March 28, 2025 • 7 mins
We get an email asking about bouquet tosses as weddings: are they outdated?
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
So we get a text message that said we're getting
married in later this summer. Should I still do a
bouquet toss? And I don't know, don't I don't know.
They were a tradition for a very long time, and
all the single women would stand up and the bride
would throw the bouquet over her shoulder, and then they
would try to catch it, and then the next one
(00:20):
to catch it would get married. I don't know whether
that is a thing anymore or not. I'm going to
say that ben to the most weddings lately, because you're
in that demographic where all your friends are getting married.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
Jenny, Yeah, I think I have like three or four
last summer. I don't remember a bouquetue toss at any
of them, really, honestly, I don't. But yeah, I think
it's a I wouldn't say it's outdated. I think you
do it if you want to do it. But I
don't think people do it as often as they used to.
Speaker 3 (00:46):
Yeah, Okay, in general, people are like veering away from tradition,
but they won't make like a big deal about it,
like we're not going to do a bouquet toss at
this wedding because it's a tradition we want to do
away with.
Speaker 4 (00:57):
They'll just not do it, Okay, Yeah, we don't get it.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
Make an announcement. Yeah, you've been to some weddings lately,
you're twenty three. Have people do they do? I mean,
if you've been to weddings where they do a boque toss, yeah,
plenty of them. I seen them do the bouquet toss.
Speaker 5 (01:09):
What I think is starting to be outdated is the
garter thing that the guys do. They like they throw
a garter and the guy catches it, and then they
and the person the woman that caught the bouquet, he'll
like shimmy up her skirt and like try to put
it up her leg, throw up her dress or whatever.
Speaker 4 (01:25):
That's how that works from your perspective, or you think so.
Speaker 1 (01:28):
I think the groom takes the garter off the bride, yes,
then throws it to all the groom the single guys.
Speaker 4 (01:36):
Yeah, yeah, which that is gross to me.
Speaker 6 (01:38):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (01:39):
And then after that they the guy that caught the garter,
and then the woman that caught the bouquet, they'll do
like a little thing in the chair, right, Is that
not how that goes?
Speaker 7 (01:46):
H Yeah, I've not seen that, but I know what
you're you're talking about, because I think it's it's the
groom that does it to the bride and that's what
happens in the chair. Because if that was the case,
and it's like, okay, now that you caught the bouquet,
you have to have this random dude put this garter
on you.
Speaker 4 (02:01):
I wouldn't even go out to grab the bouquet just
for the You.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
Would love a random dude putting a guard.
Speaker 4 (02:08):
Yes, your mouth breather probably.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
Well you deserve maybe you would deserve a mouth.
Speaker 4 (02:14):
I'd be like, the chicks have large talons.
Speaker 1 (02:21):
Text messages, should you still do a bouquet toss at
a wedding, Well, we'll leave it up to you. They
really don't know a text message. I got married in
twenty eighteen and did not do a bouquet toss or
the garter thing being taken off or the dollar dance.
How embarrassing. Another one says, there's no wedding traditions that
anyone has to do anymore. It's your wedding. Do whatever
(02:41):
you want. You want to do the bouquet toss, then
do it. I think that's the right answer. If you
want to do it, then do it. But I think
that we're all a little bit self conscious, like, Okay,
well if I do the bouquet toss, or people are
gonna think, well, wow, Jenny's wedding is really like she's
really behind the times. You don't do this.
Speaker 4 (02:57):
Anymore, And I don't think you do that.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
But I think that you need to leave the people
alone who don't want to get up and be a
part of the bouquet toss because I feel like I'm
always right out on the floor for it, and it's
like I don't want to be there, like I don't
care about this tradition. Like, but then I know if
they enough people don't get up, it's not there's no
point of tossing the right there's.
Speaker 1 (03:16):
Only like four girls and it's usually caught by like
a four year old girl or something. Right text messages,
we'll just see what we But what people are saying,
I didn't do a bouque toss at my wedding because
a lot of my friends and family were already married.
Thanks for the text that KDWGB one. My fiance and
I early twenties, we are doing a bouque toss for
ours biggest thing we want to make sure that doesn't happen.
(03:37):
Is becoming a more common thing to see is people
plan ahead and the girl and get the girl to
catch it, and then right after the boy of that
girl will propose to her at the wedding f that
it's our day, not theirs. Oh so people will plan yeah,
because you know, you know, the tradition is the woman
who catches the bouquets the next one to get married.
(03:57):
And back in the sixties or seventies or what ever,
that was a woman's goal in cliche society. She can't
wait to get married. She's eighteen now she needs to
get married. But yeah, don't set it up. Never propose
at somebody else's wedding.
Speaker 4 (04:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 7 (04:15):
Another person texted in saying weddings have been ruined by
people proposing on other people's dimes. I've never seen a
proposal happen at a wedding.
Speaker 1 (04:21):
I've only heard.
Speaker 4 (04:22):
People complain about it that it seems so rude. Have
you never seen that either?
Speaker 1 (04:25):
Don't make the wedding about that is the most selfish thing. Like,
I don't know what I would say if somebody did that.
If Carson was getting married, he would he's my last
unweed kid. If he was getting married and his buddy
Jake stood up and it's like I want to take
this opportunity to propose to Morgan, I'd be like, you
two can get out of here right now. Then I'd
take the fire extinguisher and I'd spray them down just
(04:48):
to make.
Speaker 4 (04:48):
Sure they laugh.
Speaker 7 (04:49):
Okay, we have a text that a couple of people
are texting and saying, I'm not doing a bouquet toss.
I had a bouquet made identical to mine, and I'm
using the toss time to surprise my mom with the
bouquet since mothers of a bride don't really get as
much recognition. And apparently that's like a new trend, is
that you give your bouquet to your mother.
Speaker 4 (05:07):
That's a cue that is very sweet.
Speaker 1 (05:10):
Yeah, well, wedding photographer text in with an answer. These
trends are quickly declining. Couples are opened to do different
things and break tradition. Look online and find out what
is Maybe there's something else you want to do.
Speaker 7 (05:20):
Yeah, I mean I've seen a lot of different traditions
that have started in weddings, like the unity candle or
when they like tie their hands together, do like hand fasting,
and there's like so many different.
Speaker 4 (05:32):
Things now and fast.
Speaker 7 (05:34):
Yeah, it's like a it's like a Scottish or Irish
thing or something where you like tie your hands together
and you say something I don't know meaningful, but I've
seen the candle thing. I've seen like the sand where
they poured, Yeah, the unity sand, all of that jazz,
And I mean, hey, if you're into that, going for
and that's the thing.
Speaker 4 (05:51):
Is you do whatever you want.
Speaker 1 (05:52):
If you want to have your dogs walk down the
aisle with you, I think it's corny, but if they
if you want to and you do it.
Speaker 4 (06:01):
The dogs are you le I am?
Speaker 2 (06:03):
Because I think dogs are just as much a part
of some people's family as kids are. So if you
have a kid who's like the three year old ring bear,
why would your dogs not.
Speaker 4 (06:11):
Be able to do that? You know, you know what
you do?
Speaker 2 (06:14):
You Sheill has a funny story about what her daughter
did at her wedding.
Speaker 1 (06:18):
Sheila, we were talking about whether bouquet tosses are still
a thing of weddings and we got kind of off topic.
So we're all for it. What do you want to
ask about?
Speaker 6 (06:26):
Well, what I was going to tell you about is people.
That's probably not the tradition. But my daughter decided to
throw a burritle from Taco Bell and I don't know
who caught it, but I know later that night we
were drunk, so we went back in a room and
ate it.
Speaker 4 (06:42):
I'm hoping it was still wrapped in the paper wrapper.
Speaker 6 (06:44):
Then I guess at that point we didn't even care anything.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
Okay, that's my girl, that's my girl. I think that's
great when you went into if you're listening, next time
you get married, be like, we're not doing a bouquet toss.
We got a seven layer burrito we're going to toss instead.
Speaker 4 (06:58):
I love it
So we get a text message that said we're getting
married in later this summer. Should I still do a
bouquet toss? And I don't know, don't I don't know.
They were a tradition for a very long time, and
all the single women would stand up and the bride
would throw the bouquet over her shoulder, and then they
would try to catch it, and then the next one
(00:20):
to catch it would get married. I don't know whether
that is a thing anymore or not. I'm going to
say that ben to the most weddings lately, because you're
in that demographic where all your friends are getting married.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
Jenny, Yeah, I think I have like three or four
last summer. I don't remember a bouquetue toss at any
of them, really, honestly, I don't. But yeah, I think
it's a I wouldn't say it's outdated. I think you
do it if you want to do it. But I
don't think people do it as often as they used to.
Speaker 3 (00:46):
Yeah, Okay, in general, people are like veering away from tradition,
but they won't make like a big deal about it,
like we're not going to do a bouquet toss at
this wedding because it's a tradition we want to do
away with.
Speaker 4 (00:57):
They'll just not do it, Okay, Yeah, we don't get it.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
Make an announcement. Yeah, you've been to some weddings lately,
you're twenty three. Have people do they do? I mean,
if you've been to weddings where they do a boque toss, yeah,
plenty of them. I seen them do the bouquet toss.
Speaker 5 (01:09):
What I think is starting to be outdated is the
garter thing that the guys do. They like they throw
a garter and the guy catches it, and then they
and the person the woman that caught the bouquet, he'll
like shimmy up her skirt and like try to put
it up her leg, throw up her dress or whatever.
Speaker 4 (01:25):
That's how that works from your perspective, or you think so.
Speaker 1 (01:28):
I think the groom takes the garter off the bride, yes,
then throws it to all the groom the single guys.
Speaker 4 (01:36):
Yeah, yeah, which that is gross to me.
Speaker 6 (01:38):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (01:39):
And then after that they the guy that caught the garter,
and then the woman that caught the bouquet, they'll do
like a little thing in the chair, right, Is that
not how that goes?
Speaker 7 (01:46):
H Yeah, I've not seen that, but I know what
you're you're talking about, because I think it's it's the
groom that does it to the bride and that's what
happens in the chair. Because if that was the case,
and it's like, okay, now that you caught the bouquet,
you have to have this random dude put this garter
on you.
Speaker 4 (02:01):
I wouldn't even go out to grab the bouquet just
for the You.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
Would love a random dude putting a guard.
Speaker 4 (02:08):
Yes, your mouth breather probably.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
Well you deserve maybe you would deserve a mouth.
Speaker 4 (02:14):
I'd be like, the chicks have large talons.
Speaker 1 (02:21):
Text messages, should you still do a bouquet toss at
a wedding, Well, we'll leave it up to you. They
really don't know a text message. I got married in
twenty eighteen and did not do a bouquet toss or
the garter thing being taken off or the dollar dance.
How embarrassing. Another one says, there's no wedding traditions that
anyone has to do anymore. It's your wedding. Do whatever
(02:41):
you want. You want to do the bouquet toss, then
do it. I think that's the right answer. If you
want to do it, then do it. But I think
that we're all a little bit self conscious, like, Okay,
well if I do the bouquet toss, or people are
gonna think, well, wow, Jenny's wedding is really like she's
really behind the times. You don't do this.
Speaker 4 (02:57):
Anymore, And I don't think you do that.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
But I think that you need to leave the people
alone who don't want to get up and be a
part of the bouquet toss because I feel like I'm
always right out on the floor for it, and it's
like I don't want to be there, like I don't
care about this tradition. Like, but then I know if
they enough people don't get up, it's not there's no
point of tossing the right there's.
Speaker 1 (03:16):
Only like four girls and it's usually caught by like
a four year old girl or something. Right text messages,
we'll just see what we But what people are saying,
I didn't do a bouque toss at my wedding because
a lot of my friends and family were already married.
Thanks for the text that KDWGB one. My fiance and
I early twenties, we are doing a bouque toss for
ours biggest thing we want to make sure that doesn't happen.
(03:37):
Is becoming a more common thing to see is people
plan ahead and the girl and get the girl to
catch it, and then right after the boy of that
girl will propose to her at the wedding f that
it's our day, not theirs. Oh so people will plan yeah,
because you know, you know, the tradition is the woman
who catches the bouquets the next one to get married.
(03:57):
And back in the sixties or seventies or what ever,
that was a woman's goal in cliche society. She can't
wait to get married. She's eighteen now she needs to
get married. But yeah, don't set it up. Never propose
at somebody else's wedding.
Speaker 4 (04:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 7 (04:15):
Another person texted in saying weddings have been ruined by
people proposing on other people's dimes. I've never seen a
proposal happen at a wedding.
Speaker 1 (04:21):
I've only heard.
Speaker 4 (04:22):
People complain about it that it seems so rude. Have
you never seen that either?
Speaker 1 (04:25):
Don't make the wedding about that is the most selfish thing. Like,
I don't know what I would say if somebody did that.
If Carson was getting married, he would he's my last
unweed kid. If he was getting married and his buddy
Jake stood up and it's like I want to take
this opportunity to propose to Morgan, I'd be like, you
two can get out of here right now. Then I'd
take the fire extinguisher and I'd spray them down just
(04:48):
to make.
Speaker 4 (04:48):
Sure they laugh.
Speaker 7 (04:49):
Okay, we have a text that a couple of people
are texting and saying, I'm not doing a bouquet toss.
I had a bouquet made identical to mine, and I'm
using the toss time to surprise my mom with the
bouquet since mothers of a bride don't really get as
much recognition. And apparently that's like a new trend, is
that you give your bouquet to your mother.
Speaker 4 (05:07):
That's a cue that is very sweet.
Speaker 1 (05:10):
Yeah, well, wedding photographer text in with an answer. These
trends are quickly declining. Couples are opened to do different
things and break tradition. Look online and find out what
is Maybe there's something else you want to do.
Speaker 7 (05:20):
Yeah, I mean I've seen a lot of different traditions
that have started in weddings, like the unity candle or
when they like tie their hands together, do like hand fasting,
and there's like so many different.
Speaker 4 (05:32):
Things now and fast.
Speaker 7 (05:34):
Yeah, it's like a it's like a Scottish or Irish
thing or something where you like tie your hands together
and you say something I don't know meaningful, but I've
seen the candle thing. I've seen like the sand where
they poured, Yeah, the unity sand, all of that jazz,
And I mean, hey, if you're into that, going for
and that's the thing.
Speaker 4 (05:51):
Is you do whatever you want.
Speaker 1 (05:52):
If you want to have your dogs walk down the
aisle with you, I think it's corny, but if they
if you want to and you do it.
Speaker 4 (06:01):
The dogs are you le I am?
Speaker 2 (06:03):
Because I think dogs are just as much a part
of some people's family as kids are. So if you
have a kid who's like the three year old ring bear,
why would your dogs not.
Speaker 4 (06:11):
Be able to do that? You know, you know what
you do?
Speaker 2 (06:14):
You Sheill has a funny story about what her daughter
did at her wedding.
Speaker 1 (06:18):
Sheila, we were talking about whether bouquet tosses are still
a thing of weddings and we got kind of off topic.
So we're all for it. What do you want to
ask about?
Speaker 6 (06:26):
Well, what I was going to tell you about is people.
That's probably not the tradition. But my daughter decided to
throw a burritle from Taco Bell and I don't know
who caught it, but I know later that night we
were drunk, so we went back in a room and
ate it.
Speaker 4 (06:42):
I'm hoping it was still wrapped in the paper wrapper.
Speaker 6 (06:44):
Then I guess at that point we didn't even care anything.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
Okay, that's my girl, that's my girl. I think that's
great when you went into if you're listening, next time
you get married, be like, we're not doing a bouquet toss.
We got a seven layer burrito we're going to toss instead.
Speaker 4 (06:58):
I love it
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