January 30, 2019 • 32 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Do you guys really go out of the Yeah, you know.
Now now it's a little bit more calm. Before I
used to be like, I'm breaking the whole house. Oh
you are you like Rihanna, like the breaking dishes thing.
I'm just I'm just like the type of person I
swear to God, I will grab a vos, I will
be like, I am going to kill you today. I'm
going to jail like That's that's how I fight. I'm
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Honey German. My parents are Dominican. I was born and
raised in New York City. I love sneakers and I'm
a body positive advocate. I'm Carolina Bermudez, but I was
born and raised in Ohio. I'm a wife, a mama,
and a worker being. This is life in English, Theirs.
My first question for you is what do you do
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on Saturday mornings? Oh? Wow, it depends, but usually seventy
of the time I just get up and run. Today,
here someone to try to get it out of the
right well. By the way, This is Carolina Bermudez and
I'm Honey German. And I was thinking about this because
I started giggling to myself once it happened, and I
said I know my girl can relate. I know my
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girl can relate. This past Saturday, I was up early
with the kids and I went upstairs and I opened
the door and I proceeded to vacuum my child awake.
Do you remember the Saturday morning clean up with your
mom coming in? Ah, of course I do. And the
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words came out of my mouth and I was like,
wait a minute. By the way, they're five and three,
so I don't know how much help they're gonna be
gre not, but I'm cleaning. You're gonna be up at last.
I was like, oh my gosh, And do you remember, like, so,
what was the vibe like when your mom used to
clean on Saturday morning? So was it Saturday for you?
My mom didn't clean clean? Well? Yeah, you know what
you're right, that is, that is the correction. We were
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five so and we were three girls. So my mom
was just like, which means lazy, dirty women in my house.
That's unacceptable, that's right. And um we would have to
get up, like put on like house clothes and then know,
different duties would be, you know, delegating. You hated the toilets.
Nobody ever wanted toilet? Yeah, because my mom would like
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grab my army, but like get in there afraid. I'm
like Pope goes in there. Of course I'm afraid. I'm nine,
leave me alone, and she would just like shut my
hand down there. And you know, if the bathroom had
to be cleaned, it was just like this bathroom is
being cleaned, you know, like the president of the Dominican
Republic was coming to stay with us, right, Like getting
the toothbrush out. You know, they had the old tooth brushes,
which by the way, I still have an issue with,
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but like getting underneath the sea. You know, you have
the regular brush, but the mom would make you go
underneath with the toothbrush. I am so glad that you
can relate to this, because I thought about I started
to get like PTSD and then I started laughing because
I'm like, I feel like if you grew up in
a true like Latino home, your mom made you wake
up on Saturday morning, but then it was like it
smelled like fabuloso or like once if everything was done,
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but you know, or I smelled with like my tears
as I had to do it. It's like okay, it
was like nine am, and then my mom wouldn't make
like a whole like pile of like everything we were
going to use. And it was like mops and bright
toilet scrub and just the side of that, just the
thought of that, you know, the ajax for all of
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those who are listening, you know Caucasian friends. Yeah, I mean,
and she would like the one thing that I would
get so mad is like, don't touch my hand and
tell me how to do it like I'm doing it.
If you want to correct that after I'm done, you
can get in there, like the walls, and my mom
would show us how to scrub the wall. Not too hard,
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not to solve, you know, don't peel the paint of off.
Go in the same direction, by the way. You don't
want to be going in different directions on wax off.
You gotta go just wax on, just wax on. And
I was thinking to myself to the soundtrack because you know, mom,
Mom had the tapes popping at the time, like she
would put on her music, so you would hear just
this loud music going throughout the house. And it was
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just like the stereo system. You can touch it, oh no,
why it was behind the glass and you would like
tap it and then it would pop open and it
was like a million things happening. Oh. I think we
had like techniques or something like that. I think it
was like you know that the two big speakers on
the side, It's like, okay, when are we going to
be hosting parties? Absolutely? Yeah, But then you know you
have that you cousin, You had that one cousin that
would bring in the subwoffers and they would like connect
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them for your dad because like your dad wasn't like
real technology savvy at least mine wasn't. Just that's so funny,
so good. Then I'm glad that you know you can relate.
What would your mom listen to while you guys were cleaning?
I was trying to go back and think about some
of the people you know that um but like they
used to listen to like mandoleros is what they're called,
Like I think that's what they're called, right, Like old
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school like me and things like that. My mom was
really into like yes, who else Braulio queue? Well, I
mean that was way later for me. My mom used
to have a thing for his dad though for h
for Julio talking about my mom to my mom loved that. Man,
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Oh dude, you know what. I hear this song, what
was it called? Oh my gosh? How can I not
know that song? That was like a classic. And then
when you listen to these songs, so some of them
I was trying to recall, and I'm like, these men
loved their women. They were all about their women. They
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were like pouring their hearts out talking about their lady. Good. Yeah,
the music was really really good back then. And so
now whenever I hear those songs, I get those memories
back from my mom and like thinking back in the day,
like when we used to do that. It was just
it's so special, and I just wanted to evoke that
memory for people who aren't listening, because as much as
you hated it, now I find myself as a mother.
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It was a Saturday morning and it was just like
I just felt like I was cleaning and everybody else
needed to get in the mix. I gave my kids
a swiffer getting they can do it. I mean, you
get to pull up an order and let's go right now.
Noah's obsessed with the vacuum, so oh yeah, he loves it.
He thinks it's so cool. So I'm like, go for it,
go nuts, get the corners. Go in the corners, get
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the holes on the side and detach it. Noah, go
on the steps too. Was there actually like a compensation
for you on Saturday afternoon after you did all the cleaning. Yes,
you could live there. That was the compensation. You could
continue to live in your room and you could basically
like eat your dinner there. No, we were actually allowed
to go outside. Oh yeah, we're actually allowed to go outside.
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And a lot of the times we would go to
the movie theater. Oh really, so they wouldn't allow us
to go to like this movie it's called like Nova
Movie Theater on Broadway and like a hundred and if
the house was like pristine and clean and we were happy,
then um, and now we were happy. If my mom
was happy, I stand corrected, right, because she would actually
do My mom would go through and she would like,
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you would have to get the sign off. Okay, yeah,
you would have to look at it. Yeah, you know
what's crazy. Sometimes I would I would go back to
them in Republic. My mom was like a gypsy type
of person, very transient. She still is. And you know,
if she would fight with dad. My dad was like
a street guy from Brooklyn and my mom. If she'd
probably my dad, she would punish him by taking us
old to dominic republic really, and then he would have
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to go find her there. And I guess part of
the romance. Well, that's drama. I think about it. I'm like,
this lady was dramatic. She was holding you guys this
ransom and then all of a sudden we'd wake up
and she said, we live in a republic now for
like six months. That is crazy. The cleaning there, now,
that was intense, Carolina. I bet we had to watch
the clothes. Well, yeah, of course. And did you have
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like the little thing that had like the ridges on it?
We had the ridges, We had our knuckles. Bro. It
was like, I'm like, bro, this is this is not humane.
I want to go back to America. Why am I here?
We would have to walk to get like a chicken,
and you would pick the chicken and then they'd be
like that one and then kill it in front of you.
Like it was intense. That's real life, though right there
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it wasn't. Carolina. I spoke English. I was born in
New York. Why am I going through this? Because my
mom wants to argue with my dad? Latina moms can
be real dramatic. And the funny thing is is that
your dad couldn't even get proof of life at that
point because there was no cell phone. So he was like,
I gotta go to I got to see if my
kids are still there. I gotta get my lady in order.
And then you know, the thing is that because my
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parents used to fight too, Like my parents are married,
they've been married for over fifty years now, and um,
the funny thing is it's like when they were fighting,
you would all, like you and your brothers and sisters
would all like look at each other like, oh, like okay,
it's getting bad rounding, Okay, so yeah, go in your room,
don't come out. They're fighting. But then it's like right,
and then they would like then they would be all
lovey dovey and everything and everything was like alright, mom
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and dad, they're back together. I know exactly. But you know,
I always think about that too now, about the anxiety
that I had as a child, like you know, which
I didn't it wasn't classified as that at the time,
but like whenever I fight with my husband, which is
like very rare that we ever fight, like we never
have these like knocked down, drag out fights like my
mom and dad went at it like you could hear everything.
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Like we're a little bit more subtle, like when we're
not disagreeing, you know, we'll say, like like the other day, no,
I asked a question, Michael, I don't know, No, because
why don't you ask your daddy? I called him today
and he never called me back. So you can just
ask him and then you can let me know what
daddy wants to do. Okay, But like my mom and
dad would go for the jugglers. They were ruthless with
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each other when they fought, and I just felt like
I was never going to do that, Like when I
had kids, I said, you know, I don't want to
ever make my kids feel scared in that way, you
know what I mean. But it doesn't mean that I
don't want to go there. It just means that my
husband is more restrained, so I kind of follow his lead.
That's good, you know, at least one of you is
restrained because my marriage is full blown less fight, maybe
because we don't have kids. My portra Wila pisses on
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herself when oh my god, I swear, I tell him
if I had a gun, I would kill you right now,
and do you guys really go at it? Though? Yeah?
You know now now it's a little bit more calm.
Before I used to be like, I'm breaking the whole house.
Oh you are you? Like Rihanna? Like the breaking dishes thing,
Like just like the type of person I swear to God,
I will grab a vo I will be like, I
am kill you today. I'm going to jail. Like That's
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that's how I fight. That's like i'd be worried that
you're just going to call security on us. Sometimes I am,
but I don't fight a lot. That's I think that's
my main thing. I internalized everything so that when you do,
you explode. It's horrible. It's like, why did I internalize
things for six months? Because now I just I'm ready
to just lose my life and be in Rikers for
the next year. I was gonna say, they're not sending
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you to Martha Stewart, Baby, They're not sending you. They
don't at all. Rikers is getting acquainted. That is from
like C. Seven eight or something. So I'll come visit you.
I write you a letter. Did you see that Tupac
wrote a letter? Did you see what this one just
went up for which one Tupac wrote a love letter
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I guess back in nineties six to some to his homegirl,
like a girl that he was dating. I think it
just sold an auction for like twenty something thousand dollars
just for this letter with his like depicture, like he
wrote a picture or a character of them having sex.
I was like, okay, yes, all right, I know what
you do in prison nowt caged heating there. Papa wasn't easy,
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I'll tell you that much. But don't okay. I know
we're all over the place right now, do you like,
are you Tupac or Biggie? I'm big all the way. Okay,
so I love Tupac. I'm not East Coast, I'm not
West Coast, I understand. But as a as a like
a born and raised New Yorker Biggie big Man. Yeah,
I just think back in the day like that when
Tupac and Biggie were out, if we were in radio
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at that point in time, what stories would you tell?
Do you know what I mean? Would have been epic.
And that's one of the main reasons why I admire
and you so much. In her career, she like lives
these things. I'm like, oh my god. And back then
there were no like blogs or like urban magazines or
anything like you depended solely on radio or television. Well,
we have to shout out her book because the minute
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it came out, teams the book is incredible. Really, it
is my only my only drawback from it. The only
thing that I can say, my only criticism was I
was diverted. Tell me the conversations that she was a
million people. I know, but I thought it was just
such a great uh you know. No, I feel like
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it was just like you got to walk in her
shoes throughout her career at that point in time. And
much like you said, there weren't blogs to document, there
wasn't really a lot going on. So it's like you
got a first hand look at like nineties hip hop
in New York were just just unprecedented. Like when Biggie died.
I heard it on the radio. It's crazy because I
used to I've always loved Radio've always loved music, So
I used to sleep with the radio on, and I
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think and I remember it was just like I had
gone out and I was sleeping. I guess I was sleeping. Later,
like eleven twelve noon or something, no responsibilities. And then
in my sleep I heard somebody on the radio say
like Biggie was killed, and I remember I just woke
up and I was just so distraught. I was like
so sad. And you didn't have the internet, you didn't
have anything. It's just like you were waiting for them
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to give you another update on the radio. You know.
It's not like you can go to like Baller or
the shade room of sign thing or see what his
family tweeted or anything. It was just and I remember
that instance and goes to show you, you know, how
they they molded culture and how they were the sole
people feeding us the information. Radio is important. Oh it's
crazy important. I mean, and we're not just saying that
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because we work in radio. But I do still think
that you have that connection with people. And regardless, I
do think that people have the ability to look stories up.
They still want to hear it from the people that
they trust. You know what I mean, you're actually there.
It's like one thing is reading something and another thing
is like so when Biggie's mother called me, it's like,
why was on the phone with you? Don't get me started.
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I know please and the whole fact. I mean, I'm sorry,
I know we're talking about Angie right now, but like
I see her in pictures with Mary J. Blige and
I'm like, you know, I would be so embarrassing to
her because like Mary J is like, like she just
basically narrated my whole like childhood, teenage, Like every love
story has been a Mary J like soundtrack. So it's
like I see her like hanging out Mary on the
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birthday week, I'm like, damn, and that is so cool.
But I guess that's why she gets to hang out
with her. She doesn't think, ye, she doesn't see it
is something something like that's cool. It's just like my friend,
that's real life. So yeah. But anyway, we were talking
about cleaning we got into prison and Mary J. Blick,
how do we do this every day of our lives?
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I do have to give a shoutout? Is it cool
if I give one? Really, quil this belongs to you, honey, No,
it's both of our I got the most amazing text
on Friday night from my cousin Ned Joseph. He lives
in California and he has three daughters and he has
a son and he said, I just got caught up
on my last life in Spanguish, and He's like, I
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just want to tell you I love you and Honey together.
He said, can I read it to you? Because I
think you'll I think you'll really enjoy this. This was
unsolicited and I just I really am just so appreciative
of people who are taking the time to like, listen
and follow um. He said, Hey, has just got caught
up on my Spanglish. I'm one of those male listeners.
You and Honey are great together. I laugh when you
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talk about Nakar. That's my mom um and the family.
It brings back a lot of great memories. Love the
different topics, funny and serious. Seriously, you've helped me out too.
I've started reading Jesus Calling in the Daily Stoic. It
makes for a good start to my day. And more importantly, Charlotte,
his oldest um is almost thirteen. In your episode on
communication about difficult things has helped so much. She's a
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really good, responsible little girl. But I still worry. Sorry
for the long text, miss you and love you, but
I thought that was just so heart kind. Words go
so far, they really do, and it's just in this industry.
It's like sometimes you do things but you don't really
see how it touches people. Right, And this is my family,
I mean, this is my blood, my cousin. But I
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just you know, we both have families and we have
everyday life and we get wrapped up in it. And
you know, I would never think that he would ever,
you know what I mean, like you would ever take
the moment to listen and then to follow it up
and and and get a book and toss us a
daughter and send you the message. Yeah. So I mean
for real, that just touched my heart. And I mean
I wrote a long as text message after. But it's just,
you know, we're giving you everything that we feel like
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you can connect with and that, you know, whatever is
real in our lives, we want it to be real
for you too. So I'm just so glad that people
are connecting, I know. And it's so crazy. It's like
we're we're on iTunes. We're still up there in the
top two d podcasts, and there are so many podcasts
that come from all over the world right that to
still stay within the top two hundreds, it's a big deal,
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especially being newbies, Like there are people that are up
there that have thousands of podcasts, Like seriously that thousands
of recordings we have like maybe twenty. I don't know
this is this is about? And yeah, I don't even know,
and early that we do this for fun, like we
do this for fun and to create content that's relatable,
because honestly, I really couldn't find podcasts that I felt
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like related to me, like a second generation Latina, like
somebody who speaks English, who speaks Spanish considers themselves, you know,
kind of cool, and I just couldn't find it. It
was either very Latina or or just not from me.
Who did you grow up admiring because I felt like
when I was growing up in Ohio, there weren't I
think in New York you were exposed to so much
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more than I was. I feel like it was like,
you know, an isolated thing. And please don't get me wrong.
You know, I had television, we had a satellite dish um.
But the one woman who completely inspired me and made
me want to do this was Daisy fuent This that
was the only one that I saw an MTV and
she was you know, we would go down to Miami
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and I would see like Univision and you know the
girls down there sometimes. But like for me real like
day to day as a sixth grader coming home, Daisy Fuent,
this is the girl or the lady. They gave me
hope that I could actually do this because I didn't
see anybody on TV at that time where I was
growing up in Warren, Ohio, Youngstown, Ohio that was a
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latina that was on television or that was on the radio.
Was really scarce. Like when you think about it, you know,
we had people like Rosie Perez. Rosie Perez was always
super dope. I felt like she could do this, I
could do this, but listen, her accent is insane and
I really really adore her. And then we had you know,
Lauren Velez on New York unto Cover. She was also
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super dope. She had the show with Malik Yoba and
it was The Three Cops. So it was just like
and even Jennifer Lopez, because Jennifer Lopez has been around
for a long when she came out the celebration, I
mean we were like, go, go go. It's like I
remember I watched like Jennifer Lopez behind the music, probably
like fifteen years ago, and I was like yo, I
could do all this ship too. And I remember I
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would be like, maybe I could sing, or maybe I
can act, maybe something. It was just like it just
it just kind of like like woke up all these
feelings of like, okay, it could be a possibility. Possibility
for it was very black and white. It was never
Latina's you know who also influenced me a lot, which
is really weird us out a lady. Yes, so I
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would watch her and she was an amazing talk show
host and her career spanned like what thirty forty years.
Oprah actually gives her credit for giving her well, Oprah,
I believe, and I don't want to interrupt your story,
but Oprah I believe gives Christina and Donna Hue a
lot of credit for the ideas of what she wanted
her talk show to be. Christina's talk show. You know,
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my grandmother and my mom watched it, so of course
I had to watch it, you know, you watch whatever
the watch course. And I remember watching her, and you know,
just the way she spoke to people and the different
topics and every day was something completely different, and I
remember feeling connected to her in a way absolutely well,
I mean, she had that's the reason why I think
she resonated and she had the career longevity that she did.
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But you know, this is the example that I'm telling
you so like you would sit down, you would watch
those shows with your mom and your grandmother or you know,
your family. We didn't even get Univision. Yeah, you know
that's why I'm saying so so for me, it was
just so limited, and there was just like such a
tiny little like I there was nobody for me to
really pull from other than my brothers and sisters who
I admired and who I just think the world of.
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And then it was like, gosh, like who could I
be like? And it was her? It was It's always
been Daisy, and she's amazing and she's had such an
amazing career and she's still around. She's still very prominent.
I do remember her. I remember her, and I remember
Downtown Julie Brown. I always liked her. I loved her,
love her, and I love the way she dressed. That
was just like she's so cool and she she's really amazing,
and her vibe was just very like I don't give
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a fuck, you know what I mean. So she I
always got the vibe from Downtown Julie Brown that she
ain't kid if they sent her back to the UK,
just like this is what y'are getting send me back?
I really don't care. You know what's crazy. It's like,
at least now kids are growing up with much more visibility,
totally they are. It's much more relatable. Like let's say,
you know, movies like Black Panther, Crazy Rich Asians, like
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at least you identify. You know, there's a movie coming
out with Gina Rodriguez and it's called Miss Mala. And
I saw the clip and I posted the movie post
her on my page and I'm like, you know what,
I stay come leaning and we're underrepresented in Hollywood on television,
but we gotta put it out there. Let's put it
out there, and let's all go see it and let's
all support it because you know, these movies do good.
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Like Crazy Rich Asians they did amazing, they won all
these awards. It was just like, who would have thought,
Can I be honest with you about Crazy Rich Asians?
I didn't, you know, I don't get to go to
the movies a lot, just because of my my schedule.
I was on the on the flight to l a
and this is like the first time I was like,
I have free time, what do I do with myself?
And I'm like, oh, crazy rich Asians. I have to
be completely honest. I thought that story. I didn't see
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it as an Asian story. I thought it was a
beautiful love story. I thought it was a funny love story.
Like I didn't look at it from the scope of Wow,
look at all these Asian people all together in this
one film. And I was like, damn, Hollywood, are you
that like, are you that myopic? Like you don't you
can't think that, like people will enjoy Just because I'm
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not Asian doesn't mean I didn't enjoy, you know what
I'm saying the same way. We've watched You Know Why,
and it's like, oh my god, I love Titanic, Oh
my god, I love you know, Bette Midler and her
home Girl. What was it? It could have been two
black friends and I would have still felt the same
way about the movie. Or it could have been to Latina's,
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you know, or it could have been no Latina Family,
Mermaids with Share and and you seen Rich and those
are the movies that I loved and as a little girl,
I admired, but we can change the color of the
skin on the people. And I think we've gotten to
a progressive state that now. I don't think a white
audience is not going to go see a movie because
the characters in it don't resonate with I thought it
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was excellent. I was boo hooing on the plane when
like when you looked at her and he's up, oh
my god, they whispered, I love you. I was just like,
oh my gosh, like this movie is just so incredible.
And that's when I sat there and I thought about it,
and I was just like, I can't believe it's taken
this long, but it's happened. Like, thank got it. You
have Black Panther. It's an amazing Actually, dude, don't get
me start on black period. It's just my amazing too.
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In don't get me started. I don't want there to
be rumors. You guys can go ahead and start rumors
about me with my that's okay. But like Black Panther,
I said to my husband, I want to go see
that in the theaters. I want to support it, like
I wanted to support it, not because it was like
an all black cast, because like I think a lot
of people did do that for that reason. I wanted
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to be there because of the story and the moment.
It was such a good film. But I also got
to thinking about you know, when I graduated from Arizona State,
much like a lot of people, I was starry eyed
and I wanted to move to Los Angeles and I
got myself an agent. Oh yeah, you didn't know that
this girl. Please my parents. I had to lie to them.
I did, and I'm I feel horrible. I told them
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that I got into acting school, which I did. I
did get into acting school, and they were giving me
money and instead of going to school, I was using
a coach and I was using the money to live
and I was waitressing. So it's not one of my
final three years. Wow, that's a long three years. And
so this is the thing that I will tell you
about Hollywood. Um. So, I had an agent and I
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would go an audition and I was auditioning against people
like Rosario Dawson. I would say, you would see these
people in the waiting room, they would be coming out,
you would be going in. Um And I just remember
going in one time and I was reading for a
part and they were like, okay, the part was for
a gang girl, you know, because Latinas can't be anything
but that at that time. And um so I go
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in and I give the read and they were like, okay, great,
Wow where are you from? And I said, oh, I said, well,
I'm you know, born and raised. They're like, but but
where are you from? And I said, well, my parents
are Nicaraguan. I said, but I was born and raised
in the US. They were like, I mean, it's like,
but your English is so good. And I sat there
for a second and I was like, this is who
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I'm auditioning in front of, you know what I mean.
So it was almost like wow, you guys just don't
get it. It was like they were shocked that I
was an educated, while spoken young woman. And I remember
leaving that audition and thinking to myself, it's time, like
it's time to get out, Like this is the time
to leave now. Yeah, because I knew that like the
things that I was going for, you know, I didn't
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want to be a prostitute in a film. I didn't
want to be a gang member. I didn't know and
that that made that was didn't want to be a made.
But then look at j Lo made in Manhattan. That
was such a great but it was such a great story.
But but like these were bit parts. I'm not going
up for the same parts as JL, you know. I
mean this is when I was just starting out. So
I just love the fact that now we can open
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up this like you know, idea of minorities being the majority,
you know, because I think that that's starting to happen.
But it also comes with us supporting supporting these movies
absolutely simple times these movies come out and demanding you know,
more content that's relevant for us, you know. Yeah, I
wanted to see Roma. It's one of the Oscar nominated
films and I unfortunately haven't had the chance to see
(25:52):
it yet. I didn't sack star sending you ever seen
in the world. Yes, And I said to my husband,
we have a date upstairs. We're gonna say because we
have one dv D player in the house, Like, you know,
I don't even have a DVD player anymore. I gotta
go buy one. Yeah, So I said to I was like,
I really want to see this. But the joy that
I got on Oscar morning seeing uh Yalizzabaricio. She is
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the first Indigenous woman to ever be nominated for an
Oscar and I, and I say this sincerely, I got
so emotional just thinking there are a number of young
women who look like her, who connect with her, that
want to be like her, and now they get their representation,
and I'm just I'm so thrilled about it. And representation matters,
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it does you know some I don't know. Sometimes I
talk about the Modern Family, and I don't know, I've
never really been able to connect to Sofia Regara's character.
Oh for for oh Modern Family the show. Oh I
thought you were talking about modern families in general. Oh yeah, Well, um,
it's like I mean, it's a it's very stereotypical. You know.
I just want to make sure I'm not the only
one that feels this way. It's just but you know
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what I will say, I do believe it's stereotypical, and
she plays it up, and I do give her credit
for that is I think she really is an incredible actress.
But the thing that means more to me than that
is that she's getting paid. She is making moves for
Latino women in Hollywood to get paid. She's one of
the highest paid, uh sitcom actresses. You know, so I
mean you look at her and you post her up
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next to the Big Bang Theory girls, and she's making
waves for the next generation, so you know, it's like, yeah,
she's kind of taken one for the team. I watched
like a few episodes and I'm like, I can't, you
can This is not me. He's not the Hispanic women.
I know that's not what we're doing. Yeah, but that's
not all we're talking. And I love Sophia of Our Guard,
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don't get me wrong. And I'm glad she's making all
this money and every year she's like the most high
paid daytime scom actress in the world. But that's not
representing me. But you know, no, that's fair. I do
think that it has to start somewhere, though, and if
it's going to start somewhere with her, like by all
means and by the way, she has grinded since she
was like a teenager. Looks back ever, she used to
(27:56):
be in like a Bally's ad or something like that.
When she was blonde. I remember saying with like boxing
gloves and I was like, dude, she is so hot.
I was like, I gotta get to a gym. Let's
go to the salon and let's read and I'm sorry,
I guess I know we're all over the place today,
but um, it's it's all good. You guys will follow
but they like it. Okay, well let's give it to Okay,
I got you. So it says all that, ladies. I'm devastated,
(28:18):
to say the least. My boyfriend of three years just
told me he isn't into Valentine's Day anymore. What does
this actually even mean? He said he doesn't feel like
we need to celebrate our relationship on a made up holiday.
How can you not be in on the most romantic
quality of the year. Is this bullshit? Should I push
him to explain more? I feel selfish, but like mama
needs some loving too. Sincerely, Rita, Oh, Rita, where are
(28:43):
we going to go with this one? Do you want
me to go first? You go go first? Know you go? Rita,
Calm down, it's not yet. Deep Listen, I feel like
this is most men. Most men are not going to
be like deep into Valentine's Day. If you be tweeted
good old days of the year, the relationship is good,
it's spicy, you go out to eat, you get flowers.
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Valentine's day is just another day. It is a man
made holiday. It's a homework holiday. It really is. So
it's like, don't push him now. If he was like
not into Christmas, I would be like you he then
you need to leave my life. Christmas is important. But
Valence as Day, I think you'll be all right. Yeah,
do you guys celebrate Valentine's Day? He don't care for
none nothing. I'm the only one. I will have to
make the plans and the reservations. He's he calls it
(29:28):
a man made holiday. He's like, this is how to
me and takes my money. And then the flowers are expensive,
and then the chocolates are expensive, and you know, he's like,
I do it for you, not because I want to
do it. We don't celebrate Valentine's Day. I feel like read,
I feel so bad. I so very badly want to
be in your corner. But like, here's the thing. I
do think that if it does mean something to you,
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then definitely talk to him about and say, look, it
doesn't even have to be like dinner. Maybe if it's
us just going out and doing something together that night. Um.
I do think a lot of people place like this
monetary value on on Vali one Tine's Day, that's so unimportant.
So maybe it's just letting them know, Like when you
come home that night, can we take a bubble bath together?
Can we? Like, because I'm big myself, honey, you could
(30:10):
come over to my house. I can figure the kids
wear bathing suits. Don't worry nothing coming out. But like,
but yeah, I'm just saying, like, you know, let him
know that it means something to you, because just because
it doesn't matter to us doesn't mean that it shouldn't
matter to you. It's true, you know, it's important to her.
I guess maybe you can make it something that he
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likes right well, And that's something too that I was
going to say. It's like, you know, sometimes and I
hate to use this word, but I'm really at a
loss for words right now, but it's like, sometimes you
almost need to show people how to treat you. You know.
I don't want to say trained, but you you almost
have to let him know, no, you know what, this
is important to me. And as much as you don't
love the holiday, can you please just kind of make
the sacrifice for me? Or you know? But then it
(30:52):
feels kind of wet. Carolina forced like this man over
here looking like a whole um weekend at Bernie's puppet
across from me, all you want to be here. I
don't want it like that. I don't want it like
you want him to be into it as much as
you are. But I feel they get him a threesome
of Valentine's. Always love Valentine's if that's what you're doing.
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And then this is where we get a detour. Right
now she's talking about threesomes. She can't even get her
boyfriend to like now, Aria, I feel bad, honey. I
want to help you solve your problem, but like I
just feel like a lot of people don't look at
it the same way that you do. And I think
you need to communicate it to him and hopefully you
guys can come to like a happy medium. Maybe you
guys go to a movie, but don't be going out
(31:34):
on Valentine's Day. They raise the prices. I'm telling it
is honestly like I'm just telling you. Being in the
in the restaurant industry for a long time as a server,
they come up with this prefix. Men, you all that
ship's back there, it's already plated. You're just getting warmed
up food. You know, like I'm just keeping it, but
like a lot of people want to get out and
(31:55):
they want to get dressed up and then it feels good.
It does feel good, and I get it. So, you know,
don't take our advice. Talk to your man about it
and see how he feels. Don't push him more to explain.
It's already explain. Most men don't believe in Valentine's Day.
You don't love it. Well, you know what. We love you, guys,
and if you can email us if you have a
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(32:40):
than you know. Ladia
Do you guys really go out of the Yeah, you know.
Now now it's a little bit more calm. Before I
used to be like, I'm breaking the whole house. Oh
you are you like Rihanna, like the breaking dishes thing.
I'm just I'm just like the type of person I
swear to God, I will grab a vos, I will
be like, I am going to kill you today. I'm
going to jail like That's that's how I fight. I'm
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Honey German. My parents are Dominican. I was born and
raised in New York City. I love sneakers and I'm
a body positive advocate. I'm Carolina Bermudez, but I was
born and raised in Ohio. I'm a wife, a mama,
and a worker being. This is life in English, Theirs.
My first question for you is what do you do
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on Saturday mornings? Oh? Wow, it depends, but usually seventy
of the time I just get up and run. Today,
here someone to try to get it out of the
right well. By the way, This is Carolina Bermudez and
I'm Honey German. And I was thinking about this because
I started giggling to myself once it happened, and I
said I know my girl can relate. I know my
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girl can relate. This past Saturday, I was up early
with the kids and I went upstairs and I opened
the door and I proceeded to vacuum my child awake.
Do you remember the Saturday morning clean up with your
mom coming in? Ah, of course I do. And the
(01:24):
words came out of my mouth and I was like,
wait a minute. By the way, they're five and three,
so I don't know how much help they're gonna be
gre not, but I'm cleaning. You're gonna be up at last.
I was like, oh my gosh, And do you remember, like, so,
what was the vibe like when your mom used to
clean on Saturday morning? So was it Saturday for you?
My mom didn't clean clean? Well? Yeah, you know what
you're right, that is, that is the correction. We were
(01:45):
five so and we were three girls. So my mom
was just like, which means lazy, dirty women in my house.
That's unacceptable, that's right. And um we would have to
get up, like put on like house clothes and then know,
different duties would be, you know, delegating. You hated the toilets.
Nobody ever wanted toilet? Yeah, because my mom would like
(02:05):
grab my army, but like get in there afraid. I'm
like Pope goes in there. Of course I'm afraid. I'm nine,
leave me alone, and she would just like shut my
hand down there. And you know, if the bathroom had
to be cleaned, it was just like this bathroom is
being cleaned, you know, like the president of the Dominican
Republic was coming to stay with us, right, Like getting
the toothbrush out. You know, they had the old tooth brushes,
which by the way, I still have an issue with,
(02:26):
but like getting underneath the sea. You know, you have
the regular brush, but the mom would make you go
underneath with the toothbrush. I am so glad that you
can relate to this, because I thought about I started
to get like PTSD and then I started laughing because
I'm like, I feel like if you grew up in
a true like Latino home, your mom made you wake
up on Saturday morning, but then it was like it
smelled like fabuloso or like once if everything was done,
(02:51):
but you know, or I smelled with like my tears
as I had to do it. It's like okay, it
was like nine am, and then my mom wouldn't make
like a whole like pile of like everything we were
going to use. And it was like mops and bright
toilet scrub and just the side of that, just the
thought of that, you know, the ajax for all of
(03:14):
those who are listening, you know Caucasian friends. Yeah, I mean,
and she would like the one thing that I would
get so mad is like, don't touch my hand and
tell me how to do it like I'm doing it.
If you want to correct that after I'm done, you
can get in there, like the walls, and my mom
would show us how to scrub the wall. Not too hard,
(03:35):
not to solve, you know, don't peel the paint of off.
Go in the same direction, by the way. You don't
want to be going in different directions on wax off.
You gotta go just wax on, just wax on. And
I was thinking to myself to the soundtrack because you know, mom,
Mom had the tapes popping at the time, like she
would put on her music, so you would hear just
this loud music going throughout the house. And it was
(03:57):
just like the stereo system. You can touch it, oh no,
why it was behind the glass and you would like
tap it and then it would pop open and it
was like a million things happening. Oh. I think we
had like techniques or something like that. I think it
was like you know that the two big speakers on
the side, It's like, okay, when are we going to
be hosting parties? Absolutely? Yeah, But then you know you
have that you cousin, You had that one cousin that
would bring in the subwoffers and they would like connect
(04:18):
them for your dad because like your dad wasn't like
real technology savvy at least mine wasn't. Just that's so funny,
so good. Then I'm glad that you know you can relate.
What would your mom listen to while you guys were cleaning?
I was trying to go back and think about some
of the people you know that um but like they
used to listen to like mandoleros is what they're called,
Like I think that's what they're called, right, Like old
(04:39):
school like me and things like that. My mom was
really into like yes, who else Braulio queue? Well, I
mean that was way later for me. My mom used
to have a thing for his dad though for h
for Julio talking about my mom to my mom loved that. Man,
(05:03):
Oh dude, you know what. I hear this song, what
was it called? Oh my gosh? How can I not
know that song? That was like a classic. And then
when you listen to these songs, so some of them
I was trying to recall, and I'm like, these men
loved their women. They were all about their women. They
(05:23):
were like pouring their hearts out talking about their lady. Good. Yeah,
the music was really really good back then. And so
now whenever I hear those songs, I get those memories
back from my mom and like thinking back in the day,
like when we used to do that. It was just
it's so special, and I just wanted to evoke that
memory for people who aren't listening, because as much as
you hated it, now I find myself as a mother.
(05:45):
It was a Saturday morning and it was just like
I just felt like I was cleaning and everybody else
needed to get in the mix. I gave my kids
a swiffer getting they can do it. I mean, you
get to pull up an order and let's go right now.
Noah's obsessed with the vacuum, so oh yeah, he loves it.
He thinks it's so cool. So I'm like, go for it,
go nuts, get the corners. Go in the corners, get
(06:06):
the holes on the side and detach it. Noah, go
on the steps too. Was there actually like a compensation
for you on Saturday afternoon after you did all the cleaning. Yes,
you could live there. That was the compensation. You could
continue to live in your room and you could basically
like eat your dinner there. No, we were actually allowed
to go outside. Oh yeah, we're actually allowed to go outside.
(06:28):
And a lot of the times we would go to
the movie theater. Oh really, so they wouldn't allow us
to go to like this movie it's called like Nova
Movie Theater on Broadway and like a hundred and if
the house was like pristine and clean and we were happy,
then um, and now we were happy. If my mom
was happy, I stand corrected, right, because she would actually
do My mom would go through and she would like,
(06:49):
you would have to get the sign off. Okay, yeah,
you would have to look at it. Yeah, you know
what's crazy. Sometimes I would I would go back to
them in Republic. My mom was like a gypsy type
of person, very transient. She still is. And you know,
if she would fight with dad. My dad was like
a street guy from Brooklyn and my mom. If she'd
probably my dad, she would punish him by taking us
old to dominic republic really, and then he would have
(07:09):
to go find her there. And I guess part of
the romance. Well, that's drama. I think about it. I'm like,
this lady was dramatic. She was holding you guys this
ransom and then all of a sudden we'd wake up
and she said, we live in a republic now for
like six months. That is crazy. The cleaning there, now,
that was intense, Carolina. I bet we had to watch
the clothes. Well, yeah, of course. And did you have
(07:30):
like the little thing that had like the ridges on it?
We had the ridges, We had our knuckles. Bro. It
was like, I'm like, bro, this is this is not humane.
I want to go back to America. Why am I here?
We would have to walk to get like a chicken,
and you would pick the chicken and then they'd be
like that one and then kill it in front of you.
Like it was intense. That's real life, though right there
(07:50):
it wasn't. Carolina. I spoke English. I was born in
New York. Why am I going through this? Because my
mom wants to argue with my dad? Latina moms can
be real dramatic. And the funny thing is is that
your dad couldn't even get proof of life at that
point because there was no cell phone. So he was like,
I gotta go to I got to see if my
kids are still there. I gotta get my lady in order.
And then you know, the thing is that because my
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parents used to fight too, Like my parents are married,
they've been married for over fifty years now, and um,
the funny thing is it's like when they were fighting,
you would all, like you and your brothers and sisters
would all like look at each other like, oh, like okay,
it's getting bad rounding, Okay, so yeah, go in your room,
don't come out. They're fighting. But then it's like right,
and then they would like then they would be all
lovey dovey and everything and everything was like alright, mom
(08:33):
and dad, they're back together. I know exactly. But you know,
I always think about that too now, about the anxiety
that I had as a child, like you know, which
I didn't it wasn't classified as that at the time,
but like whenever I fight with my husband, which is
like very rare that we ever fight, like we never
have these like knocked down, drag out fights like my
mom and dad went at it like you could hear everything.
(08:58):
Like we're a little bit more subtle, like when we're
not disagreeing, you know, we'll say, like like the other day, no,
I asked a question, Michael, I don't know, No, because
why don't you ask your daddy? I called him today
and he never called me back. So you can just
ask him and then you can let me know what
daddy wants to do. Okay, But like my mom and
dad would go for the jugglers. They were ruthless with
(09:18):
each other when they fought, and I just felt like
I was never going to do that, Like when I
had kids, I said, you know, I don't want to
ever make my kids feel scared in that way, you
know what I mean. But it doesn't mean that I
don't want to go there. It just means that my
husband is more restrained, so I kind of follow his lead.
That's good, you know, at least one of you is
restrained because my marriage is full blown less fight, maybe
because we don't have kids. My portra Wila pisses on
(09:40):
herself when oh my god, I swear, I tell him
if I had a gun, I would kill you right now,
and do you guys really go at it? Though? Yeah?
You know now now it's a little bit more calm.
Before I used to be like, I'm breaking the whole house.
Oh you are you? Like Rihanna? Like the breaking dishes thing,
Like just like the type of person I swear to God,
I will grab a vo I will be like, I
am kill you today. I'm going to jail. Like That's
(10:02):
that's how I fight. That's like i'd be worried that
you're just going to call security on us. Sometimes I am,
but I don't fight a lot. That's I think that's
my main thing. I internalized everything so that when you do,
you explode. It's horrible. It's like, why did I internalize
things for six months? Because now I just I'm ready
to just lose my life and be in Rikers for
the next year. I was gonna say, they're not sending
(10:23):
you to Martha Stewart, Baby, They're not sending you. They
don't at all. Rikers is getting acquainted. That is from
like C. Seven eight or something. So I'll come visit you.
I write you a letter. Did you see that Tupac
wrote a letter? Did you see what this one just
went up for which one Tupac wrote a love letter
(10:44):
I guess back in nineties six to some to his homegirl,
like a girl that he was dating. I think it
just sold an auction for like twenty something thousand dollars
just for this letter with his like depicture, like he
wrote a picture or a character of them having sex.
I was like, okay, yes, all right, I know what
you do in prison nowt caged heating there. Papa wasn't easy,
(11:07):
I'll tell you that much. But don't okay. I know
we're all over the place right now, do you like,
are you Tupac or Biggie? I'm big all the way. Okay,
so I love Tupac. I'm not East Coast, I'm not
West Coast, I understand. But as a as a like
a born and raised New Yorker Biggie big Man. Yeah,
I just think back in the day like that when
Tupac and Biggie were out, if we were in radio
(11:29):
at that point in time, what stories would you tell?
Do you know what I mean? Would have been epic.
And that's one of the main reasons why I admire
and you so much. In her career, she like lives
these things. I'm like, oh my god. And back then
there were no like blogs or like urban magazines or
anything like you depended solely on radio or television. Well,
we have to shout out her book because the minute
(11:49):
it came out, teams the book is incredible. Really, it
is my only my only drawback from it. The only
thing that I can say, my only criticism was I
was diverted. Tell me the conversations that she was a
million people. I know, but I thought it was just
such a great uh you know. No, I feel like
(12:11):
it was just like you got to walk in her
shoes throughout her career at that point in time. And
much like you said, there weren't blogs to document, there
wasn't really a lot going on. So it's like you
got a first hand look at like nineties hip hop
in New York were just just unprecedented. Like when Biggie died.
I heard it on the radio. It's crazy because I
used to I've always loved Radio've always loved music, So
I used to sleep with the radio on, and I
(12:33):
think and I remember it was just like I had
gone out and I was sleeping. I guess I was sleeping. Later,
like eleven twelve noon or something, no responsibilities. And then
in my sleep I heard somebody on the radio say
like Biggie was killed, and I remember I just woke
up and I was just so distraught. I was like
so sad. And you didn't have the internet, you didn't
have anything. It's just like you were waiting for them
(12:55):
to give you another update on the radio. You know.
It's not like you can go to like Baller or
the shade room of sign thing or see what his
family tweeted or anything. It was just and I remember
that instance and goes to show you, you know, how
they they molded culture and how they were the sole
people feeding us the information. Radio is important. Oh it's
crazy important. I mean, and we're not just saying that
(13:16):
because we work in radio. But I do still think
that you have that connection with people. And regardless, I
do think that people have the ability to look stories up.
They still want to hear it from the people that
they trust. You know what I mean, you're actually there.
It's like one thing is reading something and another thing
is like so when Biggie's mother called me, it's like,
why was on the phone with you? Don't get me started.
(13:39):
I know please and the whole fact. I mean, I'm sorry,
I know we're talking about Angie right now, but like
I see her in pictures with Mary J. Blige and
I'm like, you know, I would be so embarrassing to
her because like Mary J is like, like she just
basically narrated my whole like childhood, teenage, Like every love
story has been a Mary J like soundtrack. So it's
like I see her like hanging out Mary on the
(14:01):
birthday week, I'm like, damn, and that is so cool.
But I guess that's why she gets to hang out
with her. She doesn't think, ye, she doesn't see it
is something something like that's cool. It's just like my friend,
that's real life. So yeah. But anyway, we were talking
about cleaning we got into prison and Mary J. Blick,
how do we do this every day of our lives?
(14:22):
I do have to give a shoutout? Is it cool
if I give one? Really, quil this belongs to you, honey, No,
it's both of our I got the most amazing text
on Friday night from my cousin Ned Joseph. He lives
in California and he has three daughters and he has
a son and he said, I just got caught up
on my last life in Spanguish, and He's like, I
(14:44):
just want to tell you I love you and Honey together.
He said, can I read it to you? Because I
think you'll I think you'll really enjoy this. This was
unsolicited and I just I really am just so appreciative
of people who are taking the time to like, listen
and follow um. He said, Hey, has just got caught
up on my Spanglish. I'm one of those male listeners.
You and Honey are great together. I laugh when you
(15:05):
talk about Nakar. That's my mom um and the family.
It brings back a lot of great memories. Love the
different topics, funny and serious. Seriously, you've helped me out too.
I've started reading Jesus Calling in the Daily Stoic. It
makes for a good start to my day. And more importantly, Charlotte,
his oldest um is almost thirteen. In your episode on
communication about difficult things has helped so much. She's a
(15:26):
really good, responsible little girl. But I still worry. Sorry
for the long text, miss you and love you, but
I thought that was just so heart kind. Words go
so far, they really do, and it's just in this industry.
It's like sometimes you do things but you don't really
see how it touches people. Right, And this is my family,
I mean, this is my blood, my cousin. But I
(15:47):
just you know, we both have families and we have
everyday life and we get wrapped up in it. And
you know, I would never think that he would ever,
you know what I mean, like you would ever take
the moment to listen and then to follow it up
and and and get a book and toss us a
daughter and send you the message. Yeah. So I mean
for real, that just touched my heart. And I mean
I wrote a long as text message after. But it's just,
you know, we're giving you everything that we feel like
(16:11):
you can connect with and that, you know, whatever is
real in our lives, we want it to be real
for you too. So I'm just so glad that people
are connecting, I know. And it's so crazy. It's like
we're we're on iTunes. We're still up there in the
top two d podcasts, and there are so many podcasts
that come from all over the world right that to
still stay within the top two hundreds, it's a big deal,
(16:32):
especially being newbies, Like there are people that are up
there that have thousands of podcasts, Like seriously that thousands
of recordings we have like maybe twenty. I don't know
this is this is about? And yeah, I don't even know,
and early that we do this for fun, like we
do this for fun and to create content that's relatable,
because honestly, I really couldn't find podcasts that I felt
(16:53):
like related to me, like a second generation Latina, like
somebody who speaks English, who speaks Spanish considers themselves, you know,
kind of cool, and I just couldn't find it. It
was either very Latina or or just not from me.
Who did you grow up admiring because I felt like
when I was growing up in Ohio, there weren't I
think in New York you were exposed to so much
(17:14):
more than I was. I feel like it was like,
you know, an isolated thing. And please don't get me wrong.
You know, I had television, we had a satellite dish um.
But the one woman who completely inspired me and made
me want to do this was Daisy fuent This that
was the only one that I saw an MTV and
she was you know, we would go down to Miami
(17:35):
and I would see like Univision and you know the
girls down there sometimes. But like for me real like
day to day as a sixth grader coming home, Daisy Fuent,
this is the girl or the lady. They gave me
hope that I could actually do this because I didn't
see anybody on TV at that time where I was
growing up in Warren, Ohio, Youngstown, Ohio that was a
(17:56):
latina that was on television or that was on the radio.
Was really scarce. Like when you think about it, you know,
we had people like Rosie Perez. Rosie Perez was always
super dope. I felt like she could do this, I
could do this, but listen, her accent is insane and
I really really adore her. And then we had you know,
Lauren Velez on New York unto Cover. She was also
(18:17):
super dope. She had the show with Malik Yoba and
it was The Three Cops. So it was just like
and even Jennifer Lopez, because Jennifer Lopez has been around
for a long when she came out the celebration, I
mean we were like, go, go go. It's like I
remember I watched like Jennifer Lopez behind the music, probably
like fifteen years ago, and I was like yo, I
could do all this ship too. And I remember I
(18:39):
would be like, maybe I could sing, or maybe I
can act, maybe something. It was just like it just
it just kind of like like woke up all these
feelings of like, okay, it could be a possibility. Possibility
for it was very black and white. It was never
Latina's you know who also influenced me a lot, which
is really weird us out a lady. Yes, so I
(19:01):
would watch her and she was an amazing talk show
host and her career spanned like what thirty forty years.
Oprah actually gives her credit for giving her well, Oprah,
I believe, and I don't want to interrupt your story,
but Oprah I believe gives Christina and Donna Hue a
lot of credit for the ideas of what she wanted
her talk show to be. Christina's talk show. You know,
(19:21):
my grandmother and my mom watched it, so of course
I had to watch it, you know, you watch whatever
the watch course. And I remember watching her, and you know,
just the way she spoke to people and the different
topics and every day was something completely different, and I
remember feeling connected to her in a way absolutely well,
I mean, she had that's the reason why I think
she resonated and she had the career longevity that she did.
(19:42):
But you know, this is the example that I'm telling
you so like you would sit down, you would watch
those shows with your mom and your grandmother or you know,
your family. We didn't even get Univision. Yeah, you know
that's why I'm saying so so for me, it was
just so limited, and there was just like such a
tiny little like I there was nobody for me to
really pull from other than my brothers and sisters who
I admired and who I just think the world of.
(20:03):
And then it was like, gosh, like who could I
be like? And it was her? It was It's always
been Daisy, and she's amazing and she's had such an
amazing career and she's still around. She's still very prominent.
I do remember her. I remember her, and I remember
Downtown Julie Brown. I always liked her. I loved her,
love her, and I love the way she dressed. That
was just like she's so cool and she she's really amazing,
and her vibe was just very like I don't give
(20:26):
a fuck, you know what I mean. So she I
always got the vibe from Downtown Julie Brown that she
ain't kid if they sent her back to the UK,
just like this is what y'are getting send me back?
I really don't care. You know what's crazy. It's like,
at least now kids are growing up with much more visibility,
totally they are. It's much more relatable. Like let's say,
you know, movies like Black Panther, Crazy Rich Asians, like
(20:49):
at least you identify. You know, there's a movie coming
out with Gina Rodriguez and it's called Miss Mala. And
I saw the clip and I posted the movie post
her on my page and I'm like, you know what,
I stay come leaning and we're underrepresented in Hollywood on television,
but we gotta put it out there. Let's put it
out there, and let's all go see it and let's
all support it because you know, these movies do good.
(21:09):
Like Crazy Rich Asians they did amazing, they won all
these awards. It was just like, who would have thought,
Can I be honest with you about Crazy Rich Asians?
I didn't, you know, I don't get to go to
the movies a lot, just because of my my schedule.
I was on the on the flight to l a
and this is like the first time I was like,
I have free time, what do I do with myself?
And I'm like, oh, crazy rich Asians. I have to
be completely honest. I thought that story. I didn't see
(21:33):
it as an Asian story. I thought it was a
beautiful love story. I thought it was a funny love story.
Like I didn't look at it from the scope of Wow,
look at all these Asian people all together in this
one film. And I was like, damn, Hollywood, are you
that like, are you that myopic? Like you don't you
can't think that, like people will enjoy Just because I'm
(21:54):
not Asian doesn't mean I didn't enjoy, you know what
I'm saying the same way. We've watched You Know Why,
and it's like, oh my god, I love Titanic, Oh
my god, I love you know, Bette Midler and her
home Girl. What was it? It could have been two
black friends and I would have still felt the same
way about the movie. Or it could have been to Latina's,
(22:16):
you know, or it could have been no Latina Family,
Mermaids with Share and and you seen Rich and those
are the movies that I loved and as a little girl,
I admired, but we can change the color of the
skin on the people. And I think we've gotten to
a progressive state that now. I don't think a white
audience is not going to go see a movie because
the characters in it don't resonate with I thought it
(22:38):
was excellent. I was boo hooing on the plane when
like when you looked at her and he's up, oh
my god, they whispered, I love you. I was just like,
oh my gosh, like this movie is just so incredible.
And that's when I sat there and I thought about it,
and I was just like, I can't believe it's taken
this long, but it's happened. Like, thank got it. You
have Black Panther. It's an amazing Actually, dude, don't get
me start on black period. It's just my amazing too.
(23:00):
In don't get me started. I don't want there to
be rumors. You guys can go ahead and start rumors
about me with my that's okay. But like Black Panther,
I said to my husband, I want to go see
that in the theaters. I want to support it, like
I wanted to support it, not because it was like
an all black cast, because like I think a lot
of people did do that for that reason. I wanted
(23:21):
to be there because of the story and the moment.
It was such a good film. But I also got
to thinking about you know, when I graduated from Arizona State,
much like a lot of people, I was starry eyed
and I wanted to move to Los Angeles and I
got myself an agent. Oh yeah, you didn't know that
this girl. Please my parents. I had to lie to them.
I did, and I'm I feel horrible. I told them
(23:44):
that I got into acting school, which I did. I
did get into acting school, and they were giving me
money and instead of going to school, I was using
a coach and I was using the money to live
and I was waitressing. So it's not one of my
final three years. Wow, that's a long three years. And
so this is the thing that I will tell you
about Hollywood. Um. So, I had an agent and I
(24:05):
would go an audition and I was auditioning against people
like Rosario Dawson. I would say, you would see these
people in the waiting room, they would be coming out,
you would be going in. Um And I just remember
going in one time and I was reading for a
part and they were like, okay, the part was for
a gang girl, you know, because Latinas can't be anything
but that at that time. And um so I go
(24:27):
in and I give the read and they were like, okay, great,
Wow where are you from? And I said, oh, I said, well,
I'm you know, born and raised. They're like, but but
where are you from? And I said, well, my parents
are Nicaraguan. I said, but I was born and raised
in the US. They were like, I mean, it's like,
but your English is so good. And I sat there
for a second and I was like, this is who
(24:47):
I'm auditioning in front of, you know what I mean.
So it was almost like wow, you guys just don't
get it. It was like they were shocked that I
was an educated, while spoken young woman. And I remember
leaving that audition and thinking to myself, it's time, like
it's time to get out, Like this is the time
to leave now. Yeah, because I knew that like the
things that I was going for, you know, I didn't
(25:09):
want to be a prostitute in a film. I didn't
want to be a gang member. I didn't know and
that that made that was didn't want to be a made.
But then look at j Lo made in Manhattan. That
was such a great but it was such a great story.
But but like these were bit parts. I'm not going
up for the same parts as JL, you know. I
mean this is when I was just starting out. So
I just love the fact that now we can open
(25:30):
up this like you know, idea of minorities being the majority,
you know, because I think that that's starting to happen.
But it also comes with us supporting supporting these movies
absolutely simple times these movies come out and demanding you know,
more content that's relevant for us, you know. Yeah, I
wanted to see Roma. It's one of the Oscar nominated
films and I unfortunately haven't had the chance to see
(25:52):
it yet. I didn't sack star sending you ever seen
in the world. Yes, And I said to my husband,
we have a date upstairs. We're gonna say because we
have one dv D player in the house, Like, you know,
I don't even have a DVD player anymore. I gotta
go buy one. Yeah, So I said to I was like,
I really want to see this. But the joy that
I got on Oscar morning seeing uh Yalizzabaricio. She is
(26:12):
the first Indigenous woman to ever be nominated for an
Oscar and I, and I say this sincerely, I got
so emotional just thinking there are a number of young
women who look like her, who connect with her, that
want to be like her, and now they get their representation,
and I'm just I'm so thrilled about it. And representation matters,
(26:34):
it does you know some I don't know. Sometimes I
talk about the Modern Family, and I don't know, I've
never really been able to connect to Sofia Regara's character.
Oh for for oh Modern Family the show. Oh I
thought you were talking about modern families in general. Oh yeah, Well, um,
it's like I mean, it's a it's very stereotypical. You know.
I just want to make sure I'm not the only
one that feels this way. It's just but you know
(26:55):
what I will say, I do believe it's stereotypical, and
she plays it up, and I do give her credit
for that is I think she really is an incredible actress.
But the thing that means more to me than that
is that she's getting paid. She is making moves for
Latino women in Hollywood to get paid. She's one of
the highest paid, uh sitcom actresses. You know, so I
mean you look at her and you post her up
(27:16):
next to the Big Bang Theory girls, and she's making
waves for the next generation, so you know, it's like, yeah,
she's kind of taken one for the team. I watched
like a few episodes and I'm like, I can't, you
can This is not me. He's not the Hispanic women.
I know that's not what we're doing. Yeah, but that's
not all we're talking. And I love Sophia of Our Guard,
(27:36):
don't get me wrong. And I'm glad she's making all
this money and every year she's like the most high
paid daytime scom actress in the world. But that's not
representing me. But you know, no, that's fair. I do
think that it has to start somewhere, though, and if
it's going to start somewhere with her, like by all
means and by the way, she has grinded since she
was like a teenager. Looks back ever, she used to
(27:56):
be in like a Bally's ad or something like that.
When she was blonde. I remember saying with like boxing
gloves and I was like, dude, she is so hot.
I was like, I gotta get to a gym. Let's
go to the salon and let's read and I'm sorry,
I guess I know we're all over the place today,
but um, it's it's all good. You guys will follow
but they like it. Okay, well let's give it to Okay,
I got you. So it says all that, ladies. I'm devastated,
(28:18):
to say the least. My boyfriend of three years just
told me he isn't into Valentine's Day anymore. What does
this actually even mean? He said he doesn't feel like
we need to celebrate our relationship on a made up holiday.
How can you not be in on the most romantic
quality of the year. Is this bullshit? Should I push
him to explain more? I feel selfish, but like mama
needs some loving too. Sincerely, Rita, Oh, Rita, where are
(28:43):
we going to go with this one? Do you want
me to go first? You go go first? Know you go? Rita,
Calm down, it's not yet. Deep Listen, I feel like
this is most men. Most men are not going to
be like deep into Valentine's Day. If you be tweeted
good old days of the year, the relationship is good,
it's spicy, you go out to eat, you get flowers.
(29:05):
Valentine's day is just another day. It is a man
made holiday. It's a homework holiday. It really is. So
it's like, don't push him now. If he was like
not into Christmas, I would be like you he then
you need to leave my life. Christmas is important. But
Valence as Day, I think you'll be all right. Yeah,
do you guys celebrate Valentine's Day? He don't care for
none nothing. I'm the only one. I will have to
make the plans and the reservations. He's he calls it
(29:28):
a man made holiday. He's like, this is how to
me and takes my money. And then the flowers are expensive,
and then the chocolates are expensive, and you know, he's like,
I do it for you, not because I want to
do it. We don't celebrate Valentine's Day. I feel like read,
I feel so bad. I so very badly want to
be in your corner. But like, here's the thing. I
do think that if it does mean something to you,
(29:48):
then definitely talk to him about and say, look, it
doesn't even have to be like dinner. Maybe if it's
us just going out and doing something together that night. Um.
I do think a lot of people place like this
monetary value on on Vali one Tine's Day, that's so unimportant.
So maybe it's just letting them know, Like when you
come home that night, can we take a bubble bath together?
Can we? Like, because I'm big myself, honey, you could
(30:10):
come over to my house. I can figure the kids
wear bathing suits. Don't worry nothing coming out. But like,
but yeah, I'm just saying, like, you know, let him
know that it means something to you, because just because
it doesn't matter to us doesn't mean that it shouldn't
matter to you. It's true, you know, it's important to her.
I guess maybe you can make it something that he
(30:31):
likes right well, And that's something too that I was
going to say. It's like, you know, sometimes and I
hate to use this word, but I'm really at a
loss for words right now, but it's like, sometimes you
almost need to show people how to treat you. You know.
I don't want to say trained, but you you almost
have to let him know, no, you know what, this
is important to me. And as much as you don't
love the holiday, can you please just kind of make
the sacrifice for me? Or you know? But then it
(30:52):
feels kind of wet. Carolina forced like this man over
here looking like a whole um weekend at Bernie's puppet
across from me, all you want to be here. I
don't want it like that. I don't want it like
you want him to be into it as much as
you are. But I feel they get him a threesome
of Valentine's. Always love Valentine's if that's what you're doing.
(31:13):
And then this is where we get a detour. Right
now she's talking about threesomes. She can't even get her
boyfriend to like now, Aria, I feel bad, honey. I
want to help you solve your problem, but like I
just feel like a lot of people don't look at
it the same way that you do. And I think
you need to communicate it to him and hopefully you
guys can come to like a happy medium. Maybe you
guys go to a movie, but don't be going out
(31:34):
on Valentine's Day. They raise the prices. I'm telling it
is honestly like I'm just telling you. Being in the
in the restaurant industry for a long time as a server,
they come up with this prefix. Men, you all that
ship's back there, it's already plated. You're just getting warmed
up food. You know, like I'm just keeping it, but
like a lot of people want to get out and
(31:55):
they want to get dressed up and then it feels good.
It does feel good, and I get it. So, you know,
don't take our advice. Talk to your man about it
and see how he feels. Don't push him more to explain.
It's already explain. Most men don't believe in Valentine's Day.
You don't love it. Well, you know what. We love you, guys,
and if you can email us if you have a
question for the salon. By the way, we don't promise
we'll give you an answer, but you can always email us.
(32:19):
It's Life in the Spanglish podcast at gmail dot com
and follow us on socials. It's li Spanglish on Twitter, Instagram,
find us on Facebook two and like us, and then
find us on iTunes and give us five stars beause
you know we need that good rating. And make sure
you follow the podcast so when these episodes drop you
get a notification right away. Absolutely, thank you guys so
much for the love and support. We appreciate you more
(32:40):
than you know. Ladia
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