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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This one or seven one.
Speaker 2 (00:01):
It's time to make a date or break on TIF
in the morning. Relationships and therapy come together on the
show every Tuesday. At this time, Laurie, were you stuck
in the traffic out there? I was, Oh my god, boss,
is it a nightmare? It was when seventy fives closed.
You know, you're like, oh, no, okay, Well, hopefully we'll
give you something entertaining to chitchat and think about while
(00:23):
you're sitting in the traffic. We'll start off with this
message I got. This is where relationships and therapy come together.
So you're our relationship relationship expart. Last night, I went
out with a gun. We went to a nice restaurant,
but I wasn't feeling it. After the date, I thanked him,
told him I didn't want to have another date, wished
him luck. A few minutes later, he messaged me asking
him asking me to send him one hundred and twenty
(00:46):
five dollars for my half of the dinner. Honestly, if
he had told me from the beginning that we'd be
going Dutch on the meal, I wouldn't have had a
problem with that. But I didn't choose a restaurant didn't
look at the bill, or we never discussed splitting the
tab with him. Should I send him the money or
just ignore him and move on?
Speaker 3 (01:01):
So I think that first of all, if there is
going to be some sort of splitting a payment or
payment's going to be an issue, it's always best to
have the conversation in the front, which is what she's saying.
If that conversation had come up prior, she would have
been more okay with it. I think the biggest issue
is like the surprise, like, oh, you're giving me a bill.
Speaker 1 (01:19):
There's so many things to unpack here.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
Number one, if I can't, I just I'm naive to
dating and stincy, but I can't imagine going out on
a date and ahead of time discussing that we're going
to split the bill.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
Is that what we're doing now?
Speaker 3 (01:33):
Well, I think that is for some people. So finances
is a really particular thing, number one thing. It is
the number one thing. A lot of couples fight about it.
So this is kind of a good glimpse into what
this could look like. Some people really like to lead
with us, to say it's important to me to split this,
or I want to treat you, but I think a
lot of times the assumption is is that the man
will treat in this case, and so I think that
(01:55):
part of this is knowing kind of heading in where
your expectations and your boundaries are. Obviously, she was thrown.
She said she wasn't feeling it, so it would it would.
I would not be happy about it either. I think
whether or not she pays, that's on her. That's on
she feels like how much? Does she just want to
wrap this up and be done with it.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
The first thing that I caught out of that whole
message that surprised me was the fact that.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
They went there to an expensive place to begin with
on a first date.
Speaker 2 (02:22):
I don't see that as much on first dates anymore.
It's a lot of coffee chats or happy hour drink,
something that's very low budget, low committed, no entry, yeah,
easy barrier to entry.
Speaker 4 (02:33):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
So that surprised me out the gate that the meal
was one hundred and twenty five.
Speaker 1 (02:37):
Dollars per person, right, Yeah, So in your opinion, does
she pay them or does she just kind of let
it go?
Speaker 2 (02:45):
Uh?
Speaker 3 (02:45):
I mean, I think if she wants to close this
chapter and just be wrapped up and done with it,
pay them and learn a lesson about the fact that
maybe if you are going to go to a nice
restaurant or there's going to be something with more expense
to it, have that conversation beforehand.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
Is it bad that every ounce of me inside of
my body feels uncomfortable about this whole message?
Speaker 1 (03:05):
And I don't know what to do. I wouldn't know
what to I don't know what to do. I mean
that's why I said.
Speaker 3 (03:09):
I feel like she's really got to figure out like how,
like how does this feel for her? Does it feel
better to pay and move on or does it just
feel better to do nothing and move on.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
It is a weird situation.
Speaker 3 (03:19):
I think anytime again, we're changing the expectations at the end,
it's it's hard to manage.
Speaker 2 (03:24):
So let's do this five one three, seven four nine
one seven one. If you've been in a situation like this,
of course I want to hear from you, but also
would you pay it or let it go? Good morning,
you're waking up with a tiff in the morning on
kiss one O seven one. We're about four minutes away
from your chance to win Voices of American Music Festival passes,
and you'll need the keyword make a date or break.
(03:44):
Laurie Sharpage and I were just in the midst of
answering a DM I got about when you go out
with someone and your half of the bill is one
hundred and twenty five dollars. You don't know this until
the bill comes and goes, and then after the date ends,
when you say, hey, this wasn't for me, but I
loved meeting you, he Venmo requests you one hundred and
twenty five dollars.
Speaker 1 (04:03):
That's where we're standing right now.
Speaker 2 (04:05):
We've gotten your opinion, we've gotten my opinion, and now
I want since's opinion.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
So we'll start with you. You're on the air.
Speaker 4 (04:11):
Ain't no way I'm paying after we've already went out,
So I have the conversation beforehand. I have zero expectations
for what happens after dinner. To keep myself safe from
that expectation that sometimes occurs when.
Speaker 1 (04:24):
A guy pays, sure, I offer to pay my half,
happy to so.
Speaker 4 (04:28):
I have that conversation. I approached that before we go out,
and then you know, he decides I'm going to treat
you and it doesn't work out. There's no asking me
to pay half after that, and sure, you're hurt that
it didn't work out, but that's why we go out
on date.
Speaker 2 (04:41):
What's your first name of what neighborhood you calling me from?
Speaker 4 (04:45):
Rachel from Aurora?
Speaker 1 (04:46):
Okay, Rachel, just walk me through this.
Speaker 2 (04:49):
So you would or have gone out on a first date,
and you've said before the date even started, I would
like to split the bill with you up front.
Speaker 4 (04:57):
Oh damn, I sure have. Absolutely, Oh my.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
God, I love this. I love this proactive communication.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
I mean, a girl's dream is to find somebody or
a guy's dream to find somebody that's equal as communicative
as you. But I just I could I could never
see myself doing that ahead of time.
Speaker 4 (05:14):
It sounds like it feels a little awkward at first,
but just do it a couple of times. It's most
of the guys are receptive. But I'll tell you what.
One way to tell if you've got a guy who
communicates well and how they do is how they react
to that kind of question too.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
Okay, Well, thank you for the call. I appreciate you girl. Thoughts, LORI,
I love it.
Speaker 3 (05:31):
I love that she has practiced this, that this is
part of her how she rolls.
Speaker 1 (05:36):
And I do agree.
Speaker 3 (05:37):
I mean It's a great way to kind of gauge
how somebody communicates.
Speaker 2 (05:40):
I'm not kidding my armpits or sweating, I feel so
maybe it's because I'm naive to the dating world here
in Cincy. I don't go out on many first dates.
Let's check our talkbacks real quick on this one. Another
great way to participate in the show is on the
Iheard app. You'll see the microphone next to the play button.
Speaker 4 (05:57):
You know, it's definitely not okay to add for a
refund at to that first date. Listen, you're taking the
chance you have to go with that the same investment. Okay, No,
it's terrible.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
Yeah, he's not getting a lot of support from this.
Speaker 3 (06:11):
So and I love that he phrased it as a
refund because I think that is.
Speaker 1 (06:14):
The right way to look at it, is that.
Speaker 3 (06:16):
I'm getting a refunt from the whole experience. And yeah,
that's that is less cool.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
Make a Date or Break is where relationships and therapy
come together. Here on the show, you can comment and
ask questions. Lori sharpage is our professional Ah, what was
I gonna say?
Speaker 1 (06:31):
We both had said this, what restaurant? Yeah, what restaurant
did you go to? And was it good? Five dollars?
All right, voices of American Music Festival passes. If you
have the key.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
Word, go ahead and dial it up, baby five one
three seven nine one seven one.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
Good luck. In the meantime, we're still commercial free.
Speaker 2 (06:51):
You're waking up with fifth in the morning on good morning.
Speaker 1 (06:56):
I'm hoping you have a keyword for me. It makes day, Yes,
it is.
Speaker 4 (07:02):
All right.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
Well, thank you for waking up with TIF in the
morning every day. I appreciate you.
Speaker 1 (07:07):
I guess I don't know. I love your show. I
love listening to you in the morning. It's it's my
Tuesday inspiration. And I'm not just saying that.
Speaker 4 (07:15):
That's the God's on the tree.
Speaker 1 (07:17):
Well, thank you very Tuesday morning.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
Well, thank you very much for waking up with TIF
in the morning every day. I appreciate you. I didn't
even get your name, what neighborhood you call me from.
My name is Summer and I'm for the team Summer.
You were just listening to our conversation about make a
date or break? What are your thoughts on splitting the
bill there? Or I'm sorry And it wasn't even splitting
the bill, Laurie, it was he requested.
Speaker 1 (07:43):
What are your thoughts? Yeah, that that kind of blew
my mind a little bit.
Speaker 4 (07:46):
I mean afterwards, Yeah, that's a little odd.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
But I do like what was your name? Was it Rachel? Yeah?
It was Rachel?
Speaker 2 (07:59):
Okay, bron Uh, you cut out a little bit, Summer.
I'm gonna put you on hold. I'll be right back.
Speaker 1 (08:04):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (08:05):
She just won passes the voices of American Music Festival.
That's next weekend, four days worth of music. Laurie, Ah,
I feel.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
Like this guy's getting a bad rap, and I feel
bad for him.
Speaker 3 (08:16):
I mean, I think that every action has consequences, and
in this case, there were some consequences to his Venmo
request Listen.
Speaker 2 (08:23):
Splitting the bill is fine. I just think it was
a little jarring to Venmo requestedly. I like the way
our talkbacker put it. It's like a refund. Yeah, that's
where it gets grown.
Speaker 1 (08:33):
It felt a.
Speaker 2 (08:33):
Little REFUNDI no refunds, baby, all right, l Lori sharpage
make a date where break happens every Tuesday and at
eight twenty. You're more than welcome to follow her on
on Instagram at the Coping Queen And if you have
a question for us, don't. I mean, nothing's too out
of pocket. No, please bring it on. Everything happens in
relationships Coming up after fifty cent, I have the three
(08:54):
things you need to know to get your day started.
Speaker 1 (08:56):
And since you don't go fine, no, no,
This one or seven one.
Speaker 2 (00:01):
It's time to make a date or break on TIF
in the morning. Relationships and therapy come together on the
show every Tuesday. At this time, Laurie, were you stuck
in the traffic out there? I was, Oh my god, boss,
is it a nightmare? It was when seventy fives closed.
You know, you're like, oh, no, okay, Well, hopefully we'll
give you something entertaining to chitchat and think about while
(00:23):
you're sitting in the traffic. We'll start off with this
message I got. This is where relationships and therapy come together.
So you're our relationship relationship expart. Last night, I went
out with a gun. We went to a nice restaurant,
but I wasn't feeling it. After the date, I thanked him,
told him I didn't want to have another date, wished
him luck. A few minutes later, he messaged me asking
him asking me to send him one hundred and twenty
(00:46):
five dollars for my half of the dinner. Honestly, if
he had told me from the beginning that we'd be
going Dutch on the meal, I wouldn't have had a
problem with that. But I didn't choose a restaurant didn't
look at the bill, or we never discussed splitting the
tab with him. Should I send him the money or
just ignore him and move on?
Speaker 3 (01:01):
So I think that first of all, if there is
going to be some sort of splitting a payment or
payment's going to be an issue, it's always best to
have the conversation in the front, which is what she's saying.
If that conversation had come up prior, she would have
been more okay with it. I think the biggest issue
is like the surprise, like, oh, you're giving me a bill.
Speaker 1 (01:19):
There's so many things to unpack here.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
Number one, if I can't, I just I'm naive to
dating and stincy, but I can't imagine going out on
a date and ahead of time discussing that we're going
to split the bill.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
Is that what we're doing now?
Speaker 3 (01:33):
Well, I think that is for some people. So finances
is a really particular thing, number one thing. It is
the number one thing. A lot of couples fight about it.
So this is kind of a good glimpse into what
this could look like. Some people really like to lead
with us, to say it's important to me to split this,
or I want to treat you, but I think a
lot of times the assumption is is that the man
will treat in this case, and so I think that
(01:55):
part of this is knowing kind of heading in where
your expectations and your boundaries are. Obviously, she was thrown.
She said she wasn't feeling it, so it would it would.
I would not be happy about it either. I think
whether or not she pays, that's on her. That's on
she feels like how much? Does she just want to
wrap this up and be done with it.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
The first thing that I caught out of that whole
message that surprised me was the fact that.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
They went there to an expensive place to begin with
on a first date.
Speaker 2 (02:22):
I don't see that as much on first dates anymore.
It's a lot of coffee chats or happy hour drink,
something that's very low budget, low committed, no entry, yeah,
easy barrier to entry.
Speaker 4 (02:33):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
So that surprised me out the gate that the meal
was one hundred and twenty five.
Speaker 1 (02:37):
Dollars per person, right, Yeah, So in your opinion, does
she pay them or does she just kind of let
it go?
Speaker 2 (02:45):
Uh?
Speaker 3 (02:45):
I mean, I think if she wants to close this
chapter and just be wrapped up and done with it,
pay them and learn a lesson about the fact that
maybe if you are going to go to a nice
restaurant or there's going to be something with more expense
to it, have that conversation beforehand.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
Is it bad that every ounce of me inside of
my body feels uncomfortable about this whole message?
Speaker 1 (03:05):
And I don't know what to do. I wouldn't know
what to I don't know what to do. I mean
that's why I said.
Speaker 3 (03:09):
I feel like she's really got to figure out like how,
like how does this feel for her? Does it feel
better to pay and move on or does it just
feel better to do nothing and move on.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
It is a weird situation.
Speaker 3 (03:19):
I think anytime again, we're changing the expectations at the end,
it's it's hard to manage.
Speaker 2 (03:24):
So let's do this five one three, seven four nine
one seven one. If you've been in a situation like this,
of course I want to hear from you, but also
would you pay it or let it go? Good morning,
you're waking up with a tiff in the morning on
kiss one O seven one. We're about four minutes away
from your chance to win Voices of American Music Festival passes,
and you'll need the keyword make a date or break.
(03:44):
Laurie Sharpage and I were just in the midst of
answering a DM I got about when you go out
with someone and your half of the bill is one
hundred and twenty five dollars. You don't know this until
the bill comes and goes, and then after the date ends,
when you say, hey, this wasn't for me, but I
loved meeting you, he Venmo requests you one hundred and
twenty five dollars.
Speaker 1 (04:03):
That's where we're standing right now.
Speaker 2 (04:05):
We've gotten your opinion, we've gotten my opinion, and now
I want since's opinion.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
So we'll start with you. You're on the air.
Speaker 4 (04:11):
Ain't no way I'm paying after we've already went out,
So I have the conversation beforehand. I have zero expectations
for what happens after dinner. To keep myself safe from
that expectation that sometimes occurs when.
Speaker 1 (04:24):
A guy pays, sure, I offer to pay my half,
happy to so.
Speaker 4 (04:28):
I have that conversation. I approached that before we go out,
and then you know, he decides I'm going to treat
you and it doesn't work out. There's no asking me
to pay half after that, and sure, you're hurt that
it didn't work out, but that's why we go out
on date.
Speaker 2 (04:41):
What's your first name of what neighborhood you calling me from?
Speaker 4 (04:45):
Rachel from Aurora?
Speaker 1 (04:46):
Okay, Rachel, just walk me through this.
Speaker 2 (04:49):
So you would or have gone out on a first date,
and you've said before the date even started, I would
like to split the bill with you up front.
Speaker 4 (04:57):
Oh damn, I sure have. Absolutely, Oh my.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
God, I love this. I love this proactive communication.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
I mean, a girl's dream is to find somebody or
a guy's dream to find somebody that's equal as communicative
as you. But I just I could I could never
see myself doing that ahead of time.
Speaker 4 (05:14):
It sounds like it feels a little awkward at first,
but just do it a couple of times. It's most
of the guys are receptive. But I'll tell you what.
One way to tell if you've got a guy who
communicates well and how they do is how they react
to that kind of question too.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
Okay, Well, thank you for the call. I appreciate you girl. Thoughts, LORI,
I love it.
Speaker 3 (05:31):
I love that she has practiced this, that this is
part of her how she rolls.
Speaker 1 (05:36):
And I do agree.
Speaker 3 (05:37):
I mean It's a great way to kind of gauge
how somebody communicates.
Speaker 2 (05:40):
I'm not kidding my armpits or sweating, I feel so
maybe it's because I'm naive to the dating world here
in Cincy. I don't go out on many first dates.
Let's check our talkbacks real quick on this one. Another
great way to participate in the show is on the
Iheard app. You'll see the microphone next to the play button.
Speaker 4 (05:57):
You know, it's definitely not okay to add for a
refund at to that first date. Listen, you're taking the
chance you have to go with that the same investment. Okay, No,
it's terrible.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
Yeah, he's not getting a lot of support from this.
Speaker 3 (06:11):
So and I love that he phrased it as a
refund because I think that is.
Speaker 1 (06:14):
The right way to look at it, is that.
Speaker 3 (06:16):
I'm getting a refunt from the whole experience. And yeah,
that's that is less cool.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
Make a Date or Break is where relationships and therapy
come together. Here on the show, you can comment and
ask questions. Lori sharpage is our professional Ah, what was
I gonna say?
Speaker 1 (06:31):
We both had said this, what restaurant? Yeah, what restaurant
did you go to? And was it good? Five dollars?
All right, voices of American Music Festival passes. If you
have the key.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
Word, go ahead and dial it up, baby five one
three seven nine one seven one.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
Good luck. In the meantime, we're still commercial free.
Speaker 2 (06:51):
You're waking up with fifth in the morning on good morning.
Speaker 1 (06:56):
I'm hoping you have a keyword for me. It makes day, Yes,
it is.
Speaker 4 (07:02):
All right.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
Well, thank you for waking up with TIF in the
morning every day. I appreciate you.
Speaker 1 (07:07):
I guess I don't know. I love your show. I
love listening to you in the morning. It's it's my
Tuesday inspiration. And I'm not just saying that.
Speaker 4 (07:15):
That's the God's on the tree.
Speaker 1 (07:17):
Well, thank you very Tuesday morning.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
Well, thank you very much for waking up with TIF
in the morning every day. I appreciate you. I didn't
even get your name, what neighborhood you call me from.
My name is Summer and I'm for the team Summer.
You were just listening to our conversation about make a
date or break? What are your thoughts on splitting the
bill there? Or I'm sorry And it wasn't even splitting
the bill, Laurie, it was he requested.
Speaker 1 (07:43):
What are your thoughts? Yeah, that that kind of blew
my mind a little bit.
Speaker 4 (07:46):
I mean afterwards, Yeah, that's a little odd.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
But I do like what was your name? Was it Rachel? Yeah?
It was Rachel?
Speaker 2 (07:59):
Okay, bron Uh, you cut out a little bit, Summer.
I'm gonna put you on hold. I'll be right back.
Speaker 1 (08:04):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (08:05):
She just won passes the voices of American Music Festival.
That's next weekend, four days worth of music. Laurie, Ah,
I feel.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
Like this guy's getting a bad rap, and I feel
bad for him.
Speaker 3 (08:16):
I mean, I think that every action has consequences, and
in this case, there were some consequences to his Venmo
request Listen.
Speaker 2 (08:23):
Splitting the bill is fine. I just think it was
a little jarring to Venmo requestedly. I like the way
our talkbacker put it. It's like a refund. Yeah, that's
where it gets grown.
Speaker 1 (08:33):
It felt a.
Speaker 2 (08:33):
Little REFUNDI no refunds, baby, all right, l Lori sharpage
make a date where break happens every Tuesday and at
eight twenty. You're more than welcome to follow her on
on Instagram at the Coping Queen And if you have
a question for us, don't. I mean, nothing's too out
of pocket. No, please bring it on. Everything happens in
relationships Coming up after fifty cent, I have the three
(08:54):
things you need to know to get your day started.
Speaker 1 (08:56):
And since you don't go fine, no, no,
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