Man About Town

We talk about the North Shore, dealing with heartbreak, and religion.

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Today, I'm being in a social I am going to
my friend Matt's house, who is a magician, and we're
gonna do a little magic hang, which I know sounds
really like, okay, super nerdy, and get I get it.

Speaker 2 (00:10):
It is.

Speaker 1 (00:10):
It's kind of like if you were a stamp collector
and you're gonna go to your stamp meeting, stamp club meeting.
It's super nerdy. But we both like magic. And he's
a nice guy. He's the guy who owns Scream Town. Nice, yeah, Screamtown.
So he's an entrepreneur and I don't know him very well,
but we hit it off pretty well. So I'm gonna
go do that. I'm also pledged to go have a
beer with my friend Mike in Colorado and take my

(00:32):
sister's Sharon and my sisters to her birthday dinner in
Colorado next Tuesday. So I'm trying to be more out there,
you know what I mean, You're trying to be.

Speaker 3 (00:42):
A man about town.

Speaker 4 (00:43):
I was confused for a second. I was like, what
you're doing this? And then you're going to be in
Colorado tonight?

Speaker 1 (00:47):
No no, no, and then tomorrow my friend Kelly a cop,
she's a cop, in Coon Rapids is her birthday or
thirty fifth birthday, and she's having a birthday party tomorrow
at five at her home in near Coon Rapids or Fridley.
And my only hesitation not to go is driving that
time of the day from chan Hassen too Fridley.

Speaker 5 (01:06):
It's going to become it's at five. Yeah, can you
show up like later?

Speaker 1 (01:12):
I could, and I think I could probably show up
at like seven, but then I don't want to get
home at nine.

Speaker 2 (01:16):
You know, you're right.

Speaker 5 (01:17):
I think staying for like an hour is plenty of time.

Speaker 1 (01:21):
Yeah, but if I show up at seven, I stay
until eight and then I drive home, that means I
have to leave at six. I won't get home till
I don't know. So sometimes being social is a little
bit of a challenge.

Speaker 5 (01:31):
So but good for you. You're putting yourself out there, buddy.

Speaker 1 (01:34):
Yeah, thanks Bailey. All right, jumping into don't use my
name Jenny in the morning show crew, I want to
share my thoughts on your hot take about the north Shore.
Jenny was in the north Shore of the weekend. You
said to become a douchier, it become doucheer.

Speaker 2 (01:50):
Yeah, tell me what you mean. By that, I just.

Speaker 4 (01:52):
Think that I mean like I feel like a pot
call in the kettle, because I know that I'm a
crazy tourist too, but I just feel like it's a
lot of people who don't necessarily go for the nature aspect.
They just go for the Instagram pictures and then, yes,
I generalize this, but I feel like it's a bunch
of Audi's and BMW's and Teslas and just like people

(02:12):
driving like assholes and thinking that they're so cool because
they got a cool car.

Speaker 5 (02:16):
Kind of vibe.

Speaker 4 (02:17):
That's what I started to see when I was there
this past week.

Speaker 1 (02:22):
They go on to say, I agree, has become increasingly
busy over the past few years. I've been visiting Superior
National Forests for over eight years to enjoy rustic camping, hiking, stargazing, fishing,
and hunting. I recently upgraded to a Tesla model Why
and while people might consider them douchey, it actually makes
a fantastic camper. My fiance and I can comfortably sleep

(02:44):
in the back. It has a camp mode, which regulates
the temperature while we sleep. The glass roof is perfect
for stargazing at night and waking up to beautiful morning Skies.
We've taken the Model wide to the north Shore multiple
times in a ten day camping trip through Colorado last year.
URV campsites are ideal to plug in and have a
full charge for the next day's adventures. Last weekend, we

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went camping in Grand Ray, numerous hikes through the state
park and Superior Hiking Trail. We even went off roading
all the way up to Carlton Peak. Nice even you
shared some great moments from your trips this weekend over
social media. It's interesting how we enjoy capturing our experiences
in different ways. I hope this brings a different insight
knowing that everyone is just there to take pictures at

(03:26):
the incredibly easily accessible spots. We genuinely love unplugging from
life and embracing the great outdoors. Thanks for sharing your
hot take and engaging discussions. Now I'm gonna before you respond,
I just want to say, this is the way you
disagree with someone, instead of saying, Jenny is such a
fucking full of shit whatever. Can't believe that you would make.

(03:48):
I mean, that's how a lot of people would respond
to somebody who says something that they don't agree with.
So I will applaud you without saying your name, for
being kind about the whole thing.

Speaker 4 (04:00):
Yeah, I do think you did that very respectfully. I
appreciate that. And also I just want to say I'm
not saying every single person that drives a BMW or
a Tesla or whatever is a douche. I just am
saying that what I witnessed over the weekend, those were
kind of the people that were a little bit annoying.

Speaker 5 (04:16):
And I just I don't know.

Speaker 4 (04:17):
I like to go to the North Shore to enjoy
the nature, and yes, I did share a lot of
that on my social media, but I also have about
like three hundred other like pictures and videos I did
not share that are just for me. Okay, that's a lot,
three hundreds a lot, but I have a lot of
other things that I did that I did not share.
So anyways, everyone, I encourage everyone to get out and

(04:39):
enjoy nature. I just don't like it when people don't
know how to park in a parking lot get around.
It's kind of just like, fuck, what are we doing here?
And then like the experience becomes a little.

Speaker 1 (04:50):
Less I think that some people have really not grown
up to the point where they realize they're not the
main character, and I think that sometime that can be
the problem people who litter, who think, well, I'm never
going to see this litter again, so why should I care?
Or somebody else's problem, Or I'm not going to clean
up my dog poop because my dog is a little
bit more special and I'll just leave it there and

(05:13):
somebody else will pick it up, so all right. Next
one is also involving Jenny. Uh, don't say my name.
I've been listening to this show for over fifteen years
and love getting to start my mornings with you guys.

Speaker 2 (05:25):
Thank you.

Speaker 1 (05:26):
I'm looking for some advice on getting over the initial
pain of a breakup. For context, my boyfriend of four
years and I just ended things, and the roller coaster
of emotions i'm feeling right now is much harder than
I thought it would be. Seeing how Jenny got through
her breakups so inspiring, and I'm writing to see if
you guys have any words of encouragement or helpful ideas

(05:47):
on getting through the first few weeks of hurting and
missing the person. Thanks again for always keeping me company
and keeping me distracted. Do you even want to answer this, Jenny?

Speaker 4 (05:57):
I think I mean I can give you, like some advice.
I'm obviously not the end all be all of advice,
but I would say that unfortunately, you are going to
feel so sad and like pretty lost because you were
with that person for four years. That became your life
and you have to learn how to live without that
person now.

Speaker 5 (06:14):
And it's weird.

Speaker 4 (06:15):
It's a really really weird feeling to go from talking
to someone and being around them every day to like nothing.
It's just it's a strange feeling. So I think you
just have to allow yourself to, as corny as it sounds,
feel the feels, let the emotions out. Don't like bottle
that shit up because it sucks, And I don't know.

(06:36):
My only advice is, I think the only way you
can truly get over someone if you have no hope
of being with them again, Like if you think this
is it, you're done, is you really have to go
like no contact. You shouldn't talk to them, you shouldn't
look at photos of them, you shouldn't stock your social
media because every time you do that, you're basically just
starting from zero again and you're starting to get over

(06:58):
them again because you just looked at this photo and
stuff so I think it's just best to like cut
them out.

Speaker 2 (07:05):
Easier said than done, though.

Speaker 4 (07:06):
Oh absolutely, I fully believe that. But like I've gone
through heartbreak and that's what helps me.

Speaker 1 (07:13):
That's some good advice. And I think that, you know, yeah,
letting yourself grieve for lack of a better word, because
it is it's a big loss. You know, there's that
person that was there. They were your person for X
amount of years, in this case four years, and all
of a sudden boom, that person that you told everything too,

(07:34):
that understood you. They're gone, but they're not dead, no,
which I've heard actually makes it painful in a different
way because when they're dead, at least you didn't lose them.
I'm not saying dead is easier, but it's different. Let's
just say next one hello, they're awesome friends. Specifically for Dave,

(07:54):
I recall him mentioned the other day that his boy
curson lives in North Hollywood. There was a Bank of America.
There was the site of a famous police shootout with
two bank robbers in nineteen ninety seven. It's a fairly
famous shootout in police history, and I was curious to
know if Dave knew a if the bank is still there,
and b does Carson live there? Y'all keep darting and licking.

(08:16):
Now you hear that is from Kyle. I know the
bank robbery you're talking about. We won't spend a lot
of time on it because I think Kyle, you and
I are probably the only two people who are interested
in this one. But it is a very famous bank
robbery where two guys came in with all kinds of
body armor from head to foot body armor and like
heavy heavy weaponry, and the police, local police, they couldn't

(08:38):
even shoot at them. I mean they could, but it
wouldn't do any good because their rifles weren't powerful enough.
So they had to go to a local sporting goods
store down the road, and the sporting goods store manager
owner said, yeah, take these high powered rifles so you
can shoot because the police were out gunned. And so
these guys got shot in the body armor menny men

(08:59):
men any times until they finally died. But they were
like crouching behind cars and laying on the ground behind
a bush. And yeah, it was movie, yeah, I mean
it was, and there's video of it because like news
crews were around too, So very interesting.

Speaker 2 (09:15):
Thank you. Kyle.

Speaker 1 (09:17):
Next one says, and by the way, remember yesterday we
couldn't do the Minnesota Goodbye because we recorded it and
then it froze up and we tried it three times.
So this time, let me double check. I want to
make sure the waveform is still there.

Speaker 5 (09:31):
Oh that that.

Speaker 1 (09:34):
Okay for now? All right, we got into the topic
of car washes. So Kelly says, you were talking about
car washes, and I will say there are different types.
Some of them you line up your wheel into the
mechanism and pulls your car along through the car wash,
and some just have you drive onto a platform.

Speaker 2 (09:51):
Things.

Speaker 1 (09:51):
The ones where we have to DeLine your car up
intimidate me because I'm never confident in my ability to
get into the correct spot. I feel that, but I've
never actually had any issues. Well, there are little pipes
that kind of guide your tire into the right spot.
The ones that I can think of, you get a
lineup or mister smister silver Star and tidal wave. I

(10:12):
prefer Tommy's because you don't have to line up exactly.
You drive onto a moving platform. Some car washes also
have people spraying your car at the start, and I
don't like those either. Because it feels awkward, makes me
feel lazy that somebody else is physically washing my car
for me. Tommy's doesn't have that. Also, the host is
to vacuum your cars. The big car wash places are

(10:33):
usually free even if you don't get a car wash.
Good luck from Kelly. Any thoughts on the car wash email.

Speaker 4 (10:40):
I don't think I was here for the original conversation.

Speaker 5 (10:42):
It was more of a bah.

Speaker 3 (10:43):
We were just talking about the car wash places that
are just a car wash where you like, go up
and they have all of their vacuums in a line
and you can I've just been intimidated to go into
any of those, which is why I haven't. But I'm
always curious. I'm just like, oh, I just want somebody
to go with me first time, to tell me how
to do it so then I can do it on

(11:04):
my own at think point.

Speaker 4 (11:05):
So the first time I ever went into one of those,
unbeknownst to me that I had to do everything myself. Yeah,
a guy saw me struggling so bad that he came
over and like literally pretty much.

Speaker 5 (11:15):
Washed my car from me because I have no idea
what I was doing.

Speaker 1 (11:20):
Mikayla writes in Random Thought has anybody thought of how
you only lose your virginity once, but you can take
other people's virginity. I'll be honest with you, Mikayla, and no,
I've never thought about that one. Do you think more
men or women have taken others? As a female back
in the day, I took three men's virginity. I keep

(11:41):
putting it in quotes because I don't like statum in that way,
but not sure what other way to put it. I've
only been with two girls that I am pretty sure
they were virgins. One was my very first girlfriend, and
I found out later that I might not have been
her first, but she told me I was because she
didn't want to tell me that she was not. And
then another was just a random girl that I knew

(12:03):
in Ohio and I totally believed her. But I don't
know anybody else.

Speaker 4 (12:10):
Yeah, I don't think I've ever taken anyone's virginity, that's
for sure. But I do know my best friend in
high school's brother was known as the cherry Popper because
he really took a lot of people's virginities.

Speaker 3 (12:23):
Yeah, I think it is more common for men to
take than women, because I think men sleep with more
people than women.

Speaker 2 (12:29):
That totally makes sense in general. Do the math for
statistics wise, Yeah, okay.

Speaker 1 (12:34):
Hold on one second. I'm going through messages that I
deleted yesterday and trying to find ones that they know.

Speaker 3 (12:41):
A bunch of them were about car washes. Yeah, so
potentially skip car wash ones and.

Speaker 4 (12:45):
Know that we read it yesterday and we responded to it. However,
now we can't remember what we read.

Speaker 3 (12:51):
What we did, true, true, true, But we appreciate all
the car wash material.

Speaker 1 (12:57):
Uh, okay, some of them are a little bit interesting.

Speaker 2 (13:01):
That one.

Speaker 1 (13:01):
I won't read that one. I won't read I just
read that one. Here comes one and we just read
that one. I'm sorry for doing this. This is so unprofessional.

Speaker 4 (13:12):
Yeah, but whouldn't you say this podcast is pretty unprofessional.

Speaker 1 (13:15):
I would agree with that. Yeah, so you know what,
I apologize. But there's gonna be some ones that we
kind of mixed up in here, because again, yesterday we
recorded twelve or so minutes of it, and then I
reached over to push stop because we needed to take
a break to talk on the radio, and it wouldn't stop.
So I'm pushing stop, and then finally I had to
close the program. Which usually fixes the problem, but it

(13:37):
deleted everything that we had just recorded, so we're a
little bit oh, I don't know, trying to figure things out. Okay,
here's one Hello, longtime listener since the nineties. It hit
me today with my with my kids who were eight,
five and two, said can you turn on KTWB. I've
been listening to you that long. It just hit me.

(13:57):
I wanted to say thank you for being more solid,
consistent than most friends and boyfriend and even some family.
Being able to count on your morning show, your voice
and your advice and jokes and honestly the whole station
is something I won't take for granted. It seems silly
at first to send you this email and maybe you
get it all the time. No, we don't. Not really.

(14:18):
Maybe you don't, though, that's why I decided to send it.
Your even feature you even featured me on a segment
in the early morning about knowing someone super spoiled. I
almost won. So anyway, you rock. Thanks again, and please no,
I will ball when you retire like a tiny baby.
Please don't ever retire. Love you from Stacy.

Speaker 2 (14:37):
You know what.

Speaker 1 (14:37):
I love that, Stacy. I think that's one of the
things that I've said it before that I've always loved
about radio is it is connection, it's companionship, And I
think that's one of the things. Like I was talking
to a friend of mine just this morning on the
way into work, and we were talking about how her
kids don't listen to the radio. They stream they Spotify. Yeah,
and I get that that's for music. If you want music,

(15:00):
radio is still a great option, but radio is more
and more becoming a connection for people, and people need
a connection. They don't have someone to hug at the
end of the day. Sometimes, even if you're in a relationship,
you don't have someone to hug at the end of
the day. And I think that's you know, you're not

(15:21):
gonna hug us necessarily, but I think that you feel
a connection. So when we tell something about how, you know,
Bailey like sharded herself the other day in line at
J C. Penny, you might say I've done that too.
Or when you say, like Dave banged a nerf ball,
you might say, you disgusting pig. How could you bet?

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So I think there's a connection that Spotify doesn't give you.

Speaker 4 (15:48):
I agree, and I would be shocked if anyone else
had a nerf ball story.

Speaker 5 (15:52):
But hey, maybe someone maybe they do email in why
are you looking at it?

Speaker 1 (15:56):
Well, I'm trying to think women wouldn't have a herfball
story necessarily, but maybe some other kind of a story. Yeah,
like a bottle of pepto bismol.

Speaker 2 (16:05):
You know what I mean.

Speaker 1 (16:06):
You're like, you know, you're like looking around the house
and you're kind of horny, and you're like, oh, well
there's a bottle of pepto bismol. Now don't do it
with the cap on because the cap will get jammed
up your heineye.

Speaker 2 (16:16):
You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 4 (16:16):
You're just gonna give yourself a ugi with pepto bismo.

Speaker 2 (16:19):
No, you take leave the there's some safety.

Speaker 1 (16:23):
Well, the measuring cap is on the top, right, Yeah,
you don't want to put it in your heineye or
any other body part with the cap on that'll get
lodged inside. Take the measuring cap off, but leave the
black cap on of the pepto bismal.

Speaker 5 (16:33):
I thought you meant. I was like, you just want
that pink.

Speaker 1 (16:35):
You don't want that in your heiney. No you do not,
So maybe we lose Bailey, I think.

Speaker 3 (16:40):
Sometimes, Yeah, I've checked out of this conversation. I'll check
back in.

Speaker 5 (16:45):
Yeah, it's always been Dave.

Speaker 4 (16:46):
And I get a little too fucking weird with some
kind of sexual talk.

Speaker 3 (16:50):
And then I imagine I'm on a beach somewhere and
there's waves coming in seagulls.

Speaker 1 (16:55):
Heiney, Yeah, pepti bismos heiney right, And I'll give you
one more. I think we might have time for one more,
do we Jenny? Yeah, Okay, good, here we go. Stephanie
writes in Regular Contributor, I absolutely love the idea of
learning about different religions. On the Minnesota Goodbye. This came
up last week. It was a Jewish holiday, and I

(17:16):
believe her name was Tammy, but I'm not sure. Tracy
wrote in and said, well, here's what we Jewish people believe.

Speaker 2 (17:22):
Blah blah blah.

Speaker 1 (17:24):
I was brought up Catholic, never exposed to anything else.
It's to the point where my mom doesn't even want
to acknowledge other religions because she feels they are wrong.
I am purposely trying to expose my kid to all
different religions so she can learn about everything. It's so
important to learn what other religions and cultures out there
and are and understand why people think and feel the
way they do and where their customs come from. If

(17:46):
we could use the Minnesota Goodbye to have some sort
of exposure to different religions, I would appreciate it, and
I'm sure it would be helpful for others as well.
There's so many different religions and cultures out there, and
many of them are right in our neighborhoods. I was
able to go to a Jewish cedar seedar dinner during
Passover and I loved it. I just learned this year
what eating halala was.

Speaker 5 (18:09):
I don't know. I think it's just holla okay.

Speaker 1 (18:14):
Yeah, it's basically focusing the hanaa when animal is slaughtered.
If a cow is slaughtered in an inhumane, awful way,
the thought is that pain is tainting the meat. It
is killed in a peaceful, respectful way. That is halalala
hallal okay.

Speaker 5 (18:26):
I thought she was saying, like halla, which is a bread. Yeah,
that's what I thought. So halal is the way that
food is.

Speaker 2 (18:33):
Okay.

Speaker 1 (18:34):
After learning that, I feel like all meat should be
hallal right. Rabadan is a really cool holiday as well.
I was only supposed to Ramadan because a teacher's aid
in high school was celebrating that holiday and told us
about it. That's my two cents on the topic. I
loved learning, and learning can only help us grow as
people and help us understand others. You know, I grew
up in the Christian faith, but we were a very

(18:57):
mild Christian faith. We did believe in speaking in tongues.
We didn't believe in you know, going up and being
like we would do baptism as a baby, but we
didn't dunk your head in a tub or a creek
or anything like that. It was not fire and brimstone.
It was Bible versus Bible stories, Bible lessons. So we

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were a very benign form of Christianity.

Speaker 3 (19:21):
I agree same when I grew up our whole because
I'm also a Christian and our church was very love thy,
neighbor type. But I do remember, for like youth group
to be confirmed, we ended up going to a bunch
of different places of worship. So we went to a
Catholic church, but then we also went to a mosque,
and I think that we just went to those two.

(19:43):
But I've said forever and ever, which is kind of
what started this whole conversation that I would love to
go to like synagogue, but I'm nervous to go by myself,
so i want like one Jewish friend to go with me,
so I have someone to sit with and just observe.
I took like an intro to Judaism class like on
a couple of years ago, just because I was interested
in learning. More So I feel you with learning and

(20:04):
growing because you never know. My God could be the
right one. Your God could be the right one. Who knows,
I will.

Speaker 1 (20:10):
Say, and I want you to answer this too. But
I think that one thing is that there is something
in all of humans brains that searches that spiritual whatever
it is. I mean, like the Native Americans, they, you know,
they didn't need us Europeans to come over and say, hey,
there is some sort of a higher power. They discovered
on their own the need or the natural inclination to

(20:35):
seek out a higher power. And I think that's really
interesting because I think that there are so many things,
possibly in life that we can't explain ourselves that we
attribute to a higher power. Christians attributed to God and
Jesus and the Holy Spirit, the Holy Trinity. You know, yes, yeah,
and then you know, you'll get like Native Americans who

(20:56):
will attribute it to whatever they worship, or Jews or
whatever the religion is.

Speaker 4 (21:01):
I did not have as great of a church growing up,
but I did go to church every Sunday. I was
confirmed all that good stuff, but mine was a little
bit less inclusive, not a little They were not Yeah,
they were not very kumbaya. They were very made other
religions seem bad. The Christian faith was the only faith,
and it was like not a great what's it called

(21:24):
denomination of I was Lutheran, and so yeah, I would
say I am a little scarred from some of the
stuff that happened in like my Catechism classes.

Speaker 5 (21:35):
Like there, I think I've said this before.

Speaker 4 (21:37):
I genuinely think I had like one of my first
panic attacks during one of those classes because we watched
some movie about Mormonism and it was really hateful towards
the Mormon religion and it made me so uncomfortable. That
makes me sad, and I cried and I left and
my mom had to come pick me up.

Speaker 5 (21:55):
And my mom was like, oh, she probably just ate
too much Halloween candy.

Speaker 4 (21:58):
Her stomach hurts, and I'm like, nah, this was different
than like I too much chocolate.

Speaker 5 (22:02):
This was like I didn't feel comfortable. Yeah I was,
but I didn't understand it back then.

Speaker 1 (22:06):
So jez we it's if you step back and look
at any religion, there's everything in probably any religion where
you got to go. Are you serious, Clark? I mean,
you know you look at like I mean, I'll take
Christianity to say, okay, well, we're to believe that Jesus

(22:27):
was born to a virgin only two thousand years ago.
Why did God wait so long to send Jesus to
the people? And so we're to believe that Jesus before
the age of telecommunications lived in the Middle East. How
are people in Central America to learn about the Lord

(22:47):
and Savior. So there's a lot of things where you
have to go. I believe it on faith, right, you
know what I mean?

Speaker 2 (22:53):
Right? And that is why we call it faith. Yeah.

Speaker 1 (22:56):
And you look at the Mormon religion and they made
fun of it on South Park and they made of
it on like something else. And it's like Joseph Smith
believed that he found these gold plates or copper plates
under a tree, only he could translate them by wearing
like magic glasses. Or something like that. And so you
kind of look at the Mormon religion and it's easy

(23:17):
to look at a religion and say, you serious, Clark,
But I think any religion has got some the spirituality
element that you have to go I have faith in it. Yeah,
but here's what I'll say about Mormons. They're fucking awesome people.
They're kind, and they live a clean life, and they're
usually healthy, and they're prosperous. They stay busy. So you

(23:43):
look at Mormon and I don't know about in general.
I mean I think speaking in general terms, they're thriving people.

Speaker 2 (23:51):
So you can't really argue with that. So it works well.

Speaker 4 (23:53):
There is a show called The Secret Lives of Mormon
Wives there you would be the very surprise.

Speaker 2 (24:00):
But yes, I think they're the outliers.

Speaker 1 (24:02):
Yeah, that is going to do it for the Minnesota
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