Should She Make a Birthday Registry?

We talk to Aleesa, who wants to create a registry for her 30th birthday party. Listeners are pretty split down the middle on whether they think it's selfish or smart.

Episode Transcript

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Right. Every Tuesday on Katie WB, we talk to somebody who's got some
sort of an issue that they're notreally sure how to handle this one.
Alisa? Is that how you sayyour name? Alisa? Good morning?
And Lisa, how are you Mary? I'm good? How are you?
I'm doing well? You're on grouptherapy today, which means there must be

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something that you're wrestling with and youwant to get other people's opinions and advice.
What do you got a Lisa?Yeah, So I I'm having a
big thirtieth birthday party soon. I'msuper excited. Have you guys seen those
like registries for birthday parties that arelike going around on Instagram and TikTok,
like not for you know, bridalshowers or you know, housewarmings, literally

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just for birthdays. I have not. I haven't either, No, no,
but it sounds interesting, So okayfor your paid. So I made
one because I just sort of feellike I'm always celebrating my friends who are,
you know, getting married or havingkids and I'm not planning on doing
either those things. So I waslike, why don't I know, have
one for my birthday? Okay?Would you have one? Now you say

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this is your thirtieth birthday. Youhaven't done it before. You don't want
to do it every year? Isit just because it's a landmark birthday?
Yeah, I just sort of feellike thirty is kind of special. I
don't I definitely wouldn't do it forlike thirty three, you know what I
mean, maybe my fortieth, butyeah, it's a landmark. You're right,
and you and your justification for havinga registerry for your gifts is you've
bought probably hundreds of dollars worth ofbridesmade gowns and wedding gifts and putting together

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the bachelorette party and all this,so you feel like, you know what,
I'm never gonna have a wedding.I'm not going to have a baby.
So yeah, I'm kind of onyour side. To be honest with
you, why not. I don'tknow how your friends are going to react.
Yeah, I mean, look,I appreciate that you're on my side.
I've had a few friends say itwas kind of selfish and weird,

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but yeah, I mean it's true, and so much on birthday parties and
you know, weddings over the years, and I just feel like that's the
equal thing to do but I don'tknow. What are you? What are
you asking for? Like? Isit kind of like house war question?
Yes, sir, what are youwanting? I don't think it's anything crazy.
I've got like, Oh my gosh, what do I have on it?

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Like a cure? Eg, anew I need a new phone case.
I oh, I've heard Dave talkabout that towel warmer, so I
added one of these warm If youlive in Minnesota, Wisconsin, don't have
a towel warmer, you gotta getone. Not the kind that hangs the
towel over a bar. It lookslike a trash can with a lid on

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it. It is glorious. Okay, so good? But what else is
on your registry? Oh? Theninja like the ninja creamies that are again
all over TikTok. That looks reallygood. Nine stream. I don't know,
like pillows and stuff, really basicstuff. I think nothing I'm not
asking for, you know, an, I'm in a leg. So what
do you think? Let's call andcall in and let us know or text

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in at Katie WB one and letus know. Is she justified in getting
a registry together for her birthday ifshe's not planning on like getting married or
having children, because that's the onlyother time you get gifts is when you're
getting married or have children. BecauseI even think for weddings, like you

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have your bachelorette party often you getgifts there. You have your bridal shower
and you get gifts there, andyou have your wedding and you get gifts
there. So you get gifts threetimes for your wedding. And like,
what if you're not getting married,then your friends wouldn't just get you regular
birthday gifts. No, Usually birthdaygifts pass like a certain name, you
know, they buy your pizza atOlives. They take you down to a

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Celia and you go down to Olives. You get a pizza, and that's
your friend's birthday present. She didn'twant a pizza from Olives. I mean
she does. She also wants aCurrigan and Ninja. I'm on your side.
I think it's great. Text messagesare not. Well, we'll get
to some of the text messages andphone calls coming up in a and so
basically, she's turning thirty and shewants a registry. Do you have the
registry already open? I do?Are people buying gifts a couple of people

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are okay, oh, you knowthey're talking about you know, you're They're
like, can you believe that she'sgot a registry? What did you buy
her? I bought it the phonecase because it's cheap. Call let us
know, keep your radio on.We'll have some answers for you. Okay,
okay, thank you very much.Call and let us know or send
a text at KDWB one. Wejust mentioned Sam Smith a minute ago as

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skiing accident. Here he is onthe radio on KDWB. I really find
this interesting. A woman is turningthirty. She talked to us a minute
ago on the radio she wants aregistry. She's had a registry for her
thirtieth birthday. She says, Iwould never do it for a thirty third
or a yeah, you know,thirty eighth birthday. But it's a landmark

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birthday. And I'm so good aboutgetting my friends bachelorette party gifts, baby
shower gifts, wedding gifts. I'vebeen doing this for years. I want
something for me. So she alsosaid that that she doesn't plan on getting
married or having kids. Yep,right, and so she's not going to
have your bridal showers, your bacheloretteparties, your wedding gifts. I love
it. I think it's great.I would absolutely like laugh at this and

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be like, you know what youdeserve this? Elena Elina? I thought,
I don't know Alisa, Yeah,okay, and so I would happily
buy her a Cuig It's like,what one hundred and forty bucks? I
don't care, she's my friend.I'd happy'd be happy to do that.
Would you be fine with it ifthere were more price? Like what if
she had like a Nintendo switch onthere, which is like three hundred bucks?

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I'd go in with you. Wego in there. Yeah. So
let's get the phones here and seewhat you think, because we are very
split on this one. Let's talkto Charlie first. Charlie, what would
you say to Alisa Elena? Whateverit is it, what would you say,
Charlie let what the name is?I would tell her. I think
it's a great idea. I actuallyknow somebody who did this, but it

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was my aunt. She's a lotolder than thirty. I think you know,
at thirty you think you know everythingI thought I did, and then
at thirty five, I'm like,wow, I was not the safe person.
I did think I was gonna getmarried and now I am, so
I think thirty is a little tooearly to do it. It's a great
idea. I would drop the thingabout the kids though, I'm not having

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kids, and they'll get third foryou, So really stick into like the
wedding the best show. So you'reokay with her doing this, You're you're
your thing is you're okay with herdoing this? But I would wait,
would wait, I see what youmean. So if you're sixty and you've
never had kids, never gotten married, then hell, yeah, absolutely yeah.
But now that she's thirty, shecan enjoy this stuff. When you're
sixty, I mean, yeah,you guys enjoy it, right, Hello

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Alex, Hi, how you doingdoing well? Alex? What do you
think is she okay with having athirtieth birthday registry? Absolutely? You know,
I just turned thirty last year,and I think that's the perfect place
to start. I would do itlike every five maybe ten years, you
know, those significant birthdays that wehave throughout our life. But like,

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I think it's a brilliant idea.I had a very crappy wedding and you
know, nobody showed up and Ithink if you have a registry for a
birthday, then that would be morerecognizable, because you know, she doesn't
want to get married, doesn't wantto have kids, So what else is
there to have parties to show othersor to have other people show their appreciation
for you every five or ten years. Though I don't feel like a thirty

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fifth or whatever the landmark is isnot a grandio's birthday. Also, somebody's
not getting married or having kids everyfive or ten years. No, you
know, no, you'd be surprised. Thank you, Alex. Appreciate that
Catherine, she wants to have She'sgot a registry on her birthday, registry
for thirtieth birthdays, a phone case, some nice pillows, a currig,

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a ninja twel warmer, some otherthings. What do you think should she
not have registry? Oh? No, she should absolutely have a registry.
I think that she should be applaudedfor being thirty years old and not making
some hasty decision and going ahead andgetting married at you know, young and
then getting divorced you know, ayear eighteen months later or something like that.

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Might as well, you know,celebrate the fact that she's figuring out
who she is and all that sortof stuff. And I think you're good
friends would support this, but there'sgonna be friends that are gonna be like,
uh, you believe Elise has gota registry, I'm not buying or
anything or you or they're buying itbe grudgingly. It's like yeah, yeah,
you know, like threw down onehundred and forty dollars per cuig.

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See a lot of people that aretexting in like no one's being forced to
participate. So like you can havethe registry, but like you don't need
to say like I'm expecting you toget me a gift or else, like
you're not my friend anymore, Solike you could still have the registry and
then just be like, hey,if you want to get me something,
here's what I want, so thatyou don't end up getting like a poster
that says live laugh love, LikeI don't want that hanging in the bath.

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No no, no, no,no, just no no. I
would argue that expecting people to getyou guess for your bachelorette, bachelorette bridal
shower and your wedding, now that'sobnoxious to me. Like I find that
to be more obnoxious than this girldoing a registry for her thirtieth. Okay,
there's so many This is a hugeresponse. I'm going to read some

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random ones. It's okay for yourfortieth, way too early for this party.
Comparing turning thirty to having kids orgetting married or not equal. I
think when you're ten thirty, youthink you're all of a sudden old,
and then you get a little perspectivein life and you realize how young thirty
really is. Another one, youdon't have to buy or anything on her

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registry. Those are things she'd like, and who cares if you did it
every year? It's optional. Butif you get a registry and you all
meet down at Olives, which iswhere, like I don't know, it's
the perfect place for like a bacheloretteor birthday dinner or something like that,
then if you don't bring the giftand everybody else did, then you're going
to feel like a moron. SoI have two that don't agree that this

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is a good idea. Tell me, why what do you got? This
person says that is such a grab. Throwing a wedding and having a child
requires a ton of money being spent. Who's to say she'll never get married
or have children. But Lisa,she said she's going to and also,
you also choose to get married andhave kids, yes, And then someone
else says a birthday is not aspecial change of life event. Weddings,
babies, new homes are life changingevents. Nobody gives an f about your

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birthday. Your birthday, but somethinglike celebrating someone's big promotion at their career.
Because I feel like we don't celebratebig, monumentous, monumental things like
that, and I feel like that'swe're celebrating. I think as much as
like having a child, right,Like, why can't we throw a party
for I got a job on theradio, throw me a freaking party?

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Why is no one here throwing mea party? You guys because afford it.
She's asked why we didnrow a party? Got a job here? Yeah,
okay, Wow, what a monumentalcasing for me? What do you
think it's really interesting? One borecall to wrap things up, Cassie,
she wants to. She's got aregistry for her birthday. She's thirty.

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She says it's justifying she's never gonnaget married, never have kids, and
she's gotten hundreds of dollars of giftsfor weddings and babies over the years for
her friends. So she wants tohave a little fun. So she's registered
for gifts like a curig and aphone case, which I thought was kind
of weird, but okay, whatdo you think, Cassie? Is this
okay? So my argument is thatwe kind of already do this during the

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holiday season. We all create wishlessand send them off to each other.
My family implemented Amazon wishless yeah lastyear and saved us so much headache and
hassle in terms of the gifting.That's smart. I don't know about that.
That's the thing Amazon wishless. Yes, my family did that because I
hate trying to figure out what toget anybody. How does that work?
So you go through Amazon, yougo, oh, I want this towel
warmer, I want this juice ninjawhatever. Yeah, you can just like

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do us drop down and hit likeall put this under my Christmas wish lift.
It's kind of like your cart onAmazon. But you can send it
to people and say, hey,my uncles just did this for their son.
He's starting five in a couple ofweeks, and they were like,
hey, if you were thinking aboutgetting zombie or something for his birthday.
Here's what you could get them,and then if somebody gets it, it'll
get crossed off like a regular registry. I u's a great idea because a

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lot of the time you don't knowwhat to get somebody, especially like a
five year old's like, well,what are they into? They wanted like
a I don't know, like atruck or do they want dinosaur dinosaur or
what? So I have a question. Since you guys are all on board
with this, my birthday is threeweeks from yesterday. If I just casually
send in our group chat a wishlist a birthday registry for Vontavia's Carl Leak,

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could I expect gifts on August twelfth? No? No, no,
I mean I might ask you whatyou want we get lazy to get you
a gift card. YEP, Ithink we should do this. I'm gonna
do this since you're all standing onit that this is the good idea.
It's my twenty third birthday, andI expect, well not expect. That's
a little much, but I'm hopingI come in here and see you know,
you get some muff. No,you're not gonna get it. I

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think one of the things that I'velearned is like, don't give new people
an expensive present. Want somebody,It's like, yeah, I get you
a cheap present, and if you'veyou know, worked here for a year
or so, then you've earned theright to a more expensive present. I'm
going to buy you a switch andthey have you go, yeah, I
got a job at the Star Tributeand I'm gonna leave next week to do
that. Like where's my Nintendo switch? Is like giving you somebody engagement ring

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and then they break up with you. I want that to ring back.
Okay, So Muffins, that's it. Muffins, thanks for the thanks for
all the phone calls on group therapy.