April 15, 2024 • 17 mins
Someone hates the MN Goodbye, not the podcast, the actual MN Goodbye, Dave and Jenny try to remember things on the show and can't, fun places to travel in Minnesota, are you down or are you "languishing" and 5 things to help if you are languishing, and more!
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Let's get started with the Minnesota Goodbyeand see what we have. Hello Minnesota
Goodbye. First, to address thesubject line, I love your podcast,
their subject line is I hate theMinnesota Goodbye. Not the podcast, but
the real Minnesota Goodbye. They say, I'm starting to get frustrated with the
Minnesota goodbye and the Midwest culture.For context, I attend college, which
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is almost ninety nine percent the studentbody is either from Minnesota or Wisconsin,
which of course leads to a veryconcentrated Midwest culture. And with the combination
of my friends and I liveing oncampus and spending most of our time outside
of class together, we have Minnesotagoodbyes multiple times every day. Now you're
familiar with it, but just incase you're not, the Minnesota Goodbye is
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where you keep saying goodbye for fifteenminutes. And that's how this show got
started. I think Fallon came upwith a name like, Okay, you
guys have already said goodbye on theradio. Now you're doing more. So
when you do a Minnesota goodbye,you say goodbye at the front door,
or then you walk out the frontdoor, you say goodbye again. You're
talking. They follow to your fuckingcar, and then they say goodbye again
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and it goes on forever. Soshe goes on to sayd might be trying
to leave our student union. Butthen one of my friends and I will
stay and talk until it closes,then drop a friend off of their dorm,
but continue to talk at the doorfor another thirty minutes. Then we
drop the next friend off and thesame thing happens. I can't take it
anymore. I love hanging out withmy friends, but I think I'm gonna
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start losing it. I got aneight am class most days and a lot
of homework. I don't have timefor a Minnesota goodbye multiple times a day.
But then I feel rude leaving withan abrupt departure, or that I'm
missing out on memories with my friends. So many funny jokes and things have
happened when I cut off my Minnesotagoodbye early, and I get fomo from
it. Anyway, I'm wondering ifyou or other people listening experience this or
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have other Minnesota goodbye cultural things thatdrive Minnesota cultural things that drive you crazy.
Dart Lick staff writer Cassie Jenny yourcomment on this, I am the
guilty person of the Minnesota can buya lot of times. I've gotten better
at it over the years, soI feel like, I don't know.
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I don't drag it out as long, but I am the person that makes
sure I say goodbye to everyone.I don't irish goodbye ever, So I
don't know. I can go eitherway. I don't. I'm not mad
at you if you don't like saygoodbye to me, but yeah, I
mean my first response was going tobe like, well just leave, Just
become that person Cassandra that you know, you got to respect your time.
So sometimes you have to say goodbye. And we all know somebody who they
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don't know when to stop talking.They just love to talk, and it's
like, man, I've got tobe somewhere. We have people in our
building that they're lovely people, butthey just don't have a concept of I
don't have all day to talk,so you really literally have to kind of
be rude and go I got toget back to work. There are a
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couple of people at stationed in again, they're wonderful people, and I wish
I was more social like them.But you'll turn to kind of walk away,
and you're kind of backing away fromthem as they're still talking, as
if to say I got to go, and they will literally follow you as
you're backing away from the conversation.Those people like literally shock me. I'm
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like, how do you how doyou not know I'm walking ten feet away
from you? Yeah, But atthe same time I get her think about,
you know what I'm gonna miss outon, like memories and jokes and
funny stories because I'm gonna cut offthe Minnesota goodbye. So what is your
advice on this one? Do youmay be selective? Do you be rude
and say I gotta go? Ordo you just suck it up and say,
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you know what, I will neverregret having this conversation. Let us
know. Send an email to RyanShow at katiewb dot com. Next one,
Becky says, I don't know whyI randomly thought about this today,
but I wanted to remind you guysof a fun way you gave away tickets.
I thought it was super entertaining andwould love to hear it done again.
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A few years ago. You're goingto wait tickets for something. You
had people call in and ask youreally personal, challenging questions. If you
felt comfortable enough to answer the question. They didn't win the tickets, but
if you refuse to answer, theywon. I think the only thing that
was off limits was asking about salaries, since it was an obvious win.
But other than that, there wereno rules. I remember loving this bit,
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surprised by some of the ones youguys actually answered. Would love for
you to do that again. That'sfrom Becky. We did this the other
day. It was ask us anything, and it wasn't for concert tickets.
It was just a matter of like, what did people ask us? Jenny?
So remember we Okay? I wasasked some real estate questions because I
date a real like answers the realestate agent. You. Oh gosh,
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my brain's not thinking right now.I can't remember. That's kind of how
I am with the show. Peoplewill say do you I remember this?
And a lot of the time Ido, but so many times I don't.
They'll be like, do you rememberthe time that you had so and
so in and they did this?And I'll be like, I really don't,
because I think I've done so manyradio shows that I don't hang on
to them. You know, Idon't really unless something really amazing happens.
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It's kind of like you know,each show is special and fun, but
I let it go. I don'treally hang on to it. Yeah,
right, but let's do that.But we can do that again. Maybe
you have for like concert tickets laterin the week. Now, let's do
it. Do we have Nicki Minaj'stickets tomorrow? We don't. We have
another pair of tickets for something,but I'll have to figure out what that
is because I'm not sure. Maybewe can do that tomorrow. So here's
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I mean a little something that youmight not know. We plan the show
when we get off the show atten o'clock. When we're done with the
show at ten, we go getsomething to eat, go to the bathroom,
get something to drink, whatever,and then we beat back in the
studio and we plan the show today. Because I'm in Phoenix, I got
a plane to catch, so Iwon't be able to help plan the show
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until a little bit later. Butthere's something that if you hear it on
the show on Tuesday, you'll belike, oh, they thought of that
bit because of Becky during the MinnesotaGoodbye. So what are the tickets we're
giving away tomorrow? Do you remember? Yes, it's AJR tickets and it's
two pairs for each time, soyou give four tickets. And another bit
we can do is the three whatwe call last time we did the three
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letter game. Yeah letters, right, yeah, I think letter Look at
us. We can't remember anything wedo on the show. Okay, next
one, my husband and I arecelebrating our four year anniversary in June,
and we were thinking about a weekand away from our two young kiddos.
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Where is a weekend spot that yourecommend in state. We're not into city
living and we love going up north, but we're not looking at the typical
Duluth or normal Minnesota places. Thanksfor your help. Happy Monday from Megan
in Maple Lake, Minnesota. Andshe asked for a staff writer sticker,
and I will send one out.Okay, I'm gonna throw out something that's
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a little bit weird. I likeRedwood Falls and the casino out there.
I think I don't know what it'scalled, but there's a casino about by
Redwood Falls, and Redwood Falls iskind of beautiful and it's scenic and it's
in the River Valley and there's acasino there, So I'll throw that out.
I would also throw out pipestone Minnesotaif you're into history and nature,
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because there's the Pipestone Monument and thenatives still carved pipestone, which is like
a really soft rock that they usedto literally make pipes out of and only
natives can carve and quarry and minethe pipestone, and it's just super cool.
And there's a walk around with abunch of waterfalls, and there's an
old inn that I might still beopen anyway, there's give me a spot
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Jenny to check out for a weekin getaway. I mean, I just
the north Shore is great. Waitdid they say where they're where they're from
Lake? Okay, I was gonnasay the north Shore is great because that
wouldn't be too far from you.Then I mean it's still a drive.
But Crosby, Minnesota US fun too. Cayuna, I know, just I
think they're opening their trails up thisweekend. If you happen to be into
mountain biking, I think those openedup either this past weekend or this coming
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weekend. And then, I mean, I don't know those are like the
main spats. I don't really knowa ton about southern Minnesota. Okay,
when Nonah's beautiful and has some bluffsthat you can hide out. What Jenny,
that's a really good one. Ithought, Nona, Minnesota, because
that is beautiful, Kay Dave,Not to beat a dead horse. But
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on the topic of death and puttingtogether a will, I just did this
with my dad and all it tookwas a consultation with an attorney about an
hour to find out what his needsor wants are. He filled out a
brief questionnaire ahead of time. Theattorney had the will together and done the
next day. How did this comeup on the show? We were talking
about wills on the show, Jenny, No, it was on the Minnesota
Goodbye where someone was talking about orhonestly, I can't remember anymore. What
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was on the show. Someone hadtalked about having an expert on about like
death, but then another person hadbefore that I think had email then saying
that they work in the funeral industryand that they really enjoy what they're doing
because it's a really hard time forfamilies to go through and they like to
be able to provide the support thatthey can during a really hard time.
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Okay, yeah, I mean,you got any thoughts on that? Let
us know. Send that to RyanShow at katiewidebeat dot com. I'll be
honest with you, that is kindof all we've got for emails today.
But I will bring up something thatI thought was really awesome. What I
read an article that talks about howso many of us we're not depressed,
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we don't have depression, but wefeel our life is like just kind of
blah and bland. And every dayyou get up and you go to work,
and then you come home, andthen you go to cub and you
do your laundry, and then youwatch TV and you go to bed,
and then you get up and yougo to work and you go and it's
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the same, and you feel justkind of down because you don't really feel
growth, and so they call itlanguishing, and that basically means you're not
really looking forward to anything. Youdon't really feel like you're growing as a
human. You just kind of feelstuck in a rut. And when I
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thought about it, I have beenfeeling, for you know, off and
on here and there, a littlebit languishing. And by that I mean
I get up and I love doingthe show. Don't get me wrong.
I get up, I play wordle, I stop at Caribou, I come
in and I do the show.We're done by about noon. I go
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to the gym. It's just it'sthe same. And so I was kind
of languishing. And they say thisis so common, and a lot of
people think they're depressed. They're notdepressed, you're just languishing. And the
reason I bring it up is becauseI've known myself and also some friends of
mine. I'm not going to namethem, but they feel like they just
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do the same thing. They're notgrowing, they don't have anything really to
look forward to. Maybe their jobis not rewarding like they wish it was,
and so they're languishing. So whatis the cure for languishing? And
I did a screenshot on my phone. Do you want to hear it?
Yeah, okay, So there arefive things that can help you feel better
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and so you can flourish instead oflanguish. And I really like this one.
Number one helping other people. Andthey were very specific. They said,
it's not like buying somebody a cupof coffee or holding the door.
It's like volunteering at like a Seniorsitting or center, or at the Maine
Society, or becoming a Girl Scoutleader or volunteering, helping other people,
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going over your mom's house and helpingher pack up so she can move,
or whatever. It is helping otherpeople because we can't really focus on ourselves
if we're helping other people. Onanother one, learns something new. So
if you if you maybe maybe it'slearn an instrument or learn how to crochet
or code or play guitar or something. So learn something new. Another one
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is playing, So instead of sittingaround moping, go out and play,
or play your video games or playwhatever. If you want to get your
paddle board out this summer and goplay, or get your bike out and
you know, buy yourself a mountainbike, whatever, go play. Another
one. I really like this oneengaging in spiritual or religious practices. Okay,
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so maybe not you're like, I'mnot really religious. Then find something
spiritual. Okay, I mean there'sthere's you know, there's Christianity, there's
all kinds of different things. Ifyou're not into Christianity, or maybe you're
burnt out on the religion that yougrew up in, find something spiritual,
spiritual. And then another one,a big one is socializing because these will
help you get out of the rut. If you go spend time with other
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people, go to a trivia night, go play cribbage with a friend.
I'm probably gonna go out at leastonce or twice this week and go to
a trivia night, or go playcribbage with a friend, because I'm getting
real tired of sitting around the houseat night. And so I'll tell SU's
gonna be like, you know what, You're gonna go work at your store,
I'm gonna go play cribbage, orI'm gonna go to trivia night.
So there are five different things youmissed them. They are helping other people
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learn something new, playing the engagein spiritual or religious practices, and socializing.
Do you do all those, Jenny, you're not particularly religious, yeah,
I know, besides the religious one. Yeah, for the most part.
I think my main thing a lotlike that. I like to do
when i'm feeling kind of in thatrut or something is either like journal or
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cook or mostly bake because cooking's notthat fun for me. Baking though,
is like kind of a creative outletfor me. So I just feel like
anytime I do something creative, italways changes my mental state. You know,
totally see that because I know youlove to cook, because I saw
your like of whatever peanut butter muffinsor whatever this weekend. Yeah, that
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is one of your things you loveto do that. I made a croc
pot meal for Chase and Maddie andSusan and I last night, or I
made it yesterday, and it wasactually really good. It was like cheeseburger
cast role. Yeah, they callit a cast role here, but we
call it and it was it wasso easy and it was so good,
and I just felt really good aboutlet me tell you, I got to
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help Chase and Mattie all weekend andit really did just feel good to feel
needed. And I helped with thebaby, and I went shopping and I
paid for a couple of things becausethey're a young couple without a lot of
money, and so we hung shelvingand we just, you know, I
felt really good about helping somebody.So that put me in a good mood.
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Yeah. It always, I wasgonna say, helping people out always
feels good, like, and youdon't really realize that because sometimes you're like,
ugh, I don't want to doIt's like I don't want to come
help you move this college. Butthen you go do it, and you're
like, Okay, it wasn't bad. You think some people are just naturally
that way they want to help otherpeople. And then there are people who
expect help all the time, butit never occurs to them to help other
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people. Yes, I absolutely couldthink of people on both sides of the
spectrum on that one. In mylife, I'll tell you a quick story,
we'll wrap it up. My dadlived into his eighties. He was
eighty eight years old when he died, and he used to go to this
country music thing every Friday night atthe community center, which was like the
VFW or whatever, and they hewould get there early and set up the
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chairs, and he would stay lateafterward and he'd help put away the chairs.
And I would look at him andhe'd be like, Dad, you're
eighty seven years old. You're carryingaround a couple of folding chairs. Meantime,
there are guys that are thirty yearsold stand around drinking coffee, chit
chatting with other people that aren't helpingat all. And I think, honestly,
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to some people, it's such anatural to jump in and help,
and with some people it is nothingthat ever occurs to them. They don't.
It doesn't even occur to them.We used to have somebody in our
Scout troop and they were such anice person, but they would show up
at Scout events. Remember one timeI was making pancakes and Susan was making
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bacon, and we're like cleaning andcooking in this and they sat there and
eating and chatting to us, butthey never volunteered to like help, can
I help you do anything? Doneed any help with anything? And they
would do that consistently, and therewere such nice people. And I told
Susan, I said, I justdon't think it ever occurs to them to
help other people. They just don't. So I feel like I will admit
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that it took me probably a littlebit longer in life to be that more
helpful person because my older sister alwayswas like that. And then it's like
I was kind of like the lazyone at holidays that never really wanted to
help with the dishes or whatever itwas. But now I always offered a
help, but it definitely took mea little bit longer, whereas my older
sister was just always on top ofthat. So funny, something naturally curs
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a little tip you remind me islike, if you really want to suck
up to the in laws, helpwash the dishes when you go over there.
So in other words, like hey, can I help you put the
dishes away? Can I help youwith anything? Because mom or dad or
whoever's doing the majority of the cookingor cleaning, They're like, yeah,
they might go no, I gotthis, go sit down, but I
think they'll really be impressed. Susanused to suck up to my mom and
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dad all the time with that,Oh I'll make breakfast. They're like,
oh, Susan's so nice. I'mlike, yes, she's putting on an
app I mean she is nice.Sorry, that's it for the Minnesota goodbye.
Send your emails to Ryan's show atKADIWB dot com and I'll be back
in the studio tomorrow so the audioquality will be better. Yes, and
have a great day and we'll seeyou then.
Let's get started with the Minnesota Goodbyeand see what we have. Hello Minnesota
Goodbye. First, to address thesubject line, I love your podcast,
their subject line is I hate theMinnesota Goodbye. Not the podcast, but
the real Minnesota Goodbye. They say, I'm starting to get frustrated with the
Minnesota goodbye and the Midwest culture.For context, I attend college, which
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is almost ninety nine percent the studentbody is either from Minnesota or Wisconsin,
which of course leads to a veryconcentrated Midwest culture. And with the combination
of my friends and I liveing oncampus and spending most of our time outside
of class together, we have Minnesotagoodbyes multiple times every day. Now you're
familiar with it, but just incase you're not, the Minnesota Goodbye is
(00:45):
where you keep saying goodbye for fifteenminutes. And that's how this show got
started. I think Fallon came upwith a name like, Okay, you
guys have already said goodbye on theradio. Now you're doing more. So
when you do a Minnesota goodbye,you say goodbye at the front door,
or then you walk out the frontdoor, you say goodbye again. You're
talking. They follow to your fuckingcar, and then they say goodbye again
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and it goes on forever. Soshe goes on to sayd might be trying
to leave our student union. Butthen one of my friends and I will
stay and talk until it closes,then drop a friend off of their dorm,
but continue to talk at the doorfor another thirty minutes. Then we
drop the next friend off and thesame thing happens. I can't take it
anymore. I love hanging out withmy friends, but I think I'm gonna
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start losing it. I got aneight am class most days and a lot
of homework. I don't have timefor a Minnesota goodbye multiple times a day.
But then I feel rude leaving withan abrupt departure, or that I'm
missing out on memories with my friends. So many funny jokes and things have
happened when I cut off my Minnesotagoodbye early, and I get fomo from
it. Anyway, I'm wondering ifyou or other people listening experience this or
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have other Minnesota goodbye cultural things thatdrive Minnesota cultural things that drive you crazy.
Dart Lick staff writer Cassie Jenny yourcomment on this, I am the
guilty person of the Minnesota can buya lot of times. I've gotten better
at it over the years, soI feel like, I don't know.
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I don't drag it out as long, but I am the person that makes
sure I say goodbye to everyone.I don't irish goodbye ever, So I
don't know. I can go eitherway. I don't. I'm not mad
at you if you don't like saygoodbye to me, but yeah, I
mean my first response was going tobe like, well just leave, Just
become that person Cassandra that you know, you got to respect your time.
So sometimes you have to say goodbye. And we all know somebody who they
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don't know when to stop talking.They just love to talk, and it's
like, man, I've got tobe somewhere. We have people in our
building that they're lovely people, butthey just don't have a concept of I
don't have all day to talk,so you really literally have to kind of
be rude and go I got toget back to work. There are a
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couple of people at stationed in again, they're wonderful people, and I wish
I was more social like them.But you'll turn to kind of walk away,
and you're kind of backing away fromthem as they're still talking, as
if to say I got to go, and they will literally follow you as
you're backing away from the conversation.Those people like literally shock me. I'm
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like, how do you how doyou not know I'm walking ten feet away
from you? Yeah, But atthe same time I get her think about,
you know what I'm gonna miss outon, like memories and jokes and
funny stories because I'm gonna cut offthe Minnesota goodbye. So what is your
advice on this one? Do youmay be selective? Do you be rude
and say I gotta go? Ordo you just suck it up and say,
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you know what, I will neverregret having this conversation. Let us
know. Send an email to RyanShow at katiewb dot com. Next one,
Becky says, I don't know whyI randomly thought about this today,
but I wanted to remind you guysof a fun way you gave away tickets.
I thought it was super entertaining andwould love to hear it done again.
(04:06):
A few years ago. You're goingto wait tickets for something. You
had people call in and ask youreally personal, challenging questions. If you
felt comfortable enough to answer the question. They didn't win the tickets, but
if you refuse to answer, theywon. I think the only thing that
was off limits was asking about salaries, since it was an obvious win.
But other than that, there wereno rules. I remember loving this bit,
(04:27):
surprised by some of the ones youguys actually answered. Would love for
you to do that again. That'sfrom Becky. We did this the other
day. It was ask us anything, and it wasn't for concert tickets.
It was just a matter of like, what did people ask us? Jenny?
So remember we Okay? I wasasked some real estate questions because I
date a real like answers the realestate agent. You. Oh gosh,
(04:53):
my brain's not thinking right now.I can't remember. That's kind of how
I am with the show. Peoplewill say do you I remember this?
And a lot of the time Ido, but so many times I don't.
They'll be like, do you rememberthe time that you had so and
so in and they did this?And I'll be like, I really don't,
because I think I've done so manyradio shows that I don't hang on
to them. You know, Idon't really unless something really amazing happens.
(05:16):
It's kind of like you know,each show is special and fun, but
I let it go. I don'treally hang on to it. Yeah,
right, but let's do that.But we can do that again. Maybe
you have for like concert tickets laterin the week. Now, let's do
it. Do we have Nicki Minaj'stickets tomorrow? We don't. We have
another pair of tickets for something,but I'll have to figure out what that
is because I'm not sure. Maybewe can do that tomorrow. So here's
(05:38):
I mean a little something that youmight not know. We plan the show
when we get off the show atten o'clock. When we're done with the
show at ten, we go getsomething to eat, go to the bathroom,
get something to drink, whatever,and then we beat back in the
studio and we plan the show today. Because I'm in Phoenix, I got
a plane to catch, so Iwon't be able to help plan the show
(05:58):
until a little bit later. Butthere's something that if you hear it on
the show on Tuesday, you'll belike, oh, they thought of that
bit because of Becky during the MinnesotaGoodbye. So what are the tickets we're
giving away tomorrow? Do you remember? Yes, it's AJR tickets and it's
two pairs for each time, soyou give four tickets. And another bit
we can do is the three whatwe call last time we did the three
(06:20):
letter game. Yeah letters, right, yeah, I think letter Look at
us. We can't remember anything wedo on the show. Okay, next
one, my husband and I arecelebrating our four year anniversary in June,
and we were thinking about a weekand away from our two young kiddos.
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Where is a weekend spot that yourecommend in state. We're not into city
living and we love going up north, but we're not looking at the typical
Duluth or normal Minnesota places. Thanksfor your help. Happy Monday from Megan
in Maple Lake, Minnesota. Andshe asked for a staff writer sticker,
and I will send one out.Okay, I'm gonna throw out something that's
(07:02):
a little bit weird. I likeRedwood Falls and the casino out there.
I think I don't know what it'scalled, but there's a casino about by
Redwood Falls, and Redwood Falls iskind of beautiful and it's scenic and it's
in the River Valley and there's acasino there, So I'll throw that out.
I would also throw out pipestone Minnesotaif you're into history and nature,
(07:23):
because there's the Pipestone Monument and thenatives still carved pipestone, which is like
a really soft rock that they usedto literally make pipes out of and only
natives can carve and quarry and minethe pipestone, and it's just super cool.
And there's a walk around with abunch of waterfalls, and there's an
old inn that I might still beopen anyway, there's give me a spot
(07:44):
Jenny to check out for a weekin getaway. I mean, I just
the north Shore is great. Waitdid they say where they're where they're from
Lake? Okay, I was gonnasay the north Shore is great because that
wouldn't be too far from you.Then I mean it's still a drive.
But Crosby, Minnesota US fun too. Cayuna, I know, just I
think they're opening their trails up thisweekend. If you happen to be into
mountain biking, I think those openedup either this past weekend or this coming
(08:07):
weekend. And then, I mean, I don't know those are like the
main spats. I don't really knowa ton about southern Minnesota. Okay,
when Nonah's beautiful and has some bluffsthat you can hide out. What Jenny,
that's a really good one. Ithought, Nona, Minnesota, because
that is beautiful, Kay Dave,Not to beat a dead horse. But
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on the topic of death and puttingtogether a will, I just did this
with my dad and all it tookwas a consultation with an attorney about an
hour to find out what his needsor wants are. He filled out a
brief questionnaire ahead of time. Theattorney had the will together and done the
next day. How did this comeup on the show? We were talking
about wills on the show, Jenny, No, it was on the Minnesota
Goodbye where someone was talking about orhonestly, I can't remember anymore. What
(08:52):
was on the show. Someone hadtalked about having an expert on about like
death, but then another person hadbefore that I think had email then saying
that they work in the funeral industryand that they really enjoy what they're doing
because it's a really hard time forfamilies to go through and they like to
be able to provide the support thatthey can during a really hard time.
(09:13):
Okay, yeah, I mean,you got any thoughts on that? Let
us know. Send that to RyanShow at katiewidebeat dot com. I'll be
honest with you, that is kindof all we've got for emails today.
But I will bring up something thatI thought was really awesome. What I
read an article that talks about howso many of us we're not depressed,
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we don't have depression, but wefeel our life is like just kind of
blah and bland. And every dayyou get up and you go to work,
and then you come home, andthen you go to cub and you
do your laundry, and then youwatch TV and you go to bed,
and then you get up and yougo to work and you go and it's
(10:01):
the same, and you feel justkind of down because you don't really feel
growth, and so they call itlanguishing, and that basically means you're not
really looking forward to anything. Youdon't really feel like you're growing as a
human. You just kind of feelstuck in a rut. And when I
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thought about it, I have beenfeeling, for you know, off and
on here and there, a littlebit languishing. And by that I mean
I get up and I love doingthe show. Don't get me wrong.
I get up, I play wordle, I stop at Caribou, I come
in and I do the show.We're done by about noon. I go
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to the gym. It's just it'sthe same. And so I was kind
of languishing. And they say thisis so common, and a lot of
people think they're depressed. They're notdepressed, you're just languishing. And the
reason I bring it up is becauseI've known myself and also some friends of
mine. I'm not going to namethem, but they feel like they just
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do the same thing. They're notgrowing, they don't have anything really to
look forward to. Maybe their jobis not rewarding like they wish it was,
and so they're languishing. So whatis the cure for languishing? And
I did a screenshot on my phone. Do you want to hear it?
Yeah, okay, So there arefive things that can help you feel better
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and so you can flourish instead oflanguish. And I really like this one.
Number one helping other people. Andthey were very specific. They said,
it's not like buying somebody a cupof coffee or holding the door.
It's like volunteering at like a Seniorsitting or center, or at the Maine
Society, or becoming a Girl Scoutleader or volunteering, helping other people,
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going over your mom's house and helpingher pack up so she can move,
or whatever. It is helping otherpeople because we can't really focus on ourselves
if we're helping other people. Onanother one, learns something new. So
if you if you maybe maybe it'slearn an instrument or learn how to crochet
or code or play guitar or something. So learn something new. Another one
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is playing, So instead of sittingaround moping, go out and play,
or play your video games or playwhatever. If you want to get your
paddle board out this summer and goplay, or get your bike out and
you know, buy yourself a mountainbike, whatever, go play. Another
one. I really like this oneengaging in spiritual or religious practices. Okay,
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so maybe not you're like, I'mnot really religious. Then find something
spiritual. Okay, I mean there'sthere's you know, there's Christianity, there's
all kinds of different things. Ifyou're not into Christianity, or maybe you're
burnt out on the religion that yougrew up in, find something spiritual,
spiritual. And then another one,a big one is socializing because these will
help you get out of the rut. If you go spend time with other
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people, go to a trivia night, go play cribbage with a friend.
I'm probably gonna go out at leastonce or twice this week and go to
a trivia night, or go playcribbage with a friend, because I'm getting
real tired of sitting around the houseat night. And so I'll tell SU's
gonna be like, you know what, You're gonna go work at your store,
I'm gonna go play cribbage, orI'm gonna go to trivia night.
So there are five different things youmissed them. They are helping other people
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learn something new, playing the engagein spiritual or religious practices, and socializing.
Do you do all those, Jenny, you're not particularly religious, yeah,
I know, besides the religious one. Yeah, for the most part.
I think my main thing a lotlike that. I like to do
when i'm feeling kind of in thatrut or something is either like journal or
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cook or mostly bake because cooking's notthat fun for me. Baking though,
is like kind of a creative outletfor me. So I just feel like
anytime I do something creative, italways changes my mental state. You know,
totally see that because I know youlove to cook, because I saw
your like of whatever peanut butter muffinsor whatever this weekend. Yeah, that
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is one of your things you loveto do that. I made a croc
pot meal for Chase and Maddie andSusan and I last night, or I
made it yesterday, and it wasactually really good. It was like cheeseburger
cast role. Yeah, they callit a cast role here, but we
call it and it was it wasso easy and it was so good,
and I just felt really good aboutlet me tell you, I got to
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help Chase and Mattie all weekend andit really did just feel good to feel
needed. And I helped with thebaby, and I went shopping and I
paid for a couple of things becausethey're a young couple without a lot of
money, and so we hung shelvingand we just, you know, I
felt really good about helping somebody.So that put me in a good mood.
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Yeah. It always, I wasgonna say, helping people out always
feels good, like, and youdon't really realize that because sometimes you're like,
ugh, I don't want to doIt's like I don't want to come
help you move this college. Butthen you go do it, and you're
like, Okay, it wasn't bad. You think some people are just naturally
that way they want to help otherpeople. And then there are people who
expect help all the time, butit never occurs to them to help other
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people. Yes, I absolutely couldthink of people on both sides of the
spectrum on that one. In mylife, I'll tell you a quick story,
we'll wrap it up. My dadlived into his eighties. He was
eighty eight years old when he died, and he used to go to this
country music thing every Friday night atthe community center, which was like the
VFW or whatever, and they hewould get there early and set up the
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chairs, and he would stay lateafterward and he'd help put away the chairs.
And I would look at him andhe'd be like, Dad, you're
eighty seven years old. You're carryingaround a couple of folding chairs. Meantime,
there are guys that are thirty yearsold stand around drinking coffee, chit
chatting with other people that aren't helpingat all. And I think, honestly,
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to some people, it's such anatural to jump in and help,
and with some people it is nothingthat ever occurs to them. They don't.
It doesn't even occur to them.We used to have somebody in our
Scout troop and they were such anice person, but they would show up
at Scout events. Remember one timeI was making pancakes and Susan was making
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bacon, and we're like cleaning andcooking in this and they sat there and
eating and chatting to us, butthey never volunteered to like help, can
I help you do anything? Doneed any help with anything? And they
would do that consistently, and therewere such nice people. And I told
Susan, I said, I justdon't think it ever occurs to them to
help other people. They just don't. So I feel like I will admit
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that it took me probably a littlebit longer in life to be that more
helpful person because my older sister alwayswas like that. And then it's like
I was kind of like the lazyone at holidays that never really wanted to
help with the dishes or whatever itwas. But now I always offered a
help, but it definitely took mea little bit longer, whereas my older
sister was just always on top ofthat. So funny, something naturally curs
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a little tip you remind me islike, if you really want to suck
up to the in laws, helpwash the dishes when you go over there.
So in other words, like hey, can I help you put the
dishes away? Can I help youwith anything? Because mom or dad or
whoever's doing the majority of the cookingor cleaning, They're like, yeah,
they might go no, I gotthis, go sit down, but I
think they'll really be impressed. Susanused to suck up to my mom and
(17:26):
dad all the time with that,Oh I'll make breakfast. They're like,
oh, Susan's so nice. I'mlike, yes, she's putting on an
app I mean she is nice.Sorry, that's it for the Minnesota goodbye.
Send your emails to Ryan's show atKADIWB dot com and I'll be back
in the studio tomorrow so the audioquality will be better. Yes, and
have a great day and we'll seeyou then.
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