Hello, HR

A new spin on the HR bit, how to prepare for meeting a parent when there's a 15 year age difference in the relationship, pet peeves at the gym, and more!

Episode Transcript

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You ready to do the Minnesota goodbye? I'm ready. Oh you a biatcha.
Let's see what we got. Let'sstart in with you. That's a
long one, but let's you know, let's give it a shot and see
what we got. You ready,I'm ready. I usually only listen at
the gym, and I always thoughtI want to reply to stuff and end

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up making a list to reply toso many things over several weeks. Although
the last time I did this,Dave said I was adhd So I'll try
to be more organized and linear withmy thoughts. I'm hoping this is read
Thursday or Friday so I could listenon a trip to exotic Imperial, California.
Fingers crossed. Dave, You've heardit once, You've heard it a
million times, but you really arethe best. Thanks for being a father

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figure to the Twin Cities for solong. I've taken you guys on all
of my travel nurse assignments, startingin Vegas, Sacramento, Omaha, and
now back here to the twenties TwinCities. I love having a slice of
home at my fingertips. Thank youvery much. I never ever ever stop
appreciating that, appreciating that I've hadan idea for a while. When Dave
calls HR on Jenny, I thinkyou should change it a little bit,

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and it'd be funny. It goeslike this, Hello, HR, Dave.
Jenny says I have chicken lips.HR, well, you do have
chicken lips. And then Dave sayssomething back to Jenny, well like your
eyes are too big of your face. Totally untrue, by the way.
And then Jenny calls HR and HRsays something like, well, no,
she doesn't something short, since she'susually a woman of few words. I

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just think it would be hilarious ifHR turned on Dave. Maybe even play
the long game with it, andwhen Dave finally retires, have him get
in big trouble again, have himpull him out of the studio and talk
to him and never return. Goout with controversy Dave. So in other
words, when I do leave,make it sound like I got fired.

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Yep, Okay, I mean,you know what, that is a funny
idea, but I would never dothat and leave that legacy like, I
mean, that's a funny bit.But no, to pass on that one.
All right, onto the next email. Let's see what we got I'm
gonna push the right tab here.Here we go, Dave Jenny Drake,
I could use your opinion. Ienjoy going on walks around a neighborhood.

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I usually walk every day. Thereis a house that is fairly close to
mine where they let their dog runaround the yard unleashed and unsupervised. The
dog is not friendly. It hascome up to me aggressively several times,
and I've even had to almost goa full block walking backwards while this dog
was following me. Yesterday, Isaw the dog was out in somebody else's

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yard, so I went a differentway, hoping it would be inside when
I came back, but it wasstill out twenty minutes later, so I
had to backtrack my entire walk toavoid it. If you try to walk
by the house, even across thestreet, the dog will come up and
aggressively approach you. I never seethe owners, otherwise I would say something
in the moment. My husband thinkI should call animal control next time it
happens. That's what I was goingto say, call animal control. I

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love dogs. I would feel badfor punishing the dog for having an irresponsible
owners. Well, you're not punishingthe dog, You're actually helping the dog
because the dog can get hit bya car. Yeah, it can get
stolen. Somebody can get fed upand poison the dog. People do poison
dogs that are aggressive and like comeinto their yard. Do you hear stories
about that once in a while,you know, I've heard stories about Yeah,
the neighbor's dog keeps coming over anddoing this and fighting with my dog,

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and it killed my chihuahua. SoI eventually poisoned the neighbor's dog.
Do you hear about things like that? I think I might have to because
I don't know what else to do. I can't be the only person this
is happening to, and I findit hard to believe the owners are completely
clueless. If I could just avoidthe house all the time, I would,
but it's just spot in the neighborhoodthat makes it really difficult. I

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appreciate your helplessen every day, trulyappreciate all the time and attention you give
us listeners. Staff writer Kristen andshe would like a staff writer sticker.
So I'm going to take a picture. I haven't sent any out in a
while, so it'll be a coupleof days. I'll get some more out
what do you think, Jenny,I mean, I think, I don't
know. I do think just dowhat your the husband said, because I
wouldn't feel bad about that situation,and I just I don't know. It

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like blows my mind that there aredog owners out there who like, do
not take better care of their dogs. Totally, like it just it's wild
to me because it's like dogs arelike to some people, they're like kids,
you know, like some people whodon't want kids, they dogs are
their kids. So it's weird tohear someone who does not take good care
of them. And I don't getthe purpose of having a dog if you

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don't take good care of your dog. Well, I think some people don't
take good care of their car,don't take good care of their kitchen,
don't take good care of their roofor whatever. And I think if you're
a lazy homeowner car owner, you'realso going to be a lazy pet owner.
Pets are a lot of work,They make a mess, they need
to be trained, they need tobe and discipline is the right word.

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So I'll go back to trained.And I think that, you know,
I mean with Josie, we werereally lucky. Susan and I I did
a good job of raising our littleJosie and gave her lots of love,
but also gave her lots of training. So she learned how to go outside,
and she learned not to jump onpeople and be aggressive or you know,
get up. I have a friendand I love this friend, and

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I went to her house not longago, and she has a little dog
that knows no boundaries. The dogwill jump up on you, crawl up
your chest, get on your lap, and put their paws on your chest
and get right in your face.God forbid you try to eat yes while
you're there. And it's like,I know you love dogs, but you've
got to train this dog to bebetter or she's never gonna get it.

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Next one from Kristen, She says, Dave Ryan Crewe, I was listening
to the podcast section where you weresaying that mental illness shouldn't be an excuse,
I e. Kids on tablets,etc. We were talking about was
it on this podcast? It wason the podcast about someone is at a
fine dining restaurant and the table nextdoor had a kid listening to a tea

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tablet on like the loudest volume.Uh and and somebody you know. And
this comes up a lot where somebodywill see a misbehavior and say, well,
you don't know if they have mentalillness. And I said, well,
mental illness is you know. Ofcourse you've got to be understanding and
empathetic, but when it interferes withmy life, now it becomes a problem.
And I gave the analogy of like, I was at the airport a

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couple of months ago and I heardan adult yelling and I was like,
oh, what's weird? And itturned out it was an adult with some
sort of mental disability and they wereyelling really loudly, and they were there
with their dad, and they wereprobably twenty or so. And it was
like, oh, well, I'mnot going to complain because yeah, it's
affecting me, But what are yougoing to do? You know, you're

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going to be understanding, but witha kid with a tablet, and if
the kid's got a mental illness,you really you can be somewhat understanding.
But she goes on to say,there is a phrase that I heard and
I share it with others. Mentalillness is not your fault, but it
is is your responsibility. And Ilike that one because think about this one.

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If you are at the Dave andBusters and you bring along your relative
and they have a mental illness orthey have something and they get aggressive and
they get violent and they break themachines or whatever, and I'm just making
up shit off the top of myhead. That is not okay. It

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is your responsibility, and I thinkthat's really true. Christin says super short
email that I had to write inright dart Lick Kristin. Thank you,
Kristin. Next one, Hello,my favorite morning show. It's Charise,
one of your favorite staff White writers. This is probably more of a question
for Jenny, but I'll take yourinput to Dave. My boyfriend wants to

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introduce me to his mom. NormallyI wouldn't be nervous about this, but
I'm slightly nervous because I am fifteenyears older than him, and I'm worried
about what she's going to think aboutme. I wrote you guys a few
weeks ago about our relationship and agedifference. I remember series things are going
well, by the way, anyadvice on how to get on his mom's

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good side? Jen, Well,I mean I think that you just have
to be yourself, Like I don'tthink that there's like anything super different of
meeting someone who's a little bit youngerthan you and then meeting someone in your
own age their parents. I thinkit's always just be yourself, show that
you care for her son, andyeah, I think it should go smoothly.

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I understand the concern because of theage difference, and there might be
like some judgment from the mom orsomething like that, but I don't know.
I think that, like all mostparents, all they care about is
their kids being happy for the mostpart, and I don't think that fifteen
years is like that big of adifference once you get to a certain point

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in life, Like I think atwenty and thirty five year old, that's
very different. I don't think atwenty year old really like knows that much
better at that point, But likea thirty five year old and a fifty
year old, I feel like that'sa little bit more normal. I guess
at twenty five, a twenty fiveyear old and a fifty thirty five year
old and a fifty year old yea, yeah, I feel like you've experienced

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a lot of life. You've gonethrough career, you maybe went to school
already, you're done with that.But like at twenty years old. No,
you're still basically you're barely at ahigh scho Yeah, right, Like
so, I feel like there's abig difference there in a thirty five year
old. I think that that wouldcome with a lot of judgment from a
parent. But I think Charesa's maybesaid that maybe he's thirty or something,
So I don't know. It soundslike you guys are probably closer in forty

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five and thirty. You've had enoughlife experiences and stuff for it to not
be as weird with that big ofan age gap. I'm going to be
straight up, Bath. My daughteris eleven years younger than her husband,
and when they met, she wasabout twenty or twenty one, which would

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made him about thirty one or thirtytwo. And I didn't like it.
I was like, why would aguy that's thirty two be interested other than,
you know, like sexually, somebodythat young. And I didn't like
it. And I was like,I just didn't like it because it was
like, there's no way that athirty one, thirty two year old should

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want to date a twenty one yearold college girl. But they're still married.
They seem to be very, veryhappy and they seem to have a
great relationship. My mom and dadwere nine years apart. Susan and I
are about four or five years apart, something like that. But I do
think that you're right, Jenny.I think if you're younger twenty and thirty

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five, then that's messed up.But if you're thirty five and fifty,
I would say this, Jenny's right. Just be yourself, be nice and
she might kind of like be alittle shocked at first. Maybe you should
have him tell his mom in advance, Hey, just let you know she's
forty five years old. Yeah,all right, last one. We're gonna

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save that one for another time,and that one for another time, and
that one for another time. SoI think we actually might be out of
emails. Let me go back andsee what we Okay, here's one day
was talking about some piece of exerciseequipment. The last month or so.
He was talking about how much heliked it. The company sent him a
free one. What was it itis? You know, first of all,

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I bring this up once in awhile, and if you listen to
the show, you've heard me bringit up. It is the InMotion stepper.
I do not get paid for it. They never sent me a freebee.
I've probably sold it. I don'tthink you've ever gotten a free one,
right, we don't really get freestuff. I mean, you know,
once in a while it'll be like, okay, someone will bring buy

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a pizza from their new pizza place. Yeah, and we'll give him a
plug and be like, hey,so and so's pizza. Thanks. But
no, it's called the InMotion Stepperand they have several different varieties on Amazon.
And I was on mine last nightfor thirty minutes while we watched suits.
And again, I don't get afreebie. I don't get a discount,
I don't get paid. I justrecommend it because it's portable. It's

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about one hundred maybe one hundred andten dollars, and it's better than you
know, if you don't have atreadmill, then it's you know, it's
great, and it's portable. Whenyou're done, you pick it up by
the handle and stick it in thecorner next one. You know, Honestly,
that's it. I think that's it. Yeah, Okay, I'm looking
at other ones, and that isit. So thank you for the emails.

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If you have an email that youwant to send for the Minnesota Goodbye.
Obviously we are out of them,and we are We're We've only gotten
ten minutes into the podcast. Isthere anything you want to talk about?
Jenny, I don't know that Ihave much else. We've talked about all
the things today. I have beenwatching Survivor and you missed it last week
because someone emailed into the Minnesota Goodbyeand was like saying that I should do

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an update about Survivor and stuff,and I was like, I just feel
like there's a pretty small portion ofpeople who watch Survivor nowadays. But but
there must still be enough because they'reon season like five hundred I swear,
Okay, that's an exaggeration. Obviously, No, they've been doing it for
like twenty minutes. Still, you'redoing while on network TV, so they
must have somewhat of a viewership,you know. You know, it's funny

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because we used to do American Idolupdates every week after American Idol, and
we stopped because you know, theviewership went down and the fad kind of
died away. And I watched AmericanIdol the other night, it was like,
oh, it's still good. It'snot as good as it used to
be. But I would never doan update on American Idol. Same way
with Survivor, because even though ithas its following, it's just not as
big. You heard the dinger aminute ago. We just got an email.

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Let's check it out. Here wego, David Jenny, I want
to thank you for being amazing.Well, thank you. I listened live
via iHeart every morning six to tenand then the Minnesota Goodbye on the way
home from work. You always putme in a great mood, and I
talk about you all the time.My family and friends know you by name.
Now with a little smiley laughing emoji, just a little content for you

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on the Minnesota Goodbye. My bestfriend's cat has his own TikTok page.
It's called Gray the Cat, gr e y the Cat. Well,
you know what we're gonna do rightnow saying what does Gray do on his
TikTok? I'm going to go lookright now, I'm going to open up
TikTok and I'm going to search inthe upper right hand corner g r e

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y the Cat, And there theyare. Okay, first thing looking at
is there's a cat that's got theyhave. The cat have wonky eyes and
I'm trying to see how many followersGray the Cat has. I will say

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that this particular post has twenty ninehundred likes, one hundred and thirty seven
comments. What are you seeing,jack? Oh? I was. I
didn't know if I should open mindtoo, because I didn't want like a
bunch of TikTok. God it said, I was like restricted for a second.
The stupid I gotta take this damnscreen lock thing off of my things.

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Yeah, because I put a screenlock on my TikTok so that I
can't open it, or that Ican open it, but it tells me
how many times I've done it orhow long. But hold on, I'm
looking for Gray, Gray the Catgry right, Yeah, but you know
what I honestly i'm finding I'm notfinding Gray the Cat. I'm finding connections

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or links. So anywhile continue theemail. It goes on to say he
likes to make puking faces a lot. Certain foods they put in front of
him make him gag. I think, get another cat you had a long
long time ago that talks about this. Gray is so funny. If you
get a second, please check outGray the Cat on TikTok. I'll be
honest with you, Paula. Ilooked and I did not find. In

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searching, I found other cat videos, but I didn't find Gray the cat
or you having any luck check I'mnot either. So it's g r a
y the grey gry okay gr eyside. Then I did that wrong because
while you continue to look, Iwill read this one. I know you
both go to the gym a lotyou touched on the subject, but I
want to vent. I go tothe gym during my lunch break, so

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I have one hour to get in, get my workout in, and get
back to work. Luckily, myoffice is only blocks from the gym.
It drives me crazy when people sitor stand by the machines and gab.
I do not feel comfortable saying anythingto them, And then I have to
skip that machine because they are holdingit up. Also, not cleaning the

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machine after they are done is abig pet peeve too. Why do people
think that's okay? I don't know. I mean that's kind of a cardinal
rule, like pick up your dogpoop ye and wipe down the equipment.
Let me ask you a question.When you use dumbbells at the gym,
do you wipe them off. No, I usually do. When you use
the dead ball or the medicine ballat the gym, do you wipe it

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off? No. I always wipedown the benches because I sweat and I'll
leave like marks on that or anyother kind of like bench kind of sweat
mark that I leave. But usuallyduring like a sculp the Warrior Skulp class,
where I'm aggressively drenched and sweat,yes, I wipe those down.
But when I'm just doing like anupper body day at the gym, I
typically grab the weights, use them, put them back. I don't always.

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I don't usually wash those off.I usually, you know what,
I I put all the equipment away, and then I wipe down everything from
the skier to the bike, tothe bike seat, to the benches whatever,
because it's just I don't know.Yeah, for me, it's kind
of a cool down and I don'tmind if I'm like lifting or like doing
squats or whatever, and I gota medicine ball in my hand and now

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I need a little breather, soI wipe down the medicine ball and go
put it back. Yeah. Notjust because I'm a wonderful person, which
I am, but because it givesme a little break. I love looking
at your Weekend in five Pictures too, And Jenny, I'm so happy you
and Fallan are doing your podcast.I miss herund the morning show, but
you guys are killing it still andI would love to listen to her in
the afternoon, but I just likelistening to you guys, not so much

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the music. So I am happyto get my fall and Phil from the
podcast and her Weekend in five pictures. Keep all Keeping all dart lick.
That is from Paula. Thank youPaula. And that truly is the last
Minnesota goodbye for the day. Andlike I said, once in a while
we'll skip one and don't get yourfeelings hurt. And I know it sucks

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if you're write in and we don'tread it. But sometimes we look at
them and they're not exactly you know, like they're a little bit too long,
or they repeat something that we've kindof you know, beat into the
ground. And once in a while, and this does happen with Jenny,
once in a while, I'll bereading an email and I'll realize halfway through

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it that it just it's not right. Yeah, for the Minnesota goodbye,
it's a little bit too inside ora little bit whatever. But I don't
want you to be discouraged from writingin. I just want you to like
write in and whatever's on your mind. And if you just are you doing
it just because you want to beon the Minnesota Goodbye, that's fine with
me. But you know, we'realways looking for something to talk about.

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So we want to talk about like, you know, the dogs in the
neighbor's yard, or wiping down equipmentof the gym, or Jenny talked this
morning. She had a really interestingstory about getting your butthole waxed or butthole
laser. I was getting laser hairremoval and I was very bloated yesterday,
having some stomach issues, and soI was genuinely concerned when she got into

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that area that I was going tofart and I was trying to go to
the bathroom ahead of time to makesure that I got whatever out I could
to get out. And it's luckilylike nothing happened, no incident, nothing
happened. But yeah, so wewere talking about that this morning, and
those are the kind of things thatwe can talk about in the Minnesota Goodbye.
Whether you want to talk about somethingreally personal and intimate, something disgusting,

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whether it's a bodily function or whatever. Hey, you know what,
We'll talk about just about anything,so send your email. Becomes a staff
writer, Ryan Show at KDWB dotcom. And I really appreciate listening.
I really do. And I appreciateall the kind words. When somebody writes
in and says, hey, listenin the morning, then you listen to
the podcast in the afternoon, itreally means so much. I mean you,

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we we really appreciate. Just likeyou know when you draw a when
your kid draws you a little crayonart and they bring it over to you
and you make a fuss over it. That's how we are. When you
like say hey, thanks, thatreally means a lot. We really appreciate
that. And it hurts so muchwhen you say you guys suck. So
all right, thanks for listening.We'll see you next time on the Minnesota Goodbye.