and maybe it's like a situation that they have,
you know, an agreement with or whatever, and so they
probably know about it or I don't understand something about
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the situation.
Speaker 3 (01:25):
That's what I would rationalize to myself.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
Ye, I just think that it's like, yeah, I mean,
I'm trying to think of like some friends of mine,
like couples around the neighborhood or whatever. I'd be like, no,
you know what, don't know nothing, Jenny.
Speaker 4 (01:37):
If it was a close friend, I would tell that
friend that they are being cheated on. Yes, even if
I was friends with the other person, because I would
want my friends to do that. I think it's weird
that you just automatically assume that the person's gonna not
believe you or get mad at you.
Speaker 3 (01:52):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (01:52):
I would absolutely want my friends to tell me if
they knew that information about a partner I was with,
So like I have, I think it's a pride thing,
like I would rather know then my friends all know,
and then I find out later, and then I also
find out that my friends knew.
Speaker 5 (02:11):
My ego so fucking much.
Speaker 4 (02:12):
Yeah, So I would much rather someone told me if
they knew someone was cheating on me and.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
Then that I'm mad at my friends too. Would you
say it to the cheater though, if you're if the
cheater is your friend, would you be like, hey, you
have to tell or else I'm gonna tell.
Speaker 3 (02:25):
You know, like they do a TV.
Speaker 4 (02:27):
I had a situation like that. But I have had
a friend, data close girlfriend, and he wasn't that great
and he wasn't cheating on her or anything, but he'd
just play games.
Speaker 5 (02:37):
And I would literally be.
Speaker 4 (02:38):
Like, stop being a piece of shit because I'm friends
with you and now you're dating my good friend.
Speaker 5 (02:43):
Yeah, stop doing this. So I would do that. Did
it change him?
Speaker 1 (02:46):
No?
Speaker 5 (02:47):
Did he get mad at me for telling him to
stop being a piece of shit? No, he didn't care.
He knew, he knew who you're Wow.
Speaker 2 (02:52):
So.
Speaker 1 (02:55):
Next one, do not shame my name. I thought i'd
write in about a sent dads and grandparents, which we
talked about yesterday on the show was Secretary Brie, and
a lot of people texted in and called in about
why they don't talk to their dad or their mom
or their kids anymore. My kid's dad is really struggling
with mental health. But also choosing to not do much
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about it, and has barely seen our kids this year.
I doubt he spent ten full days with them even
so far this year. It's infuriating and heartbreaking, but there's
nothing I can do if he doesn't want to get
the help he needs. Also, his parents live about an
hour away and have seen our kids maybe three times
this year. They live an hour away. Grandpa didn't meet
my daughter until she was nine months old, and that's
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only because I brought her to his house for Thanksgiving.
What really grinds my gears is they fawn over and
do backflips for their other grandchildren who live with them.
They live with them. I always wonder what's going on
when a grandchild and child live with grandparents. There's almost
always something sketchy going on. I'm sorry I'm judging, but
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Beth's mother never could afford to live on her own,
so she and her five kids, including Beth, lived in
a pretty shitty situation because Cricket decided to have kids
that she couldn't take care of on her own. Five
of them say his mom their daughter lives there too,
(04:23):
with no intention of moving now. They invest so much
time and energy into him but no effort into my kids.
I'm so sad for my kids, who will one day
really start to notice the difference in how they are
treated compared to their cousin. Thankfully, my kids have my
parents who love and adore them. As a mom raising
his son, I see so many struggling men out there,
and honestly, I worry about how I'll raise a boy
up to be a good human because it feels like
(04:45):
a lot of men are hardly functional alcohol, drugs, mental health, etc.
I just want to raise good people, stay beautiful, don't
say my name. Okay, I don't know. I guess there
are a lot of struggling men, but there are also
a lot of wonderful men who are maybe struggling, no
more than anybody else, is so okay, all right, moving on.
(05:06):
No comments on that one.
Speaker 4 (05:08):
I mean, I have comments, but I just feel like
it's generalizations about men, so I don't think it's fair
and it's from my own life experience, but I do
agree that like the amount of women in my life
who are with men who have alcohol problems is like astounding,
and it's really sad to me because I feel like, yes,
I was a party girl when I was younger, but
(05:28):
like I grew the thirkt of it. Yeah, and so
many of my friends partners, they met them when they
were younger, and so of course they were drinking just
as much as their partner was. And now they grew
up and had kids, but then their husbands still continue
to drink like they're twenty five years old, and it's
just really sad to me. And I don't know what
the difference is between men and women, because I know
(05:49):
that women have alcohol problems as well, but truthfully, like
you would think me and my friends would have an
alcohol problem at this point, like if we did. And
I know that alcoholism isn't a day, so I'm not
taking that away from people, like that's actually a mental
illness in itself. But I do wish that a lot
of people would understand that, like they have an alcohol
(06:11):
problem and get help for it or become sober.
Speaker 1 (06:13):
It's so hard, though I can give some details on
this one, because I'm pretty sure they don't listen to
the show. A friend of mine that I knew back
when I was twenty one or twenty two and lived
in Las Vegas, she we kind of lost touch, but
then we got back together on Facebook, and then somehow
she got my phone number, and maybe fifteen or so
years ago, she would call me drunk, oh, asking for money, javed,
(06:39):
you're free. I just I'm short everything, and I would
never send her money. And then I've talked to her
just randomly in the last couple of weeks, and I
could tell she was drunk middle of the day.
Speaker 3 (06:54):
M hmm.
Speaker 1 (06:55):
She lives in another state. There's no chance I'm going
to see or anything, but it's like, man, here she
is drunk in the middle of the day. Speaking of
loaning money, there is somebody who has asked me for money,
like a family member who has asked me for money
a couple of times in the last year, and I
will not give them a penny because I know then
(07:17):
I will become the bank for this person. Yeah, because
once you show somebody that you have the ability to
loan the money and you're the only one willing to
loan it to him, guess what they're going to come
to you the next time. Yeah, And I just don't
want that.
Speaker 3 (07:31):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:31):
No, you know what I mean. If Bailey came to
me and said, hey, I need to borrow twenty five
hundred dollars. I would give it to you, right, because
you're a good person. No, I'm not going to give
you wrong, you're wrong, But if you needed it, I
would give it to you. Eat it. But then, like
it was kind of like with Drake. Drake borrowed I
think two thousand dollars from me, then he paid it back,
and then he borrowed twenty five hundred dollars from me.
(07:52):
And I'm not here to bash Drake. You know, he's
got his own circumstances and he paid back one thousand
of it, but he didn't pay back the other fifteen
hundred and I'll never see it. And that's okay, you
know what. I hope the kid's doing well. Obviously he
needed the money, he didn't have the abundance to pay
me back. But I just don't. I don't loan money.
I will loan it to people that I love and trust.
(08:13):
Like if Carson needed money, like loan money or whatever, yeah,
I'd be like, well, yeah, sure, you're my boy, Cairsen.
Speaker 4 (08:18):
Right.
Speaker 2 (08:19):
But even like a family though, because my mom loaned
my grandfather like ten thousand dollars one she never saw any.
Speaker 3 (08:24):
Of that money back.
Speaker 2 (08:25):
No, never, you never will never know he's dead now,
so she really never never will.
Speaker 1 (08:29):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (08:29):
Yeah, my older sister asked me for money because she
knows I'm good with savings and stuff, so she her
and her husband were in between like remodeling a house
and putting a down payment on another house, and they
just like needed a certain amount. And I just trust
her so much, and she's also really good with money,
so I absolutely was willing to give her.
Speaker 5 (08:45):
Like, I don't know, it's probably like five.
Speaker 4 (08:47):
Grand or something, but that's probably the only person I've
ever done anything like that.
Speaker 3 (08:53):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (08:53):
Four and one time, Dave, I don't I bet you
you won't remember this, But I went to Mexico with
a girlfriend and back when I was like probably twenty
seven or something, and my friend had won the trip
through her company for like being high in sales and
so it was all inclusive, all paid for, Like I
wasn't paying for anything. But you like came into my
studio when I worked in the studio mode works in
and you're like, hey, like, I know you don't make
(09:15):
a lot of money here, Like do you need me
to give you? Like I can give you some money
for your Mexico trip.
Speaker 5 (09:19):
Blah, blah blah. And I was like, Dave, I'm fine.
Speaker 4 (09:23):
I appreciate the opera, but like it's all inclusive, it's
all I'm not even paid for shit.
Speaker 5 (09:27):
But I was like, you were just throwing money around
the want some?
Speaker 3 (09:32):
Does anyone want any of this money?
Speaker 1 (09:33):
Let me know If you want some, I will tell you.
Sometimes I feel guilty for having an abundance of money
when I see other people. And I'm not rich by
any means, but by some people's standards, I certainly would be.
But I sometimes feel guilty. It's like, oh, I ordered
this online. I ordered this, and other people are like, bitch,
I can't put gas in my tank. So I do
feel I do feel a little bit guilty. So I
(09:56):
think that's one of the reasons why I like to
be generous. And then I kind of remember that you
were going to Mexico and I'm like, do you have enough?
Speaker 5 (10:04):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (10:04):
You were like are you okay? Like I can give
you some money. I'm like, betcha, I'm getting those trip
for free.
Speaker 5 (10:09):
How good.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
I had a good friend of mine and and she
was a single mom, and I got her and her
kid like Vikings tickets or something like that, and and
she was going on some big motorcycle ride, and I'm like,
I know you don't have money to stop and get
cocktails with your friends, and I don't want you to
drink ice water with a lemon. So here's one hundred
bucks to buy some, you know, some extra drinks.
Speaker 3 (10:32):
Yeah, so you don't take us to Bunny Hannah.
Speaker 1 (10:35):
I see you guys every day for five or six hours.
Speaker 5 (10:38):
The money about doesn't want to see anymore.
Speaker 3 (10:41):
I want to see the little onion train go to
Chu too too.
Speaker 1 (10:45):
It is pretty legit thing. Yeah, they blow a whistle too,
I know. And then he clings this spatula on the grill,
so it goes ding ding ding dings.
Speaker 3 (10:53):
I've only ever been there one time.
Speaker 1 (10:54):
I tell you what, I'll take a video next time
I'm there. Yeah, here, welcome right next one, and we're
again a little bit short on emails here, kind of
a dry spell. But Shannon writes in I've been trying
to get my son to pitch a friend, that single
friend being me, but it's always conflicted with his schedule
for the forty plus versions. So last night I had
(11:15):
a dream that I literally pitched myself on the radio station.
But one obviously as myself and the person pitching me
in my awful Jersey accent. You guys didn't fall for it.
I just I just got put on the bad At
Accents roster for the morning show.
Speaker 3 (11:31):
That's funny.
Speaker 1 (11:32):
What's something dumb that you tried to get away with
but it didn't work out? All right? From Shannon? If
I had to think about it, I could probably come
up with something. What is something dumb that you tried
to get away with but it didn't work out? As
an adult, probably seen somebody that I wasn't supposed to
mm hmm, Like Julie and I cheated on each other
(11:55):
periodically here and there, and I think that probably there's
probably a story in there somewhere, but I don't know.
Speaker 2 (12:03):
I can only really think of them from when I
was like a youth, where I pretended that I had
a boyfriend because I wanted everyone to think I had one,
but I did not in high school, so I did
that for like a full year. I don't know if
anyone actually believed it, but I tried to get away
with it and it was pretty done.
Speaker 1 (12:20):
How did you pretend It's like, oh, I got plans
with George Glass or what did you do? Pretty much.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
I had a picture of this guy who was in
a band that I liked that I knew. No one
else knew who this band was, so I could get
away with it, and I would show them this picture
of this guy and be like, yeah, this is my boyfriend.
He goes to Blaine High School and I went to
Andover High School, so he goes to a different school.
Speaker 1 (12:41):
So you don't know him yet. Yeah, you don't know him.
Speaker 2 (12:43):
Yeah. And he's also a junior and I'm a freshman,
so yeah, you wouldn't know him.
Speaker 3 (12:48):
That was so stupid, But that's kind of you.
Speaker 1 (12:50):
Ever take a vacuum and stick it on your neck
to give yourself a hickey?
Speaker 3 (12:53):
No, I never know that. No, I never did that.
Speaker 2 (12:54):
But I did have a Harry Potter poster on my
wall that you would practice kissing with, for sure.
Speaker 1 (12:58):
Oh you did.
Speaker 3 (12:59):
Yeah, Both me and my sister had our own Harry
Potter posters that definitely had smudges.
Speaker 1 (13:03):
All your practice kissing, Harry Potter. Yeah, it's hard to
kiss a one dimensional object. We tried our best, two
dimension I guess.
Speaker 4 (13:11):
Hello.
Speaker 5 (13:12):
Oh, first, all that's wild to pretend, Yeah.
Speaker 3 (13:14):
And then it gets all spitty though, and I even
he was.
Speaker 5 (13:17):
Just tonguing it down.
Speaker 3 (13:18):
I was like doing a little why not was it
not giving it up?
Speaker 5 (13:22):
There was? I respected the boundaries. Okay, you don't mean
to no, Bailey. Mean.
Speaker 4 (13:26):
The only thing I can think of that I've done
is once upon a time when I dated this super
fuck boy. I wanted his attention, as one does, and
you don't get it, and then you want it more.
So I remember texting him once but pretending like I
meant to text my coworker who had the same name,
and they straight up like called me out because you
can spell the name two different ways, and so he
(13:46):
was like, oh, like does he spell it this way too?
Speaker 5 (13:49):
And I was like, no, actually he doesn't. And I
feel like.
Speaker 4 (13:51):
He saw right through what I was trying to do,
Like I was just like trying to open a conversation,
but really I was, yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:58):
Hey, Brian, it's a nice to see you at work.
Can do you want me to grab you a sandwich?
Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry, Brian.
Speaker 5 (14:05):
It wasn't you. He exactly. Oh sorry, wrong person, Brian.
Speaker 1 (14:09):
Maybe you get a story about trying to do something
that you shouldn't have done, but you thought you could
get away with it, send me an email, Like I said,
a little short on emails. So if we don't have
more emails tomorrow, we're gonna read the dictionary.
Speaker 3 (14:25):
Oh, very nice.
Speaker 1 (14:26):
The l's we're gonna start with the l's just a
different Yeah, yes, what did you say?
Speaker 3 (14:30):
Lugubrious is an L word. That's a great vocabulary.
Speaker 1 (14:33):
What does that mean? Lugubrious?
Speaker 2 (14:34):
I think lugubrius means kind of like lazy, and like
lugubrios lay on a couch and be like, oh, I'm lugubrious.
Speaker 1 (14:41):
I remember I dated a girl named fran a long
time ago, and Franz said something like she used the
word ostentatious incorrectly, And I don't know if she said
something like I'm feeling really ostentatious, which I was like,
that doesn't sound right. Ostentatious means showy, yeah, and elaborate,
like oh, look at Jenny, she's like dressed up, she
(15:02):
went to the mall and now she's all ostentatious. That's
not even right. But but I was really annoyed that
she used it wrong. There used to be what is
ostentatious A way.
Speaker 2 (15:13):
Right, it's characterized by vulgar or pretentious display designed to
impress or attract notice ostentatious.
Speaker 1 (15:18):
Yeah, and I remember there used to be on the
radio an ad that was like, improve your vocabulary. Instead
of using words like, you know, like shiny, you can
use learn to use words like ostentatious.
Speaker 3 (15:34):
Or what is it again, luminescence.
Speaker 1 (15:36):
And it's like I thought, as a communicator, why would
I choose to use a big word that a lot
of people wouldn't know when you can use simple but
still colorful words like, for example, instead of like, I
think it's much more colorful to say like, oh yeah,
Bailey stuff in her face with candy bars. It's much
funnier to say Bailey stuff in her face with almond joys.
(15:59):
Because this specific thing is funnier than a general.
Speaker 3 (16:03):
Thing that's an improv thing.
Speaker 2 (16:04):
They always want you to be specific, really, yeah, because
it is funnier.
Speaker 1 (16:07):
It's just funnier. It's like, oh, yeah, Bailey had a
great big lunch. That's not that funny. You should have
seen Bailey slamming down the ham sandwiches at the Quick Trip.
Speaker 3 (16:17):
Yeah, now that's funny because it's specific, And.
Speaker 1 (16:19):
I didn't use any single big words.
Speaker 3 (16:21):
Hot, ham, and cheese. Specifically, if you.
Speaker 1 (16:23):
Go to the gas station to get a sandwich, my
I always get three ham salad, chicken salad, tuna salad,
and I eat all three of them.
Speaker 3 (16:32):
Bitches, egg salad.
Speaker 2 (16:33):
And people say, like, I can't believe you eat eggs
from a gas station, but like they're prepackaged.
Speaker 1 (16:37):
They're prepackaged, there made the day before.
Speaker 3 (16:39):
Yeah, and they're fine, delicious. I love it.
Speaker 1 (16:41):
Try the ham salad. Ham salad is really good.
Speaker 2 (16:43):
I do like ham salad. I only ever eat it
in Ohio. It's big in Ohio.
Speaker 1 (16:47):
Hand ham Salad's big in Ohio. Who knew?
Speaker 3 (16:50):
Who knew?
Speaker 1 (16:50):
Now you know you can title this episode ham salad
is big in Ohio. All right. See what happens when
you don't send enough emails in so you can't just
sit there on the sidelines and not participate. You owe
us an email. If you don't send us one, I'm
gonna come over there and I'm gonna do terrible things
to your car with a fork. There's bird shit all
(17:11):
over my car. My car is filthy because Carson drove
it to Wisconsin to a friend's cabin, parked it under
a tree, where apparently a nest of vultures lived and
shit all over my car.
Speaker 3 (17:22):
They have big ships, they do.
Speaker 1 (17:24):
And then also there's drops of hardened sap on my windshield.
It looks like water, but it's drops of clear hardened sap.
I said, did you park under a tree?
Speaker 2 (17:34):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (17:35):
I wondered what that was.
Speaker 3 (17:37):
You get a car wash, you bum.
Speaker 1 (17:38):
I don't think a car washer is gonna get the
hardened sap on.
Speaker 3 (17:40):
Okay, well, you get those little shaky things all over it.
Speaker 5 (17:43):
You gotta go to like a nicer one, just like
a pull into one.
Speaker 1 (17:46):
I never go to the nice one. I go to
the one where you get it free.
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