Greg Giangrande is a transformative Human Resources and Communications leader with an exceptional record and reputation as a trusted partner and counselor to CEOs, Executive Leadership teams and Company Boards across iconic, multi-platform companies with global scale. Recognized as a leading authority on careers and the workplace, Greg is the "GoToGreg" career advice columnist for the NY Post; and is a weekly on-air contributor for iHeart Radio's 710~WOR morning show; and frequent television on-air contributor for Good Day NY, Fox_5 News. He is currently the Global Chief People and Communications Officer for Ellucian - a private equity-owned global market leader in Ed Tech powering the future of Higher Education. Greg has a BA in Journalism and a MA in Communications from New York University, where he taught public speaking and communications courses as an adjunct faculty member for 20 years.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This is a podcast from WOR. Here again is Larry
Minty with the WOR Saturday morning show.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
Welcome back.
Speaker 1 (00:09):
Did you know that HR specialist Greg g and Grande
will answer your questions at go to Greg dot com.
This week, Greg got two questions about bosses that play
favorites and co workers who share way too much about
their personal lives in the workplace. Greg is here to
tell us how to handle those workplace dilemmas. And so
(00:33):
you're ready, Greg, I'm just going to read a couple
of these.
Speaker 3 (00:36):
I'm ready, Larry. Let me first say sure that you
are my favorite radio host. Now go ahead with your
first question.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
What brought that on? Exactly?
Speaker 3 (00:50):
Well, it relates to your first question.
Speaker 2 (00:53):
Oh, okay, here we go.
Speaker 1 (00:55):
I work on a team where our manager clearly plays favorites.
Certain colleagues consistently get the best assignments, more praise, and
more flexibility. It's starting to affect morale. I'm torn between
speaking up or staying silent. What can I do without
making things worse? And that comes from your favorite radio host?
Speaker 3 (01:21):
Yes, exactly, and that was one of my points. Let's
face it. The truth is that, like many teachers have pets,
many bosses do have their favorites, and that can be
a result of several factors. It could be just sucking
up like I was to you, Larry, but it actually
(01:42):
happens to give the truth. Or it can be great
chemistry that you happen to have with your boss, or
frequently it's really because that person demonstrates great job performance
and they make the boss's life easier. The boss can
always count on them. Now, a good boss shouldn't let
others feel like there is a favorite, but sometimes it's
(02:05):
hard to hide. And maybe none of those factors are
at play in your relationship with your boss or how
your boss views you. So what can you do well?
The person who wrote in said, should they remain silent?
Remaining silent is the best way to ensure that you
(02:26):
remain unhappy. So you have to do something because unhappiness
at work only leads to more resentment. As this person
said that it's affecting morale, and when your morale is affected,
then it affects your performance. So at the end of
the day, you're having an adverse impact on yourself more
(02:47):
than you are on the company by staying silent and
just building up this resentment. So you do need to
say something, But speaking up and accusing your boss of
unfairness and playing favorite, that's not typically a good career
strategy either for success.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
You're not going to become his favorite. That way no strategy.
Speaker 3 (03:11):
But you know, if you speak to you, if you
ask to speak to your boss privately, and don't make
it about something your boss is or isn't doing or
someone else, but about you and your career ambitions and
your desire to do more on the team and more
for the boss to take on more and higher work,
(03:31):
and asking for feedback about what you do well and
what your boss thinks you can do better and how
you can get better at it. It makes your boss
vested in your growth and development, which can improve the
relationship because now you're asking for their feedback and their
advice and their their you know, mentorship in a way.
(03:54):
And so that's one way to improve your situation. It's
also a way to find out if there's an issue
with your performance that your boss feels and maybe that's
why you're feeling kind of left out. But the only
way to improve this is actually to say something, and
that's the best approach.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
I love that answer, and I love this next question.
I love my co workers how it starts, but I
did not sign up to be their part time therapist
by lunch. I've heard about their ex, their cat's gluten allergy,
and their cousins third divorce. I want to be kind,
but I also want to get my work done. How
do I gently tell them without sounding like I don't care?
Speaker 3 (04:36):
Yeah? Well, I think we have all worked with that
person who doesn't seem to have boundaries, just won't shut
up about their personal lives, or definitely shares too much
too frequently. They can disperse a breakroom faster than someone
microwaving fish for lunch. I've seen it. We've all had
(05:01):
that experience. Someone that you care about, then you should
tell them that you really do care and you enjoy
your conversations, but you really have to catch up on
a ton of work and can we maybe talk about
this later after work? Do you want to grab a
bite or a drink? And every time it comes up
(05:21):
at work, if you keep saying I really care, I
want to help, but maybe we can talk about it
after work or or you know, during lunch or something
that hopefully that they will they will get the message
or again, depending on the relationship. If it's a banal
banter about their cats gluten allergy, you can make fun
(05:41):
of it and then change the subject. Do this enough
times in that kind of way with someone you care
about and eventually they should get the message. And if
they don't, then I think again, as a friend over lunch,
having a direct heart to heart like you would with
any friend outside about you know what, what's working, what's
(06:03):
not working is always a good approach.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
So I love this.
Speaker 1 (06:06):
Let's do this again, Greg. If you want to send
a question again Greg, go to Greg dot com. Go
to Greg dot com and he'll answer your questions. Also,
if you have a question for Greg, you can leave
it on our talkback. That would be wonderful to get
the question directly from you and we'll use it on
a future show.
Speaker 3 (06:24):
Sound good, Greg, sounds great to me. You're the best, Larry,
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (06:28):
I love you too. Greg.
Speaker 1 (06:30):
G and Grande career advice expert with us every Wednesday
at nine thirty five.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
Check them out at go to Greg dot com. This
has been a podcast from wo R
This is a podcast from WOR. Here again is Larry
Minty with the WOR Saturday morning show.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
Welcome back.
Speaker 1 (00:09):
Did you know that HR specialist Greg g and Grande
will answer your questions at go to Greg dot com.
This week, Greg got two questions about bosses that play
favorites and co workers who share way too much about
their personal lives in the workplace. Greg is here to
tell us how to handle those workplace dilemmas. And so
(00:33):
you're ready, Greg, I'm just going to read a couple
of these.
Speaker 3 (00:36):
I'm ready, Larry. Let me first say sure that you
are my favorite radio host. Now go ahead with your
first question.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
What brought that on? Exactly?
Speaker 3 (00:50):
Well, it relates to your first question.
Speaker 2 (00:53):
Oh, okay, here we go.
Speaker 1 (00:55):
I work on a team where our manager clearly plays favorites.
Certain colleagues consistently get the best assignments, more praise, and
more flexibility. It's starting to affect morale. I'm torn between
speaking up or staying silent. What can I do without
making things worse? And that comes from your favorite radio host?
Speaker 3 (01:21):
Yes, exactly, and that was one of my points. Let's
face it. The truth is that, like many teachers have pets,
many bosses do have their favorites, and that can be
a result of several factors. It could be just sucking
up like I was to you, Larry, but it actually
(01:42):
happens to give the truth. Or it can be great
chemistry that you happen to have with your boss, or
frequently it's really because that person demonstrates great job performance
and they make the boss's life easier. The boss can
always count on them. Now, a good boss shouldn't let
others feel like there is a favorite, but sometimes it's
(02:05):
hard to hide. And maybe none of those factors are
at play in your relationship with your boss or how
your boss views you. So what can you do well?
The person who wrote in said, should they remain silent?
Remaining silent is the best way to ensure that you
(02:26):
remain unhappy. So you have to do something because unhappiness
at work only leads to more resentment. As this person
said that it's affecting morale, and when your morale is affected,
then it affects your performance. So at the end of
the day, you're having an adverse impact on yourself more
(02:47):
than you are on the company by staying silent and
just building up this resentment. So you do need to
say something, But speaking up and accusing your boss of
unfairness and playing favorite, that's not typically a good career
strategy either for success.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
You're not going to become his favorite. That way no strategy.
Speaker 3 (03:11):
But you know, if you speak to you, if you
ask to speak to your boss privately, and don't make
it about something your boss is or isn't doing or
someone else, but about you and your career ambitions and
your desire to do more on the team and more
for the boss to take on more and higher work,
(03:31):
and asking for feedback about what you do well and
what your boss thinks you can do better and how
you can get better at it. It makes your boss
vested in your growth and development, which can improve the
relationship because now you're asking for their feedback and their
advice and their their you know, mentorship in a way.
(03:54):
And so that's one way to improve your situation. It's
also a way to find out if there's an issue
with your performance that your boss feels and maybe that's
why you're feeling kind of left out. But the only
way to improve this is actually to say something, and
that's the best approach.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
I love that answer, and I love this next question.
I love my co workers how it starts, but I
did not sign up to be their part time therapist
by lunch. I've heard about their ex, their cat's gluten allergy,
and their cousins third divorce. I want to be kind,
but I also want to get my work done. How
do I gently tell them without sounding like I don't care?
Speaker 3 (04:36):
Yeah? Well, I think we have all worked with that
person who doesn't seem to have boundaries, just won't shut
up about their personal lives, or definitely shares too much
too frequently. They can disperse a breakroom faster than someone
microwaving fish for lunch. I've seen it. We've all had
(05:01):
that experience. Someone that you care about, then you should
tell them that you really do care and you enjoy
your conversations, but you really have to catch up on
a ton of work and can we maybe talk about
this later after work? Do you want to grab a
bite or a drink? And every time it comes up
(05:21):
at work, if you keep saying I really care, I
want to help, but maybe we can talk about it
after work or or you know, during lunch or something
that hopefully that they will they will get the message
or again, depending on the relationship. If it's a banal
banter about their cats gluten allergy, you can make fun
(05:41):
of it and then change the subject. Do this enough
times in that kind of way with someone you care
about and eventually they should get the message. And if
they don't, then I think again, as a friend over lunch,
having a direct heart to heart like you would with
any friend outside about you know what, what's working, what's
(06:03):
not working is always a good approach.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
So I love this.
Speaker 1 (06:06):
Let's do this again, Greg. If you want to send
a question again Greg, go to Greg dot com. Go
to Greg dot com and he'll answer your questions. Also,
if you have a question for Greg, you can leave
it on our talkback. That would be wonderful to get
the question directly from you and we'll use it on
a future show.
Speaker 3 (06:24):
Sound good, Greg, sounds great to me. You're the best, Larry,
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (06:28):
I love you too. Greg.
Speaker 1 (06:30):
G and Grande career advice expert with us every Wednesday
at nine thirty five.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
Check them out at go to Greg dot com. This
has been a podcast from wo R
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