June 9, 2025 • 8 mins
We check in with Dan, who carried out a grand gesture for his ex girlfriend last week.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Remember, last week we talked to a guy who was
going to do something we thought was ill advised.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
We're going to get the follow up.
Speaker 1 (00:07):
What's this guy's name again, Dan, the follow up on
this big grand gesture to win back his girl right now. Okay,
So last week we talked to Dan, and here we
are at seven forty three in the morning on Monday.
On Friday, Dan was going to do this big grand gesture.
(00:31):
He cheated on his girlfriend with somebody at work. He
thought it was stupid. It was a big mistake, he
admitted to his girlfriend. He said, I cheated. I'm so sorry.
And then she pretty much dumped you right away.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
That was it.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
That was she was done, right Dan, Dan? Oh, I
don't button.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
Okay, Hi Dan, Hey, good morning.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
She dumped you pretty much right away.
Speaker 3 (00:51):
Yeah, that was it exactly.
Speaker 2 (00:53):
And how long ago was this that this happened?
Speaker 4 (00:55):
You said that this happened like six months ago, right, Yeah,
you guys have been broken up for yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
Okay, So your idea was, and I can't tell anything
from his voice this morning, your big grand gesture was,
if I remember right, you're gonna get a bunch of flowers,
like dozens of flowers go to her work. Show printed
a couple of tickets to Scottsdale, which is your place,
you guys had spent some time in Scottsdale. Fly her
to Scottsdale this past weekend. Now, in talking to him
(01:23):
right now, they could have just got back from Scottsdale
last night.
Speaker 5 (01:26):
Could have.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
But we don't know. Dan tell me how everything went down.
Speaker 3 (01:34):
So I went to her work. You know, I was
sort of waiting till she was coming back from lunch.
I was just kind of hanging out. I saw her
come back, so when I saw her go in, I
waited a few more minutes, you know, and then I
sort of followed in after her. She was behind the
front desk and saw me come in, and then she
(01:57):
immediately got up and went through the security door to
the back.
Speaker 1 (02:01):
Not a good sign, okay, So she saw you come in, instead
of going.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
Damn, what are you doing here? Without a word, she
got up and she went to the back.
Speaker 3 (02:13):
So I stood there for a few minutes waiting until
some guy came up and I asked her, you know,
can can I get fear real quick? And the guy said,
she doesn't want to see you. So that wasn't great.
I tried to win this guy over, he's security guy,
by telling him, you know, what my plan was. And
(02:35):
then he went back to my girlfriend and telling her
about my plan. And then he came back a few
minutes later and said she's not interested. And I didn't,
you know, he did. I don't want to call anyone,
didn't make it a big deal out of it. So
I left. I threw the flowers in the trash next
(02:55):
to the elevator and just get out of there. That
was a pretty strong message to me that she was
not interested, and so that was it. Unfortunately, how do
you feel about that?
Speaker 2 (03:08):
How did that make you feel?
Speaker 3 (03:11):
Awful? Absolutely awful? Because here I am trying to sort
of rekindle what we had. I had this, you know,
this big plan of how I was going to do it,
you know, with Scottsdale and these flowers and all that,
and then she didn't even give me the time of day.
Like I couldn't even explain anything to her. She was
just not interested. And it was it, you know.
Speaker 4 (03:31):
So I have a question. Obviously, you had this whole
trip planned. Did you do anything with the trip? You
didn't go up by yourself, did you?
Speaker 3 (03:40):
No? No, I didn't go. I actually got the credit
back for the flights.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
At least there's that. So, yeah, you're kind of done,
or do you think? I mean, I'm worried about you, Dan,
I'm worried that you're going you know, I need to
try a little hard. Yeah, exactly are you? How are
you feeling about walking away?
Speaker 3 (04:00):
I mean, I obviously I kind of sat on this
all weekend a little bit, and clearly she's not interested.
So there's really nothing else for me to do. You know,
this is sort of my big last minute sort of
decision to try to make something happen here, and it
just didn't work. So I don't I don't have any
other idea. Well, she wouldn't even give me the time
(04:22):
of day, so I.
Speaker 4 (04:23):
Will say that you went in a little too hot.
Most people recommended last week that you shouldn't do what
you did, which is showing up to her work.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
Yeah, that's kind of as that's her private place.
Speaker 4 (04:33):
Yeah, you put her, you put her in an uncomfortable position.
And also I think you mentioned that you guys haven't
really been in contact, so you don't know her situation anymore.
Speaker 5 (04:42):
She could be dating someone new A or B.
Speaker 4 (04:45):
She might be expecting more of like an apology from
you and just showing out about her work. You know,
it's not your She probably wasn't expecting that. She just
saw the flowers and was like, oh boy, this is
too much.
Speaker 6 (04:58):
But she also doesn't know what he was going there.
I'm not saying you're not You're wrong, Jenny, but I
commend him for at least putting in the effort to
go to her job and try to have a conversation
win her back whatever.
Speaker 4 (05:08):
I think that most people, if they've been cheated on, though,
they want to know, like, if you are trying to
win me back, why should I take you back? You know?
And so a grand gesture is great when you're just like,
you know, things didn't really work out for some whatever reason,
But when you've been cheated on, you probably want an
explanation of like why do you want me back?
Speaker 5 (05:27):
And how have you changed and what are you going
to do differently?
Speaker 4 (05:30):
Yeah, so a grand gesture in that scenario doesn't feel right, And.
Speaker 6 (05:34):
That's what I'm saying, though, But she doesn't know if
he was going to say that or what. She doesn't
know he had the trip to Scottsdale.
Speaker 5 (05:38):
Yeah, but he showed up better work.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
So yeah, still I think it's fair.
Speaker 1 (05:41):
A lot of text messages, but also Renee is on
the phone to kind of tell you what you if
you missed the beginning. Dan tried to win his girlfriend
back by going to Rofice on Friday with a bunch
of flowers and trip tickets to Scottsdale, which is their place,
and she would not even speak to him. Renee, what
did you want to say about Dan?
Speaker 7 (06:00):
Well, Jenny is one hundred percent right. He took what
should have been a private moment and he brought it
to her workplace. He's talking about feeling, you know, not
happy about how it turned out. Well, what do you
think She feels like her whole office knows about this
now and she'll never be able to live this down.
It'll continuously be brought up. He can just go home
(06:20):
and cry himself to sleep and be done with it.
But now she has this whole thing that's been brought
into her business world that she's not going to be
able to again ever get out of everyone's minds there.
And it's just so disrespectful on top of everything else
in their history that he wants to have taken that
into consideration.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
You know what, I think guys have seen too many
movies where it's like I want to win her back,
So I'm going to ride a horse to her wedding. Yeah,
and I'm going to pick her up on this horse
and we're going to ride away on her wedding day.
And guys will be like, yeah, that's what she needs.
You know, Dan, I will admire you more if you
just kind of walk away and say, you know what.
(06:59):
She gave me her answer, and her answer was clearly known.
Speaker 7 (07:03):
And maybe it's Dan's a movie star. This could have
worked for him for.
Speaker 1 (07:08):
Thanks, Renee, Dan, good luck. I mean you'll find you know,
it hurts, It hurts, but you'll find somebody new.
Speaker 3 (07:14):
Yeah. No, it's less been learned. And I appreciate you guys.
Speaker 5 (07:16):
Yeah, don't cheat on that person.
Speaker 2 (07:18):
Yeah, or any person or anyone. Okay.
Speaker 5 (07:22):
He's like, all right, I won.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
What do you think did we miss anything? Thanks for
all the text messages. We appreciate that. A couple of
text messages and can be one five, three, nine two one.
Speaker 8 (07:31):
A lot of people don't like Dan. This person says
Dan sucks. He didn't feel nearly as dumb as she did.
Six months ago. What an idiot, what a loser. He
cheated on her and is mad that she didn't want
to go on a trip with him.
Speaker 5 (07:41):
Hope he's single for the rest of his life.
Speaker 2 (07:44):
Ouch.
Speaker 5 (07:44):
Yeah, a lot of people are not liking Dan though.
Speaker 8 (07:46):
Someone said, I hope that he went on his trip
and met someone there, but he did not go on
the trip by himself.
Speaker 5 (07:52):
Not looking good, not looking.
Speaker 1 (07:54):
By the cheated cheating is one thing, but then to
put to kind of control her answer her or her
response by cornering her. Because you can a block a
phone call, you can ignore a text or an email,
but you really can't ignore somebody coming into your work.
Speaker 5 (08:12):
It turned out.
Speaker 6 (08:12):
Justifying I'm doing that. I just I'm giving him credit
for trying to go chase after his girl. But you know,
you knew that this was the territory you were stepping into,
all right,
Remember, last week we talked to a guy who was
going to do something we thought was ill advised.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
We're going to get the follow up.
Speaker 1 (00:07):
What's this guy's name again, Dan, the follow up on
this big grand gesture to win back his girl right now. Okay,
So last week we talked to Dan, and here we
are at seven forty three in the morning on Monday.
On Friday, Dan was going to do this big grand gesture.
(00:31):
He cheated on his girlfriend with somebody at work. He
thought it was stupid. It was a big mistake, he
admitted to his girlfriend. He said, I cheated. I'm so sorry.
And then she pretty much dumped you right away.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
That was it.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
That was she was done, right Dan, Dan? Oh, I
don't button.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
Okay, Hi Dan, Hey, good morning.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
She dumped you pretty much right away.
Speaker 3 (00:51):
Yeah, that was it exactly.
Speaker 2 (00:53):
And how long ago was this that this happened?
Speaker 4 (00:55):
You said that this happened like six months ago, right, Yeah,
you guys have been broken up for yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
Okay, So your idea was, and I can't tell anything
from his voice this morning, your big grand gesture was,
if I remember right, you're gonna get a bunch of flowers,
like dozens of flowers go to her work. Show printed
a couple of tickets to Scottsdale, which is your place,
you guys had spent some time in Scottsdale. Fly her
to Scottsdale this past weekend. Now, in talking to him
(01:23):
right now, they could have just got back from Scottsdale
last night.
Speaker 5 (01:26):
Could have.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
But we don't know. Dan tell me how everything went down.
Speaker 3 (01:34):
So I went to her work. You know, I was
sort of waiting till she was coming back from lunch.
I was just kind of hanging out. I saw her
come back, so when I saw her go in, I
waited a few more minutes, you know, and then I
sort of followed in after her. She was behind the
front desk and saw me come in, and then she
(01:57):
immediately got up and went through the security door to
the back.
Speaker 1 (02:01):
Not a good sign, okay, So she saw you come in, instead
of going.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
Damn, what are you doing here? Without a word, she
got up and she went to the back.
Speaker 3 (02:13):
So I stood there for a few minutes waiting until
some guy came up and I asked her, you know,
can can I get fear real quick? And the guy said,
she doesn't want to see you. So that wasn't great.
I tried to win this guy over, he's security guy,
by telling him, you know, what my plan was. And
(02:35):
then he went back to my girlfriend and telling her
about my plan. And then he came back a few
minutes later and said she's not interested. And I didn't,
you know, he did. I don't want to call anyone,
didn't make it a big deal out of it. So
I left. I threw the flowers in the trash next
(02:55):
to the elevator and just get out of there. That
was a pretty strong message to me that she was
not interested, and so that was it. Unfortunately, how do
you feel about that?
Speaker 2 (03:08):
How did that make you feel?
Speaker 3 (03:11):
Awful? Absolutely awful? Because here I am trying to sort
of rekindle what we had. I had this, you know,
this big plan of how I was going to do it,
you know, with Scottsdale and these flowers and all that,
and then she didn't even give me the time of day.
Like I couldn't even explain anything to her. She was
just not interested. And it was it, you know.
Speaker 4 (03:31):
So I have a question. Obviously, you had this whole
trip planned. Did you do anything with the trip? You
didn't go up by yourself, did you?
Speaker 3 (03:40):
No? No, I didn't go. I actually got the credit
back for the flights.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
At least there's that. So, yeah, you're kind of done,
or do you think? I mean, I'm worried about you, Dan,
I'm worried that you're going you know, I need to
try a little hard. Yeah, exactly are you? How are
you feeling about walking away?
Speaker 3 (04:00):
I mean, I obviously I kind of sat on this
all weekend a little bit, and clearly she's not interested.
So there's really nothing else for me to do. You know,
this is sort of my big last minute sort of
decision to try to make something happen here, and it
just didn't work. So I don't I don't have any
other idea. Well, she wouldn't even give me the time
(04:22):
of day, so I.
Speaker 4 (04:23):
Will say that you went in a little too hot.
Most people recommended last week that you shouldn't do what
you did, which is showing up to her work.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
Yeah, that's kind of as that's her private place.
Speaker 4 (04:33):
Yeah, you put her, you put her in an uncomfortable position.
And also I think you mentioned that you guys haven't
really been in contact, so you don't know her situation anymore.
Speaker 5 (04:42):
She could be dating someone new A or B.
Speaker 4 (04:45):
She might be expecting more of like an apology from
you and just showing out about her work. You know,
it's not your She probably wasn't expecting that. She just
saw the flowers and was like, oh boy, this is
too much.
Speaker 6 (04:58):
But she also doesn't know what he was going there.
I'm not saying you're not You're wrong, Jenny, but I
commend him for at least putting in the effort to
go to her job and try to have a conversation
win her back whatever.
Speaker 4 (05:08):
I think that most people, if they've been cheated on, though,
they want to know, like, if you are trying to
win me back, why should I take you back? You know?
And so a grand gesture is great when you're just like,
you know, things didn't really work out for some whatever reason,
But when you've been cheated on, you probably want an
explanation of like why do you want me back?
Speaker 5 (05:27):
And how have you changed and what are you going
to do differently?
Speaker 4 (05:30):
Yeah, so a grand gesture in that scenario doesn't feel right, And.
Speaker 6 (05:34):
That's what I'm saying, though, But she doesn't know if
he was going to say that or what. She doesn't
know he had the trip to Scottsdale.
Speaker 5 (05:38):
Yeah, but he showed up better work.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
So yeah, still I think it's fair.
Speaker 1 (05:41):
A lot of text messages, but also Renee is on
the phone to kind of tell you what you if
you missed the beginning. Dan tried to win his girlfriend
back by going to Rofice on Friday with a bunch
of flowers and trip tickets to Scottsdale, which is their place,
and she would not even speak to him. Renee, what
did you want to say about Dan?
Speaker 7 (06:00):
Well, Jenny is one hundred percent right. He took what
should have been a private moment and he brought it
to her workplace. He's talking about feeling, you know, not
happy about how it turned out. Well, what do you
think She feels like her whole office knows about this
now and she'll never be able to live this down.
It'll continuously be brought up. He can just go home
(06:20):
and cry himself to sleep and be done with it.
But now she has this whole thing that's been brought
into her business world that she's not going to be
able to again ever get out of everyone's minds there.
And it's just so disrespectful on top of everything else
in their history that he wants to have taken that
into consideration.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
You know what, I think guys have seen too many
movies where it's like I want to win her back,
So I'm going to ride a horse to her wedding. Yeah,
and I'm going to pick her up on this horse
and we're going to ride away on her wedding day.
And guys will be like, yeah, that's what she needs.
You know, Dan, I will admire you more if you
just kind of walk away and say, you know what.
(06:59):
She gave me her answer, and her answer was clearly known.
Speaker 7 (07:03):
And maybe it's Dan's a movie star. This could have
worked for him for.
Speaker 1 (07:08):
Thanks, Renee, Dan, good luck. I mean you'll find you know,
it hurts, It hurts, but you'll find somebody new.
Speaker 3 (07:14):
Yeah. No, it's less been learned. And I appreciate you guys.
Speaker 5 (07:16):
Yeah, don't cheat on that person.
Speaker 2 (07:18):
Yeah, or any person or anyone. Okay.
Speaker 5 (07:22):
He's like, all right, I won.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
What do you think did we miss anything? Thanks for
all the text messages. We appreciate that. A couple of
text messages and can be one five, three, nine two one.
Speaker 8 (07:31):
A lot of people don't like Dan. This person says
Dan sucks. He didn't feel nearly as dumb as she did.
Six months ago. What an idiot, what a loser. He
cheated on her and is mad that she didn't want
to go on a trip with him.
Speaker 5 (07:41):
Hope he's single for the rest of his life.
Speaker 2 (07:44):
Ouch.
Speaker 5 (07:44):
Yeah, a lot of people are not liking Dan though.
Speaker 8 (07:46):
Someone said, I hope that he went on his trip
and met someone there, but he did not go on
the trip by himself.
Speaker 5 (07:52):
Not looking good, not looking.
Speaker 1 (07:54):
By the cheated cheating is one thing, but then to
put to kind of control her answer her or her
response by cornering her. Because you can a block a
phone call, you can ignore a text or an email,
but you really can't ignore somebody coming into your work.
Speaker 5 (08:12):
It turned out.
Speaker 6 (08:12):
Justifying I'm doing that. I just I'm giving him credit
for trying to go chase after his girl. But you know,
you knew that this was the territory you were stepping into,
all right,
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