December 12, 2018 • 21 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
That's Latina and latinas be super possessive. We'll be ready
to cut even a cousin like this cousin and your
Zahia balancing cities too much. Now, I'll get the vaselineau
I'll put I'll tip my hair up in a ponytail.
I'm not working around. I'm Honey German. My parents are Dominican.
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I was born and raised in New York City. I
love sneakers and I'm a body positive advocate. I'm Carolina Bermudez,
but I was born and raised in Ohio. I'm a wife,
a mama, and a worker being. This is Life in
English and we're back, and we're back. People have wanted
us to come back, like ever since we launched the
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podcast last Tuesday, people hit me up every day like, okay,
I listened to all eleven episodes, what's next? I have
to give a special shout out to you. Lizza. She
was so excited about this, and she said that she
was at work to listen to all eleven and She's like,
what did I do at work today? I listened to
all the episodes of Life in Spain. My friend Abbie
did the same thing. She told me She's like, I
kept sending people to voicemail all day long when they
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would interrupt my binge. Yeah, well, you know, I just
I did want to shout out someone who said that
the best line that I had was saying that I
can't concentrate when I have a fart that's trapped. And
I just want to thank you for taking the one
gym out of all of the hours of podcasting that
we've done so far. So thank you for that. Right now,
that's so funny. They're like, yeah, we're printing this a
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quote from That'll be on That'll be my epitaph. Um.
So yeah, we were talking about how right now it's
the holiday season. I just got back from a weekend
in Columbus and the small talk situation, I can imagine. Girl,
my game is so bad. My game is so bad.
When I tell you, I was mortified at myself doing
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small talk at parties. I'm just not good at it.
I'm not good at it either. I'm not even gonna lie.
And people think because we work in radio or because
we do this that like we're naturally gifted at small
small talk is a gift. It really is, because it's like, yeah,
you're like, hi, how are you? But you have to
know how to like flow a conversation like past the weather,
past the current events and things like that. And then
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here's the kicker, when you're really not interested in the person.
It's like, after like three things, how's your mom, how's
your kid? Okay, well I'll check back with you. Let
me go get a drink real quick. It really is
so awkward. Let me tell you what happened. So we
were celebrating my brother's fiftieth birthday. His wife went all out.
She did such an incredible job. And they live back
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in Columbus. They live in Ohio. Yeah, and she's just
a beautiful girl. And I asked her, I said, you know,
I'm not going to know anybody at this party except
for my family. I said, is there anybody that's going
to be there that I should know? Kind of like
give me a heads up, give me a heads up
if somebody's important. Yeah. So she goes, oh, well, you
know your nephew and your nieces, nanny that you still
work with him forever will be there. And I said okay.
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I said, well her name is Jamie. Okay, so I'm
on Instagram one day and my brother posted a picture
and I saw that Jamie liked his picture, so I
went and follow Jamie. Okay, I see her at my
brother's party and I walked out to her and I'm like,
oh my gosh. I said yes and congratulations, and she's like, uh,
for what, And I was like, well, aren't you and
she I was like and then I'm like, oh, I'm
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in the danger zone right now. And I said aren't you.
Are you pregnant? No, no, but just wait, and so
she goes, no, I only have a daughter and a son.
And I was like, oh, well, then maybe I thought
I saw it on your Instagram. And then I was like,
trying to backpedal. I followed the wrong Jamie life. I
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wasn't even stalking. I like when, and I swear to you,
I was actually doing it to be proactive and to
be preparing yes, and then I ended up offending so offend,
and I'm like, oh my gosh. And I said to
my sister in law. I was like, girl, please tell
her the confusion and show her the account. She goes, oh, no,
she's friends with that Jamie anyway. Like She's like, oh no,
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that's my my other friend Jamie she's having the baby.
But this is where small talk can get you in trouble.
It's like the most innocent thing that you say, like
you never know, people can be offended if you bring
up politics, if you bring up sports, like you know,
it's just it's a it's rough terror. You're walking a
fine line, especially when people they don't know you. I
remember it was just like we bumped into my husband
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cousin that I had never met, and then they're talking
about the kids, and then he I was married to
my husband yet and he tells, my husband, you know,
having kids is the most amazing thing you'll see. Whoever
you decide to have your kids with, they're going to
have to be this. And I'm in front of me
and I'm like, whoever you decide to have your kids with,
how about I want to decide if I'm going to
have his kids you And he was just like, no
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offense to you. I was like, well, tons of offense taken.
He was like, oh, I didn't mean to be rude,
but they were having small talk and it just went
completely wrong. And you know what, in his defense, so
I bet you that wasn't even he wasn't even thinking.
Probably like, oh wow, that's his girl right there, Like
he probably just thought I wasn't like serious. I was
probably some type of jump off a sign and you
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I was just like here we are now, And guess
who didn't go to the wedding that cousin. I didn't
even remember him when the invitations went out. So hold on,
not to solve honey, hold okay, hold on, especially if
we try to disrespect me, to violate me in front
of your wife. But now, so like when you're at
a party, do you have to like say hello? Do
you feel like you have to say hello to everyone?
I feel like if I don't say hello to everyone,
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they're going to think I have some type of personal
like vendetta or grudge. Again, but it's not your party.
I feel like if you're the host of the party,
you should make your rounds and make your way around.
And you're setting I guess yeah, because you're also a guest.
But let's say, like tonight we have our station Christmas party.
You guys have one of those we have, So today
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we go and it's like every DJ will go, every
label will go, everybody will go. Yeah, so we have
like our label people come, So I make it a
point to go up to every single person and say hi,
like make everyone feel important, and I loved no longer
they see it as a honey No, I know. That's
why it's like you have to like watch yourself, and
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you definitely do. But it's weird. I don't know. I
don't like small talk. I'm so not good at it,
and I do have to say I was. I was
a little bit put off because my one brother came
up to me at my brother's party and he was like, hey,
I think it'd be a good idea if you got
up there and uh, you know, said some words about
armand and I'm like, you know what. Honestly, like a
lot of people do to know this about me. I
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get anxiety when I'm like in social settings where I
don't know people obviously, like I'm asking people if they're pregnant.
So you feel me like topic we're going to get into, yeah,
but like I do. And it's funny because people say, well,
you talk to everybody, you've been on stage here. I'm like,
it's different, you know, And I'm so in my head
about things that I'm very critical and so I I
didn't want to take away from like the beautiful moment
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that they had created. And and then I also worry
do you ever worry about like how people be like, uh,
she thinks it's about her if you get to go
up on a mic listen. Of course, with my family,
I try to play like the back see like that
barely works because I never want people to be like, oh,
it was her sister's birthday, but you know she's on
the radio, act like she was a celebrity. Is like well,
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I felt like I did feel bad after and I
wanted to tell my brother, Renee. I was like, Renee,
you know what, this isn't about me. This was not
like you know, and if anything, he was the oldest
one there, like other than my brother, he should have
gone up and said something. But then my in the
back of my mind, I'm thinking, you know what, it's
your family. You're speaking from the heart. Who cares if
you mess up? But that's what anxiety is in case
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you've never known, you know. Yeah, So I made it
like this whole big thing. Then I started feeling like
a certain type of way. And then after I thought
about him, like you know what, No, that moment was
not about me. That moment was about being there with
my family to show my brother how much we loved him.
So there you have a big old heart. I do. I,
but it's just I'm very um. I don't know. I
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feel like I'm very sensitive to other people because I
don't want to take the spotlight away. Do I Neither
do I maybe before when I was where now at
this point, it's just you know, I think you're doing
the most out there. You're the one that wants, you
know what I mean, she always wants the attention for her.
Just because you know she's this or she's that doesn't
mean that old eyes have to be on her. So
I kind of like tend to like fall back even
in pictures. I don't want to be tre center. So
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I guess it's just us being, you know, conscious that
other people matter and they're just as important as we are,
so don't take offense to it. Basically, like maybe somebody
who you might know might be really great at a
certain thing, but like just because they don't want to
do something that is their expertise or what they're very
good at, that doesn't mean that they don't want to
do it for you. Maybe they get a little bit
of like performance anxiety or like, you know, you want
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to let other people shine. Like my sister had an
anniversary party and a lot of her followers know who
I am, and I kept like going in the back
and like some terrorists and just hanging out with a
couple of people. I really didn't want to take the
the attention or the focus off of like what we
were really celebrating. So it's like she came back and
she's like, listen, people are looking for you to take pictures,
and I'm like, well, I just didn't want to. I
just didn't want to be like, oh, it's it's a
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Honey German show right now. So I kind of like
just went in the back. There was like a little
balcony or a terrorist and I was just back there,
you know, shooting the ship with some of my friends
that were also at the party. And I didn't want
her to think like I was being rude and I
didn't want to participate. I just wanted her to have
her moment. Listen, fam we're the Beyonce's Okay, I don't
want to take and I just said, or the Kelly
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Rowlands of the war. Now I'm kidding, I'm joking, but No,
that's like how people think that you want to be
that person. So, um, the small talking party is my advice.
Keep it light, keep it light. And the awkward thing
about that is I when to leave and where do
you say you're going? You have to have a stay
for it. You have to have a plan. I gotta
go to the bathroom or oh, let me go get
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some food. No, no, let me get a new drink.
I don't stay for it. We don't have nothing. He
just he's a mute. When we out, he's like, you
talk and he'll just shake his head kind of shorta
And I'm the one that has to say everything. We
need to have a double date with you and Nuni
and my husband Mark and I, let's do it. They
probably will say ten words the entire night because Mark
does not speak. He it doesn't. And it's like people
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get the worst impression because they think like that he's um,
you know, I don't know that they might think that
they take him being quiet for something else when really
that's just who he is, you know. And that's because
they're like peggy, like, oh he's antisocial or he just
didn't want to be there. No, sometimes people just quiet, Yeah,
if it's no and these friends, he'll be talkative. But
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if it's really not, like if I bring him to
like a company party, he'll probably say hello to He
was very sweet when I met him. He's very nice,
but he's just he's not out of pocket. That's that's
what it is. I hate men that out of pocket,
all talking and trying to make everybody laugh. I'm gonna
need you to settle down. He's been just laughing too loud. Yeah, exactly.
And you're calling too much attention over and there's something
like that. They love attention and they love other women's attention.
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On dated that guy before. By the way, I have allergies.
So if you guys, yeah, do you hear that allergies
in the winter, that thing Carol girl, allergies all your
long That made you guys messed up. I didn't even
know I had allergies until I turned forty. I'm not
even kidding. It was like, well, no wonder, I'm miserable,
pine trees, eggs, I know. So um, all right, so
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let me see we have a listener email. So we
got ahead to the salon, which is what we like
to do. Sit in a chair, buboo Okay, wait, who
is this from? This is from e J. This is
a long ass email. I'm not even gonna lie sus juicy.
So let's see. E J was talking about how she
went to brunch with her friends that go way back,
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like they're super close, right, and um, three of them
went to lunch, but there were four friends, so her
one friend left the phone in her car. She didn't
know that she had left it until she heard the
buzzing over and over again. Well, when she went to
reach under the seat, she saw that the friend who
wasn't at the brunch, her ex boyfriend, was texting one
of the friends that was at the brunch, and then
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he said when are you going to get your Christmas gift?
And set her the egg plant emoji? Okay, well that's okay,
I spend even I know what it's all about. So
she said, I honestly thought about respecting her privacy and
asking her about it later pretending I didn't see it,
or opening the text to read the threat. So my
question is what would you guys do in this situation?
This is so messy because it's like four friends and
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then it's an X is the other one like happily
moved on if she married or is she still like
smashing this one x every now and then? It I
need more details. But well, she said that she wanted
to give us all the chiefsment, which I appreciate because
this is we don't have to face time. Huh, I know, right,
But she said that she like she's asking, what would
you do in this situation? She goes, I opened that
shut up. I scrolled to the beginning of the combo,
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which was about seven months in which included sexting, d
meet up combo so much more has HAPs of their
hookups too. Yeah, but you know what relationship, Carolina? Why
is he still sending the eggplane emoji for a gift
seven months deep? I want exactly you want that Vemo account?
I saw I was going to send you one dollar
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how much for one rip? So wait? So anyway, she
says that um that she feels disrespect and it didn't
even happen to Well, first of all, e J, I'm
just going to tell you something. I think that what
you did, I don't think it was wrong. I don't,
I really don't. I think you were putting this posit
in this situation unknowingly unwillingly somebody left their phone in
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your car and then you're looking at it could like
across the screen. That's what she said. Yeah, so she
was saying like she opened up the text and looked
up and was just like, Okay, once you do that,
you're in it. You are in it. You know what
I mean? How do we feel about this situation? Yeah,
but she's wondering like if she respected the girl code.
I just you know, this is so tough, because here's
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the thing, this is why it's so mesty. Yeah, you
got four friends that are super close. You have one
girl that is texting with the other friends ex boyfriend
for seven months, sending nudes and stuff, and you're smiling
in each other's faces, having brunches and going to all
this ship and you're pretending like this isn't happening there.
I feel like that I can't exactly, and not only that,
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I feel like, e J can't be cool with this
girl anymore, knowing what she knows her. You can't. I
feel like first order of business, e J is You're
going to have to confront this person and let her
and let you know that you know, and you saw
the text, and I would give her the option of like,
are you going to tell her? Or do you want
me to tell her? Right? Even if it ruins, because
it's gonna and I'm sorry to cut you off, but
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I feel exactly the same way that you do. Are
you going to tell her? Am I going to tell her?
Because it's gonna get said? Yeah? No, Listen, if it's
four solid friends, this is like the holy Grail of
friendships and somebody's out he eviolating dating exes, we have
a problem. And you know what though, The thing about
it is e J is that, like I feel like
what you said at the beginning of your email about
how you have friends, but you don't have like friends,
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super close friends to you, like I have my core girlfriends.
I trust them with everything. If one of these women
were to do this to me, I would be so
devastated because it's like a sisterhood more than anything, right,
and they know your intermost secrets, your thoughts, like you
text them, you tell them all these things. And then
to have someone even if this other friend is over
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the relationship, I think the way they went about it
was grimy. Even if I'm over the relationship, I don't
want any of my friends dealing with any of my exes.
I swear to you, I just don't. Do you ever
watch Vanderpump Rules. I watched it. Sometimes she's the one
who has the bar right with all the beautiful people there.
So this is like Stace and Brittany Stas used to date.
Jack's Brittany and Jack's just gotta engaged, and they're sitting
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there talking about him, and I'm just like, I don't know.
If I could just be sitting here like wrapping with
another girl about a dude that you'd like, Eskimo sisters
and stuff like that, I cannot. I don't know. I
need to separate myself from anybody who did me with
somebody else. I feel like younger people do this type
of stuff though they trade off people. Yeah, maybe I
just never I never went through that phase. Why is
getting Why are you looking at me? That's not wrong?
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I mean I think that it's I think there are
definitely definitely people who do things like that, but I
just wouldn't feel you don't know. Wait, can we talk
about that for a second. Do you want to know something?
Because you a long Island I did not even I
swear to you, I did not know about this. I
swear every person that I talked to they're like, oh,
well you know that couple there's swingers. I'm like, are
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you kidding me? Yes, like living the best life in
Long Island, But no, I don't believe it. And I'm
just like, really, I don't know. I don't see them
that way. You sleep, you sleep, Carolina? These people how here?
Like why are you sing on Long Island? There's like
full blown like swingers clubs. Are you kidding? I was like, well,
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tell me what it is, so I don't go there.
I don't want people confusing me. Yeah, you know I've
heard about do you do you? I'm not judging, but
I'm just saying, And I think here's here's the combination
of it. I think it's like powerful people, people with
a lot of money, and people have been together a
very long time. So it's just like my husband's super powerful,
he's uber rich. Am I gonna let him cheat on me?
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Or am I going to be like face try to
get near my husband? Like I legit, you just got
I do? I love my man? I would never be
able to, like, you know, even when I was younger,
like you know, you get these like provocative, like little
situations and stuff. I could not get down with it.
Like I was like, all right, okay, that's Latin. Latin
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has be super possessive. We'll be ready to cut even
a cousin like this cousin in your Zia balancing cities
too much. Now, I'll get the vasseline out, I'll put
I'll tip my hair up in a ponytail. I'm not
sucking around. Don't mess with I always say, like, don't
mess with my many. Well, obviously my family and my
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black friends either. My black friends is not down for
the whole threesome swing game playing games. I've never maybe
my white friends. Yes, my white friends are more like
chill whatever, and a lot of them experimented. Yeah, but
that's like, that doesn't mean that I'm not like sexually free.
I think it just means that I value my relationship.
This is a marriage, and this is a marriage. At
this point, it's absolutely dude, this is like my my
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baby's dad. Plus Plus, I feel like a lot of
women that that tend to do those type of things
are putting the man's needs before their own, because I
can't see a woman being like, oh, I want to
swing with other men, Like, but then now we're treating
on the judge territory ever in my life? What what's wrong?
Why are we? Are we going too long? Right now? No,
we're not going to leave this in don't you edit
this part? No? No, no, no, no, we're gonna We're
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gonna leave it. But I just feel like I've never
shouldn't judge the swingers. I don't think want to judge nobody.
But listen, I don't have the stomach to like sit
there and watch my husband have sex with somebody else.
I just don't have it never. I don't get that image.
I don't do you remember that? What do you to
go home and be like, let's see the kids are
still sleep? Hell no? So did you ever see that
movie in Decent Proposal? Of course, yes, it was so good.
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Yes it was so good. And I'm like, oh, hold on,
but if there's a million on the line, my husband's
gonna have to let me, you know, clap these cheeks
on somebody else. It would have to be more than
a million. Maybe with Drake Okay requirement Instagram, I studied it.
We're sitting here talking about how we want Drake and
a million dollars, I'm leaving my husband. Sorry, you know,
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I mean, like, obviously I'm being funny and stuff, but like, yeah,
I had never My one girlfriend broke it down from you.
She was like, oh, you're not from here, and I
was like, no, I'm obviously yeah, from the property. She's
from long and she was like, oh no, this goes
down and that goes down, and I was like, wow,
you are really never letting this bit in my house
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while I'm not there. It's like I was not prepared
for this conversation, but like, this is really real. So anyway, Oh,
back to the salon. We gotta get back in the salon. Okay,
so all we'll have to do it because marriage and swinging,
that's a good topic right there. But e J, go
talk to your home girl that you found her phone.
Let her know that she wants to deal with it,
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because your other friend most definitely should know what's up. No,
that's definitely if one of your girls is sleeping with
another one X, I don't care. We gotta tell, like
how we're going to break this news to her. And
I love you, but I love her too. I'll let
you closer to the other one thing and you'd be like, Okay,
you want to know what this hoja to with you?
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Definitely email us, guys. We love hearing from you. Life
in Spanglish podcast at gmail dot com and Honey has
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Eli Spanglish on Twitter and Instagram. You can also hit
me and Carolina. We check our d ms all the time. Yeah,
I'm at the real Carolina and I am Honey German
on Instagram. Yeah, but it's at I am Honey German
(20:24):
because not just you know, we want to make sure
you know where to find what you're saying. Yeah, but anyway, guys,
you know we are getting this ship popping. We love it.
I'm having so much fun and I'm just loving the
response from you guys and let us know what you
want us to talk about. Yeah, but real, because so
many people hit me up and they were just like
I loved it. I benched on it. Big shout out
to everybody who listened. We were like number fourteen on
iTunes in the whole entire world of podcasts. Like if
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you don't understand how that is, imagine, Uh no, let
me stop, let's wrap it up. Let's stop. Okay, no,
I love it. No, keep go higher, keep the visuals
going higher, and of the divisions. Guys, we'll be back
to do this next week, so until then, we'll see
you in a bit. Peace,
That's Latina and latinas be super possessive. We'll be ready
to cut even a cousin like this cousin and your
Zahia balancing cities too much. Now, I'll get the vaselineau
I'll put I'll tip my hair up in a ponytail.
I'm not working around. I'm Honey German. My parents are Dominican.
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I was born and raised in New York City. I
love sneakers and I'm a body positive advocate. I'm Carolina Bermudez,
but I was born and raised in Ohio. I'm a wife,
a mama, and a worker being. This is Life in
English and we're back, and we're back. People have wanted
us to come back, like ever since we launched the
(00:43):
podcast last Tuesday, people hit me up every day like, okay,
I listened to all eleven episodes, what's next? I have
to give a special shout out to you. Lizza. She
was so excited about this, and she said that she
was at work to listen to all eleven and She's like,
what did I do at work today? I listened to
all the episodes of Life in Spain. My friend Abbie
did the same thing. She told me She's like, I
kept sending people to voicemail all day long when they
(01:05):
would interrupt my binge. Yeah, well, you know, I just
I did want to shout out someone who said that
the best line that I had was saying that I
can't concentrate when I have a fart that's trapped. And
I just want to thank you for taking the one
gym out of all of the hours of podcasting that
we've done so far. So thank you for that. Right now,
that's so funny. They're like, yeah, we're printing this a
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quote from That'll be on That'll be my epitaph. Um.
So yeah, we were talking about how right now it's
the holiday season. I just got back from a weekend
in Columbus and the small talk situation, I can imagine. Girl,
my game is so bad. My game is so bad.
When I tell you, I was mortified at myself doing
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small talk at parties. I'm just not good at it.
I'm not good at it either. I'm not even gonna lie.
And people think because we work in radio or because
we do this that like we're naturally gifted at small
small talk is a gift. It really is, because it's like, yeah,
you're like, hi, how are you? But you have to
know how to like flow a conversation like past the weather,
past the current events and things like that. And then
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here's the kicker, when you're really not interested in the person.
It's like, after like three things, how's your mom, how's
your kid? Okay, well I'll check back with you. Let
me go get a drink real quick. It really is
so awkward. Let me tell you what happened. So we
were celebrating my brother's fiftieth birthday. His wife went all out.
She did such an incredible job. And they live back
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in Columbus. They live in Ohio. Yeah, and she's just
a beautiful girl. And I asked her, I said, you know,
I'm not going to know anybody at this party except
for my family. I said, is there anybody that's going
to be there that I should know? Kind of like
give me a heads up, give me a heads up
if somebody's important. Yeah. So she goes, oh, well, you
know your nephew and your nieces, nanny that you still
work with him forever will be there. And I said okay.
(02:50):
I said, well her name is Jamie. Okay, so I'm
on Instagram one day and my brother posted a picture
and I saw that Jamie liked his picture, so I
went and follow Jamie. Okay, I see her at my
brother's party and I walked out to her and I'm like,
oh my gosh. I said yes and congratulations, and she's like, uh,
for what, And I was like, well, aren't you and
she I was like and then I'm like, oh, I'm
(03:13):
in the danger zone right now. And I said aren't you.
Are you pregnant? No, no, but just wait, and so
she goes, no, I only have a daughter and a son.
And I was like, oh, well, then maybe I thought
I saw it on your Instagram. And then I was like,
trying to backpedal. I followed the wrong Jamie life. I
(03:34):
wasn't even stalking. I like when, and I swear to you,
I was actually doing it to be proactive and to
be preparing yes, and then I ended up offending so offend,
and I'm like, oh my gosh. And I said to
my sister in law. I was like, girl, please tell
her the confusion and show her the account. She goes, oh, no,
she's friends with that Jamie anyway. Like She's like, oh no,
(03:57):
that's my my other friend Jamie she's having the baby.
But this is where small talk can get you in trouble.
It's like the most innocent thing that you say, like
you never know, people can be offended if you bring
up politics, if you bring up sports, like you know,
it's just it's a it's rough terror. You're walking a
fine line, especially when people they don't know you. I
remember it was just like we bumped into my husband
(04:18):
cousin that I had never met, and then they're talking
about the kids, and then he I was married to
my husband yet and he tells, my husband, you know,
having kids is the most amazing thing you'll see. Whoever
you decide to have your kids with, they're going to
have to be this. And I'm in front of me
and I'm like, whoever you decide to have your kids with,
how about I want to decide if I'm going to
have his kids you And he was just like, no
(04:40):
offense to you. I was like, well, tons of offense taken.
He was like, oh, I didn't mean to be rude,
but they were having small talk and it just went
completely wrong. And you know what, in his defense, so
I bet you that wasn't even he wasn't even thinking.
Probably like, oh wow, that's his girl right there, Like
he probably just thought I wasn't like serious. I was
probably some type of jump off a sign and you
(05:00):
I was just like here we are now, And guess
who didn't go to the wedding that cousin. I didn't
even remember him when the invitations went out. So hold on,
not to solve honey, hold okay, hold on, especially if
we try to disrespect me, to violate me in front
of your wife. But now, so like when you're at
a party, do you have to like say hello? Do
you feel like you have to say hello to everyone?
I feel like if I don't say hello to everyone,
(05:22):
they're going to think I have some type of personal
like vendetta or grudge. Again, but it's not your party.
I feel like if you're the host of the party,
you should make your rounds and make your way around.
And you're setting I guess yeah, because you're also a guest.
But let's say, like tonight we have our station Christmas party.
You guys have one of those we have, So today
(05:44):
we go and it's like every DJ will go, every
label will go, everybody will go. Yeah, so we have
like our label people come, So I make it a
point to go up to every single person and say hi,
like make everyone feel important, and I loved no longer
they see it as a honey No, I know. That's
why it's like you have to like watch yourself, and
(06:05):
you definitely do. But it's weird. I don't know. I
don't like small talk. I'm so not good at it,
and I do have to say I was. I was
a little bit put off because my one brother came
up to me at my brother's party and he was like, hey,
I think it'd be a good idea if you got
up there and uh, you know, said some words about
armand and I'm like, you know what. Honestly, like a
lot of people do to know this about me. I
(06:25):
get anxiety when I'm like in social settings where I
don't know people obviously, like I'm asking people if they're pregnant.
So you feel me like topic we're going to get into, yeah,
but like I do. And it's funny because people say, well,
you talk to everybody, you've been on stage here. I'm like,
it's different, you know, And I'm so in my head
about things that I'm very critical and so I I
didn't want to take away from like the beautiful moment
(06:48):
that they had created. And and then I also worry
do you ever worry about like how people be like, uh,
she thinks it's about her if you get to go
up on a mic listen. Of course, with my family,
I try to play like the back see like that
barely works because I never want people to be like, oh,
it was her sister's birthday, but you know she's on
the radio, act like she was a celebrity. Is like well,
(07:11):
I felt like I did feel bad after and I
wanted to tell my brother, Renee. I was like, Renee,
you know what, this isn't about me. This was not
like you know, and if anything, he was the oldest
one there, like other than my brother, he should have
gone up and said something. But then my in the
back of my mind, I'm thinking, you know what, it's
your family. You're speaking from the heart. Who cares if
you mess up? But that's what anxiety is in case
(07:32):
you've never known, you know. Yeah, So I made it
like this whole big thing. Then I started feeling like
a certain type of way. And then after I thought
about him, like you know what, No, that moment was
not about me. That moment was about being there with
my family to show my brother how much we loved him.
So there you have a big old heart. I do. I,
but it's just I'm very um. I don't know. I
(07:53):
feel like I'm very sensitive to other people because I
don't want to take the spotlight away. Do I Neither
do I maybe before when I was where now at
this point, it's just you know, I think you're doing
the most out there. You're the one that wants, you
know what I mean, she always wants the attention for her.
Just because you know she's this or she's that doesn't
mean that old eyes have to be on her. So
I kind of like tend to like fall back even
in pictures. I don't want to be tre center. So
(08:16):
I guess it's just us being, you know, conscious that
other people matter and they're just as important as we are,
so don't take offense to it. Basically, like maybe somebody
who you might know might be really great at a
certain thing, but like just because they don't want to
do something that is their expertise or what they're very
good at, that doesn't mean that they don't want to
do it for you. Maybe they get a little bit
of like performance anxiety or like, you know, you want
(08:38):
to let other people shine. Like my sister had an
anniversary party and a lot of her followers know who
I am, and I kept like going in the back
and like some terrorists and just hanging out with a
couple of people. I really didn't want to take the
the attention or the focus off of like what we
were really celebrating. So it's like she came back and
she's like, listen, people are looking for you to take pictures,
and I'm like, well, I just didn't want to. I
just didn't want to be like, oh, it's it's a
(08:58):
Honey German show right now. So I kind of like
just went in the back. There was like a little
balcony or a terrorist and I was just back there,
you know, shooting the ship with some of my friends
that were also at the party. And I didn't want
her to think like I was being rude and I
didn't want to participate. I just wanted her to have
her moment. Listen, fam we're the Beyonce's Okay, I don't
want to take and I just said, or the Kelly
(09:19):
Rowlands of the war. Now I'm kidding, I'm joking, but No,
that's like how people think that you want to be
that person. So, um, the small talking party is my advice.
Keep it light, keep it light. And the awkward thing
about that is I when to leave and where do
you say you're going? You have to have a stay
for it. You have to have a plan. I gotta
go to the bathroom or oh, let me go get
(09:39):
some food. No, no, let me get a new drink.
I don't stay for it. We don't have nothing. He
just he's a mute. When we out, he's like, you
talk and he'll just shake his head kind of shorta
And I'm the one that has to say everything. We
need to have a double date with you and Nuni
and my husband Mark and I, let's do it. They
probably will say ten words the entire night because Mark
does not speak. He it doesn't. And it's like people
(10:01):
get the worst impression because they think like that he's um,
you know, I don't know that they might think that
they take him being quiet for something else when really
that's just who he is, you know. And that's because
they're like peggy, like, oh he's antisocial or he just
didn't want to be there. No, sometimes people just quiet, Yeah,
if it's no and these friends, he'll be talkative. But
(10:22):
if it's really not, like if I bring him to
like a company party, he'll probably say hello to He
was very sweet when I met him. He's very nice,
but he's just he's not out of pocket. That's that's
what it is. I hate men that out of pocket,
all talking and trying to make everybody laugh. I'm gonna
need you to settle down. He's been just laughing too loud. Yeah, exactly.
And you're calling too much attention over and there's something
like that. They love attention and they love other women's attention.
(10:45):
On dated that guy before. By the way, I have allergies.
So if you guys, yeah, do you hear that allergies
in the winter, that thing Carol girl, allergies all your
long That made you guys messed up. I didn't even
know I had allergies until I turned forty. I'm not
even kidding. It was like, well, no wonder, I'm miserable,
pine trees, eggs, I know. So um, all right, so
(11:07):
let me see we have a listener email. So we
got ahead to the salon, which is what we like
to do. Sit in a chair, buboo Okay, wait, who
is this from? This is from e J. This is
a long ass email. I'm not even gonna lie sus juicy.
So let's see. E J was talking about how she
went to brunch with her friends that go way back,
(11:27):
like they're super close, right, and um, three of them
went to lunch, but there were four friends, so her
one friend left the phone in her car. She didn't
know that she had left it until she heard the
buzzing over and over again. Well, when she went to
reach under the seat, she saw that the friend who
wasn't at the brunch, her ex boyfriend, was texting one
of the friends that was at the brunch, and then
(11:49):
he said when are you going to get your Christmas gift?
And set her the egg plant emoji? Okay, well that's okay,
I spend even I know what it's all about. So
she said, I honestly thought about respecting her privacy and
asking her about it later pretending I didn't see it,
or opening the text to read the threat. So my
question is what would you guys do in this situation?
This is so messy because it's like four friends and
(12:09):
then it's an X is the other one like happily
moved on if she married or is she still like
smashing this one x every now and then? It I
need more details. But well, she said that she wanted
to give us all the chiefsment, which I appreciate because
this is we don't have to face time. Huh, I know, right,
But she said that she like she's asking, what would
you do in this situation? She goes, I opened that
shut up. I scrolled to the beginning of the combo,
(12:31):
which was about seven months in which included sexting, d
meet up combo so much more has HAPs of their
hookups too. Yeah, but you know what relationship, Carolina? Why
is he still sending the eggplane emoji for a gift
seven months deep? I want exactly you want that Vemo account?
I saw I was going to send you one dollar
(12:53):
how much for one rip? So wait? So anyway, she
says that um that she feels disrespect and it didn't
even happen to Well, first of all, e J, I'm
just going to tell you something. I think that what
you did, I don't think it was wrong. I don't,
I really don't. I think you were putting this posit
in this situation unknowingly unwillingly somebody left their phone in
(13:14):
your car and then you're looking at it could like
across the screen. That's what she said. Yeah, so she
was saying like she opened up the text and looked
up and was just like, Okay, once you do that,
you're in it. You are in it. You know what
I mean? How do we feel about this situation? Yeah,
but she's wondering like if she respected the girl code.
I just you know, this is so tough, because here's
(13:34):
the thing, this is why it's so mesty. Yeah, you
got four friends that are super close. You have one
girl that is texting with the other friends ex boyfriend
for seven months, sending nudes and stuff, and you're smiling
in each other's faces, having brunches and going to all
this ship and you're pretending like this isn't happening there.
I feel like that I can't exactly, and not only that,
(13:57):
I feel like, e J can't be cool with this
girl anymore, knowing what she knows her. You can't. I
feel like first order of business, e J is You're
going to have to confront this person and let her
and let you know that you know, and you saw
the text, and I would give her the option of like,
are you going to tell her? Or do you want
me to tell her? Right? Even if it ruins, because
it's gonna and I'm sorry to cut you off, but
(14:18):
I feel exactly the same way that you do. Are
you going to tell her? Am I going to tell her?
Because it's gonna get said? Yeah? No, Listen, if it's
four solid friends, this is like the holy Grail of
friendships and somebody's out he eviolating dating exes, we have
a problem. And you know what though, The thing about
it is e J is that, like I feel like
what you said at the beginning of your email about
how you have friends, but you don't have like friends,
(14:40):
super close friends to you, like I have my core girlfriends.
I trust them with everything. If one of these women
were to do this to me, I would be so
devastated because it's like a sisterhood more than anything, right,
and they know your intermost secrets, your thoughts, like you
text them, you tell them all these things. And then
to have someone even if this other friend is over
(15:01):
the relationship, I think the way they went about it
was grimy. Even if I'm over the relationship, I don't
want any of my friends dealing with any of my exes.
I swear to you, I just don't. Do you ever
watch Vanderpump Rules. I watched it. Sometimes she's the one
who has the bar right with all the beautiful people there.
So this is like Stace and Brittany Stas used to date.
Jack's Brittany and Jack's just gotta engaged, and they're sitting
(15:22):
there talking about him, and I'm just like, I don't know.
If I could just be sitting here like wrapping with
another girl about a dude that you'd like, Eskimo sisters
and stuff like that, I cannot. I don't know. I
need to separate myself from anybody who did me with
somebody else. I feel like younger people do this type
of stuff though they trade off people. Yeah, maybe I
just never I never went through that phase. Why is
getting Why are you looking at me? That's not wrong?
(15:46):
I mean I think that it's I think there are
definitely definitely people who do things like that, but I
just wouldn't feel you don't know. Wait, can we talk
about that for a second. Do you want to know something?
Because you a long Island I did not even I
swear to you, I did not know about this. I
swear every person that I talked to they're like, oh,
well you know that couple there's swingers. I'm like, are
(16:08):
you kidding me? Yes, like living the best life in
Long Island, But no, I don't believe it. And I'm
just like, really, I don't know. I don't see them
that way. You sleep, you sleep, Carolina? These people how here?
Like why are you sing on Long Island? There's like
full blown like swingers clubs. Are you kidding? I was like, well,
(16:29):
tell me what it is, so I don't go there.
I don't want people confusing me. Yeah, you know I've
heard about do you do you? I'm not judging, but
I'm just saying, And I think here's here's the combination
of it. I think it's like powerful people, people with
a lot of money, and people have been together a
very long time. So it's just like my husband's super powerful,
he's uber rich. Am I gonna let him cheat on me?
(16:49):
Or am I going to be like face try to
get near my husband? Like I legit, you just got
I do? I love my man? I would never be
able to, like, you know, even when I was younger,
like you know, you get these like provocative, like little
situations and stuff. I could not get down with it.
Like I was like, all right, okay, that's Latin. Latin
(17:11):
has be super possessive. We'll be ready to cut even
a cousin like this cousin in your Zia balancing cities
too much. Now, I'll get the vasseline out, I'll put
I'll tip my hair up in a ponytail. I'm not
sucking around. Don't mess with I always say, like, don't
mess with my many. Well, obviously my family and my
(17:32):
black friends either. My black friends is not down for
the whole threesome swing game playing games. I've never maybe
my white friends. Yes, my white friends are more like
chill whatever, and a lot of them experimented. Yeah, but
that's like, that doesn't mean that I'm not like sexually free.
I think it just means that I value my relationship.
This is a marriage, and this is a marriage. At
this point, it's absolutely dude, this is like my my
(17:52):
baby's dad. Plus Plus, I feel like a lot of
women that that tend to do those type of things
are putting the man's needs before their own, because I
can't see a woman being like, oh, I want to
swing with other men, Like, but then now we're treating
on the judge territory ever in my life? What what's wrong?
Why are we? Are we going too long? Right now? No,
we're not going to leave this in don't you edit
this part? No? No, no, no, no, we're gonna We're
(18:13):
gonna leave it. But I just feel like I've never
shouldn't judge the swingers. I don't think want to judge nobody.
But listen, I don't have the stomach to like sit
there and watch my husband have sex with somebody else.
I just don't have it never. I don't get that image.
I don't do you remember that? What do you to
go home and be like, let's see the kids are
still sleep? Hell no? So did you ever see that
movie in Decent Proposal? Of course, yes, it was so good.
(18:36):
Yes it was so good. And I'm like, oh, hold on,
but if there's a million on the line, my husband's
gonna have to let me, you know, clap these cheeks
on somebody else. It would have to be more than
a million. Maybe with Drake Okay requirement Instagram, I studied it.
We're sitting here talking about how we want Drake and
a million dollars, I'm leaving my husband. Sorry, you know,
(18:58):
I mean, like, obviously I'm being funny and stuff, but like, yeah,
I had never My one girlfriend broke it down from you.
She was like, oh, you're not from here, and I
was like, no, I'm obviously yeah, from the property. She's
from long and she was like, oh no, this goes
down and that goes down, and I was like, wow,
you are really never letting this bit in my house
(19:20):
while I'm not there. It's like I was not prepared
for this conversation, but like, this is really real. So anyway, Oh,
back to the salon. We gotta get back in the salon. Okay,
so all we'll have to do it because marriage and swinging,
that's a good topic right there. But e J, go
talk to your home girl that you found her phone.
Let her know that she wants to deal with it,
(19:41):
because your other friend most definitely should know what's up. No,
that's definitely if one of your girls is sleeping with
another one X, I don't care. We gotta tell, like
how we're going to break this news to her. And
I love you, but I love her too. I'll let
you closer to the other one thing and you'd be like, Okay,
you want to know what this hoja to with you?
(20:02):
Definitely email us, guys. We love hearing from you. Life
in Spanglish podcast at gmail dot com and Honey has
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I'm at the real Carolina and I am Honey German
on Instagram. Yeah, but it's at I am Honey German
(20:24):
because not just you know, we want to make sure
you know where to find what you're saying. Yeah, but anyway, guys,
you know we are getting this ship popping. We love it.
I'm having so much fun and I'm just loving the
response from you guys and let us know what you
want us to talk about. Yeah, but real, because so
many people hit me up and they were just like
I loved it. I benched on it. Big shout out
to everybody who listened. We were like number fourteen on
iTunes in the whole entire world of podcasts. Like if
(20:48):
you don't understand how that is, imagine, Uh no, let
me stop, let's wrap it up. Let's stop. Okay, no,
I love it. No, keep go higher, keep the visuals
going higher, and of the divisions. Guys, we'll be back
to do this next week, so until then, we'll see
you in a bit. Peace,
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