May 27, 2025 • 13 mins
We talk to Maggie, who isn't connecting with her boyfriend over their differing sex drives.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It did Riot Show.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
Good morning, Maggie.
Speaker 1 (00:04):
How are you today, Good morning, not too bad.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
How are you guys? Oh? Doing good.
Speaker 3 (00:09):
So we got your email yesterday about you need a
little help of on group therapy today and it's not
been like earth chattering and it's not dramatic. However, to you,
it does feel a little bit like that. So tell
us what's going on with your new relate, newish relationship.
Speaker 4 (00:25):
Yeah, so I'm calling because I've been seeing this really
great guy and you know, we've been talking to each
other for about six months now. We met originally on
Tender and you know, I'm worried because when I was
on there, I've met a lot of schlugs when I've
been dating, and I was dating apps before, but this
(00:46):
guy really checked out. You know, good job, makes good money,
has no kids, and he has been such a gentleman
since the very beginning. But we're on like completely opposite
pages when it comes it's the sex drive.
Speaker 2 (01:01):
Oh.
Speaker 3 (01:02):
I really thought you were gonna say like politics for
a second, because I know that that's a huge thing,
but okay, sex drive.
Speaker 2 (01:08):
All right, go on.
Speaker 4 (01:09):
Yeah, I mean, he he's signed like having it casually
and sometimes even less than the average person. But y'all,
I'm a Scorpio, Like we're known for being freaked.
Speaker 3 (01:24):
Is that a thing?
Speaker 5 (01:25):
I think it's like I've heard I have a family
member who's a who says that they're a Scorpio.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
That that's definitely like a trait of Scorpio.
Speaker 6 (01:31):
It is like the sexy one of all of the
astrology signs.
Speaker 2 (01:35):
Scorpio's yeah, okay.
Speaker 4 (01:39):
Yeah, like we're ready to go whenever. So I you know,
I in the beginning, I was okay with it because
I thought we're still getting to know each other. Everything
is really new. We're you know that now we're coming
out of the sweet honeymoon stage and I'm I'm ready
(02:00):
to get it on.
Speaker 1 (02:03):
Okay, I'm ready to go.
Speaker 3 (02:04):
I have to say that usually it's the opposite. We're
in the honeymoon phase, you are kind of getting it
on all the time, and they kind of are like, well,
all right, okay, butterflies kind of went away. I'm like
so excited as much. So this feel is actually a
little bit weird that you went through the honeymoon phase
and it already wasn't exactly up to the amount.
Speaker 2 (02:23):
Now.
Speaker 3 (02:24):
I do have to ask a personal question here. How
often are you looking to be having sex?
Speaker 2 (02:32):
Oh?
Speaker 4 (02:34):
My goodness, if not every night, like at least five
or six nights a week, definitely.
Speaker 3 (02:40):
Okay, you know some of us have jobs, but okay,
I love that for you. I love that for you.
And have you been able to get close to that
or what's been going on with you guys?
Speaker 4 (02:50):
Oh? No, we we're six months in and we have
only done it once every couple of weeks.
Speaker 2 (02:57):
Oh okay, okay, so I mean just twice a month.
It is a lot. Yeah, to send people, that is
a lot.
Speaker 6 (03:03):
But early in your relationship though, because if it's if
it's six months, I mean, yeah, six months is kind
of a long time. But if she's saying that even
early on it wasn't that much and now it's you know,
gone to twice a month, if that, then it just
feels like when you're early in your relationship, isn't that
when you want to, you know, do.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
It all it is? Have you?
Speaker 3 (03:26):
So, Maggie, have you tried to initiate things a little
bit more often or like do you kind of just
get the vibe already that he's not interested, so you're
not even really trying?
Speaker 4 (03:36):
No, I've definitely tried, you know. And that's what's so
funny is I thought, with him being the dude too,
that I was like, oh, he'll be pursuing me. But no, No,
it's the opposite way. Like there was definitely one night
in the car, late night where we were trying to
have we were having a really good deep conversation and
a parking lot and I tried to get it going
(03:59):
with him and he straight up denied me. And I
just figured, oh, you know, we're in the car. He's
not ready for that too much. So No, another time
we were laying in bed and I just tried to
you know. Yeah, so six months and this is this
(04:22):
is where we're at. Only every couple of weeks.
Speaker 2 (04:24):
Oh, when you were in the bed, he didn't want to.
He didn't like go along with it either.
Speaker 4 (04:29):
No, And I was trying to be flirty and and
and drop hints and and you know, get things going myself,
and he was just not biting.
Speaker 6 (04:37):
Have you had any like, you know, deep conversations with
him about it, you know, like try to get to
the bottom of it.
Speaker 4 (04:44):
I've tried some, but every time I do, he kind
of shuts it down and acts like, Oh, it's no
big deal, and you know it's it's it's so new anyway,
which is is just weird to me.
Speaker 6 (04:58):
Yeah, you're like it was new, but it's not anymore
relatively new.
Speaker 3 (05:03):
But yeah, So, Meggie, basically what you need help with
today is do you continue pursuing this relationship or has
anyone Are you looking for some advice of how to
see if you guys can start having more relations or
what are you kind of looking for today?
Speaker 4 (05:19):
Yeah, I just I want to know who's anybody else
experienced this and did you eventually get to where y'all
can meet in the middle or did you not? And
was this the deal breaker for sure?
Speaker 3 (05:33):
Well, we're getting some text coming in, but we'd love
to hear your voice as well if you want to
give us a call. Six y five to one nine
eight nine KATIEWB. Basically, Meggie called in to say she's
been dating someone six months in and they're just not
at the same level sex drive whise. Meggie wants a
lot of sex and her partner is kind of like
every once in a while it.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
Is good for me.
Speaker 3 (05:53):
So she's wondering if it's like a deal breaker, should
she end things because they're just not at the same level,
or is there a way to kind of meet in
the middle. So give us a call six' five to,
one nine eight, Nine katie W.
Speaker 5 (06:05):
B i think every night is a, Lot maggie, said,
like if not every night a couple like five to,
six which is still like weak, nights that's a.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
Lot, well it's not necessarily weak.
Speaker 6 (06:15):
Nights it could just be every Other i'm just Fu,
YEAH i THINK i, mean if that's if there's two
people in a relationship and they're both feeling the same,
way THEN i feel like that would be totally normal
BECAUSE i think we asked forever, ago like months, ago
like how often do you do? It and some people
were like every single day and if it's normal for.
Them BUT i think that's the, problem is that she
(06:36):
and her boyfriend are on two completely different like planes
of existence when it comes to, this right.
Speaker 3 (06:41):
EXACTLY i mean some of the texts coming in is,
like it's not going to improve he this person said
he might not be that into, you WHICH i don't
know that that necessarily is the. Truth it might just
be that he has a lower sex. Drive shut it.
Down he's not going to suddenly grow a stronger sex
drive and that is. Okay someone else, said let's, See
(07:02):
i'm a scorpio and, single give her my. Number, Now,
MEGIE i don't think is looking quite, yet just, like
let her have a chance. Here all, right we've got
some people on the phone. Here first, Up, sidney good,
morning good.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
Morning all.
Speaker 3 (07:18):
Right you Heard meggie's story with the different sex drives
with her. Partner do you have advice for her or
do you do you experience this?
Speaker 1 (07:25):
Yourself, NO i haven't experienced this. Myself but the one
piece of advice THAT i would.
Speaker 7 (07:31):
Say is just that the reasons that you ignore in
the beginning that usually end up being the reasons that
you leave.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
Later, ooh that's that's really. Deep that is really.
Speaker 3 (07:41):
Good, Okay, sidney thank you so. Much that's very. GOOD
i never thought about that. Before but, okay up, next
we Have. Samantha good, Morning, Samantha.
Speaker 7 (07:51):
Oh good.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
Morning so you Heard meggie's.
Speaker 3 (07:53):
Story are you calling in for advice or have you
experienced something similar?
Speaker 7 (07:56):
TODAY i did experience something, similar and it was like
really slow rolling and like couldn't quite.
Speaker 1 (08:03):
Put my finger on, it and SO i just started kind.
Speaker 7 (08:05):
Of taking the lead and watching some like adult.
Speaker 1 (08:09):
Content movies and.
Speaker 7 (08:11):
Videos and while they wouldn't necessarily say oh, YES i like,
that you can always tell through like body language what they.
Prefer and THEN i just started like living out those those.
Speaker 3 (08:24):
Scenarios so you guys are watching adult videos, together, yeah, okay.
Speaker 1 (08:29):
Start out with like it started out with like, movies,
yep and like like certain scenes where my head would
go on a swivel quick BECAUSE i would see, that you,
know body language had, changed and that's WHEN i would
turn around and do those same. Things and THEN i
would do.
Speaker 7 (08:42):
THIS i would do it like open the phone or
like through, texting and it just started like to so.
Speaker 1 (08:49):
Where like his kind of amps, Up mine kind of
didn't close, down but like you, know just kind of
like meeting each.
Speaker 7 (08:54):
Other in the middle a little.
Speaker 2 (08:55):
Bit, okay and are you so with this?
Speaker 1 (08:57):
Person, no but it was it was a really healthy.
Speaker 7 (09:01):
Relationship we just decided to go on our separate ways after
a couple of. Years we just had other, differences, yeah
things like, that but, otherwise you, KNOW i think we
had had those, things it would have been.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
Perfect it's just kind of our.
Speaker 7 (09:13):
Environments we're just not conducive for.
Speaker 3 (09:16):
Sure one other, question when you started like watching videos
or noticing body language and. Stuff was there a conversation
prior with this person of, like, hey you know LIKE
i would like more in the bedroom or did you
kind of just start like what's the word yea from
you kind of were just like observing and then you did.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
It, NO i MEAN i, have like you, KNOW i don't.
Speaker 7 (09:42):
KNOW i took a page out Of minnesota passive aggressive
and was for sure having some like passive aggressive. Conversations
BUT i don't think it.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
WAS i, MEAN i don't. KNOW i.
Speaker 7 (09:50):
WAS i was direct a couple of, times BUT i
wasn't getting you, know you asked a, question and people
go around the horn to answer the, question but they
don't directly answer your.
Speaker 1 (10:00):
Question yes a few times AND i was.
Speaker 7 (10:02):
Like, okay so we're uncomfortable in this? Area what? Area
how CAN i get the answer THAT i see without
him necessarily having to tell me or volunteer the?
Speaker 1 (10:10):
Information, okay that's.
Speaker 3 (10:13):
Interesting so you never flat out said, hey we need
to have more sex BECAUSE i want more?
Speaker 2 (10:18):
Sex?
Speaker 7 (10:19):
Oh NO i.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
Did oh you?
Speaker 2 (10:20):
Did, okay so you.
Speaker 3 (10:22):
And you said it in a way that was like,
straightforward not, like, ah we should have more.
Speaker 1 (10:26):
Sex it was, like, hey let's talk about our.
Speaker 7 (10:31):
Libidos, okay, sure and the difference you know that the
similarities and the differences.
Speaker 1 (10:36):
Of so we like we did, that you, know and
so then it was, like, well how do we how
do we start to match?
Speaker 7 (10:41):
That because you, KNOW i Mean i'm looking at the
couch right here and it's, look.
Speaker 2 (10:48):
You come here, often.
Speaker 1 (10:52):
You, Know so you how do you start to kind
of take each other's hears in the in the same
direction without necessarily having to force, that you, know but
kind of trying to get.
Speaker 7 (11:03):
A little psychological on, it you, know implement a bit
of psychological, warfare AND i think it really goes a
long way things that are unsaid and more fell and
touch right IS i feel like almost more reciprocated for.
Speaker 3 (11:18):
Sure, Awesome, well thank you so, Much. Samantha AND i
think that that was super. Helpful AND i think the
main thing that you can get out of her is. Communication,
yeah you have to, communicate and you have to do
it in a pretty straightforward way to an. EXTENT i,
know she said she kind of passive aggressively did stuff,
then but she did address the, situation which, is this
(11:38):
is where my libido's, at let's like get to a
meeting point, yeah and.
Speaker 2 (11:42):
A lot of text.
Speaker 6 (11:43):
MESSAGES i, mean there are so many different layers that
this could like be impacting his sex. Drive but a
lot of people are just SAYING i think she needs
to tell him what she wants and the very point
blank about, it, yeah because it sounds like a possible.
Miscommunication and someone else SAYS i would have a very,
clear open conversation with him about this prior to cutting him,
(12:03):
off because you, know of, course there's tons of people
who are, like this will never, change this happened to,
me blah blah, blah this is what led to my,
divorce et, cetera et. Cetera but there could be some
like underlying issues with him that he's not, addressing which
people are kind of conspiracizing about over text as. Well
but we can't really say unless you have a conversation with.
Him so you really have to have that communication.
Speaker 5 (12:26):
Wavelength, yes, established he checks all the other boxes, Too
like if you said he what he's making good, money
he said he has no, kids so like all the
other departments he checks out. In it sucks that this
is like the one big deal, breaker but at least
have that. CONVO i like this other text at five
three nine to. One my husband denied my advances as.
WELL i ignored it and made excuses and it never got.
Better you should never have to question if he wants.
Speaker 2 (12:48):
You so MAY i hope that we helped you.
Speaker 3 (12:50):
TODAY i think the overall conclusion is that you really
do have to address it head.
Speaker 2 (12:55):
On, yeah and then maybe see if there's a.
Speaker 3 (12:57):
Solution, however if it doesn't change, Personally i'd probably give
it a couple months to see if you guys can
figure something. Out but if it doesn't, CHANGE i think
that that is something that you have to really figure
out if you're willing to move forward.
Speaker 2 (13:10):
With, yeah if this is the thing that you want, to,
like hang your hat.
Speaker 4 (13:12):
On absolutely, well thank you guys so.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
Much, yeah you're.
Speaker 3 (13:17):
Welcome good lud, luck good, luck and, girl get some
sleep six nights a.
Speaker 2 (13:22):
Week oh my, Gosh, JAY i.
Speaker 5 (13:25):
Was hoping the scorpio called to text it in to
confirm the thing about scorpios or.
Speaker 2 (13:29):
Freaks you know how true that? Is?
Speaker 3 (13:31):
YEAH i don't know. Either, Okay, well hopefully we Help
maggie out. Today if you ever need help on group,
therapy it is all up to you to email Us
Ryan show at kadiwb dot com and we will get
you on and get help from not just us buffoons
on the Day Ryan, show but also other people who
actually have experienced. Things so thanks so much for doing
(13:52):
that today with.
Speaker 2 (13:52):
Us meggie
It did Riot Show.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
Good morning, Maggie.
Speaker 1 (00:04):
How are you today, Good morning, not too bad.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
How are you guys? Oh? Doing good.
Speaker 3 (00:09):
So we got your email yesterday about you need a
little help of on group therapy today and it's not
been like earth chattering and it's not dramatic. However, to you,
it does feel a little bit like that. So tell
us what's going on with your new relate, newish relationship.
Speaker 4 (00:25):
Yeah, so I'm calling because I've been seeing this really
great guy and you know, we've been talking to each
other for about six months now. We met originally on
Tender and you know, I'm worried because when I was
on there, I've met a lot of schlugs when I've
been dating, and I was dating apps before, but this
(00:46):
guy really checked out. You know, good job, makes good money,
has no kids, and he has been such a gentleman
since the very beginning. But we're on like completely opposite
pages when it comes it's the sex drive.
Speaker 2 (01:01):
Oh.
Speaker 3 (01:02):
I really thought you were gonna say like politics for
a second, because I know that that's a huge thing,
but okay, sex drive.
Speaker 2 (01:08):
All right, go on.
Speaker 4 (01:09):
Yeah, I mean, he he's signed like having it casually
and sometimes even less than the average person. But y'all,
I'm a Scorpio, Like we're known for being freaked.
Speaker 3 (01:24):
Is that a thing?
Speaker 5 (01:25):
I think it's like I've heard I have a family
member who's a who says that they're a Scorpio.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
That that's definitely like a trait of Scorpio.
Speaker 6 (01:31):
It is like the sexy one of all of the
astrology signs.
Speaker 2 (01:35):
Scorpio's yeah, okay.
Speaker 4 (01:39):
Yeah, like we're ready to go whenever. So I you know,
I in the beginning, I was okay with it because
I thought we're still getting to know each other. Everything
is really new. We're you know that now we're coming
out of the sweet honeymoon stage and I'm I'm ready
(02:00):
to get it on.
Speaker 1 (02:03):
Okay, I'm ready to go.
Speaker 3 (02:04):
I have to say that usually it's the opposite. We're
in the honeymoon phase, you are kind of getting it
on all the time, and they kind of are like, well,
all right, okay, butterflies kind of went away. I'm like
so excited as much. So this feel is actually a
little bit weird that you went through the honeymoon phase
and it already wasn't exactly up to the amount.
Speaker 2 (02:23):
Now.
Speaker 3 (02:24):
I do have to ask a personal question here. How
often are you looking to be having sex?
Speaker 2 (02:32):
Oh?
Speaker 4 (02:34):
My goodness, if not every night, like at least five
or six nights a week, definitely.
Speaker 3 (02:40):
Okay, you know some of us have jobs, but okay,
I love that for you. I love that for you.
And have you been able to get close to that
or what's been going on with you guys?
Speaker 4 (02:50):
Oh? No, we we're six months in and we have
only done it once every couple of weeks.
Speaker 2 (02:57):
Oh okay, okay, so I mean just twice a month.
It is a lot. Yeah, to send people, that is
a lot.
Speaker 6 (03:03):
But early in your relationship though, because if it's if
it's six months, I mean, yeah, six months is kind
of a long time. But if she's saying that even
early on it wasn't that much and now it's you know,
gone to twice a month, if that, then it just
feels like when you're early in your relationship, isn't that
when you want to, you know, do.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
It all it is? Have you?
Speaker 3 (03:26):
So, Maggie, have you tried to initiate things a little
bit more often or like do you kind of just
get the vibe already that he's not interested, so you're
not even really trying?
Speaker 4 (03:36):
No, I've definitely tried, you know. And that's what's so
funny is I thought, with him being the dude too,
that I was like, oh, he'll be pursuing me. But no, No,
it's the opposite way. Like there was definitely one night
in the car, late night where we were trying to
have we were having a really good deep conversation and
a parking lot and I tried to get it going
(03:59):
with him and he straight up denied me. And I
just figured, oh, you know, we're in the car. He's
not ready for that too much. So No, another time
we were laying in bed and I just tried to
you know. Yeah, so six months and this is this
(04:22):
is where we're at. Only every couple of weeks.
Speaker 2 (04:24):
Oh, when you were in the bed, he didn't want to.
He didn't like go along with it either.
Speaker 4 (04:29):
No, And I was trying to be flirty and and
and drop hints and and you know, get things going myself,
and he was just not biting.
Speaker 6 (04:37):
Have you had any like, you know, deep conversations with
him about it, you know, like try to get to
the bottom of it.
Speaker 4 (04:44):
I've tried some, but every time I do, he kind
of shuts it down and acts like, Oh, it's no
big deal, and you know it's it's it's so new anyway,
which is is just weird to me.
Speaker 6 (04:58):
Yeah, you're like it was new, but it's not anymore
relatively new.
Speaker 3 (05:03):
But yeah, So, Meggie, basically what you need help with
today is do you continue pursuing this relationship or has
anyone Are you looking for some advice of how to
see if you guys can start having more relations or
what are you kind of looking for today?
Speaker 4 (05:19):
Yeah, I just I want to know who's anybody else
experienced this and did you eventually get to where y'all
can meet in the middle or did you not? And
was this the deal breaker for sure?
Speaker 3 (05:33):
Well, we're getting some text coming in, but we'd love
to hear your voice as well if you want to
give us a call. Six y five to one nine
eight nine KATIEWB. Basically, Meggie called in to say she's
been dating someone six months in and they're just not
at the same level sex drive whise. Meggie wants a
lot of sex and her partner is kind of like
every once in a while it.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
Is good for me.
Speaker 3 (05:53):
So she's wondering if it's like a deal breaker, should
she end things because they're just not at the same level,
or is there a way to kind of meet in
the middle. So give us a call six' five to,
one nine eight, Nine katie W.
Speaker 5 (06:05):
B i think every night is a, Lot maggie, said,
like if not every night a couple like five to,
six which is still like weak, nights that's a.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
Lot, well it's not necessarily weak.
Speaker 6 (06:15):
Nights it could just be every Other i'm just Fu,
YEAH i THINK i, mean if that's if there's two
people in a relationship and they're both feeling the same,
way THEN i feel like that would be totally normal
BECAUSE i think we asked forever, ago like months, ago
like how often do you do? It and some people
were like every single day and if it's normal for.
Them BUT i think that's the, problem is that she
(06:36):
and her boyfriend are on two completely different like planes
of existence when it comes to, this right.
Speaker 3 (06:41):
EXACTLY i mean some of the texts coming in is,
like it's not going to improve he this person said
he might not be that into, you WHICH i don't
know that that necessarily is the. Truth it might just
be that he has a lower sex. Drive shut it.
Down he's not going to suddenly grow a stronger sex
drive and that is. Okay someone else, said let's, See
(07:02):
i'm a scorpio and, single give her my. Number, Now,
MEGIE i don't think is looking quite, yet just, like
let her have a chance. Here all, right we've got
some people on the phone. Here first, Up, sidney good,
morning good.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
Morning all.
Speaker 3 (07:18):
Right you Heard meggie's story with the different sex drives
with her. Partner do you have advice for her or
do you do you experience this?
Speaker 1 (07:25):
Yourself, NO i haven't experienced this. Myself but the one
piece of advice THAT i would.
Speaker 7 (07:31):
Say is just that the reasons that you ignore in
the beginning that usually end up being the reasons that
you leave.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
Later, ooh that's that's really. Deep that is really.
Speaker 3 (07:41):
Good, Okay, sidney thank you so. Much that's very. GOOD
i never thought about that. Before but, okay up, next
we Have. Samantha good, Morning, Samantha.
Speaker 7 (07:51):
Oh good.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
Morning so you Heard meggie's.
Speaker 3 (07:53):
Story are you calling in for advice or have you
experienced something similar?
Speaker 7 (07:56):
TODAY i did experience something, similar and it was like
really slow rolling and like couldn't quite.
Speaker 1 (08:03):
Put my finger on, it and SO i just started kind.
Speaker 7 (08:05):
Of taking the lead and watching some like adult.
Speaker 1 (08:09):
Content movies and.
Speaker 7 (08:11):
Videos and while they wouldn't necessarily say oh, YES i like,
that you can always tell through like body language what they.
Prefer and THEN i just started like living out those those.
Speaker 3 (08:24):
Scenarios so you guys are watching adult videos, together, yeah, okay.
Speaker 1 (08:29):
Start out with like it started out with like, movies,
yep and like like certain scenes where my head would
go on a swivel quick BECAUSE i would see, that you,
know body language had, changed and that's WHEN i would
turn around and do those same. Things and THEN i
would do.
Speaker 7 (08:42):
THIS i would do it like open the phone or
like through, texting and it just started like to so.
Speaker 1 (08:49):
Where like his kind of amps, Up mine kind of
didn't close, down but like you, know just kind of
like meeting each.
Speaker 7 (08:54):
Other in the middle a little.
Speaker 2 (08:55):
Bit, okay and are you so with this?
Speaker 1 (08:57):
Person, no but it was it was a really healthy.
Speaker 7 (09:01):
Relationship we just decided to go on our separate ways after
a couple of. Years we just had other, differences, yeah
things like, that but, otherwise you, KNOW i think we
had had those, things it would have been.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
Perfect it's just kind of our.
Speaker 7 (09:13):
Environments we're just not conducive for.
Speaker 3 (09:16):
Sure one other, question when you started like watching videos
or noticing body language and. Stuff was there a conversation
prior with this person of, like, hey you know LIKE
i would like more in the bedroom or did you
kind of just start like what's the word yea from
you kind of were just like observing and then you did.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
It, NO i MEAN i, have like you, KNOW i don't.
Speaker 7 (09:42):
KNOW i took a page out Of minnesota passive aggressive
and was for sure having some like passive aggressive. Conversations
BUT i don't think it.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
WAS i, MEAN i don't. KNOW i.
Speaker 7 (09:50):
WAS i was direct a couple of, times BUT i
wasn't getting you, know you asked a, question and people
go around the horn to answer the, question but they
don't directly answer your.
Speaker 1 (10:00):
Question yes a few times AND i was.
Speaker 7 (10:02):
Like, okay so we're uncomfortable in this? Area what? Area
how CAN i get the answer THAT i see without
him necessarily having to tell me or volunteer the?
Speaker 1 (10:10):
Information, okay that's.
Speaker 3 (10:13):
Interesting so you never flat out said, hey we need
to have more sex BECAUSE i want more?
Speaker 2 (10:18):
Sex?
Speaker 7 (10:19):
Oh NO i.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
Did oh you?
Speaker 2 (10:20):
Did, okay so you.
Speaker 3 (10:22):
And you said it in a way that was like,
straightforward not, like, ah we should have more.
Speaker 1 (10:26):
Sex it was, like, hey let's talk about our.
Speaker 7 (10:31):
Libidos, okay, sure and the difference you know that the
similarities and the differences.
Speaker 1 (10:36):
Of so we like we did, that you, know and
so then it was, like, well how do we how
do we start to match?
Speaker 7 (10:41):
That because you, KNOW i Mean i'm looking at the
couch right here and it's, look.
Speaker 2 (10:48):
You come here, often.
Speaker 1 (10:52):
You, Know so you how do you start to kind
of take each other's hears in the in the same
direction without necessarily having to force, that you, know but
kind of trying to get.
Speaker 7 (11:03):
A little psychological on, it you, know implement a bit
of psychological, warfare AND i think it really goes a
long way things that are unsaid and more fell and
touch right IS i feel like almost more reciprocated for.
Speaker 3 (11:18):
Sure, Awesome, well thank you so, Much. Samantha AND i
think that that was super. Helpful AND i think the
main thing that you can get out of her is. Communication,
yeah you have to, communicate and you have to do
it in a pretty straightforward way to an. EXTENT i,
know she said she kind of passive aggressively did stuff,
then but she did address the, situation which, is this
(11:38):
is where my libido's, at let's like get to a
meeting point, yeah and.
Speaker 2 (11:42):
A lot of text.
Speaker 6 (11:43):
MESSAGES i, mean there are so many different layers that
this could like be impacting his sex. Drive but a
lot of people are just SAYING i think she needs
to tell him what she wants and the very point
blank about, it, yeah because it sounds like a possible.
Miscommunication and someone else SAYS i would have a very,
clear open conversation with him about this prior to cutting him,
(12:03):
off because you, know of, course there's tons of people
who are, like this will never, change this happened to,
me blah blah, blah this is what led to my,
divorce et, cetera et. Cetera but there could be some
like underlying issues with him that he's not, addressing which
people are kind of conspiracizing about over text as. Well
but we can't really say unless you have a conversation with.
Him so you really have to have that communication.
Speaker 5 (12:26):
Wavelength, yes, established he checks all the other boxes, Too
like if you said he what he's making good, money
he said he has no, kids so like all the
other departments he checks out. In it sucks that this
is like the one big deal, breaker but at least
have that. CONVO i like this other text at five
three nine to. One my husband denied my advances as.
WELL i ignored it and made excuses and it never got.
Better you should never have to question if he wants.
Speaker 2 (12:48):
You so MAY i hope that we helped you.
Speaker 3 (12:50):
TODAY i think the overall conclusion is that you really
do have to address it head.
Speaker 2 (12:55):
On, yeah and then maybe see if there's a.
Speaker 3 (12:57):
Solution, however if it doesn't change, Personally i'd probably give
it a couple months to see if you guys can
figure something. Out but if it doesn't, CHANGE i think
that that is something that you have to really figure
out if you're willing to move forward.
Speaker 2 (13:10):
With, yeah if this is the thing that you want, to,
like hang your hat.
Speaker 4 (13:12):
On absolutely, well thank you guys so.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
Much, yeah you're.
Speaker 3 (13:17):
Welcome good lud, luck good, luck and, girl get some
sleep six nights a.
Speaker 2 (13:22):
Week oh my, Gosh, JAY i.
Speaker 5 (13:25):
Was hoping the scorpio called to text it in to
confirm the thing about scorpios or.
Speaker 2 (13:29):
Freaks you know how true that? Is?
Speaker 3 (13:31):
YEAH i don't know. Either, Okay, well hopefully we Help
maggie out. Today if you ever need help on group,
therapy it is all up to you to email Us
Ryan show at kadiwb dot com and we will get
you on and get help from not just us buffoons
on the Day Ryan, show but also other people who
actually have experienced. Things so thanks so much for doing
(13:52):
that today with.
Speaker 2 (13:52):
Us meggie
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