November 23, 2025 • 18 mins
The holidays are supposed to be merry and bright…but let’s be honest sometimes they’re messy, loud, and full of that one relative who tests everyone’s patience. In this episode, Patty and the crew dive deep into the age-old question:
“Do you let dysfunctional family behavior slide for the season… or call it out?” From the aunt who always starts drama, to the cousin who brings an unexpected plus-one, to the family member who loves to revisit old wounds between bites of mac & cheese. The crew shares their stories, strategies, and boundaries.
We talk:
✨ Holiday triggers and why they flare up
✨ How to keep the peace without losing your mind
✨ When to speak up — and when silence is golden
✨ Protecting your peace WITHOUT being the Grinch
✨ How millennials approach family conflict vs. older generations
It’s honest, funny, and healing — just in time for the holidays.
“Do you let dysfunctional family behavior slide for the season… or call it out?” From the aunt who always starts drama, to the cousin who brings an unexpected plus-one, to the family member who loves to revisit old wounds between bites of mac & cheese. The crew shares their stories, strategies, and boundaries.
We talk:
✨ Holiday triggers and why they flare up
✨ How to keep the peace without losing your mind
✨ When to speak up — and when silence is golden
✨ Protecting your peace WITHOUT being the Grinch
✨ How millennials approach family conflict vs. older generations
It’s honest, funny, and healing — just in time for the holidays.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Whether it's life, relationships, politics, or current events, nothing is
off limits. This is the Patty and the Millennials podcast,
powered by Independence Blue Cross, helping to bridge the gap
between baby boomers, gen X and millennials.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
It's another edition of the podcast Patty and the Millennials.
I'm Patty Jackson. I'm a broadcast veteran in Philadelphia, and
I love conversation gen Y, gen Z, millennials, baby boomers. Well,
I'm the only baby boomer gen X. We get together,
men and women and we have great conversation. I got Decks,
(00:42):
I got Toya. Here we are at the holidays, guys,
how to have a better holiday experience? Does that mean
that certain people can't be invited to your house for
the holidays? Decks, We're going to start with you.
Speaker 3 (01:00):
All right. So my take on this this year is
probably gonna be a little bit more controversial or different
than like normal. But I think that this year we
got we gotta just let them. We gotta take the
mindset of just electing them. Somebody comes in and they
want to pack plates before before we even sit down,
just to let them because this can be the first
(01:21):
time they've eaten in two weeks. Somebody wants to come in.
They don't bring anything, but they want to take stuff.
Let them. They may not have ten dollars to put
together to buy a pie at the store. So like,
let's just enjoy the people that we have around us
and just let them, you know, Like, we don't want
to argue with somebody. This could be the last time
we see a person Thanksgiving. Let's not let the last
(01:42):
memory be us arguing with them over stilling the extra
piece of pie.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
Well, my last memory is gonna be you're not taking
that pie. You need to cook something before you came here,
and you're not gonna be packing a bunch of plates,
and then I have nothing to eat because my pettiness
will be at an all time for the holiday season.
I'm sorry. I can't stand and pay the plate packers.
(02:06):
I can't deck. You know, they get on your nerves.
See you're a dad.
Speaker 3 (02:12):
Now they're hungry.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
See you're a dad, and you're thinking of your daughter
who may be hungry right now. But I'm thinking of
those who want to come in the door and say,
well who you vote for last time? Or you ain't
married yet, well when you having a baby, Well that
ain't the guy you had last holiday. Look, look, Toya, Toya,
(02:40):
you're secretly laughing because you know what I mean.
Speaker 3 (02:44):
Yes, I'm totally seeing you. I'll be coming up here
eating me out of house at home. What's going on?
Speaker 4 (02:50):
Because usually these people it's the same usual suspect.
Speaker 3 (02:54):
And guess what, you're gonna have to go eat somewhere else.
I don't know what to tell you. I know this
is a struggling time.
Speaker 5 (03:00):
I'm right now, or at least.
Speaker 3 (03:01):
Be open about it. But I wish you would walk
up in my house ready to pack a to gold
plate before.
Speaker 4 (03:07):
You even sat and got your regular plate gone.
Speaker 1 (03:11):
We're not gonna do that.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
You know who we're dealing with. We're dealing with komba
dexter mm hmm.
Speaker 3 (03:17):
Until somebody like meat that cost too much damn money.
Speaker 4 (03:26):
And you look at somebody sideways, I know you're gonna
eat all that right.
Speaker 3 (03:29):
You ain't even clean that bone, right, and you're trying.
Speaker 4 (03:32):
To take that plate.
Speaker 3 (03:34):
You know how much beef is up dexter? Well, Look,
and you know we're dealing with hobosexuals these days, so
like these people don't have a place to live. You know,
they ain't got nowhere to eat. Come on food and
there are food pantries left and right around the city
right now. You better go get in them lines. I'm
not above it. You shouldn't be above it.
Speaker 2 (03:54):
Austin for Dallas, Jordy guysaid, she is a millennial with
a greed. Austin, we're talking about how to have a
better holiday experience. Have you heard about people charging you
to attend and leave a tip for the holiday dinner?
This is kind of like a new trend, like.
Speaker 6 (04:13):
At somebody else's house.
Speaker 2 (04:14):
Yeah, I have never heard of that. You're being there,
some people are charging you because the high cost of
everything your thoughts does. Would something like this startle you
and make you say yay or nay?
Speaker 3 (04:28):
No?
Speaker 6 (04:29):
If my auntie's going to be charging me for a
plate at Thanksgiving, I'm not going to go. I mean,
I've never heard of that.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
It's a trend. It's really yeah, I.
Speaker 6 (04:38):
Have no not in my family.
Speaker 2 (04:40):
What about if you were asked to put something in
the tip jar?
Speaker 6 (04:45):
I mean, I'm happy to contribute. I can give you
like whatever I got, but if I have to, like
could pay like an actual charge to get in the
door at my family's house for Thanksgiving? Then we're just
like losing the plot.
Speaker 2 (04:58):
Your thoughts on intrusive relatives. If you ever sit down,
you're ready to eat and they want to ask you
fifty questions. That's personal life. What you're doing now, you're
thinking on the.
Speaker 6 (05:08):
Door, are you seeing? When are you gonna have kids?
When are you gonna get married? Listen, I'm thirty one
years old and I'm single, so I get these questions
a lot. The way I deal with it is I
just kind of I kind of tell them what they
want to hear. I'm like, well, you know, I'm kind
of dating here and there. The real answer is I'm
not dating anybody because I can't be bothered. I'm tired,
Like these men out here like are just driving me crazy.
(05:28):
So I'm taking a break from dating and I'm really
not worried about like a timeline on getting married and
having kids and all of that. I'd just be like,
you know what, I'm just doing my own thing, and
I just leave it at that, because otherwise they're going
to keep pressing and I just can't. I don't have
the energy.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
You know what happened to me years ago. I used
to say, this is before I have my son, I
would walk in. As soon as I walked in the door,
I would get hit baby questions, marriage questions. And so
one day I kind of snapped, I said, can I
walk in? Can I sit down? You see me carrying stuff?
Somebody coming here and help me carry something? That ended,
(06:05):
and obviously it ended when I became a mom. But
I'm like, can we leave our single relatives and friends
alone if they're not at motherhood?
Speaker 6 (06:17):
And that's not to say that you can't talk to
us at all, Like you can ask us about you know,
how work is going, or like how my pets are doing.
I got two cats at home, ask me about anything.
But pressuring me about like men was just the last
thing I want to be grilled about anything else.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
Really, and representing gen Z, we've got Rehys Green, newly
graduated Saint Cho's University. We're talking about how to have
a better holiday experience. Reese your reaction to showing up
and they're charging you for attending the holiday gathering.
Speaker 5 (06:58):
That's doing too much. I feel like holidays is the
time where you're spending that with family or friends and
also just being in the jointful spirit. You better not
be charging me to go something now I could have
done in my household. It's as simple as that. I
know people that's charging people for like friends givings. Why
are you charging for that? I'm supposed to bring my
own dish to that. It's just people, I guess you
(07:20):
know where everything going on. People need money, but it's
doing way too much.
Speaker 2 (07:24):
Okay, the right mixture of people. We all have relatives
who get on your nerves. Do you exclude them from
the list. This is what I wanted to say, so
that you reace you could have a better holiday experience.
I ain't in vain Uncle Joe, because he get on
(07:46):
my nerves and collaboration. She drink too.
Speaker 5 (07:51):
Much, Auntie, I gotta tell you right now. At one
of my thanksgivings, my cousin trumped out my own great aunt. Oh,
I've seen it all, and trust and believe he is
never being invited again since that day, perfectly to uninvite
people because don't be bringing that mess onto this house.
(08:12):
Oh hex no, but yeah, that was very traumatizing.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
Uncle always here, Uncle always here. Oh, I'm giggling, building,
I'm giggling because of the topic. How to have a
better holiday experience? Oh, does having a better holiday experience
means excluding annoying family and relatives.
Speaker 7 (08:39):
That's exactly what it means. It means you know those
people that every time they're around, there's some drama. That
means you need to stop putting them on the list
because Antie, you know, the head auntie of the family,
said no, you have to invite everybody. No, keep those
toxic people away from the good food so they don't
(09:01):
spoil the food.
Speaker 2 (09:05):
You know, there's a new trendoh where people are charging
you to attend the Thanksgiving dinner. No way, don't say that. No,
I'm not. No, oh, I'm not. I'm not just starting something.
And it's not something I made up. I actually saw
this story. Not only are they charging you, are they
(09:28):
charging you, but they're asking you to leave a tip
as well, your thoughts.
Speaker 7 (09:36):
My thoughts is counting me out?
Speaker 2 (09:38):
Ain't no way I'm paying Well.
Speaker 7 (09:39):
You know a lot of black family's been doing this
for a while, but it's usually and I don't know
about any other family. I know sometimes my family used
to be like, hey, we're having Thanksgiving, but if you come,
bring a dish, So that's kind of a charge, right
because you got to buy some food.
Speaker 3 (09:55):
To bring it.
Speaker 7 (09:56):
Yeah, but I'm not paying and leaving a tip. You listen,
I can't even say what I want to say, but yeah,
I'm not buying anything. I'm not giving you any money
to and leaving a tip at the end of it.
Speaker 4 (10:07):
No way.
Speaker 2 (10:08):
What do you think of plate packers? I'm talking about
the one to own. They come in and immediately start
packing up a plate. They haven't even eaten, they heat,
they haven't even asked did did someone so eat? Did
this person eat? Nope, they're packing the plates. Your thoughts.
Speaker 7 (10:30):
This happened to me at a funeral, and I don't
want to get too deep into this conversation, but it happened,
and I said to people when they were there, I said, hey,
everybody who packed the plate, bring.
Speaker 3 (10:43):
Your plate back.
Speaker 7 (10:43):
And because there's people still coming here and everyone has
an eight So if you packed the plate and I
see a lot of plates, bring it back over here
and empty the plate.
Speaker 2 (10:54):
Oh my gosh, no.
Speaker 7 (10:58):
Yeah, unpassed the plate. I'm not about to play them games.
You come to my house and you and I invited you.
You pack a plate when you get here, unpacked the
plate or unpack yourself from my house.
Speaker 2 (11:09):
Okay, the podcast Conversation Patty and the Millennials. He's a comedian,
he's a magician, and he has some strong opinions. We're
talking about how to have a better holiday experience. From
those who love to pack plates before they eat, people
(11:32):
who want to ask all kind of inappropriate questions when
you sit down to drunken behavior, like do you exclude
people from the list if they appeared to just be
a problem.
Speaker 8 (11:49):
That's your family.
Speaker 3 (11:50):
You got to love your family.
Speaker 8 (11:51):
The Bible didn't say you had to like him, but
you got to love the family, whether they stupid, dumb, broke.
Speaker 4 (11:58):
Or ghetto.
Speaker 3 (11:59):
We all got him in our family.
Speaker 8 (12:01):
So when you start excluding people, no, that's not family.
You remember back in the day, everybody had a drunk uncle,
and everybody had a little cheap aunt and your new
they was cheap, and everybody had a.
Speaker 3 (12:11):
Cousin that might have been stealing half the time. But
that's your family.
Speaker 8 (12:15):
You love them regardless.
Speaker 2 (12:18):
I'm not feeling biblical right now. If you drunk, you guys,
stay home. First of all, I'm not serving no alcohol,
so don't come here with the pre drunk before the dinner.
I'm menopausal and I'm very selective of who I want
in my space, because the metal parsel melt down with
(12:40):
the heat, and the flashes could come at any second,
and you don't want to be on the opposite side
of that metal pasel meltdown. So I know you said
we shaid love everybody.
Speaker 8 (12:55):
I remember that holiday. We couldn't even get together with
nobody because that damn COVID love them people, stop you.
Speaker 3 (13:04):
Everybody.
Speaker 8 (13:04):
Ain't nobody one hundred percent out here? Ain't nobody one
hundred percent. Some people might say, oh, well, here comes
such and such. All they gonna do is talk about
their child, their child, this their child man, and that,
Oh here comes touch. She got married, and she's just
gonna be showing off that she got married.
Speaker 3 (13:21):
That's your family. Loosen up.
Speaker 2 (13:23):
Okay, Well, the drunks can't come to my house. The
cousins who do the slip away we taking a walk.
Keep walking to Dereck Lee's house. You can find them
on it at now I'm gonna send him to you.
I'm sending them to me.
Speaker 8 (13:39):
Everybody got a little corn liquor? I wish I cold
get some corn licking.
Speaker 3 (13:42):
The corner licker used to be twenty dollars a gallon.
Speaker 8 (13:45):
If anybody knows you can get some.
Speaker 4 (13:46):
Of that corn liquor.
Speaker 8 (13:47):
I holler at me under under Patty's address.
Speaker 3 (13:50):
You know, I ain'ty touch with me.
Speaker 2 (13:53):
The holidays. Eason is here, But sometimes you have to say,
how can I have a better holiday experience? So Kim
read this here. Optimists always wins, and she's so optimistic,
But I still don't want to invite the drunk uncle
over my home for dinner. How to have a better
holiday experience? Do we look at the list and start
(14:14):
deleting or pray real hard that they won't act up?
Speaker 4 (14:23):
Lord, Well, I will tell you. Let me tell you
something that's super funny. So I saw this meme Morris
Chestnut did on Instagram, and it was about people showing
up late for dinner. It is hilarious, right, so it's
a scene for one of the movies. But you have
to you guys, have to see it so you can
get a laugh from it. So my point that I'm
(14:44):
making is on Thanksgiving, I remember growing up, we would
all be ready to have dinner. You know, my grandmother
wanted to have dinner at two o'clock, so she said
two o'clock, everybody be there, so we were always early
because we lived in you know, she lived in Boston,
we lived in Connecticut, so we would always get there early.
(15:05):
And inevitably, Patty, we were waiting and my cousins are
going to kill me. Who listened to this? The bridget family,
We're supposed to eat at two. They always got there
at like four point thirty five. My grandmother insisted us waiting.
We would o d on red on those Peppermints's house.
(15:30):
So long and short of it is, people have their stuff, right,
but you know, it's family, it's love, it's this, it's that.
So we kind of just deal with it. So you
just kind of kind of roll with the punches. It's
too much going on in America right now for us
to worry about us not eating until, you know, until
the next Thanksgiving.
Speaker 2 (15:53):
Everybody is being so politically correct. I don't want people
coming over my house getting on my nerves. I don't
want you coming over my house packing a damn plate.
It ain't nobody to eat yet, but they're That's how
I'm feeling right now. Pray for me, y'all, Pray for
your auntie, because I don't feel like being bothered with
nonsense for the holiday season. Pray for me. We're talking
(16:19):
about how to have a better holiday experience. I'm not
feeling on coon b ya. I don't want the drunk
uncle at the table. I don't want the troublesome aunt,
or the cousin who wants to pick a fight, or
the ones who want to show up late knowing that
dinner was five hours ago. How to have a better
holiday experience? Most che loren is here in bo. Do
(16:42):
you just not invite them? Because people are telling me, oh,
you just invite them anyway, I'm like, I don't think so.
Speaker 3 (16:52):
And you know what, for me, this is the way
I look at the holidays. I love my family, right,
I love my family. The black the couples are crazy ones.
I love them all. And it's the mixture of us
all that makes the holiday more festive.
Speaker 4 (17:08):
And fun, you know what I mean.
Speaker 7 (17:09):
So we're out crazy Uncle Luke or you know, your
crazy drunk opie that's gonna cuss everybody out Without.
Speaker 3 (17:15):
Them in the mix, I mean, it's.
Speaker 4 (17:17):
Boring, you know what I'm saying. So as much as
they make it on your nerves, they lighten up the party.
They make everything fun, you know.
Speaker 2 (17:26):
Barring any violence, you know, cousins or family members.
Speaker 3 (17:31):
But that's what really makes it.
Speaker 4 (17:33):
The family, you know, festive, fun holidays, you get all.
Speaker 3 (17:37):
Your crazy together under one roof.
Speaker 4 (17:41):
Trust me, I'm probably not the samest one of my family,
believe it or not.
Speaker 6 (17:46):
You know.
Speaker 5 (17:46):
So I know they like, oh Lord, hear them that
durn moshe again. But no, I love the holiday season
for all of what comes with it, even the crazy
uncle and drunk afy.
Speaker 2 (17:59):
Wow conversation. Patty and the Millennials. This is when all
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between baby boomers, gen X and millennials.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
It's another edition of the podcast Patty and the Millennials.
I'm Patty Jackson. I'm a broadcast veteran in Philadelphia, and
I love conversation gen Y, gen Z, millennials, baby boomers. Well,
I'm the only baby boomer gen X. We get together,
men and women and we have great conversation. I got Decks,
(00:42):
I got Toya. Here we are at the holidays, guys,
how to have a better holiday experience? Does that mean
that certain people can't be invited to your house for
the holidays? Decks, We're going to start with you.
Speaker 3 (01:00):
All right. So my take on this this year is
probably gonna be a little bit more controversial or different
than like normal. But I think that this year we
got we gotta just let them. We gotta take the
mindset of just electing them. Somebody comes in and they
want to pack plates before before we even sit down,
just to let them because this can be the first
(01:21):
time they've eaten in two weeks. Somebody wants to come in.
They don't bring anything, but they want to take stuff.
Let them. They may not have ten dollars to put
together to buy a pie at the store. So like,
let's just enjoy the people that we have around us
and just let them, you know, Like, we don't want
to argue with somebody. This could be the last time
we see a person Thanksgiving. Let's not let the last
(01:42):
memory be us arguing with them over stilling the extra
piece of pie.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
Well, my last memory is gonna be you're not taking
that pie. You need to cook something before you came here,
and you're not gonna be packing a bunch of plates,
and then I have nothing to eat because my pettiness
will be at an all time for the holiday season.
I'm sorry. I can't stand and pay the plate packers.
(02:06):
I can't deck. You know, they get on your nerves.
See you're a dad.
Speaker 3 (02:12):
Now they're hungry.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
See you're a dad, and you're thinking of your daughter
who may be hungry right now. But I'm thinking of
those who want to come in the door and say,
well who you vote for last time? Or you ain't
married yet, well when you having a baby, Well that
ain't the guy you had last holiday. Look, look, Toya, Toya,
(02:40):
you're secretly laughing because you know what I mean.
Speaker 3 (02:44):
Yes, I'm totally seeing you. I'll be coming up here
eating me out of house at home. What's going on?
Speaker 4 (02:50):
Because usually these people it's the same usual suspect.
Speaker 3 (02:54):
And guess what, you're gonna have to go eat somewhere else.
I don't know what to tell you. I know this
is a struggling time.
Speaker 5 (03:00):
I'm right now, or at least.
Speaker 3 (03:01):
Be open about it. But I wish you would walk
up in my house ready to pack a to gold
plate before.
Speaker 4 (03:07):
You even sat and got your regular plate gone.
Speaker 1 (03:11):
We're not gonna do that.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
You know who we're dealing with. We're dealing with komba
dexter mm hmm.
Speaker 3 (03:17):
Until somebody like meat that cost too much damn money.
Speaker 4 (03:26):
And you look at somebody sideways, I know you're gonna
eat all that right.
Speaker 3 (03:29):
You ain't even clean that bone, right, and you're trying.
Speaker 4 (03:32):
To take that plate.
Speaker 3 (03:34):
You know how much beef is up dexter? Well, Look,
and you know we're dealing with hobosexuals these days, so
like these people don't have a place to live. You know,
they ain't got nowhere to eat. Come on food and
there are food pantries left and right around the city
right now. You better go get in them lines. I'm
not above it. You shouldn't be above it.
Speaker 2 (03:54):
Austin for Dallas, Jordy guysaid, she is a millennial with
a greed. Austin, we're talking about how to have a
better holiday experience. Have you heard about people charging you
to attend and leave a tip for the holiday dinner?
This is kind of like a new trend, like.
Speaker 6 (04:13):
At somebody else's house.
Speaker 2 (04:14):
Yeah, I have never heard of that. You're being there,
some people are charging you because the high cost of
everything your thoughts does. Would something like this startle you
and make you say yay or nay?
Speaker 3 (04:28):
No?
Speaker 6 (04:29):
If my auntie's going to be charging me for a
plate at Thanksgiving, I'm not going to go. I mean,
I've never heard of that.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
It's a trend. It's really yeah, I.
Speaker 6 (04:38):
Have no not in my family.
Speaker 2 (04:40):
What about if you were asked to put something in
the tip jar?
Speaker 6 (04:45):
I mean, I'm happy to contribute. I can give you
like whatever I got, but if I have to, like
could pay like an actual charge to get in the
door at my family's house for Thanksgiving? Then we're just
like losing the plot.
Speaker 2 (04:58):
Your thoughts on intrusive relatives. If you ever sit down,
you're ready to eat and they want to ask you
fifty questions. That's personal life. What you're doing now, you're
thinking on the.
Speaker 6 (05:08):
Door, are you seeing? When are you gonna have kids?
When are you gonna get married? Listen, I'm thirty one
years old and I'm single, so I get these questions
a lot. The way I deal with it is I
just kind of I kind of tell them what they
want to hear. I'm like, well, you know, I'm kind
of dating here and there. The real answer is I'm
not dating anybody because I can't be bothered. I'm tired,
Like these men out here like are just driving me crazy.
(05:28):
So I'm taking a break from dating and I'm really
not worried about like a timeline on getting married and
having kids and all of that. I'd just be like,
you know what, I'm just doing my own thing, and
I just leave it at that, because otherwise they're going
to keep pressing and I just can't. I don't have
the energy.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
You know what happened to me years ago. I used
to say, this is before I have my son, I
would walk in. As soon as I walked in the door,
I would get hit baby questions, marriage questions. And so
one day I kind of snapped, I said, can I
walk in? Can I sit down? You see me carrying stuff?
Somebody coming here and help me carry something? That ended,
(06:05):
and obviously it ended when I became a mom. But
I'm like, can we leave our single relatives and friends
alone if they're not at motherhood?
Speaker 6 (06:17):
And that's not to say that you can't talk to
us at all, Like you can ask us about you know,
how work is going, or like how my pets are doing.
I got two cats at home, ask me about anything.
But pressuring me about like men was just the last
thing I want to be grilled about anything else.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
Really, and representing gen Z, we've got Rehys Green, newly
graduated Saint Cho's University. We're talking about how to have
a better holiday experience. Reese your reaction to showing up
and they're charging you for attending the holiday gathering.
Speaker 5 (06:58):
That's doing too much. I feel like holidays is the
time where you're spending that with family or friends and
also just being in the jointful spirit. You better not
be charging me to go something now I could have
done in my household. It's as simple as that. I
know people that's charging people for like friends givings. Why
are you charging for that? I'm supposed to bring my
own dish to that. It's just people, I guess you
(07:20):
know where everything going on. People need money, but it's
doing way too much.
Speaker 2 (07:24):
Okay, the right mixture of people. We all have relatives
who get on your nerves. Do you exclude them from
the list. This is what I wanted to say, so
that you reace you could have a better holiday experience.
I ain't in vain Uncle Joe, because he get on
(07:46):
my nerves and collaboration. She drink too.
Speaker 5 (07:51):
Much, Auntie, I gotta tell you right now. At one
of my thanksgivings, my cousin trumped out my own great aunt. Oh,
I've seen it all, and trust and believe he is
never being invited again since that day, perfectly to uninvite
people because don't be bringing that mess onto this house.
(08:12):
Oh hex no, but yeah, that was very traumatizing.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
Uncle always here, Uncle always here. Oh, I'm giggling, building,
I'm giggling because of the topic. How to have a
better holiday experience? Oh, does having a better holiday experience
means excluding annoying family and relatives.
Speaker 7 (08:39):
That's exactly what it means. It means you know those
people that every time they're around, there's some drama. That
means you need to stop putting them on the list
because Antie, you know, the head auntie of the family,
said no, you have to invite everybody. No, keep those
toxic people away from the good food so they don't
(09:01):
spoil the food.
Speaker 2 (09:05):
You know, there's a new trendoh where people are charging
you to attend the Thanksgiving dinner. No way, don't say that. No,
I'm not. No, oh, I'm not. I'm not just starting something.
And it's not something I made up. I actually saw
this story. Not only are they charging you, are they
(09:28):
charging you, but they're asking you to leave a tip
as well, your thoughts.
Speaker 7 (09:36):
My thoughts is counting me out?
Speaker 2 (09:38):
Ain't no way I'm paying Well.
Speaker 7 (09:39):
You know a lot of black family's been doing this
for a while, but it's usually and I don't know
about any other family. I know sometimes my family used
to be like, hey, we're having Thanksgiving, but if you come,
bring a dish, So that's kind of a charge, right
because you got to buy some food.
Speaker 3 (09:55):
To bring it.
Speaker 7 (09:56):
Yeah, but I'm not paying and leaving a tip. You listen,
I can't even say what I want to say, but yeah,
I'm not buying anything. I'm not giving you any money
to and leaving a tip at the end of it.
Speaker 4 (10:07):
No way.
Speaker 2 (10:08):
What do you think of plate packers? I'm talking about
the one to own. They come in and immediately start
packing up a plate. They haven't even eaten, they heat,
they haven't even asked did did someone so eat? Did
this person eat? Nope, they're packing the plates. Your thoughts.
Speaker 7 (10:30):
This happened to me at a funeral, and I don't
want to get too deep into this conversation, but it happened,
and I said to people when they were there, I said, hey,
everybody who packed the plate, bring.
Speaker 3 (10:43):
Your plate back.
Speaker 7 (10:43):
And because there's people still coming here and everyone has
an eight So if you packed the plate and I
see a lot of plates, bring it back over here
and empty the plate.
Speaker 2 (10:54):
Oh my gosh, no.
Speaker 7 (10:58):
Yeah, unpassed the plate. I'm not about to play them games.
You come to my house and you and I invited you.
You pack a plate when you get here, unpacked the
plate or unpack yourself from my house.
Speaker 2 (11:09):
Okay, the podcast Conversation Patty and the Millennials. He's a comedian,
he's a magician, and he has some strong opinions. We're
talking about how to have a better holiday experience. From
those who love to pack plates before they eat, people
(11:32):
who want to ask all kind of inappropriate questions when
you sit down to drunken behavior, like do you exclude
people from the list if they appeared to just be
a problem.
Speaker 8 (11:49):
That's your family.
Speaker 3 (11:50):
You got to love your family.
Speaker 8 (11:51):
The Bible didn't say you had to like him, but
you got to love the family, whether they stupid, dumb, broke.
Speaker 4 (11:58):
Or ghetto.
Speaker 3 (11:59):
We all got him in our family.
Speaker 8 (12:01):
So when you start excluding people, no, that's not family.
You remember back in the day, everybody had a drunk uncle,
and everybody had a little cheap aunt and your new
they was cheap, and everybody had a.
Speaker 3 (12:11):
Cousin that might have been stealing half the time. But
that's your family.
Speaker 8 (12:15):
You love them regardless.
Speaker 2 (12:18):
I'm not feeling biblical right now. If you drunk, you guys,
stay home. First of all, I'm not serving no alcohol,
so don't come here with the pre drunk before the dinner.
I'm menopausal and I'm very selective of who I want
in my space, because the metal parsel melt down with
(12:40):
the heat, and the flashes could come at any second,
and you don't want to be on the opposite side
of that metal pasel meltdown. So I know you said
we shaid love everybody.
Speaker 8 (12:55):
I remember that holiday. We couldn't even get together with
nobody because that damn COVID love them people, stop you.
Speaker 3 (13:04):
Everybody.
Speaker 8 (13:04):
Ain't nobody one hundred percent out here? Ain't nobody one
hundred percent. Some people might say, oh, well, here comes
such and such. All they gonna do is talk about
their child, their child, this their child man, and that,
Oh here comes touch. She got married, and she's just
gonna be showing off that she got married.
Speaker 3 (13:21):
That's your family. Loosen up.
Speaker 2 (13:23):
Okay, Well, the drunks can't come to my house. The
cousins who do the slip away we taking a walk.
Keep walking to Dereck Lee's house. You can find them
on it at now I'm gonna send him to you.
I'm sending them to me.
Speaker 8 (13:39):
Everybody got a little corn liquor? I wish I cold
get some corn licking.
Speaker 3 (13:42):
The corner licker used to be twenty dollars a gallon.
Speaker 8 (13:45):
If anybody knows you can get some.
Speaker 4 (13:46):
Of that corn liquor.
Speaker 8 (13:47):
I holler at me under under Patty's address.
Speaker 3 (13:50):
You know, I ain'ty touch with me.
Speaker 2 (13:53):
The holidays. Eason is here, But sometimes you have to say,
how can I have a better holiday experience? So Kim
read this here. Optimists always wins, and she's so optimistic,
But I still don't want to invite the drunk uncle
over my home for dinner. How to have a better
holiday experience? Do we look at the list and start
(14:14):
deleting or pray real hard that they won't act up?
Speaker 4 (14:23):
Lord, Well, I will tell you. Let me tell you
something that's super funny. So I saw this meme Morris
Chestnut did on Instagram, and it was about people showing
up late for dinner. It is hilarious, right, so it's
a scene for one of the movies. But you have
to you guys, have to see it so you can
get a laugh from it. So my point that I'm
(14:44):
making is on Thanksgiving, I remember growing up, we would
all be ready to have dinner. You know, my grandmother
wanted to have dinner at two o'clock, so she said
two o'clock, everybody be there, so we were always early
because we lived in you know, she lived in Boston,
we lived in Connecticut, so we would always get there early.
(15:05):
And inevitably, Patty, we were waiting and my cousins are
going to kill me. Who listened to this? The bridget family,
We're supposed to eat at two. They always got there
at like four point thirty five. My grandmother insisted us waiting.
We would o d on red on those Peppermints's house.
(15:30):
So long and short of it is, people have their stuff, right,
but you know, it's family, it's love, it's this, it's that.
So we kind of just deal with it. So you
just kind of kind of roll with the punches. It's
too much going on in America right now for us
to worry about us not eating until, you know, until
the next Thanksgiving.
Speaker 2 (15:53):
Everybody is being so politically correct. I don't want people
coming over my house getting on my nerves. I don't
want you coming over my house packing a damn plate.
It ain't nobody to eat yet, but they're That's how
I'm feeling right now. Pray for me, y'all, Pray for
your auntie, because I don't feel like being bothered with
nonsense for the holiday season. Pray for me. We're talking
(16:19):
about how to have a better holiday experience. I'm not
feeling on coon b ya. I don't want the drunk
uncle at the table. I don't want the troublesome aunt,
or the cousin who wants to pick a fight, or
the ones who want to show up late knowing that
dinner was five hours ago. How to have a better
holiday experience? Most che loren is here in bo. Do
(16:42):
you just not invite them? Because people are telling me, oh,
you just invite them anyway, I'm like, I don't think so.
Speaker 3 (16:52):
And you know what, for me, this is the way
I look at the holidays. I love my family, right,
I love my family. The black the couples are crazy ones.
I love them all. And it's the mixture of us
all that makes the holiday more festive.
Speaker 4 (17:08):
And fun, you know what I mean.
Speaker 7 (17:09):
So we're out crazy Uncle Luke or you know, your
crazy drunk opie that's gonna cuss everybody out Without.
Speaker 3 (17:15):
Them in the mix, I mean, it's.
Speaker 4 (17:17):
Boring, you know what I'm saying. So as much as
they make it on your nerves, they lighten up the party.
They make everything fun, you know.
Speaker 2 (17:26):
Barring any violence, you know, cousins or family members.
Speaker 3 (17:31):
But that's what really makes it.
Speaker 4 (17:33):
The family, you know, festive, fun holidays, you get all.
Speaker 3 (17:37):
Your crazy together under one roof.
Speaker 4 (17:41):
Trust me, I'm probably not the samest one of my family,
believe it or not.
Speaker 6 (17:46):
You know.
Speaker 5 (17:46):
So I know they like, oh Lord, hear them that
durn moshe again. But no, I love the holiday season
for all of what comes with it, even the crazy
uncle and drunk afy.
Speaker 2 (17:59):
Wow conversation. Patty and the Millennials. This is when all
the voices just come together, and the holidays aren't time together.
But sometimes you can't have everybody getting on your nerves.
Some Patty Jackson, Patty and the Millennials and you can
find us where Podcasts Live. Thanks for joining us.
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