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Speaker 1 (00:00):
You're waking up in the morning.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
Kiss what I was seven one happy Friday. Real ones
know the Lil Wayne verse by heart in that song,
and I hope you let it rip on a Friday.
How are you hopefully off to a good start. We're
in the midst of talking about petty fights that you've
gotten into with your bestie, also family. I was really
going at it with my mom yesterday. Some of these
(00:24):
text messages, now that I'm looking back, are a little
on the root side, but I was just so nervous
and emotional about the fact that I hadn't heard from
her from Hurricane Milton, so I was just really letting
her head. She did call the show at seven o'clock
this morning. You can get the recap later. But petty
fights that you've gotten into, here we go.
Speaker 3 (00:44):
So I have two friends and I went off to
college and they stayed back and went to college two
hours away, and that kind of put a little bit
of a rift in our relationship. We just didn't talk
us often. But I recently moved back home and they
still continue to hang out without me and don't try
(01:06):
to prioritize spending time with me like I would with them.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
So there's that ooh burl that one. First of all,
thank you for the talk back with Tiff and sharing
that story. I need to think about it for a
hot second in my head here, because you went away
right to obviously better your life, grow, move on, things
change with friends. But then when you kind of come back,
(01:29):
which I'm finding is happening quite a bit with Cincinnatians.
They leave and then realize everywhere else sucks and is expensive,
and I come back here and then your friends have
kind of moved on slightly without you and created memories
and this and that, and then entering back into the
fold expecting it to be what it was before you left. Oh,
(01:50):
I'm sorry you're going through that. You know. I'm kind
of going and giving my friend Ashley and Boston some
advice that she's going through something not similar. But you
gotta face it head on. You've got to just you
either have to adjust your expectations and what your boundaries
are with them, or you need to approach them or
one of them and say, hey, this is how I'm
(02:12):
feeling and this is what I would like to happen.
Those open, honest conversations are really tough. I'm feeling for
your girl.
Speaker 4 (02:19):
Three of us have been friends since high school, and
two of us started with a committed relationship and now
we have kids, and the other one just feels like
super left out. And I think that my friend would
definitely resonate with what she's going through because it's hard,
very very hard.
Speaker 2 (02:39):
Yeah, going back to that same friend, Ashley who lives
in Boston, I was just chit chatting about she's got kids,
her friend just had her first baby, or other friend
that's in the group text. I know there's a lot
to keep up with here. Most group texts are a
lot to keep up with, regardless of who's in them.
But the underlying theme here is usually when big life
changes happen, it's hard to maintain friendships. I feel like
(03:05):
we could spend hours talking about this. You're more than
welcome to jump in via that talkback feature or call
five one three seven four nine one oh seven one.
We're actually in the midst of talking about petty fights
that you've gotten into with your friends or family. However,
I feel like that one's not petty, that's very real.
By good morning, you're waking up with Tiff in the
morning on kiss one oh seven one This's actually turned
into a little bit more of a deeper conversation than
(03:25):
I had anticipated. We were in the midst of talking
about petty fights that you've gotten into with your friends
or maybe even someone in your family. But the ones
that I've heard so far don't feel very petty to me. Hi,
you're on Tiff in the morning.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
This is from a couple of years back when I
was in school. I guess a little bit of backstory.
I was in a friend group with a guy, another guy,
and a girl, and we were for instance, by elementary
school and all the way up until around high school.
I ended up leaving schools. I left for two years
and I came back. So when I came back, and
(04:00):
I tried to like approach my friends as if nothing
ever happened. Things were things were different, things were different,
but they were still the same. But you know, I can't.
It had been two years. I looked at different. I
kind of grew up. I got a little bit toleran, right.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
You grew you moved through life a little bit different
to be.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
Expected, Yeah, I kind of yeah, I kind of like
matured into a fine young men. Per see. So the
female in the group, she kind of took like a
liking for me, and everything had always been uh, strictly
cordial between all.
Speaker 4 (04:32):
Three of us.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
The guy had liked the girl when we were younger,
but nothing ever happened.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
Okay, so what's going on here?
Speaker 1 (04:40):
See where this is going? Yes? No, no, I had
to remove myself from the situation because how petty it got.
But so the girls she started, she started taking a
liking to me, and she started voicing it to our
our our third party friend. And I heard he was
(05:01):
he was acting as if you didn't care. But then
you would start to pick little things that would happen
when we hung out and make problems out of it.
And it got to one day, one day I was
getting I believe I was getting grabbing this something out
of the refrigerator. I think it might be beers, and
I handed her, I handed the drink to her first
before him, and he had he made it a whole
(05:24):
big thing about how I was putting the girl. I
was letting the girl get between us after all this time, and.
Speaker 2 (05:31):
You're like, no, you're doing that. I'm not the one
doing that. You're doing that. And I say, it feels
when you explain something like this to outsiders, you're you're like,
I know this sounds ridiculous and petty, but when you're
in it and you're living it, it is really serious.
Speaker 1 (05:50):
It's that serious. And it's crazy how the mind works,
because you could think something can be just what it
is to you, but to someone else they can be
fully convent that this guy is not blue and there's
really nothing you can tell There's nothing you can tell them.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
So I think I think Cincinnati wants to know, then
what's your status with the friend group?
Speaker 1 (06:09):
Then? Okay, okay, Natty, this is this is this is
funny because they listened to this station too. Okay, but
at the moment, at the moment, sometime has passed, sometime
has passed. I removed myself from the front group, and
I believe that they ended up pursuing a relationship, but
(06:31):
it crashed and burned and cheated on them, and yeah,
it was ugly.
Speaker 2 (06:37):
Did you ever have feelings for her or are you like, dude,
I'm just trying to stay out of this.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
I never I never had feelings for her. She used
to kind of be a bully back in the day
when we were all younger. She was so much taller,
she was so much taller than us.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
So well, if they are listening right now, what would
you want them to what would you want to say
to them if you could, if you.
Speaker 1 (06:57):
Want you'll listening to if you if y'all love this
early say they know my voice. I love y'all. I
love both of y'all. I'm sorry that things come to
what they come through, but like it's never that deep.
Just remember that for future future friendships, Like, yeah, you
don't some things really only come, you know, they don't.
Everything doesn't come and go. Some things you gotta hold
(07:17):
on to. And sometimes I feel bad about it, like
is there something could I have been even more of
a bigger person and just like withheld it. But at
the same time, I kind of I would have robbed
my friend of a lesson, of a learning experience if
I did. If I didn't, you know, stand on my team.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
Well, I really hope that you guys end up reconnecting
and at least just kind of squashing whatever beef that
you have, just for the peace of the world, you know.
But I say, I appreciate you sharing that story with me.
Do you want to give me your name or do
you want to say anonymous.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
LJ LJ.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
Thanks for listening to Tip in the morning every day.
I appreciate you man.
You're waking up in the morning.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
Kiss what I was seven one happy Friday. Real ones
know the Lil Wayne verse by heart in that song,
and I hope you let it rip on a Friday.
How are you hopefully off to a good start. We're
in the midst of talking about petty fights that you've
gotten into with your bestie, also family. I was really
going at it with my mom yesterday. Some of these
(00:24):
text messages, now that I'm looking back, are a little
on the root side, but I was just so nervous
and emotional about the fact that I hadn't heard from
her from Hurricane Milton, so I was just really letting
her head. She did call the show at seven o'clock
this morning. You can get the recap later. But petty
fights that you've gotten into, here we go.
Speaker 3 (00:44):
So I have two friends and I went off to
college and they stayed back and went to college two
hours away, and that kind of put a little bit
of a rift in our relationship. We just didn't talk
us often. But I recently moved back home and they
still continue to hang out without me and don't try
(01:06):
to prioritize spending time with me like I would with them.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
So there's that ooh burl that one. First of all,
thank you for the talk back with Tiff and sharing
that story. I need to think about it for a
hot second in my head here, because you went away
right to obviously better your life, grow, move on, things
change with friends. But then when you kind of come back,
(01:29):
which I'm finding is happening quite a bit with Cincinnatians.
They leave and then realize everywhere else sucks and is expensive,
and I come back here and then your friends have
kind of moved on slightly without you and created memories
and this and that, and then entering back into the
fold expecting it to be what it was before you left. Oh,
(01:50):
I'm sorry you're going through that. You know. I'm kind
of going and giving my friend Ashley and Boston some
advice that she's going through something not similar. But you
gotta face it head on. You've got to just you
either have to adjust your expectations and what your boundaries
are with them, or you need to approach them or
one of them and say, hey, this is how I'm
(02:12):
feeling and this is what I would like to happen.
Those open, honest conversations are really tough. I'm feeling for
your girl.
Speaker 4 (02:19):
Three of us have been friends since high school, and
two of us started with a committed relationship and now
we have kids, and the other one just feels like
super left out. And I think that my friend would
definitely resonate with what she's going through because it's hard,
very very hard.
Speaker 2 (02:39):
Yeah, going back to that same friend, Ashley who lives
in Boston, I was just chit chatting about she's got kids,
her friend just had her first baby, or other friend
that's in the group text. I know there's a lot
to keep up with here. Most group texts are a
lot to keep up with, regardless of who's in them.
But the underlying theme here is usually when big life
changes happen, it's hard to maintain friendships. I feel like
(03:05):
we could spend hours talking about this. You're more than
welcome to jump in via that talkback feature or call
five one three seven four nine one oh seven one.
We're actually in the midst of talking about petty fights
that you've gotten into with your friends or family. However,
I feel like that one's not petty, that's very real.
By good morning, you're waking up with Tiff in the
morning on kiss one oh seven one This's actually turned
into a little bit more of a deeper conversation than
(03:25):
I had anticipated. We were in the midst of talking
about petty fights that you've gotten into with your friends
or maybe even someone in your family. But the ones
that I've heard so far don't feel very petty to me. Hi,
you're on Tiff in the morning.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
This is from a couple of years back when I
was in school. I guess a little bit of backstory.
I was in a friend group with a guy, another guy,
and a girl, and we were for instance, by elementary
school and all the way up until around high school.
I ended up leaving schools. I left for two years
and I came back. So when I came back, and
(04:00):
I tried to like approach my friends as if nothing
ever happened. Things were things were different, things were different,
but they were still the same. But you know, I can't.
It had been two years. I looked at different. I
kind of grew up. I got a little bit toleran, right.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
You grew you moved through life a little bit different
to be.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
Expected, Yeah, I kind of yeah, I kind of like
matured into a fine young men. Per see. So the
female in the group, she kind of took like a
liking for me, and everything had always been uh, strictly
cordial between all.
Speaker 4 (04:32):
Three of us.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
The guy had liked the girl when we were younger,
but nothing ever happened.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
Okay, so what's going on here?
Speaker 1 (04:40):
See where this is going? Yes? No, no, I had
to remove myself from the situation because how petty it got.
But so the girls she started, she started taking a
liking to me, and she started voicing it to our
our our third party friend. And I heard he was
(05:01):
he was acting as if you didn't care. But then
you would start to pick little things that would happen
when we hung out and make problems out of it.
And it got to one day, one day I was
getting I believe I was getting grabbing this something out
of the refrigerator. I think it might be beers, and
I handed her, I handed the drink to her first
before him, and he had he made it a whole
(05:24):
big thing about how I was putting the girl. I
was letting the girl get between us after all this time, and.
Speaker 2 (05:31):
You're like, no, you're doing that. I'm not the one
doing that. You're doing that. And I say, it feels
when you explain something like this to outsiders, you're you're like,
I know this sounds ridiculous and petty, but when you're
in it and you're living it, it is really serious.
Speaker 1 (05:50):
It's that serious. And it's crazy how the mind works,
because you could think something can be just what it
is to you, but to someone else they can be
fully convent that this guy is not blue and there's
really nothing you can tell There's nothing you can tell them.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
So I think I think Cincinnati wants to know, then
what's your status with the friend group?
Speaker 1 (06:09):
Then? Okay, okay, Natty, this is this is this is
funny because they listened to this station too. Okay, but
at the moment, at the moment, sometime has passed, sometime
has passed. I removed myself from the front group, and
I believe that they ended up pursuing a relationship, but
(06:31):
it crashed and burned and cheated on them, and yeah,
it was ugly.
Speaker 2 (06:37):
Did you ever have feelings for her or are you like, dude,
I'm just trying to stay out of this.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
I never I never had feelings for her. She used
to kind of be a bully back in the day
when we were all younger. She was so much taller,
she was so much taller than us.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
So well, if they are listening right now, what would
you want them to what would you want to say
to them if you could, if you.
Speaker 1 (06:57):
Want you'll listening to if you if y'all love this
early say they know my voice. I love y'all. I
love both of y'all. I'm sorry that things come to
what they come through, but like it's never that deep.
Just remember that for future future friendships, Like, yeah, you
don't some things really only come, you know, they don't.
Everything doesn't come and go. Some things you gotta hold
(07:17):
on to. And sometimes I feel bad about it, like
is there something could I have been even more of
a bigger person and just like withheld it. But at
the same time, I kind of I would have robbed
my friend of a lesson, of a learning experience if
I did. If I didn't, you know, stand on my team.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
Well, I really hope that you guys end up reconnecting
and at least just kind of squashing whatever beef that
you have, just for the peace of the world, you know.
But I say, I appreciate you sharing that story with me.
Do you want to give me your name or do
you want to say anonymous.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
LJ LJ.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
Thanks for listening to Tip in the morning every day.
I appreciate you man.
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