October 14, 2025 • 21 mins
It’s that time of year again — the temperature’s dropping, hoodies are being borrowed, and DMs are heating up. But is cuffing season about finding connection… or just avoiding loneliness until spring? Patty and the Millennials break down the rules, risks, and realities of modern-day “situationships.” From social media flings to the pressure of holiday plus-ones, the crew debates whether cuffing is a sign of love, convenience, or just good marketing. Expect laughs, a little shade, and a few truth bombs about dating, timing, and emotional maturity.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:24):
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Speaker 3 (00:25):
You came here for good conversation, and good conversation is
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Patty and the Millennials. I'm Patty Jackson. I'm a radio
VT here in Philadelphia. Thanks for joining us. I'm the
baby boomer and that's around myself with great voices. Whether
they're a millennial, a gen X, a gen Y, gen Z,
(00:49):
whatever ten they are, if they can have a great conversation,
they're here. We've got the songstress Desie Neil joining us
and Dessie, do you feel that little chill in the air?
Speaker 4 (01:00):
Oh, and so Crispy's mornings are getting Yanzi.
Speaker 2 (01:04):
You're feeling that need for that jacket or sweater?
Speaker 4 (01:09):
It is officially sweater weather sweather and boot Yeah.
Speaker 3 (01:12):
Well, it's also cuffing season, where you will have those
who are looking for a place to lay their head
when it's cold.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
You may couldn't have find them ever. On the fourth
of July.
Speaker 3 (01:29):
But when the leaves start falling and the need for
a sweater, here they come here, they go knocking on
your door. What advice would you have for someone so
they don't get caught up in cuffing season?
Speaker 2 (01:43):
Because you know, right after Easter they raise a bounce
right after they ham and stay it out.
Speaker 5 (01:51):
So I see she's got some stock in this game.
Speaker 4 (01:53):
So I am you know, I am the big girl, right,
And so there is this this overarching myth that people
to target a plus sized woman, right, and so people
try to you know, it's already cup in season. But
if you're a big girl and you're gonna keep them
warm and fed, okay, and keep it cute, it's a
whole nother thing.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
What I'd like to say to my sisters is I
need your desernment on fleek.
Speaker 5 (02:15):
I need your self esteem on eleven.
Speaker 4 (02:17):
I need you to really really catch the waters and
make sure that these gentlemen's actions align with their words, right,
because I don't need a seasonal boo like I need
a boot.
Speaker 6 (02:26):
For the rest of my time, you know.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
And so ladies, I just.
Speaker 4 (02:28):
Need us to be better and on target so that
we can really stop becoming victim falling victims to these
things because it's the same thing every single year.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
When you're gonna do better, says, that's why I'm single now.
Speaker 3 (02:38):
Whitney Roberts is joining us the podcast Conversation Patty and
the Millennials, And you could fill a chill in the air, right.
You know why you're filing a chill in the air
because when the temperatures drop, oh no.
Speaker 2 (02:55):
You ever urged to have someone to snugle up with.
Is cuffing season?
Speaker 3 (03:07):
I get a kick out a cupping season because it
really is something because a lot of people be showing
it behind in the spring. In the summer, you can't
find them. But as soon as those leaves turn brown
or red, here they come. Temperatures going down, here they come.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
Your thoughts and what do you.
Speaker 3 (03:30):
Think people should be aware of some of us, some
of our sisters and brothers and brothers, they need to
be warned about. This sounds like a cuffing season thing.
Speaker 7 (03:45):
If they randomly pop up on you as soon as
you know, we get that frosted advisory that we just
got this morning.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
As soon as they if they pop up like that.
Speaker 7 (03:55):
Notification, you know you're in a cuffing situation, like please
please please, Like, I know people were frolicking in the spring,
they were having all their fun fun in the summer.
Let them have their freedom fall, let them have their
their liberation autumn.
Speaker 2 (04:10):
Keep them out there.
Speaker 7 (04:11):
If you want to be cozy, don't you don't necessarily
need to cozy up with somebody. Cozy up with the blanket,
Cozy up with the book, closing up with a good
TV show.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
There's lots of them.
Speaker 7 (04:20):
But don't let these people come into your house and
uproot your piece because they want to cuff, like.
Speaker 2 (04:25):
Absolutely not.
Speaker 3 (04:26):
Well, they're saying that having a cuffing partner could be
the cure for winter blues because you don't want to
feel lonely and it's called outside.
Speaker 7 (04:37):
I'm so tickled by that because I there's so many
other things you could do to cure winter blues, like
get a plant, like make sure you take your vitamin D,
like get some exercise or something like that. Like don't
you don't need to be up under.
Speaker 2 (04:52):
Somebody, like you know, pun intended.
Speaker 7 (04:55):
You don't need to be up under somebody for cuffing season.
Speaker 8 (04:58):
Absolutely not.
Speaker 7 (04:59):
Protect it's your piece, brothers, sisters, days and them's protect
your piece. This is just a reminder that you are
not a weighted blanket, that you do not have the
obligation to keep somebody else warm just because they want
to be all up underneath you and you're trying to
romanticize stuff.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
You are not a weighted blanket and you deserve way better.
The leaves are falling, there's a chill in the air.
It's a bird, it's a plane. It's cuffing season.
Speaker 3 (05:27):
Yes, cuffing season is here for those who need a place.
This day, they're gonna hook up with somebody. That's what
a hobo sexual is. Someone who just wants a warm
body after they showed there behind this summer, couldn't find
them nothing now all of a sudden, Baby, I'm bad.
Speaker 2 (05:49):
You know, always getting kick out of cuffing season. You know,
cuffing season is a thing.
Speaker 9 (05:54):
Yes, yes, what.
Speaker 3 (05:58):
Should people be aware of with cuffing season?
Speaker 8 (06:04):
It doesn't next thing. Yeah, don't let nobody move into
your house. I don't care how sad their story is.
Don't let them move in. You let them move in
during quote unquote cuffing season, and then it be Christmas,
and then it be Thanksgiving, and then it be New
Year's and then it be Eastern and they still in
your house. You can't. Don't do it. Don't let these
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people come into your house and forget their story. Go
live with your mom or something like that. You cannot
live here.
Speaker 3 (06:32):
Well, you know, they start showing them, but when the
weather get nice, the first hint of.
Speaker 9 (06:37):
Spring, because they have father.
Speaker 3 (06:43):
But it is coffing season and a lot of people
need to be aware, Dex. I also want to talk
to you about you ever wonder how do people meet
before dating apps?
Speaker 2 (06:56):
Was it at work? Was it at the grocery store?
Was it at the gym?
Speaker 6 (07:01):
Like?
Speaker 2 (07:01):
Some people just.
Speaker 3 (07:02):
Really relying on these apps, and I think it's hysterical.
I'm like, can you put the phone down and just
go outside to meet somebody.
Speaker 8 (07:11):
I have a friend He's gonna kill me for this,
But I have a friend who just told me that
he got stood up from his Facebook dates. Did you
know Facebook has a dating app?
Speaker 2 (07:18):
Yep, I know.
Speaker 8 (07:20):
I didn't know that. He said that his Facebook date
person like they didn't show up or whatever. And I said,
why would you we date somebody off of Facebook? We doing? Kid?
Speaker 9 (07:30):
Go to church?
Speaker 8 (07:31):
Like, go to the grocery store, Like, what are we
doing here? Why are you dating somebody off the Facebook?
Speaker 3 (07:38):
We got chocolate Divinity in the building, Latoria Charleston. This
is the podcast Patty and the Millennials, and we talk
about everything.
Speaker 2 (07:46):
And I was wondering one day, Toya, before dating apps,
how do people meet up? How'd you meet somebody? Was
it jered sporting event? The grocery store?
Speaker 3 (08:01):
I think that sometimes some of these people need to
put down their apps and go outside and meet.
Speaker 6 (08:09):
No, you are correct, because everything that you have you
just named guests. Those are places where you would traditionally
meet people at a park or things like that. But
it's weird because not social media, these dating apps have
made it to where a lot I've noticed a lot
of men feel more safe on the dating apps because
(08:30):
it's they feel like they're more apps to shoot their
shot at something on the app that they wouldn't do
on the street. But what this does takeaway is a
level of social skills to where there's an art to
meeting somebody face to face and shooting your shot or
introducing yourself, and it really kind of it's beyond dating.
Speaker 8 (08:53):
It helps you with your social skills.
Speaker 6 (08:55):
And this is why we have a world full of
people who are discs connected from regular life, and it's
constantly on these apps and machines. It's two different types
of a skill set that you have to have. And unfortunately,
because they're leaning so heavily on these dating apps, we're
becoming a community of idiots when it comes to doing
(09:20):
this the good old fashioned way.
Speaker 3 (09:22):
What do you think when you see the leaves turning
and they're falling from the trees. The air is Chris.
Speaker 6 (09:32):
Baby, it is the crisp Where's my blanket? Give me
my winter blanket? Or aka my man? Like these candles
get the Netflix started, Like this is primetime cuff and
season right here. Y'all better get out there and start
talking to people. Y'all better get out there and start
talking to these people. Get to the market somewhere.
Speaker 3 (09:53):
Cuffing season is huge, because I swear it's a window
now until maybe like Memorial Dad. Because you know, the
first the first hint of warm, people want to show
they behind you can't find.
Speaker 9 (10:10):
Yeah, yep.
Speaker 6 (10:12):
They start unloading that baggage so they're like, Okay, I
got somebody to take to the holiday parties, the family stuff,
and before you know it, that sun get the sun
and ain't no snow.
Speaker 9 (10:21):
That good seventy five degree weather.
Speaker 6 (10:23):
They back outside, But this is cuffing season. Go get
your won of blanket, y'all.
Speaker 2 (10:30):
Uncle.
Speaker 3 (10:30):
Oh the legendary broadcaster is joining us in. Oh wait, wait, oh,
there's something. There's something in the air. Can you feel it?
We need the sweater, we need a jacket. Is it
cuffing season? Are there people just hooking up because it's
getting cold outside?
Speaker 10 (10:51):
Listen, find you somebody that's not skinny, because you want
to make sure the best stay warm in a lot
of places and the bet can't stay warm. And in
one single place, get you somebody with some meat on
the bones if you're gonna do it in this cuffing season.
Speaker 2 (11:06):
Oh my gosh, So what do you doing?
Speaker 3 (11:09):
Cuffing season ends? I mean, cuffing season. Everybody is really
a thing.
Speaker 2 (11:16):
The contract. It's a contract.
Speaker 10 (11:19):
We know that I'm only here so after the holidays
and the weather warms up after that, I mean, the
weather only have to warm up when it hits fifty
Anything above fifty degrees is uncuffing season.
Speaker 2 (11:31):
Wow, So you just got to know what you're getting into.
Speaker 10 (11:35):
You know that you're picking somebody up because you know,
it's a lot of staying in the house. It's a
lot of going to the movies or going out to
eat and then going home and hugging and having some fun.
That's why a lot of those babies are born in
the middle of the summer in.
Speaker 2 (11:52):
September because of cuffing season. Because of cuffing season. It's season.
It's cuffing season. Everybody free screen is here. He's a reacher.
Speaker 3 (12:05):
Graduate of Saint Joe's University, and he is living life
and finding out about life.
Speaker 2 (12:12):
When did you first hear about cuffing season.
Speaker 11 (12:14):
Oh, that's always been a thing. So back in high
school there would be a meme that would go out.
So right now, it's still tryouts. It's still tryouts. Cuffing
season don't start till we get closer to the holidays.
Then that's the real trial runs and you go from
there to Valentine's Days, the big day. But it is
starting to get cold outside and like you know what
they say, when it's called outside, you need a big boy.
(12:35):
But I'm taking I'm taking though, But it indeed is
cuffing season.
Speaker 2 (12:41):
What happens during these tryouts though.
Speaker 11 (12:44):
You know they go on dates. That's when you see
a bunch of talking stages. You got to see your options,
see who you're worth to cuff at the end.
Speaker 2 (12:52):
Should the person be clean?
Speaker 3 (12:53):
Like what if you see somebody you think fair potential,
but you get to their house, spot, apartment, it is dirt.
Speaker 11 (13:01):
You gotta leave. I'm sorry, Please do not be staying
with nobody that be dirty. That's because if you if
you're dirty in your house, that means dirty in life.
Speaker 12 (13:08):
MM.
Speaker 2 (13:10):
So with the tryout teason, you just kind of see
how people are.
Speaker 11 (13:13):
Are you testing the waters, going to date with this person,
talking to this to another person? You know you don't.
Don't just go straight at it because then you're gonna
mess up everything.
Speaker 3 (13:21):
Because what if they're moody? You know some people hot,
they hot, they're good at hot and crazy.
Speaker 11 (13:26):
I think I think the biggest thing is that people
will cuff too early, especially during the season, and that's
why you see them couples only last till maybe after
New Year's and he'd be like, oh what happened? I
thought they were just together. Nope, goes away.
Speaker 3 (13:39):
Cuffing season. There are rules to the season. Comedian magician
derekly is here and the other day, I was wondering
people used to hook up like before dating Apps.
Speaker 2 (13:57):
Was it in church? Or is it in the gym?
Was it in grocery department?
Speaker 3 (14:01):
Some people are so hooked on their phones, and I'm like, well,
maybe if you put your ron down you can meet somebody,
because if you're swiping, laughing up and down, then.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
What do you think people did before Danny Apps.
Speaker 9 (14:17):
We went to the club.
Speaker 12 (14:19):
We got our haircut on Friday, got our little paycheck
on Friday.
Speaker 9 (14:24):
Put on our little cologne.
Speaker 12 (14:25):
If you didn't have no coloone, you went in the bathroom.
There was some old man that worked in the bathroom
that gave you a shot of cologne for a dollar
and gave you some.
Speaker 9 (14:34):
Let you brush your hair.
Speaker 12 (14:35):
We couldn't wait to go to the club to meet
a woman, because that's what it was.
Speaker 9 (14:39):
We went dancing. Can you go dancing in Philadelphia? No more?
I went out somewhere. These these people just sit around
and spooker. I don't know nothing about it, so I
don't knock it. They sit there, they hookah, hookah, hookah,
and they sit there and they karaoke. Nobody's meeting nobody.
Speaker 12 (14:55):
And then people put a facade on Facebook, a facado Instagram.
That's not really that person. You really trying to meet somebody,
You need to go through a friend. These people lie,
they're not really making seventy eighty thousand dollars. They want
to give you that illusion. So now you could be
anybody on Facebook, Instagram and you might be taking home
Chester the Molesta.
Speaker 9 (15:15):
You gotta get it together. We need to go back
to the days of the club. But that's why relationships
aren't working out. People are lying up front and then
they're giving.
Speaker 12 (15:24):
Up the booty a little too fast, and and and
if you give up the booty before the third date,
well yeah, you got whole like tendencies.
Speaker 9 (15:35):
I'm not calling them a whole. I'm just saying you
got whole like tendencies. The CUCI too happy?
Speaker 3 (15:41):
Can I say Kucci on the internet?
Speaker 9 (15:43):
You can I say vagina? Well this is brofolks, right, Yeah,
we're not gonna get censored. Okay, So so you went
out with themandam you gave it to him the first night.
He don't have no respect for you. He's gonna call
your whole and he's gonna move on. I have to
tell my daughter graduate college and I say, hey, the
girl your daddy loves you.
Speaker 12 (16:04):
Protect your cookies. I always say cookies because she's a girl.
Protect he, I say, bay girl, I'm gonna hurt your feelings. Now,
whoever you give your cookies to the first time, statistically
you ain't.
Speaker 9 (16:13):
Gonna be with them and you ain't gonna marry him.
Speaker 12 (16:16):
So be very I say, call your cousins, call your aunties,
have them get funky with you.
Speaker 9 (16:21):
They remember the first guy they get the cookies to.
Statistically they ain't got married, and.
Speaker 12 (16:26):
A year later they wasn't even speaking. Protect you because
a man is gonna treat you by what you allow.
Stop dogging us saying we're dog. Let me tell you something, Patty. Yes,
men are dogs. We are all dogs. But that dog
is a loyal creature.
Speaker 9 (16:40):
If you feed him and pet them and tell him
he's special.
Speaker 12 (16:43):
That little dog would die for you. Let let let
me come over your house and get loud with you.
That dog would look at me and say, do you
want me to bite this guy?
Speaker 9 (16:50):
Right here?
Speaker 12 (16:51):
A dog, All you gotta do is pet him when
he brings you the newspaper, Pat him on the head.
Speaker 9 (16:56):
And say, oh, you did a good job. This, Just
like when a man pays the bills. Tell him he's good,
Tell him he's.
Speaker 12 (17:01):
Special, because if we don't, that dog is gonna go
outside the house to eat because you don't appreciate. Oh well,
I just can't believe he cheated.
Speaker 9 (17:10):
Let me tell you something.
Speaker 12 (17:11):
I love Beyonce, love her. I think Beyonce is beautiful,
Miss dogs. Chick's gorgeous. She got money, she got talent,
she rich, she famous. Her man cheated on her. What
you think going on.
Speaker 9 (17:24):
In your life?
Speaker 3 (17:26):
Lexi is here, She's a dula. It's also cuffing season, Lexi.
I always giggle about cuffing season because it's a certain season,
you know, kind of.
Speaker 2 (17:39):
Like right for the holidays, gets a little chilly.
Speaker 3 (17:41):
Then by the time Easter comes and you pull out
that food and you take off that easter bonnet.
Speaker 13 (17:47):
They have to do.
Speaker 3 (17:50):
What do you think people should be aware of? Because
cuffing season, everybody is a real thing.
Speaker 5 (17:56):
Okay, So as a Duela, I'm cuffing season because right
around now is when I get busy, like through the summer,
because now you're coming into like your Valentine's Day babies,
and you know that winter season. So whenever you see
like August babies, you know, October November, like the fall
type time frame, being into you know, what was going on.
(18:16):
But what people need to be mindful of is exactly that, like,
are you cuffing with the right person in the right season.
Let's not just have a warm body next to us
just to have our warm bed. Like I get companionship,
don't get me wrong, but not at the expense of
our sanity, and especially not if it's going to bring
about a little bundle of joy that now this person
is like, I don't want to help even rapes. So
(18:38):
let's just be mindful of who we're cuffing with. How
about that?
Speaker 3 (18:44):
Most people, Okay, there are some people. They're so desperate,
they're so desperate they fall for the cuffing season traps.
Speaker 2 (18:53):
Yep, yep.
Speaker 5 (18:56):
One person, and it really is. What I've learned too
is how to enjoy my time with myself, enjoy my
time because I have been a single mom before too,
so enjoying my time with my child and finding like
things that keep me engaged. I think a lot of
people are bored and they use cuffing season as a
(19:17):
way to deal with things that they don't want to
deal with. Whether it's themselves, whether it's their jobs that
they don't like, whether it's other people they don't like.
They use that as a means of escape, and sometimes
we just got to deal with it. So whether you
need a therapist or a vacation, you got to figure
it out.
Speaker 2 (19:33):
Sex. Doctor Heather is here, and doctor Heather.
Speaker 3 (19:36):
You may think it's fall, but it's really cuffing season.
Why should people be aware of during this time of
the year when somebody is looking for somebody they can
snuggle up to.
Speaker 13 (19:54):
You know, Patty, I love this because I think the
number one thing people need to be aware of is
what they want.
Speaker 2 (20:02):
Right.
Speaker 13 (20:02):
People come to you like, oh, this is cuffing season.
Speaker 2 (20:05):
Let's just cuddle up. Are they really though, Patty?
Speaker 8 (20:08):
Are they being honest?
Speaker 13 (20:09):
So I'm gonna say, please be honest, like, come with
the truth. Tell the person I'm not trying to be
in no relationship or.
Speaker 8 (20:17):
I don't want to give.
Speaker 2 (20:18):
I just want to receive.
Speaker 6 (20:20):
How many people do that.
Speaker 13 (20:21):
Some people do and it works out for them because
when they separate, there are no strings. Nobody was let
on to believe that there's something other than cuffing season coming.
Because some of the times that came around and now
I'm out here in these streets.
Speaker 6 (20:35):
So I'm gonna say, be honest.
Speaker 2 (20:37):
First, figure out what you.
Speaker 13 (20:38):
Want with yourself and the person that you're that you're meeting, right, and.
Speaker 2 (20:43):
Then take it from there.
Speaker 3 (20:47):
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You came here for good conversation, and good conversation is
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Patty and the Millennials. I'm Patty Jackson. I'm a radio
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baby boomer and that's around myself with great voices. Whether
they're a millennial, a gen X, a gen Y, gen Z,
(00:49):
whatever ten they are, if they can have a great conversation,
they're here. We've got the songstress Desie Neil joining us
and Dessie, do you feel that little chill in the air?
Speaker 4 (01:00):
Oh, and so Crispy's mornings are getting Yanzi.
Speaker 2 (01:04):
You're feeling that need for that jacket or sweater?
Speaker 4 (01:09):
It is officially sweater weather sweather and boot Yeah.
Speaker 3 (01:12):
Well, it's also cuffing season, where you will have those
who are looking for a place to lay their head
when it's cold.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
You may couldn't have find them ever. On the fourth
of July.
Speaker 3 (01:29):
But when the leaves start falling and the need for
a sweater, here they come here, they go knocking on
your door. What advice would you have for someone so
they don't get caught up in cuffing season?
Speaker 2 (01:43):
Because you know, right after Easter they raise a bounce
right after they ham and stay it out.
Speaker 5 (01:51):
So I see she's got some stock in this game.
Speaker 4 (01:53):
So I am you know, I am the big girl, right,
And so there is this this overarching myth that people
to target a plus sized woman, right, and so people
try to you know, it's already cup in season. But
if you're a big girl and you're gonna keep them
warm and fed, okay, and keep it cute, it's a
whole nother thing.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
What I'd like to say to my sisters is I
need your desernment on fleek.
Speaker 5 (02:15):
I need your self esteem on eleven.
Speaker 4 (02:17):
I need you to really really catch the waters and
make sure that these gentlemen's actions align with their words, right,
because I don't need a seasonal boo like I need
a boot.
Speaker 6 (02:26):
For the rest of my time, you know.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
And so ladies, I just.
Speaker 4 (02:28):
Need us to be better and on target so that
we can really stop becoming victim falling victims to these
things because it's the same thing every single year.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
When you're gonna do better, says, that's why I'm single now.
Speaker 3 (02:38):
Whitney Roberts is joining us the podcast Conversation Patty and
the Millennials, And you could fill a chill in the air, right.
You know why you're filing a chill in the air
because when the temperatures drop, oh no.
Speaker 2 (02:55):
You ever urged to have someone to snugle up with.
Is cuffing season?
Speaker 3 (03:07):
I get a kick out a cupping season because it
really is something because a lot of people be showing
it behind in the spring. In the summer, you can't
find them. But as soon as those leaves turn brown
or red, here they come. Temperatures going down, here they come.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
Your thoughts and what do you.
Speaker 3 (03:30):
Think people should be aware of some of us, some
of our sisters and brothers and brothers, they need to
be warned about. This sounds like a cuffing season thing.
Speaker 7 (03:45):
If they randomly pop up on you as soon as
you know, we get that frosted advisory that we just
got this morning.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
As soon as they if they pop up like that.
Speaker 7 (03:55):
Notification, you know you're in a cuffing situation, like please
please please, Like, I know people were frolicking in the spring,
they were having all their fun fun in the summer.
Let them have their freedom fall, let them have their
their liberation autumn.
Speaker 2 (04:10):
Keep them out there.
Speaker 7 (04:11):
If you want to be cozy, don't you don't necessarily
need to cozy up with somebody. Cozy up with the blanket,
Cozy up with the book, closing up with a good
TV show.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
There's lots of them.
Speaker 7 (04:20):
But don't let these people come into your house and
uproot your piece because they want to cuff, like.
Speaker 2 (04:25):
Absolutely not.
Speaker 3 (04:26):
Well, they're saying that having a cuffing partner could be
the cure for winter blues because you don't want to
feel lonely and it's called outside.
Speaker 7 (04:37):
I'm so tickled by that because I there's so many
other things you could do to cure winter blues, like
get a plant, like make sure you take your vitamin D,
like get some exercise or something like that. Like don't
you don't need to be up under.
Speaker 2 (04:52):
Somebody, like you know, pun intended.
Speaker 7 (04:55):
You don't need to be up under somebody for cuffing season.
Speaker 8 (04:58):
Absolutely not.
Speaker 7 (04:59):
Protect it's your piece, brothers, sisters, days and them's protect
your piece. This is just a reminder that you are
not a weighted blanket, that you do not have the
obligation to keep somebody else warm just because they want
to be all up underneath you and you're trying to
romanticize stuff.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
You are not a weighted blanket and you deserve way better.
The leaves are falling, there's a chill in the air.
It's a bird, it's a plane. It's cuffing season.
Speaker 3 (05:27):
Yes, cuffing season is here for those who need a place.
This day, they're gonna hook up with somebody. That's what
a hobo sexual is. Someone who just wants a warm
body after they showed there behind this summer, couldn't find
them nothing now all of a sudden, Baby, I'm bad.
Speaker 2 (05:49):
You know, always getting kick out of cuffing season. You know,
cuffing season is a thing.
Speaker 9 (05:54):
Yes, yes, what.
Speaker 3 (05:58):
Should people be aware of with cuffing season?
Speaker 8 (06:04):
It doesn't next thing. Yeah, don't let nobody move into
your house. I don't care how sad their story is.
Don't let them move in. You let them move in
during quote unquote cuffing season, and then it be Christmas,
and then it be Thanksgiving, and then it be New
Year's and then it be Eastern and they still in
your house. You can't. Don't do it. Don't let these
(06:25):
people come into your house and forget their story. Go
live with your mom or something like that. You cannot
live here.
Speaker 3 (06:32):
Well, you know, they start showing them, but when the
weather get nice, the first hint of.
Speaker 9 (06:37):
Spring, because they have father.
Speaker 3 (06:43):
But it is coffing season and a lot of people
need to be aware, Dex. I also want to talk
to you about you ever wonder how do people meet
before dating apps?
Speaker 2 (06:56):
Was it at work? Was it at the grocery store?
Was it at the gym?
Speaker 6 (07:01):
Like?
Speaker 2 (07:01):
Some people just.
Speaker 3 (07:02):
Really relying on these apps, and I think it's hysterical.
I'm like, can you put the phone down and just
go outside to meet somebody.
Speaker 8 (07:11):
I have a friend He's gonna kill me for this,
But I have a friend who just told me that
he got stood up from his Facebook dates. Did you
know Facebook has a dating app?
Speaker 2 (07:18):
Yep, I know.
Speaker 8 (07:20):
I didn't know that. He said that his Facebook date
person like they didn't show up or whatever. And I said,
why would you we date somebody off of Facebook? We doing? Kid?
Speaker 9 (07:30):
Go to church?
Speaker 8 (07:31):
Like, go to the grocery store, Like, what are we
doing here? Why are you dating somebody off the Facebook?
Speaker 3 (07:38):
We got chocolate Divinity in the building, Latoria Charleston. This
is the podcast Patty and the Millennials, and we talk
about everything.
Speaker 2 (07:46):
And I was wondering one day, Toya, before dating apps,
how do people meet up? How'd you meet somebody? Was
it jered sporting event? The grocery store?
Speaker 3 (08:01):
I think that sometimes some of these people need to
put down their apps and go outside and meet.
Speaker 6 (08:09):
No, you are correct, because everything that you have you
just named guests. Those are places where you would traditionally
meet people at a park or things like that. But
it's weird because not social media, these dating apps have
made it to where a lot I've noticed a lot
of men feel more safe on the dating apps because
(08:30):
it's they feel like they're more apps to shoot their
shot at something on the app that they wouldn't do
on the street. But what this does takeaway is a
level of social skills to where there's an art to
meeting somebody face to face and shooting your shot or
introducing yourself, and it really kind of it's beyond dating.
Speaker 8 (08:53):
It helps you with your social skills.
Speaker 6 (08:55):
And this is why we have a world full of
people who are discs connected from regular life, and it's
constantly on these apps and machines. It's two different types
of a skill set that you have to have. And unfortunately,
because they're leaning so heavily on these dating apps, we're
becoming a community of idiots when it comes to doing
(09:20):
this the good old fashioned way.
Speaker 3 (09:22):
What do you think when you see the leaves turning
and they're falling from the trees. The air is Chris.
Speaker 6 (09:32):
Baby, it is the crisp Where's my blanket? Give me
my winter blanket? Or aka my man? Like these candles
get the Netflix started, Like this is primetime cuff and
season right here. Y'all better get out there and start
talking to people. Y'all better get out there and start
talking to these people. Get to the market somewhere.
Speaker 3 (09:53):
Cuffing season is huge, because I swear it's a window
now until maybe like Memorial Dad. Because you know, the
first the first hint of warm, people want to show
they behind you can't find.
Speaker 9 (10:10):
Yeah, yep.
Speaker 6 (10:12):
They start unloading that baggage so they're like, Okay, I
got somebody to take to the holiday parties, the family stuff,
and before you know it, that sun get the sun
and ain't no snow.
Speaker 9 (10:21):
That good seventy five degree weather.
Speaker 6 (10:23):
They back outside, But this is cuffing season. Go get
your won of blanket, y'all.
Speaker 2 (10:30):
Uncle.
Speaker 3 (10:30):
Oh the legendary broadcaster is joining us in. Oh wait, wait, oh,
there's something. There's something in the air. Can you feel it?
We need the sweater, we need a jacket. Is it
cuffing season? Are there people just hooking up because it's
getting cold outside?
Speaker 10 (10:51):
Listen, find you somebody that's not skinny, because you want
to make sure the best stay warm in a lot
of places and the bet can't stay warm. And in
one single place, get you somebody with some meat on
the bones if you're gonna do it in this cuffing season.
Speaker 2 (11:06):
Oh my gosh, So what do you doing?
Speaker 3 (11:09):
Cuffing season ends? I mean, cuffing season. Everybody is really
a thing.
Speaker 2 (11:16):
The contract. It's a contract.
Speaker 10 (11:19):
We know that I'm only here so after the holidays
and the weather warms up after that, I mean, the
weather only have to warm up when it hits fifty
Anything above fifty degrees is uncuffing season.
Speaker 2 (11:31):
Wow, So you just got to know what you're getting into.
Speaker 10 (11:35):
You know that you're picking somebody up because you know,
it's a lot of staying in the house. It's a
lot of going to the movies or going out to
eat and then going home and hugging and having some fun.
That's why a lot of those babies are born in
the middle of the summer in.
Speaker 2 (11:52):
September because of cuffing season. Because of cuffing season. It's season.
It's cuffing season. Everybody free screen is here. He's a reacher.
Speaker 3 (12:05):
Graduate of Saint Joe's University, and he is living life
and finding out about life.
Speaker 2 (12:12):
When did you first hear about cuffing season.
Speaker 11 (12:14):
Oh, that's always been a thing. So back in high
school there would be a meme that would go out.
So right now, it's still tryouts. It's still tryouts. Cuffing
season don't start till we get closer to the holidays.
Then that's the real trial runs and you go from
there to Valentine's Days, the big day. But it is
starting to get cold outside and like you know what
they say, when it's called outside, you need a big boy.
(12:35):
But I'm taking I'm taking though, But it indeed is
cuffing season.
Speaker 2 (12:41):
What happens during these tryouts though.
Speaker 11 (12:44):
You know they go on dates. That's when you see
a bunch of talking stages. You got to see your options,
see who you're worth to cuff at the end.
Speaker 2 (12:52):
Should the person be clean?
Speaker 3 (12:53):
Like what if you see somebody you think fair potential,
but you get to their house, spot, apartment, it is dirt.
Speaker 11 (13:01):
You gotta leave. I'm sorry, Please do not be staying
with nobody that be dirty. That's because if you if
you're dirty in your house, that means dirty in life.
Speaker 12 (13:08):
MM.
Speaker 2 (13:10):
So with the tryout teason, you just kind of see
how people are.
Speaker 11 (13:13):
Are you testing the waters, going to date with this person,
talking to this to another person? You know you don't.
Don't just go straight at it because then you're gonna
mess up everything.
Speaker 3 (13:21):
Because what if they're moody? You know some people hot,
they hot, they're good at hot and crazy.
Speaker 11 (13:26):
I think I think the biggest thing is that people
will cuff too early, especially during the season, and that's
why you see them couples only last till maybe after
New Year's and he'd be like, oh what happened? I
thought they were just together. Nope, goes away.
Speaker 3 (13:39):
Cuffing season. There are rules to the season. Comedian magician
derekly is here and the other day, I was wondering
people used to hook up like before dating Apps.
Speaker 2 (13:57):
Was it in church? Or is it in the gym?
Was it in grocery department?
Speaker 3 (14:01):
Some people are so hooked on their phones, and I'm like, well,
maybe if you put your ron down you can meet somebody,
because if you're swiping, laughing up and down, then.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
What do you think people did before Danny Apps.
Speaker 9 (14:17):
We went to the club.
Speaker 12 (14:19):
We got our haircut on Friday, got our little paycheck
on Friday.
Speaker 9 (14:24):
Put on our little cologne.
Speaker 12 (14:25):
If you didn't have no coloone, you went in the bathroom.
There was some old man that worked in the bathroom
that gave you a shot of cologne for a dollar
and gave you some.
Speaker 9 (14:34):
Let you brush your hair.
Speaker 12 (14:35):
We couldn't wait to go to the club to meet
a woman, because that's what it was.
Speaker 9 (14:39):
We went dancing. Can you go dancing in Philadelphia? No more?
I went out somewhere. These these people just sit around
and spooker. I don't know nothing about it, so I
don't knock it. They sit there, they hookah, hookah, hookah,
and they sit there and they karaoke. Nobody's meeting nobody.
Speaker 12 (14:55):
And then people put a facade on Facebook, a facado Instagram.
That's not really that person. You really trying to meet somebody,
You need to go through a friend. These people lie,
they're not really making seventy eighty thousand dollars. They want
to give you that illusion. So now you could be
anybody on Facebook, Instagram and you might be taking home
Chester the Molesta.
Speaker 9 (15:15):
You gotta get it together. We need to go back
to the days of the club. But that's why relationships
aren't working out. People are lying up front and then
they're giving.
Speaker 12 (15:24):
Up the booty a little too fast, and and and
if you give up the booty before the third date,
well yeah, you got whole like tendencies.
Speaker 9 (15:35):
I'm not calling them a whole. I'm just saying you
got whole like tendencies. The CUCI too happy?
Speaker 3 (15:41):
Can I say Kucci on the internet?
Speaker 9 (15:43):
You can I say vagina? Well this is brofolks, right, Yeah,
we're not gonna get censored. Okay, So so you went
out with themandam you gave it to him the first night.
He don't have no respect for you. He's gonna call
your whole and he's gonna move on. I have to
tell my daughter graduate college and I say, hey, the
girl your daddy loves you.
Speaker 12 (16:04):
Protect your cookies. I always say cookies because she's a girl.
Protect he, I say, bay girl, I'm gonna hurt your feelings. Now,
whoever you give your cookies to the first time, statistically
you ain't.
Speaker 9 (16:13):
Gonna be with them and you ain't gonna marry him.
Speaker 12 (16:16):
So be very I say, call your cousins, call your aunties,
have them get funky with you.
Speaker 9 (16:21):
They remember the first guy they get the cookies to.
Statistically they ain't got married, and.
Speaker 12 (16:26):
A year later they wasn't even speaking. Protect you because
a man is gonna treat you by what you allow.
Stop dogging us saying we're dog. Let me tell you something, Patty. Yes,
men are dogs. We are all dogs. But that dog
is a loyal creature.
Speaker 9 (16:40):
If you feed him and pet them and tell him
he's special.
Speaker 12 (16:43):
That little dog would die for you. Let let let
me come over your house and get loud with you.
That dog would look at me and say, do you
want me to bite this guy?
Speaker 9 (16:50):
Right here?
Speaker 12 (16:51):
A dog, All you gotta do is pet him when
he brings you the newspaper, Pat him on the head.
Speaker 9 (16:56):
And say, oh, you did a good job. This, Just
like when a man pays the bills. Tell him he's good,
Tell him he's.
Speaker 12 (17:01):
Special, because if we don't, that dog is gonna go
outside the house to eat because you don't appreciate. Oh well,
I just can't believe he cheated.
Speaker 9 (17:10):
Let me tell you something.
Speaker 12 (17:11):
I love Beyonce, love her. I think Beyonce is beautiful,
Miss dogs. Chick's gorgeous. She got money, she got talent,
she rich, she famous. Her man cheated on her. What
you think going on.
Speaker 9 (17:24):
In your life?
Speaker 3 (17:26):
Lexi is here, She's a dula. It's also cuffing season, Lexi.
I always giggle about cuffing season because it's a certain season,
you know, kind of.
Speaker 2 (17:39):
Like right for the holidays, gets a little chilly.
Speaker 3 (17:41):
Then by the time Easter comes and you pull out
that food and you take off that easter bonnet.
Speaker 13 (17:47):
They have to do.
Speaker 3 (17:50):
What do you think people should be aware of? Because
cuffing season, everybody is a real thing.
Speaker 5 (17:56):
Okay, So as a Duela, I'm cuffing season because right
around now is when I get busy, like through the summer,
because now you're coming into like your Valentine's Day babies,
and you know that winter season. So whenever you see
like August babies, you know, October November, like the fall
type time frame, being into you know, what was going on.
(18:16):
But what people need to be mindful of is exactly that, like,
are you cuffing with the right person in the right season.
Let's not just have a warm body next to us
just to have our warm bed. Like I get companionship,
don't get me wrong, but not at the expense of
our sanity, and especially not if it's going to bring
about a little bundle of joy that now this person
is like, I don't want to help even rapes. So
(18:38):
let's just be mindful of who we're cuffing with. How
about that?
Speaker 3 (18:44):
Most people, Okay, there are some people. They're so desperate,
they're so desperate they fall for the cuffing season traps.
Speaker 2 (18:53):
Yep, yep.
Speaker 5 (18:56):
One person, and it really is. What I've learned too
is how to enjoy my time with myself, enjoy my
time because I have been a single mom before too,
so enjoying my time with my child and finding like
things that keep me engaged. I think a lot of
people are bored and they use cuffing season as a
(19:17):
way to deal with things that they don't want to
deal with. Whether it's themselves, whether it's their jobs that
they don't like, whether it's other people they don't like.
They use that as a means of escape, and sometimes
we just got to deal with it. So whether you
need a therapist or a vacation, you got to figure
it out.
Speaker 2 (19:33):
Sex. Doctor Heather is here, and doctor Heather.
Speaker 3 (19:36):
You may think it's fall, but it's really cuffing season.
Why should people be aware of during this time of
the year when somebody is looking for somebody they can
snuggle up to.
Speaker 13 (19:54):
You know, Patty, I love this because I think the
number one thing people need to be aware of is
what they want.
Speaker 2 (20:02):
Right.
Speaker 13 (20:02):
People come to you like, oh, this is cuffing season.
Speaker 2 (20:05):
Let's just cuddle up. Are they really though, Patty?
Speaker 8 (20:08):
Are they being honest?
Speaker 13 (20:09):
So I'm gonna say, please be honest, like, come with
the truth. Tell the person I'm not trying to be
in no relationship or.
Speaker 8 (20:17):
I don't want to give.
Speaker 2 (20:18):
I just want to receive.
Speaker 6 (20:20):
How many people do that.
Speaker 13 (20:21):
Some people do and it works out for them because
when they separate, there are no strings. Nobody was let
on to believe that there's something other than cuffing season coming.
Because some of the times that came around and now
I'm out here in these streets.
Speaker 6 (20:35):
So I'm gonna say, be honest.
Speaker 2 (20:37):
First, figure out what you.
Speaker 13 (20:38):
Want with yourself and the person that you're that you're meeting, right, and.
Speaker 2 (20:43):
Then take it from there.
Speaker 3 (20:47):
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